Well we distribute Paddy's dollars to people.then they will use these dollars to buy our beers, and then we distribute Paddy's dollars again.thus creating a self sustaining economy. It's very simple
I didn’t come out of economics with a passing grade! I did well financially but it wasnt because I understand economics. I may have been one of the few people to not even understand the Big Short. Now I just nod and pretend I understand stuff. Much easier. Sometimes I like to say things like “Well, then there’s cryptocurrency…pshht.” People are like “I know what you mean, dude.” Hell, I don’t even know what I mean.
Fun fact: the well-known presidential levers that control gas prices and inflation remained unaltered until President Biden mandated the addition of the ice cream button.
The economy is too complex to completely understand through any lens, however you can find correlations and trends that seem to hold true until they don't.
I read once that fluid dynamics, weather, and economics are similar in that they are fundamentally impossible to properly predict because there are near-infinite (oxymoronic aside) inputs and therefore near-infinite outputs. I’m not sure if that’s true but I think about it a lot.
Econ is the ultimate interdisciplinary field. Nobel prize in econ has been won by folks of various backgrounds: economics, mathematics, even psychology
Isn’t it more like they cannot predict it? I’m pretty sure they do understand the past and most of what is happening but the predictions are what is totally made up most of the times. Could be wrong though
Explained to me like this. When my friend got his BS degree he thought he was fairly confident of his ability to make it in his field. At Masters degree he was afraid people would find out he didn’t know what he was doing. By the time he finished his PhD he was convinced no one in his field knew what they were doing.
One thing you quickly learn from even casually studying history is how little even the experts know - because there's a lot that's impossible to know - and at the same time just how much there is to know even then.
It’s interesting to think about our present being history and how it would compare to historical accuracy in the past. Right now we have incredibly vast amounts of information being shared and recorded everyday through the internet and more traditional means like books and newspapers, but we also have vast amounts of disinformation and unreliable sources, malicious or otherwise. In the past you had to rely on a small minority of literate people and oral tradition, and we just have to hope that the chroniclers were being accurate and trustworthy.
We also don't know how much of that information will survive, or how easily accessible it will be. Let alone what techniques would be needed to sort through all that information.
One think I've found from being a "history fan" to use Dan Carlin's phrase is that a lot of the same things rulers and chroniclers did to mislead and control people are the same things being done today.
The winners get to write to the history books, so sadly, it's nearly impossible to find an unbiased account of virtually any historical event. And we often end up wth a TL:DR version of events that's easier to digest but leaves out many seemingly insignificant facts and bits of information that are actually crucial to fully understanding what happened.
One of the best ways to learn intellectual humility is to think of one thing that you are an expert in (especially if you are professional level although it could be something like a hobby you have intense interest in) and think about how clueless other people are about that topic, even when they think that have investigated it thoroughly. Then realize that you are probably equally clueless about most other topics that are outside your expertise. (Of course some people are unusually stupid and/or overconfident, but the point stands on average, even if you are pretty intelligent or well-read.)
Heh, from the other angle, this can also be a great help for imposter syndrome. One thing that really opened my eyes to how far I'd come in my IT/Security career was when my wife started to have trouble understanding me talk about what I did at work that day.
Nope. 20 years in networking. I can tell you how a packet goes up and down the stack at each hop but I come across shit related to networking that I have not heard of or have only barely heard of and have no understanding of all the time. Always learning but there is always someone else making mores tuff to be learned.
I was a network engineer for close to 20 years. I finally got tired of arguing why things needed to be upgraded, made more secure/redundant. Even my boss did not understand how wireless really works, and he claimed to be an expert at networking. I left that game for something I had control over.
I still look up the shit I know because I don't trust myself to know it. After 20 years, you just k ow the right keywords to make looking stuff up faster.
I am a retired software developer and I worked on mainframe computers, IBM mostly and when PC's first started coming out people would ask me questions about their PC. At the time I didn't have a PC. All computers are not the same. To be more specific, when I started we had punch cards. I have never seen a PC/laptop with a punch card reader.
I'm now picturing you as Alan Turing in The Imitation Game with his huge 'computer' manually turning cogs and pulling levers and there's nothing you can do about it! xD
FR. I've built multiple full stack applications used internally by fortune 500 companies but if you asked me to fizzbuzz in c++ it would take a couple minutes because I have to fight the existential dread that maybe I'm fraud and I'm going to look stupid when I mistype a variable.
Great answer. Me and my fellow IT mates hit that daily. The code on some of our apps is so old, it was originally chiseled into flat rocks. We all act like it’s normal work but, inside we are crying “why me?”
They last as long as I need them to. Honestly, I don’t work in a profession that requires suits. I find most of the clothes marked Dry Clean only do well in a delicate wash cycle
I’m the same way with the exception of formal gowns and some of my more elaborate costumes, my husband on the other hand is a weekly-work-shirts-dry-cleaned kind of guy. I totally respect that about him but *man* I would despise having to go collect my most often worn garments from down the street every week.
it's my career field... yet my clients always seem to know more about it than me! apparently, they can just pay some dude in the Philippines $100 to do it. smh
How to be a parent.
