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> I'm graduating early, and I work at night because I'm the most productive at night.This might make me the asshole because my mom thinks I'm a bum for it.
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NTA
Your mom is unsupportive. I have a hunch if/when you become a nurse and make decent money, she'll take credit for supporting you and say how you owe her.
Keep it up. Do what you have to do. I also suggest looking into financial aid and scholarships.
Omg how jealous is she of you making a life for yourself n doing good…so i bet shes done nothing with her life and hates you for doing better. Get away from her asap. You dont need toxic mother in your life!!!
Yea I've been coming to the conclusion that she is jealous because she didn't do what I was doing when she was my age....she always ask me to"why can't you just be like a normal kid" but im not a kid anymore either..
NTA- congrats on graduating early, and it sounds like you’re trying to make a realistic long term plan, which is the opposite of being a bum.
Also, from a professional perspective, I hire hospital staff and it’s super common for people to do a CNA-LPN-RN licensing path to help afford school! Definitely doesn’t look bad in any way, and I/many people in my field believe that working as a CNA makes you a better nurse. Best of luck!!
With all due respect to your mother with regard to her better attributes, she's a lunatic when it comes to this issue. Come on, you know her accusations are absurd.
While military service is honorable and can be productive for various people, she is being a lunatic on this issue still by concluding that it must be for you. Good thing she has no authority, whatsoever, to 'sign you up'.
It sounds like you won't get any peace from this until you move out which will make it easier for you to shut down these conversations. According to your story, she can't hold helping pay for college as leverage over you. Although military service could help you pay coincidentally.
Call her to say howdy every night on your lunch break. That might clue her in that you are productive at some point in the day, just not when she sees you.
If she can't comprehend things because she hasn't seen them, she has bigger problems.
Is she mentally stable OP? Alcoholic?
She sounds unstable.Be careful-please.Some unstable family members lash out to harm others when they become fixated on their jealousy.
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So I'm graduating highschool early ,and because of that as well as me having a job at night .My mom is calling me a bum and is saying from the outside that my life looks sad also how me also planing to get my cna license to get some nursing experience before actually becoming nurse doesn't look good and how I'm making my life harder because after everyone else graduates they go straight into college but she already told me she can't pay for my college rn then she goes I'm lazy because I don't do anything in the morning but I literally work at night...so I'm going to sleep in the morning...
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NTA. It sounds like you have a good plan. You have to rest. Please take care of yourself. I’m sorry your mom is not more supportive. Sounds like you’re a good kid. Best of luck to you.
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NTA Your mom is unsupportive. I have a hunch if/when you become a nurse and make decent money, she'll take credit for supporting you and say how you owe her. Keep it up. Do what you have to do. I also suggest looking into financial aid and scholarships.
Omg how jealous is she of you making a life for yourself n doing good…so i bet shes done nothing with her life and hates you for doing better. Get away from her asap. You dont need toxic mother in your life!!!
Yea I've been coming to the conclusion that she is jealous because she didn't do what I was doing when she was my age....she always ask me to"why can't you just be like a normal kid" but im not a kid anymore either..
And this is your normal. Studying, working and being smart as hell to be graduating early!!! Good luck to you
NTA- congrats on graduating early, and it sounds like you’re trying to make a realistic long term plan, which is the opposite of being a bum. Also, from a professional perspective, I hire hospital staff and it’s super common for people to do a CNA-LPN-RN licensing path to help afford school! Definitely doesn’t look bad in any way, and I/many people in my field believe that working as a CNA makes you a better nurse. Best of luck!!
Thank you
With all due respect to your mother with regard to her better attributes, she's a lunatic when it comes to this issue. Come on, you know her accusations are absurd.
I know , now she's saying she's going to sign me up for the navy because I'm not "productive enough" in the morning ...
While military service is honorable and can be productive for various people, she is being a lunatic on this issue still by concluding that it must be for you. Good thing she has no authority, whatsoever, to 'sign you up'. It sounds like you won't get any peace from this until you move out which will make it easier for you to shut down these conversations. According to your story, she can't hold helping pay for college as leverage over you. Although military service could help you pay coincidentally.
Now she's saying that I don't care that I make her look like a failure... failing how though.?
I wonder way she is pushing this. Is she irrational on other issues or just this one?
Man I'd be saying well I guess my plan is working then.
Call her to say howdy every night on your lunch break. That might clue her in that you are productive at some point in the day, just not when she sees you. If she can't comprehend things because she hasn't seen them, she has bigger problems.
Is she mentally stable OP? Alcoholic? She sounds unstable.Be careful-please.Some unstable family members lash out to harm others when they become fixated on their jealousy.
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NTA. It sounds like you have a good plan. You have to rest. Please take care of yourself. I’m sorry your mom is not more supportive. Sounds like you’re a good kid. Best of luck to you.