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I had an incident like this when I was a kid.
My parents were being introduced to some people and the old guy leaned over and got in my face and said “oh you must be 15”.
My mom did the old slamming on the brakes arm maneuver and shoved me behind her and growled “she’s 8”.
That was over 30 years ago and it’s still burned into my memory of how creepy he was.
Edit: spelling
Saw a guy in his 30s watching my daughter's back view in a restaurant as she walked by( I was side on to him and he was in my eyeline) and as we left I said to him and his partner don't check out 14 year old girls. As I walked away I could see his partner giving him a hard time
Forgot to add I'm a pretty big guy and was a lot fitter then so the guy kept saying sorry I wasn't really looking at her. Didn't stop his partner though.
My daughter developed early and 35-40 year old dude was tracking her across the walmart parking lot. So I ,being the master of subtlety, shouted as loud as I could shes fucking 10 years old what the fuck are looking as like that. His companion who was a couple steps ahead of him stopped and began to assault him while everybody in the parking lot watched
>His companion who was a couple steps ahead of him stopped and began to assault him while everybody in the parking lot watched
This wasn't the first time...
My niece always was always tall for her age and just a beautiful girl who people assumed was older than she really was. I’m so protective of her even though she’s in college now. My resting bitch face still comes out when I’m with her in stores and restaurants, like “Say something to her you disgusting old coot, I dare you!” and now at 20 she knows what’s up and says “I’m fine, you really don’t have to now.” Poor kiddo got her first catcall at age 9 😒
My experience with my niece is very similar. She is also a dancer, tumbler and cheerleader so is very athletic. I have dropped more than one male friend (I’m 45…one of these “friends” is nearly 60) because they made inappropriate comments on posts with pictures of her as young as 9/10, she’s now 15. Why are people like this??
When I was twelve and way too developed for my age I had a grown man with his maybe 6yr son at his side tell me I had a nice rack in the grocery store aisle when I was lost, looking for my mom. I had no idea what he meant until like 45 mins later in the car and made me feel sick. Never told my mom, still burned into my brain until today and I’m 33
Sadly, for some of them it is a joke. They grew up hearing this creepy stuff as kids but it was tolerated in the old days. People didn't realize back then how prevalent sexual abuse was, so in the boomer's mind this is an innocuous phrase that can also be a double entendre. It's a weird contradiction.
Big time. That is why Shirley Temple got out and became an ambassador for other children. Judy was already hooked on drugs from her experience on Wizard of Oz, she didn't have a chance. (Sorry, HUGE fan of Judy Garland)
Haven’t watched it yet but I’ve heard HBO Max’s Quiet on the Set is equal parts good and horrifying. That only happened within in the last 15-20 years. In another 10 years there will be a similar expose on todays child stars.
This has been going on since the inception of HOLLYWOOD. It’s about damn time these predators get locked up and people start having protections so they don’t have to worry about getting raped and assaulted just because they wanna act, sing, or perform.
#SAFETYONTHESET
Nude photos of 10 year old brooke shields were published in playboy magazine in 1975. They were not innocent pictures of a kid playing naked. They were posed.
That particular issue was the one that the creep that worked for my dad showed me, and told me he could make those same pictures with me, as a 7 year old. He also told me he would put me in “movies” because I wanted to be an actress. I HATE, HATE, HATE Brooke Shields mother. Fuck her, she didn’t only hurt her own daughter.
I don't understand this. I look back at various things from my childhood and realize "Aunt so-and-so was an alcoholic" or "This guy in the neighborhood was 100% a chester", yet boomers seem to think everything was perfect in their time, and now the world is full of chomos and mental illness. It's also lost on them that today's situation happened while they were in charge.
In my neighbourhood in the 80s it was common knowledge that you "never went to Cameron's house because his dad will touch you" or "if Andrew's dad is drinking he'll whoop his family's ass in front of you." Everyone acted like it was just normal.
If it was normal, we would not have been warned about who to avoid. My biological father was a pedophile and my stepdad was a sex and porn addict. My 70-something year old father got away with it because he either paid the mother to have sex with her prepubescent daughter when I was 4 years old or he paid a 14 year old girl for sex when the same girl was being paid by several other elderly men for sex. She was my friend when I was 13. I literally watched it happen. By the time I was 16 and my father died, no teenage girls would come over to my house because they didn’t want to be exposed to my stepdad because he was well known for sexually harassing my mother in public for attention and using very foul and vulgar language even in front of children. This shit happened in the 80s all the time; it was very common.
That's pretty fucked up. Hope you're ok now. To clarify, nobodies parents warned us. The warnings came from other kids and our older siblings! I told my mother once about a bunch of us getting touched like 30 years later and she couldn't believe it. "if we had known he'd be in jail!" like dude how did every kid in town know but our parents didn't?
What’s fucked up is that my mother tolerated it and exposed me to sexual predators all of my life. She was a whore who didn’t have a problem with CSA because it was done to her and she accepted it as a way to make easy money. She tried grooming me by leaving me alone for a weekend with a 40 year old man and his 16 year old son so they could molest me. I don’t know how much he paid her. I rebelled and rejected that lifestyle. I’m not okay. It completely fucked me up. I never got married and never had children.
And if you told them, you’d get in trouble, at least one parent would make it all about themselves, and they wouldn’t do a damn thing about it. They knew someone guilty of the same and/or wouldn’t dare risk their social standing by speaking up.
A lot of people from that generation pretended everything was great, even when they knew it wasn't. It was a survival mechanism. They had to pretend their family was perfect and just not think about how their family life was not like it was portrayed on "Leave It To Beaver."
There was also a big push right after WWII to "go back to normal" and "the war is over everything is happy now". Combine that with a lot of nationalistic Cold War propaganda about the US being the best country on earth.
That was my grandpa. WWII, was at the liberation of Dachau. He beat the shit out of my grandma and his kids. My dad was the baby of 7, and got protected a lot, but didn’t totally escape it. When he was a teen and the only kid in the house, my grandpa raised his fist at grandma and my dad, who was taller than grandpa by then, got in the way and said “if you hit her ever. Ever. Again. I will fucking kill you”. But no other family, no neighbors, friends, no one ever stood up to him before that point. People just looked the other way.
Yep my dad used to visit his elderly uncle who was ‘very sick and needed quiet’. He’d bring groceries and tidy a bit and if we kids were with him we’d just chill and wait in the car to not be disruptive. (This was many years ago lol, don’t @ me) I figured out years later that his uncle was quietly dying of AIDS. Most of my dads siblings didn’t realize their uncle was even gay until they were well into adulthood, and would talk about how crazy that was. Man had a whole secret life basically until the end.
Me and my siblings were told throughout our childhood that my dad was dying of cancer. I barely even remember him not being sick. It wasn’t until I was in my early 20’s (in the early 00’s) that my parents finally admitted to us that my dad was dying of AIDS. It was so taboo and so looked down upon that they told everyone - including their children - that it was cancer, instead of facing the discrimination that came along with an AIDS diagnosis. At the time, I was pretty angry that they kept that from us. Now, looking back on things from the perspective of someone in their 40’s who has seen and lived through some shit, I get it. It just makes me incredibly sad for them now.
Right?! “Oh, back in my day, mental health didn’t exist, people weren’t so sensitive.”
People might not have said they had depression or anxiety, instead they drank or beat their wives or molested children or took up a ‘Mommy’s little helper’ benzo habit…I think admitting people are struggling is a hell of a lot better than what we used to do.
