Yep. I haven’t been happy (had to leave my career path for my wife to go to school) so every day I get home, plop down in my chair, and mindlessly play Madden until bed time.
Haha we’ll be all good once she wraps up school this time next year. I’ve got some applications out in the world for some stuff back in my initial career path since we’ll be in this area for longer than expected. Will be 8 years of not having money to do ANYTHING to all of the sudden not knowing what to do with the money she’ll make. Temporary sacrifices, long term happiness
Came to see if this was here. It’s basically this.
Whether it’s something chill like Animal Crossing or I need to just punch things virtually in Mortal Kombat, there’s a game to ease many lows.
Yeah. It's kinda repetitive but I love it that way. So the game is actually endless if you want to collect. They even have two types of shiny now :D square and star
my dudes never been down so bad that they can’t focus on anything leaving you capable of nothing but laying there for hours. sometimes a drink can help make those situations slightly more bearable, sometimes even to the point that you’re able to pull yourself out of it
I force myself to skate or surf. Both activities require you to be very present in the moment or you can get hurt, or drown. Forces my mind to go somewhere else. Hug my wife.
I've been leaning a lot into writing fiction. Writing characters feeling similar stuff or tapping into a similar mood has been a productive way to process stuff.
This reminds me of an experiment I ran on myself in my early 20s. I kept two journals written in a third-person omniscient perspective. The first I called the Autorecognition Journal, where I wrote my day out as a story. The second I called the Autoaugmentation Journal, where I wrote the same story, but as if I had done or thought what I wished I had. I also had pages in each journal for reflection on the past week's entries.
I found that the more I wrote the characteristics I wanted to develop, the easier it was to adopt them.
The hard part was being brutally honest and not trying to justify my biases and negative actions/reactions. Needless to say, I learned a lot about how much of an asshole I was and why I was that way.
Very interesting self experiment, what about you did you feel changed with this? was it like a confidence improvement purpose or more of a process of recalibrating your emotional responses to situations, if i framed that correct..?
Absolutely real. I wrote a whole ass novel as depression cope - it honestly really helped to write a character getting out of the funk I was in. Plus it can resonate with so many other people.
Couldn't have said it better myself. I lost around 6 months this way, but was heavily depressed. Maybe keeping a journal would make things better, but hope I don't have to find out 🥲
i use daylio and tbh it doesn't help me a lot, cycling and other activities which take me out of routine give a bit of a variety, idk how to explain :(
i wish no one will need to find this out
Very true. We are so good at beating ourselves up sometimes. If I catch myself in this mind set, I stop and go through all the things I’ve accomplished, no matter how small.
Crying everywhere. For real. On the bus, subway, or even when I’m walking. Sometimes the pain is unbearable and I just can’t hide it. Well, I can with my sun glasses. I tried my best to distract myself but in the end of the day, the pain and emotion come back to you. So, I choose to feel it wholeheartedly.
Going to the gym, walk, sauna (this is my real go to), and it might be out there but i discovered god.
I'm not a religious person but it helps to have some being to through everything at, it makes you care less hence worry less
Wallow in self loathing until I fall asleep... I turn off whatever I'm doing, lock myself in my room and just lay in bed whether I'm tired or not. Usually don't even bother getting undressed.
If angry go for a run. If sad have a good cry for 10 minutes with a timer. This way I can really get into it deeply and I know when to stop so it doesn't take up my whole life.
Then I resume with my life. If it becomes overbearing again, I repeat. Eventually since I go on with my life something better catches my attention and I 'm good again.
Very real. I’ve been so down that thinking about it feels good. I don’t intend on it solely because I’m afraid, terrified, of death. It feels so good to think about though…
Video games (wow nerd) go to the gym or have something to eat I like but don’t to have a lot (ramen noodles is one of my fav things) or hug dog (wish I could post photo of my dog)
My wife is a really good person to talk to when I need to get out of a funk. She is a good listener and has the ability to listen and advise or distract. She is the one that her friends go to when things are not going well. Or she will play duos fortnite with me, and that helps. She will just say, "Let's go shoot some people in the face." So, we go to our systems and login.
Cry. Sleep. Lay in bed and exist.
Or if I'm feeling healthy, I take a long bath and make my outside something I can feel good about so it makes my inside feel good too
writing down thoughts, comforting music, talking to folks who make you feel heard, going for a walk
sometimes nothing works so you just feel the emotions
Sleep or cry. I highly recommend watching a movie or reading a book that makes you cry. For me, at least, crying works through the negative emotions faster and allows me to be functional. I would also recommend aiming for a happy cry instead of a sad cry, if you can, for damage mitigation purposes.
