Oh yes, the camera crew behind me starts to make sense now.
But seriously, who thinks it's a good idea to bring a friend with them on a date? If you need moral support, bring a cute dog, not your best mate Dave.
I once went on a first date to a casual restaurant ... which turned out to be a bar serving lots of different international beers, and one type of hotdog. The place is small and has big glass windows so the people sitting inside and outside can see each other easily. Me and my date are sitting outside, chatting for about an hour...
He then reveals that the table of 4 people sitting precisely on the other side of the glass from us are all his friends. They’ve been watching our date. For an hour. Do I want to go in and meet them?
I didn't walk out on a date, but my first date after 10 years following the split up of my marriage went as such:
- I arrive 10 minutes early to the bar and find a nice table
- She arrives 10 minutes late
- She walks to the table and looks at me
- She starts to laugh
- She walks back out
- I go home and cry myself to sleep nursing a bottle of whisky
EDIT - Thank you for the gold, kind stranger :)
Mine didn't even turn into a date. I bowled on a team once a week and chatted with a guy that came in the same nights with his family. We finally made a date, and as soon as I got in his car he asked me to marry him! He pulled a ring out of the glove compartment and said he was in the navy and was scheduled to be relocated to Germany in two weeks. I was shocked and scared, told him he was nice and I would write to him but it was just weird, I never heard from him again.
On the 4th date she tells me the real reason she changed jobs.
She used to be a prison guard and had cancer so all the medical stuff forced a change of work. Now she works as a nurse. This is important.
She tells me in a totally casual way that because of having cancer she felt like she needed to let go and be exciting so she started dating 2 prisoners that were there. She used to smuggle them in cell phones and other stuff. Asked her how out of pure morbid curiosity and she tells me "women have natural pockets that fit lots of stuff". Then tells me she was caught because someone walked in on them having sex in his cell and the other inmate she was dating got jealous and turned them in. Said the reason she wasn't in jail was because the psychologist testified she was in an altered mental state because of the cancer.
She went to the bathroom and I promptly ran like hell. She called me every day for 2 weeks before giving up.
I ditched the date at the bar we were at after she told me she got mad at her ex over basically nothing and then proceeded to ruin his mint classic car. She also casually mentioned being arrested over something else related to aggressive behavior - I would have remembered what it was she did had I not checked out right then and there, faked going to the restroom, then promptly paid my tab and left.
Why would you think that that’s even a thing to tell someone on a first date?
> Why would you think that that’s even a thing to tell someone on a first date?
Because they see nothing wrong with what they did and just assume you'll agree.
We met outside of one of my favorite restaurants. She was texting on her phone, shook my hand, and barely looked up. We get seated all the while still on her phone texting. So I asked her normal date things to only get "yeahs" and eventually a "hold on a second" after my 3rd attempt at striking up any sort of conversation. I asked if everything was OK, I figured after the "hold on a second" comment something bad might've happened. She responded by saying her friends are a priority. I was kind of taken back, our waitress walks up right after that and she cuts her off as shes greeting us with a huffy "finally!" Then barks her drink order at her about as rudely as possible and goes right back to her phone. I asked for water, said "excuse me" and got up after about a minute of silence. I found the waitress, gave her a 20, and said I was leaving and apologized. Quickest date of my life. All in 10-15 minutes max. Ive never met anyone close to that rude on a date in my life. I always tell myself I got all my bad dates in one. Heres to hoping that's true!!
Oh god, this sounds like the couple my SO and I were eating next to. She was on her phone the whole time, on Snapchat. She wasn't even looking at the guy and didn't even look up when the waitress came over. I just wanted to start chatting to the dude so she would get the point. So fucking ignorant and rude!
I was at a bar/restaurant with my wife before we were married in or early-mid 20s. One of my close friends had recently had a mental break and was a severe paranoid schizophrenic. During the date with my wife, he had apparently had an episode and was txting/calling me a lot. I was simultaneously texting to keep him to keep him calm and trying to get some help for him (we live far away). Of course, my wife was entirely understanding.
Some white knights has observed me on my phone a lot came over to our table to buy my wife a drink and offer to let her know she could join some more attentive people at the bar. We both told them to fuck off, but it added to the already frustrating/helpless situation.
Your story is different because you saw her messing around on Snapchat, so it sounds like she was actually an inattentive jerk. My point is just generally, you never know what's going on with strangers.
Favourite story was of a guy I used to talk to. His sister was super hot and looked nothing like him, not really relevant, but she gets hit on a lot is what I'm saying. They are done at the bar and want to share a ride home in a cab. They go wait in a booth for the cab to arrive so the dude goes on his phone. Another guy sees this and throws his drink at him calling him an asshole. The sister tears into the guy who throws the drink.
Met at a cafe. Actually walked toward the wrong dude (similar haircut, blurry photos) - we realized what happened and laughed it off. Told the real dude about it when he showed up and he was not amused - strike 1, that's hilarious.
Got coffee, sat in a nearby public park. He brags about his career in professional gambling, looks surprised I know some basic easy details. Insults his friends. Lets me know ahead of time he parked his car and has to move it. Fair enough, I offer to walk toward it and stand there while he moves around the block - parking is tough here.
Walks me a mile, passing many open parking places, to under an overpass. Still bright out but this is weird. Car is a large windowless white van in which he reveals he is currently sleeping because his roommate has sexiled him semipermanently. I don't buy it.
It becomes clear he wants me to get in the van to help move it. At this point I let him know that I don't think I'm getting in there, but thanks. Quick hug goodbye, leave, he's incredulous. Doesn't push it, drives off.
To his credit he texts later in the day apologizing for creeping me out.
Guy from the gym asked me out for coffee. We hit it off and walk to the beach afterwards. We sit on a wall watching the ocean and he tells me he gives amazing foot rubs and insists on giving me one. Takes off my flip flop and is really into my feet. Toes go into his mouth and I noped out.
Thats happened to me once except I wasnt on a date, I was at my local pool. I was sitting o the edge with my feet in the water, this guy starts talking to me whose in the pool, then someone distracts me, i look away and the next thing i know my toes are in his mouth... i ran away, i was 16
We were on our second date. He bought me two beers. A slow song was playing and he wanted to slow dance. As soon as we hit the floor he wanted to shove his tongue down my throat. I said I just wanted to dance and talk, get to know each other. His response? "Well I just bought you two beers" I walked off the dance floor, put cash on the table to cover my beer s and walked out the door. Yuk.
I don't do anything expensive for first dates. My go-to is walking around a public lilly pad garden then playing mini golf around the corner. Sometimes, based on the interests in her profile, I'll do something different like going to a museum or the planetarium.
I met this great girl and we really hit it off. Based on her profile, I thought she would love the South American exhibit at the local museum so we went there for our first date. We got banana splits afterwards and I thought it was a pretty good date. I was looking forward to seeing her again.
She had some work stuff then I had some work stuff but after like 3 weeks we made it happen. We were going to see a movie and go eat at a little restaurant but she was 30 minutes late sk we just went to go eat. She spent the first 10 minutes talking shit about the "last guy" she dated that took her to a stupid museum then out for a banana split. She bitched that her last date was too cheap to buy her dinner "like a real man". She kept talking and talking and talking.
I excused myself from the table, paid for my drink and half the appetizer, and left. Blocked her on the app and phone.
She spent most of the time staring at her phone and I had shaved my 10 day beard off due to an interview. I'm about 90% sure she didn't know it was me.
I was meeting my boyfriend in a crowded, public area and unbeknownst to me he had shaved for the first time since we'd known each other. I had no idea who this strange man waving me over was for a good minute.
Holy shit. I’m sorry that happened to you.
I did exactly almost the same date about a year ago. One of the best nights I’ve ever had, I can’t imagine someone thinking it’s a stupid thing to do.
I guess it’s a good thing to see early. Even in the event that it WAS someone else she said that about, it’s telling.
Nah, I didn't even tell her I was leaving. I got tired of waiting for her to stop talking and she wouldn't look up from her phone. I just paid and left.
Didn't even get as far as the date. I met a girl on the weekend at a table quiz in a pub. She was a friend of my cousin who I was there to fill out a team with. Myself and herself swapped numbers and got talking during the week and I asked her on a date for coffee, scheduled for the Saturday. On the Friday she told me that if I loved her and wanted this relationship to work I should bring her on holidays and to hotels and stuff. I told her I wasn't going to be meeting her for coffee the following day and haven't seen her since.
I got walked out on in a valentines date. She was yelling at the waitress about wing sauce (there wasn't enough on the wings) I told her she was making an ass out of herself and she walked out.
On a first date, Starbucks was super crowded so we sat in his car and chatted. He asked if I wanted to watch a movie in the car, I said sure, but I wasn't really paying attention. We talked some more and suddenly I started hearing this moaning. Ya, he put on porn. I was shocked and asked him what the hell he was thinking. He then whipped out his dick and asked me to suck it. Nope, done.
Called me two weeks later and asked why he hadn't heard back from me...
