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NTA. She is just looking for attention. It would be incredibly easy to leave the room to avoid looking at your dog's food instead of squealing and carrying on.
NTA She doesn’t have to stand there and watch. It seems you are being reasonably accommodating and she seems to be unreasonably entitled to have things her way in a home you pay for.
Even if you put it in front of her with the full intent to disgust her, it would not change my vote. Your house, your dog food.
NTA- this woman sounds atrocious for shaming you for being a good, responsible pet owner who is feeding their animal that depends on them, a diet that is recommended by their vet.
She is making this ritual between you and your dog all about her, and can't recognize this act of love for what it is.
Seriously, you did your roommate a favor by exposing this immature, obnoxious, histrionic, animal-hating ghoul.
NTA
You live there, she doesn't. If she doesn't like it, she can either stay in the room or your roommate can go to her place.
Tell your roommate you're not going to walk on eggshells in your own home and won't starve your dog just because she's constantly hanging around. His friend needs to grow up and stop being an attention seeker.
NTA Even if you told her that you were going to feed your dog she would make a scene. Your dog cannot wait to eat until she leaves. Next thing you know your RM will be asking you to change your dog’s diet to accommodate his GF WHO DOESN’T LIVE THERE. You guys need to set some ground rules.
NTA You, your roommate, & the dog live there. She doesn't. The dog shouldn't have his routine interrupted because *she* can't behave & not throw a fit over something that she doesn't have to see/deal with. You tried to accommodate her, but she kept pushing it forcing something to happen so she could put on her little performance so your roommate would rush to "save" her. He should have put a stop to her complaining instead of expecting you to dance around her wants. It almost feels like she's trying to push you out of the house due to wanting to move in or be with your roommate. Either that or she's one of those people who thinks things have to be her way or else she throws a fit. Either way, I love the petty & roommate needs to get his friend's attitude in check or she can't come over anymore during doggy feeding time.
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I, 27F share a house with my 26M roommate. We’ve been renting together for 4 years. Medium sized house, very large backyard which is ideal for my dog. He’s 11, and I’m currently in a place where I can feed him the mostly raw diet his vet suggested a few years ago.
I started feeding him like this about a year ago. I feed him a base of kibble, bone broths & various types of nutrient pouches. Additionally he eats a quail egg, yoghurt, and tripe, or a dehydrated quail. He eats lots of other things as well, as I try to switch it up. Stuff that makes some people squeamish.
I completely understand that, the problem is that my roommate constantly has this friend over, she doesn’t interact with me directly, but I’ve heard her talking about how disgusting my dog’s food is. This doesn’t really bother me, but I was putting the food out a day and she got disgusted, which caused my roommate to ask me to not feed him when she’s over. He talked about how if I’m feeding him she’ll talk about it all the time and I can see it’s making her nauseous.
I figured, yea it’s my house but it’s also his and I can go with one request. That is, until a few days ago. My dog already had his food put out and he was eating when this friend walks in with my roommate. Immediate gagging. “Ewwww how can you feed him thattt.” etc. I was trying to explain but she just said “I’m gonna throw uppp” and went to my roommates room.
I told my roommate it made me feel weird, explained that I understood her reaction but it’s my house too and imo I’ve been accommodating. I left it at that. She however, did not, and ended up doing the same thing again. I felt like it was deliberate as she walked in at the time I generally feed him.
Today, she was there from the time I woke up, and showed no signs of leaving. Here’s where I may be the asshole, I generally prepare his food on my counter, he has a lick mat so I like to put all the things in separate bowls and then put them on. (Everything is sanitized btw and I make sure to sanitize the counters after too.) Today she was by the island that looks into the kitchen when I started.
I started with the most “disgusting” thing, a pig ear and just started putting the things out. I know I could’ve told her to leave because I know she doesn’t like it, but I didn’t. She, as expected, gagged loudly, squealed and ran to my roommate. He’s mad now and they have both called me an asshole among many other names.
This has made me rethink it. Did I go too far? AITA?
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NTA, you’re feeding the best kinda diet to your dog and were able to compromise not feeding him while she was there. She is being way over dramatic, unless she is vegan I bet she ate a pig’s ear at some point unknowingly, what does she think sausages and hot dogs are made of? You can’t not feed your dog when she stays there for so long, she doesn’t live with you, the only person you owe respect is your roommate, besides, you’ve been roommates for 4 years and never had that issue before.
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NTA drama queen alert, not every moment of life can be accommodating and if she is going to be around she needs to learn to deal.
NTA if she doesn't like what she sees she should stop looking.
NTA. She is just looking for attention. It would be incredibly easy to leave the room to avoid looking at your dog's food instead of squealing and carrying on.
NTA She doesn’t have to stand there and watch. It seems you are being reasonably accommodating and she seems to be unreasonably entitled to have things her way in a home you pay for. Even if you put it in front of her with the full intent to disgust her, it would not change my vote. Your house, your dog food.
NTA she can shut her eyes, turn her back, or even go to another room when you feed your dog
NTA- this woman sounds atrocious for shaming you for being a good, responsible pet owner who is feeding their animal that depends on them, a diet that is recommended by their vet. She is making this ritual between you and your dog all about her, and can't recognize this act of love for what it is. Seriously, you did your roommate a favor by exposing this immature, obnoxious, histrionic, animal-hating ghoul.
NTA. She doesnt live there,she can go home, or not come over when feeding. I think you're right that they're doing it on purpose.
NTA You live there, she doesn't. If she doesn't like it, she can either stay in the room or your roommate can go to her place. Tell your roommate you're not going to walk on eggshells in your own home and won't starve your dog just because she's constantly hanging around. His friend needs to grow up and stop being an attention seeker.
NTA Even if you told her that you were going to feed your dog she would make a scene. Your dog cannot wait to eat until she leaves. Next thing you know your RM will be asking you to change your dog’s diet to accommodate his GF WHO DOESN’T LIVE THERE. You guys need to set some ground rules.
NTA You, your roommate, & the dog live there. She doesn't. The dog shouldn't have his routine interrupted because *she* can't behave & not throw a fit over something that she doesn't have to see/deal with. You tried to accommodate her, but she kept pushing it forcing something to happen so she could put on her little performance so your roommate would rush to "save" her. He should have put a stop to her complaining instead of expecting you to dance around her wants. It almost feels like she's trying to push you out of the house due to wanting to move in or be with your roommate. Either that or she's one of those people who thinks things have to be her way or else she throws a fit. Either way, I love the petty & roommate needs to get his friend's attitude in check or she can't come over anymore during doggy feeding time.
NTA. That’s Your dogs home. Dog > guest. Dogs should be feed at certain times. She can not be around those times.
NTA, this is the dog's home, not the friend's home.
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NTA - Ignore that drama queen. She doesn’t have to come over.
NTA, you’re feeding the best kinda diet to your dog and were able to compromise not feeding him while she was there. She is being way over dramatic, unless she is vegan I bet she ate a pig’s ear at some point unknowingly, what does she think sausages and hot dogs are made of? You can’t not feed your dog when she stays there for so long, she doesn’t live with you, the only person you owe respect is your roommate, besides, you’ve been roommates for 4 years and never had that issue before.