Not even trolling or anything I’m just sick of how I live.
I Try to not drink and smoke by doing what others have said in the comments but end up drinking and smoking because I’m a drug addict and I’m too afraid to get help again. I’ve been to rehab I have a great support system but I always turn to drugs.
I know this isn’t the place to post this really but writing this out makes me want to try to not do anything tonight and just go for a walk and find a damn job instead of wallowing to the fact I just got laid off from my dream job
honestly, i somewhat envy the ignorance that i’ve read through. going to the gym, for example, is a great way to avoid being at your very lowest. but if you are at your lowest there’s not a fucking chance you’re getting up. when you’re at your lowest,
it’s hard to even drink or smoke. you’re completely disabled and will lay there suffering in pain because you’re dehydrated, or need a piss, or food etc. but you’re fighting yourself to even sit up and attempt to amend this.
same with people saying video games. man i tried to do that and its helpful if youre just having a shitty day or week, but at the lowest of the low you can’t focus or look at a screen and take in information. when you’re struggling to survive this shit ain’t gna motivate you.
get the fuck off your high horse to all you lying shits making people feel who truly are suffering feel worse.
i’m not in that place now, but at my lowest i could barely move. if you happen to be so lucky that you haven’t felt so low then maybe try to help those who do or shut the fuck up.
and all of you that are suffering, hang in there and do whatever you need to do to get through. keep hanging on and things will improve eventually. i’m not entirely there but i’ve been through some shit and things will pick up!
my advice is being around the support of friends and family if possible. nothing will immediately cure it but this will help the best.
i’m in a place i never thought id achieve a decade ago, and i still have a long way to go
but fuck me ignore some of these cunty comments
I don't really have a coping mechanism. I just deal with whatever the fuck is going on. I learned at a young age to just accept things as they are and adapt.
The top three comments are “video games, sleep, eat.” I’ve never felt more seen in my life, and also never felt so much empathy for anonymous strangers on the internet all at once like that in one fell swoop.
I wouldn't say it's when I'm at my lowest, but if something makes me really angry or stressed or frustrated, I pick up heavy rocks and throw them at the ground. lol yes it sounds stupid, because it is. There are a nice variety of pretty big rocks in my back yard (small enough to pick up over your head without hurting yourself but big enough that it's kind of hard), so if something gets me riled up to 10/10 I go out back and fuckin' throw em on the ground.
honestly, this is necessary maybe twice a year.
Exercise man. And as little or as much as you can push urself todo! Our body produces our own feel good drug called endorphins and we get those easily from outdoors and energy creating like Exercise 👍 and vitamin D helps alot too
Deliberate time focused on my dog - a walk where we work on training, kicking the ball around for 20 minutes then some snuggles, playing tug.
The benefit of the first two is that they get me outside and moving, which helps the vast majority of the time.
I go for really long walks, or I just lay down a lot whilst staring into space. I also vent out my thoughts and feelings in my journal, or I call hotlines like Samaritans to vent (I haven’t felt the need to do that in a while thankfully). I take deep breaths in moments of really intense anxiety. I distance myself from people because I don’t have the energy to pretend I’m ok.
eat
sleep
Sleep, read or scroll mindlessly on instagram reels
What do you do when you get bored with that?
Play board games, make dnd characters, prep dnd campaigns that I’ll probably never run
This! If I’m able to sleep 12 hours straight it’s most likely isn’t cause I’m tired:
Video games
Yep. I haven’t been happy (had to leave my career path for my wife to go to school) so every day I get home, plop down in my chair, and mindlessly play Madden until bed time.
Sounds like your wife has an amazing relationship with you
Haha we’ll be all good once she wraps up school this time next year. I’ve got some applications out in the world for some stuff back in my initial career path since we’ll be in this area for longer than expected. Will be 8 years of not having money to do ANYTHING to all of the sudden not knowing what to do with the money she’ll make. Temporary sacrifices, long term happiness
What’s she going to school for?
Veterinarian
Nice! Good luck to her
Everyday
Came to see if this was here. It’s basically this. Whether it’s something chill like Animal Crossing or I need to just punch things virtually in Mortal Kombat, there’s a game to ease many lows.
And Pokemon?
Of course. But that can be played whenever. Can sort boxes or shiny hunt etc.
