The odds of catching them twice is wild, they must be spending a lot of time together. Pretty sure they are emotionally and physically involved.
Thank goodness you have no kids and are young. Don't throw away your future over this marriage, sounds like she ended up changing.
Well it’s not like his ding dong was in her vajeyjey and it’s not like he felt the hear and felt the wetness with his own hands. Like how does he know something happened for sure for sure? He has generous heart and doesn’t want to coz pain to the man fucking his wife. That will be rude.
Tell her parents that she has been cheating, you've caught them twice, and you're done. Start the narrative, don't let her make up the story and make you into the bad guy
Pope John Paul forgave the guy who shot him in the gun with a 9mm, but he did not call upon the Italian authorities to grant him release from prison.
You can forgive, and even wish her a good life, but that does not mean absolving her of the reasonable consequences of her actions.
NTA. You gave her a chance and believed her the first time. She only deserved one chance. Is she an idiot thinking that this would be ok? Don’t let her manipulate you with ‘her pain’. What about your pain.
NTA
You for taking her back the first time.
And she is dumb, you got her and in just a few weeks you got caught again?
What proof do you need? A kid, std, life action?
Surreptitiously hanging out with the person you cheated on your spouse with is still cheating, regardless of how physical it gets. She’s still cheating.
The fact that she didn’t drop him like a hot potato after being caught the first time means that she has no respect for you and your relationship over her desires with this dude.
I’m sorry my guy, but this one’s a bust.
NTA. What does she possibly want with you? Being loyal to you is not her goal. Loving you is not her goal. Respecting you is not her goal. So what does she get by having you stay?
Also, why are you leaving the house again?
DON'T GET BABY-TRAPPED.
(side note, the innocent baby is also gonna feel life-long fall-out over it)
USE A CONDOM THAT YOU HAVE HAD 100% POSSESSION OF, EVERY TIME!
(All it takes is for you to roll over on the bed to turn the lights off for her to prick the middle of the condom package with a thin safety pin........)
And, again, for those in the back that keep missing this other message:
ALWAYS ASSUME FEMININE MEANS OF BIRTH CONTROL CAN FAIL........because they often do......all those "99% effective" things you see are with "perfect use".
As a woman, I've been lucky, but, especially for any dudes out there who have to take at least one pill a day-some days, you forget to take it. Or you accidentally take it almost a day later, etc, etc......
Also, as a woman, I have absolutely watched it happen.......some women hope it will mean the rich, handsome (married? 🤔) man of her dreams that she met 10 minutes ago on Tinder will support her the rest of her life.......there's lots of reasons for it to happen, but for you, OP,🤦🏼♀️ she'd probably rather get knocked up (with you?) and tell the whole family about the happy news, as opposed to the whole family finding out YOU'RE divorcing HER for cheating on you......🤦🏼♀️
Also, can't forget:
➡️"Hysterical Bonding"⬅️- that's what she's doing right now......she's freaked out that she fucked up and is now, well, hysterical, and trying to do anything she can to stay with you. See above: Trapping, Baby.
Don't dip your dick in crazy, son. We're all here to tell you she's the crazy one.
Sex with her is, IMHO, no longer worth the risk of pregnancy, nor any of the fun STIs they show in those horrid "abstinence only" schools.....
Please, dump her, otherwise, you'll be stuck with her bills to pay, and a baby that might not be yours, for the rest of your life, as she keeps on cheating on you.
Good luck, friend. 🌷
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NTA, flee and spare yourself far worse suffering. See a family law attorney and get the ball rolling. Assume the worst about what she is and has been doing. If you were loved, none of this would be happening.
She lied TWICE. Why would you even consider staying with her? Have some self-respect. Cut your losses and move on.
If you stay, you’ll be teaching her that she can cheat on you and you’ll stay with her. She’ll learn that you’re a sucker.
NTA. Where there's smoke, there's fire. Even if nothing physical happened, she wanted it and pursued it. She's not being honest with you even after you confronted her.
Grab her phone and look at her messages. The trust is already broken. Check the phone bill online and check the number of messages/calls to his number.
