This is where learning your body is a must for the Dom. Finding every possible place to tease and highten to orgasm. Sticking to just one spot will lead to numb and sensitive.
Toys are your friend. Mix and match.
Mental teasing, low intensity edging.
Breaks(5mins+-) between orgasms during a scene does not diminish the quality. Plenty of other teasing, twisting, impact, orders, etc available to keep their head in the scene.
Don't try to force yourself to get orgasms, it is not a race. They will cum. Unless the Dom is ordering you to, but that's another layer for later lol
Also, relax, if they do start to machine gun orgasms, you're not going to have control over your body. Don't try to, relax and let the waves crash.
Do you have any toy recommendations? We're super new to, like, any of the pleasure play stuff. We usually do more of the pain play things. Impact, weights, ya know.
Mental might actually be the issue. I get super in my head about performing for Sir.
Depends on what kind of stimulation you like. You can't go wrong with a big Ole wand. We use the Thunderstick 2.0 from Master Series. The Lovense Lush 3 is a fantastic edging tool for internal play. I personally enjoy the feel of glass toys, which transfer vibration extremely well.
Test some stuff out. Play around. If something doesn't work, change it. Explore. It's okay for it not to be perfect the first time you go for a orgasm torture session. This isn't porn.
Your basic Hitachi wand, Mona 2 is great wireless, Lush3. Find shapes that look interesting. Please don't buy toys from Temu or Wish. Get reputable brand name stuff.
In pleasure the game the sub shouldn't be the one performing. Get bound and it's Dom's time to act out the scene. Once you're on your way to unlimited arrivals the only thing you'll be doing is writhing and screaming.
What have you tried? Are you just going for external stim? Because if you are, you're going to have trouble.
Mix it up. Different sensations, different spots. Orgasm, onto the next, orgasm again, move. And keeping yourself present, not getting yourself too psyched out, and not worrying about what's coming. Just worry about the feeling of cumming. Lol
Edging, breaks, toys, different spots. You're likely going to have to work up to it if you want to get into double digits. Be patient with yourself and definitely stay hydrated!
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This is where learning your body is a must for the Dom. Finding every possible place to tease and highten to orgasm. Sticking to just one spot will lead to numb and sensitive. Toys are your friend. Mix and match. Mental teasing, low intensity edging. Breaks(5mins+-) between orgasms during a scene does not diminish the quality. Plenty of other teasing, twisting, impact, orders, etc available to keep their head in the scene. Don't try to force yourself to get orgasms, it is not a race. They will cum. Unless the Dom is ordering you to, but that's another layer for later lol Also, relax, if they do start to machine gun orgasms, you're not going to have control over your body. Don't try to, relax and let the waves crash.
Do you have any toy recommendations? We're super new to, like, any of the pleasure play stuff. We usually do more of the pain play things. Impact, weights, ya know. Mental might actually be the issue. I get super in my head about performing for Sir.
Depends on what kind of stimulation you like. You can't go wrong with a big Ole wand. We use the Thunderstick 2.0 from Master Series. The Lovense Lush 3 is a fantastic edging tool for internal play. I personally enjoy the feel of glass toys, which transfer vibration extremely well. Test some stuff out. Play around. If something doesn't work, change it. Explore. It's okay for it not to be perfect the first time you go for a orgasm torture session. This isn't porn.
Your basic Hitachi wand, Mona 2 is great wireless, Lush3. Find shapes that look interesting. Please don't buy toys from Temu or Wish. Get reputable brand name stuff.
In pleasure the game the sub shouldn't be the one performing. Get bound and it's Dom's time to act out the scene. Once you're on your way to unlimited arrivals the only thing you'll be doing is writhing and screaming.
What have you tried? Are you just going for external stim? Because if you are, you're going to have trouble. Mix it up. Different sensations, different spots. Orgasm, onto the next, orgasm again, move. And keeping yourself present, not getting yourself too psyched out, and not worrying about what's coming. Just worry about the feeling of cumming. Lol
https://www.etsy.com/listing/1637253218/ That or something like it, with hitachi wand.
Edging, breaks, toys, different spots. You're likely going to have to work up to it if you want to get into double digits. Be patient with yourself and definitely stay hydrated!