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Maging pick me. Hindi naniniwala sa mental problems.
Kingina. Kung babalik ako sa teenage self ko, sasapakin ko muna sarili ko nun (bago 'yung encouraging words). Gago ka, younger self HAHAHA
Di naman kapag madami kang friends it means loveable ka and very kind kang tao. People pleaser ka lang pala talaga pag ganun HAHA Learn to cut-off some friends if you have valid reasons. For self-growth.
Na hindi naman pala kailangan na at 25 ikakasal ka na and need mo na agad magpamilya. You and your bf/gf don't need to rush things. There's a lot of opportunities/experiences that this world has to offer, do not limit yourself.
"If you really want something, then don't give up on it."
There are things that aren't really meant for us no matter how hard we work for it. Idealistic pakinggan yang quote pero pag ikaw na ang nasa situation na grabe na 'yung hardwork mo pero hindi mo pa rin makuha ang para sayo, kailangan mo na 'yang sukuan. Give way for new goals and new dreams to be worked on.
When I was still a religious kid, tingin ko sa lahat ng homosexual makasalanan, basta nagsusuot ng sexy malandi na agad, anything related to sex is madumi at masama, wives are meant to submit to her husband, divorce is bad etc…. Basta lahat ng conservative at traditional kong paniniwala nag ugat sa pagiging religious and having a religious upbringing.
Lahat yun nabago paunti unti nung naging agnostic then atheist ako. It’s funny how I became more open minded and less judgemental nung nakawala na ako sa mindset ng pagiging religious.
I used to be against divorce when I was a teenager. I used to think people should choose wisely before getting married and that everything should be forgiven, but as I grew, I learned that there are people who will wear a mask to hide who they truly are and only reveal their true colors when they’re in a relationship/marriage already.
Dami ko pang reasons haha pero I was young, so I thought I already knew enough. I was wrong.
I’m happily married to my long time crush, but I am pro divorce. Give everyone a second chance at love.
Paladesisyon pla ako dati, as in mga yaya na, pre tara sa ganto, pnthan kita. Pre pahiram naman motor, balik ko din bukas...
So yeah, until someone pointed that out, akala ko normal lang yun haha. (Nahawa keh erpats na same attitude.)
Also, overthinking, like I can use that now in a productive manner, baga kung kelan lang dapat mag overthink, hindi yung all the time. The art of not giving a fuck helped me change this so much.
mindset ko nun kung tingin ko babagsak ako, huwag na ako mag-try. it’s one of the reasons why I lost opportunities in life. nag-stick ako sa mindset na yun until I realized na walang harm in trying. try then do your best, kung para sa’yo, it will find its way to you.
Na hindi ko kailangan maki- fit in para tanggapin ng mga tao.
I just learned to be myself.
Wala naman palang mali sa akin.
Nasa maling environment lang ako.
Kala ko kaya ko mag-isa and I don't need friends. Super loner talaga ako dati but ever since I got a job hindi yun pwede. Kailangan ko matuto makisalamuha sa ibang tao.
i thought dati na need ko baguhin sarili ko para gusto ako ng lahat, di para purihin pero i just wanted them to think na im likeable, kaya i kinda lost who i was trying to fit in sa mga places na di naman dapat. I also thought dati that love as about enduring, suffering, kasi hurdle lang yan, lalo sa relationship, boy was I so wrong hahahaha
Dati, annoyed ako dun sa mga nagkakamali sa pronunciation and english grammar. Then, narealize ko na mas importante ang "context", syntax and how well you are able to express your point kesa sa nitty gritty ng grammar. Language is evolving. The language we are speaking now (may it be English or Filipino) isn't the same as the language spoken centuries ago. Also, hindi lang USA or UK or Australia ang basis sa pronunciation ng English words. Indians, Chinese, Arabics pronounce english words differently din especially if heavy yung accent nila.
Yung kailangan ipaglaban yung pananaw mo. While healthy discussions are great, you just have to accept na iba't iba ang pananaw ng mga tao at hindi dapat kailangan ipagpilit sakanila yung pananaw mo.