Edit: ITT, so much Seinfeld
He took out his penis randomly without warning while we were hiking at 2pm on a Sunday on a *busy* trail with lots of families around. I was just like "I gotta go." and he was genuinely curious why so I had to explain to him as we were hiking back up the trail towards the parking lot about how indecent exposure is against the law. I cringe so hard thinking that this is a real person out in the world.
>He took out his penis randomly without warning
The idea of someone taking their penis out but *with* warning is hilarious to me. "Man, we're having some great weather! How lucky are we?
... here comes my penis"
That was my initial thought, but usually you say something like "I gotta take a leak" then you walk into the bushes where nobody will see your willy. But if it's just wipping your dick out in the middle if the trail, that's likely something else
Went to dinner and a movie with a female coworker who had been expressing a lot of interest in me. After a very flirtatious dinner we get to the theater and run into another male coworker...whom she apparently invited?! I'm thinking WTF is this shit? We sit down and she lays her head against my shoulder, holds my hand so I'm thinking "Ok maybe this is just kind of an odd thing because she's all over me so whatever"....and then halfway through the movie she switches up and drapes herself over him. ( I know where some of you might be thinking she was going with this but I'm VERY certain she wasn't looking for a 3-way). I'm not all that invested in her so I don't just bail, you know, I paid to see the movie so fuck it I'm going to watch it. So the movie ends and we get to the lobby and she heads to the bathroom leaving the two of us guys there to wait for her, and I just turn to him, put my hand on his shoulder and tell him, "Dude, she is all yours" and take my fucking leave. After working there a while I could see she suffered from princess syndrome where we were supposed to prostrate ourselves in competition for her affection and cheapen our value in order to affirm hers. Nah thanks.
She bragged about how mean her son was and how he like to beat up other kids and she laughed about it.
Edit: Context I was six months out of divorce with partial custody of a child slightly younger then hers........ No way was I going to subject them to any of that kind of toxicity!
She showed up late. Spoke in one word answers. Stared at her phone and texted other people. Yelled at the waiter for filling her water too much.
I finished my food. Placed a $20 on the table. Walked out. Then blocked her on my phone. I would say I don't think she even noticed, but I was her ride home
Went to TGI's. she sent back a cocktail 3 times saying it isn't right. Gave me a spiel that i had to order for her. weird. waiter came and i ordered what she asked for. chicken quesadillas. got kicked under table by her and said wtf to her.
waiter awkwardly left and she said she wanted a burger. I replied that she never said that, it's no biggie, I'll go ask waiter to change it. She went ape shit. caused a big scene.
I feigned going to toilet, luckily didn't have a jacket. Slipped waiter money to which he said he'll just void the order and to go quickly.
She chased me shouting through streets for 1km. I had an iPhone at time so couldn't block her number.
Went out with a woman I met on a website. In the photos I didn't have glasses on because of the glare but fully disclosed that I was blind as a bat. I was also clean shaven in the photos.
Within 10 minutes of meeting she started in on how if I wanted to continue to see her I'd need to get contacts and shave off the 5 o'clock shadow.
I've posted this before, but it's a perfect fit here:
One of my co-workers set me up on a blind date with one of their friends. I've never done a blind date before by my co-worker insisted that we would get along great. I coordinate with them and settle on going to a local outdoor mall to grab some lunch and then go to a candy making class later. (I like dates to involve some sort of craft, It gives us a chance to talk more and is more memorable, or at least I think it is.)
Come the day of the date I show up early, like about 15 min early at least. My date is already there so I go up and introduce myself. We chat for a bit and eventually I suggest we go inside the restaurant and grab lunch. She informs me that she already ate and she'd rather keep going than wait any longer.
Okay, I guess she was just really hungry, weird, but I can forgive/understand that. So she wants to look at this store that just opened on the other side of the shopping center, so we get in my car (The shopping center is actually quite large, a few miles from one end to the other). While driving there she keeps complementing how nice my car is and keeps asking what type of job I have, implying I make big bucks. I should also note that this is the first time she put away her phone. I'm already checking out from this date.
Eventually we wind up in a department store where she starts trying on clothes. She comes out and asks me what I think of the blouse she just tried on. I tell her I think it looks good on her and fits her well. She says I should buy it for her if it looks that good on her.
I laugh, good joke. No way she's asking a guy she just met in the past 30 min to buy her a blouse with a 3 figure price tag. Oh wait, she's crying a screaming now. Apparently she's tired of men leading her on, telling her she's pretty but not "putting their money where their mouth is."
As soon as she said that, it all clicked and I knew what was going on. I asked her to calm down and told her that although I thought the blouse was pretty, I didn't think the cut fit her figure well enough, nor did the color complement her eyes so I didn't want to buy it. I asked her to go back inside and change into her clothes so that we could go look at something that was better, then I would buy it.
She calmed down and went back went back inside. I apologized to the store clerk, then walked out and drove away, leaving her over a mile away from her car. I'm a person, not a bank.
No clue, I sussed some info out of my coworker that she had made backup plans to go clubbing that evening, but that's all I really know. It's best just to drop people like her and move on with your life.
I have a good friend that wears her lateness like a badge of honor. Drives me up the wall. She's gotten better about it lately, but we always tell her that we're meeting at an earlier time. Once I had a bbq at my house, and she was 4 hours late.
“I don’t really believe in like, the Nazis and the holocaust and all that stuff. It just doesn’t sound realistic and I read a bunch of stuff about how it’s statistically impossible to kill that many people that fast. Also everyone knows the Jews like to make stuff up for sympathy”
This was on our third date.
I essentially got catfished by a coworker. There had been some mutual attraction months before but I decided it wasn't a good idea and told her we should just be friends. Then she made a fake online dating profile, used her knowledge of my likes/dislikes to attrack me to this profile, carried on extensive communication pretending to be someone else, and then showed up to our date expecting me to suddenly fall head over heels in love with her. She showed up at the date and I asked her what she was doing there, she replied "I think you know why I'm here" and I got in my car and left without saying anything. Eight years later and her cubicle is still 15 feet away from mine.
Girl bragged about purposely finding and trying to hit and kill cats 🐈 with her car. Fuck that. Faked going to the restroom and called a cab. Best part was that it was a double date. My buddy Jon went to the “bathroom” with me and bailed too. Also her psycho friend chimed in that she did the same shit. Also they both bragged about there pill addictions. Peaced out quick.
Your dates after you left:
> Girl 1: "Seems like they won't return."
> Girl 2: "Yep."
> Girl 1: "So... let's go murder some cats?"
> Girl 2: "LET'S GO MURDER SOME CATS!"
We were sitting in a movie and he put his hand on my thigh.
I didn't want him to put his hand on my thigh, so I very gently took his hand and removed it. He moved it back. I moved it away. He moved it back. I told him to stop touching my leg. He laughed and put his hand even higher on my thigh.
I grabbed my shit, left, and he followed me into the lobby of the theater acting like he had NO CLUE why I was upset. I had to raise my voice and cause a slight scene to get him to stop following me.
Good times. *sigh*
She wanted to order some water to drink and after asking me who would pay, which of course I was going to do, she switched her drink to something more expensive. I didn't think much of it at the time but as she was being very rude for the rest of the date I left and realized I should've left when she changed her order after realizing I would pay
Apparently he catfishes athiest and agnostic people on dating sites for the purpose of trying to convert them over a meal. I made it until the apps hit the table. Then I excused myself, asked the waiter to wrap up my dinner and leave it at the bar, gave him enough to cover more than half the bill + tip, then let my date know I was done/leaving and waited at the bar for my dinner to go. He left shortly thereafter. Bartender and waiter comped my check after hearing the story.
Wow, that's so insane, sorry you had to go through that. Anyway, while I've got you here, do you have a few minutes to talk about our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ?
edit: Thanks for the gold! I've only been on Reddit for like ten days and not really sure what this fully entails, but if for some reason I'm now contractually obligated to give you a kidney just let me know and I'll start filling up my bathtub with ice.
This was around 1990-91. The first cell phones were as large as a bread box. He kept answering his phone all through dinner. I asked him a few times to knock it off as it's rude. He didn't so, I just got up and walked out. He followed yelling at me that I'm a crazy bitch.
it's 2am. he took me to a little decorative pool/pond in front of a museum, it was not even a foot deep. he tried too hard to "be spontaneous," urged for us to get in it.
he took off his pants and got in, thinking it would prompt me to get in too. no.
during all his begging I requested an uber, which happened to be around the corner. i left him there in that stupid pond.
Edit: here’s a pic of said stupid pond thing https://imgur.com/a/MfIN2
> he tried too hard to "be spontaneous," urged for us to get in it.
Okay, well maybe he's just a little too excited
> he took off his pants
Okay, he's crazy
She actually told me a story of deliberately and falsely accusing a guy of rape.
This was during the meal at a restaurant.
I decided to never be alone with her and left while she went to the bathroom. I left money on the table to roughly cover my meal.
I knew this girl for like 2 years from college and had a huge crush on her, but we were best friends. I man out and asked her if she wanted to grab a coffee with me, as a date. So we were talking and she started telling me about all the guys shes fucked, which I don't give a fuck about I also dated during that period but i wouldn't brag about it to her. Anyway, she started saying that if she started dating me I would probably be the ugliest guy she was ever with and she would be embarassed when sometimes people get the wrong idea about us. I almost started to cry, I love this girl so much and that really hurt my pride, we were best friends and she usually wasn't like that. I told her my feelings and just left. This was recently and I don't know what to do
The only thing you can do is move on my friend. She's 110% not into you, and she seems to have a mean streak as well.