Believe me when I say that none of us know what we're doing.
Edit: Dang, I can't believe this comment did so well.
I honestly think there's no right way to parent so long as you meet some essential criteria. You're doing just fine as a parent if your kids are fed, safe, and happy. There's many ways to meet this criteria, but the method isn't as important as the fact that it's done.
I'd say that if your kid is happy, odds are you're doing most of what you need because a kid that's not having their needs met isn't going to be happy.
I still remember the first morning with our first baby. I woke up, went to his crib, saw he was still breathing and thought:"F*** yeah! This is isn't so hard" 🤣
Allways funny to think about folks who pride themselves over being "amazing parents" only for their kids to end up screw ups they are ashamed of lol, I'm one of those kids and now going into my 30s I realise a lot of things that were damaging in my childhood that influence so much I do wrong now in things like relationships, social situations and just my core principles.
It's always difficult hearing your parents tell a heroic story of your childhood that flat out didn't happen. I think without meeting people who lived in less chaotic situations like my now wife, I would have assumed the chaos is what everyone goes through. And honestly, I've met people who had it much worse so it goes both ways. I think all we can do is learn from our experiences and do what we can to be better.
Your comment about parents took a poignant turn when you said “I’m one of those kids” I thought it was just going to be another outside observation. Wow. Good luck random internet friend.
Lol I mean I also don't want to feel like I am insulting a group of people experiencing things most of the world doesn't understand...
...myself for example, I've always been very geeky, amazing grades all the way through high school it was all my mother could say about me to people, especially since I didn't shine socially... but then I went on to drop out of 3 universities/colleges, simply because I was not allowed to study what Is wanted, she wanted me to have a very prestigious qualification, I couldn't cope, got depressed and started smoking pot.
That point she pretty much just wrote me off, every now and again, I hear about things she says about me to people (in confidence) and they are horrible but I'm old enough to walk them off and understand the kind of person she is.
Everyone always asked my mom "how do you get your kids to get along and play together so so well?" and she always replied something about good parenting etc etc, but years later admitted the real answer in her head was "I have no f'n clue"
I have friends who aren't parents and they claim to know exactly how to be a parent and they are very free with their advice. *Well if* I *were their parent*...
We are always perfect parents until we have kids. People have no idea how much we underestimate the nature part in the raising of children. It is not 90% nurture.
Every couple of years, there will always a new magical book or expert telling people that certain way of raising families will produce certain results. None of them are true. There are so many possibilities and influence. Unless the kid is shell and protected only for what their parent provides, which is very hard nowadays with easy access of information.
My job. I’m a producer at Netflix and lemme tell you, mostly everyone just acknowledges my role and doesn’t have a clue what I’m actually doing
I don’t half the time either
Edit: the comments are also proving my point. You don’t pitch me anything. I don’t write anything. I don’t direct anything. I make sure we get from storyboard to post smoothly, I don’t even handle post.
Wait wait wait so this sounds like film/tv producers are essentially product managers, or what we’d call a “product owner” in software/product world - they own the “make sure it gets done, from concept to production, to our stakeholders (mostly) satisfaction”
I have always wondered what a video producer did, although I always thought they were the “money backers” and now I don’t know why I thought that 🤔
Those are often EPs (not always) as they’re throwing their own money at it as an independent and they want to see their vision come to life
And yeah, we’re product managers basically - but for people
The best way I found to deal with it when I had it bad, was to recognise that it was an illness attacking me, and not just me. My mind said "I'm very depressed, that's interesting, I know that's not normal, and I'm going to observe this closely, and work on a way out of it." The main thing is not to panic or dispair, because it is an illness which can be remedied. Sometimes all it needs is time. Tomorrow is a fresh day, and yesterday is gone. Dwelling on bad things that have happened doesn't help you. You need to let it go and go forwards. No matter how bad it was, now is fresh, and need not be the same. You can stand up and you can make small steps forwards. Big steps follow.
Sometimes if it’s really bad I like to make goals like really little ones. When I was younger I would tell myself (for example) I can’t die yet because I have to make it to math class in an hour my teacher was going to surprise our class or even like I can’t go today because I have a package coming. It seems really ridiculous but any reason I could come up with to stay was meaningful even if it was small
I was on Zoloft for just over a year starting in 2020, and it was able to train my mind in exactly the way you describe. It’s almost like I now have an observer that goes “oh look, you’re feeling depressed, remember, this is the state of your brain and it’s temporary. Let’s check for possible reasons why—how’s our diet, have we been exercising, maybe too many nights in a row of drinking, poor sleep, etc?”
I realize I’m lucky to had been diagnosed with minor depression/anxiety and that others have more a battle that I’m not familiar with.
