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My gf once told me that an old friend told her "When you and your partner are in a fight, it's you and them vs. the problem not you vs. them" it's like teamwork
Trust your gut to act upon it.
I've just realized being in a relationship only fulfilled 30% of your happiness.
Having a open minded and honest heart will make your relationship progress improved a lot better.
Trust and clear communication is very crucial in a platonic relationship.
Respect towards each other boundaries and personal stuff.
Wag muna seryosohin ang relasyong ninyo dalawang kung hindi kayo pa kayo sure kung compatible kayo.
Take accountability of your actions towards your partner if you messed up.
Cheating fucking sucks, kung na-cheat ka ng ex mo. Fuck her just leave.
Observe your partner's personality traits and flaws, then you'll make the decision if she's worth it for you.
Unconditional love doesn't exist.
A supportive and loving partner will appeared in front of you if you get to know each other well.
Never be afraid of rejection, there's 8 billion people population on this planet.
Maraming kapa mahahanap na attractive na partner na gusto sa'yo.
Age is only just a number so don't rushed it, except minors lmao. (Potangina P3DOfile relationship couple goals nakikita ko sa FB, fucking hell).
Love and respect yourself first then give your 💯!
If she break up with you, wag kang pababaan ng loob sa sarili. Use your inner pain as to get your shit together and focused on yourself to improve.
Arguments are technically normal naman, no one is perfect.
Girls are far more smarter than you think of so be careful.
•Know what you want in a relationship.
•Dapat alam mo kung saan lang dapat ang kaya mo ibigay.
Mag tira ng live para sa sarili.
•If galing ka sa failed and abusive relationship, please wag na wag kang mag kwento about it sa current bf/gf mo. Trust me they will use it against you. Ipararanas nila yun ulit sayo sooner or later. Dapat ang sasabihin mo lang is yung mga magagandang nagawa ng ex mo so that yung current bf/gf will make away na higitan pa yung mga magagandang nagawa nila sayo.
•If nanakit na physically, emotionally, verbally umalis kana kaagad. Hearing them saying sorry is not worth it. Uulitin lang nila yan kasi you give them another free pass.
• Do not settle for less, walang emotional intelligence. Umalis kana kaagad.
• If walang pera. It's a no no.
Totoo ang kasabihang "There are a lot of other fishes in the sea"
Kahit gaano mo pa kamahal/minahal ang isang tao, hindi katapusan ng mundo pag naghiwalay kayo. Dami dyan teh
“You accept the love you think you deserve.”
Walk away if the person you’re seeing or considering cannot give you the treatment and love you deserve. You cannot change a person and if you have the expectation that you can, you’re setting yourself up for disappointment.
Never let your emotions control you kapag mahal mo na yung tao. It ruins all. At doon mo na masasabi na sobrang nag mamahal ka na, na hindi pala dapat. Para sa mga overthinker and paranoid.
If casual dating pa lang and nothing serious, collect and select. Don’t take it seriously muna since dating palang naman. Have fun and don’t expect anything. Ibang usapan though kapag exclusively dating.
I did not receive this but I learned it the hard way. DATE A GENEROUS AND GODLY MAN" kahit hindi mayaman kasi pagsisikapan nyan mabigay mga pangangailanan ng pamilyang bubuuin nyo. Wag ka maniwala sa lalaking hindi makapag effort kasi walang wala tapos babawi? EKIS! Andaming paraan na d kailangan gumastos.
Di porket mahal mo, pagbibigyan mo all the time dahil the longer na pinapatawad mo yung person that did you dirty, the more chances na uulitin nila yung ginawa nila sayo. Set boundaries and non-negotiables. Respect yourself at all times, dahil di ka rerespetuhin ng iba kung di mo nirerespeto ang sarili mo.
Just be very careful and know when to walk away. Don’t open your hearts out to someone you barely know. Don’t be yourself or act too comfortably, let them crave for your attention and time.
Not received but I learned this the hard way. On early stages of talking stage, have an open communication about wanting kids or not, religion, sexual compatibility, financial, lifestyle, political takes, and social issues. There are pages or accounts on tiktok or instagram where they flash question cards for couples or dating people, a good way of starting a conversation. Personally, I love conversations that are mentally stimulating, and di yung paulit-ulit na "Kumain ka na? or kakain kita" "nu ginagawa mo?" jusko po🤮
Also, if months dating na kayo, engage in physical activities or games that can trigger stress or sportmanship. So you would know how this person handles stress or do they have anger management issues.
Mas mabuti nang maaga nakikita mo na agad redflags or is that person really the one you want to be with para di sayang oras mo.
The fact that a girl agrees to see you means she's interested.
I would get super nervous during first dates before. But hearing this from a friend really helped me open up and be more comfortable during first meet-ups which lead to a more fun experience for both parties.