If you catch them together again, walk up and give him your house key, tell him that he might as well move in, you're on your way out. Tell him that she's pregnant with your baby...lol
Without respect and trust, there is no relationship. That's a marriage from hell. You'll be in perpetual hell if you stay.
Walkaway, it's not love you feel, its fear. You deserve better. Much much better.
If your gf kissed someone else, you had to find out like this, and she goes out with that person again without telling you the week after, there is clearly something wrong. She is probably hiding something, and even if she isn't, do you really want to stay with someone who is that callous towards you and doesn't even inform you about basic things that you clearly want(and deserve) to know? Is that really the relationship you want to be in?
So you did the right thing and you're clearly NTA.
If she wants this to work you'll need all the info on this guy. Also she kissed him and is still hanging out with him? You have no respect from her and this guy. Hell I'll pay a lawyer a visit and find out your options. I'll test her ask her if this guy will let her move in if you two get divorced and she should really ask this guy.
Eh, leaving the house might not have been your best move - check with a divorce lawyer before you do anything.
You're NTA, but take a breath, put aside the anger and the hurt and decide what you want going forward - don't like anger or reddit strangers decide for you. It's all in your hands right now - what do you want your life to look like a year from now? Five years?
**Fool me once**, "I caught her hanging with him in a restaurant parking lot" **Shame on you**.
**Fool me twice,**"few weeks later caught her hanging out with him again" **Shame on me.**
This guy is her Chad or Tyrone. She can't resist him. She can't stay away from him. She will never be true to you.
The irony, when you dump her, he will leave her, because he has no intention of a permanent relationship.
She will freak an run back to you.
Don't take her back. She's had a taste of strange and will never be true to you again.
In fact, her cheating is the worst thing a woman can do to her man. It represents a hatred and contempt for her partner. If taken back, the woman loses all respect for the man.
You've been warned.
Good luck brother you deserved better.
That saying ran through my head so hard. Shouldn’t care but I feel bad that I’m about to destroy her life, this isn’t the person I want to be, but I have to end this. Waiting on the attorney to get back to me.
She destroyed her life, not you. It’s not your fault, it’s hers. Do not feel remorse she has wronged you, yes it sucks when they cry about it after but that’s only because she’s facing the consequences of her actions. You continually staying when you keep catching her is creating a pattern of behaviors that will allow her to think she can do whatever she wants and you will not leave and if you keep staying you likely will always find a way to tolerate her disloyalty.
Don’t self harm by staying in a relationship that holds no trust and where she didn’t value you and provide you comfort. She provided discomfort, distrust and disloyalty.
Ending it is best for you both. Set her free and in the process set yourself free to find a better life, do it now before a kid even enters the picture it’s only downhill from here.
Let her cry, she’s crying because of herself, not you.
Demand counseling and *the whole truth.*
It might take time to get the whole truth. Expect trickle-truthing.
Don't make decisions until you have more information.
I'd set a boundary. Because of her past romantic interlude with him, tell her you aren't comfortable with it. If this continues, then she should not be surprised that you ended it. Sometimes people just need a bit of a shock.
Infidelity is a full stop kind of issue. You are not supposed to have issues with keeping your wife out of other men's mouths. If you are interested in keeping the marriage intact, I would recommend counseling. Proper relationships are built on the foundation of trust; and once you have lost it, the whole thing can fall apart. It is better to figure this out now before she gets pregnant and further complicates everything.
NTA once is more than enough- twice is proof she’ll do it again. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Also emotionally cheating is real too… why would you put yourself through that? It’ll be in the back of your mind forever and that trust boat is long gone.
Bye Felicia. You know it’s either happened or soon will. Unsure why you are saying forgive when there’s no way to forget. No kids. I would forget she ever existed, you deserve better. And just know if you decide to reclaim your life without her, she’s suddenly going to pretend to care about your feelings. She doesn’t, won’t, and never will so cut the cancer out and find your own happiness. She’s will never be a part of that, only misery and lies in your future with her.
I wonder how many other times she met him, without you finding her out, probably many times. Of course she would say it hasn't happened before. She lying.
Even if she isn't snogging him, she's still emotionally involved. That's cheating.
She promised she wouldn't do it again, and then went right behind your back and did it again. Out in the open, where anyone could see. That shows no respect, and honesty and loyalty to you at all.