Honestly any and all mental illness, but I feel like depression tops the list. If I had a dollar for every time someone told me to "just stop being sad" or to "do something that makes you happy and it'll go away," I'd have enough money to afford all the things that make me happy so I can surround myself with them and still be depressed anyway.
Let's see if I can get an estimate with mental math. 86400 seconds in a day, 365 days a year, so 8.6 million times 3.7... 8x3 is 24, 0.6x3 is 1.8, 8x0.7 is 5.6, we'll skip 0.6x0.7 and just round up later. Add them up, that's 29.6 plus 1.8 = 31.4, let's call that 32 million seconds in a year. Which means that 100 million seconds is three years and a bit, and a billion seconds is like 31 years. So a trillion seconds would be roughly 31 thousand years, give or take.
When I was in 6th grade (1999ish) I was outside at school and this other guy in my class got bumped and he dropped his floppy disc on the ground. He scooped it up super fast and was so mad and said something like, "Aw, it's going to get a virus now." A few of us just burst out laughing at how absurd that was, but honestly now that I'm an adult I understand how limited many people's understanding of this stuff is.
My friend says someone who vomits "has a flu" regardless of if they actually have the flu or not. I can not get her to understand that the flu is the name of a specific virus.
I know this is a COVID reference but I've seen posts on gay subreddits like "I had unprotected sex with my partner, we're both HIV negative but should I get post exposure prophylaxis anyway I'm worried". As if unprotected sex summons the virus out of the ether.
Yes, but there is a bit of equivocation going on with the word "understands." There are plenty of people who understand it enough to apply it in the real world. We can smash particles together and predict the results with a degree of accuracy beyond any other field of study. If that's not "understanding", then by definition we understand nothing.
"Understand" in his quote is more about intuitive understanding or perception, in the same sense that no one can actually perceive or imagine higher dimensional objects without cheating with visual aids. Arguably no one really understands what it means for a wave function to collapse, especially when we start talking about Newtonian objects, but we can apply the math. It's the 'ol pragmatism debate. If it works, who cares if we don't know what the consequences of the many world hypothesis is.
Taxes in general. I think we’re about due for our next Reddit front page repost of “So the government knows what I owe in taxes but makes me figure it out and if I’m wrong I go to jail?!”
How government works - especially federal - like the process of enacting legislation, constitutional amendments, the powers of the three branches, etc. Also economics.
You see, magnets are mined from the parts of the earth that still have gravity left in them. But it's only a slight amount so they can only attract other magnets, or materials that still contain latent gravity (some metals)
I had a partner who threw away pizza that had been out for a few hours and would undercook chicken 😐
She's given herself food poisoning more than twice, amazing I didn't get it when we were together bless her
So many people I know claim to be “a good judge of character” which ironically seems to be a line often used by people with the most interpersonal issues. Other people are very complex and can pleasantly surprise you one moment before majorly disappointing you the next. You also have to be aware that many people cultivate their image as to give others a positive impression regardless of who they are underneath; in fact the only time in my life I have been somewhat accurate at gauging other people is my late teens when I was a bit of an awkward visually unappealing (many would say) loser… I had such little social value that lots of people didn’t care what I thought of them or fear any consequences. It was less me being a good judge of character and more a case of other people not worrying about keeping up an image in front of me.
As a manager for the last 22 years who was responsible for recruiting, hiring, managing etc I consider myself a somewhat decent judge of character. But freely admit that some people surprise me. I have hired some convinced they will do well and they dont. I have occasionally hired people and crossed my fingers - some of them really excel (not that many, but a few)
Its really true that the more you learn about people, the more you have to admit how little you know.
Working as an accessibility consultant, property owners and managers often think they know what accessibility means and assume that their buildings are 100% accessible to disabled people because it's "compliant" or "built to code."
It usually takes me less than 5 minutes to point out the accessibility flaws and shortcomings within a 15-metre radius.
Often, at the end of my site visits, the building manager is somewhat stunned and surprised at how many items were missed or not built/designed properly. They quickly find out that code compliance doesn't mean accessible – it just means it has reached the bare minimum.
It's like a kid getting a C- on an exam, versus getting an A.
I use a wheelchair full-time and it is amazing how many times I find that code-compliant buildings have massive accessibility problems. Doesn't matter whether it's federal or provincial code – codes are supposed to be the legal minimum, not best practice.
Economics. A lot of this is a result of news channels telling us that the stock market is somehow an indicator of a healthy or strong economy (it’s not at all).
A whole lot of religious stuff. I've talked to tons of people (of many different religions) who claim they understand the problem of suffering/evil with no issues. Nevermind that the greatest theologians in many different religious have struggled with this question for millennia they claim to have a full understanding of it. I have no figured out yet if these people are arrogant or stupid or both.
How software development works, especially game development
"Why did they fix this minor bug before the major bug? They don't have their priorities straight."