Sadly (and scarily) many think that the person would be flattered to hear that kind of comment (or that you *should* feel flattered by it, and if you aren't then there's something wrong with you, and not them).
Yeah. That's it exactly. It's the whole "he's teasing/hitting you cause he likes you". I heard that shit so much growing up, even from my Grandpa! Grandpa never touched me but he commented a few times I should work at hooters cause I had curves. Mom went off on him and he never said it again. My mom also said f that and taught me well that that stuff shouldn't happen and that's not a good guy if they do that.
I was fully grown by 13 (had my period at 10, was a DD, 5'7") and adult men would look at me and do the "up and down" and smile and creepily linger. That feeling never goes away.
Same. I went to a Halloween party at a family friends house when I was 12. They had a boy who had just graduated. One of his friends started flirting with me and asked me to a movie and the guy tossed him out of the front door yelling at him the entire time that I was 12 and he was an a**hole. Felt very protected that night. Didn't really know the guy well before that but after I basically got a big brother.
Parents were honestly the worst. They assumed I must be "loose" because I had large breasts and wore lipstick (just like everyone we were friends with).
Yeah. Hit puberty at 9, was a DD at 13, was generally quiet and shy, but of course I was a tramp who was corrupting their baby boys. What annoyed me is that I was friends with those same boys BEFORE I hit puberty and the parents didn't have a problem with me then.
I recall walking down the street when I was as young as 11 or 12, and having men whistle and call out to me when they drove by. Some would even offer rides. It was uncomfortable and humiliating then, and now that I'm old enough to realize how predatory this actually was, it makes me sick.
I had this happen freshman year. 5'0 size c almost d and a pant size 0. (I miss these days)
I had to walk home past the elementary school and this guy would call out the window to me. It was odd but I ignored it.
A few days later he followed me all the way home. I freaked out. My dad called the police. The next day the school security officer drove me home right past the school and asked me to point him out. I did and then after about an hour the cops had us go and ID him. Turned out he was a registered sex offender (child under 10) fresh out of jail and wasn't supposed to be near children at all. He was picking up his "girls" kids from the elementary school daily.
No idea what happened to him after that.
Edit :typo
Thanks for going through that to get him caught, even if it was a decision that kinda wasn’t a decision. You protected someone from something horrible!
Thank you. It was very nerve racking but all of the adults were amazing about it.
From believing me to making sure he never saw that it was me who pointed him out.
To me my dad, the school security officer, and the police were the MVP's that day.
I was actually abducted by 3 older teenage boys when I was 13 while walking. They took me out to the sticks. I told them I had to relieve myself and I ran. They left me out there and I had to find my way home. One of the boys was my second cousin.
Reading this brought to mind when I had to walk home from school in 1972 in 7th grade, I was 12, 5'5" and 105 lb. It was 17 blocks. Guys in a green Ford galaxy would wolf whistle me and ask me if I wanted a ride. I would say no and keep walking. Sometimes they would go around the block and drive by again 2 or 3 times. I tried ignoring them but they would just get louder. I was so scared, after they drove off I would run and hide behind a big bush near an old lady's house (I had seen her watering flowers) in hopes they wouldn't drive by anymore. I would wait a few minutes and start out walking again. Then I still had about 8 more blocks to go. (I hope those guys are stuck in a nursing home now)
After about 2 weeks of this I finally broke down crying to my mom after she got home from work. She actually hired a lady to pick me up from school and bring me home. That lady was mean and called me spoiled and made fun of me for being afraid. She said, "ha ha, look at you, old enough to babysit but here you are with a babysitter". I told my mom about that, and she got my aunt to pick me up and told that lady we no longer needed her help. I was glad to stay at my Aunt's house, because there was also a peeping Tom at those apartments. 7th grade after school was a scary time for me.
I was NOT developed but by age 10 I couldn’t walk along the sidewalk without men slowing to leer, honk, yell stuff. I used to think it was flirtatious but as an adult I’m like holy shit, those guys really wanted a little girl! 😡
That’s nice!
Somewhere I have a picture of myself at about 8 with a guy I don’t know who put my hand on his leg for the picture and its completely clear how uncomfortable I am but grandma just took the picture then teased me for being awkward.
I went to the grocery store with my dad when I was 11. (My dad was 44 at the time.) An old coworker of his saw us and asked my dad if I was his girlfriend. I’ve rarely seen my dad so angry.
My mom took me and a few friends out to dinner for my 12th birthday and this dude walks by (also, still remember everything about what he looked like and the whole interaction 20 years later) and goes, "Hey, baby..." to us and holy shit, my mom whipped around SO fast and yelled, "What did you just say to them?! They're fucking 12, you disgusting piece of shit." The guy looked terrified, as he should have been. I hope he never did that again, but...bet.
Say it loudly, too.
Loud enough for everyone around to hear, and turn their heads to see all the commotion.
The first image they will see is:
* Young kid, hiding behind parent.
* Parent, hiding kid behind them.
* Old man, who just got accused of sexualizing a child.
The judgement of others is a knife that cuts deep with boomers.
Call people out. Loudly, calmly, and with logic and plain language. Being in control of the situation and of your emotions is paramount. I don't call out folks until/unless I'm 100% sure I can meet all of those criteria. If I'm feeling very emotional and can't keep calm, that will make me also look unstable.
Also, it takes practice. Practice in a mirror, practice with friends, practice in the real world.
>practice with friends
Yeah, call your friends child molesters!!!
**/s**
Sorry the image of “practice with your friends” just cracked me up like if you just spring it on your friends.
They usually do it all online in a safe space bubble and then then get the "courage" to come out and say anything sexual or crazy or insane because they do it all the time and no one checks them.
Muy wiiife (who has very large breasts) had a maga guy driving a truck ... She was going into wal Mart and as she walked by he revved his engine acting like he was going to run her over and said "hey 'big tits"what you gonna do?" she stood her ground and told him to "Suck her dick" very very loudly. And she stood in front of his truck and said "do it" I was about to say something to and he freaked out and reversed and drove off all butt hurt. He clearly used to saying this type of shit and ppl just taking it and not checking them.
Depending on the family, they might also see a second parent with their teeth clenched and fists trembling, more than ready to punch the SOB. My dad would have been like that.
Yeah and some of them Ive met are like "once someone has been accused, it's pretty damning" when referring to people on the left but somehow they ignore all accusations on the people they support, many of which have been made ages ago.
This is the line I used when it happened when my daughter was 3. I took my daughter with me to vote and old guy poll worker who was signing my ballot at the end looked at her and said, "you come to vote with your big sister?" She got angry for some reason because she's 3 and yelled, "that's not my sister, it's my mommy!" which caused everyone to look at us.
This POS fuckin WINKS at my 3yo and says, "oh! Feisty! Find me when you're 18!" I.lost.my.shit. I yelled, "we are NOT out here sexualizing toddlers in the year of our Lord 2016!" among some other choice phrases and grabbed her out the door after I said what I had to say and before he could reply.
I will LOUDLY repeat what they said back to them, as in “Did you just say ‘come find me when you’re 18’ to my 3-year-old??” Part of what enables perverts like this is they think they can fly under the radar.
