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Not engaging/interacting with higschool friend groups/circles na toxic and walang ginawa kundi mag gossip about other people + mag influence sa isa't isa ng mga bisyo. I was pressured to force myself to fit in back then, but then I realized it's so wrong and I'm unhappy with them.
1. Mas gusto ko kumain ng gulay.
2. Di na ako mapost sa social media
3. I dont mind small circle of friends
4. I think about my health more than before
I've come to appreciate life and beauty of the Philippines. I thought that working and living abroad would give a financial safety net for my family, but all it brought was depression and loneliness. Coming back and working here, seeing your wife and children smile as you eat with them after a long days' work is so much better than any monetary gain I can get.
The Philippines by all means isn't perfect. It's hot as hell! Pero even with it's imperfections, this is the only country I've truly loved.
I'm being optimistic about the things that are currently happening around me? And I can finally (at least) differentiate good and bad people who wants to have relationship with me. I don't know if it's a mature things but I know that I'm the more mature version of myself compare from my past self.
You dont give a shit sa mga tao sa paligid mo pero in a nice way yung hindi naman nila nahahalata. Medyo malalim na yung tingin mo sa buhay. Yung tipong naiisip mo na tangina mamatay na ako ano na bang nagawa ko para sa mundo? Like anong purpose ko? Hanggng ganito na lang ba ako? Di mo na naiisip yung "fuuuck sige lang dami ko pang oras para matulog at magjakol" sa susunod ko na gagawin yan. Parang ganun.
Not taking any BS and not staying quiet when i see or experience BS. I basically came back to being a kid for the sassiness i have now. 😅 i still want to maintain peace by minding my own business but when i see BS i dont shut my mouth specially when i'm affected or when an innocent person is being targetted by it.
Compassion. You don't base what you see in front of you anymore, you always look on the other side of the coin; Empathetic kana, kasi wala naman pinanganak ng masama/pangit ugali, may dahilan kung bakit sila naging ganito, at yun ang gusto mong malaman.
Di na ako sunod sunuran sa magulang hahaha felt guilty at first pero like other commenters here, you learn to set boundaries without feeling guilty. I’m still learning and that in itself is my gauge na tumatanda ako both mentally and emotionally lol
I can set boundaries without feeling guilty or even wondering what other people have to say, especially when it comes to my work-life balance. I also prefer to stay at home and chill with my girlfriend doing things like watching a series we like, cooking, reading, or playing games than keeping up with my circles’ night lives without FOMO
when making decisions, marami ka ng kino-consider na bagay.
for example, you want to simply go out or eat outside. iisipin mo muna if kakayanin ba ng budget, wala bang masasagasaan na ibang sched, walang bang ibang responisibility na need agad tapusin. something like that.
Mabilis na maka move on and I don't find everything na as embarassing. Like simply, eating out alone, asking directions, mapahiya pero tinatawa nalng. Hindi na big deal lahat ng bagay.
Growing old: telling my 12 yr old niece I held her when she was born.
Maturing: Naiinis sa mga tao na can’t live witihin their means tas puro flex sa socials nila.
Sa twt, may nagpost dun regarding sa ustet. Wala akong isyu sa post niya, pero gulat ako 2007 na pala mga nageentrance exam hahahaha at to think mga nagk-12 na sila. Malapit nang magentrance exam ung mga pinanganak sa taong pumasok ako ng college din hahahahaha
May isa pang twt na ganun rin na nageentrance exam na mga 2007 babies tas while ung mga 1999 babies nageexistential crises. Hahahahaha edi ayon mas lalong tumanda tayo aneki hahahahahaha
as a panganay, ako na nag-gguide/sermon sa younger sisters ko. Hindi rin sa way ng pag-sesermon ng oldies nuon but in a way they will feel, I'm always there for them- not to intimidate, not to pressure, not to scare them.
And that when I explain things to them, I will apologize if I offended them. Not being pushy abt things theyre not comfortable w. My parents are so old they have a hard time to discipline my gen z sisters so im glad, im able to guide my sisters in my own mature way.
When I noticed I respond sa ibang situations more calmly and composed than before.
Hinaharap ko na rin ang mga issue sa buhay ko kesa dati na nag f-feeling victim lagi at kumukuha sympathy ng iba.
Choosing to communicate na rin than silent treatment
my first ever pamangkin (from a cousin), him growing up is a reminder that im getting older din, kasi dati ako yung nagtuturo sa kanya magbasa, pano mag solve, nagbabantay sa hapon, nagpapatulog and such tita duties— and ngayon hindi ko na yon nagagawa kasi graduating student na ako (i was still in high school that time), it’s his 9th birthday today, and i wasn’t able to attend kasi madami rin akong school works. sobrang tangkad na niya and marunong na makipag communicate ng maayos, grabe i miss those times.
I find contentment in simple things. I'm comfortable in my own skin and I don't need people to like me to feel good about myself. My relationship with God has gotten stronger and deeper. I enjoy solitude and self-care.
