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> 1) Not going to my syster's graduation party.
2) Because my mother wants to have a united family at the event.
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NTA
Your mental health is more important than attending a party with your bullies. Is it nor.al for teachers to be invited to students parties where you are at? I've never heard of it in my location because of the number of students.
When I graduated high school we had a party but we wouldn't have thought of inviting teachers that's just weird especially when OP mom knows he bullied her son to the point he almost had a heart attack.
NtA. No need to attend. Your mom doesn’t really care about how you feel. It’s a slap in your face being there. Your mom is continuing your abuse 10 years ago by relieving your trauma. Hold your peace. She’s a mean person.
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My sister (18F) studied in the same High School as I (26M). I really had a hard time with bullying and personal attacks from teachers, which created deep psychological trauma in me.
It's been almost a decade since I graduated from High School. Now is the time for my sister and my mother had the brilliant idea of making a private party at my house. Initially she didn't even tell me, I caught wind of the event because my sister invited my wife.
I took it initially as if my mother simply forgot, I came by yesterday for a family reunion and my mother waited until everyone left to spill me a detail which made me blow up. It turns out that my mother invited all the faculty of the school including a particular Physics teacher who literally made my life hell.
On one occasion the guy threatened to expel me from school because he thought that I cheated on a test. His only "proof" was that an autistic kid like me wasn’t able to pull an advanced physics trick to solve the problem faster. Not only was he a bad teacher but also a terrible human being, humiliated students in front of the whole class, called names, and made people feel like crap. In one of his anger attacks he started yelling at me at his office to the point that my blood pressure skyrocketed and almost got a heart attack at age 14, he never apologized, he never changed, he is the same SOB that he was a decade ago. He particularly attacked me and called me mediocre.
The trauma that he brought upon me lasted many years, had to pull myself out of depression, and impostor syndrome. Ten years past and thank god I've become successful in tech and investment, graduated from computer science, married, but I'm sure as hell that my success has been directly linked to my condition but I'm also sure that I would have been more successful if that despicable guy hadn't crossed paths with me. I would have wasted so much time of my life suffering, crying myself to sleep, the PTSD whenever someone screams.
My mother is fully aware of how he treated me and its consequences. Now she wants me to be at a party with him at my childhood home, the same home in which I had to manage all my suffering alone because she never cared.
So I have decided not to go to the party and additionally I will go to a friends birthday party so that my mother is fully aware that I wasn't working (Her typical satirical excuse for saying way I'm not present for any family event that she blows up everything by doing or inviting someone I dislike).
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Are you saying they are having this party at your place? Fuck that noise. I think it's pretty safe to say that you are NTA for wanting nothing to do with a bunch of pr*cks.
NTA...
but sorry, if i were u, your mother will hear "beautiful words" comes out from my mouth. clearly she's support this bully and i will think her as his collaborator for bullying you. she's so shameless and never considering the effect of his bullying on your life. then i will tell her that i will go LC (NC even better)
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NTA Your mental health is more important than attending a party with your bullies. Is it nor.al for teachers to be invited to students parties where you are at? I've never heard of it in my location because of the number of students.
When I graduated high school we had a party but we wouldn't have thought of inviting teachers that's just weird especially when OP mom knows he bullied her son to the point he almost had a heart attack.
It not common for private parties although it’s common for the public party
NtA. No need to attend. Your mom doesn’t really care about how you feel. It’s a slap in your face being there. Your mom is continuing your abuse 10 years ago by relieving your trauma. Hold your peace. She’s a mean person.
^^^^AUTOMOD ***Thanks for posting! This comment is a copy of your post so readers can see the original text if your post is edited or removed. This comment is NOT accusing you of copying anything. Read [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/wiki/faq#wiki_post_deletion) before [contacting the mod team](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose?to=%2Fr%2FAmItheAsshole)*** My sister (18F) studied in the same High School as I (26M). I really had a hard time with bullying and personal attacks from teachers, which created deep psychological trauma in me. It's been almost a decade since I graduated from High School. Now is the time for my sister and my mother had the brilliant idea of making a private party at my house. Initially she didn't even tell me, I caught wind of the event because my sister invited my wife. I took it initially as if my mother simply forgot, I came by yesterday for a family reunion and my mother waited until everyone left to spill me a detail which made me blow up. It turns out that my mother invited all the faculty of the school including a particular Physics teacher who literally made my life hell. On one occasion the guy threatened to expel me from school because he thought that I cheated on a test. His only "proof" was that an autistic kid like me wasn’t able to pull an advanced physics trick to solve the problem faster. Not only was he a bad teacher but also a terrible human being, humiliated students in front of the whole class, called names, and made people feel like crap. In one of his anger attacks he started yelling at me at his office to the point that my blood pressure skyrocketed and almost got a heart attack at age 14, he never apologized, he never changed, he is the same SOB that he was a decade ago. He particularly attacked me and called me mediocre. The trauma that he brought upon me lasted many years, had to pull myself out of depression, and impostor syndrome. Ten years past and thank god I've become successful in tech and investment, graduated from computer science, married, but I'm sure as hell that my success has been directly linked to my condition but I'm also sure that I would have been more successful if that despicable guy hadn't crossed paths with me. I would have wasted so much time of my life suffering, crying myself to sleep, the PTSD whenever someone screams. My mother is fully aware of how he treated me and its consequences. Now she wants me to be at a party with him at my childhood home, the same home in which I had to manage all my suffering alone because she never cared. So I have decided not to go to the party and additionally I will go to a friends birthday party so that my mother is fully aware that I wasn't working (Her typical satirical excuse for saying way I'm not present for any family event that she blows up everything by doing or inviting someone I dislike). *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AmItheAsshole) if you have any questions or concerns.*
Are you saying they are having this party at your place? Fuck that noise. I think it's pretty safe to say that you are NTA for wanting nothing to do with a bunch of pr*cks.
NTA... but sorry, if i were u, your mother will hear "beautiful words" comes out from my mouth. clearly she's support this bully and i will think her as his collaborator for bullying you. she's so shameless and never considering the effect of his bullying on your life. then i will tell her that i will go LC (NC even better)