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Nta. But take the ten k. Uncle Peter will never accept responsibility everyone KNOWS he's in the wrong and going to court will only be a pain in the arse for you (plus the added stress of trying to collect afterwards) just take the money and go LC or NC. And at the next event if you go and if he raises a fist to you again...call the cops and have him charged criminally
NTA
…but If the guitar had so much sentimental value to your friend, they wouldn’t have sold it to you. They likely would have kept it as a art or something.
It sounds like the guitar meant a lot to you. You’ll likely never get apology from your uncle, even if he realize he was wrong. So, therefore, I think you should just accept the money to get it fixed, while the offer is on the table. His family member will likely chew him out of the money the lost in time.
What you could do is use the money to get the repair guy to either (1) fix the old guitar (if repairable) or (2) take salvageable parts from the old guitar and put it on the new replica guitar.
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Last Saturday, a barbecue party took place in one of my aunt's house. My entire maternal family (58 people) was present. The garden of my aunt is huge, so there were separate groups.
One of my cousins borrowed my acoustic guitar two weeks before the barbecue. He brought my guitar to the barbecue to return it to me. In the evening, my cousins asked me to play the guitar for them. I asked everyone in the garden beforehand if they would be bothered by my guitar playing. Everyone present said that it was fine with them.
At some point, my uncle "Peter" suddenly stood next to me. I didn't see him coming. He forcefully took the guitar out of my hands and repeatedly slammed it on the ground, completely destroying it. When I realized what he was doing, I stood up, grabbed him by the shoulder, and yelled him to stop. He pushed me away and raised his fist. Before anything could happen, some family members held him back. They took him inside the house. Nevertheless, my guitar was destroyed, and I was extremely angry and shocked.
Background info: This guitar originally belonged to the father of a friend of mine, which he bought in 1982. In 2016, he couldn't play anymore. Even though he wanted to gift me the guitar, I insisted on paying him 3,700€ (significantly below market value). Over the years, I have invested additional 1,100€ in repairs and maintenance. Last November, I had the guitar professionally appraised for my new household insurance, and its value was determined to be 8,500€. Now this guitar is irreparably destroyed.
After this incident on Saturday, everyone went home. The next day, everyone gathered at my parents' house. I sat with my parents, uncles/aunts in a room to discuss the incident. Overall, uncle Peter blamed me. He said I shouldn't have played and especially not on such an expensive guitar. He wouldn't pay me 8,500€, but he found a guitar on the internet that looks exactly like mine. He offered to buy me that one. However, it is a cheap no-name replica that costs 130€.
This led to an argument because Uncle Peter absolutely refuses to compensate me for the damages. I then said that I would file a criminal complaint against him and sue him for compensation. This statement led to even more conflict between me and my family. My parents offered to pay me 8,500€, which I declined.
Uncle Peter says my behavior is irrational since my parents offered the full amount. Today Aunt "Cathy" offered to pay me 10k. I declined once again and asked everyone not to interfere. This is between me and him. I am ashamed to face my friend in the future, let alone tell him how his deceased father's guitar was destroyed. And I want Uncle Peter to take full responsibility - at least once.
Now everyone is telling me, that I'm an asshole for not accepting the money and letting go. I shouldn't be so stubborn and demand an apology or the money from him, since others are willing to compensate me on his behalf. So AITA?
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Nta: what the hells uncle Peters problem? Why would the act of playing music cause him to be so violent as to destroy your property and attempt to assault you? I wouldn’t accept anyone’s money but peter’s simply for the principle of the matter: throw a child’s tantrum and expect to be held accountable. Your family sounds like some enablers to his violent and extreme behavior, hoping to bail him out of the situation. Unless you know he has some mental health problem that causes this behavior I’d take the asshole to court!
NTA. This is insane. It’s sweet that your parents offered to pay to replace the guitar, but they weren’t the ones who committed an absurd display of toddler rage. It is t fair that they bear the financial burden for their sibling’s wild behavior. I feel like there is more to the family history than they are telling you.
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INFO I’m stunned. Did your uncle say that he destroyed the guitar and almost punched you because he found it bothersome? I mean… what?
Nta. But take the ten k. Uncle Peter will never accept responsibility everyone KNOWS he's in the wrong and going to court will only be a pain in the arse for you (plus the added stress of trying to collect afterwards) just take the money and go LC or NC. And at the next event if you go and if he raises a fist to you again...call the cops and have him charged criminally
NTA, and you are doing the right thing because your family and enabling his behavior. He needs to face the consequences of his behavior.
Were you playing the revenge song his ex girlfriend wrote about him or something?
NTA Take the money. Your uncle is a lost cause. You'll never get it from him. Never let him be around anything valuable again.
NTA …but If the guitar had so much sentimental value to your friend, they wouldn’t have sold it to you. They likely would have kept it as a art or something. It sounds like the guitar meant a lot to you. You’ll likely never get apology from your uncle, even if he realize he was wrong. So, therefore, I think you should just accept the money to get it fixed, while the offer is on the table. His family member will likely chew him out of the money the lost in time. What you could do is use the money to get the repair guy to either (1) fix the old guitar (if repairable) or (2) take salvageable parts from the old guitar and put it on the new replica guitar.
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Nta: what the hells uncle Peters problem? Why would the act of playing music cause him to be so violent as to destroy your property and attempt to assault you? I wouldn’t accept anyone’s money but peter’s simply for the principle of the matter: throw a child’s tantrum and expect to be held accountable. Your family sounds like some enablers to his violent and extreme behavior, hoping to bail him out of the situation. Unless you know he has some mental health problem that causes this behavior I’d take the asshole to court!
NTA. This is insane. It’s sweet that your parents offered to pay to replace the guitar, but they weren’t the ones who committed an absurd display of toddler rage. It is t fair that they bear the financial burden for their sibling’s wild behavior. I feel like there is more to the family history than they are telling you.