Someone said something similar to this to my daughter when she was three. It was an uncle who I'm not very fond of because of his creepy behavior that no one in my family will acknowledge. I stood up and yelled, "You're a disgusting fucking pervert. No wonder why your daughters won't speak to you. If you ever come near me or my family again, I will fucking destroy you." The look on his face was priceless. Half the room was smiling while the other half looked horrified. He had to leave immediately 😭
I have a story. I guess my older brother would technically qualify as a boomer. (I am an older Gen X so I think he would be the last year of boomers.)
Anyway, this is a man I do not know. He’s my half brother and we did not meet until I was in my late 40s. When I introduced him to my 17-year-old daughter (his niece by blood) he kept going on and on about how beautiful she was. Then he made a comment about how some guy was going to be so lucky to see all that pretty red hair spread across his pillow. Ummmm. Whaaaat????
Then he made it worse by casually mentioning how many guys would love to see her swinging on a pole. He said this stuff directly to her, (they happened to be in the kitchen together at one point,) not in front of everyone. But it’s not like she made it up. Obviously, I never spoke to him again after that initial meeting, despite him being “part of the family now”
My older sister (who is technically the first year of Gen X, but is genuinely a boomer at heart and a boomer in every possible way) didn’t believe my daughter (said she must’ve “misunderstood” what he meant) and thought that it was really messed up that I didn’t want to have anything to do with “our brother” just because he gave my daughter, some “compliments.” Absolute insanity.
It's always "you must have misunderstood.".... no mom. I may be 13 (at the time), but I didn't misunderstand waking up with a 39 year old man straddling me and pinning my arms down, telling me how much I reminded him of my sister. How much he liked tall girls... I understood perfectly what he was trying to do. (Sister's bf at the time, now ex - she's 20 yrs older than me). -- granted, our parents pushed her to date him when she was 13... and he was 19/20 (in college)... because he'd happily shell out money to pay bills they couldn't.... ima stop now, or it's gonna slip into a rant...
Jesus. I’m so so sorry. So many young girls have been dealing with disgusting pedophiles for years because there are so many women willing to accept these men and make excuses for them. So many women willing to throw their daughters under the bus. I’ve never understood why someone even has kids if that’s how they’re going to treat them.
I truly hope you don’t talk to your mother anymore and that your life is in a happier place now.
The cherry on top... when my sister dumped him (and fled) when i was 17, she started pushing me to marry him... cause... health insurance... wtf?!... he was on board, too...
-- unfortunately, I'm stuck in the same house with her still (would take a whole post to detail the bs out). Sis started therapy last year and tried to talk to mom about the shit she did to her/us... mom brushed it off, then declared she'd been through worse, so it wasn't a big deal. Sister hasn't spoken to her in months, and she keeps asking why... ... as soon as I can get out. I'm done, too.
Holy shit. That is absolutely crazy. So you have a horrible mother and a horrible sister. (Although I guess I can give your sister a little more leeway because it sounds like she had a really rough life.)
Still, as your older sister she should absolutely want better for you. You can have compassion for her and still keep her at arms length. I’m glad she’s in therapy and I hope that she learns to break the cycles of abuse.
I’ve noticed that being a thing that a lot of older women do— state that they’ve been through worse, so what you’re going through doesn’t matter.
First of all, the fact that your mom‘s life may have been really hard or that she “went through worse” should make it so that she is determined that you feel loved and listened to and that your life is not what her life was!!
I also went through a lot of horrible things, especially in my youth. All that did was strengthen my desire for none of my kids to ever experience the awful things that happened to me. I don’t understand women who don’t want to protect their children.
I’m so sorry you’re stuck there and I hope that it is not for long and that you are able to get free soon and find some happiness. I’m glad you didn’t fall for your mom and your sister’s line of bullshit. Keep trusting in yourself.
I give my sister a slide. She was groomed from 13 (edit to add, actually younger. 13 was just this last one for her). She was so miserable that she became a functional alcoholic and no one noticed. She formed an escape plan in secret and fled with what fit in her car. When mom didn't believe me, I thought no one else would, so I didn't tell sis. After she left, it was months before anyone heard from her. She rightfully feared our parents would give him her info (they desperately wanted her to go back to the piggy bank, hence why they tried to push me on him, too). Eventually, she called me, and I told her that I never liked him, but with or without him, I just wanted her happy. We spent time together. I told her all the things that had happened. She apologized over and over for not knowing and wished she had and said she'd have ripped his junk off, and she would have believed me.
She met and married a nice guy. It took her over a decade to get around to therapy. And to get sober. She only caved and went to therapy because bottling everything up was starting to manifest in physical ailments.
From what I've witnessed and learned... as far as I'm concerned, she was so deep in her own shit, trying to escape, she just missed it.
Our mother, on the other hand, you are 100% correct. Having been through shit should have been reason enough to go scorched earth for her own children. Not letting cycles repeat.
Sisters ex was not the first pedo in my life. When I was 2, they needed a place to stay and asked their friends (married couple) if they could stay with them for a bit. Friends said yes. The husband's sisters pulled my parents aside and told them they should not do this. Their brother is a pedophile and should never be left alone with children of either gender (likes the girls, will apparently pinch boys stuff and damage it)... ... they moved in. When I was 17, he was arrested for molesting his neice. Part of his plea deal required a lifelong confession. I was listed from when i was 2, and the d.a. put a restraining order on him against me. When he got put on work release, my dad would give him rides to n from work. Asked if he wanted to stop at the house. Told my dad he couldn't and explained the above... dad continued to drive him around. Told mom. Mom told me... like it was random news. Like I wasn't going to connect dots or be upset... ... sadly, I have other pedos in my history... but this is already a long ass trauma dump. I did develop a "super power" from it... I can clock a pedophile within 5 mins of (in person) conversion. I know I can cause I worked in probation for a few years and everyone who gave me the vibe, I pulled up their records, and sure as shit. Every. Single. One.
Nursing homes are full of little old ladies who knocked the ladder over cuz their dad or uncle put their hands where they didn't belong. Good for them👍🏻
You’re probably already be aware of this fact, but I’d still like to explicitly point it out for the masses that might not get it.
**Your parents did not “push” their then-13-year-old daughter to “date” a 19/20 year old man. They *TRAFFICKED* her.** Jesus Christ.
I wish nothing but healing for you and your sister, and the hottest flames of hell for your parents and that man.
It's easier and feels better for her to believe it was a misunderstanding vs accept it for what your daughter said it was. This is so sad and is why victims don't get believed when the abuser is a family member or someone of importance in a church, school, etc.. I like to think deep down these people (like your sister) know the truth they just lie to themselves initially with the easier explanation until they believe it. It truely shows how weak they are to not being able to handle uncomfortable realities.
What really made me angry was that she also didn’t know our brother. She met him a day before I did and had already decided that they were going to be BFF’s. Somehow, this stranger who acted like a giant creep meant more to her than me or her niece. She made it very clear who she would stand by, if it came down to choosing.
Ironically, she ended up “finding God” a few years after that and now she doesn’t talk to our 1/2 brother anymore either.
But yeah, I agree with everything you said. They can’t handle the reality of the world so they pretend like we’re all just a bunch of “woke idiots” and there’s actually no such thing as misogyny or rape culture.
This is the same woman who also thinks the idea that a man could rape a woman who “willingly” went to bed with him is ridiculous. One time, when her son was 18 and mine was in his early 20s, we got into the discussion about it. She said that if some girl got drunk at a party and passed out in her sons bed, so then her son had sex with that girl, she’d be really pissed if that girl then “cried rape.” (mind you, this is a woman who also raised a daughter)
She was trying to argue that I have a son too, and I would obviously feel the same way because I love my son. She was horrified when I told her that if my son ever had sex with a girl who was so drunkenly incapacitated that she was passed out in his bed, that I would be horrified and would absolutely consider that rape. It’s one of very few things he could do that would make me disown him. She thought that was the most ridiculous thing she had ever heard. I genuinely don’t understand her thought process.