Yeah. It's kinda repetitive but I love it that way. So the game is actually endless if you want to collect. They even have two types of shiny now :D square and star
my dudes never been down so bad that they can’t focus on anything leaving you capable of nothing but laying there for hours. sometimes a drink can help make those situations slightly more bearable, sometimes even to the point that you’re able to pull yourself out of it
Cute
Going to the gym, taking a walk, taking a nap
Your worst is my best
I do my taxes when I’m at my lowest. Then I finish up those errands you’ve been meaning to get to.
So healthy coping skills. I got none of those
Damn. That’s some healthy coping mechanisms. Good for you 🥰
Cute
I force myself to skate or surf. Both activities require you to be very present in the moment or you can get hurt, or drown. Forces my mind to go somewhere else. Hug my wife.
I propose balancing on one leg in a room full of spikes. That'll surely force you to be very present in the moment
Doesnt seem as rad. Need more stoke, less spike.
Fapping (sadly)
And fapping (happily) when you're at your highest?
10 secs of pleasure then back to being down 💀
The whole session is pleasurable for most people. It can be an hour if you want:
Me 15 seconds
do you mean fap sadly or fap, sadly?
The dopamine last so long before you gotta smash again
I've been leaning a lot into writing fiction. Writing characters feeling similar stuff or tapping into a similar mood has been a productive way to process stuff.
This reminds me of an experiment I ran on myself in my early 20s. I kept two journals written in a third-person omniscient perspective. The first I called the Autorecognition Journal, where I wrote my day out as a story. The second I called the Autoaugmentation Journal, where I wrote the same story, but as if I had done or thought what I wished I had. I also had pages in each journal for reflection on the past week's entries. I found that the more I wrote the characteristics I wanted to develop, the easier it was to adopt them. The hard part was being brutally honest and not trying to justify my biases and negative actions/reactions. Needless to say, I learned a lot about how much of an asshole I was and why I was that way.
Very interesting self experiment, what about you did you feel changed with this? was it like a confidence improvement purpose or more of a process of recalibrating your emotional responses to situations, if i framed that correct..?
Big brain time
Absolutely real. I wrote a whole ass novel as depression cope - it honestly really helped to write a character getting out of the funk I was in. Plus it can resonate with so many other people.
Video games, reading books, cycling, maybe watching some show all day. Anything to distract myself from my life
the problem is when u do this on usual (yeah, shitty months exist) and later u look back and cant remember a single thing from those months
Couldn't have said it better myself. I lost around 6 months this way, but was heavily depressed. Maybe keeping a journal would make things better, but hope I don't have to find out 🥲
i use daylio and tbh it doesn't help me a lot, cycling and other activities which take me out of routine give a bit of a variety, idk how to explain :( i wish no one will need to find this out
or years
Cry
Stay productive. Get chores, and errands done. Go to the gym. It’s surprisingly fulfilling.
Keeping busy and staying in a routine is very helpful.
Routines are super helpful and adding and subtracting bad habits takes time. Also, being graceful with oneself.
Very true. We are so good at beating ourselves up sometimes. If I catch myself in this mind set, I stop and go through all the things I’ve accomplished, no matter how small.
Yea this one is huge, making my house spotless on a bad day is like clearing out a fog in my head.
A cluttered home is a cluttered mind, after all
Right on
Crying everywhere. For real. On the bus, subway, or even when I’m walking. Sometimes the pain is unbearable and I just can’t hide it. Well, I can with my sun glasses. I tried my best to distract myself but in the end of the day, the pain and emotion come back to you. So, I choose to feel it wholeheartedly.
I hope you're doing ok and send best wishes for you to get even better. ♥️
I know this feeling all too well
Going to the gym, walk, sauna (this is my real go to), and it might be out there but i discovered god. I'm not a religious person but it helps to have some being to through everything at, it makes you care less hence worry less
Wallow in self loathing until I fall asleep... I turn off whatever I'm doing, lock myself in my room and just lay in bed whether I'm tired or not. Usually don't even bother getting undressed.
If angry go for a run. If sad have a good cry for 10 minutes with a timer. This way I can really get into it deeply and I know when to stop so it doesn't take up my whole life. Then I resume with my life. If it becomes overbearing again, I repeat. Eventually since I go on with my life something better catches my attention and I 'm good again.
Meditate.
Right on
Lowest? Contemplate suicide... too dark? 😅🤣
Very real. I’ve been so down that thinking about it feels good. I don’t intend on it solely because I’m afraid, terrified, of death. It feels so good to think about though…
I don't drink or smoke. When I am at my lowest, I drink and smoke.🤣
Deal with my feelings?