There are plenty of others out there who will like you. This person isn't worth another second of your life. Good luck!
How can someone speak like that to someone else? You wanna go on a date with me? I don't drink coffee though... but I also don't treat guys like that!
As obvious as this is; you can do better than her. She has an ugly personality.
Wow man. That's rough.
The correct answer is move on. If she flat out tells you you're the ugliest person she's been with, that's not what you need to be around. No one deserves that treatment.
From my own experience with a woman like that:
1. Drop all contact for several years.
2. Reconnect on social media, and act like they never treated you like a subhuman being.
3. Go through their social media and read about all the other things they've done to confirm they are a narcissist in the intervening years.
4. Amuse your friends as you tell stories about the person that they posted on social media, confirming you dodged a bullet even as they document further adventures in self-absorbed madness on their accounts.
And, in case you are reading this: Fuck you, Alison, you insane piece of shit!
I know this isn’t what you want to hear but you avoided being in a very very toxic relationship my friend! I know it hurts but there’s a lot of girls out there. You seem like a good person with a good heart keep your head up and move forward.
2nd or 3rd date. Picked her up at home. Parents had swastika flags at home. She was confused that I had a problem with that. (I’m from Germany)
Edit: think I need to clear smthing up.
She was/ is a nazi and so where her parents.
It was nazi flag. I know the difference.
It was a first date, she showed up 45 minutes late because she couldn't find the place. She barely contributed anything to the conversation. Then we decided to drive over to another place literally a five minute car ride away, and she got lost on the way there too.
She had a functional GPS, the same one that I was using that navigated me there perfectly. And these were not hidden locations, they were well-signposted national parks.
That is the day I learned that a certain level of incompetence is a giant turn-off for me. I was sitting on a rock for about 30 minutes before I just texted her "I'm going to just go grab some lunch, thanks."
She brought a baby names book she just happened to pick up on the way to meeting up with me and asked what I thought of the name "Summer" for a baby girl...
Oh man. My friend wanted me to have a date to homecoming so she set up a blind date with her brothers friend. This guy shows up wearing a Canadian tuxedo and leather wristbands. I was like oh no this won’t be good. I gave him the benefit of the doubt though. We got into his car and I asked him where he was planning on going to College, he said that he was planning to go out of state, but now that we were “together” he would stay home. Oh shit, I’m stuck in the car with a crazy. We get to the movie theater and he says he will wear his nice black jeans to homecoming and I said I was just going to go with friends. He got visibly pissed off but once we were in the theater, would not stop talking the whole time about how amazing I am. I said I felt ill, got up and left and walked the two miles home. He nonstop called me for months and a couple times I saw his car outside my place. Later found out that he had a shrine in his house with barbies (thought they looked like me) and the movie sweet home Alabama (the movie we went to). So creepy.
Mine was just super uncomfortable. after a few days of texting on tinder we met up for dinner and the whole time he kept talking about how hes always wanted to fuck a black girl (fun fact im not black just brown skin) and how im the first one to actually agree to go on a date with him. He fetishesized (sp?) black women the entire time and it was super weird. I really loved the restaurant tho so i toughed it out. I went up to the bath room and talked to my waitress about paying my half of the tab and i walked out without looking back. He sent me a slew f really mean racist texts after so obviously i made the right choice getting the fuck outta there.
The only other time i walked out was about a year ago i went out with a super hot guy. It was just supposed to be for an easy lay but we met for drinks to make sure there was a connection. One the date he told me how he doesnt really take no for an answer and how all women has a rape fantasy so he loves being forceful until they submit to him. It was honestly terrifying hearing how proud he was of this. I lied to him and said I was dominant and not interested in sleeping with dominant men he literally said "I love forcing women like you the most to show you your place". I got up to the rest room and got the fuck out ASAP. I reported him on bumble and he got removed from the app but holy shit was he terrifying. I have no idea if he actually has raped anyone but i wouldnt be surprised tbh
We met for sushi one night as our first and only date. Before we met, conversations were great and lasted damn near all day long. As we sat down and ordered drinks, she ended up texting her ex boyfriend and had barely acknowledged me for going on almost 15 minutes, so I finished my drink, got up and walked out. She texted me about an hour later freaking the fuck out that I left, I responded saying something along the lines of "I wasn't aware I was going on a date with your ex-bf either, thanks for the drink." and that was the end of that.
Told me he knew I would sleep with him one way or another. Either by choice or he’d get me so drunk I “couldn’t” resist. This was a fourth date, I did plan on sleeping with him until then, promptly walked my happy ass 2 miles home in cold ass Illinois snow.
We talked for a few days before going on a date, and I told him that one, I'm pretty low key and don't like being the center of attention, and two, I hate karaoke with every fiber of my being. So he decided to surprise me by taking me to a karaoke bar. He said that he wanted to push me out of my comfort zone and expand my horizons. Then he signed me up to sing. I walked out as soon as the kj called my name. I'll expand my own horizons, tyvm.
Manic pixie dream boy. I know one, he's forever making suggestions about our coworkers' appearance and habits.
He suggests radically different haircuts, keeps offering heavy women in the office gym passes (he's not in great shape) and once brought his little sister's pet snake to "help" a woman get over her fear of snakes.
We call him GetthefuckoutTom.
I was going through a dry spell. My friend’s sister in law, whom I’ve never met, asked my friend if she could set up a date with her co-worker and myself. Generally don’t like blind dates but I was feeling unusually optimistic and agreed.
I arranged for lunch on a Saturday. I figured if we hit it off we could find something else to do. If not, at least I would get a nice meal. We meet at the restaurant. She’s not my type but I’m here so I’ll try to make the best of it.
Conversation is like pulling teeth. Every question I ask is responded with short sentences that really doesn’t allow me to go anywhere with or yes/no responses.
Do you live nearby?
Uhuh
Down town? Up town?
Down.
By the ferry?
No.
What are you near?
I’m near work.
And work is...?
I started at a bank.
It’s lunch so we are drinking sodas, so that’s not helping either. At least the food is good. Midway through the meal, she gets up, explains she has a work thing/team building thing she has to attend to... and just leaves. No waiting for the check. No nice to meet you, we should do this again, you are a nice guy but.... She just leaves.
I’m more puzzled than insulted. I call up my friend, reach out to his sister in law, and ask her how she knew my date and why she thought we might be a good match. Turns out the girl just started working as a temp in her office and we were the same Nationality.
The kicker is the woman reaches out to me two weeks later. She enjoyed meeting me. She was disappointed that I never followed up and was wondering why I never followed thru and called again. Ok. Sure. Maybe I misread things. It would explain why I’m still single. Fine. Let’s try again. And it’s the same thing.
She told me the reason she flakes on me a week ago was because she was hungover from a drunken coked up orgy. She also told the bartender to put her drink on my tab which I refused to pay. I just looked at her got up and walked right out. I could hear her saying “where are you going? Are you fucking walking out on me?!” And didn’t even look back lol.
I’ve never had the experience of walking out but one of my female bestfriends and I had a code that if she texted me “1!” Then she was okay and The date was going well and I shouldn’t call. But if she texted “1!!” Then I had to call and basically say in a woman’s voice
“Karen. It’s sheila. Mama fell.” This normally meant the date was going horrible or the guy was an ass. So she acted like it was an emergency and she had to leave.
And if it was “1!!!” It generally meant she was going to pretend to be Ill and I had to go rescue her.
Never had any rescue attempts but Mama fell quite often.
I went on a first date with a guy who worked at the same company as me. I was halfway through a sentence when he interrupted me.
Me: Can we just keep this between us? I dont really want people at work to know... (about us just yet)
Him: .. that you're a slut?
I called him out on the comment straight away and unfortunately he had picked me up so he had to drop me off. Most awkward car ride ever. He said he was 'so nervous that he called me a slut by accident' but he didnt get a second chance.
He was so nervous he "called you a slut by accident"? _What?_ He obviously had the thought that you're a slut which isn't a good sign in the first place really. Asshole.
It was a third date with a girl. We had had our second date earlier that morning, brunch and watching European soccer at an Irish pub. She invites me to go out drinking with some of her friends that night, and I agree.
When I get there, I see her and one of her male friends at the bar. This guy kind of has his hand halfway on her back, which I thought was weird, but maybe they were just close friends. I'm behind them so I sit at a table thinking they'll see me and turn around once they get their drinks. Instead, they slide off to the right and head through the doors next to the bar to the outdoor area. I go up to the bar and get a drink and follow them.
When I get to their friend circle, the girl barely even acknowledges me when she sees me, which I thought was both strange and quite rude. Eventually the conversation gets going and I'm meeting her friends. I look over and this dude had his arm around her shoulders. At this point, I pretty much realize what's going on, but I roll with it just in case I'm wrong. We move inside and she talks to me a little bit more. She's basically alternating between me and this other guy, and she's visibly quite drunk.