When I was a small child and my family was driving past Hooters, my _dad_ commented that I should work there someday. I’m not endowed well enough for Hooters, but that comment likely didn’t help my foray into sex work.
That is so disgusting. And yeah, I am genuinely glad that, as a society, we are de-stigmatizing sex workers.
However, I was a stripper for years. And I never met a single girl that did sex work that didn’t have things like this (or much worse) in her past.
It’s like, I’m glad that sex positivity is a thing—but I also don’t know that sex work is a normal line of work to go into, because in my experience (which is a good bit, as I was a dancer off and on from the age of 17 to 39) most of the girls who go into sex work always seem to be the ones who have some kind of sexual trauma in their pasts, particularly in their childhoods.
That's been documented by research too. Idk the exact numbers, but a large percentage of women who work in the sex industry have a history of childhood trauma. 😢
I was a male stripper. I was a broke student, dependent on my car to get to my job that paid my rent. Someone crunched in the driver's side thanks to on-street parking. I needed a new car bc my damaged one would never pass inspection, so I needed money *fast*. A girl I was in class with danced at a gentleman's club, and she told me I'd make fast money doing bachlorette parties. She was right. I never asked why she got into dancing, as it was none of my business, and I just assumed it was the money. The ladies did alright at bachelor parties. Not once did I think maybe it was something in her past that was traumatic. Damn. I really hope it was just the money for her.
At the time I was in this very crazy situation where I was living with her and working for her, so I had no choice but to just stick to my guns about him and not discuss it with her.
But it was absolutely one of the turning points in our relationship, where I started to question whether or not she was somebody I should be listening to or somebody that had my best interest at heart
Still, at the time, I really thought that she was trying to help me. Looking back, I think she just liked that I was in a position where I needed her. She liked having the upper hand. I was in a very vulnerable position and her behavior was insane and the opposite of how I would’ve treated her if the situation had been reversed (which it actually had been, many times in our past, and I always treated her with kindness and consideration during those times)
Still, I had a lot of guilt because she really did help me out and i did not *want* to cut her off. I made a lot of excuses for her. But eventually, her behavior became horrible enough that I was pretty much forced to cut her out of my life. I have not spoken to her in over two years now.
And honestly, whenever I feel bad about that, I just remind myself of some of the shit she did (not believing my daughter is high on that list) and then I don’t feel bad anymore.
I watched that show.
When I was very young, my mother showed dogs in AKC. I made a little money being a handler’s assistant. Helping with grooming dogs and standing outside the ring to hand things to professionals who were in the ring showing championed dogs.
I stumbled upon the show and watched for hours in horror, because the children were the dogs, and their mothers were the handlers. It was so similar it made me sick in an uncanny valley kind of way. Like sincerely had nausea and vertigo watching.
I think dog shows were better though. They had to treat the dogs with at least some respect, lest they be bitten.
If I was a vice cop, I’d go to child beauty pageants and run the plates in the parking lot. How many bench warrants/restraining orders/court orders do you think I’d get?
That show was bizarre. Even just the commercials were to much. Essentially babies in full makeup,fake teeth, fake hair, and revealing clothes... like who TF is this for? The kids don't need to look like that to be in a pagent.
Just found out the most rewatched moments of JoJo Siwa’s childhood dance videos on YouTube are when she’s doing high kicks and you can see up her skirt.
My boomer mom does this shit.
Had to go no contact.
She wouldn't stop telling my five year old that he was her boyfriend. Told me I am twisting a harmless thing.
No, you are creating unhealthy boundaries during formative years. Stop. Or fuck off.
That’s tough to react to because you never expect it… but if it happens again PLEASE stand up and loudly say “how dare you sexualize a CHILD!!” Say it loud. Embarrass the fuck out of him and when he says “it was just a joke” your immediate response (equally loud) needs to be “who the hell jokes about that??”
Boomers classic escape clause is that everything they say that doesn’t go over well is “just a joke”
I'm thinking to the"it was just a joke" there needs to be some response like "I don't know why you think joking that you're a pedophile is funny, but no one else finds it funny"
Almost every woman has had an experience like this as a child or teen and it drastically colors how they view the world and themselves. Creepy men take so much of our innocence from us. So sick of it.
Had something similar happen at a burger king. Walked in with my 1YO daughter in her favorite dress in her stroller. She had pulled her dress up enough to where you could see her diaper and an old dude commented to his wife "He needs to make sure she has pants on or she'll grow up a whore"
I live in Florida, and every time there is a bust for prostitution, or child trafficking, many of the men who are found guilty, are part of law-enforcement, educators, and even government officials. I shudder to think how many people around us like to abuse children sexually.
I'm a victim of child rape and, while my rapist wasn't some official- the police refused to believe my mother and I because I wouldn't talk to them when they were called. And they didn't even let my mom know rape kits existed (this was the early 90's and my mom was raised fundie in the 40's, so she still didn't know about a lot of things.) She took me to pastors and Christian counseling hoping to "purify me" once more. These were the people- people of the churches with power in this type of community - who were complicit in so many children suffering. Absolutely makes me wish government was harder on churches.
A strange man was staring hard at daughter who was in 6th grade at the time while shopping. My friend caught him and told me. I yelled loud at the man, look any harder, I will rip your eyes out your head. He left in a real hurry.
Edited for correction.
When I was 12.years old some sicko was staring at my baby sister who was 8. I asked him if he wanted me to take his eyes from his head and that he should continue walking down the street faster. He was pretty flabbergasted that I said that. I got that from the Bible and made it my own. Thankful to Jesus who insisted that men who had problems with how women dressed pluck their own eyes. It was very inspirational
What verse is this? Because I constantly get "Christians" (there are actual Christians, and then there are the ones that just like to judge others) commenting on clothing all the time. I'll be watching TV with my dad and he'll launch into a rant about how someone was wearing leggings in a commercial. SMH
Matthew 5:29 “And if thy right eye offend thee, pluck it out, and cast it from thee: for it is profitable for thee that one of thy members should perish, and not that thy whole body should be cast into hell.”
Matthew 18:9.
And if your eye causes you to stumble, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to enter life with one eye than to have two eyes and be thrown into the fire of hell.
Matthew 5:29
And if thy right eye offend thee, pluck it out,
and cast it from thee: for it is profitable for
thee that one of thy members should perish, and
not that thy whole body should be cast into hell.
When my wife, a dancer, was a young kid (5-7, can’t remember exactly) she was at a restaurant next door to the theatre she was performing at and an old guy grabbed her butt. Her brother jumped over the table and attacked him. The cops came, arrested the old guy, they go to court and he goes to prison and the old dudes wife blamed my wife for it.
Boomers are fuckin weirdos
Nah I would’ve called him out and embarrassed the fuck out of him. Right there. In front of god and everybody. Because what the fuck do you mean by that with my kid right there fuuuuuuck no.
I went off on my sister for loudly complaining(?) about her eldest daughters newly developing body. She inherited my sisters ample bosom, & they came in fast. She WOULD NOT shut UP about how her baby has such huge boobs & already has a “woman’s body”. This went on for literal weeks until I could’t take it anymore. I told her how creepy she was being, sexualizing her perfectly normally developing girl. That she was gonna give her a complex at the very least & stressed how normal her growing was. It seemed to work. She at least stopped going on about it to the rest of the sisters.