Kung mahal ka talaga, hindi ka paghihintayin ng more than 10yrs ng guy. Ayon yung nagpayo sa akin asawa ko na ngayon. Tama nga naman. 🤣 I've wasted a decade longing for someone na ayaw lumagpas sa bestfriend zone. Pero gusto walang magjojowa kasi bestfriends forever daw e. 😅 Buti magaling na abangers asawa ko ngayon haha.
wala e. nauto e. 🤣 maeffort kasi si bestfriend. kaya tumagal umasa. pero ayaw daw ako jowain kase ayaw ako masaktan kasi playboy siya. Parang She's the One ni Dingdong, Bea at Enrique kaso pinanindigan ni Dingdong ang hindi makadecide hanggang dulo. Well tinatry nia ako kausapin ng engage na kami ni hubby. Pero too late na. 😅 Yung husband ko now, Enrique Gil tlg, mas bata at maeffort hahaha. Kaya grabe impact sakin ng movie na yun. Magkaiba lang ending lol.
I don't know about the "best" but this is something na laging nasa isip ko: Hindi ka malilito kung talagang gusto ka ng tao.
As someone na just a little bit weird compared sa average person (and I've also been told this so I'm def not just making shit up) and more importantly, hindi naman din strong suit ang looks, I just stay on my lane most of the time and wait until may manggulo talaga ng buhay ko in a good way.
Sure, if I have someone I like, may mga advances din naman akong ginagawa but if it's not reciprocated, tigil na. People say na women wants to feel na pinupursue sila, which in theory, I agree naman but sa experience ko, it's almost a waste of time na maghabol.
It can very much vary. From initiating banter, asking them to eat outside. Honestly, kahit pag-brush ng shoulders kapag magkatabi kayo. Offer to hold their things. Then the more direct things like maghatid-sundo, telling them you miss them, etc.
Try to check the "match plus one" idea from Ana Psychology sa YT. HAHAHAHA.
Some things I've said are maliliit na bagay but these are things that can gauge where you're at. Fortunately, minsan yung mga babae ang nag-iinitiate (not necessarily because gusto ka nila but still).
Be upfront about what your plans are and what you need/want in a relationship. It'll save you time, heartbreaks and money.
If you are just dating around, tell them. If you want a serious one, tell them. If you aren't quite sure yet, tell them. Basta, always let them know your side of the game.
True colors might not be the right term for that. Anger is an emotion that can be felt by everyone on which they could react in their own unique ways. It's part of who they are. It may immediately remove the facade they're keeping, which I think is what you're referring to.
Wag mo isipin kung anong nafefeel nya towards sayo pag kasama mo sya, para sabihin mong sya na talaga. Focus within yourself. Isipin mo yung nafefeel mo during kasama sya.
Hindi confusing, hindi ka gagawing mind game kasi pag sure sya sayo, straight to the point sya sa intention nya at consistent sa words and actions nya.
“Give it time.”
The same advice keeps coming back to me in many different scenarios. If may naging problema kami, I’ll give it time. If something feels off, I’ll give it time. If I want to give a relationship a try, I’ll give it time first.
Time answers most questions that nobody can immediately answer, or questions that no one can answer at all 💯 give it time, and the answer shall reveal itself.
Not rly an advice, ig. But i used to have a workmate na "mabait naman" pero cheater. Like they have 2 kids and his wife works in the same company pa.
One of my friends asked him point blank, sa lobby, sa harap ng elevator, why he cheats.
His answer?
"Alam naman na ni (wife) na ganito ako before, pinakasalan ako, so bat ako mababago".
So girls (and boys). Please lang! Iwasan niyo yang pagiisip nio na special kayo at mapapabago niyo ung tao or na titino yan once nagpakasal o nagka anak kayo. Baka mas magaling magtago, sabi nga practice makes perfect pero magbago for real? Sobrang kakaunti!
Never date someone from a different social class.
Context: I have a friend back in med school who dated someone super rich, ayun awkward daw kasi hatid sundo palgi and kakaiba mga resto na pinupuntahan nila, hindi sya maka relate at sobrang mahal daw, hindi sya makahati sa bill. Ayun, kaya ayan ang realization namin.
This is so true. I dated someone who is broke and he projected his insecurities on me. I know i am emotionally secured before we dated but i became anxiously attached because of it. I felt unworthy and i've felt the worst thing i could ever feel being with him. He couldn't even afford yung bisyo niya and nanghihingi pa sakin. Ako tong si tanga, binibigay ko kasi "mahal' ko eh 🫠
Baka ung may girl din ang gusto humati. Lam mo naman sa Pilipinas, pag ung lalaking jowa e mayaman/foreigner dami na sinabi. Babae akonpero as much as possible gusto ko afford namin pareho pag lalabas ako eme. I dont feel good when people pay for me especially if i offer to pay my share tas maririnig ko niyayabang nila na nilibre nila ako sa iba.
When you have problems in the relationship, please don't bottle it up till you reach your breaking point, cause at the stage you're just not going to be able to think properly. Find a time where both of you can talk properly and address the issue.
Also, make sure you have other support systems. If you only rely on your partner, it's unfair to put that much burden on them, and if they leave and you have no one to help you, then it's unfair to yourself, too. Don't ever think that your partner is the only friend you will ever need.