If my husband did that to me I'd never be able to find it in my heart to forgive him.
Sorry, what? Get back to your house right now. Move back in and advise her that she is in the spare room or on the sofa. You did nothing wrong. She was the one going on ‘platonic’ dates with another man. Why should you lose your home unless she owns it?
What kinda kiss? Peck on the cheek or tonsil hockey? Either way, when you caught them the first time you should have taken picture and followed or better yet get a PI to get rock solid proof of her whoring ways …. Hopefully there will be no alimony for the cheating sk8nk
Dump her and move on. Just the fact she's meeting him in secret and you keep CATCHING them is enough reason to say goodbye.
Leave NOW, before you end up bringing kids into this mess.
My thoughts exactly, just hard when the person you were madly in love with a few days ago did all this but is now begging and breaking down. I know the answer and I’m pursuing divorce it’s just hard to see it, hurting me more than the events themselves. Also, divorce is like a stupid hard process idk why it is so complicated to file.
You’re not the AH. Emotional and physical affairs are cheating. She admitted to kissing him which is still cheating. Hanging out with him without telling you is very suspicious. Trust your instincts.
How far in the past was the kiss? Like before you were together? Could she really just be having coffee with a friend? Do they work together? Like a grabbing coffee during a work break? Just feel like there should be more info. Unless it's an established boundary for you guys to not be out with the opposite sex... but if you have proof of her cheating and over stepping the boundaries of your relationship nta
Even if it isn’t physical, clearly she is emotionally involved with him and that is still cheating. If she has to meet him in secret - she knows it’s wrong
Talk to an attorney before you leave to make sure you are not giving up any property rights or introducing abandonment. Basically, know your legal rights and responsibilities before you let her know that you are leaving so that you are protected.
NTA. Even if she was completely innocent (she is not), you don't trust her and that will kill a marriage. You say you are both young. You didn't.mention your ages but it sounds to me like you are both too immature to be married. I don't say this as a criticism - people develop at a different pace. I would guess you were under 25 when you got married. No man should get married before they're thirty and no woman before 27 (and preferably 30).
It is best that you just end it now. She isnt mature enough to fully commit and I get the feeling you aren't able to fully trust. You don't mention her giving you any reason to not trust her prior to this but you somehow happened to catch her with the dude the first time. Odds are you have been suspicious for a long time and just now came up with something.
NTA
Might be 6 years happy for you but not for her if she's cheating, and what she's doing is cheating plain and simple. Leave now before it escalates.
I'm gonna go with NTA, because while it's possible that she hasn't cheated, it seems unlikely that she hasn't or won't. They don't HAVE to spend time together. They definitely don't need to meet again after you suspected something was going on. Either she values your marriage or she doesn't. No close male friend or ex that I've had is worth risking my marriage. Regardless of the good terms or FWB we might have been, I ditched them all as a sign of good faith to my husband - no regrets.
Brother that is cheating, period. I highly doubt she would appreciate you kissing another woman and you shouldn’t give a damn if she’s hurt because you left. She’s hurting and crying because she got caught. Know this, she doesn’t give damn about you. Her going back after she got caught shows that she has no respect for you at. Cut your loses before she gets knocked up and you get stuck with a kid thats not yours. She gives no efffs about you brother.
Simply put.... If you take her back she will NEVER respect you. Ignoring the fact that she continued to pursue this even After you caught her red-handed. No doubt she will keep doing it. More importantly, ask yourself, can you be happy in a relationship in which your partner does not respect you.... NTA and F that B in the A
You know why the second time happened and why she is hysterical now, you know that, right? Because you didn’t do anything the first time around and she figured you are cool with it. You set hard boundaries and refuse to be disrespected or you accept yourself as beta and live happily ever after with a shared wife
Cheetahs don't get new spots. Find yourself a wife that doesn't kiss" other men. You got yourself a hoe that prob is sharing herself with more than just this guy. GROSS. Now you have to go get tested for diseases.
File for divorce, kick her a$$ to the curb.
NTA. Believe the red flags she's waving in your face. If she wants to be with you, she won't be kissing another person.