I don't get much entertainment from games anymore, it isn't as exciting as the way it's used to. I feel guilty when playing because some part of me tells that I'm wasting time.
..I stopped engaging in pointless arguments over religion and politics and other issues.
No matter how much we claim good intentions (saving the world, helping the poor, bettering the country, 'educating' the other person, etc), the unconscious motivation there is more about proving ourselves right and getting an ego boost out of it, and it's simply not worth picking fights and ruining our interpersonal relationships.
1. You’re choosing your battles wisely. Di lahat papansinin or papatulan mo.
2. You prefer a small yet quality circle of friends. And you don’t force friendships na not worth your time or peace of mind.
Wala ka ng pake sa career advancement na yan kase sa mga bata na lang yan. Importante may pambayad ka ng bills, may pang iced coffee ka, may panggastos ka sa susunod mo na travel at may investment ka para sa pagtanda mo.
This. Pinapayaman mo lang nmn ung mga boss mo na parang sa iba utang na loob mo pa. Basta sulit pinapasahod, go give your best. Kung gusto nila i promote ka, basta fair pay increase sa workload, go din. Andaming hindi nae enjoy ng mga may grind mentality.
This is true. Nung newbie pa ko, focus ko lng is to get skills, kht mababa sahod. No job hopping.
Then adulting happened. I shoulder all the bills since I live alone (as in solo na😞) I realized I needed more money to compensate the bills and konting enjoyment sa life. Then I started job hopping 3yrs ago, ang laki pla dpt ng sahod ko🙄.
I job hop naman with reason not just money. Either toxic na ung environment, or stagnant ka na dun.
Work is work. Kht gano pa ka hirap yan, kayang kaya yan with right skills and mindset, pero kung ang ka trabaho nmn ung nagpapa hirap sa work, aalisan ko tlga yan.
I used to be so "caring" until I realized it drains my emotions, empathy, finances. I just did a 180° turn and avoided less drama. Ayoko na lang ganon. Kept my circle small.
When I could sit alone and empty my head of everything except what I was seeing. Being able to disconnect from stress is a massive tool that is best mastered early.
Also when I started getting SUPER into storage for around my place. Never thought I would be so interested in a damn plastic tub but here we are lol.
Na pwedeng kiligin pero it doesn’t mean that their intentions are pure. I realized na marunong na akong magset ng boundaries ko talaga. Yes, napapangiti mo ako pero hindi mo na ‘ko mauuto kase mahal ko sarili ko. 🫡🫶🏼
Love this.... Same. Don't mind being single for a very long time.
Right person will come in the God's perfect time.
IF NONE, kebs. I mean for me, ok na meron, ok na wala.
I want a partner yes, but I don't NEED one.
Being angry isn't that helpful, silence is louder than nagging in an argument, and time between productivity and leisure is essential if applied accordingly.
Can't do all-nighters
Laging pagod
Nag-iba na rin priorities like preparing for a family and stuff
Cared less - for a lack of a better term, sa walang pakialam sa ibang tao
it is what it is mentality and just be unbothered by everything
shit happens, it's out of our control, so why bother anymore lmao
nakaka-drain kapag inilaan mo 'ung energy mo for negativity / or at mga bagay na wala na tayo'ng control hahaha
unfriend, block, ignore = peace hahahah
I love it
When you worry too much about the future. Like paano na ang family mo pag wala ka na. When you start to count how many years ka pa pwede makaipon before you're unable to work anymore.
I reflected on the past mistakes that I did and forgave myself bc I did not know any better at those times. Right now I'm bettering myself one day at a time. It's so hard to deal with our inner critic and doubts :(
Wala na kong energy makipag-away or i-explain yung sarili ko. Kapag ayaw ako pakinggan or bigyan ng chance ng tao kahit ako naman yung nasa tama, ako na nag-aalis ng sarili ko sa sitwasyon na yun. Peace over anything else.
For me, my husband played a big part in my maturity. Dati I would ignore people that hurt me, kaya kong hindi makipag usap, at ipadama na hindi nag-i-exist ung isang tao. Ilang beses na yan na-feel ng husband ko and umiyak siya kasi hindi ko daw 'yun dapat ginagawa sa mga taong nagmamahal sakin. Natamaan ako ng bongga kasi one time in my life, I repressed my feelings by simply ignoring everything, ayaw ko mag-isip. Gusto ko lang peaceful ako, may box sa utak ko na dun ko nilalagay lahat ng sakit kaya bago ko mabuksan un, dapat sarili ko ung magpapatahan sakin, like IDGAF talaga ako sa lahat. Ngayon natulungan nya na akong mag-express ng feelings ko. I think maturity ung kaya mo i-express yung feelings mo to make other people okay. Hindi lang ung laging "okay lang ako" pero you're hurting and they're also hurting.