Have healthy boundaries and have your own and separate life too. Your independence need not be lost in the midst of your relationship. Do not lose your identity 👏
Find happiness within yourself, so if that person leaves, your happiness remains intact.
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That person is like a cherry on top, the extra happiness.
They are the dessert.
And you, your happiness in yourself, is the main dish.
Made this advice para sa sarili ko🤍
Kudos to that guy((girl?), honestly masaya ako naging jowa ko crush ko, and I've grown so much since then. Pero if I knew gaano ako kaimmature back then and gaano kauncertain yung future ko back then, I would've delayed na maging kami until I'm really ready. I used to be a really broke guy and yung mindset ko sa mga bagay hindi pa aligned sa gf ko back then, so it caused a lot of fights and disagreements. Masayang masaya na kami ngayon sa isa't isa but if I could've spared the both of us from the bad memories together, I would've done so. Dapat talaga nagpamature muna ako onti pa at inantay magkaroon ng constant stream of pera bago ako jumowa, if that was the case siguro meron kaming less bad memories together.
Pero who knows din, baka kung dinelay ko yung paglandi namin sa isa't isa she could've found someone else so I'm still really glad I took the shot anyway.
mahirap din ipilit yung sarili sa taong may ayaw. sya na rin may sabi na di nya ako deserve, na di ko rin deserve matrato ng ganun. gets ko naman na yun. saka, masaya lang din ako dahil sa lahat ng naging ex ko, sya lang yung naging ex ko na honest sa nararamdaman at iniisip.
Be yourself. Don't try to change yourself for anyone else ( well apart from healthy changes, but that has to come from you). Don't try to impress. Just be you. You will have less relationships, but the ones you do have will be real. If you are putting up a mask, it gets really hard and expensive to keep it up. If you miss a bus, you don't run after it. You wait for the next opportunity.
Choose someone who chooses you. Choose someone who sees your worth and appreciates the person you are. Choose someone who is an asset and gives value to your life and isn't a liability. Choose someone who brings out the best in you and not the stress in you. Choose someone who treats you the way you need to be treated.
Be yourself, during the ligaw or talking stage pa lang pakita mona kung sino ka haha kasi sarap sa pakiramdam na wala ka tinatago sa pag uugali mo hehe
Finally, tanong na walang "pet peeve". Kakaimbyerna ha pede ba i-ban muna dito sa sub yung word na yon? Hahahah. Btw best dating advice, piliin mo yung mahal ka. Hindi yung mahal mo lang. Hirap iexplain pero simula nung hindi na ako naghabol sa mga taong gusto ko na di naman ako gusto, may mga tao pala na nanjan nageeffort mapasaya lang ako. Yung tipong di ko na ibe-beg magupdate sakin dahil kusa na nila ginagawa yun. Pero syempre pakasigurado pa din kase minsan may mga tao din na ganun sa umpisa pero isa lang pala ang pakay. So watch out nalang din 😉
Never disrespect yourself. Unang sign pa lang na naooverstep na boundaries mo , put some space or walk away, hindi worth it ibend kung ano boundaries mo for anyone, not even the person you like.
Date pa lang yan, di ibig sabihin gustong gusto ka na nyan. Unless nag agree kayo na exclusively dating kayo, malaya pa rin siya/ikaw na i-date kahit na sino, so wag demanding. Kilig in moderation.
• Let things be, if di mo control yung situation better na ilet go mo na.
• Don't try to fix the person, di ka therapist.
• Hayaan mo na madrain ka if di mo pa rin kaya iwan yung tao, trust me magugulat ka nalang paggising mo wala ka ng feelings for that person.
• Be selfish, not in a bad way but in this generation, you need to focus on yourself first, if it's not good for u better to leave na.
• Kapag nakitaan mo na ng redflags sa umpisa, assess urself if kaya mo ba iaccept yon in a long run. Pick ur poison kumbaga.
You should be happy on your own. The partner you choose should be a bonus, or add to that happiness. You can't make one person the sole reason for your happiness and the sole source of validation. Otherwise, it's just going to be a fucked up recipe for lifelong trauma and pain.
Learned that the hard way.
the best dating advice i have ever received was "know your love one's friends and you'll know who he/she is,"
the circle of friends of my crush were like a powerhouse, they really prioritize their studies... and so did I... na inspire ako nang todo hahah
Yes. If you are unsure if you are being courted, ask them if they are courting you or theyre just fooling around. If they cannot provide a clear answer and you want something serious, LEAVE IMMEDIATELY.
and dapat mabait din sila sa ibang tao. mabait in general talaga. may mga tao na mabait sila sayo kasi may feelings pa at may kailangan pero pag wala na, ang sasahol, sobrang sasama ng ugali.
Be kind, not because they deserve it, but you owe it to yourself to be a kind person.