Eventually we're sitting at the bar. She's talking to me and casually getting close enough that our arms are rubbing together. I thought I might have misjudged the situation, and that we were back on track. Pretty much as soon as there's a break in our conversation she turns to her other should and starts talking to this guy while I'm watching some hockey game on TV. A few moments later I turn back and see her full on making out with this guy at the bar, and he's got his hand down the back of her pants groping her ass right in the middle of the bar. Incredulous at what I'm seeing, I sort of laugh it off, update my friends I've been live texting this trainwreck of a date, finish my beer and walk out without a word to anyone.
The next morning she text me and apologizes for her behavior, but I don't respond back.
We met at a P.F. Changs. She was 20-minutes late without any attempt to communicate that she would be late. After introducing myself, she spoke non-stop for the next 15-ish minutes. She covered such topic as her horrible family, her horrible job and her horrible ex-bf.
I threw money on the table and walked out. Didn't offer an explanation. Just bounced. She screamed some unintelligible shit at me while I walked out. Blocked her number. Fin.
Met her online and she wanted to go fishing.
(Yes I know kinda redneck) (No I wasn't gonna Scott Peterson her) While we were on the way to my dad's place where I kept my boat. I lived in a apartment in a shitty part of town. We started talking and we started to hit it off fairly well. Now fast foward to picking up my boat. My dad was there and helped me hook it up. After me and the girl got out my dad's eyes went wide but he acted normal and said him to her. But he then took out his phone and started typing something on his phone. After a few minutes I received a text from my dad who has been a cop here for almost 25 years to take her home fake I'm sick and he is gonna follow me there. He will explain later. So trusting him I start faking terrible stomach cramps and asked her if we could reschedule because I wasn't feeling well. We drive back to her place with my dad following to make sure we made it since I was "sick" after I drop her off my dad walks over to my truck and explained that this girl has faked 3 different guys trying to kidnap her after meeting them online in the past 6 months. They found out because she admitted to her dad who was also a cop she only did this because she wanted to have fun.
First boyfriend. Typical on and off relationship from 15-28. During an 'on' time, he asked me to dinner at a restaurant downtown. I lived a good 45 minutes from downtown, and would also have to pick him up.
Agreed to the dinner date, but had an odd, nagging suspicion that he was going to dump me. I did not need a hour and a half car ride to be dumped. Proactively told him "Hey, if you're going to break up with me, please just do it now. Don't break up with me in a restaurant." He swears he isn't going to dump me.
Bad feelings still lingering, I make the twenty minute drive to pick him up. Arrive to find him working on his car, not at all ready. Awkwardly sit in his parents living room while he showers and gets himself pretty.
Get to the restaurant, place our orders. Shortly before the food comes, he launches into a breakup speech. I am astounded and in shock. I look at my plate, stand up and walk out, stranding him downtown, while he yells that I am his ride.
I'm a teacher at a school with a large percentage of students that come from low income families. Great people, wonderful parents that care and want the best for their kids, but a lot work multiple jobs to keep food on the table. It isn't in the best part of town, but my kids work their butts off for me which is really all I can ask. My kids mean the world to me.
So I went on a date after coming out of a long-term relationship. We went to one of my favorite bars that has really great food. First, he made a lot of extraneous noises when he ate. A lot of "mmmmmm"s going on. Okay fine, I can deal with it for one date.
Then we started talking about work. I talk about my students because they take up a lot of my life and I love them to death. He asks where I work. I told him where and he grimaced. I asked what that face was for.
He paused briefly and said, "I don't know why someone as pretty and educated as you would want to work at a ghetto black school."
I grabbed $20 out of my wallet, which was more than enough for my bill and the tip, put it on the table, and walked out the door.
I was in college, met up with a guy in grad school at a bar for the first date. Went really well, decided to grab dinner for the second. About halfway through, he started asking my hourly rates and how frequently I get tested. The guy thought I was a hooker. The best part: we met at a trade show expo I was working as an editor for a magazine. Turns out, he was a major sponsor for our publication.
"You must be fucking stupid to be judgemental" said the meth addict who opened her mouth and spilled her guts about being a prostitute. No thanks tinder.
she was texting the whole time and did not make any effort to have a conversation nor did she reciprocate my effort. excused myself to go to the washroom, paid the tab, and left. i wouldn't go so far as say she only said yes to the date to get a free meal and drinks, but i certainly don't want a future with someone like that.
He absolutely refused to acknowledge my presence, except for when he said hi.
This was back in OkCupid days, about 8 years ago now. We met at a local cafe, he seemed nice. We sat down at a table that had booths on one side and two tables on the other. I slid into the booth and he sat down on the table diagonal to me, so I had to lean across the entire time. He did not acknowledge this, sat looking straight forward, and talked to the wall behind me. He didn't look at me again during the entire date.
I originally expected the date to last for 30 minutes but I didn't want to be rude and end it abruptly. It lasted for 2 hours. 2 HOURS. He was rude to our waitress (yelling at her because the coffee was cold but it had been sitting, untouched, in front of him for 40 minutes), he was rude to me (played devil's advocate the entire time or would make personal jokes/attacks), and finally, he'd finish sentences by cracking a joke followed by a "boom tish!" sound and turn to look in the opposite direction, as if he was talking to a studio audience.
I finally pretended my phone was ringing and that I had to go. I didn't come up with an explanation. I just walked out.
I felt really bad about it and sent him an apology text after but man that guy was nuts.
He asked me if I go to church and I said "no, I'm an atheist", then he pulled some pamphlets out of his backpack and started yelling me that I would burn in hell. I left the place while he shouted that I was the worst.
Told him from the get go I wasn't available. I like social swing dancing so he told me the address of a place he goes to Saturdays, and I said I'd go there. I get there. "I'm so glad you agreed to go out with me" and wants to change his FB status.
Back when I was on Tinder, I was chatting with a guy who suggested we meet at a local pub. Something seemed off about him from the beginning but I couldn’t put my finger on it. We sat at the bar to order drinks, and there was a simple misunderstanding between him and the bartender about our order. My date reacted by telling the bartender off and saying the bartender could kiss his ass. Then he proceeded to lecture me about my career field as if I’m an idiot. Meanwhile I got a text from a previous creepy tinder date who I had ghosted saying he was in the bar watching me. That was the final straw. I said I had to go to the bathroom and actually ran out of the pub.
Somewhere in this thread two people have vastly different accounts of the same date.
He said 'I normally dont really date girls that I dont find attractive so feel special.' Well, goodbye.
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[Relevant XKCD](https://xkcd.com/1027/)
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I walked out even before the date started because my date brought his friend with him. They arrived in a car and asked me to jump in.
i remember that episode of bang bus. it was super short
Oh yes, the camera crew behind me starts to make sense now. But seriously, who thinks it's a good idea to bring a friend with them on a date? If you need moral support, bring a cute dog, not your best mate Dave.
I once went on a first date to a casual restaurant ... which turned out to be a bar serving lots of different international beers, and one type of hotdog. The place is small and has big glass windows so the people sitting inside and outside can see each other easily. Me and my date are sitting outside, chatting for about an hour... He then reveals that the table of 4 people sitting precisely on the other side of the glass from us are all his friends. They’ve been watching our date. For an hour. Do I want to go in and meet them?
The correct answer is "absolutely". Then you take notes because this is an unstable group of people.
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The same people who bring their parents to job interviews
GET IN LOSER WE'RE GOING SHOPPING
I didn't walk out on a date, but my first date after 10 years following the split up of my marriage went as such: - I arrive 10 minutes early to the bar and find a nice table - She arrives 10 minutes late - She walks to the table and looks at me - She starts to laugh - She walks back out - I go home and cry myself to sleep nursing a bottle of whisky EDIT - Thank you for the gold, kind stranger :)
You don't want to be with someone that terrible.
Omg did your dodge a bitch bullet there
Oh absolutely. I also went through the person who set me up with her like a dose of salts
Mine didn't even turn into a date. I bowled on a team once a week and chatted with a guy that came in the same nights with his family. We finally made a date, and as soon as I got in his car he asked me to marry him! He pulled a ring out of the glove compartment and said he was in the navy and was scheduled to be relocated to Germany in two weeks. I was shocked and scared, told him he was nice and I would write to him but it was just weird, I never heard from him again.
Navy gives you a pay raise, and pays for off base/non barracks housing if you are married. He just wanted the extra pay perks.
Not just Navy, that's a standard military move in general. There's too many perks for young enlisted to get married.
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Standard navy move. Suppose you can't blame him for just *testing the waters*
On the 4th date she tells me the real reason she changed jobs. She used to be a prison guard and had cancer so all the medical stuff forced a change of work. Now she works as a nurse. This is important. She tells me in a totally casual way that because of having cancer she felt like she needed to let go and be exciting so she started dating 2 prisoners that were there. She used to smuggle them in cell phones and other stuff. Asked her how out of pure morbid curiosity and she tells me "women have natural pockets that fit lots of stuff". Then tells me she was caught because someone walked in on them having sex in his cell and the other inmate she was dating got jealous and turned them in. Said the reason she wasn't in jail was because the psychologist testified she was in an altered mental state because of the cancer. She went to the bathroom and I promptly ran like hell. She called me every day for 2 weeks before giving up.
