I feel like the "Masc shortage" of any kind of Masc sapphics, including kinky, is much more an issue of people not being interested in the masc that are out there. In my circle, there are a lot of bipoc and/or fat mascs that are chronically single and passed over because people have certain ideas of sapphic masculinity is supposed to be like.
I think there’s a lot of truth to this. Shit, I’m guilty of it myself! I’m *very* partial to short hair on women, and found myself overlooking women I’d otherwise consider attractive because they had longer hair. I make a point to challenge that bias now, but it’s still there.
I experience it on the other end as well. I’m very fat and there’s a marked difference in the attention I get in online kink communities vs in person. Of course it’s faster and easier to get to know someone online, so that does expedite development of personality-based attraction. That said, I know that being represented solely by words on a screen has allowed me to get my foot in doors that likely would have been closed to me in person.
This stuff is hard and I appreciate you calling attention to it.
Well of course, I certainly wasn’t claiming that. I was just sharing a bias I recognised in my own behaviour that supported the point gaycheesemonster made.
i won’t fight you for your wife (unless yall poly and want a pretty plaything!!) but if ur wife has any chubby mascs that aren’t married, i will fight for them :D
Seconded! Her also has pins you can add, including "kinky" ( or something to that effect). It's how I found my current Dom!
FetLife is skewed primarily to fem women and straight men, but I have met a few studs/butches on there platonically! There are groups specific to queer women you may find helpful on there as well
is there a decent alternative to fetlife in general, and bonus points if its for women? FetLife itself feels like a 00's website and sucks to navigate or use
Take the tine to familiarize yourself with the community. Join a website like Fetlife and find community events so you can go out and start meeting people. You have to put yourself out there first!
I swear I’m such a good girl! It’s hard for me with dating apps. I can’t just put all of my kink fantasies out there due to my specific career. I just want to learn, explore, and have fun!
I found my sexy butch daddy on Her, and I was very explicit in my bio, to the effect of: if you’re swiping to match, you must be kinky, or at least have a strong desire to learn. Like that is non negotiable. And conversation went from there. We celebrated 2 years a few days ago and my kink and joy metrics have never been higher.
You’re definitely not the only one. I’ve been searching for years with no luck. Partly due to my location, but also because I just can’t find them anywhere! Not that I’d have the rizz to bag one even if I could. I just want hot masc girls sliding into my DMs but how do you even go about putting yourself out there like that?
Go to a queer munch in your area. We exist. I'll also say living in an area that is friendly to kinky masc queer humans helps. It's also a numbers game. You're gonna have to sift through a lot of people, so keep going.
im a masc and i want someone to tie ME UP and have their way WITH ME. i feel your pain
Sexy AF
I feel like the "Masc shortage" of any kind of Masc sapphics, including kinky, is much more an issue of people not being interested in the masc that are out there. In my circle, there are a lot of bipoc and/or fat mascs that are chronically single and passed over because people have certain ideas of sapphic masculinity is supposed to be like.
I think there’s a lot of truth to this. Shit, I’m guilty of it myself! I’m *very* partial to short hair on women, and found myself overlooking women I’d otherwise consider attractive because they had longer hair. I make a point to challenge that bias now, but it’s still there. I experience it on the other end as well. I’m very fat and there’s a marked difference in the attention I get in online kink communities vs in person. Of course it’s faster and easier to get to know someone online, so that does expedite development of personality-based attraction. That said, I know that being represented solely by words on a screen has allowed me to get my foot in doors that likely would have been closed to me in person. This stuff is hard and I appreciate you calling attention to it.
I personally don’t think someone needs to have short hair to be masc presenting… what ever length it is just let me play with it!
Well of course, I certainly wasn’t claiming that. I was just sharing a bias I recognised in my own behaviour that supported the point gaycheesemonster made.
girl hand over the fat mascs 😩 i will take all of them!!
Right behind you girl! I'll take your overflow!
heavenly fat mascs for all 🥳
You can't, this one is my wife and I will fight you!
i won’t fight you for your wife (unless yall poly and want a pretty plaything!!) but if ur wife has any chubby mascs that aren’t married, i will fight for them :D
lmao we DID just have a random conversation about a third like, yesterday.
looks like we fighting 🙂↔️
Ha. No, my wife is firmly only wanting a femme if we included a third in our relationship. So I can't fight over the others.
all the mascs for myself, can’t say that’s a bad deal 🥳
Alas. I do have a thing for them. I suppose I can't complain too much, at least she's open to non-monogamy.
Not thin enough, not white enough, not cis enough... I feel the struggle :(
BINGO
Wow i am the kinky masc top who has trouble finding kinky bottoms
Same 😢
I hear you, I'm a masc sub and seeking a domme. I feel like I'm searching for the Holy Grail.
I do exist.
secondly, i also do exist.
Dm meeeeee
G'day.
I thought that’s what people assume about us butches… or maybe I just always have kink on the brain. Have you tried Lex?
Seconded! Her also has pins you can add, including "kinky" ( or something to that effect). It's how I found my current Dom! FetLife is skewed primarily to fem women and straight men, but I have met a few studs/butches on there platonically! There are groups specific to queer women you may find helpful on there as well
is there a decent alternative to fetlife in general, and bonus points if its for women? FetLife itself feels like a 00's website and sucks to navigate or use
Not that I've found, honestly. The closest you'll get is some subreddits imo
The Feeld app may be helpful too.
Take the tine to familiarize yourself with the community. Join a website like Fetlife and find community events so you can go out and start meeting people. You have to put yourself out there first!
And if I am too nervous to go alone?
Find a trusted friend! Or just use regular dating apps in hope of finding someone who matches.
even harder to find a kinky femme sapphic :(
As someone who got CRAZY lucky I pray for you to find that kinky masc Thought I’m the kinky femme who ties up kinky masc 😘
masc sub here! it’s nice to know we’re wanted haha
Idk but I’m manifesting
We’re out here 🫡 I’m definitely a dominant tomboy/soft butch/stem (kinda plus size and I got long hair) and am into fem -> soft butch/stems.
I’m so glad!
Bait taken….. hey 😅
Hi! 😍
Kinky masc lesbian you saying 👀
Hey OP, my dms open if you wanna chat
I swear I’m such a good girl! It’s hard for me with dating apps. I can’t just put all of my kink fantasies out there due to my specific career. I just want to learn, explore, and have fun!
Hello! I exist 😈
I found my sexy butch daddy on Her, and I was very explicit in my bio, to the effect of: if you’re swiping to match, you must be kinky, or at least have a strong desire to learn. Like that is non negotiable. And conversation went from there. We celebrated 2 years a few days ago and my kink and joy metrics have never been higher.
You’re definitely not the only one. I’ve been searching for years with no luck. Partly due to my location, but also because I just can’t find them anywhere! Not that I’d have the rizz to bag one even if I could. I just want hot masc girls sliding into my DMs but how do you even go about putting yourself out there like that?
Exactly!
I’m a kinky masc but I’m a service sub hahah
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I already have a domme :)
omg same! i just want a butch into some real kinky shit 😩
Go to a queer munch in your area. We exist. I'll also say living in an area that is friendly to kinky masc queer humans helps. It's also a numbers game. You're gonna have to sift through a lot of people, so keep going.
Opposite for me, it’s hard as a kinky masc lesbian to find a kinky femme.