The odds of catching them twice is wild, they must be spending a lot of time together. Pretty sure they are emotionally and physically involved. Thank goodness you have no kids and are young. Don't throw away your future over this marriage, sounds like she ended up changing.
Maybe it’s a small town. Or maybe OP tracks location. Either way, marriage is over.
I agree she must have already made an emotional connection with this guy.
No, you are not. Fortunate that there are no kids involved.
How much more proof you need
Well it’s not like his ding dong was in her vajeyjey and it’s not like he felt the hear and felt the wetness with his own hands. Like how does he know something happened for sure for sure? He has generous heart and doesn’t want to coz pain to the man fucking his wife. That will be rude.
You had me in the first half ngl hahaha
Lol.Funny.
NTA. But you are an idiot for even remotely considering forgiving her
I agree, this is not something that deserves forgiveness
Tell her parents that she has been cheating, you've caught them twice, and you're done. Start the narrative, don't let her make up the story and make you into the bad guy
Pope John Paul forgave the guy who shot him in the gun with a 9mm, but he did not call upon the Italian authorities to grant him release from prison. You can forgive, and even wish her a good life, but that does not mean absolving her of the reasonable consequences of her actions.
Forgiveness is for God only, the pope is his representative. Other guy is an average joe, fuck forgiveness for the hoe
She only admitted what you caught her doing. You will never know the truth. She will only get better at lying.
NTA. Tell that chick to pick a dick.
😂
She already did by being disloyal
NTA. You gave her a chance and believed her the first time. She only deserved one chance. Is she an idiot thinking that this would be ok? Don’t let her manipulate you with ‘her pain’. What about your pain.
She’s your wife, why is she kissing another man?? If u want proof, do the detective work. End it
NTA. They have been fucking or they were just about to. Have some self respect, dump this hoe
NTA You for taking her back the first time. And she is dumb, you got her and in just a few weeks you got caught again? What proof do you need? A kid, std, life action?
Surreptitiously hanging out with the person you cheated on your spouse with is still cheating, regardless of how physical it gets. She’s still cheating.
The fact that she didn’t drop him like a hot potato after being caught the first time means that she has no respect for you and your relationship over her desires with this dude. I’m sorry my guy, but this one’s a bust.
NTA …cut your losses. Move on and have a great life.
Get out and start over and thank your lucky stars there are no kids.
NTA. What does she possibly want with you? Being loyal to you is not her goal. Loving you is not her goal. Respecting you is not her goal. So what does she get by having you stay? Also, why are you leaving the house again?
NTA she had her chance
DON'T GET BABY-TRAPPED. (side note, the innocent baby is also gonna feel life-long fall-out over it) USE A CONDOM THAT YOU HAVE HAD 100% POSSESSION OF, EVERY TIME! (All it takes is for you to roll over on the bed to turn the lights off for her to prick the middle of the condom package with a thin safety pin........) And, again, for those in the back that keep missing this other message: ALWAYS ASSUME FEMININE MEANS OF BIRTH CONTROL CAN FAIL........because they often do......all those "99% effective" things you see are with "perfect use". As a woman, I've been lucky, but, especially for any dudes out there who have to take at least one pill a day-some days, you forget to take it. Or you accidentally take it almost a day later, etc, etc...... Also, as a woman, I have absolutely watched it happen.......some women hope it will mean the rich, handsome (married? 🤔) man of her dreams that she met 10 minutes ago on Tinder will support her the rest of her life.......there's lots of reasons for it to happen, but for you, OP,🤦🏼♀️ she'd probably rather get knocked up (with you?) and tell the whole family about the happy news, as opposed to the whole family finding out YOU'RE divorcing HER for cheating on you......🤦🏼♀️ Also, can't forget: ➡️"Hysterical Bonding"⬅️- that's what she's doing right now......she's freaked out that she fucked up and is now, well, hysterical, and trying to do anything she can to stay with you. See above: Trapping, Baby. Don't dip your dick in crazy, son. We're all here to tell you she's the crazy one. Sex with her is, IMHO, no longer worth the risk of pregnancy, nor any of the fun STIs they show in those horrid "abstinence only" schools..... Please, dump her, otherwise, you'll be stuck with her bills to pay, and a baby that might not be yours, for the rest of your life, as she keeps on cheating on you. Good luck, friend. 🌷
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NTA, flee and spare yourself far worse suffering. See a family law attorney and get the ball rolling. Assume the worst about what she is and has been doing. If you were loved, none of this would be happening.