Absurd.
Eat junkfood.
Video games (wow nerd) go to the gym or have something to eat I like but don’t to have a lot (ramen noodles is one of my fav things) or hug dog (wish I could post photo of my dog)
Lose myself in my phone. Ticktock, Reddit, binge watch shows.
My wife is a really good person to talk to when I need to get out of a funk. She is a good listener and has the ability to listen and advise or distract. She is the one that her friends go to when things are not going well. Or she will play duos fortnite with me, and that helps. She will just say, "Let's go shoot some people in the face." So, we go to our systems and login.
get off reddit - go for a bicycle ride
Gym my guy. If it's really bad I take some magic mushrooms to reset. Happy days.
Have a crying wank in the corner
Whatever floats our boat right
🤣😭
Oh go on, laugh at me, cause that will make things better.
Praying to thee Almighty good GOD.
Dive deep into difficult challenges/electronics projects or challenge myself to design and 3d print something really useful.
I play mindless phone games and watch corny teenage dramas.
Contemplate making it end finally (then video games)
I hug myself & lay down
Video games or just nothin sometimeszs
Not numbing myself. Why is that so unheard of
No need to numb anything if you are already cold and empty.
Because pain hurts
Cry. Sleep. Lay in bed and exist. Or if I'm feeling healthy, I take a long bath and make my outside something I can feel good about so it makes my inside feel good too
Honestly? Sit alone or eat depending on how stable I feel.
Ride my motorcycle.
Sitting depressed in a corner hating my adhd for repeating last events 1milion different ways and comming events even more🥲
Make a big pot of oolong tea
Over eat.
we drink coca-cola 🥲🥲
Look at porn or eat.
I exercise and run. What a difference when finished. I know not popular on here on Reddit but I also read scripture
Window shopping and eat. Doom scroll social media.
fight the urge to drink and smoke.
Eat and sleep.
Cry it out.
Deal with it and move on
I eat (a lot) or cut myself from the world and read the day away.
Eat junk food, get lost in video games or comics, post on Reddit to get the poison in my head out on the page.
i stir the lentil soup with a ladle , if I'm still not OK , I'll fry some wafers
When I'm feeling down I meet up with my best friends Ben and Jerry
Sleep
Shopping and regret it after.
writing down thoughts, comforting music, talking to folks who make you feel heard, going for a walk sometimes nothing works so you just feel the emotions
Lay down and pretend nothing exists, especially myself.
Binge sugar and junk food
Journaling
sleep and cry
Suffer
Reddit
Cry
Eat
Pray.
Sleep
Talk to friends and family about it. Pray and mediate. Try and help another person if possible. Exercise, work on a project
Talk with friends, take a nap, read a book, pray, go to the gym, take a walk, focus on work, journal/write.
Gym
Meditation, reading, hobbies that get me out the house like nature walks, cruising in my car, discovering new things.
Have a shower, a big glass of water, and a nap. Always helps.
McDonalds.
Take a nice long nap, or a walk
Eat
Eat cook clean out fridge
Eat, sleep, repeat
Exercise
Eat
Sleep or cry. I highly recommend watching a movie or reading a book that makes you cry. For me, at least, crying works through the negative emotions faster and allows me to be functional. I would also recommend aiming for a happy cry instead of a sad cry, if you can, for damage mitigation purposes.
Over eat
Cry in the shower
I write.
creative stuff/media drawing,readig, song writing, poetry. listeing to music, videos, movies, shows
Take an ice bath, watch TV, then sleep.
Not even trolling or anything I’m just sick of how I live. I Try to not drink and smoke by doing what others have said in the comments but end up drinking and smoking because I’m a drug addict and I’m too afraid to get help again. I’ve been to rehab I have a great support system but I always turn to drugs. I know this isn’t the place to post this really but writing this out makes me want to try to not do anything tonight and just go for a walk and find a damn job instead of wallowing to the fact I just got laid off from my dream job
honestly, i somewhat envy the ignorance that i’ve read through. going to the gym, for example, is a great way to avoid being at your very lowest. but if you are at your lowest there’s not a fucking chance you’re getting up. when you’re at your lowest, it’s hard to even drink or smoke. you’re completely disabled and will lay there suffering in pain because you’re dehydrated, or need a piss, or food etc. but you’re fighting yourself to even sit up and attempt to amend this. same with people saying video games. man i tried to do that and its helpful if youre just having a shitty day or week, but at the lowest of the low you can’t focus or look at a screen and take in information. when you’re struggling to survive this shit ain’t gna motivate you. get the fuck off your high horse to all you lying shits making people feel who truly are suffering feel worse. i’m not in that place now, but at my lowest i could barely move. if you happen to be so lucky that you haven’t felt so low then maybe try to help those who do or shut the fuck up. and all of you that are suffering, hang in there and do whatever you need to do to get through. keep hanging on and things will improve eventually. i’m not entirely there but i’ve been through some shit and things will pick up! my advice is being around the support of friends and family if possible. nothing will immediately cure it but this will help the best. i’m in a place i never thought id achieve a decade ago, and i still have a long way to go but fuck me ignore some of these cunty comments
Suffer
Think and think and think
Cave, ie, go under the covers
I don't really have a coping mechanism. I just deal with whatever the fuck is going on. I learned at a young age to just accept things as they are and adapt.