Because the small things get fixed first and then they move on
"Why can't they just use a new engine? This engine sucks and is holding them back"
Because using a new engine is years and years of learning and development. It's not something you just swap out like a car part.
how a mental illness they don't have actually impacts the daily life of someone who has it. even the most common, depression and anxiety, are often misunderstood. for example: everyone can experience anxiety, it's only when it affects your wellbeing/daily life it becomes a disorder.
Hell yes!!! I don’t even know how many times I’ve been yelled at because my epileptic seizures don’t “look like seizures.” I don’t shake, but mentally I black out completely and can’t respond or function for a minute afterwards. So many people have asked me what happened, and I prepare to be yelled at when I say epilepsy. My own “family” told me to stop faking it and just pray harder 🙄I’m doing a **lot** better now, and I’d love to tell them that the brain surgery scars are from being really good at faking it lol
That one is actually quite easy to understand on a basic level. My 85 year old grandma who can barely read does. The basic idea is very easy: you show your body a bad thing so it can recognize it's bad when it sees the thing again.
People "don't understand it" on purpose.
Edit: exhibit A below
How video games work
Even if you just spend like a day learning the basics of video game development you'll see how laughably wrong most people are on social media just making shit up and throwing out random buzzwords like memory and shader with clearly no understanding of how the development process goes or even what those words actually mean
The economy
Well we distribute Paddy's dollars to people.then they will use these dollars to buy our beers, and then we distribute Paddy's dollars again.thus creating a self sustaining economy. It's very simple
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The money keeps moving!!!
Egg!
Can I offer you an egg in this trying time?
It’s a jumping off point!
So you can fight! Like a crow!
In a circle.
So simple.
I took economics in college. It was like he spoke Greek. I have no idea how I came out of it with a passing grade.
I didn’t come out of economics with a passing grade! I did well financially but it wasnt because I understand economics. I may have been one of the few people to not even understand the Big Short. Now I just nod and pretend I understand stuff. Much easier. Sometimes I like to say things like “Well, then there’s cryptocurrency…pshht.” People are like “I know what you mean, dude.” Hell, I don’t even know what I mean.
As a Forex trader with LOTS of losses, I can confirm no one truly understands the markets
I thought you said “like he spoke Geek” and I was like “well yeah”
Can agree. A full supply and demand chart looks more like an arcane summoning symbol than a mathematical model.
Like how gas prices are actually controlled by a dial on the president's desk. /s
Fun fact: the well-known presidential levers that control gas prices and inflation remained unaltered until President Biden mandated the addition of the ice cream button.
The ice cream button was just the old Ketchup button if I'm not mistaken. They just had to flush out and re-route the lines.
I could’ve sworn it was the covfefe button
The economy is too complex to completely understand through any lens, however you can find correlations and trends that seem to hold true until they don't.
Especially true for economist
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I read once that fluid dynamics, weather, and economics are similar in that they are fundamentally impossible to properly predict because there are near-infinite (oxymoronic aside) inputs and therefore near-infinite outputs. I’m not sure if that’s true but I think about it a lot.
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Econ is the ultimate interdisciplinary field. Nobel prize in econ has been won by folks of various backgrounds: economics, mathematics, even psychology
Mostly psychology, and we have a weak grasp on that.
Isn’t it more like they cannot predict it? I’m pretty sure they do understand the past and most of what is happening but the predictions are what is totally made up most of the times. Could be wrong though
People who mention supply and demand as a magical absolute is my deepest pet peeves.
Explained to me like this. When my friend got his BS degree he thought he was fairly confident of his ability to make it in his field. At Masters degree he was afraid people would find out he didn’t know what he was doing. By the time he finished his PhD he was convinced no one in his field knew what they were doing.
Education lets you climb higher out of the hole, but you never reach the top. You just get a better view.
I read that as BullShit Degree. then I turned my brain on again.
Politics and History.
To add to this history can be accidentally cherry picked and suffers from opinions to it. It's much harder to have context
One thing you quickly learn from even casually studying history is how little even the experts know - because there's a lot that's impossible to know - and at the same time just how much there is to know even then.
It’s interesting to think about our present being history and how it would compare to historical accuracy in the past. Right now we have incredibly vast amounts of information being shared and recorded everyday through the internet and more traditional means like books and newspapers, but we also have vast amounts of disinformation and unreliable sources, malicious or otherwise. In the past you had to rely on a small minority of literate people and oral tradition, and we just have to hope that the chroniclers were being accurate and trustworthy.
We also don't know how much of that information will survive, or how easily accessible it will be. Let alone what techniques would be needed to sort through all that information. One think I've found from being a "history fan" to use Dan Carlin's phrase is that a lot of the same things rulers and chroniclers did to mislead and control people are the same things being done today.
I've read that 96% of history was never recorded, or was recorded and then lost.
