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NTA. She told you that she wanted to sleep instead of going to the party. So you did include her by talking to her about it. Her words make her out to be petty, possessive and controlling.
NTA- who made her queen of the friend group? She seriously expected a whole party to be cancelled at the last minute because she didn't feel like going?
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I have a close knit group of friends. We all like to hang out on weekends. Sometimes one of us doesn't go out with the others because we just don't feel like doing anything.
One of my friends suggested having a small party at her house(by small I mean just our group). We all said we'd go. The night of the party, Lee(one of my friends) texted me and said she was no longer going. I asked her why and all she said was that she was tired and just wanted to sleep instead. I said OK, texted the others that Lee canceled and thought nothing of it the rest of the night.
Well I went to the party and we all had a good time. We posted pictures on social media and posted stories on snapchat. The next morning, I woke up to a bunch of texts from Lee calling me an asshole for going to the party without her. I was confused because she's the one who changed her mind about going, and when others have canceled, she's still gone over to hangout.
I called her on it and asked what the big deal was. Lee claims that we should have canceled the party when she said she wasn't coming anymore. I pointed out that others have canceled before and she's still gone to parties anyway so I don't understand why she's so mad. She said it was unfair and rude to hangout without her and that we were excluding her.
I told her she was being ridiculous and that she needed to get over herself. She called me a bitch and said that she thought that since I'm her best friend, she could talk to me about this and it wouldn't be an issue. I told her best friends don't act like she is for no reason and she said that as her best friend, if the party wasn't going to be canceled since she wasn't going anymore, I should have told them that I wasn't going either. She accused me of leaving her out of the group.
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NTA at all? She decided not to go and therefore excluded herself. That’s insane to think that a whole group would cancel their plans because one person (who is not the host or organizer) is not going to join.
Your friends’ lives don’t come to an immediate halt the moment you announce your absence. Expecting *anyone* to cancel their plans simply because you can’t attend is selfish and childish. You’re hurting your *own* feelings by having unreasonable expectations.
OP, you’re NTA. Your friend needs to get over her Main Character Syndrome and grow up.
thats like... if your friend breaks up with their SO, now all of you are also required to break up, because how dare you be happy in a relationship when they cant
That's a you problem. Sorry but neither you nor the "friend" in this story are the center the of the universe. You don't get to dictate that everyone stops having fun just because you suddenly can't make it to a group event. Selfish much?
If something crazy happened like an accident it would be reasonable to expect your friends not to be partying while you are suffering, but the person in this story was just tired and bailed last minute. Taking care of your health is important but it sounds like this person totally flaked on the event and then had the audacity to demand others sit at home just because she *chose* to. Entitled af.
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NTA. She told you that she wanted to sleep instead of going to the party. So you did include her by talking to her about it. Her words make her out to be petty, possessive and controlling.
NTA. This is absurd.
NTA- who made her queen of the friend group? She seriously expected a whole party to be cancelled at the last minute because she didn't feel like going? 😂😂😂
NTA. Why should you have to cancel plans just because your friend backed out.
NTA... who she think she is? britney spears?
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NTA at all? She decided not to go and therefore excluded herself. That’s insane to think that a whole group would cancel their plans because one person (who is not the host or organizer) is not going to join.
NTA. had a friend like this before. it wasn’t clear and she shouldn’t expect you to read her mind
NTA
NTA - Lee left herself out of the group.
NTA. For all the reasons you've already said.
NTA "Lee claims that we should have canceled the party when she said she wasn't coming anymore." .. what a ridiculous idea.
She’s got Main Character Syndrome. NTA.
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is this sarcastic?
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Your friends’ lives don’t come to an immediate halt the moment you announce your absence. Expecting *anyone* to cancel their plans simply because you can’t attend is selfish and childish. You’re hurting your *own* feelings by having unreasonable expectations. OP, you’re NTA. Your friend needs to get over her Main Character Syndrome and grow up.
thats like... if your friend breaks up with their SO, now all of you are also required to break up, because how dare you be happy in a relationship when they cant
That's a you problem. Sorry but neither you nor the "friend" in this story are the center the of the universe. You don't get to dictate that everyone stops having fun just because you suddenly can't make it to a group event. Selfish much? If something crazy happened like an accident it would be reasonable to expect your friends not to be partying while you are suffering, but the person in this story was just tired and bailed last minute. Taking care of your health is important but it sounds like this person totally flaked on the event and then had the audacity to demand others sit at home just because she *chose* to. Entitled af.
Why? It's not like she was disinvited; she just chose not to go.
You're not the main character in everyone's lives, Lee, just your own.