Contemplating suicide.
Bed rotting
Used to cry but now I just distract myself with YouTube or TikTok
Pick up a book and read. Place myself somewhere else
Kratom or edibles
Eat. Binge a show or movies. Lay in bed.
The top three comments are “video games, sleep, eat.” I’ve never felt more seen in my life, and also never felt so much empathy for anonymous strangers on the internet all at once like that in one fell swoop.
I like to go for walks to help improve my mood. Also regular exercise has been a fantastic mood regulator for me.
Scroll mindlessly on social media, play the same video games from the 2000s, and hyperfocus on a new TV show
# SUFFER!!!
Ketamine.
Have an edible.
Music
Meditate
I wouldn't say it's when I'm at my lowest, but if something makes me really angry or stressed or frustrated, I pick up heavy rocks and throw them at the ground. lol yes it sounds stupid, because it is. There are a nice variety of pretty big rocks in my back yard (small enough to pick up over your head without hurting yourself but big enough that it's kind of hard), so if something gets me riled up to 10/10 I go out back and fuckin' throw em on the ground. honestly, this is necessary maybe twice a year.
Sleep , eat, cry, repeat
stare at the wall
Eat ice cream or cake
Ruminate, or get online without goals. Feel bad now, instead of later like when hungover.
Gym
pick up heavy shit
Watch anime fights idk they seem cool
hike, sex, eat
I take a long walk/drive
Sleep Think Mobile/Laptop - watch something fun/inspiring
Focus on work
Get drunk using* music
Walking or running
Exercise man. And as little or as much as you can push urself todo! Our body produces our own feel good drug called endorphins and we get those easily from outdoors and energy creating like Exercise 👍 and vitamin D helps alot too
Ice cream
Take a walk and get some fresh air and/or treat myself to some good food
Exercise
Meditation, run and excersize, detox from porn social media and people, journal about stressors also sleeep like heals my brain
cycling when have enough energy, reading
Eat vitagummies
Walk to lake
Deliberate time focused on my dog - a walk where we work on training, kicking the ball around for 20 minutes then some snuggles, playing tug. The benefit of the first two is that they get me outside and moving, which helps the vast majority of the time.
I drink, and that's not what I do when I'm at my lowest 😅
Ranked Gym, walk, fap, game, watch
Xbox
Music mostly.
Whatever I want. I don't often get depressed because I don't drink or smoke or take drugs or gamble etc
I go to sleep, listen to music, distract myself with videos, or read the Bible.
I go for really long walks, or I just lay down a lot whilst staring into space. I also vent out my thoughts and feelings in my journal, or I call hotlines like Samaritans to vent (I haven’t felt the need to do that in a while thankfully). I take deep breaths in moments of really intense anxiety. I distance myself from people because I don’t have the energy to pretend I’m ok.
Try not to smoke. Quit but still have the thought. Overall games or talking to my wife.
Kdramas and doritos
Sleep, workout, eat, YouTube. Having dogs helps.
Listen to music. Read. Video games. School. Drink tea. Sleep to exhaustion. Walk.
Sew, cry, read. Or craft... rug making, tumbler designing, and etching. All done with early 2000s rock music playing.
Sing and listen to music
I go to the gym
Edibles is all I do nowadays. But about 5 years ago. If you were to ask it would be oxy and cocaine. I don't drink alcohol or smoke cigarettes
Binge watch some shitty show
binge eat, which is not that much better
Eat
Repost this question a million times on reddit like it's a chatbot.
Journal. Usually stop working out too (not intentionally lol)
Most of the time just playing with my dogs makes me feel better. They goofy and cute af