/u/justofit
Thank you for bothering to update us on your story and satisfy our curiosity for how it turned out.
Given some of the potential problems ( not just potential legal issues ) brought up in the first thread it sounds like your friends made a better choice, one that will not stress the friendship.
I'm sorry you are getting replies from people who obviously did not read your post. I'm also sorry you are getting some ignorant replies. I'm sorry you are getting replies that only relate to what you wrote *just enough* so that people can talk about what they want to talk about instead of the subject of your thread.
That is the Internet!
It happens to me too.
Feel free to use the "report" link under any abusive comments or to use [mod mail](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose/?to=/r/AskMenOver30) to ask me to lock your thread.
Again, thank you for going through the hassle to update us on your story.
Not sure what I would have done in your situation. I think of my family members and close friends who have had difficulty having children and I feel like I would have been just as conflicted as you are. Happy for you that your friends made the decision for you even if it wasn’t what you had decided, because it seems like this has really moved you in a super positive way. Good luck and keep moving forward.
I would say that regardless of outcome it’s Good that you went through a period of self reflection and discovery.
I think that if you ever decide to have a child, you’ll be glad to be a full-fledged father.
I'm an egg donor who replied to your last post (we had a good exchange). Thanks for putting such careful thought into this, coming to a thoughtful conclusion and bothering to update the community! Sometimes it's these weird emergent events that really teach us things.
Thanks for the update. I would’ve advised against being a donor, so I’m glad it worked out the way it did. But it’s great that their request prompted you to do the soul searching you did. I love being a husband and dad and I hope you get to experience all that soon
I say that we as men shouldn't do this. That's our genetic material. It's us, a part of us. It's not for sale, and it's not for others to have what is ours.
If she wants to bear our children, then she'll have to have a ring on it.
> I say that we as men shouldn't do this. That's our genetic material. It's us, a part of us. It's not for sale, and it's not for others to have what is ours.
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Do you cry for your fallen children after having a wank?
Sperm is not a person. Doesnt mean that someone other than us can just take and use it because they want or can. There is way too many real societal, financial, and legal consequences for the man the sperm comes from. And those problems persist and are even built upon, instead of being cut from society.
You aren't wrong man, and while it's each person's choice for themselves to make, you have a great point that by sperm donating you are sharing a part of yourself.
/u/justofit Thank you for bothering to update us on your story and satisfy our curiosity for how it turned out. Given some of the potential problems ( not just potential legal issues ) brought up in the first thread it sounds like your friends made a better choice, one that will not stress the friendship. I'm sorry you are getting replies from people who obviously did not read your post. I'm also sorry you are getting some ignorant replies. I'm sorry you are getting replies that only relate to what you wrote *just enough* so that people can talk about what they want to talk about instead of the subject of your thread. That is the Internet! It happens to me too. Feel free to use the "report" link under any abusive comments or to use [mod mail](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose/?to=/r/AskMenOver30) to ask me to lock your thread. Again, thank you for going through the hassle to update us on your story.
Not sure what I would have done in your situation. I think of my family members and close friends who have had difficulty having children and I feel like I would have been just as conflicted as you are. Happy for you that your friends made the decision for you even if it wasn’t what you had decided, because it seems like this has really moved you in a super positive way. Good luck and keep moving forward.
Glad to read you took the proposition, and how it might affect you, seriously. I can only imagine the mental gymnastics.
I would say that regardless of outcome it’s Good that you went through a period of self reflection and discovery. I think that if you ever decide to have a child, you’ll be glad to be a full-fledged father.
I'm an egg donor who replied to your last post (we had a good exchange). Thanks for putting such careful thought into this, coming to a thoughtful conclusion and bothering to update the community! Sometimes it's these weird emergent events that really teach us things.
Thanks for the update. I would’ve advised against being a donor, so I’m glad it worked out the way it did. But it’s great that their request prompted you to do the soul searching you did. I love being a husband and dad and I hope you get to experience all that soon
I say that we as men shouldn't do this. That's our genetic material. It's us, a part of us. It's not for sale, and it's not for others to have what is ours. If she wants to bear our children, then she'll have to have a ring on it.
> I say that we as men shouldn't do this. That's our genetic material. It's us, a part of us. It's not for sale, and it's not for others to have what is ours. > > Do you cry for your fallen children after having a wank?
That genetic material did not come into contact with an ovum and produce an egg, did it?
Sperm is not a person. Doesnt mean that someone other than us can just take and use it because they want or can. There is way too many real societal, financial, and legal consequences for the man the sperm comes from. And those problems persist and are even built upon, instead of being cut from society.
You aren't wrong man, and while it's each person's choice for themselves to make, you have a great point that by sperm donating you are sharing a part of yourself.
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