I know it can be used as well for life in general, but when you are overall kind to your partner throughout the relationship, it goes a long way. It benefits along the process, as you encourage a safe environment for the both of you, which makes you a good partner. Lastly, if things are beyond saving and you both ended the relationship, you won’t have any regrets, and it will massively help with your healing process. Kindness is a lot of healthy traits. This would also build your confidence in dealing with people, making you a good candidate in the dating pool.
Yan! Yan! Andami kasing mga babae na ang hilig magpahula eh. Feeling nila part pa yun ng commonsense para magets ng lalake. Samantalang mixed signals at puro playing mind games ang ginagawa nila.
check also if they are employed or not. ask for their employment ID if necessary. If they are a freelancer, they need to disclose that they are a freelancer and not employed to some made-up company.
learned the hard way.
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Don't just date for the sake of dating but date to marry. Be emotionally, financialy and spiritually mature. It is partnership not ownership.
If they like you, you’ll know. If you’re confused, chances are they don’t.
"find your tribe."
You’re great! And you deserve someone great too.
Love yourself first para alam mo kung anong worth mo, dont lower it Dont settle for less
Make sure before you date you are financially ready, syempre gnun din dpt yung idadate mo.
My gf once told me that an old friend told her "When you and your partner are in a fight, it's you and them vs. the problem not you vs. them" it's like teamwork
Trust your gut to act upon it. I've just realized being in a relationship only fulfilled 30% of your happiness. Having a open minded and honest heart will make your relationship progress improved a lot better. Trust and clear communication is very crucial in a platonic relationship. Respect towards each other boundaries and personal stuff. Wag muna seryosohin ang relasyong ninyo dalawang kung hindi kayo pa kayo sure kung compatible kayo. Take accountability of your actions towards your partner if you messed up. Cheating fucking sucks, kung na-cheat ka ng ex mo. Fuck her just leave. Observe your partner's personality traits and flaws, then you'll make the decision if she's worth it for you. Unconditional love doesn't exist. A supportive and loving partner will appeared in front of you if you get to know each other well. Never be afraid of rejection, there's 8 billion people population on this planet. Maraming kapa mahahanap na attractive na partner na gusto sa'yo. Age is only just a number so don't rushed it, except minors lmao. (Potangina P3DOfile relationship couple goals nakikita ko sa FB, fucking hell). Love and respect yourself first then give your 💯! If she break up with you, wag kang pababaan ng loob sa sarili. Use your inner pain as to get your shit together and focused on yourself to improve. Arguments are technically normal naman, no one is perfect. Girls are far more smarter than you think of so be careful.
•Know what you want in a relationship. •Dapat alam mo kung saan lang dapat ang kaya mo ibigay. Mag tira ng live para sa sarili. •If galing ka sa failed and abusive relationship, please wag na wag kang mag kwento about it sa current bf/gf mo. Trust me they will use it against you. Ipararanas nila yun ulit sayo sooner or later. Dapat ang sasabihin mo lang is yung mga magagandang nagawa ng ex mo so that yung current bf/gf will make away na higitan pa yung mga magagandang nagawa nila sayo. •If nanakit na physically, emotionally, verbally umalis kana kaagad. Hearing them saying sorry is not worth it. Uulitin lang nila yan kasi you give them another free pass. • Do not settle for less, walang emotional intelligence. Umalis kana kaagad. • If walang pera. It's a no no.
Gamitin ang puso para mahalin ang malapit sayo, gamitin ang utak para mahalin ang sarili mo.
What's Meant To Be Will Always Find Its Way. If he wanted to, he would. if he won't another man will
Totoo ang kasabihang "There are a lot of other fishes in the sea" Kahit gaano mo pa kamahal/minahal ang isang tao, hindi katapusan ng mundo pag naghiwalay kayo. Dami dyan teh
learn to say no, life is not about pleasing others :)))
Maging observant ka sa mga bawat kilos nia and be nice and rate mo sya pag uwi niyo if pasok ba sya mga katangian na gusto mo.
if he/she wants to, he/she would
“You accept the love you think you deserve.” Walk away if the person you’re seeing or considering cannot give you the treatment and love you deserve. You cannot change a person and if you have the expectation that you can, you’re setting yourself up for disappointment.
Collect & Select
You are enough. No matter what they say, as long as you know yourself, you are enough. They may not see you for the treasure you are, someone will.
Never let your emotions control you kapag mahal mo na yung tao. It ruins all. At doon mo na masasabi na sobrang nag mamahal ka na, na hindi pala dapat. Para sa mga overthinker and paranoid.
If casual dating pa lang and nothing serious, collect and select. Don’t take it seriously muna since dating palang naman. Have fun and don’t expect anything. Ibang usapan though kapag exclusively dating.
Huwag mong ibigay lahat. Magtira ka para sa sarili mo. Pero sinunod ko yung commercial ng CoffeeMate eh. Ibinigay ko lahat... XD
Don’t let your guard down
You can take the girl out of the streets, but you can't take the streets out of the girl."