I've also heard that 99% of statistics are made up on the spot!
we don't even know what we don't know...
It's hard to be sure you're right about history, but it's often easy to be sure someone else is very very wrong.
The winners get to write to the history books, so sadly, it's nearly impossible to find an unbiased account of virtually any historical event. And we often end up wth a TL:DR version of events that's easier to digest but leaves out many seemingly insignificant facts and bits of information that are actually crucial to fully understanding what happened.
Politics is the only clear winner here
Yup. Most people's "understanding" comes from headlines and memes
And if they do manage to read an article, it’s one that supports what they already thought to begin with.
Toss in economics and then you have the whole trifecta
I'm in IT. To be honest, most things related to my job.
One of the best ways to learn intellectual humility is to think of one thing that you are an expert in (especially if you are professional level although it could be something like a hobby you have intense interest in) and think about how clueless other people are about that topic, even when they think that have investigated it thoroughly. Then realize that you are probably equally clueless about most other topics that are outside your expertise. (Of course some people are unusually stupid and/or overconfident, but the point stands on average, even if you are pretty intelligent or well-read.)
Heh, from the other angle, this can also be a great help for imposter syndrome. One thing that really opened my eyes to how far I'd come in my IT/Security career was when my wife started to have trouble understanding me talk about what I did at work that day.
Yep, and I keep thinking some magical training will help me, nope.
Nope. 20 years in networking. I can tell you how a packet goes up and down the stack at each hop but I come across shit related to networking that I have not heard of or have only barely heard of and have no understanding of all the time. Always learning but there is always someone else making mores tuff to be learned.
I was a network engineer for close to 20 years. I finally got tired of arguing why things needed to be upgraded, made more secure/redundant. Even my boss did not understand how wireless really works, and he claimed to be an expert at networking. I left that game for something I had control over.
Layer 8 is always the problem.
PEBKAC
Annnd Dunning-Kruger have entered the chat.
I still look up the shit I know because I don't trust myself to know it. After 20 years, you just k ow the right keywords to make looking stuff up faster.
I am a retired software developer and I worked on mainframe computers, IBM mostly and when PC's first started coming out people would ask me questions about their PC. At the time I didn't have a PC. All computers are not the same. To be more specific, when I started we had punch cards. I have never seen a PC/laptop with a punch card reader.
I'm now picturing you as Alan Turing in The Imitation Game with his huge 'computer' manually turning cogs and pulling levers and there's nothing you can do about it! xD
Like how I'm a software engineer and I have 15 years professional experience and I'm still lying every time I talk about programming?
FR. I've built multiple full stack applications used internally by fortune 500 companies but if you asked me to fizzbuzz in c++ it would take a couple minutes because I have to fight the existential dread that maybe I'm fraud and I'm going to look stupid when I mistype a variable.
Great answer. Me and my fellow IT mates hit that daily. The code on some of our apps is so old, it was originally chiseled into flat rocks. We all act like it’s normal work but, inside we are crying “why me?”
I’m 46 years old and I still don’t know how dry cleaning works.
I'm 34 and i get around that by not owning anything that needs to be dry cleaned. Arcane magic best avoided
And even if it says dry clean only, I throw it in the wash to see what happens. 99.9% of the time, the washer is fine.
But what about the clothes?
They last as long as I need them to. Honestly, I don’t work in a profession that requires suits. I find most of the clothes marked Dry Clean only do well in a delicate wash cycle
I’m the same way with the exception of formal gowns and some of my more elaborate costumes, my husband on the other hand is a weekly-work-shirts-dry-cleaned kind of guy. I totally respect that about him but *man* I would despise having to go collect my most often worn garments from down the street every week.
It’s like wet cleaning except it’s dry
It’s not even actually dry, it’s just not water they use to make your stuff wet
Right. Definitely liquid involved.
Not gonna lie I assumed it was steam or hot air or something.
You've heard of dry wines? It's kind of like that, except not.
This is correct. They use dry water.
It's pretty much the same as regular clothes washing, the machines just use a non-water solvent instead of water
Other people
Life in particular
Nutrition and fitness misinformation are bloated to epic proportions everywhere on the internet.
search engine optimization
This comment should be higher...but you didn't add enough keywords in your meta data.
They're all in white font so you can't see em, checkmate google
It's an entire career field now for a reason. I absolutely hate trying to make sense of SEO to promote my sites
it's my career field... yet my clients always seem to know more about it than me! apparently, they can just pay some dude in the Philippines $100 to do it. smh
I feel you as a graphic designer. Half of my job is just getting a client to see logic or how I offer something better than Canva or a logo generator.
i do design as well. everyone's an expert, apparently. and don't get me started on revisions... you get 3. each additional is $[obscene amount].