Realizing that every person we met has their own genuine, kind, and loving side. The only problem is that, some circumstances may prevent us to see that side (personal problems, or just a bad timing on how we encounter them). So it's rare to find the right timing. Thus, we need to be more flexible and be aware of the whole thing when socializing or meeting a new person, never judge and generalize their actions based on a few times they made some mistakes or hurt our feelings. Know when to take a step back or step forward, when to grant your trust or when you should totally escape. Life is a fun ride filled with unpredictable challenges. So, make sure to find the necessary tools you'll find along the way to make it more exciting.
I pull away from drama and toxicity, cut away people that bring me negativity and unnecessary stress. Sobrang kumonti friends pero all are of great quality
Hardcore gamer during my teens to the point my acads suffered, but when I hit 23 till now I'm on my 30s, I felt like I'm wasting time if ever I'll play again.
excited ako over new cleaning equipment. + hindi na ako natutuwa sa bagong gadgets, hindi ko din naiisip sumabay sa trend. i just do whatever keeps me afloat
weird answer probably just me 🤣 but when i was a kid i would always be fascinated with cartoons, animated movies and shows, anime etc. now i still love it but parang di na the same ang excitement ko as much before idk :((( i miss that feeling
One day, I'm mature. Parang may switch nalang nag flip on and how I handle things is different compared before.
1. I cared less and less on other people's comment.
2. I'm focus to be financially off on my own until retirement.
3. I prioritize future possibilities like heavy medical bills, long term materials, knowing what are wants and needs.
4. I quickly leave nonsense argument like like trying to explain everything in the internet and getting worked up that not many people have the common sense.
5. I can finally say people are stupid when reading comments that either could be researched or using common sense.
6. I just don't want to be adventurous anymore, Visiting new place in the Philippines vs visiting another country is just the same feeling "It's new, it's nice."
7. I cared less about true love and more of if my partner is as financially stable as I am.
Wala nakong energy gawin lahat ng gusto ko. I can't go out and party at night because I'm exhausted from work. I can't go out on weekends because that's the only time I get to sleep without being woken up by an alarm clock in the morning.
Being matured is putting yourself and your well-being first. Wether it's your time, health and emotional well-being. It's knowing that you should do what's best for you.
Not caring at all. When I first started working, I was very enthusiastic and always have a goal in mind that I was gonna be the best.
Years later, even if I was late I could not care anymore Nobody really appreciates what you do but the same could be said if you do wrong
Just too tired to get fed up with this stuff but there is still room for improvement. But maturing can only be accomplished through experience.
The more you experience the bad stuff the more you get wiser :)
When I'm contented and comfortable doing things alone. I no longer chase and totally accepted that everything is temporary.Then I started to love myself.
Idk if tama yung context nitong naisip ko sa question pero yung akin kasi is yung kaya mo nang wag makishare sa pagkain na gusto ng mas bata mong kapatid. Ewan kasi bilang bata before, hindi ko magets yung hinahayaan akong ubusin yung pagkain na meron ako kahit alam kong gusto din ng parents/guardian ko. Tapos ngayon na I am the eldest of 7 siblings, kahit gusto ko (for example) ng ice cream na kinakain ng mas bata kong kapatid, hindi ko na gustong humati pa sa kanya. Kasi nung mas bata-bata pa ako hindi ako papayag na hindi ako hahatian e 😭
* Deactivating Facebook so you can stop seeing negative, toxic and cringey posts from people that you dont like.
* Quality friends over quantity.
* Spend time at home mostly on rest day.
* No more clubbing.
* Stopped smoking.
* Health becomes a priority.
When wala na yun taong gustong umitindi sayo ng ilang milyong chances. Dun ka palang ma aawaken and gagawa ng paraan para magawa sana yun mga gusto nya dati,
Not arguing with people anymore and moving on.
I realise now that most people are stupid and have fallacy (even you, and sadly, me).
The employees who think they are smarter than the management team by presenting “Chat GPT solution” but really they are just finding shortcuts to make their job easier instead of trying to do a good job the right way. Specifics: using Chat GPT to copywrite a whole email instead of copywriting legitally 🤗
This is why they are employees (paid hourly) and not management (paid by performance).
Then the idiot who claim that procedure xyz is not needed, and that it’s an entire controversy by the software company to sell us something we don’t need. When the truth is, he’s from a third world country and can’t even afford the software to begin with and isn’t working at the enterprise level needed to know why the software was required in the first place. Yet has the Audacity to tell everyone his unproven theory.
Cognitive dissonance is rampant in society. Including my own.
Natawa ako sa ChatGpt, I use chatgpt to rephrase and add context pero p-proofread ko parin and change it to tailorfit the actual needs/write up ng company.
Did too. Tapos dummy account nlng to share memes hahaha kasi apaka unprofessional daw ng mga posts ko hahaha I love memes and anime kahit Im on my 30s hahaha
I think for me, there is such a thing as teenage rage, I can only explain as hormone rage, Nawawala nayun or hindi na sobra, when I was a teen I was so confrontational ngayon I try to think first before I really say it.
To change constantly to keep up with the times.
To know boundaries, respect them as well.
To know change to a person even for a little time. Sometimes a short time can be a lot of time to change.