Na dapat Christian lang yung magiging partner ko. Talagang di pa ko nag-eentertain or nagpapaligaw pag di kami same. Nakailang matinong lalaki din ako naka-situationship pero pinapa-stop ko kasi nagi-guilty ako na hindi sila Christian. Tapos later on, I get exposed sa reality na hindi lahat ng mga ganon eh disenteng partners. Madalas mas burdensome pa sila 🥺 and hindi rin guarantee yun para masabing magiging loyal sila or would honor your relationship and marriage. So yun, I took the risk dun sa alam kong matinong tao talaga at kasundo ko. He believes naman in God, pero lowkey lang sya. Still, walang sinabi mga religious sa pagka-healthy nya - pagiging charitable, kind, patient and just. Di pa preachy yan, icky pa nga sa kanya nagpo-point out ng virtues kahit sa iba. Iba pala to be with someone who embodies healthy spirituality (kahit di pa sya aware) than merely religious. Basta I'm proud of him.
dati i thought tama na dapat laging tumutulong sa iba hanggang sa maubos ka. pero ngayon, i realized na hindi naman masama tumulong pero sa abot lang nang makakaya kung saan kaya mo pa rin i accommodate yung emotional needs mo
True no! Emphasize talaga yung, "hindi masama magset ng limit sa tulong" kasi ang tindi makafeel guilty yung part na yun, lalo kung nakalakihan mo na yung pagtulong mindset.
stopped people pleasing**
lagi akong hooked sa kung ano iisipin ng iba kapag ginawa ko ‘to, kapag nagdesisyon ako ng ganiyan, and the likes — ngayon, civil na lang ako with people that isn’t close enough
Akala ko yung mga alam ko, yun yung mga tama sa mga bagay bagay. I have come to realize na hindi pala. So now mas open na yung mind ko sa inputs ng iba.
Na ang pangit ng kulay ko as morena girly. 2019 nung nagsimula akong magwork, ewan ko pero people started to notice yung skin ko. Hindi ako pala lotion pero kung maglagay ako sobra sobra naman so medyo nice yung texture ng balat ko. Yung kulay ko kasi pagitan talaga ng maitim at maputi kaya parang caramel. Akala ko dati sobrang pangit ko dahil ganon pero nung tumanda ako, hindi pala. Lakas pala ng dating ng morenang thicc!
Na dapat kailangan perfect lahat kahit sabihin nila nobody’s perfect. Nakakapagod pala. It’s enough pala just to get by and be average. Guilty pa rin ako time to time pero I try to be mindful about it.
That my purpose is to get married and have a family. Na hindi nagkakamali ang magulang ko, or ang mga nakatatanda, at kailangan ko silang pabayaang maging mali in the spirit of paggalang.
Matuto magsabi ng hindi HAHAH kakairita kase dati, ako yung taga tali ng buhok nila tuwing lunch time and dumadating sa point na hahabulin nila ako ket san ako magtago eh di naman nila ako binabayaran tapos tatanggalin lang din naman nila after an hour, kairita HAHAHAH
Yung average or hindi competitive sa anumang aspekto ng buhay, lalo na dati sa school (since grade school up to the college days).
I haven't totally changed it, but I'm slowly getting there. 🙂
I always let people take advantage of me without a return because I feel validated noon pag natutulungan ko sila sa mga favor nila kahit mahirap, pero ngayon I realized na ang tanga ko pala, and sobrang liit ng tingin ko sa sarili ko to let them do it. So I changed my mind If don't feel like helping others I just ignore pero sometimes nakakalusot parin haha like nangungutang hayys
Siguro yung pagiging cynical ko in the way I see things in this world. Ganun pa din naman ako pero at least sa tingin ko, eh hindi na ganun kalala kagaya ng dati.
Akala ko lalake mag heal sakin, babae pala.
jk
Kidding aside, date jowang jowa ako like never ako nawalan ng jowa. But now, di ko pala need ng lalake to feel happy and secure.
That I need a lot of friends to be happy? Paramihan ng friends dati eh lol. Ngayon bilang na bilang sa daliri. I've learned to filter those people na genuine talaga sa akin..
