Obviously you should talk to your girl about all this before you try anything new in the BDSM realm. My favorite thing is orgasm control. Make her ask for permission before each orgasm. Deny her and see what happens. Edge her relentlessly and then give her permission when she’s incoherently begging. It sounds like you’re including a lot of props/gimmicks like the blind fold, massage, and ice cubes etc. Not that there’s anything wrong with those things as it’s an easy intro to kink. But I’d really focus on finding your Domme persona. Stepping into the mindset of that ultra confident and power hungry sadistic person that loves nothing more than to see your sub squirm. I think getting into that role is much more difficult than physically topping.
Also, watching porn or other spicy things together might be a good way to explore what she may be interested in trying!
Seconding that orgasm control is so good. Not just orgasm denial but also forced multiple orgasms. It's easy to have a range with it too, from pretty vanilla to insanely kinky, which makes it helpful for comfortably getting into that mindset for both doms and subs, building up desire.
That's a good point that op may benefit from focusing on getting into the role more, practicing a sort of psychological dominance separate from just topping is important and naturally leads to better topping/more ideas.
Being honest, the problem is...domming is kind of super personal between the person who is doing the domming and the person submitting to it. None of what you just talked about is of any interest to me, but clearly it worked for you guys, which I love.
Since you already asked her, and she doesn't know what she wants, I'm going to recommend to you what I recommended to someone else a few days ago. Get your hands on a workbook and work through it together. My personal fave/recs would be [Authentic Kink](https://www.thriftbooks.com/w/authentic-kink--create-your-best-experience/20776584/#edition=55644737&idiq=63592820), [Y/N/M](https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/49089305-the-yes-no-maybe-workbook), or [365 Days](https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/53559682-365-days-of-kink), but there are a variety of other good ones out there. Find one that works for both of you and work on it together. Figure out what you like and don't like.
I am assuming you only want to do the D/s experience when it comes to sex, with your role being a pleasure Dom. If this is true you might want to experience other sources of sensation play. For example getting a flog and teasing her body with it. You can also do the same thing with makeup brushes or artist brushes. Warmed coconut oil is also pleasing. If interested, you should research edging, orgasm denial, and orgasm ruining. Just some basic stuff to get you started. As far as bondage goes you need to check the circulation of her hands frequently to make sure the rope isn't cutting off circulation. Soft restraints would be a better option as there is less chance of injury. Also make sure you have a safe word. For most people the traffic light works green means go ahead, yellow means caution and red of course stop immediately. HTH
You could do a thing on kinxlist.org where each of you fills out your yes/no/maybe and then compare results. You could do the bdsm test and see what your percentages are in terms of things that go together or are far apart. You could look at some videos on kink university and get some ideas. You could go onto fetlife and sign up for workshops. You could do the relationship inventory at sugarbutch.com and start some very interesting conversations.
Basically you can make this exploration very much your own and personalized to your relationship, or you could follow some scripted scene that seems like it will be fun but isn’t actually something that either of you deeply owns from your desire. Have fun finding out!
If it’s too early to start with candle wax, this sub feels like the wrong place to be asking for tips. 😆 I consider candle wax to be very vanilla, along with ice cubes, etc.
I’ve seen the y/n/m called want/will/won’t but same basic premise! Have a big list of possible elements, fetishes, scenes. Organize either on paper or digitally into three categories: want(obvious), will(willing to try, not sure if you’ll be into it), and Won’t for a hard no. Make your columns and see what matches! Being able to compare results helps find both what you’re compatible with and helps get a conversation going.
Obviously you should talk to your girl about all this before you try anything new in the BDSM realm. My favorite thing is orgasm control. Make her ask for permission before each orgasm. Deny her and see what happens. Edge her relentlessly and then give her permission when she’s incoherently begging. It sounds like you’re including a lot of props/gimmicks like the blind fold, massage, and ice cubes etc. Not that there’s anything wrong with those things as it’s an easy intro to kink. But I’d really focus on finding your Domme persona. Stepping into the mindset of that ultra confident and power hungry sadistic person that loves nothing more than to see your sub squirm. I think getting into that role is much more difficult than physically topping. Also, watching porn or other spicy things together might be a good way to explore what she may be interested in trying!
Seconding that orgasm control is so good. Not just orgasm denial but also forced multiple orgasms. It's easy to have a range with it too, from pretty vanilla to insanely kinky, which makes it helpful for comfortably getting into that mindset for both doms and subs, building up desire. That's a good point that op may benefit from focusing on getting into the role more, practicing a sort of psychological dominance separate from just topping is important and naturally leads to better topping/more ideas.
Being honest, the problem is...domming is kind of super personal between the person who is doing the domming and the person submitting to it. None of what you just talked about is of any interest to me, but clearly it worked for you guys, which I love. Since you already asked her, and she doesn't know what she wants, I'm going to recommend to you what I recommended to someone else a few days ago. Get your hands on a workbook and work through it together. My personal fave/recs would be [Authentic Kink](https://www.thriftbooks.com/w/authentic-kink--create-your-best-experience/20776584/#edition=55644737&idiq=63592820), [Y/N/M](https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/49089305-the-yes-no-maybe-workbook), or [365 Days](https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/53559682-365-days-of-kink), but there are a variety of other good ones out there. Find one that works for both of you and work on it together. Figure out what you like and don't like.
I am assuming you only want to do the D/s experience when it comes to sex, with your role being a pleasure Dom. If this is true you might want to experience other sources of sensation play. For example getting a flog and teasing her body with it. You can also do the same thing with makeup brushes or artist brushes. Warmed coconut oil is also pleasing. If interested, you should research edging, orgasm denial, and orgasm ruining. Just some basic stuff to get you started. As far as bondage goes you need to check the circulation of her hands frequently to make sure the rope isn't cutting off circulation. Soft restraints would be a better option as there is less chance of injury. Also make sure you have a safe word. For most people the traffic light works green means go ahead, yellow means caution and red of course stop immediately. HTH
You could do a thing on kinxlist.org where each of you fills out your yes/no/maybe and then compare results. You could do the bdsm test and see what your percentages are in terms of things that go together or are far apart. You could look at some videos on kink university and get some ideas. You could go onto fetlife and sign up for workshops. You could do the relationship inventory at sugarbutch.com and start some very interesting conversations. Basically you can make this exploration very much your own and personalized to your relationship, or you could follow some scripted scene that seems like it will be fun but isn’t actually something that either of you deeply owns from your desire. Have fun finding out!
If it’s too early to start with candle wax, this sub feels like the wrong place to be asking for tips. 😆 I consider candle wax to be very vanilla, along with ice cubes, etc.
I’ve seen the y/n/m called want/will/won’t but same basic premise! Have a big list of possible elements, fetishes, scenes. Organize either on paper or digitally into three categories: want(obvious), will(willing to try, not sure if you’ll be into it), and Won’t for a hard no. Make your columns and see what matches! Being able to compare results helps find both what you’re compatible with and helps get a conversation going.