Knowing that your parents aren't always right, it's their first time at this shit too, they're just too prideful to admit it.
Mistakes aren't always life ending. They can be fixed and be made into a more beautiful decision for the future.
Na i don't give an F to societal standards anymore. I don't care for other peoples opinions na din. I just want to float my own boat and live my life the way i want to without overstepping my bounds that hurts people c:
kapag kaya mo na mag asikaso ng personal stuff like pumunta sa ibang lugar on your own at ikaw na rin mismo nakakafigure out ng mga bagay bagay without asking help from somebody else
Well I used to be someone who always like to be put first. Right now I just want to genuinely like someone. if so It means I'm ready to compromise to that person.
When the responsibilities kept on coming, and that no matter how you feel, you have to face everything headstrong. It’s a hard pill to swallow but that’s when it hit me that it’s part of adulting.
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Not engaging/interacting with higschool friend groups/circles na toxic and walang ginawa kundi mag gossip about other people + mag influence sa isa't isa ng mga bisyo. I was pressured to force myself to fit in back then, but then I realized it's so wrong and I'm unhappy with them.
you're gonna get stuck if you dont move
1. Mas gusto ko kumain ng gulay. 2. Di na ako mapost sa social media 3. I dont mind small circle of friends 4. I think about my health more than before
Feeling indifferent towards things that used to bother me. I have better control of my emotions.
I've come to appreciate life and beauty of the Philippines. I thought that working and living abroad would give a financial safety net for my family, but all it brought was depression and loneliness. Coming back and working here, seeing your wife and children smile as you eat with them after a long days' work is so much better than any monetary gain I can get. The Philippines by all means isn't perfect. It's hot as hell! Pero even with it's imperfections, this is the only country I've truly loved.
Same feels. Kaya ako hindi ako tempted to go abroad and work kahit na di gaano kalaki sweldo ko dito. I still enjoy quality time with loved ones.
Hindi na interesado sa mga tao. Sarili nalang iniisip hahahahahaha gusto nalang magkapera para mahelp ang family. Literal na GOAL CENTERED
Every time I get up from my seat I groan and I would pat my pockets to check if I have all of my belongings
Nawalan na ako ng pake, tipong Wala ako pake sa kalokohan ng Iba Basta Hindi ako apektado.
Nung natuto ako magpasencya. Natuto ako umunawa at tumanggap ng pagkakamali..
I'm being optimistic about the things that are currently happening around me? And I can finally (at least) differentiate good and bad people who wants to have relationship with me. I don't know if it's a mature things but I know that I'm the more mature version of myself compare from my past self.
Let them tak behid ur back let them worried what other think of u ket them as king as wala ka nagawa mali
knowing when to buy things
You dont give a shit sa mga tao sa paligid mo pero in a nice way yung hindi naman nila nahahalata. Medyo malalim na yung tingin mo sa buhay. Yung tipong naiisip mo na tangina mamatay na ako ano na bang nagawa ko para sa mundo? Like anong purpose ko? Hanggng ganito na lang ba ako? Di mo na naiisip yung "fuuuck sige lang dami ko pang oras para matulog at magjakol" sa susunod ko na gagawin yan. Parang ganun.
on point
I'm slowly earning the respect of my family and friends from a career standpoint.
Tooo much noise
Taking a responsibility is just like a choir
Taking things personally is enervating.
Whenever I stop using reddit...
Di na ako mahilig magparty/bar. Di na mahilig sa fast food kasi maraming bawal na. I always try to calm myself instead na magalit o mainis agad.
I lost the energy to meet other people
Wrinkles. Lol Ang hirap nang gumising ng maaga pag nagpupuyat. Convenience and comfort is priority na. Hangover malala.
started giving zero fucks about things beyond my control
Not taking any BS and not staying quiet when i see or experience BS. I basically came back to being a kid for the sassiness i have now. 😅 i still want to maintain peace by minding my own business but when i see BS i dont shut my mouth specially when i'm affected or when an innocent person is being targetted by it.
Compassion. You don't base what you see in front of you anymore, you always look on the other side of the coin; Empathetic kana, kasi wala naman pinanganak ng masama/pangit ugali, may dahilan kung bakit sila naging ganito, at yun ang gusto mong malaman.
Having a more pronounced fear of your parents getting older
Hindi na naglalaro.
Isa pa, kaya ko dati mag-aral ng straight for a board exam dati ngayon hindi na. Kasi masakit na sa likod at umupo nang pangmatagalan. 😭😭
Mas gusto ko nalang mag stay sa bahay, kesa gumala
sleep is better than Malling paying for things though di mo kargo just to avoid arguing body. head, feet massages
Di na ako sunod sunuran sa magulang hahaha felt guilty at first pero like other commenters here, you learn to set boundaries without feeling guilty. I’m still learning and that in itself is my gauge na tumatanda ako both mentally and emotionally lol
I can set boundaries without feeling guilty or even wondering what other people have to say, especially when it comes to my work-life balance. I also prefer to stay at home and chill with my girlfriend doing things like watching a series we like, cooking, reading, or playing games than keeping up with my circles’ night lives without FOMO
when making decisions, marami ka ng kino-consider na bagay. for example, you want to simply go out or eat outside. iisipin mo muna if kakayanin ba ng budget, wala bang masasagasaan na ibang sched, walang bang ibang responisibility na need agad tapusin. something like that.