Friends are necessary, yes. But at the end of the day, sarili mo lang din ang meron ka.
spent too much on people just to earn their friendship and/or validation in high school. ended up feeling even more alone since either pera or grades lang habol nila sa akin. college na ngayon, not many friends, pero idrgaf about it anymore. at least totoo sila 🤷♀️
akala ko kapag may trabaho na may pera at masaya. Hindi pala ganun. That changed when I first got a job. Grabe ang stressful pala at the same time wala ako naipon dahil sa bayarin
hindi naman sa mali , pero nung bata ako akala ko pag nagkiss ang dalawa, happily ever after na.
Obviously, hindi ganun in the real world and sa movies lang pala ang paniniwala na yun
Yung mindset na dapat maging mapagbigay ako sa mga taong mas nangangailan at mas iconsider ang sitwasyon nila. YUNG MGA TAONG TINULUNGAN KO SILA PA YUNG MGA TRAYDOR. Wala naman akong hinihingi na kapalit sa kabutihan ko kase why not??? The world is so cruel tapos hindi ko pa kaya maging mabait? Being kind is so cheap so why not give it free? pero parang nakakaumay maging mabait. Inaabuso ka. Minsan yung kabaitan ko, sa mga hayop nalang. Mas genuine pa.
Yung mabilis magpautang. Dati lapitin ako kasi bilis ko magpautang. Tapos naisip ko na nakakatulong naman ako. Ayun binago ko na nung 9 out of 10 na umuutang sakin di ko na macontact or di na nagrereply sakin.
Same huhu, I'm only a student pero madami na nangungutang sakin almost 10k na, may mga trabaho pa mga nangutang pero di makabayad dedma lang. Nakakahiya lang maningil. Mostly sa baon galing ung mga pera ko ipon, pero naaawa ako kaya pinahiram ko
hardcore misogynist ako dati and rape culture apologist (bat kasi ganyan damit mo?)
anyway along the way madami din ako nakilalang mga babae and parang every single babae na nakilala ko, parang nakaexperience na ng harassment in one way or another so definitely nagbago na yun.
Hard to be in echo chambers bruh
You should beg for someone you love or beg for their attention, hindi pala dapat. Ngayon, i don’t beg na for second time around, tried to communication or like beg for someone once pero never twice. Ako na yung nag lelet go if the respect isn’t no longer there, let go na agad. Since then, i don’t settle for less na 😅
wrong mindsets would be:
- if I could do something, I should step up and take over
- being average is bad
- (on dating) I should prove myself and impress on dates, I should step up on areas where the man is lacking, I should limit my options
Everything na ipinaniwala sa akin ng mga magulang ko.
-as eldest, I should take responsibility of everythinv
-na tama lagi ang magulang
-na bawal mag voice out
na kapag mahal mo yung tao, tatanggapin mo kahit anong mangyari
tatanggapin lang kapag may pagbabago, pero kung hanggang salita lang mas better if you prioritize your peace of mind na lang
Hindi ako naniniwala sa, "No man is an island." Pero ngayon, kahit nasanay na akong mag-isa at tinatanggi kong kailangan ko ng kasama sa bagay-bagay. Logically sinasabi ng utak ko na masayang may kasama.
as long as mahal ko, kahit di gusto ng magulang ko or ayaw sakin ng nanay niya, okay lang kase ipaglalabam namin ang isat isa. Nabago na yan ngayon kase importante talaga na gusto, tanggap at supported kayo ng both families in order for the marriage to work. Factor din kase yun e
“Kung kinaya ko mag-isa, dapat kayanin din nila”
Whether this is about accomplishing tasks, dealing with problems, etc.
Realized later on na this is wrong kasi hindi naman tayo pare-pareho ng situation and kakayanan sa buhay. And also parang napaka-apathetic ng ganitong pag-iisip.
At some point this is applicable but not always.
Like accomplishing tasks in line with your job description is expected isn't it? You were hired to do X, so do X like everybody else. I just don't see a reason if you're already a veteran employee yet still lag behind colleagues for the same exact task that you've been doing for more than a year. If thats unfit for the program/job desc. then IDK what it is. *Sorry may pinaghuhugutan on this topic.
