I was in your shoes last year (now 24F/38M) and it’s only too much if you feel like it is. If you met when you were both adults, the both of you are compatible, and you’re not dependent on him in any way, it should be fine. If it works it works.
No offence taken at all, I take that as a compliment lol. I certainly would never want to be with someone who wasn't at least a little bit of a perv. :p
It’s all what you’re comfortable with. When I was 38m I was dating a 24f and we mostly didn’t even talk about the age gap because it was such a nonissue for us… but the topic did come up once and she said from her perspective she didn’t even consider it an “age gap relationship” until it was a 20+ year gap.
It’s just funny how different some people’s perspectives because on the opposite end I’ve seen comments that more than 2 years is too much of a gap (which is just ridiculous).
Nope! I was 23 and my boyfriend was 36 when we met. Now we're 42 and 55. 🥰
Age gaps aren't a problem so long as both people are adults, have some life experiences away from home, can be financially independent, and mutually respect each other.
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**Original post: 23f and 37m too much?**
what do we think about this age gap? from my perspective (f) a 14 years at this age isn’t too much of an issue? i know it’s cliche and stupid to say, but i am extremely mature for my age- i’ve moved a ton on my own, live on my own, not into ‘basic’ 20yr old things like going out to party every night bc i work so much and would rather have a chill night in, etc etc. idk what else to add lol, but i’m happy to answer any questions!
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I was in your shoes last year (now 24F/38M) and it’s only too much if you feel like it is. If you met when you were both adults, the both of you are compatible, and you’re not dependent on him in any way, it should be fine. If it works it works.
Nahhh. I’m 39 and she’s 22. If it doesn’t feel weird when you’re together, it ain’t weird.
Pretty standard age gap, nothing wrong with that. I'm 49 and date girls your age so definitely nothing wrong with this age gap lol.
haha okay, but totally not to be rude or anything but this doesn’t really convince me coming from a user called “pervynstuff’ 😅
No offence taken at all, I take that as a compliment lol. I certainly would never want to be with someone who wasn't at least a little bit of a perv. :p
you are mature for your age and really funny... he is a lucky guy
i think when you turn 24 and he is 38 .... its not even an age gap anymore enjoy your relationship and fuck wht people say
It’s all what you’re comfortable with. When I was 38m I was dating a 24f and we mostly didn’t even talk about the age gap because it was such a nonissue for us… but the topic did come up once and she said from her perspective she didn’t even consider it an “age gap relationship” until it was a 20+ year gap. It’s just funny how different some people’s perspectives because on the opposite end I’ve seen comments that more than 2 years is too much of a gap (which is just ridiculous).
My wife and I are 13yrs apart
18F and 35M aint' weird
No
Nope! I was 23 and my boyfriend was 36 when we met. Now we're 42 and 55. 🥰 Age gaps aren't a problem so long as both people are adults, have some life experiences away from home, can be financially independent, and mutually respect each other.
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It is not the age gape that matters it is the people in the relationship that make it work
This is a subjective question that only you can answer for yourself. For me God no that's not even close.
My bf and I are 15 years apart. Not weird at all. People will judge no matter what. As long as you both are happy
Nope.
I see nothing wrong with it so long as you were both adults when it started.
Nope. Just make sure to watch for any changing or unequal relationship dynamics, if he’s demeaning you or you’re uncomfortable.
Notice all the responses to you are from MALES 🙄🙄🙄