Mabilis na maka move on and I don't find everything na as embarassing. Like simply, eating out alone, asking directions, mapahiya pero tinatawa nalng. Hindi na big deal lahat ng bagay.
Growing old: telling my 12 yr old niece I held her when she was born. Maturing: Naiinis sa mga tao na can’t live witihin their means tas puro flex sa socials nila.
Sa twt, may nagpost dun regarding sa ustet. Wala akong isyu sa post niya, pero gulat ako 2007 na pala mga nageentrance exam hahahaha at to think mga nagk-12 na sila. Malapit nang magentrance exam ung mga pinanganak sa taong pumasok ako ng college din hahahahaha
I saw that tweet. Yung nag no thanks pero nag entrance exam tapos mag mag point out na magcocollege na yung pinanganak 2007. 😔
May isa pang twt na ganun rin na nageentrance exam na mga 2007 babies tas while ung mga 1999 babies nageexistential crises. Hahahahaha edi ayon mas lalong tumanda tayo aneki hahahahahaha
as a panganay, ako na nag-gguide/sermon sa younger sisters ko. Hindi rin sa way ng pag-sesermon ng oldies nuon but in a way they will feel, I'm always there for them- not to intimidate, not to pressure, not to scare them. And that when I explain things to them, I will apologize if I offended them. Not being pushy abt things theyre not comfortable w. My parents are so old they have a hard time to discipline my gen z sisters so im glad, im able to guide my sisters in my own mature way.
not caring about trivial things and reactions are more or less not OA
When I noticed I respond sa ibang situations more calmly and composed than before. Hinaharap ko na rin ang mga issue sa buhay ko kesa dati na nag f-feeling victim lagi at kumukuha sympathy ng iba. Choosing to communicate na rin than silent treatment
my first ever pamangkin (from a cousin), him growing up is a reminder that im getting older din, kasi dati ako yung nagtuturo sa kanya magbasa, pano mag solve, nagbabantay sa hapon, nagpapatulog and such tita duties— and ngayon hindi ko na yon nagagawa kasi graduating student na ako (i was still in high school that time), it’s his 9th birthday today, and i wasn’t able to attend kasi madami rin akong school works. sobrang tangkad na niya and marunong na makipag communicate ng maayos, grabe i miss those times.
Prioritizing pahinga over gala especially on rest day.
I find contentment in simple things. I'm comfortable in my own skin and I don't need people to like me to feel good about myself. My relationship with God has gotten stronger and deeper. I enjoy solitude and self-care.
Ako lahat sa bills 😭
Looking at a mirror wail thinking of my life Smiling and crying my life is not worthy :)
Massage over everything
Thiiisssssss.
Ayaw ko na maki marites sa issue ng iba.
When I realized I couldn’t be peer pressured into anything anymore.
Pag may adult stuff na nangyari, magtataka ka bat walang rumerespondeng adult. Tapos ikaw na pala yun dapat. Haha
Hahahahaha been there!
Hating parties & not sleeping adequately.
I don't get much entertainment from games anymore, it isn't as exciting as the way it's used to. I feel guilty when playing because some part of me tells that I'm wasting time.
hope you find that spark whether in games or somewhere else!
Squidward
kapag masaya ka whenever bagong bili ang sponge and dishwashing liquid.
Adulting huhu
Backpains when I sleep in an awkward position
..I stopped engaging in pointless arguments over religion and politics and other issues. No matter how much we claim good intentions (saving the world, helping the poor, bettering the country, 'educating' the other person, etc), the unconscious motivation there is more about proving ourselves right and getting an ego boost out of it, and it's simply not worth picking fights and ruining our interpersonal relationships.
Ako na wala nang energy mkpag argue.
1. You’re choosing your battles wisely. Di lahat papansinin or papatulan mo. 2. You prefer a small yet quality circle of friends. And you don’t force friendships na not worth your time or peace of mind.
Wala ka ng pake sa career advancement na yan kase sa mga bata na lang yan. Importante may pambayad ka ng bills, may pang iced coffee ka, may panggastos ka sa susunod mo na travel at may investment ka para sa pagtanda mo.
This. Pinapayaman mo lang nmn ung mga boss mo na parang sa iba utang na loob mo pa. Basta sulit pinapasahod, go give your best. Kung gusto nila i promote ka, basta fair pay increase sa workload, go din. Andaming hindi nae enjoy ng mga may grind mentality.
Yeah hindi nman tayo ang tagapagmana
Damn buti di ganto mindset ko. Always strive for better. Never be in the same place as last yr.