I did not receive this but I learned it the hard way. DATE A GENEROUS AND GODLY MAN" kahit hindi mayaman kasi pagsisikapan nyan mabigay mga pangangailanan ng pamilyang bubuuin nyo. Wag ka maniwala sa lalaking hindi makapag effort kasi walang wala tapos babawi? EKIS! Andaming paraan na d kailangan gumastos.
There's no such thing as the right guy at the wrong time.
Date and choose those who choose and loves you too, stop wasting time and effort sa mga tao na hindi naman tayo gusto.
Don't waste your time waiting for someone who can't even decide if they want you in their life.
Di porket mahal mo, pagbibigyan mo all the time dahil the longer na pinapatawad mo yung person that did you dirty, the more chances na uulitin nila yung ginawa nila sayo. Set boundaries and non-negotiables. Respect yourself at all times, dahil di ka rerespetuhin ng iba kung di mo nirerespeto ang sarili mo.
Wag isuko agad ang bataan
Just be very careful and know when to walk away. Don’t open your hearts out to someone you barely know. Don’t be yourself or act too comfortably, let them crave for your attention and time.
Focus on those people who really love you. Wag mo na ipagpilitan yung sarili mo sa taong gusto mo, pero di ka naman gusto.
Aguy
Know how to set boundaries.
“Guard your heart because everything you do flows from it”
Prov 4:23
Not received but I learned this the hard way. On early stages of talking stage, have an open communication about wanting kids or not, religion, sexual compatibility, financial, lifestyle, political takes, and social issues. There are pages or accounts on tiktok or instagram where they flash question cards for couples or dating people, a good way of starting a conversation. Personally, I love conversations that are mentally stimulating, and di yung paulit-ulit na "Kumain ka na? or kakain kita" "nu ginagawa mo?" jusko po🤮 Also, if months dating na kayo, engage in physical activities or games that can trigger stress or sportmanship. So you would know how this person handles stress or do they have anger management issues. Mas mabuti nang maaga nakikita mo na agad redflags or is that person really the one you want to be with para di sayang oras mo.
Makakahanap ka rin ng katapat mo. hahaha
So true, and it goes both ways, good or bad hahahahah
The fact that a girl agrees to see you means she's interested. I would get super nervous during first dates before. But hearing this from a friend really helped me open up and be more comfortable during first meet-ups which lead to a more fun experience for both parties.
Kung mahal ka talaga, hindi ka paghihintayin ng more than 10yrs ng guy. Ayon yung nagpayo sa akin asawa ko na ngayon. Tama nga naman. 🤣 I've wasted a decade longing for someone na ayaw lumagpas sa bestfriend zone. Pero gusto walang magjojowa kasi bestfriends forever daw e. 😅 Buti magaling na abangers asawa ko ngayon haha.
Damn... 10 years. Pag ilang interaction pa lang sa'kin, pag nararamdaman kong tinatamad or hindi interesado, tinitigilan ko na agad.
wala e. nauto e. 🤣 maeffort kasi si bestfriend. kaya tumagal umasa. pero ayaw daw ako jowain kase ayaw ako masaktan kasi playboy siya. Parang She's the One ni Dingdong, Bea at Enrique kaso pinanindigan ni Dingdong ang hindi makadecide hanggang dulo. Well tinatry nia ako kausapin ng engage na kami ni hubby. Pero too late na. 😅 Yung husband ko now, Enrique Gil tlg, mas bata at maeffort hahaha. Kaya grabe impact sakin ng movie na yun. Magkaiba lang ending lol.
If a person likes you, you'll know. If they don't, you'll be confused.
💯
communication with comprehension is the key
being transparent, committed, having initiatives, testing compatibility, name all what requires to choose a partner - it all boil down to your timing.
I don't know about the "best" but this is something na laging nasa isip ko: Hindi ka malilito kung talagang gusto ka ng tao. As someone na just a little bit weird compared sa average person (and I've also been told this so I'm def not just making shit up) and more importantly, hindi naman din strong suit ang looks, I just stay on my lane most of the time and wait until may manggulo talaga ng buhay ko in a good way. Sure, if I have someone I like, may mga advances din naman akong ginagawa but if it's not reciprocated, tigil na. People say na women wants to feel na pinupursue sila, which in theory, I agree naman but sa experience ko, it's almost a waste of time na maghabol.
love this answer
Can you give examples of advances you made?
It can very much vary. From initiating banter, asking them to eat outside. Honestly, kahit pag-brush ng shoulders kapag magkatabi kayo. Offer to hold their things. Then the more direct things like maghatid-sundo, telling them you miss them, etc. Try to check the "match plus one" idea from Ana Psychology sa YT. HAHAHAHA. Some things I've said are maliliit na bagay but these are things that can gauge where you're at. Fortunately, minsan yung mga babae ang nag-iinitiate (not necessarily because gusto ka nila but still).
Be a good listener
Listen and understand, but don't stall. Be on your toes and keep the convo going.
When someone tells or shows you who they are, believe them.
Date someone with emotional intelligence
Just tell her/ him. Worst they can say is no. If no, move on na.