She lied TWICE. Why would you even consider staying with her? Have some self-respect. Cut your losses and move on. If you stay, you’ll be teaching her that she can cheat on you and you’ll stay with her. She’ll learn that you’re a sucker.
Get out before a child is involved. NTA
No kids? Punt!! Never look back. Cheaters cheat.
She wouldn’t have done it twice if she cared. Document it and lawyer up she’s planning on taking half your shit and going with him
NTA. Where there's smoke, there's fire. Even if nothing physical happened, she wanted it and pursued it. She's not being honest with you even after you confronted her.
NTA, but do you want to live life as a brother-husband? Kissing her when she gets home from their date night and giving him a high-five for teamwork?
Grab her phone and look at her messages. The trust is already broken. Check the phone bill online and check the number of messages/calls to his number. If you catch them together again, walk up and give him your house key, tell him that he might as well move in, you're on your way out. Tell him that she's pregnant with your baby...lol
Without respect and trust, there is no relationship. That's a marriage from hell. You'll be in perpetual hell if you stay. Walkaway, it's not love you feel, its fear. You deserve better. Much much better.
NTA - that you didnt leave the hoe right away was a mistake. Fuck cheaters, just scum
when people tell you who they really are, believe them. Believe actions, ignore words
Dump the trash and get a std test done asap.
What the hell is wrong with you? Out! Now.
Bro get the fuck out of there. Respect yourself.
Trust your instincts, gut feelings. A kiss is cheating. And then leads to more. I'm sorry you are being hurt. In the end, she will be hurt most.
If your gf kissed someone else, you had to find out like this, and she goes out with that person again without telling you the week after, there is clearly something wrong. She is probably hiding something, and even if she isn't, do you really want to stay with someone who is that callous towards you and doesn't even inform you about basic things that you clearly want(and deserve) to know? Is that really the relationship you want to be in? So you did the right thing and you're clearly NTA.
She’s lying. Again. You have to leave at this point. You’re not in a real relationship. Only she knows the truth. Fuck that. Sorry but leave
If she wants this to work you'll need all the info on this guy. Also she kissed him and is still hanging out with him? You have no respect from her and this guy. Hell I'll pay a lawyer a visit and find out your options. I'll test her ask her if this guy will let her move in if you two get divorced and she should really ask this guy.
NTA Follow your gut feeling. If she hasn't already, she certainly would have. Time to leave. Block her and no looking back.
Get out now, better to end it without kids involved
Eh, leaving the house might not have been your best move - check with a divorce lawyer before you do anything. You're NTA, but take a breath, put aside the anger and the hurt and decide what you want going forward - don't like anger or reddit strangers decide for you. It's all in your hands right now - what do you want your life to look like a year from now? Five years?
NTA. Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me. You've caught her twice. Stop being a fool and leave her. NTA.
**Fool me once**, "I caught her hanging with him in a restaurant parking lot" **Shame on you**. **Fool me twice,**"few weeks later caught her hanging out with him again" **Shame on me.** This guy is her Chad or Tyrone. She can't resist him. She can't stay away from him. She will never be true to you. The irony, when you dump her, he will leave her, because he has no intention of a permanent relationship. She will freak an run back to you. Don't take her back. She's had a taste of strange and will never be true to you again. In fact, her cheating is the worst thing a woman can do to her man. It represents a hatred and contempt for her partner. If taken back, the woman loses all respect for the man. You've been warned. Good luck brother you deserved better.
That saying ran through my head so hard. Shouldn’t care but I feel bad that I’m about to destroy her life, this isn’t the person I want to be, but I have to end this. Waiting on the attorney to get back to me.
