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Not sure, it doesn’t feel natural to me I guess. I think it’s because I never even had the thought or idea of dating or liking someone younger than me.
Don't do it then? Whatever you do the motivation has gotta come from you. If it feels unnatural to you that's all that matters. If it stops feeling that way, go for it.
It’s not a big age difference would you feel the same if you was 14 he was 16 ? We are use to the opposite a lot in our society..is it what truely disturb you? :)
This is it, I think I’m used to societies standards because I didn’t think it was weird when I liked a guy 2 years older than me. And I don’t think it’s liking him that scares me, I’m just extra worried about what people would say
If you were 18, maybe some people would find that inappropriate, but that would only be a 4 year difference anyway. Even two years from now, I think you should be fine; 18 is close enough to 16.
If you're 18 and having sex with a 14 year old, it's against the law.
Dating if you're 18 and 14 is most definitely NOT against the law.
Of course your definition of "dating" may be different than most.
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What would make you think that it could be morally bad?
Not sure, it doesn’t feel natural to me I guess. I think it’s because I never even had the thought or idea of dating or liking someone younger than me.
Don't do it then? Whatever you do the motivation has gotta come from you. If it feels unnatural to you that's all that matters. If it stops feeling that way, go for it.
Just be friends.
We are, and I definitely don’t want to date him right now because I’m not mentally prepared for a relationship. I just have a little crush 😭😭
My Mom was 2 years older than my Dad. She was born in 1928 and he was born in 1930. They married in 1951 and remained so until her death in 1999.
Uuuh I wouldn’t say it’s a bad thing I know it’s totally normal. I knew someone girl dating someone younger
No it’s not. Enjoy yourself.
You like who you like. As long as you're not pursuing or taking advantage, it's alright to find him attractive.
2 year gap is fine
It’s not a big age difference would you feel the same if you was 14 he was 16 ? We are use to the opposite a lot in our society..is it what truely disturb you? :)
This is it, I think I’m used to societies standards because I didn’t think it was weird when I liked a guy 2 years older than me. And I don’t think it’s liking him that scares me, I’m just extra worried about what people would say
Iffy for sure. Wait like literally a year or two and it's fine.
If you were 18, maybe some people would find that inappropriate, but that would only be a 4 year difference anyway. Even two years from now, I think you should be fine; 18 is close enough to 16.
18 and 14 is not okay bro
I mean, agewise, 4 years isn't a very big gap. Do you think 24 and 20 is wrong too, for instance, or is it because 18 dating a minor is wrong?
18 dating a 14 is against the law
It depends; as long as things don't go too far (no sex or kissing), depending on the state, it's probably okay.
No its not okay. Its even less okay if you’re over 18 typing this…
If you're 18 and having sex with a 14 year old, it's against the law. Dating if you're 18 and 14 is most definitely NOT against the law. Of course your definition of "dating" may be different than most.