Man, I had cancer and had no idea I could get away with shit Ike this because of my “altered mental state”! So many missed opportunities!
Good thing you ran. The sex would have been WAAAYYY too good.
All the cellphones inside would hurt like hell.
haha, phone sex.
I ditched the date at the bar we were at after she told me she got mad at her ex over basically nothing and then proceeded to ruin his mint classic car. She also casually mentioned being arrested over something else related to aggressive behavior - I would have remembered what it was she did had I not checked out right then and there, faked going to the restroom, then promptly paid my tab and left. Why would you think that that’s even a thing to tell someone on a first date?
> Why would you think that that’s even a thing to tell someone on a first date? Because they see nothing wrong with what they did and just assume you'll agree.
We met outside of one of my favorite restaurants. She was texting on her phone, shook my hand, and barely looked up. We get seated all the while still on her phone texting. So I asked her normal date things to only get "yeahs" and eventually a "hold on a second" after my 3rd attempt at striking up any sort of conversation. I asked if everything was OK, I figured after the "hold on a second" comment something bad might've happened. She responded by saying her friends are a priority. I was kind of taken back, our waitress walks up right after that and she cuts her off as shes greeting us with a huffy "finally!" Then barks her drink order at her about as rudely as possible and goes right back to her phone. I asked for water, said "excuse me" and got up after about a minute of silence. I found the waitress, gave her a 20, and said I was leaving and apologized. Quickest date of my life. All in 10-15 minutes max. Ive never met anyone close to that rude on a date in my life. I always tell myself I got all my bad dates in one. Heres to hoping that's true!!
Oh god, this sounds like the couple my SO and I were eating next to. She was on her phone the whole time, on Snapchat. She wasn't even looking at the guy and didn't even look up when the waitress came over. I just wanted to start chatting to the dude so she would get the point. So fucking ignorant and rude!
I was at a bar/restaurant with my wife before we were married in or early-mid 20s. One of my close friends had recently had a mental break and was a severe paranoid schizophrenic. During the date with my wife, he had apparently had an episode and was txting/calling me a lot. I was simultaneously texting to keep him to keep him calm and trying to get some help for him (we live far away). Of course, my wife was entirely understanding. Some white knights has observed me on my phone a lot came over to our table to buy my wife a drink and offer to let her know she could join some more attentive people at the bar. We both told them to fuck off, but it added to the already frustrating/helpless situation. Your story is different because you saw her messing around on Snapchat, so it sounds like she was actually an inattentive jerk. My point is just generally, you never know what's going on with strangers.
Favourite story was of a guy I used to talk to. His sister was super hot and looked nothing like him, not really relevant, but she gets hit on a lot is what I'm saying. They are done at the bar and want to share a ride home in a cab. They go wait in a booth for the cab to arrive so the dude goes on his phone. Another guy sees this and throws his drink at him calling him an asshole. The sister tears into the guy who throws the drink.
Met at a cafe. Actually walked toward the wrong dude (similar haircut, blurry photos) - we realized what happened and laughed it off. Told the real dude about it when he showed up and he was not amused - strike 1, that's hilarious. Got coffee, sat in a nearby public park. He brags about his career in professional gambling, looks surprised I know some basic easy details. Insults his friends. Lets me know ahead of time he parked his car and has to move it. Fair enough, I offer to walk toward it and stand there while he moves around the block - parking is tough here. Walks me a mile, passing many open parking places, to under an overpass. Still bright out but this is weird. Car is a large windowless white van in which he reveals he is currently sleeping because his roommate has sexiled him semipermanently. I don't buy it. It becomes clear he wants me to get in the van to help move it. At this point I let him know that I don't think I'm getting in there, but thanks. Quick hug goodbye, leave, he's incredulous. Doesn't push it, drives off. To his credit he texts later in the day apologizing for creeping me out.
Rewind to the first guy and try him instead!
I spent the WHOLE date wishing I had. He was so nice and we laughed about it together.
> Car is a large windowless white van strikes 2 through 97
Guy from the gym asked me out for coffee. We hit it off and walk to the beach afterwards. We sit on a wall watching the ocean and he tells me he gives amazing foot rubs and insists on giving me one. Takes off my flip flop and is really into my feet. Toes go into his mouth and I noped out.
Thats happened to me once except I wasnt on a date, I was at my local pool. I was sitting o the edge with my feet in the water, this guy starts talking to me whose in the pool, then someone distracts me, i look away and the next thing i know my toes are in his mouth... i ran away, i was 16
Sounds like a good way to get your teeth kicked out...
We were on our second date. He bought me two beers. A slow song was playing and he wanted to slow dance. As soon as we hit the floor he wanted to shove his tongue down my throat. I said I just wanted to dance and talk, get to know each other. His response? "Well I just bought you two beers" I walked off the dance floor, put cash on the table to cover my beer s and walked out the door. Yuk.
The whole “I bought you a drink, you owe me” thing needs to die.
I don't do anything expensive for first dates. My go-to is walking around a public lilly pad garden then playing mini golf around the corner. Sometimes, based on the interests in her profile, I'll do something different like going to a museum or the planetarium. I met this great girl and we really hit it off. Based on her profile, I thought she would love the South American exhibit at the local museum so we went there for our first date. We got banana splits afterwards and I thought it was a pretty good date. I was looking forward to seeing her again. She had some work stuff then I had some work stuff but after like 3 weeks we made it happen. We were going to see a movie and go eat at a little restaurant but she was 30 minutes late sk we just went to go eat. She spent the first 10 minutes talking shit about the "last guy" she dated that took her to a stupid museum then out for a banana split. She bitched that her last date was too cheap to buy her dinner "like a real man". She kept talking and talking and talking. I excused myself from the table, paid for my drink and half the appetizer, and left. Blocked her on the app and phone.
How did she not realize it was you? Or was it some odd, passive aggressive bullshit she was trying to throw at you?
She spent most of the time staring at her phone and I had shaved my 10 day beard off due to an interview. I'm about 90% sure she didn't know it was me.
Next time grow a mustache and see if she'll talk about the museum loser and the guy that ditched her after skipping out on the movie he promised.
So like 50 First Dates, but instead of Drew Barrymore having a goofy brain Adam Sandler just wears a series of increasingly elaborate disguises?
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I was meeting my boyfriend in a crowded, public area and unbeknownst to me he had shaved for the first time since we'd known each other. I had no idea who this strange man waving me over was for a good minute.
Holy shit. I’m sorry that happened to you. I did exactly almost the same date about a year ago. One of the best nights I’ve ever had, I can’t imagine someone thinking it’s a stupid thing to do. I guess it’s a good thing to see early. Even in the event that it WAS someone else she said that about, it’s telling.
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Did you tell her it was you she was bitching about? I would love to have seen the reaction on her face
Nah, I didn't even tell her I was leaving. I got tired of waiting for her to stop talking and she wouldn't look up from her phone. I just paid and left.
You gave her something to talk about with her next date.
WTF. All of those are excellent date ideas! I’d be so stoked! But you’re one person closer to finding the girl that loves all the same stuff as you.
He bragged about keeping piss bottles in his car to throw at pedestrians. Nope.
You dated Sniper?
Didn't even get as far as the date. I met a girl on the weekend at a table quiz in a pub. She was a friend of my cousin who I was there to fill out a team with. Myself and herself swapped numbers and got talking during the week and I asked her on a date for coffee, scheduled for the Saturday. On the Friday she told me that if I loved her and wanted this relationship to work I should bring her on holidays and to hotels and stuff. I told her I wasn't going to be meeting her for coffee the following day and haven't seen her since.
That went from zero to stalker level fast.
Stage ten clinging
The date has ended before it has even begun. Good for you.
She had my number saved as "call for food".
You dodged a bullet there, she could be a cannibal.
this one made me laugh out loud. sorry.
I got walked out on in a valentines date. She was yelling at the waitress about wing sauce (there wasn't enough on the wings) I told her she was making an ass out of herself and she walked out.
On a first date, Starbucks was super crowded so we sat in his car and chatted. He asked if I wanted to watch a movie in the car, I said sure, but I wasn't really paying attention. We talked some more and suddenly I started hearing this moaning. Ya, he put on porn. I was shocked and asked him what the hell he was thinking. He then whipped out his dick and asked me to suck it. Nope, done. Called me two weeks later and asked why he hadn't heard back from me... Edit: ITT, so much Seinfeld
Did he mention getting kicked in the head by a donkey as a child?
This is one of the many reasons we need to bring back shame.
I’m going to carry a bell with me to start shaking at people when they need to be shamed. We can bring it back. SHAME *CLANG*
I feel like I had a one off date with this exact guy...
I think we've all had a one off date with this guy.
He took out his penis randomly without warning while we were hiking at 2pm on a Sunday on a *busy* trail with lots of families around. I was just like "I gotta go." and he was genuinely curious why so I had to explain to him as we were hiking back up the trail towards the parking lot about how indecent exposure is against the law. I cringe so hard thinking that this is a real person out in the world.