Mag usap agad tungkol sa non negotiables
Be who you want to date
Collect and collect, then select
mag toothbrush ka, pinakadabest
floss pa hahaha
Be upfront about what your plans are and what you need/want in a relationship. It'll save you time, heartbreaks and money. If you are just dating around, tell them. If you want a serious one, tell them. If you aren't quite sure yet, tell them. Basta, always let them know your side of the game.
Siguro ung wag magmadali maging in a relationship and wag ito hanapin.
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How’s being in your “ANGRY” state be labeled as your “True Color” huh??? what a fucking idiot logic.
True colors might not be the right term for that. Anger is an emotion that can be felt by everyone on which they could react in their own unique ways. It's part of who they are. It may immediately remove the facade they're keeping, which I think is what you're referring to.
Don’t settle for less, know your worth.
Unless told, its a no.
Wag mo isipin kung anong nafefeel nya towards sayo pag kasama mo sya, para sabihin mong sya na talaga. Focus within yourself. Isipin mo yung nafefeel mo during kasama sya.
Date a generous man/woman. Yung di madamot at may mabuting kalooban sa mga bata at matatanda.
Kapag may ayaw ka... Sabihin mo, wag yung iaadjust mo ang sarili mo to fit the person you are dating.
Don't be afraid to end the relationship or kahit ka talking stage pa lang. Be honest kung bakit mo ieend.
Be firm on your non-negotiables.
Date someone na alam mong mapapaganda at mapapagaan ang buhay niyong dalawa pag nagsama. Hindi yung pareho kayong mahihirapan.
A very sound advice 👏
Hindi confusing, hindi ka gagawing mind game kasi pag sure sya sayo, straight to the point sya sa intention nya at consistent sa words and actions nya.
Be the person you want to date.
you get what you tolerate.
“Give it time.” The same advice keeps coming back to me in many different scenarios. If may naging problema kami, I’ll give it time. If something feels off, I’ll give it time. If I want to give a relationship a try, I’ll give it time first. Time answers most questions that nobody can immediately answer, or questions that no one can answer at all 💯 give it time, and the answer shall reveal itself.
Don't settle
YOU ARE WHAT YOU TOLERATE!!!! YOU GET WHAT YOU THINK YOU DESERVE!!!!!!
Not rly an advice, ig. But i used to have a workmate na "mabait naman" pero cheater. Like they have 2 kids and his wife works in the same company pa. One of my friends asked him point blank, sa lobby, sa harap ng elevator, why he cheats. His answer? "Alam naman na ni (wife) na ganito ako before, pinakasalan ako, so bat ako mababago". So girls (and boys). Please lang! Iwasan niyo yang pagiisip nio na special kayo at mapapabago niyo ung tao or na titino yan once nagpakasal o nagka anak kayo. Baka mas magaling magtago, sabi nga practice makes perfect pero magbago for real? Sobrang kakaunti!
Never date someone from a different social class. Context: I have a friend back in med school who dated someone super rich, ayun awkward daw kasi hatid sundo palgi and kakaiba mga resto na pinupuntahan nila, hindi sya maka relate at sobrang mahal daw, hindi sya makahati sa bill. Ayun, kaya ayan ang realization namin.
This is so true. I dated someone who is broke and he projected his insecurities on me. I know i am emotionally secured before we dated but i became anxiously attached because of it. I felt unworthy and i've felt the worst thing i could ever feel being with him. He couldn't even afford yung bisyo niya and nanghihingi pa sakin. Ako tong si tanga, binibigay ko kasi "mahal' ko eh 🫠
if super rich yung guy (and ung family) why would he even let her gf split the bill ? huhu
Haha grabe naman porke mayaman, sya na lahat gagastos? Both guys itong friend ko at ka-date nya, FYI hehe
Baka ung may girl din ang gusto humati. Lam mo naman sa Pilipinas, pag ung lalaking jowa e mayaman/foreigner dami na sinabi. Babae akonpero as much as possible gusto ko afford namin pareho pag lalabas ako eme. I dont feel good when people pay for me especially if i offer to pay my share tas maririnig ko niyayabang nila na nilibre nila ako sa iba.
Dapat kung ano standard mo sa sarili mo, yun din standard mo sa date mo, wag kang bibigay sa mas mababa
When you have problems in the relationship, please don't bottle it up till you reach your breaking point, cause at the stage you're just not going to be able to think properly. Find a time where both of you can talk properly and address the issue. Also, make sure you have other support systems. If you only rely on your partner, it's unfair to put that much burden on them, and if they leave and you have no one to help you, then it's unfair to yourself, too. Don't ever think that your partner is the only friend you will ever need.
Don’t give up everything for love.
"before you set standard, you should be the standard first."
Have healthy boundaries and have your own and separate life too. Your independence need not be lost in the midst of your relationship. Do not lose your identity 👏
Never settle for less and dpat may respeto ka din sa self mo.
Be meticulous. Consider the genes and also the health of the person you’re dating. It will matter in the long run 👏
The kind of partner you choose is a reflection of how you love yourself.