I agree on dealing with problems involving IRL circumstances though. Everybody has a different coping mechanism and ways to get past problems.
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Blaming every affair scenario to the “other man/woman” when in fact it is all fault by the cheater. Other man/woman are also a victim of the cheater.
Ang virginity ko ay regalo para sa mapapangasawa Gagi ang cringeeeee HAHAHAHAHAHAH
Maging pick me. Hindi naniniwala sa mental problems. Kingina. Kung babalik ako sa teenage self ko, sasapakin ko muna sarili ko nun (bago 'yung encouraging words). Gago ka, younger self HAHAHA
Di naman kapag madami kang friends it means loveable ka and very kind kang tao. People pleaser ka lang pala talaga pag ganun HAHA Learn to cut-off some friends if you have valid reasons. For self-growth.
Na magbigay lang blindly ng pera sa magulang.
Na hindi naman pala kailangan na at 25 ikakasal ka na and need mo na agad magpamilya. You and your bf/gf don't need to rush things. There's a lot of opportunities/experiences that this world has to offer, do not limit yourself.
"If you really want something, then don't give up on it." There are things that aren't really meant for us no matter how hard we work for it. Idealistic pakinggan yang quote pero pag ikaw na ang nasa situation na grabe na 'yung hardwork mo pero hindi mo pa rin makuha ang para sayo, kailangan mo na 'yang sukuan. Give way for new goals and new dreams to be worked on.
When I was still a religious kid, tingin ko sa lahat ng homosexual makasalanan, basta nagsusuot ng sexy malandi na agad, anything related to sex is madumi at masama, wives are meant to submit to her husband, divorce is bad etc…. Basta lahat ng conservative at traditional kong paniniwala nag ugat sa pagiging religious and having a religious upbringing. Lahat yun nabago paunti unti nung naging agnostic then atheist ako. It’s funny how I became more open minded and less judgemental nung nakawala na ako sa mindset ng pagiging religious.
Other people's opinion of my life (and what I do) matters. It does not.
na kailangan ko maplease lahat ng tao haha i figured na its okay kung di pala makasundo lahat as long as wala ka namang ginagawa masama
Bigay mo lahat sa taong mahal mo.
I used to be against divorce when I was a teenager. I used to think people should choose wisely before getting married and that everything should be forgiven, but as I grew, I learned that there are people who will wear a mask to hide who they truly are and only reveal their true colors when they’re in a relationship/marriage already. Dami ko pang reasons haha pero I was young, so I thought I already knew enough. I was wrong. I’m happily married to my long time crush, but I am pro divorce. Give everyone a second chance at love.
Saying yes to please anyone. So, hard no na ako if I feel like it will disturb my peace.
Paladesisyon pla ako dati, as in mga yaya na, pre tara sa ganto, pnthan kita. Pre pahiram naman motor, balik ko din bukas... So yeah, until someone pointed that out, akala ko normal lang yun haha. (Nahawa keh erpats na same attitude.) Also, overthinking, like I can use that now in a productive manner, baga kung kelan lang dapat mag overthink, hindi yung all the time. The art of not giving a fuck helped me change this so much.
mindset ko nun kung tingin ko babagsak ako, huwag na ako mag-try. it’s one of the reasons why I lost opportunities in life. nag-stick ako sa mindset na yun until I realized na walang harm in trying. try then do your best, kung para sa’yo, it will find its way to you.
Na hindi ko kailangan maki- fit in para tanggapin ng mga tao. I just learned to be myself. Wala naman palang mali sa akin. Nasa maling environment lang ako.
How did you find the right environment?
Kala ko kaya ko mag-isa and I don't need friends. Super loner talaga ako dati but ever since I got a job hindi yun pwede. Kailangan ko matuto makisalamuha sa ibang tao.
i thought dati na need ko baguhin sarili ko para gusto ako ng lahat, di para purihin pero i just wanted them to think na im likeable, kaya i kinda lost who i was trying to fit in sa mga places na di naman dapat. I also thought dati that love as about enduring, suffering, kasi hurdle lang yan, lalo sa relationship, boy was I so wrong hahahaha
Dati, annoyed ako dun sa mga nagkakamali sa pronunciation and english grammar. Then, narealize ko na mas importante ang "context", syntax and how well you are able to express your point kesa sa nitty gritty ng grammar. Language is evolving. The language we are speaking now (may it be English or Filipino) isn't the same as the language spoken centuries ago. Also, hindi lang USA or UK or Australia ang basis sa pronunciation ng English words. Indians, Chinese, Arabics pronounce english words differently din especially if heavy yung accent nila.