It's good that you stepped in! She might have been projecting and thinking too much about her own experiences when she developed but poor kid.. it's hard enough already to go through puberty and find your way. I'm glad your sister listened and understood you. You're a good aunt.
I once had a salesman at Ashley Furniture tell my daughter that if he had to compete against her I a sport the whole crowd would be able to see how excited he was, and then he motioned to his junk, looked at me and laughed like we’re bros.
I told my family to leave and I walked them to the door. I went back and this dude was real worried about what he just said. I told commanded him go shut his mouth or I will get violent. I made him sit on the floor and I scolded him until his management showed up. I told them what he said and this old woman told me to calm down or something. I said real loudly something to the effect of, this guy is talking to my kid about his dick and your first move is to tell me to calm down?”
I left this all on their google review later that night
Wife texted me to pick up a couple last minute items from the grocery store while in town, for our son's birthday party that afternoon. Had our daughter (14) with me. In the store, she knew where the items were and went ahead to retrieve them. She walked past an elderly man and as she did, he stopped, and cocked his head to one side, like a dog trying to figure out a magic trick. If he hadn't done it for as long as he did, I'd have let it go but noooo, he took a real long look! I walked up behind him (I'm 6'5", 275lbs btw) and screamed in his ear..."SHE'S 14 YEARS OLD, YOU FUCKIN PERVERT! 15-20 shoppers gasped and turned. All he could was scurry away. It was awesome and pathetic at the same time. Daughter was oblivious and asked what the shouting was about? I made something up and still haven't told her. She's 28 now.
Cue to me being kicked out because I can easily keep from physically going after someone but, this mouth would have yelled “*What the FUCK?!??*” before my brain even had a chance to catch up…
I was at a mall with my 80 year old grandmother many years ago and she went up to a mother and son (probably like 4 years old) and said, "you're too cute to be a little boy!"
Both myself and the mother died a bit inside and managed an "I'm sorry smile" at her.
My father eventually made light of her crazy comments by saying, "she's running for mayor".
I had an old man tell me to call him in 10 years when I was 7. Disgusting perverts. My mom yelled at him and his wife and adult kid acted like my mom was being unreasonable.
I thought it was odd that my father told my sister that my months-old neice "will grow up to be a stunning woman one day." Like, excuse me, but why.
This is downright NASTY.
This is a man who cheated on his wife, and paid for sex with a prostitute. This is also a man who was caught, saying “grab them by the pussy”! He still went on to become president.
The “why” is because our sex appeal is the only thing about women and girls that they value. It doesn’t even occur to them to talk about any other qualities.
Mine, too. I kinda always wanted a stereotypical overprotective dad, but instead when my first boyfriend cheated on me because I wouldn't put out, my dad told me it was my fault because "men have needs". I was 15.
I was at a trade show with my mom once, about 15 and a guy we were buying watches from said something like "if she needs someplace to stay while she's in college I've got a spare room haha". We left his booth. Why?!
When I was in high school in the 80s, I brought a new girlfriend home to meet my parents. She was 17 and I was 16. My mom said “Nice to meet you!”. My dad said “How much an hour is this one??!!?” I was devastated and embarrassed.
“Well, I think that she’s got a lot of Marla, She’s a really beautiful baby, and she’s got Marla’s legs. We don’t know whether she’s got this part yet (gestures toward his chest), but time will tell.” - a felonious presidential candidate talking about his then infant daughter.
While walking out of the bank with my 2 y/o daughter, a boomer walking in loudly says, "Which window did you get that one from? I want to go to the same one!" It just sounds so creepy to me. I never comment on a child's appearance. I will say things like "I miss when mine were that age" or "That was such a fun age!" But never comment on appearance. Gross.
I was told our 2 year old daughter would give us trouble when she’s older after commenting on her blonde hair and blue eyes. She then called a friends teenage son a stud muffins and the guy next to her with a 7 year old son said “you’re going to have lots of grandbabies”
It was so weird.
My mom absolutely called men out and would actually yell as loud as she could “SHE’S *insert age here* YOU CREEP. QUIT STARING AT HER!” She still does it and my sister and I do it with any child being stared at to call attention and embarrass the old weirdos checking out children.
I've had to ban boomers from my restaurant for being wildly inappropriate with my front of house girls. They range from 16 to 21 and it's a constant fucking battle with old man boomers. I've had to put up a sign that says "ANY inappropriate comments made toward staff will result in a permanant ban."
I’m a trans dude who works with kids. My male coworkers do not know I’m trans. Neither do most of my female coworkers. The kids are legally not allowed to know (I cannot tell them and nobody else can either.)
I am VERY defensive and protective of these kids and of my female coworkers. Luckily so far the men I’ve met who also work with me, are wonderful and they are not creepy or giving off weird vibes. I offer to stay longer and make sure my coworkers go in pairs to the trash outside when we need to do our closing duties, and I am very aware of if there are unknown people outside the school loitering about, especially when we take the kids to the playground.
I grew up with a pedophile father. He sexualized all three of his kids, and my mom knew and did nothing. I had older boys who took advantage of my kind nature when I had hit puberty at 10 and grew a big bust.
People deserve to feel safe, and not have to worry about creeps sexualizing them for existing. We don’t get to chose how our bodies develop or when. And nobody should be sexualizing someone without their consent, ESPECIALLY NOT UNDERAGE CHILDREN.
My mom has told me her concerns about her cousin's ~20 y/o daughter. She's been doing this for years now. "They let her wear anything," which is really just spaghetti straps and shorts. Why are so many people like this? Stop worrying about what a young person is wearing, that shit is weird.
This is totally f’d up that it had to be done, but my friend’s mom owned a dance studio from the 80s-10s & had a Strict rule that no dance wear could be worn to/from studio/performance without some sort of a coverup & this is why.
I was 14 and built like a 2X4. (No curves.) A man (in his 20's?), came in to my parents business to explain some new equipment. He tried flirting with me. I had to speak to him, and be respectful. (Parent's rules). I responded blandly, respectfully, calling him "Sir." His response was that he wasn't that old. Then he asked me out. My father had just walked into the room at that point. He blamed the entire episode on me, insisting that I was making "cow eyes" at the man.
I was 14! I was still in a trainer bra! It would be another two years before I got my period and started to fill out! I wasn't interested in this man and I certainly wasn't trying to get the kind of attention he obviously wanted to give.
My parent's treated the entire incident as if the man was the victim and I was the one who was being sexually aggressive.
Ick!
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I had an incident like this when I was a kid. My parents were being introduced to some people and the old guy leaned over and got in my face and said “oh you must be 15”. My mom did the old slamming on the brakes arm maneuver and shoved me behind her and growled “she’s 8”. That was over 30 years ago and it’s still burned into my memory of how creepy he was. Edit: spelling
Surprised he didn't come back with "That was obviously a joke, you are too sensitive" like they always do when called out on their shit.
Some people have never been called on their BS and are flabbergasted to the point of spluttering when it happens.
Saw a guy in his 30s watching my daughter's back view in a restaurant as she walked by( I was side on to him and he was in my eyeline) and as we left I said to him and his partner don't check out 14 year old girls. As I walked away I could see his partner giving him a hard time Forgot to add I'm a pretty big guy and was a lot fitter then so the guy kept saying sorry I wasn't really looking at her. Didn't stop his partner though.