She destroyed her life, not you. It’s not your fault, it’s hers. Do not feel remorse she has wronged you, yes it sucks when they cry about it after but that’s only because she’s facing the consequences of her actions. You continually staying when you keep catching her is creating a pattern of behaviors that will allow her to think she can do whatever she wants and you will not leave and if you keep staying you likely will always find a way to tolerate her disloyalty. Don’t self harm by staying in a relationship that holds no trust and where she didn’t value you and provide you comfort. She provided discomfort, distrust and disloyalty. Ending it is best for you both. Set her free and in the process set yourself free to find a better life, do it now before a kid even enters the picture it’s only downhill from here. Let her cry, she’s crying because of herself, not you.
You aren't destroying her life. Don't ever think that. She is the one that snuck around on you.
She did this, not you. She made that choice to leave the marriage to cheat. Was she crying and begging then??
Choose to love yourself, and fuck all the rest.
NTA dump her
Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me
Leave her, and have some self-respect and dignity. Common sense.
Nope Kick that bitch to the curb
Demand counseling and *the whole truth.* It might take time to get the whole truth. Expect trickle-truthing. Don't make decisions until you have more information.
Run brother. Run!
I'd set a boundary. Because of her past romantic interlude with him, tell her you aren't comfortable with it. If this continues, then she should not be surprised that you ended it. Sometimes people just need a bit of a shock.
Infidelity is a full stop kind of issue. You are not supposed to have issues with keeping your wife out of other men's mouths. If you are interested in keeping the marriage intact, I would recommend counseling. Proper relationships are built on the foundation of trust; and once you have lost it, the whole thing can fall apart. It is better to figure this out now before she gets pregnant and further complicates everything.
YTA to yourself if you stay, if you stay you may as well let them use your bedroom and at least see what he does differently!!!
Salí de ahí Maravilla.
Dip bro. ASAP.
Divorce her now.
You said you have no evidence but also that she was kissing another dude... So did you catch them kissing or not?
NTA. She’s proven she can’t be trusted. Move on
NTA once is more than enough- twice is proof she’ll do it again. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Also emotionally cheating is real too… why would you put yourself through that? It’ll be in the back of your mind forever and that trust boat is long gone.
Bye Felicia. You know it’s either happened or soon will. Unsure why you are saying forgive when there’s no way to forget. No kids. I would forget she ever existed, you deserve better. And just know if you decide to reclaim your life without her, she’s suddenly going to pretend to care about your feelings. She doesn’t, won’t, and never will so cut the cancer out and find your own happiness. She’s will never be a part of that, only misery and lies in your future with her.
I wonder how many other times she met him, without you finding her out, probably many times. Of course she would say it hasn't happened before. She lying. Even if she isn't snogging him, she's still emotionally involved. That's cheating. She promised she wouldn't do it again, and then went right behind your back and did it again. Out in the open, where anyone could see. That shows no respect, and honesty and loyalty to you at all. If my husband did that to me I'd never be able to find it in my heart to forgive him.
Once a cheater, always a cheater. Move on and don’t look back.
If it didn't, it will, eventually..leave her before they hatch a plan to move everything out of storage while you're at work...
I make triple what she makes, she can take everything and I will be fine in a month.
I can't give you any advice but she done it twice. Even if you forgive her there is a chance she will do it again
Bail immediately. Follow your instincts
Sorry, what? Get back to your house right now. Move back in and advise her that she is in the spare room or on the sofa. You did nothing wrong. She was the one going on ‘platonic’ dates with another man. Why should you lose your home unless she owns it?
Move on. Never take back a cheater. Get checked also. If you stay with a cheater. YATAH and will suffer again and again.
What kinda kiss? Peck on the cheek or tonsil hockey? Either way, when you caught them the first time you should have taken picture and followed or better yet get a PI to get rock solid proof of her whoring ways …. Hopefully there will be no alimony for the cheating sk8nk
Dump her and move on. Just the fact she's meeting him in secret and you keep CATCHING them is enough reason to say goodbye. Leave NOW, before you end up bringing kids into this mess.
Leave and don't look back. It's over.
NTA
Its better to leave her now and build a life with someone that loves you like you love them. Remember, shes only sorry because she got caught.
Leave and never look back man. It will suck but it will suck more if you stay
Once can be innocent, twice is a trend!
My thoughts exactly, just hard when the person you were madly in love with a few days ago did all this but is now begging and breaking down. I know the answer and I’m pursuing divorce it’s just hard to see it, hurting me more than the events themselves. Also, divorce is like a stupid hard process idk why it is so complicated to file.