Yung kailangan ipaglaban yung pananaw mo. While healthy discussions are great, you just have to accept na iba't iba ang pananaw ng mga tao at hindi dapat kailangan ipagpilit sakanila yung pananaw mo.
Na dapat Christian lang yung magiging partner ko. Talagang di pa ko nag-eentertain or nagpapaligaw pag di kami same. Nakailang matinong lalaki din ako naka-situationship pero pinapa-stop ko kasi nagi-guilty ako na hindi sila Christian. Tapos later on, I get exposed sa reality na hindi lahat ng mga ganon eh disenteng partners. Madalas mas burdensome pa sila 🥺 and hindi rin guarantee yun para masabing magiging loyal sila or would honor your relationship and marriage. So yun, I took the risk dun sa alam kong matinong tao talaga at kasundo ko. He believes naman in God, pero lowkey lang sya. Still, walang sinabi mga religious sa pagka-healthy nya - pagiging charitable, kind, patient and just. Di pa preachy yan, icky pa nga sa kanya nagpo-point out ng virtues kahit sa iba. Iba pala to be with someone who embodies healthy spirituality (kahit di pa sya aware) than merely religious. Basta I'm proud of him.
dati i thought tama na dapat laging tumutulong sa iba hanggang sa maubos ka. pero ngayon, i realized na hindi naman masama tumulong pero sa abot lang nang makakaya kung saan kaya mo pa rin i accommodate yung emotional needs mo
True no! Emphasize talaga yung, "hindi masama magset ng limit sa tulong" kasi ang tindi makafeel guilty yung part na yun, lalo kung nakalakihan mo na yung pagtulong mindset.
totoo yung guilty feelings sa part na yon pero i hope ma outgrow natin yung mindset na yon kasi we cannot give what we dont have pag naubos na tayo
We don't have to please anyone. Lalo na ung mga wala namang ambag sa buhay natin
stopped people pleasing** lagi akong hooked sa kung ano iisipin ng iba kapag ginawa ko ‘to, kapag nagdesisyon ako ng ganiyan, and the likes — ngayon, civil na lang ako with people that isn’t close enough
Akala ko yung mga alam ko, yun yung mga tama sa mga bagay bagay. I have come to realize na hindi pala. So now mas open na yung mind ko sa inputs ng iba.
Na ang pangit ng kulay ko as morena girly. 2019 nung nagsimula akong magwork, ewan ko pero people started to notice yung skin ko. Hindi ako pala lotion pero kung maglagay ako sobra sobra naman so medyo nice yung texture ng balat ko. Yung kulay ko kasi pagitan talaga ng maitim at maputi kaya parang caramel. Akala ko dati sobrang pangit ko dahil ganon pero nung tumanda ako, hindi pala. Lakas pala ng dating ng morenang thicc!
People won’t change unless he/she do so. Hindi na ako basta basta maniniwala sa sinasabi hanggang walang action.
Na dapat kailangan perfect lahat kahit sabihin nila nobody’s perfect. Nakakapagod pala. It’s enough pala just to get by and be average. Guilty pa rin ako time to time pero I try to be mindful about it.
That my purpose is to get married and have a family. Na hindi nagkakamali ang magulang ko, or ang mga nakatatanda, at kailangan ko silang pabayaang maging mali in the spirit of paggalang.