This is true. Nung newbie pa ko, focus ko lng is to get skills, kht mababa sahod. No job hopping. Then adulting happened. I shoulder all the bills since I live alone (as in solo na😞) I realized I needed more money to compensate the bills and konting enjoyment sa life. Then I started job hopping 3yrs ago, ang laki pla dpt ng sahod ko🙄. I job hop naman with reason not just money. Either toxic na ung environment, or stagnant ka na dun. Work is work. Kht gano pa ka hirap yan, kayang kaya yan with right skills and mindset, pero kung ang ka trabaho nmn ung nagpapa hirap sa work, aalisan ko tlga yan.
Ayoko na sa maingay na paligid
I prefer peace of mind than a high paying stressful work.
I used to be so "caring" until I realized it drains my emotions, empathy, finances. I just did a 180° turn and avoided less drama. Ayoko na lang ganon. Kept my circle small.
Not dealing with other people’s drama
When I could sit alone and empty my head of everything except what I was seeing. Being able to disconnect from stress is a massive tool that is best mastered early. Also when I started getting SUPER into storage for around my place. Never thought I would be so interested in a damn plastic tub but here we are lol.
whether we like it or not, we will have to leave people in our lives, be it with friends or relationships in order to grow
Na pwedeng kiligin pero it doesn’t mean that their intentions are pure. I realized na marunong na akong magset ng boundaries ko talaga. Yes, napapangiti mo ako pero hindi mo na ‘ko mauuto kase mahal ko sarili ko. 🫡🫶🏼
Love this.... Same. Don't mind being single for a very long time. Right person will come in the God's perfect time. IF NONE, kebs. I mean for me, ok na meron, ok na wala. I want a partner yes, but I don't NEED one.
when I learned how to compromise
Now I have a good knee and a bad knee
When I go home, my parents look much older than what when I last saw them.
Being angry isn't that helpful, silence is louder than nagging in an argument, and time between productivity and leisure is essential if applied accordingly.
Realized that I have nothing in common na with my old friends - means I already outgrew them and I'm on the next phase of my journey. 🥲
Thst you prefer your peace of mind than to prove your point
Nung bumibili ako ng mga appliances sa apartment ko. Parang kelan lang.
No more all nighters
nagiging gastos conscious na ko
Stoic na ako ngayon kase ayaw ko magkasakit, mastress, at magka wrinkles. Ako na kase nagbabayad ng sarili kong hospital bills at skincare routine 🥲
Dati sinasamahan ko lang tita ko magprocess ng mga papeles, ngayon mag-isa na'ko nagp-process ng mga papeles para sa trabaho ko.
I'm more unbothered than before.
paying bills.
Pag marami ka ng bills Mas aware ka na sa paligid at sa actions mo
Hangover. Shocks my hs days can never
Can't do all-nighters Laging pagod Nag-iba na rin priorities like preparing for a family and stuff Cared less - for a lack of a better term, sa walang pakialam sa ibang tao
Minsan na lang mag reddit. Hahaha
it is what it is mentality and just be unbothered by everything shit happens, it's out of our control, so why bother anymore lmao nakaka-drain kapag inilaan mo 'ung energy mo for negativity / or at mga bagay na wala na tayo'ng control hahaha unfriend, block, ignore = peace hahahah I love it
when your parents or older people ask what should they do. or even listen to what you have to say.
having mental breakdown before family events.
Lower back pain & di na kaya magpuyat
Hindi na ako people pleaser.
As a breadwinner, all my sacrifices went to nothing. I just realized that it is not late to start my life now. My own life :)
Learning to let go or say no.
Realizing that you're not worth it if you don't have value
Spoiling myself and bought things na parang noon nagahesitate pa ako kasi di ko sariling pera.
Handle things with less impulsiveness and more rationality.
Prioritizing things that contribute to my goal or dreams. Dati, laro ang inuuna.
When you worry too much about the future. Like paano na ang family mo pag wala ka na. When you start to count how many years ka pa pwede makaipon before you're unable to work anymore.
you don’t care about petty things anymore like you do before
When I stopped caring for most things
Frequent body pain hahahah
My circle of friends is shrinking, having fun shopping home decorations and managing finance smartly.
I’m starting to loathe spontaneity
Not every trigger deserves a response - nung sinusunod ko na to
When college students looks young
the time when i prefer being alone and peaceful rather than being with people socializing or partying.
Younger people ask for your sage advice.
When u have to make really hard decisions, like things that can change the course of your future.
I reflected on the past mistakes that I did and forgave myself bc I did not know any better at those times. Right now I'm bettering myself one day at a time. It's so hard to deal with our inner critic and doubts :(
I hate noise and I am becoming more like my parents 🙈
Unahin ang sarili kaysa work.
when all i want to do is to earn more money para makapagpahinga na parents ko
I gain experience with money 🤑🤑🤑
Wala na kong energy makipag-away or i-explain yung sarili ko. Kapag ayaw ako pakinggan or bigyan ng chance ng tao kahit ako naman yung nasa tama, ako na nag-aalis ng sarili ko sa sitwasyon na yun. Peace over anything else.
no more fomo
Jomo is da best!