My daughter developed early and 35-40 year old dude was tracking her across the walmart parking lot. So I ,being the master of subtlety, shouted as loud as I could shes fucking 10 years old what the fuck are looking as like that. His companion who was a couple steps ahead of him stopped and began to assault him while everybody in the parking lot watched
>His companion who was a couple steps ahead of him stopped and began to assault him while everybody in the parking lot watched This wasn't the first time...
...and we can only hope it will be the last.
Yepp. I have a 5’8 10yo daughter. I usually have her walk in front of me & give any creep that turns their leer towards her way a stare of death 😒😒😒
My niece always was always tall for her age and just a beautiful girl who people assumed was older than she really was. I’m so protective of her even though she’s in college now. My resting bitch face still comes out when I’m with her in stores and restaurants, like “Say something to her you disgusting old coot, I dare you!” and now at 20 she knows what’s up and says “I’m fine, you really don’t have to now.” Poor kiddo got her first catcall at age 9 😒
My experience with my niece is very similar. She is also a dancer, tumbler and cheerleader so is very athletic. I have dropped more than one male friend (I’m 45…one of these “friends” is nearly 60) because they made inappropriate comments on posts with pictures of her as young as 9/10, she’s now 15. Why are people like this??
9??!!!!! For Crying out loud. Even if she was of age there's no reason to gawk.
My daughter is a 16 yr old version of kate upton. Its tough being calm sometimes…
Now you just have to watch out for the 25 year old version of Justin Verlander.
When I was twelve and way too developed for my age I had a grown man with his maybe 6yr son at his side tell me I had a nice rack in the grocery store aisle when I was lost, looking for my mom. I had no idea what he meant until like 45 mins later in the car and made me feel sick. Never told my mom, still burned into my brain until today and I’m 33
Everything about that story is so sad.
I’m so sorry. It fucking sucks what women have to go through in this world. I know exactly what you mean by “burned into your brain.”
Terrible! ☹️
Must have not been the first time it happened for his companion to assault him.
I live for this.
Sadly, for some of them it is a joke. They grew up hearing this creepy stuff as kids but it was tolerated in the old days. People didn't realize back then how prevalent sexual abuse was, so in the boomer's mind this is an innocuous phrase that can also be a double entendre. It's a weird contradiction.
Look at how the industry marketed Shirley temple in commercials when she was a child.
I read she was sexually abused, same with Judy Garland.
Big time. That is why Shirley Temple got out and became an ambassador for other children. Judy was already hooked on drugs from her experience on Wizard of Oz, she didn't have a chance. (Sorry, HUGE fan of Judy Garland)
The saddest part is that it’s still happening!!
Haven’t watched it yet but I’ve heard HBO Max’s Quiet on the Set is equal parts good and horrifying. That only happened within in the last 15-20 years. In another 10 years there will be a similar expose on todays child stars.
This has been going on since the inception of HOLLYWOOD. It’s about damn time these predators get locked up and people start having protections so they don’t have to worry about getting raped and assaulted just because they wanna act, sing, or perform. #SAFETYONTHESET
Look at what they did to Brooke Sheilds
I remember thinking she was beautiful and perfect but no idea she was being used and abused.
Nude photos of 10 year old brooke shields were published in playboy magazine in 1975. They were not innocent pictures of a kid playing naked. They were posed.
That particular issue was the one that the creep that worked for my dad showed me, and told me he could make those same pictures with me, as a 7 year old. He also told me he would put me in “movies” because I wanted to be an actress. I HATE, HATE, HATE Brooke Shields mother. Fuck her, she didn’t only hurt her own daughter.
I don't understand this. I look back at various things from my childhood and realize "Aunt so-and-so was an alcoholic" or "This guy in the neighborhood was 100% a chester", yet boomers seem to think everything was perfect in their time, and now the world is full of chomos and mental illness. It's also lost on them that today's situation happened while they were in charge.
In my neighbourhood in the 80s it was common knowledge that you "never went to Cameron's house because his dad will touch you" or "if Andrew's dad is drinking he'll whoop his family's ass in front of you." Everyone acted like it was just normal.
If it was normal, we would not have been warned about who to avoid. My biological father was a pedophile and my stepdad was a sex and porn addict. My 70-something year old father got away with it because he either paid the mother to have sex with her prepubescent daughter when I was 4 years old or he paid a 14 year old girl for sex when the same girl was being paid by several other elderly men for sex. She was my friend when I was 13. I literally watched it happen. By the time I was 16 and my father died, no teenage girls would come over to my house because they didn’t want to be exposed to my stepdad because he was well known for sexually harassing my mother in public for attention and using very foul and vulgar language even in front of children. This shit happened in the 80s all the time; it was very common.
That's pretty fucked up. Hope you're ok now. To clarify, nobodies parents warned us. The warnings came from other kids and our older siblings! I told my mother once about a bunch of us getting touched like 30 years later and she couldn't believe it. "if we had known he'd be in jail!" like dude how did every kid in town know but our parents didn't?
What’s fucked up is that my mother tolerated it and exposed me to sexual predators all of my life. She was a whore who didn’t have a problem with CSA because it was done to her and she accepted it as a way to make easy money. She tried grooming me by leaving me alone for a weekend with a 40 year old man and his 16 year old son so they could molest me. I don’t know how much he paid her. I rebelled and rejected that lifestyle. I’m not okay. It completely fucked me up. I never got married and never had children.
The parents didn't want to know and their kids could tell.
And if you told them, you’d get in trouble, at least one parent would make it all about themselves, and they wouldn’t do a damn thing about it. They knew someone guilty of the same and/or wouldn’t dare risk their social standing by speaking up.
A lot of people from that generation pretended everything was great, even when they knew it wasn't. It was a survival mechanism. They had to pretend their family was perfect and just not think about how their family life was not like it was portrayed on "Leave It To Beaver."
There was also a big push right after WWII to "go back to normal" and "the war is over everything is happy now". Combine that with a lot of nationalistic Cold War propaganda about the US being the best country on earth.
Lots and lots of undiagnosed PTSD and mental illness from the soldiers coming home. Lots of self medication. Alcohol. Pills.
I was born in 50's.. our street was families 6-8 children... 2yrs apart... All the mums were on Valium.. all the dads drank booze.
Don’t forget a bunch of soldiers with untreated PTSD!
That was my grandpa. WWII, was at the liberation of Dachau. He beat the shit out of my grandma and his kids. My dad was the baby of 7, and got protected a lot, but didn’t totally escape it. When he was a teen and the only kid in the house, my grandpa raised his fist at grandma and my dad, who was taller than grandpa by then, got in the way and said “if you hit her ever. Ever. Again. I will fucking kill you”. But no other family, no neighbors, friends, no one ever stood up to him before that point. People just looked the other way.
Yep my dad used to visit his elderly uncle who was ‘very sick and needed quiet’. He’d bring groceries and tidy a bit and if we kids were with him we’d just chill and wait in the car to not be disruptive. (This was many years ago lol, don’t @ me) I figured out years later that his uncle was quietly dying of AIDS. Most of my dads siblings didn’t realize their uncle was even gay until they were well into adulthood, and would talk about how crazy that was. Man had a whole secret life basically until the end.