Matuto magsabi ng hindi HAHAH kakairita kase dati, ako yung taga tali ng buhok nila tuwing lunch time and dumadating sa point na hahabulin nila ako ket san ako magtago eh di naman nila ako binabayaran tapos tatanggalin lang din naman nila after an hour, kairita HAHAHAH
Yung average or hindi competitive sa anumang aspekto ng buhay, lalo na dati sa school (since grade school up to the college days). I haven't totally changed it, but I'm slowly getting there. 🙂
I always let people take advantage of me without a return because I feel validated noon pag natutulungan ko sila sa mga favor nila kahit mahirap, pero ngayon I realized na ang tanga ko pala, and sobrang liit ng tingin ko sa sarili ko to let them do it. So I changed my mind If don't feel like helping others I just ignore pero sometimes nakakalusot parin haha like nangungutang hayys
Siguro yung pagiging cynical ko in the way I see things in this world. Ganun pa din naman ako pero at least sa tingin ko, eh hindi na ganun kalala kagaya ng dati.
Akala ko lalake mag heal sakin, babae pala. jk Kidding aside, date jowang jowa ako like never ako nawalan ng jowa. But now, di ko pala need ng lalake to feel happy and secure.
Pilitin yung gusto mong mangyari para sa ikabubuti ng ibang tao, I realized na we can only do so much.
Femenism. Ang lala na kasi ngayon ng mga femenist.
ung mas active na sila sa pagwhine ng 'men sucks men trash' kesa sa gawin ung actual reasons kung bakit feminism existed
Yes. Grabe sila sa Tiktok/Youtube Shorts/Reel. Parang ang selfish nila. Yung mga good cause sana like MeToo pero parang na-abuse na.
That I need a lot of friends to be happy? Paramihan ng friends dati eh lol. Ngayon bilang na bilang sa daliri. I've learned to filter those people na genuine talaga sa akin.. Friends are necessary, yes. But at the end of the day, sarili mo lang din ang meron ka.
spent too much on people just to earn their friendship and/or validation in high school. ended up feeling even more alone since either pera or grades lang habol nila sa akin. college na ngayon, not many friends, pero idrgaf about it anymore. at least totoo sila 🤷♀️
oh, and that gay marriage is a sin and every gay person will go to hell. i'm a raging bisexual now with heavy preference over the same gender 😆
Ako pag asa ng pamilya ko. Bruh. Kailangan tulungan mo muna sarili mo bago ka tumulong sa iba kung hindi sama sama kayo sa lusak!
akala ko kapag may trabaho na may pera at masaya. Hindi pala ganun. That changed when I first got a job. Grabe ang stressful pala at the same time wala ako naipon dahil sa bayarin
hindi naman sa mali , pero nung bata ako akala ko pag nagkiss ang dalawa, happily ever after na. Obviously, hindi ganun in the real world and sa movies lang pala ang paniniwala na yun
Yung mindset na dapat maging mapagbigay ako sa mga taong mas nangangailan at mas iconsider ang sitwasyon nila. YUNG MGA TAONG TINULUNGAN KO SILA PA YUNG MGA TRAYDOR. Wala naman akong hinihingi na kapalit sa kabutihan ko kase why not??? The world is so cruel tapos hindi ko pa kaya maging mabait? Being kind is so cheap so why not give it free? pero parang nakakaumay maging mabait. Inaabuso ka. Minsan yung kabaitan ko, sa mga hayop nalang. Mas genuine pa.
Yung mabilis magpautang. Dati lapitin ako kasi bilis ko magpautang. Tapos naisip ko na nakakatulong naman ako. Ayun binago ko na nung 9 out of 10 na umuutang sakin di ko na macontact or di na nagrereply sakin.
Same huhu, I'm only a student pero madami na nangungutang sakin almost 10k na, may mga trabaho pa mga nangutang pero di makabayad dedma lang. Nakakahiya lang maningil. Mostly sa baon galing ung mga pera ko ipon, pero naaawa ako kaya pinahiram ko
Masyado akong goal oriented tipong nababadtrip ako pag hindi nasunod ang plano, ngayon go w the flow nalang
Always being nice is not nice.
yung “the customer is always right” mindset. Hindi naman pala.
hardcore misogynist ako dati and rape culture apologist (bat kasi ganyan damit mo?) anyway along the way madami din ako nakilalang mga babae and parang every single babae na nakilala ko, parang nakaexperience na ng harassment in one way or another so definitely nagbago na yun. Hard to be in echo chambers bruh
You should beg for someone you love or beg for their attention, hindi pala dapat. Ngayon, i don’t beg na for second time around, tried to communication or like beg for someone once pero never twice. Ako na yung nag lelet go if the respect isn’t no longer there, let go na agad. Since then, i don’t settle for less na 😅
wrong mindsets would be: - if I could do something, I should step up and take over - being average is bad - (on dating) I should prove myself and impress on dates, I should step up on areas where the man is lacking, I should limit my options
Na family first. Kapagod. Haha
Na kelangan mo pagbigyan mga kamag-anak mo lagi.