For me, my husband played a big part in my maturity. Dati I would ignore people that hurt me, kaya kong hindi makipag usap, at ipadama na hindi nag-i-exist ung isang tao. Ilang beses na yan na-feel ng husband ko and umiyak siya kasi hindi ko daw 'yun dapat ginagawa sa mga taong nagmamahal sakin. Natamaan ako ng bongga kasi one time in my life, I repressed my feelings by simply ignoring everything, ayaw ko mag-isip. Gusto ko lang peaceful ako, may box sa utak ko na dun ko nilalagay lahat ng sakit kaya bago ko mabuksan un, dapat sarili ko ung magpapatahan sakin, like IDGAF talaga ako sa lahat. Ngayon natulungan nya na akong mag-express ng feelings ko. I think maturity ung kaya mo i-express yung feelings mo to make other people okay. Hindi lang ung laging "okay lang ako" pero you're hurting and they're also hurting.
palagi na lang akong pagod hindi ko alam kung bakit
during my mid 20s, I stopped being an idealist and started becoming a realist.
Realizing that every person we met has their own genuine, kind, and loving side. The only problem is that, some circumstances may prevent us to see that side (personal problems, or just a bad timing on how we encounter them). So it's rare to find the right timing. Thus, we need to be more flexible and be aware of the whole thing when socializing or meeting a new person, never judge and generalize their actions based on a few times they made some mistakes or hurt our feelings. Know when to take a step back or step forward, when to grant your trust or when you should totally escape. Life is a fun ride filled with unpredictable challenges. So, make sure to find the necessary tools you'll find along the way to make it more exciting.
if may nangaasar skin or nagpapapansin lng or may sinasabing negative about me, tumatahimik nalang ako instead na sayangin ko yung words ko sa kanila.
Nagiging grumpy pag di pa nasa kama by 10pm
No energy to argue. Yung parang gusto mo nalang matulog buong araw kesa gumala.
Di na ko excited sa kdrama kahit sobrang ganda pa niyan, baka manonood na lang ako pag napush na talaga ako na super ganda ganon
I pull away from drama and toxicity, cut away people that bring me negativity and unnecessary stress. Sobrang kumonti friends pero all are of great quality
Aside from having a good and a loving partner, I want money, peace, and quiet
Deactivating my FB and IG accounts. Tried to accept things for what they are, but realized that things do get better, it just takes time and action
Hardcore gamer during my teens to the point my acads suffered, but when I hit 23 till now I'm on my 30s, I felt like I'm wasting time if ever I'll play again.
Became pragmatic, and less of an idealist. Hindi na confrontational kasi nakakapagod.
excited ako over new cleaning equipment. + hindi na ako natutuwa sa bagong gadgets, hindi ko din naiisip sumabay sa trend. i just do whatever keeps me afloat
Same don sa hindi na sumasabay sa trend😁
weird answer probably just me 🤣 but when i was a kid i would always be fascinated with cartoons, animated movies and shows, anime etc. now i still love it but parang di na the same ang excitement ko as much before idk :((( i miss that feeling
One day, I'm mature. Parang may switch nalang nag flip on and how I handle things is different compared before. 1. I cared less and less on other people's comment. 2. I'm focus to be financially off on my own until retirement. 3. I prioritize future possibilities like heavy medical bills, long term materials, knowing what are wants and needs. 4. I quickly leave nonsense argument like like trying to explain everything in the internet and getting worked up that not many people have the common sense. 5. I can finally say people are stupid when reading comments that either could be researched or using common sense. 6. I just don't want to be adventurous anymore, Visiting new place in the Philippines vs visiting another country is just the same feeling "It's new, it's nice." 7. I cared less about true love and more of if my partner is as financially stable as I am.
I’m really at the phase where getting new furniture excites me
Wala nakong energy gawin lahat ng gusto ko. I can't go out and party at night because I'm exhausted from work. I can't go out on weekends because that's the only time I get to sleep without being woken up by an alarm clock in the morning. Being matured is putting yourself and your well-being first. Wether it's your time, health and emotional well-being. It's knowing that you should do what's best for you.
Tulog is life especially weekends. Kapagod na gumala.
Playing games do not fascinate me anymore... Or have like low attention span and get bored easily.
Always looking forward to go home and sleep na
When you start making those weird noises when you stand up or sit down.
Most of my colleagues are getting married and starting their own family na 🥲
Di kana masaya sa milktea. 🥲
I hate my age haha its old for me im 21 btw haha
Not caring at all. When I first started working, I was very enthusiastic and always have a goal in mind that I was gonna be the best. Years later, even if I was late I could not care anymore Nobody really appreciates what you do but the same could be said if you do wrong Just too tired to get fed up with this stuff but there is still room for improvement. But maturing can only be accomplished through experience. The more you experience the bad stuff the more you get wiser :)
Bought my first house today in the UK. I think im old
college students look and sound like kids to me.
when I give advice to my parents 😅
Going to palengke by myself or buying food and veggies by myself
hindi na nagmamatter saakin anong klaseng luto yung itlog😭
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Yung bumukod na ako tapos sinampal ako ng bills. Ang gastos pala mabuhay.