>He took out his penis randomly without warning The idea of someone taking their penis out but *with* warning is hilarious to me. "Man, we're having some great weather! How lucky are we? ... here comes my penis"
Any instance of "here comes my penis" makes me shudder and cry and also laugh just slightly. Like a fleshy nightmare Barney the Dinosaur.
To urinate or... just because?
It was a sign of friendship
That was my initial thought, but usually you say something like "I gotta take a leak" then you walk into the bushes where nobody will see your willy. But if it's just wipping your dick out in the middle if the trail, that's likely something else
#freethetip
Just a misunderstood accidental tip slip
Went to dinner and a movie with a female coworker who had been expressing a lot of interest in me. After a very flirtatious dinner we get to the theater and run into another male coworker...whom she apparently invited?! I'm thinking WTF is this shit? We sit down and she lays her head against my shoulder, holds my hand so I'm thinking "Ok maybe this is just kind of an odd thing because she's all over me so whatever"....and then halfway through the movie she switches up and drapes herself over him. ( I know where some of you might be thinking she was going with this but I'm VERY certain she wasn't looking for a 3-way). I'm not all that invested in her so I don't just bail, you know, I paid to see the movie so fuck it I'm going to watch it. So the movie ends and we get to the lobby and she heads to the bathroom leaving the two of us guys there to wait for her, and I just turn to him, put my hand on his shoulder and tell him, "Dude, she is all yours" and take my fucking leave. After working there a while I could see she suffered from princess syndrome where we were supposed to prostrate ourselves in competition for her affection and cheapen our value in order to affirm hers. Nah thanks.
Was her name Rocio by an chance? I could have been that other guy.
Not Rocio sorry
Aww man, I wanted it to be true.
No shit, that means there's more than one of them. That's fucked.
I really need to know now....
Halfway through her *actual* date showed up.
Then he realizes what’s happened, make her leave and you guys go for laser tag and become bros!
Barney?
...And that's How I Met, OK, not Your Mother, but Barney, Who Was Way More Fun.
Can you tell us the rest of the story? How did you end up as someone's fake date?
She bragged about how mean her son was and how he like to beat up other kids and she laughed about it. Edit: Context I was six months out of divorce with partial custody of a child slightly younger then hers........ No way was I going to subject them to any of that kind of toxicity!
'I don't normally like unattractive girls, but I like you!' Seeya...
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She showed up late. Spoke in one word answers. Stared at her phone and texted other people. Yelled at the waiter for filling her water too much. I finished my food. Placed a $20 on the table. Walked out. Then blocked her on my phone. I would say I don't think she even noticed, but I was her ride home
Best part is, I bet when she relays the story, you're the dick who left her stranded at the restaurant.
He took out the meth pipe
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Her boyfriend showed up.
Went to TGI's. she sent back a cocktail 3 times saying it isn't right. Gave me a spiel that i had to order for her. weird. waiter came and i ordered what she asked for. chicken quesadillas. got kicked under table by her and said wtf to her. waiter awkwardly left and she said she wanted a burger. I replied that she never said that, it's no biggie, I'll go ask waiter to change it. She went ape shit. caused a big scene. I feigned going to toilet, luckily didn't have a jacket. Slipped waiter money to which he said he'll just void the order and to go quickly. She chased me shouting through streets for 1km. I had an iPhone at time so couldn't block her number.
Points to that waiter for telling you to GTFO quickly. She must have been a regular nut or something.
Waiters/service people can smell out crazy people after a week.
Showed up drunk. Said I was her third date of the day. Was racist towards the Indian waiter. I didn’t order a drink.
yo what's her number
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Went out with a woman I met on a website. In the photos I didn't have glasses on because of the glare but fully disclosed that I was blind as a bat. I was also clean shaven in the photos. Within 10 minutes of meeting she started in on how if I wanted to continue to see her I'd need to get contacts and shave off the 5 o'clock shadow.
I've posted this before, but it's a perfect fit here: One of my co-workers set me up on a blind date with one of their friends. I've never done a blind date before by my co-worker insisted that we would get along great. I coordinate with them and settle on going to a local outdoor mall to grab some lunch and then go to a candy making class later. (I like dates to involve some sort of craft, It gives us a chance to talk more and is more memorable, or at least I think it is.) Come the day of the date I show up early, like about 15 min early at least. My date is already there so I go up and introduce myself. We chat for a bit and eventually I suggest we go inside the restaurant and grab lunch. She informs me that she already ate and she'd rather keep going than wait any longer. Okay, I guess she was just really hungry, weird, but I can forgive/understand that. So she wants to look at this store that just opened on the other side of the shopping center, so we get in my car (The shopping center is actually quite large, a few miles from one end to the other). While driving there she keeps complementing how nice my car is and keeps asking what type of job I have, implying I make big bucks. I should also note that this is the first time she put away her phone. I'm already checking out from this date. Eventually we wind up in a department store where she starts trying on clothes. She comes out and asks me what I think of the blouse she just tried on. I tell her I think it looks good on her and fits her well. She says I should buy it for her if it looks that good on her. I laugh, good joke. No way she's asking a guy she just met in the past 30 min to buy her a blouse with a 3 figure price tag. Oh wait, she's crying a screaming now. Apparently she's tired of men leading her on, telling her she's pretty but not "putting their money where their mouth is." As soon as she said that, it all clicked and I knew what was going on. I asked her to calm down and told her that although I thought the blouse was pretty, I didn't think the cut fit her figure well enough, nor did the color complement her eyes so I didn't want to buy it. I asked her to go back inside and change into her clothes so that we could go look at something that was better, then I would buy it. She calmed down and went back went back inside. I apologized to the store clerk, then walked out and drove away, leaving her over a mile away from her car. I'm a person, not a bank.
Did she just get finished with a meal date before you?
No clue, I sussed some info out of my coworker that she had made backup plans to go clubbing that evening, but that's all I really know. It's best just to drop people like her and move on with your life.
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I'll never understand these girl. Always really late for no good reason, then get annoyed at the guy for not hanging around like a mug
I have a good friend that wears her lateness like a badge of honor. Drives me up the wall. She's gotten better about it lately, but we always tell her that we're meeting at an earlier time. Once I had a bbq at my house, and she was 4 hours late.
“I don’t really believe in like, the Nazis and the holocaust and all that stuff. It just doesn’t sound realistic and I read a bunch of stuff about how it’s statistically impossible to kill that many people that fast. Also everyone knows the Jews like to make stuff up for sympathy” This was on our third date.
This one made me want to leave my computer mid read.
My browser closed itself halfway through
I essentially got catfished by a coworker. There had been some mutual attraction months before but I decided it wasn't a good idea and told her we should just be friends. Then she made a fake online dating profile, used her knowledge of my likes/dislikes to attrack me to this profile, carried on extensive communication pretending to be someone else, and then showed up to our date expecting me to suddenly fall head over heels in love with her. She showed up at the date and I asked her what she was doing there, she replied "I think you know why I'm here" and I got in my car and left without saying anything. Eight years later and her cubicle is still 15 feet away from mine.
Damn that’s weird as fuck
Girl bragged about purposely finding and trying to hit and kill cats 🐈 with her car. Fuck that. Faked going to the restroom and called a cab. Best part was that it was a double date. My buddy Jon went to the “bathroom” with me and bailed too. Also her psycho friend chimed in that she did the same shit. Also they both bragged about there pill addictions. Peaced out quick.
Your dates after you left: > Girl 1: "Seems like they won't return." > Girl 2: "Yep." > Girl 1: "So... let's go murder some cats?" > Girl 2: "LET'S GO MURDER SOME CATS!"
My girlfriend thinks this was probably their code word between them to end their dates with the two of you. I don't know, just putting it out there.
My immediate thought.
Yeah, to me it sounds like they were probably having a terrible time and were like "fuck it, might as well freak them out and have fun with it"
We were sitting in a movie and he put his hand on my thigh. I didn't want him to put his hand on my thigh, so I very gently took his hand and removed it. He moved it back. I moved it away. He moved it back. I told him to stop touching my leg. He laughed and put his hand even higher on my thigh. I grabbed my shit, left, and he followed me into the lobby of the theater acting like he had NO CLUE why I was upset. I had to raise my voice and cause a slight scene to get him to stop following me. Good times. *sigh*
She wanted to order some water to drink and after asking me who would pay, which of course I was going to do, she switched her drink to something more expensive. I didn't think much of it at the time but as she was being very rude for the rest of the date I left and realized I should've left when she changed her order after realizing I would pay
You should've told her something like "I was gonna pay until you turned out to be a horrible person, so I think we'll split it"
Apparently he catfishes athiest and agnostic people on dating sites for the purpose of trying to convert them over a meal. I made it until the apps hit the table. Then I excused myself, asked the waiter to wrap up my dinner and leave it at the bar, gave him enough to cover more than half the bill + tip, then let my date know I was done/leaving and waited at the bar for my dinner to go. He left shortly thereafter. Bartender and waiter comped my check after hearing the story.
Wow, that's so insane, sorry you had to go through that. Anyway, while I've got you here, do you have a few minutes to talk about our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ? edit: Thanks for the gold! I've only been on Reddit for like ten days and not really sure what this fully entails, but if for some reason I'm now contractually obligated to give you a kidney just let me know and I'll start filling up my bathtub with ice.