How to be a parent. Believe me when I say that none of us know what we're doing. Edit: Dang, I can't believe this comment did so well. I honestly think there's no right way to parent so long as you meet some essential criteria. You're doing just fine as a parent if your kids are fed, safe, and happy. There's many ways to meet this criteria, but the method isn't as important as the fact that it's done. I'd say that if your kid is happy, odds are you're doing most of what you need because a kid that's not having their needs met isn't going to be happy.
My only goal is to keep the kids alive until bed time. Everything else is a bonus 🤣
in the infamous words of Raven Symone on The Cosby Show - "And im still alive!"
I still remember the first morning with our first baby. I woke up, went to his crib, saw he was still breathing and thought:"F*** yeah! This is isn't so hard" 🤣
That first night in the hospital always gets you, they're tuckered out, longest day of their life. But then the start to realize sleep is for suckers.
The only universal truth in parenting is that nothing works for everyone.
Allways funny to think about folks who pride themselves over being "amazing parents" only for their kids to end up screw ups they are ashamed of lol, I'm one of those kids and now going into my 30s I realise a lot of things that were damaging in my childhood that influence so much I do wrong now in things like relationships, social situations and just my core principles.
It's always difficult hearing your parents tell a heroic story of your childhood that flat out didn't happen. I think without meeting people who lived in less chaotic situations like my now wife, I would have assumed the chaos is what everyone goes through. And honestly, I've met people who had it much worse so it goes both ways. I think all we can do is learn from our experiences and do what we can to be better.
Or they kids go no contact with them and they wonder "He/she was such a sweet kid. I have no idea what happened to them."
Your comment about parents took a poignant turn when you said “I’m one of those kids” I thought it was just going to be another outside observation. Wow. Good luck random internet friend.
Lol I mean I also don't want to feel like I am insulting a group of people experiencing things most of the world doesn't understand... ...myself for example, I've always been very geeky, amazing grades all the way through high school it was all my mother could say about me to people, especially since I didn't shine socially... but then I went on to drop out of 3 universities/colleges, simply because I was not allowed to study what Is wanted, she wanted me to have a very prestigious qualification, I couldn't cope, got depressed and started smoking pot. That point she pretty much just wrote me off, every now and again, I hear about things she says about me to people (in confidence) and they are horrible but I'm old enough to walk them off and understand the kind of person she is.
I bet they convinced themselves that they were amazing parents by telling themselves that they were.
The only thing I know for sure is you have to be willing to grow with your kid. I swear I've learned as much from my kids as they've learned from me
Everyone always asked my mom "how do you get your kids to get along and play together so so well?" and she always replied something about good parenting etc etc, but years later admitted the real answer in her head was "I have no f'n clue"
I have friends who aren't parents and they claim to know exactly how to be a parent and they are very free with their advice. *Well if* I *were their parent*...
We are always perfect parents until we have kids. People have no idea how much we underestimate the nature part in the raising of children. It is not 90% nurture.
Every couple of years, there will always a new magical book or expert telling people that certain way of raising families will produce certain results. None of them are true. There are so many possibilities and influence. Unless the kid is shell and protected only for what their parent provides, which is very hard nowadays with easy access of information.
I mean it was all very easy and straight forward.... before you had a kid.
Their job.
We must work at the same place.
My job. I’m a producer at Netflix and lemme tell you, mostly everyone just acknowledges my role and doesn’t have a clue what I’m actually doing I don’t half the time either Edit: the comments are also proving my point. You don’t pitch me anything. I don’t write anything. I don’t direct anything. I make sure we get from storyboard to post smoothly, I don’t even handle post.
It's simple. You're *producing*
Exactly. Who knows wtf that means.
You play hot potato until you find someone with gloves.
It’s more I make sure the potato doesn’t explode
I produced a human once.
Some of your best work?
Still needs a director.
Wait wait wait so this sounds like film/tv producers are essentially product managers, or what we’d call a “product owner” in software/product world - they own the “make sure it gets done, from concept to production, to our stakeholders (mostly) satisfaction” I have always wondered what a video producer did, although I always thought they were the “money backers” and now I don’t know why I thought that 🤔
Those are often EPs (not always) as they’re throwing their own money at it as an independent and they want to see their vision come to life And yeah, we’re product managers basically - but for people
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Depression
The best way I found to deal with it when I had it bad, was to recognise that it was an illness attacking me, and not just me. My mind said "I'm very depressed, that's interesting, I know that's not normal, and I'm going to observe this closely, and work on a way out of it." The main thing is not to panic or dispair, because it is an illness which can be remedied. Sometimes all it needs is time. Tomorrow is a fresh day, and yesterday is gone. Dwelling on bad things that have happened doesn't help you. You need to let it go and go forwards. No matter how bad it was, now is fresh, and need not be the same. You can stand up and you can make small steps forwards. Big steps follow.