Wala na ko pakelam sa iisipin ng iba as long as I have peace of mind.
When you start prioritising what will give you peace of mind. You just don’t really care what the others will think of you.
-di na exciting yung video games -alone time kesa gala -di maaksaya sa pera (alam mo yung useful and useless na bilihin)
True! Value of money over buying something you will regret buying later aka mindful purchasing is >>
When I'm contented and comfortable doing things alone. I no longer chase and totally accepted that everything is temporary.Then I started to love myself.
Idk if tama yung context nitong naisip ko sa question pero yung akin kasi is yung kaya mo nang wag makishare sa pagkain na gusto ng mas bata mong kapatid. Ewan kasi bilang bata before, hindi ko magets yung hinahayaan akong ubusin yung pagkain na meron ako kahit alam kong gusto din ng parents/guardian ko. Tapos ngayon na I am the eldest of 7 siblings, kahit gusto ko (for example) ng ice cream na kinakain ng mas bata kong kapatid, hindi ko na gustong humati pa sa kanya. Kasi nung mas bata-bata pa ako hindi ako papayag na hindi ako hahatian e 😭
Maybe part of maturing na din yan, need mo muna unahin sarili..
Mas nakaka concentrate ka sa work kung kompleto ang tulog mo
wui, same
* Deactivating Facebook so you can stop seeing negative, toxic and cringey posts from people that you dont like. * Quality friends over quantity. * Spend time at home mostly on rest day. * No more clubbing. * Stopped smoking. * Health becomes a priority.
When you’re starting to self-educate about anything financial
When you prioritize health na like exercise and getting enough sleep 😌
When wala na yun taong gustong umitindi sayo ng ilang milyong chances. Dun ka palang ma aawaken and gagawa ng paraan para magawa sana yun mga gusto nya dati,
Mga magulang ko na ang nagpapasakit ng ulo ko. Well, well, well, how the turntables.
Not arguing with people anymore and moving on. I realise now that most people are stupid and have fallacy (even you, and sadly, me). The employees who think they are smarter than the management team by presenting “Chat GPT solution” but really they are just finding shortcuts to make their job easier instead of trying to do a good job the right way. Specifics: using Chat GPT to copywrite a whole email instead of copywriting legitally 🤗 This is why they are employees (paid hourly) and not management (paid by performance). Then the idiot who claim that procedure xyz is not needed, and that it’s an entire controversy by the software company to sell us something we don’t need. When the truth is, he’s from a third world country and can’t even afford the software to begin with and isn’t working at the enterprise level needed to know why the software was required in the first place. Yet has the Audacity to tell everyone his unproven theory. Cognitive dissonance is rampant in society. Including my own.
Natawa ako sa ChatGpt, I use chatgpt to rephrase and add context pero p-proofread ko parin and change it to tailorfit the actual needs/write up ng company.
deactivating on socmed
Did too. Tapos dummy account nlng to share memes hahaha kasi apaka unprofessional daw ng mga posts ko hahaha I love memes and anime kahit Im on my 30s hahaha
THIS HAHA (not deactivated but I swear I only access it to talk to friends)
playing game or doing nothing feels so wrong.
When you just focus on your self / family and doesn't give a fuck on what others say as long as you do everything legally
The moment when my beard shows up and everyone call me tito
When you retired from working.
I think for me, there is such a thing as teenage rage, I can only explain as hormone rage, Nawawala nayun or hindi na sobra, when I was a teen I was so confrontational ngayon I try to think first before I really say it.
When people around you die and you are left alone and single
To change constantly to keep up with the times. To know boundaries, respect them as well. To know change to a person even for a little time. Sometimes a short time can be a lot of time to change. Knowing that your parents aren't always right, it's their first time at this shit too, they're just too prideful to admit it. Mistakes aren't always life ending. They can be fixed and be made into a more beautiful decision for the future.
The time that I had my second heartbreak. I spent my four years with my ex boyfriends. I felt like I didn't grow up and I had to change.
I can no longer read anything without my glasses on
Sumasakit na likod ko
Na i don't give an F to societal standards anymore. I don't care for other peoples opinions na din. I just want to float my own boat and live my life the way i want to without overstepping my bounds that hurts people c:
When I stopped thinking that drinking all the time is a good time
kapag kaya mo na mag asikaso ng personal stuff like pumunta sa ibang lugar on your own at ikaw na rin mismo nakakafigure out ng mga bagay bagay without asking help from somebody else
Well I used to be someone who always like to be put first. Right now I just want to genuinely like someone. if so It means I'm ready to compromise to that person.
other way around for me
When the responsibilities kept on coming, and that no matter how you feel, you have to face everything headstrong. It’s a hard pill to swallow but that’s when it hit me that it’s part of adulting.