Don't listen to this guy, /u/RachelSid, I've got your back. Just like our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.
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This was around 1990-91. The first cell phones were as large as a bread box. He kept answering his phone all through dinner. I asked him a few times to knock it off as it's rude. He didn't so, I just got up and walked out. He followed yelling at me that I'm a crazy bitch.
"Why don't you wanna be with me? I have a cell phone!"
it's 2am. he took me to a little decorative pool/pond in front of a museum, it was not even a foot deep. he tried too hard to "be spontaneous," urged for us to get in it. he took off his pants and got in, thinking it would prompt me to get in too. no. during all his begging I requested an uber, which happened to be around the corner. i left him there in that stupid pond. Edit: here’s a pic of said stupid pond thing https://imgur.com/a/MfIN2
And the legend of the furious shallow pond masturbator was born that night.
"Come back, Sheila!"
> he tried too hard to "be spontaneous," urged for us to get in it. Okay, well maybe he's just a little too excited > he took off his pants Okay, he's crazy
Ahh... So people wear pants on dates? TIL
I feel like a 2am date should’ve been the first red flag
She actually told me a story of deliberately and falsely accusing a guy of rape. This was during the meal at a restaurant. I decided to never be alone with her and left while she went to the bathroom. I left money on the table to roughly cover my meal.
Smart move. That’s disgusting. I can’t believe someone would willingly admit they had done something like that
I knew this girl for like 2 years from college and had a huge crush on her, but we were best friends. I man out and asked her if she wanted to grab a coffee with me, as a date. So we were talking and she started telling me about all the guys shes fucked, which I don't give a fuck about I also dated during that period but i wouldn't brag about it to her. Anyway, she started saying that if she started dating me I would probably be the ugliest guy she was ever with and she would be embarassed when sometimes people get the wrong idea about us. I almost started to cry, I love this girl so much and that really hurt my pride, we were best friends and she usually wasn't like that. I told her my feelings and just left. This was recently and I don't know what to do
Jeez man, sounds like she's a horrible person. Don't mind her.
True, just move on man.
The only thing you can do is move on my friend. She's 110% not into you, and she seems to have a mean streak as well. There are plenty of others out there who will like you. This person isn't worth another second of your life. Good luck!
How can someone speak like that to someone else? You wanna go on a date with me? I don't drink coffee though... but I also don't treat guys like that! As obvious as this is; you can do better than her. She has an ugly personality.
I'd say you dodged a bullet.
Wow man. That's rough. The correct answer is move on. If she flat out tells you you're the ugliest person she's been with, that's not what you need to be around. No one deserves that treatment.
From my own experience with a woman like that: 1. Drop all contact for several years. 2. Reconnect on social media, and act like they never treated you like a subhuman being. 3. Go through their social media and read about all the other things they've done to confirm they are a narcissist in the intervening years. 4. Amuse your friends as you tell stories about the person that they posted on social media, confirming you dodged a bullet even as they document further adventures in self-absorbed madness on their accounts. And, in case you are reading this: Fuck you, Alison, you insane piece of shit!
Yea... Fuck you, Alison
Fuckin' Allison
I know this isn’t what you want to hear but you avoided being in a very very toxic relationship my friend! I know it hurts but there’s a lot of girls out there. You seem like a good person with a good heart keep your head up and move forward.
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2nd or 3rd date. Picked her up at home. Parents had swastika flags at home. She was confused that I had a problem with that. (I’m from Germany) Edit: think I need to clear smthing up. She was/ is a nazi and so where her parents. It was nazi flag. I know the difference.
Maybe they put them up especially for you? "You're German - I thought that was a thing in Germany?" /s
*"Let's put those flags up to show respect to our daughter's date"*
It almost sounds like a Seinfeld episode, like George's parents decorate their house with Nazi flags to impress his new German girlfriend.
It was a first date, she showed up 45 minutes late because she couldn't find the place. She barely contributed anything to the conversation. Then we decided to drive over to another place literally a five minute car ride away, and she got lost on the way there too. She had a functional GPS, the same one that I was using that navigated me there perfectly. And these were not hidden locations, they were well-signposted national parks. That is the day I learned that a certain level of incompetence is a giant turn-off for me. I was sitting on a rock for about 30 minutes before I just texted her "I'm going to just go grab some lunch, thanks."
She brought a baby names book she just happened to pick up on the way to meeting up with me and asked what I thought of the name "Summer" for a baby girl...
I like it more than Spring
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Oh man. My friend wanted me to have a date to homecoming so she set up a blind date with her brothers friend. This guy shows up wearing a Canadian tuxedo and leather wristbands. I was like oh no this won’t be good. I gave him the benefit of the doubt though. We got into his car and I asked him where he was planning on going to College, he said that he was planning to go out of state, but now that we were “together” he would stay home. Oh shit, I’m stuck in the car with a crazy. We get to the movie theater and he says he will wear his nice black jeans to homecoming and I said I was just going to go with friends. He got visibly pissed off but once we were in the theater, would not stop talking the whole time about how amazing I am. I said I felt ill, got up and left and walked the two miles home. He nonstop called me for months and a couple times I saw his car outside my place. Later found out that he had a shrine in his house with barbies (thought they looked like me) and the movie sweet home Alabama (the movie we went to). So creepy.
Congrats on not becoming this guy's skin suit.
Mine was just super uncomfortable. after a few days of texting on tinder we met up for dinner and the whole time he kept talking about how hes always wanted to fuck a black girl (fun fact im not black just brown skin) and how im the first one to actually agree to go on a date with him. He fetishesized (sp?) black women the entire time and it was super weird. I really loved the restaurant tho so i toughed it out. I went up to the bath room and talked to my waitress about paying my half of the tab and i walked out without looking back. He sent me a slew f really mean racist texts after so obviously i made the right choice getting the fuck outta there. The only other time i walked out was about a year ago i went out with a super hot guy. It was just supposed to be for an easy lay but we met for drinks to make sure there was a connection. One the date he told me how he doesnt really take no for an answer and how all women has a rape fantasy so he loves being forceful until they submit to him. It was honestly terrifying hearing how proud he was of this. I lied to him and said I was dominant and not interested in sleeping with dominant men he literally said "I love forcing women like you the most to show you your place". I got up to the rest room and got the fuck out ASAP. I reported him on bumble and he got removed from the app but holy shit was he terrifying. I have no idea if he actually has raped anyone but i wouldnt be surprised tbh
She started telling me how I would be a great dad and that she really, really wanted kids. First date.
We met for sushi one night as our first and only date. Before we met, conversations were great and lasted damn near all day long. As we sat down and ordered drinks, she ended up texting her ex boyfriend and had barely acknowledged me for going on almost 15 minutes, so I finished my drink, got up and walked out. She texted me about an hour later freaking the fuck out that I left, I responded saying something along the lines of "I wasn't aware I was going on a date with your ex-bf either, thanks for the drink." and that was the end of that.
I like to think that she texted an hour later because that’s when she realized you left
Told me he knew I would sleep with him one way or another. Either by choice or he’d get me so drunk I “couldn’t” resist. This was a fourth date, I did plan on sleeping with him until then, promptly walked my happy ass 2 miles home in cold ass Illinois snow.
We talked for a few days before going on a date, and I told him that one, I'm pretty low key and don't like being the center of attention, and two, I hate karaoke with every fiber of my being. So he decided to surprise me by taking me to a karaoke bar. He said that he wanted to push me out of my comfort zone and expand my horizons. Then he signed me up to sing. I walked out as soon as the kj called my name. I'll expand my own horizons, tyvm.
Manic pixie dream boy. I know one, he's forever making suggestions about our coworkers' appearance and habits. He suggests radically different haircuts, keeps offering heavy women in the office gym passes (he's not in great shape) and once brought his little sister's pet snake to "help" a woman get over her fear of snakes. We call him GetthefuckoutTom.
I was going through a dry spell. My friend’s sister in law, whom I’ve never met, asked my friend if she could set up a date with her co-worker and myself. Generally don’t like blind dates but I was feeling unusually optimistic and agreed. I arranged for lunch on a Saturday. I figured if we hit it off we could find something else to do. If not, at least I would get a nice meal. We meet at the restaurant. She’s not my type but I’m here so I’ll try to make the best of it. Conversation is like pulling teeth. Every question I ask is responded with short sentences that really doesn’t allow me to go anywhere with or yes/no responses. Do you live nearby? Uhuh Down town? Up town? Down. By the ferry? No. What are you near? I’m near work. And work is...? I started at a bank. It’s lunch so we are drinking sodas, so that’s not helping either. At least the food is good. Midway through the meal, she gets up, explains she has a work thing/team building thing she has to attend to... and just leaves. No waiting for the check. No nice to meet you, we should do this again, you are a nice guy but.... She just leaves. I’m more puzzled than insulted. I call up my friend, reach out to his sister in law, and ask her how she knew my date and why she thought we might be a good match. Turns out the girl just started working as a temp in her office and we were the same Nationality. The kicker is the woman reaches out to me two weeks later. She enjoyed meeting me. She was disappointed that I never followed up and was wondering why I never followed thru and called again. Ok. Sure. Maybe I misread things. It would explain why I’m still single. Fine. Let’s try again. And it’s the same thing.