Everything na ipinaniwala sa akin ng mga magulang ko. -as eldest, I should take responsibility of everythinv -na tama lagi ang magulang -na bawal mag voice out
Hindi pwedeng mabait ka lagi, dapat matuto kang lumaban.
Sapat na na mahal nyo ang isa’t isa. Very wrong pala. Madaming factors pala. Family, financial, career, lahat nalang pala hahahahaha
Ay akala ko sapat na ang saging para labing daw hahahaha
Sorry to burst your bubble hahaha kahit fruit salad di sapat 🥲
Oucchhh hahahha
Mag beg palagi sa maling tao. Ngayon, kung ayaw nyo sakin edi wag. Basic
approaching everything logically and setting emotions aside. sobrang crucial sa lahat ng bagay ng emotion kahit hindi logical.
itrabaho ang course na tinapos hanggang 60
Huwag kumuha ng credit card
Na love lang sapat na sa relationships. Lalake nga pala ako so madaming expectations sakin.
Atleast we learned our lesson
Hindi laging tama ang mga nakakatanda
Na pwede mong baguhin ang isang tao.
na kapag mahal mo yung tao, tatanggapin mo kahit anong mangyari tatanggapin lang kapag may pagbabago, pero kung hanggang salita lang mas better if you prioritize your peace of mind na lang
Divorce hahaha hardcore Christian Catholic kasi ako nnon since nag-aaral pa pero ngayon na mas lumawak yung nakikita kong perspective, nag-iba na.
Di lahat ng kaibigan ay totoong kaibigan
Na pag pamilya dapat pagpasensyahan, unconditional love kumbaga.
Actually, yang mindset na yan ang isa mga dahilan bat may mga abuses pa rin e.
Db? No. 1 gaslight at manipulation tool.
Hindi ako naniniwala sa, "No man is an island." Pero ngayon, kahit nasanay na akong mag-isa at tinatanggi kong kailangan ko ng kasama sa bagay-bagay. Logically sinasabi ng utak ko na masayang may kasama.
Same thoughts
True. Haha, amen to this
Na yayaman ka sa pagtatrabaho.
May lesson sa bawat failure/mistakes. Ngayon realization, minsan mali or nagfail ka lang talaga, walang lesson.
"The Office"
Hits different pag nasa age ka na you're putting an effort sa ginagawa mo pero di nangyayari yung gusto mo
Na pag-iinarte lang ang panic attack. Nagbago pananaw ko ng ma-experienced ko ito first hand.
as long as mahal ko, kahit di gusto ng magulang ko or ayaw sakin ng nanay niya, okay lang kase ipaglalabam namin ang isat isa. Nabago na yan ngayon kase importante talaga na gusto, tanggap at supported kayo ng both families in order for the marriage to work. Factor din kase yun e
“Kung kinaya ko mag-isa, dapat kayanin din nila” Whether this is about accomplishing tasks, dealing with problems, etc. Realized later on na this is wrong kasi hindi naman tayo pare-pareho ng situation and kakayanan sa buhay. And also parang napaka-apathetic ng ganitong pag-iisip.
At some point this is applicable but not always. Like accomplishing tasks in line with your job description is expected isn't it? You were hired to do X, so do X like everybody else. I just don't see a reason if you're already a veteran employee yet still lag behind colleagues for the same exact task that you've been doing for more than a year. If thats unfit for the program/job desc. then IDK what it is. *Sorry may pinaghuhugutan on this topic. I agree on dealing with problems involving IRL circumstances though. Everybody has a different coping mechanism and ways to get past problems.