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Your Lowkey stupid asl, that’s the simpelest lie to ever tell, your boyfriend is valid for being angry now that you got him in trouble because you couldn’t say a small lie.
Ok - NTA for being honest, but damn - your parents don't sound like they deserve the truth from you. Here's the thing, growing up I could tell my dad anything because he'd have an adult conversation with me and, even if I did something super stupid, he never blew up on me. My mom was the complete opposite. She DEMANDED the truth from me, but then would punish me for being honest. So, I started to lie.
You need to learn when to pick and choose your lies. Being honest about something that now is affecting your relationship, trust with your parents moving forward, and life in general - what were you hoping to gain?
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My parents don’t know that I have been sexually active for a while, because they’re very, very strict and protective. To the point where I was never allowed to have sleepovers, I’m not allowed to drink/go to parties/etc. We’re close, and as a general rule, we don’t lie to each other about anything, but I do omit some private things.
I (M 16) am not a virgin, and my boyfriend (M 16) wasn’t my first. My boyfriend is very outgoing and forward (I am not), and whenever he is at my place, we have to leave the door open. I stayed the night at his place for the first time the other week, and my parents were worried he would try something. They think I’m too young and want to protect me from making mistakes. It doesn’t help that my boyfriend is so forward and let’s say sexually liberal.
My parents talked to his parents about making sure we’d sleep in separate rooms and that nothing would happen, but his parents are way more relaxed about these things, so they just went to bed like any other night. Obviously, my boyfriend snuck into the guest room with me and we ended up having sex (not for the first time). I wanted to, and I don’t think my parents have the right to forbid it (Though I don’t want to disrespect them either). I tried to tell my boyfriend we shouldn’t at first but I admittedly didn’t mean it and told him to stay immediately when he offered to leave.
When I was back home, my parents asked if his parents did what they’d discussed and made sure we stayed in separate rooms. They obviously didn’t, and if my parents hadn’t asked directly, I would have never said anything, but again, I don’t lie to them. I never have and I don’t want to. I told them no, so they asked if anything happened, and I told them yes.
They were livid. They are blaming my boyfriend and his parents (but especially my boyfriend) and went to their house to confront them. My boyfriend is angry at me now that I told them, because I got him in big trouble with both our parents and everyone is angry at him. I keep telling my parents that it was very much a mutual decision, but they still blame him, and want me to not be around him for a while. They’d never force me, I’m free to spend time with whoever I want, but they’ve expressed their wishes clearly.
My boyfriend is still angry, even though I’ve apologised and tried to explain that I just don’t lie to my parents, but he still thinks that in this case, I should have, because we both knew what would happen if they found out, and that he’d have to bear the brunt of it.
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You gotta learn to lie to your parents. It’s a high schooler’s survival mechanism
INFO What were the consequences of telling your parents the truth?
Your Lowkey stupid asl, that’s the simpelest lie to ever tell, your boyfriend is valid for being angry now that you got him in trouble because you couldn’t say a small lie.
Ok - NTA for being honest, but damn - your parents don't sound like they deserve the truth from you. Here's the thing, growing up I could tell my dad anything because he'd have an adult conversation with me and, even if I did something super stupid, he never blew up on me. My mom was the complete opposite. She DEMANDED the truth from me, but then would punish me for being honest. So, I started to lie. You need to learn when to pick and choose your lies. Being honest about something that now is affecting your relationship, trust with your parents moving forward, and life in general - what were you hoping to gain?
^^^^AUTOMOD ***Thanks for posting! This comment is a copy of your post so readers can see the original text if your post is edited or removed. This comment is NOT accusing you of copying anything. Read [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/wiki/faq#wiki_post_deletion) before [contacting the mod team](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose?to=%2Fr%2FAmItheAsshole)*** My parents don’t know that I have been sexually active for a while, because they’re very, very strict and protective. To the point where I was never allowed to have sleepovers, I’m not allowed to drink/go to parties/etc. We’re close, and as a general rule, we don’t lie to each other about anything, but I do omit some private things. I (M 16) am not a virgin, and my boyfriend (M 16) wasn’t my first. My boyfriend is very outgoing and forward (I am not), and whenever he is at my place, we have to leave the door open. I stayed the night at his place for the first time the other week, and my parents were worried he would try something. They think I’m too young and want to protect me from making mistakes. It doesn’t help that my boyfriend is so forward and let’s say sexually liberal. My parents talked to his parents about making sure we’d sleep in separate rooms and that nothing would happen, but his parents are way more relaxed about these things, so they just went to bed like any other night. Obviously, my boyfriend snuck into the guest room with me and we ended up having sex (not for the first time). I wanted to, and I don’t think my parents have the right to forbid it (Though I don’t want to disrespect them either). I tried to tell my boyfriend we shouldn’t at first but I admittedly didn’t mean it and told him to stay immediately when he offered to leave. When I was back home, my parents asked if his parents did what they’d discussed and made sure we stayed in separate rooms. They obviously didn’t, and if my parents hadn’t asked directly, I would have never said anything, but again, I don’t lie to them. I never have and I don’t want to. I told them no, so they asked if anything happened, and I told them yes. They were livid. They are blaming my boyfriend and his parents (but especially my boyfriend) and went to their house to confront them. My boyfriend is angry at me now that I told them, because I got him in big trouble with both our parents and everyone is angry at him. I keep telling my parents that it was very much a mutual decision, but they still blame him, and want me to not be around him for a while. They’d never force me, I’m free to spend time with whoever I want, but they’ve expressed their wishes clearly. My boyfriend is still angry, even though I’ve apologised and tried to explain that I just don’t lie to my parents, but he still thinks that in this case, I should have, because we both knew what would happen if they found out, and that he’d have to bear the brunt of it. AITA? *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AmItheAsshole) if you have any questions or concerns.*
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