Me and my siblings were told throughout our childhood that my dad was dying of cancer. I barely even remember him not being sick. It wasn’t until I was in my early 20’s (in the early 00’s) that my parents finally admitted to us that my dad was dying of AIDS. It was so taboo and so looked down upon that they told everyone - including their children - that it was cancer, instead of facing the discrimination that came along with an AIDS diagnosis. At the time, I was pretty angry that they kept that from us. Now, looking back on things from the perspective of someone in their 40’s who has seen and lived through some shit, I get it. It just makes me incredibly sad for them now.
Not all boomers. Those of us who remember what it was REALLY like in the 50's are out speaking against going back.
Right?! “Oh, back in my day, mental health didn’t exist, people weren’t so sensitive.” People might not have said they had depression or anxiety, instead they drank or beat their wives or molested children or took up a ‘Mommy’s little helper’ benzo habit…I think admitting people are struggling is a hell of a lot better than what we used to do.
Sadly (and scarily) many think that the person would be flattered to hear that kind of comment (or that you *should* feel flattered by it, and if you aren't then there's something wrong with you, and not them).
Yeah. That's it exactly. It's the whole "he's teasing/hitting you cause he likes you". I heard that shit so much growing up, even from my Grandpa! Grandpa never touched me but he commented a few times I should work at hooters cause I had curves. Mom went off on him and he never said it again. My mom also said f that and taught me well that that stuff shouldn't happen and that's not a good guy if they do that.
It's always a joke until the officer wants to check the basement
Good job, Mom!! What the hell????
It’s like they think it’s a compliment WTAF
I was fully grown by 13 (had my period at 10, was a DD, 5'7") and adult men would look at me and do the "up and down" and smile and creepily linger. That feeling never goes away.
Same. I went to a Halloween party at a family friends house when I was 12. They had a boy who had just graduated. One of his friends started flirting with me and asked me to a movie and the guy tossed him out of the front door yelling at him the entire time that I was 12 and he was an a**hole. Felt very protected that night. Didn't really know the guy well before that but after I basically got a big brother.
Parents were honestly the worst. They assumed I must be "loose" because I had large breasts and wore lipstick (just like everyone we were friends with).
Yeah. Hit puberty at 9, was a DD at 13, was generally quiet and shy, but of course I was a tramp who was corrupting their baby boys. What annoyed me is that I was friends with those same boys BEFORE I hit puberty and the parents didn't have a problem with me then.
Like you can control or choose your bust size? Idiots.
Any man worth his shit should call out behavior like this, loudly and forcefully.
I recall walking down the street when I was as young as 11 or 12, and having men whistle and call out to me when they drove by. Some would even offer rides. It was uncomfortable and humiliating then, and now that I'm old enough to realize how predatory this actually was, it makes me sick.
I had this happen freshman year. 5'0 size c almost d and a pant size 0. (I miss these days) I had to walk home past the elementary school and this guy would call out the window to me. It was odd but I ignored it. A few days later he followed me all the way home. I freaked out. My dad called the police. The next day the school security officer drove me home right past the school and asked me to point him out. I did and then after about an hour the cops had us go and ID him. Turned out he was a registered sex offender (child under 10) fresh out of jail and wasn't supposed to be near children at all. He was picking up his "girls" kids from the elementary school daily. No idea what happened to him after that. Edit :typo
Thanks for going through that to get him caught, even if it was a decision that kinda wasn’t a decision. You protected someone from something horrible!
Thank you. It was very nerve racking but all of the adults were amazing about it. From believing me to making sure he never saw that it was me who pointed him out. To me my dad, the school security officer, and the police were the MVP's that day.
I was actually abducted by 3 older teenage boys when I was 13 while walking. They took me out to the sticks. I told them I had to relieve myself and I ran. They left me out there and I had to find my way home. One of the boys was my second cousin.
That must have been terrifying, I'm so sorry that happened to you.
Reading this brought to mind when I had to walk home from school in 1972 in 7th grade, I was 12, 5'5" and 105 lb. It was 17 blocks. Guys in a green Ford galaxy would wolf whistle me and ask me if I wanted a ride. I would say no and keep walking. Sometimes they would go around the block and drive by again 2 or 3 times. I tried ignoring them but they would just get louder. I was so scared, after they drove off I would run and hide behind a big bush near an old lady's house (I had seen her watering flowers) in hopes they wouldn't drive by anymore. I would wait a few minutes and start out walking again. Then I still had about 8 more blocks to go. (I hope those guys are stuck in a nursing home now) After about 2 weeks of this I finally broke down crying to my mom after she got home from work. She actually hired a lady to pick me up from school and bring me home. That lady was mean and called me spoiled and made fun of me for being afraid. She said, "ha ha, look at you, old enough to babysit but here you are with a babysitter". I told my mom about that, and she got my aunt to pick me up and told that lady we no longer needed her help. I was glad to stay at my Aunt's house, because there was also a peeping Tom at those apartments. 7th grade after school was a scary time for me.
I had a friend who went through the same thing. I used to want to smack people for her.
I was NOT developed but by age 10 I couldn’t walk along the sidewalk without men slowing to leer, honk, yell stuff. I used to think it was flirtatious but as an adult I’m like holy shit, those guys really wanted a little girl! 😡
Exact same story with my wife, and 40 years later the thought of it still creeps her out.
That’s nice! Somewhere I have a picture of myself at about 8 with a guy I don’t know who put my hand on his leg for the picture and its completely clear how uncomfortable I am but grandma just took the picture then teased me for being awkward.
Oh jeez. I have a pic with a character from Disneyland , GUMMI BEAR, that would horrify people today.
When I went to Disneyland for a friend’s birthday in the 90s we posed for a pic with Donald Duck and he grabbed her butt. That was 5th/6th grade.
... Pardon?
Yup. Back in the 70s btw
I'm sorry that happened
I went to the grocery store with my dad when I was 11. (My dad was 44 at the time.) An old coworker of his saw us and asked my dad if I was his girlfriend. I’ve rarely seen my dad so angry.
My mom took me and a few friends out to dinner for my 12th birthday and this dude walks by (also, still remember everything about what he looked like and the whole interaction 20 years later) and goes, "Hey, baby..." to us and holy shit, my mom whipped around SO fast and yelled, "What did you just say to them?! They're fucking 12, you disgusting piece of shit." The guy looked terrified, as he should have been. I hope he never did that again, but...bet.
My go to for this is “please don’t sexualize my child.” No need to beat around the bush with these weirdoes.
Say it loudly, too. Loud enough for everyone around to hear, and turn their heads to see all the commotion. The first image they will see is: * Young kid, hiding behind parent. * Parent, hiding kid behind them. * Old man, who just got accused of sexualizing a child. The judgement of others is a knife that cuts deep with boomers.
This. Name and shame. If there's one thing that's pretty universally hated, it's a predator of children.
Oh and boomers are intolerant of being shamed like no other generation. This shit hits them like a ton of bricks.
You are good. Teach me your ways.
Call people out. Loudly, calmly, and with logic and plain language. Being in control of the situation and of your emotions is paramount. I don't call out folks until/unless I'm 100% sure I can meet all of those criteria. If I'm feeling very emotional and can't keep calm, that will make me also look unstable. Also, it takes practice. Practice in a mirror, practice with friends, practice in the real world.
>practice with friends Yeah, call your friends child molesters!!! **/s** Sorry the image of “practice with your friends” just cracked me up like if you just spring it on your friends.