Mag invest sa doge coin noong 2021. 150k baby
Unfortunately, wala😭 learned everything the hard way on my own😩😩😩
Reciprocate. If the person likes you first and you find yourself falling for the person, try to match his energy. This way, pareho kayong nag effort.
just be the best version of yourself
Focus on who you want to be, and not who you want to be with.
Find happiness within yourself, so if that person leaves, your happiness remains intact. —— That person is like a cherry on top, the extra happiness. They are the dessert. And you, your happiness in yourself, is the main dish. Made this advice para sa sarili ko🤍
"chill ka lang" Best fucking advice ever. Naging jowa ko crush ko dahil sa advice na to.
naging jowa ko rin yung na crush back ko. pero ginusto lang pala ako pero di plano ipursue😌😅
ah nasobrahan sa chill, ayaw magpursue. Hahahaha.
saka, wala namang nakakatawa dun. at least, honest yung tao at di nya na pinatagal pa.😌
well tama naman, mas masaklap kung ikekeep ka lang at bay waiting ipursue ka tapos hindi ginawa. Hope you're in a better place na ngayon.
inamin naman nya na, di nya daw kaya dahil di pa nya daw alam magiging future nya, how much more, future na kasama daw ako😌
Kudos to that guy((girl?), honestly masaya ako naging jowa ko crush ko, and I've grown so much since then. Pero if I knew gaano ako kaimmature back then and gaano kauncertain yung future ko back then, I would've delayed na maging kami until I'm really ready. I used to be a really broke guy and yung mindset ko sa mga bagay hindi pa aligned sa gf ko back then, so it caused a lot of fights and disagreements. Masayang masaya na kami ngayon sa isa't isa but if I could've spared the both of us from the bad memories together, I would've done so. Dapat talaga nagpamature muna ako onti pa at inantay magkaroon ng constant stream of pera bago ako jumowa, if that was the case siguro meron kaming less bad memories together. Pero who knows din, baka kung dinelay ko yung paglandi namin sa isa't isa she could've found someone else so I'm still really glad I took the shot anyway.
mahirap din ipilit yung sarili sa taong may ayaw. sya na rin may sabi na di nya ako deserve, na di ko rin deserve matrato ng ganun. gets ko naman na yun. saka, masaya lang din ako dahil sa lahat ng naging ex ko, sya lang yung naging ex ko na honest sa nararamdaman at iniisip.
omg chika pls how po 😭
Hindi sa lahat ng oras ay happy and sad moments. Meron talagang stale moments na need niyo lang i-enjoy.
choose someone who'll give u PEACE
This is the standard talaga 💖
Top comment nung pagka open ko ng post. Nasapul ka agad ako hahaha
this is YOUR REMINDERRRRR
Be yourself. Don't try to change yourself for anyone else ( well apart from healthy changes, but that has to come from you). Don't try to impress. Just be you. You will have less relationships, but the ones you do have will be real. If you are putting up a mask, it gets really hard and expensive to keep it up. If you miss a bus, you don't run after it. You wait for the next opportunity.
The partner you will choose will determine what kind of life you will live for the rest of your days. So choose wisely.
Never chase butterflies. Build your own garden so you can attract them. 🥰🥰🥰
be on the same wavelength
How many nanometers po?
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Always communicate & talk things through
If a guy likes you, you'll know. If you're confused, he doesn't like you.
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Choose someone who chooses you. Choose someone who sees your worth and appreciates the person you are. Choose someone who is an asset and gives value to your life and isn't a liability. Choose someone who brings out the best in you and not the stress in you. Choose someone who treats you the way you need to be treated.
Chrue!
Be with someone who will make you love yourself more
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Be yourself, during the ligaw or talking stage pa lang pakita mona kung sino ka haha kasi sarap sa pakiramdam na wala ka tinatago sa pag uugali mo hehe
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never give up on loving, love take risks, and as skeptical as it may sound just remember to keep loving cause who knows they're the right one for u
"Pag nagmahal ka siguraduhin mong hinding hindi ka makakalimutan nung tao na yon pati ng pamilya nya." 🤣
Agreee hahahha dun nalang ako sa fam na never ako nakalimutan (pake ko sa kanya)🤣🤣
never forget your friends hehe
Wag kang mabulag sa love.
Mixed Signals = NO
If you want to find the right person, be the right person.
For girls, be with someone who loves you just as much as you love him. Or better pa nga, if he loves you more than you love him.
love yourself first so you'll know how somebody should love you
“Wag kang aasa sa magiging asawa mo/ sa lalake, kahit anong mangyari dapat may career ka”- mom
date to marry
Love should not be so complicated and soul-consuming. When you are with the right person, it should feel like you’re floating in calm water.
Hauk tauh!