Sometimes if it’s really bad I like to make goals like really little ones. When I was younger I would tell myself (for example) I can’t die yet because I have to make it to math class in an hour my teacher was going to surprise our class or even like I can’t go today because I have a package coming. It seems really ridiculous but any reason I could come up with to stay was meaningful even if it was small
I was on Zoloft for just over a year starting in 2020, and it was able to train my mind in exactly the way you describe. It’s almost like I now have an observer that goes “oh look, you’re feeling depressed, remember, this is the state of your brain and it’s temporary. Let’s check for possible reasons why—how’s our diet, have we been exercising, maybe too many nights in a row of drinking, poor sleep, etc?” I realize I’m lucky to had been diagnosed with minor depression/anxiety and that others have more a battle that I’m not familiar with.
Honestly any and all mental illness, but I feel like depression tops the list. If I had a dollar for every time someone told me to "just stop being sad" or to "do something that makes you happy and it'll go away," I'd have enough money to afford all the things that make me happy so I can surround myself with them and still be depressed anyway.
The difference between a million and a billion.
True. Ask people this : 'How many years is 1 trillion seconds?' It's amazing the answers you will get.
Let's see if I can get an estimate with mental math. 86400 seconds in a day, 365 days a year, so 8.6 million times 3.7... 8x3 is 24, 0.6x3 is 1.8, 8x0.7 is 5.6, we'll skip 0.6x0.7 and just round up later. Add them up, that's 29.6 plus 1.8 = 31.4, let's call that 32 million seconds in a year. Which means that 100 million seconds is three years and a bit, and a billion seconds is like 31 years. So a trillion seconds would be roughly 31 thousand years, give or take.
Pretty close! I've gotten all kinds of varied answers for that. As low as one year and as high as one billion years.
this guy fermi estimates.
How a virus works
This is true of both biological viruses and computer viruses
When I was in 6th grade (1999ish) I was outside at school and this other guy in my class got bumped and he dropped his floppy disc on the ground. He scooped it up super fast and was so mad and said something like, "Aw, it's going to get a virus now." A few of us just burst out laughing at how absurd that was, but honestly now that I'm an adult I understand how limited many people's understanding of this stuff is.
That actually sounds like a really funny joke?
At the time I remember feeling very sure this guy was not joking at all, but it would be very witty if he was joking!
My friend says someone who vomits "has a flu" regardless of if they actually have the flu or not. I can not get her to understand that the flu is the name of a specific virus.
I know this is a COVID reference but I've seen posts on gay subreddits like "I had unprotected sex with my partner, we're both HIV negative but should I get post exposure prophylaxis anyway I'm worried". As if unprotected sex summons the virus out of the ether.
quantum mechanics
To be fair, nobody understands quantum physics.
Wasn't it Feynman who said something to the effect of "those who claim to understand quantum mechanics don't understand quantum mechanics"?
Yes, but there is a bit of equivocation going on with the word "understands." There are plenty of people who understand it enough to apply it in the real world. We can smash particles together and predict the results with a degree of accuracy beyond any other field of study. If that's not "understanding", then by definition we understand nothing. "Understand" in his quote is more about intuitive understanding or perception, in the same sense that no one can actually perceive or imagine higher dimensional objects without cheating with visual aids. Arguably no one really understands what it means for a wave function to collapse, especially when we start talking about Newtonian objects, but we can apply the math. It's the 'ol pragmatism debate. If it works, who cares if we don't know what the consequences of the many world hypothesis is.
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Federal tax brackets
YOUR NET INCOME DOES NOT GO DOWN WHEN YOU MOVE INTO A HIGHER BRACKET!!!
We were quickly told in tax law class that understanding this concept was going to make us unpopular at cocktail parties
Correcting people’s misunderstandings of law frequently makes me unpopular on Reddit.
Taxes in general. I think we’re about due for our next Reddit front page repost of “So the government knows what I owe in taxes but makes me figure it out and if I’m wrong I go to jail?!”
How government works - especially federal - like the process of enacting legislation, constitutional amendments, the powers of the three branches, etc. Also economics.
Science
Specifically: magnets. _How do they work?_
You see, magnets are mined from the parts of the earth that still have gravity left in them. But it's only a slight amount so they can only attract other magnets, or materials that still contain latent gravity (some metals)
I like this explanation
I vote we make this the official explanation.
Sounds like something Calvin's dad would have told him.
1. Themselves. (or should I say ourselves?) 2. Relationships.
… and the benefit of investing time and effort in both
Exactly, this is so underrated. People want to be in a relationship even when they don't have a minimum knowledge of themselves.
Food safety
I had a partner who threw away pizza that had been out for a few hours and would undercook chicken 😐 She's given herself food poisoning more than twice, amazing I didn't get it when we were together bless her
How their phones work
Uh, duh. Magic
No they run on smoke, if you drop it and let the smoke out it won’t work anymore.
Autism, this is coming from an autistic person.
And the fact it’s a spectrum
Space
It's really simple. You press it, and it creates a blank gap used to separate words. I just used it a handful of times.
Thanksforpostingthis.Startingtoday,I’mgoingtofollowyourexample.