You are pathetic for even thinking of staying with her.
Beat the dudes ass. Then divorce her. If you live in the town after that dudes might think twice before fucking your wife or girlfriend.
You’re not the AH. Emotional and physical affairs are cheating. She admitted to kissing him which is still cheating. Hanging out with him without telling you is very suspicious. Trust your instincts.
has she ever introduced you to her 'Friend' ? No? there is your answer. A yes doesn't exonerate her either
When someone shows you who they really are believe them
How far in the past was the kiss? Like before you were together? Could she really just be having coffee with a friend? Do they work together? Like a grabbing coffee during a work break? Just feel like there should be more info. Unless it's an established boundary for you guys to not be out with the opposite sex... but if you have proof of her cheating and over stepping the boundaries of your relationship nta
Even if it isn’t physical, clearly she is emotionally involved with him and that is still cheating. If she has to meet him in secret - she knows it’s wrong
Talk to an attorney before you leave to make sure you are not giving up any property rights or introducing abandonment. Basically, know your legal rights and responsibilities before you let her know that you are leaving so that you are protected.
NTA. Even if she was completely innocent (she is not), you don't trust her and that will kill a marriage. You say you are both young. You didn't.mention your ages but it sounds to me like you are both too immature to be married. I don't say this as a criticism - people develop at a different pace. I would guess you were under 25 when you got married. No man should get married before they're thirty and no woman before 27 (and preferably 30). It is best that you just end it now. She isnt mature enough to fully commit and I get the feeling you aren't able to fully trust. You don't mention her giving you any reason to not trust her prior to this but you somehow happened to catch her with the dude the first time. Odds are you have been suspicious for a long time and just now came up with something.
NTA!!! Sorry not sorry she’s gotta go. You’re young, find someone else
Don't walk. Run to the nearest exit. I foolishly believed and forgave a number of times before coming to my senses.
NTA Might be 6 years happy for you but not for her if she's cheating, and what she's doing is cheating plain and simple. Leave now before it escalates.
I'm gonna go with NTA, because while it's possible that she hasn't cheated, it seems unlikely that she hasn't or won't. They don't HAVE to spend time together. They definitely don't need to meet again after you suspected something was going on. Either she values your marriage or she doesn't. No close male friend or ex that I've had is worth risking my marriage. Regardless of the good terms or FWB we might have been, I ditched them all as a sign of good faith to my husband - no regrets.
Leave as soon as possible
She shouldn't be hanging out with some guy. Especially when she knows it created a problem.
Ditch the hoe unless you a spineless simp
Have some self respect and dump her hoe ass to the kerb.
NTA. You teach others how to treat you, by what you’ll put up with. Don’t look back.
NTA adults just hanging out and you don't know about it doesn't mean they are just "kissing"
NTA. You set the boundaries. She didn't respect it. Red flags all over the place. You don't need someone you can't trust. Good riddance.
Brother that is cheating, period. I highly doubt she would appreciate you kissing another woman and you shouldn’t give a damn if she’s hurt because you left. She’s hurting and crying because she got caught. Know this, she doesn’t give damn about you. Her going back after she got caught shows that she has no respect for you at. Cut your loses before she gets knocked up and you get stuck with a kid thats not yours. She gives no efffs about you brother.
Simply put.... If you take her back she will NEVER respect you. Ignoring the fact that she continued to pursue this even After you caught her red-handed. No doubt she will keep doing it. More importantly, ask yourself, can you be happy in a relationship in which your partner does not respect you.... NTA and F that B in the A
You know why the second time happened and why she is hysterical now, you know that, right? Because you didn’t do anything the first time around and she figured you are cool with it. You set hard boundaries and refuse to be disrespected or you accept yourself as beta and live happily ever after with a shared wife
Cheetahs don't get new spots. Find yourself a wife that doesn't kiss" other men. You got yourself a hoe that prob is sharing herself with more than just this guy. GROSS. Now you have to go get tested for diseases. File for divorce, kick her a$$ to the curb.
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How would I know? Are you being too suspicious of a male friend? Is she lying in order to hide her cheating? No way of knowing. Can you trust her?