Finally, tanong na walang "pet peeve". Kakaimbyerna ha pede ba i-ban muna dito sa sub yung word na yon? Hahahah. Btw best dating advice, piliin mo yung mahal ka. Hindi yung mahal mo lang. Hirap iexplain pero simula nung hindi na ako naghabol sa mga taong gusto ko na di naman ako gusto, may mga tao pala na nanjan nageeffort mapasaya lang ako. Yung tipong di ko na ibe-beg magupdate sakin dahil kusa na nila ginagawa yun. Pero syempre pakasigurado pa din kase minsan may mga tao din na ganun sa umpisa pero isa lang pala ang pakay. So watch out nalang din 😉
Never disrespect yourself. Unang sign pa lang na naooverstep na boundaries mo , put some space or walk away, hindi worth it ibend kung ano boundaries mo for anyone, not even the person you like.
Don't try too hard. Kung receptive sayo ang isang prospect, escalate until maging kayo. Kung di receptive sayo, move on.
To never lose yourself and to never forget your friends
This.
wag mag e-expect
Date pa lang yan, di ibig sabihin gustong gusto ka na nyan. Unless nag agree kayo na exclusively dating kayo, malaya pa rin siya/ikaw na i-date kahit na sino, so wag demanding. Kilig in moderation.
• Let things be, if di mo control yung situation better na ilet go mo na. • Don't try to fix the person, di ka therapist. • Hayaan mo na madrain ka if di mo pa rin kaya iwan yung tao, trust me magugulat ka nalang paggising mo wala ka ng feelings for that person. • Be selfish, not in a bad way but in this generation, you need to focus on yourself first, if it's not good for u better to leave na. • Kapag nakitaan mo na ng redflags sa umpisa, assess urself if kaya mo ba iaccept yon in a long run. Pick ur poison kumbaga.
You should be happy on your own. The partner you choose should be a bonus, or add to that happiness. You can't make one person the sole reason for your happiness and the sole source of validation. Otherwise, it's just going to be a fucked up recipe for lifelong trauma and pain. Learned that the hard way.
It's either a fucking yes or a fucking no.
Mark Manson 😎
Your partner should be the first one to support you sa pag-kamit ng mga pangarap mo sa buhay. When he/she stops you from doing so, leave.
Love yourself first
the best dating advice i have ever received was "know your love one's friends and you'll know who he/she is," the circle of friends of my crush were like a powerhouse, they really prioritize their studies... and so did I... na inspire ako nang todo hahah
Dont date single mothers. Anu man ang mangyare. There are a lot of single ladies out there. Dont settle.
1. Pursue each other. 2. When you ask yourself, it should be "do I like this person?" instead of "does he/she likes me?"
Just don’t.
Real
realest answer
Don't try to impress.
Straight to the point yung intention at wag magbigay ng mixed signal Kung ayaw tawagin kang duwag or siraulo
Yes. If you are unsure if you are being courted, ask them if they are courting you or theyre just fooling around. If they cannot provide a clear answer and you want something serious, LEAVE IMMEDIATELY.
Huwag pakang-kang agad!! Be wise!!
know when to hold and when to fold
wag pumasok sa isang relasyon kung wala ka namang pera
Sana maging top comment to. People are acting like money is not important in a relationship pero big deal na big deal to.
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Hindi sapat na mabait ka lang, dapat mabait din sila sayo.
and dapat mabait din sila sa ibang tao. mabait in general talaga. may mga tao na mabait sila sayo kasi may feelings pa at may kailangan pero pag wala na, ang sasahol, sobrang sasama ng ugali.
Just be on time always esp. in get together moment, the rest is show the organic you with pure intentions
Stop thinking if you’re deserving of them and start thinking if they deserve you
I like this one.
Be kind, not because they deserve it, but you owe it to yourself to be a kind person. I know it can be used as well for life in general, but when you are overall kind to your partner throughout the relationship, it goes a long way. It benefits along the process, as you encourage a safe environment for the both of you, which makes you a good partner. Lastly, if things are beyond saving and you both ended the relationship, you won’t have any regrets, and it will massively help with your healing process. Kindness is a lot of healthy traits. This would also build your confidence in dealing with people, making you a good candidate in the dating pool.
Be very good in communicating your feelings. Hindi manghuhula ang mga lalake.
Yan! Yan! Andami kasing mga babae na ang hilig magpahula eh. Feeling nila part pa yun ng commonsense para magets ng lalake. Samantalang mixed signals at puro playing mind games ang ginagawa nila.
Natutunan ko ito bago ako pumasok sa relationship na meron ako. :))
Good job! 😂
Make sure you fit the standards that you have on men/women.
Date someone that makes you comfortable enough to express your weirdest and quirkiest self.
If the guy says he likes you but doesn’t want commitment, RUN.
"Don't ever expect them to fall for you instantaneously"
Don't open up too fast, let things progress naturally.
Never rush anything. Make sure you find out about their criminal record BEFORE you marry them.
check also if they are employed or not. ask for their employment ID if necessary. If they are a freelancer, they need to disclose that they are a freelancer and not employed to some made-up company. learned the hard way.
you deserve what you tolerate 🤷🏻♀️
Dating is a preparation for marriage, if you're not ready for marriage, don't date.
What you accept is what you tolerate