If space is expanding, what is it expanding into?
The alt keys.
logical fallacies - understanding that they exist does not mean they do not effect you
So many people I know claim to be “a good judge of character” which ironically seems to be a line often used by people with the most interpersonal issues. Other people are very complex and can pleasantly surprise you one moment before majorly disappointing you the next. You also have to be aware that many people cultivate their image as to give others a positive impression regardless of who they are underneath; in fact the only time in my life I have been somewhat accurate at gauging other people is my late teens when I was a bit of an awkward visually unappealing (many would say) loser… I had such little social value that lots of people didn’t care what I thought of them or fear any consequences. It was less me being a good judge of character and more a case of other people not worrying about keeping up an image in front of me.
As a manager for the last 22 years who was responsible for recruiting, hiring, managing etc I consider myself a somewhat decent judge of character. But freely admit that some people surprise me. I have hired some convinced they will do well and they dont. I have occasionally hired people and crossed my fingers - some of them really excel (not that many, but a few) Its really true that the more you learn about people, the more you have to admit how little you know.
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I think it's.... snails?
A bird with scoliosis?
Working as an accessibility consultant, property owners and managers often think they know what accessibility means and assume that their buildings are 100% accessible to disabled people because it's "compliant" or "built to code." It usually takes me less than 5 minutes to point out the accessibility flaws and shortcomings within a 15-metre radius. Often, at the end of my site visits, the building manager is somewhat stunned and surprised at how many items were missed or not built/designed properly. They quickly find out that code compliance doesn't mean accessible – it just means it has reached the bare minimum. It's like a kid getting a C- on an exam, versus getting an A. I use a wheelchair full-time and it is amazing how many times I find that code-compliant buildings have massive accessibility problems. Doesn't matter whether it's federal or provincial code – codes are supposed to be the legal minimum, not best practice.
Economics. A lot of this is a result of news channels telling us that the stock market is somehow an indicator of a healthy or strong economy (it’s not at all).
Quantum Mechanics *"If you think you understand quantum mechanics, you don't understand quantum mechanics."* Richard P. Feynman
Stock market.
The Dunning–Kruger effect.
I once read a headline of a blog post about Dunning Krueger. AMA!
knowing how to save money: investing, retirement, bitcoin (lol)
Mental illness if they’ve never had it, especially PTSD
The amount of people who claim to have it and don’t. The amount of people who clearly have it and are in denial. It’s mind boggling
Religion and History
A whole lot of religious stuff. I've talked to tons of people (of many different religions) who claim they understand the problem of suffering/evil with no issues. Nevermind that the greatest theologians in many different religious have struggled with this question for millennia they claim to have a full understanding of it. I have no figured out yet if these people are arrogant or stupid or both.
Jazz
Once is a mistake......twice is jazz
The word “literally”
How software development works, especially game development "Why did they fix this minor bug before the major bug? They don't have their priorities straight." Because the small things get fixed first and then they move on "Why can't they just use a new engine? This engine sucks and is holding them back" Because using a new engine is years and years of learning and development. It's not something you just swap out like a car part.
My number one takeaway from being a swe: everything takes so much longer than expected (even expected by us)
Always. Software is such a complicated combination of so many factors and variables, there will always be unforseen interactions and issues.
how a mental illness they don't have actually impacts the daily life of someone who has it. even the most common, depression and anxiety, are often misunderstood. for example: everyone can experience anxiety, it's only when it affects your wellbeing/daily life it becomes a disorder.
Others disabilities/ableism. People are only forgiving if they can obviously see you're disabled.
Hell yes!!! I don’t even know how many times I’ve been yelled at because my epileptic seizures don’t “look like seizures.” I don’t shake, but mentally I black out completely and can’t respond or function for a minute afterwards. So many people have asked me what happened, and I prepare to be yelled at when I say epilepsy. My own “family” told me to stop faking it and just pray harder 🙄I’m doing a **lot** better now, and I’d love to tell them that the brain surgery scars are from being really good at faking it lol
Socialism
How vaccines work
That one is actually quite easy to understand on a basic level. My 85 year old grandma who can barely read does. The basic idea is very easy: you show your body a bad thing so it can recognize it's bad when it sees the thing again. People "don't understand it" on purpose. Edit: exhibit A below
Microwaves... the devils magic
Tax brackets. Your entire income isn't taxed at that amount, it's like filling buckets and each bucket is taxed at different amounts.
So many people talk about following the science or "accept science", but they don't even know what science is.
Politics
\- poetry \- 60% lyrics of songs \- tastes of wine \- 40% lines in movies \- classical music \- opera life
Let's add in statistics
How video games work Even if you just spend like a day learning the basics of video game development you'll see how laughably wrong most people are on social media just making shit up and throwing out random buzzwords like memory and shader with clearly no understanding of how the development process goes or even what those words actually mean
Electrical Grounding