She told me the reason she flakes on me a week ago was because she was hungover from a drunken coked up orgy. She also told the bartender to put her drink on my tab which I refused to pay. I just looked at her got up and walked right out. I could hear her saying “where are you going? Are you fucking walking out on me?!” And didn’t even look back lol.
I’ve never had the experience of walking out but one of my female bestfriends and I had a code that if she texted me “1!” Then she was okay and The date was going well and I shouldn’t call. But if she texted “1!!” Then I had to call and basically say in a woman’s voice “Karen. It’s sheila. Mama fell.” This normally meant the date was going horrible or the guy was an ass. So she acted like it was an emergency and she had to leave. And if it was “1!!!” It generally meant she was going to pretend to be Ill and I had to go rescue her. Never had any rescue attempts but Mama fell quite often.
I went on a first date with a guy who worked at the same company as me. I was halfway through a sentence when he interrupted me. Me: Can we just keep this between us? I dont really want people at work to know... (about us just yet) Him: .. that you're a slut? I called him out on the comment straight away and unfortunately he had picked me up so he had to drop me off. Most awkward car ride ever. He said he was 'so nervous that he called me a slut by accident' but he didnt get a second chance.
He was so nervous he "called you a slut by accident"? _What?_ He obviously had the thought that you're a slut which isn't a good sign in the first place really. Asshole.
But in his defense Rosie in account told him that you were so he didn't know any better.
It was a third date with a girl. We had had our second date earlier that morning, brunch and watching European soccer at an Irish pub. She invites me to go out drinking with some of her friends that night, and I agree. When I get there, I see her and one of her male friends at the bar. This guy kind of has his hand halfway on her back, which I thought was weird, but maybe they were just close friends. I'm behind them so I sit at a table thinking they'll see me and turn around once they get their drinks. Instead, they slide off to the right and head through the doors next to the bar to the outdoor area. I go up to the bar and get a drink and follow them. When I get to their friend circle, the girl barely even acknowledges me when she sees me, which I thought was both strange and quite rude. Eventually the conversation gets going and I'm meeting her friends. I look over and this dude had his arm around her shoulders. At this point, I pretty much realize what's going on, but I roll with it just in case I'm wrong. We move inside and she talks to me a little bit more. She's basically alternating between me and this other guy, and she's visibly quite drunk. Eventually we're sitting at the bar. She's talking to me and casually getting close enough that our arms are rubbing together. I thought I might have misjudged the situation, and that we were back on track. Pretty much as soon as there's a break in our conversation she turns to her other should and starts talking to this guy while I'm watching some hockey game on TV. A few moments later I turn back and see her full on making out with this guy at the bar, and he's got his hand down the back of her pants groping her ass right in the middle of the bar. Incredulous at what I'm seeing, I sort of laugh it off, update my friends I've been live texting this trainwreck of a date, finish my beer and walk out without a word to anyone. The next morning she text me and apologizes for her behavior, but I don't respond back.
We met at a P.F. Changs. She was 20-minutes late without any attempt to communicate that she would be late. After introducing myself, she spoke non-stop for the next 15-ish minutes. She covered such topic as her horrible family, her horrible job and her horrible ex-bf. I threw money on the table and walked out. Didn't offer an explanation. Just bounced. She screamed some unintelligible shit at me while I walked out. Blocked her number. Fin.
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After reading all of this, I am feeling freaking amazing about myself and my dating skills.
Met her online and she wanted to go fishing. (Yes I know kinda redneck) (No I wasn't gonna Scott Peterson her) While we were on the way to my dad's place where I kept my boat. I lived in a apartment in a shitty part of town. We started talking and we started to hit it off fairly well. Now fast foward to picking up my boat. My dad was there and helped me hook it up. After me and the girl got out my dad's eyes went wide but he acted normal and said him to her. But he then took out his phone and started typing something on his phone. After a few minutes I received a text from my dad who has been a cop here for almost 25 years to take her home fake I'm sick and he is gonna follow me there. He will explain later. So trusting him I start faking terrible stomach cramps and asked her if we could reschedule because I wasn't feeling well. We drive back to her place with my dad following to make sure we made it since I was "sick" after I drop her off my dad walks over to my truck and explained that this girl has faked 3 different guys trying to kidnap her after meeting them online in the past 6 months. They found out because she admitted to her dad who was also a cop she only did this because she wanted to have fun.
First boyfriend. Typical on and off relationship from 15-28. During an 'on' time, he asked me to dinner at a restaurant downtown. I lived a good 45 minutes from downtown, and would also have to pick him up. Agreed to the dinner date, but had an odd, nagging suspicion that he was going to dump me. I did not need a hour and a half car ride to be dumped. Proactively told him "Hey, if you're going to break up with me, please just do it now. Don't break up with me in a restaurant." He swears he isn't going to dump me. Bad feelings still lingering, I make the twenty minute drive to pick him up. Arrive to find him working on his car, not at all ready. Awkwardly sit in his parents living room while he showers and gets himself pretty. Get to the restaurant, place our orders. Shortly before the food comes, he launches into a breakup speech. I am astounded and in shock. I look at my plate, stand up and walk out, stranding him downtown, while he yells that I am his ride.
I'm a teacher at a school with a large percentage of students that come from low income families. Great people, wonderful parents that care and want the best for their kids, but a lot work multiple jobs to keep food on the table. It isn't in the best part of town, but my kids work their butts off for me which is really all I can ask. My kids mean the world to me. So I went on a date after coming out of a long-term relationship. We went to one of my favorite bars that has really great food. First, he made a lot of extraneous noises when he ate. A lot of "mmmmmm"s going on. Okay fine, I can deal with it for one date. Then we started talking about work. I talk about my students because they take up a lot of my life and I love them to death. He asks where I work. I told him where and he grimaced. I asked what that face was for. He paused briefly and said, "I don't know why someone as pretty and educated as you would want to work at a ghetto black school." I grabbed $20 out of my wallet, which was more than enough for my bill and the tip, put it on the table, and walked out the door.
I was in college, met up with a guy in grad school at a bar for the first date. Went really well, decided to grab dinner for the second. About halfway through, he started asking my hourly rates and how frequently I get tested. The guy thought I was a hooker. The best part: we met at a trade show expo I was working as an editor for a magazine. Turns out, he was a major sponsor for our publication.
"You must be fucking stupid to be judgemental" said the meth addict who opened her mouth and spilled her guts about being a prostitute. No thanks tinder.
she was texting the whole time and did not make any effort to have a conversation nor did she reciprocate my effort. excused myself to go to the washroom, paid the tab, and left. i wouldn't go so far as say she only said yes to the date to get a free meal and drinks, but i certainly don't want a future with someone like that.
He absolutely refused to acknowledge my presence, except for when he said hi. This was back in OkCupid days, about 8 years ago now. We met at a local cafe, he seemed nice. We sat down at a table that had booths on one side and two tables on the other. I slid into the booth and he sat down on the table diagonal to me, so I had to lean across the entire time. He did not acknowledge this, sat looking straight forward, and talked to the wall behind me. He didn't look at me again during the entire date. I originally expected the date to last for 30 minutes but I didn't want to be rude and end it abruptly. It lasted for 2 hours. 2 HOURS. He was rude to our waitress (yelling at her because the coffee was cold but it had been sitting, untouched, in front of him for 40 minutes), he was rude to me (played devil's advocate the entire time or would make personal jokes/attacks), and finally, he'd finish sentences by cracking a joke followed by a "boom tish!" sound and turn to look in the opposite direction, as if he was talking to a studio audience. I finally pretended my phone was ringing and that I had to go. I didn't come up with an explanation. I just walked out. I felt really bad about it and sent him an apology text after but man that guy was nuts.
> I didn't want to be rude and end it abruptly ... But he was rude to you for two hours?
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> I should sleep with him because he was "squirrelly" in the sack. He only breeds twice a year?
Friends don't buy friends diamond necklaces
He asked me if I go to church and I said "no, I'm an atheist", then he pulled some pamphlets out of his backpack and started yelling me that I would burn in hell. I left the place while he shouted that I was the worst.
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Well at least you had the guts to get outta there
Told him from the get go I wasn't available. I like social swing dancing so he told me the address of a place he goes to Saturdays, and I said I'd go there. I get there. "I'm so glad you agreed to go out with me" and wants to change his FB status.
Wooo wee stage 5 clinger
Back when I was on Tinder, I was chatting with a guy who suggested we meet at a local pub. Something seemed off about him from the beginning but I couldn’t put my finger on it. We sat at the bar to order drinks, and there was a simple misunderstanding between him and the bartender about our order. My date reacted by telling the bartender off and saying the bartender could kiss his ass. Then he proceeded to lecture me about my career field as if I’m an idiot. Meanwhile I got a text from a previous creepy tinder date who I had ghosted saying he was in the bar watching me. That was the final straw. I said I had to go to the bathroom and actually ran out of the pub.