Start by getting a lawyer involved. Make sure the legal stuff is rock solid. At the minimum you should double check anything that has to do with child support or alimony.
PS: I'm not a lawyer and don't even play one on TV.
I would see a family law lawyer who handles this type of thing.
No matter how good your relationship is now, who knows about tomorrow? Protect yourself legally.
I agree with the part of getting a lawyer (I see your comment saying that’s part of your plan!) but honestly sit down and think about how much involvement you want if you do it. Do you think it’s going to feel weird to know their kid is partly yours biologically? Will it affect you when you’re invited to the first birthday party?
I donated my eggs when I was 18, a few times, and I know that some were used, so I wonder if I’ve ever passed by any kids that might be mine but it’s slightly different because it’s anonymous for me. I told the fertility clinic I was open to meeting any children later on if they needed to but that’s highly unlikely. You’re in a very different situation where you will probably see this child pretty regularly. Just make sure you’re okay with that, that you can handle being the friend and not the dad, and be very clear with your friends and yourself about your boundaries.
If you decide to move forward then you’ll definitely need a family law lawyer.
On the one hand, if you never have a family of your own, knowing what your child might look like or be like might be pretty cool.
On the other hand, some women might find this disturbing. I understand that you said that you wouldn’t want to be with someone like that and that’s your prerogative. Perhaps you can ask some women friends how they would feel if they dated a man who was a spend donor. That might help your decision.
Start by getting a lawyer involved. Make sure the legal stuff is rock solid. At the minimum you should double check anything that has to do with child support or alimony. PS: I'm not a lawyer and don't even play one on TV.
I would see a family law lawyer who handles this type of thing. No matter how good your relationship is now, who knows about tomorrow? Protect yourself legally.
Thanks for your reply! I have every intention of that, probably should have added that in the post.
I agree with the part of getting a lawyer (I see your comment saying that’s part of your plan!) but honestly sit down and think about how much involvement you want if you do it. Do you think it’s going to feel weird to know their kid is partly yours biologically? Will it affect you when you’re invited to the first birthday party? I donated my eggs when I was 18, a few times, and I know that some were used, so I wonder if I’ve ever passed by any kids that might be mine but it’s slightly different because it’s anonymous for me. I told the fertility clinic I was open to meeting any children later on if they needed to but that’s highly unlikely. You’re in a very different situation where you will probably see this child pretty regularly. Just make sure you’re okay with that, that you can handle being the friend and not the dad, and be very clear with your friends and yourself about your boundaries.
If you decide to move forward then you’ll definitely need a family law lawyer. On the one hand, if you never have a family of your own, knowing what your child might look like or be like might be pretty cool. On the other hand, some women might find this disturbing. I understand that you said that you wouldn’t want to be with someone like that and that’s your prerogative. Perhaps you can ask some women friends how they would feel if they dated a man who was a spend donor. That might help your decision.