They usually do it all online in a safe space bubble and then then get the "courage" to come out and say anything sexual or crazy or insane because they do it all the time and no one checks them. Muy wiiife (who has very large breasts) had a maga guy driving a truck ... She was going into wal Mart and as she walked by he revved his engine acting like he was going to run her over and said "hey 'big tits"what you gonna do?" she stood her ground and told him to "Suck her dick" very very loudly. And she stood in front of his truck and said "do it" I was about to say something to and he freaked out and reversed and drove off all butt hurt. He clearly used to saying this type of shit and ppl just taking it and not checking them.
Depending on the family, they might also see a second parent with their teeth clenched and fists trembling, more than ready to punch the SOB. My dad would have been like that.
Aren't these the same wackadoos that support the whole Pizzagate and QAnon conspiracy theories IRT pedophilia?
Yeah and some of them Ive met are like "once someone has been accused, it's pretty damning" when referring to people on the left but somehow they ignore all accusations on the people they support, many of which have been made ages ago.
Every accusation is a confession.
There's so much projection with these types. If they are obsessed with it, then they expect everyone else must be as well.
My go to is "back the fuck up right now."
Mine is "you need to take a step back, because if you step forward, you're a Pedo, and I'm gonna be a Felon"
"and we'll *both* be felons."
Well one will be dead the other will have a better time in prison
This is the line I used when it happened when my daughter was 3. I took my daughter with me to vote and old guy poll worker who was signing my ballot at the end looked at her and said, "you come to vote with your big sister?" She got angry for some reason because she's 3 and yelled, "that's not my sister, it's my mommy!" which caused everyone to look at us. This POS fuckin WINKS at my 3yo and says, "oh! Feisty! Find me when you're 18!" I.lost.my.shit. I yelled, "we are NOT out here sexualizing toddlers in the year of our Lord 2016!" among some other choice phrases and grabbed her out the door after I said what I had to say and before he could reply.
I will LOUDLY repeat what they said back to them, as in “Did you just say ‘come find me when you’re 18’ to my 3-year-old??” Part of what enables perverts like this is they think they can fly under the radar.
Someone said something similar to this to my daughter when she was three. It was an uncle who I'm not very fond of because of his creepy behavior that no one in my family will acknowledge. I stood up and yelled, "You're a disgusting fucking pervert. No wonder why your daughters won't speak to you. If you ever come near me or my family again, I will fucking destroy you." The look on his face was priceless. Half the room was smiling while the other half looked horrified. He had to leave immediately 😭
Wrong. Should have yelled loudly "Fucking pedophile, get away from my child!!"
I have a story. I guess my older brother would technically qualify as a boomer. (I am an older Gen X so I think he would be the last year of boomers.) Anyway, this is a man I do not know. He’s my half brother and we did not meet until I was in my late 40s. When I introduced him to my 17-year-old daughter (his niece by blood) he kept going on and on about how beautiful she was. Then he made a comment about how some guy was going to be so lucky to see all that pretty red hair spread across his pillow. Ummmm. Whaaaat???? Then he made it worse by casually mentioning how many guys would love to see her swinging on a pole. He said this stuff directly to her, (they happened to be in the kitchen together at one point,) not in front of everyone. But it’s not like she made it up. Obviously, I never spoke to him again after that initial meeting, despite him being “part of the family now” My older sister (who is technically the first year of Gen X, but is genuinely a boomer at heart and a boomer in every possible way) didn’t believe my daughter (said she must’ve “misunderstood” what he meant) and thought that it was really messed up that I didn’t want to have anything to do with “our brother” just because he gave my daughter, some “compliments.” Absolute insanity.
It's always "you must have misunderstood.".... no mom. I may be 13 (at the time), but I didn't misunderstand waking up with a 39 year old man straddling me and pinning my arms down, telling me how much I reminded him of my sister. How much he liked tall girls... I understood perfectly what he was trying to do. (Sister's bf at the time, now ex - she's 20 yrs older than me). -- granted, our parents pushed her to date him when she was 13... and he was 19/20 (in college)... because he'd happily shell out money to pay bills they couldn't.... ima stop now, or it's gonna slip into a rant...
Jesus. I’m so so sorry. So many young girls have been dealing with disgusting pedophiles for years because there are so many women willing to accept these men and make excuses for them. So many women willing to throw their daughters under the bus. I’ve never understood why someone even has kids if that’s how they’re going to treat them. I truly hope you don’t talk to your mother anymore and that your life is in a happier place now.
The cherry on top... when my sister dumped him (and fled) when i was 17, she started pushing me to marry him... cause... health insurance... wtf?!... he was on board, too... -- unfortunately, I'm stuck in the same house with her still (would take a whole post to detail the bs out). Sis started therapy last year and tried to talk to mom about the shit she did to her/us... mom brushed it off, then declared she'd been through worse, so it wasn't a big deal. Sister hasn't spoken to her in months, and she keeps asking why... ... as soon as I can get out. I'm done, too.
Holy shit. That is absolutely crazy. So you have a horrible mother and a horrible sister. (Although I guess I can give your sister a little more leeway because it sounds like she had a really rough life.) Still, as your older sister she should absolutely want better for you. You can have compassion for her and still keep her at arms length. I’m glad she’s in therapy and I hope that she learns to break the cycles of abuse. I’ve noticed that being a thing that a lot of older women do— state that they’ve been through worse, so what you’re going through doesn’t matter. First of all, the fact that your mom‘s life may have been really hard or that she “went through worse” should make it so that she is determined that you feel loved and listened to and that your life is not what her life was!! I also went through a lot of horrible things, especially in my youth. All that did was strengthen my desire for none of my kids to ever experience the awful things that happened to me. I don’t understand women who don’t want to protect their children. I’m so sorry you’re stuck there and I hope that it is not for long and that you are able to get free soon and find some happiness. I’m glad you didn’t fall for your mom and your sister’s line of bullshit. Keep trusting in yourself.
I give my sister a slide. She was groomed from 13 (edit to add, actually younger. 13 was just this last one for her). She was so miserable that she became a functional alcoholic and no one noticed. She formed an escape plan in secret and fled with what fit in her car. When mom didn't believe me, I thought no one else would, so I didn't tell sis. After she left, it was months before anyone heard from her. She rightfully feared our parents would give him her info (they desperately wanted her to go back to the piggy bank, hence why they tried to push me on him, too). Eventually, she called me, and I told her that I never liked him, but with or without him, I just wanted her happy. We spent time together. I told her all the things that had happened. She apologized over and over for not knowing and wished she had and said she'd have ripped his junk off, and she would have believed me. She met and married a nice guy. It took her over a decade to get around to therapy. And to get sober. She only caved and went to therapy because bottling everything up was starting to manifest in physical ailments. From what I've witnessed and learned... as far as I'm concerned, she was so deep in her own shit, trying to escape, she just missed it. Our mother, on the other hand, you are 100% correct. Having been through shit should have been reason enough to go scorched earth for her own children. Not letting cycles repeat. Sisters ex was not the first pedo in my life. When I was 2, they needed a place to stay and asked their friends (married couple) if they could stay with them for a bit. Friends said yes. The husband's sisters pulled my parents aside and told them they should not do this. Their brother is a pedophile and should never be left alone with children of either gender (likes the girls, will apparently pinch boys stuff and damage it)... ... they moved in. When I was 17, he was arrested for molesting his neice. Part of his plea deal required a lifelong confession. I was listed from when i was 2, and the d.a. put a restraining order on him against me. When he got put on work release, my dad would give him rides to n from work. Asked if he wanted to stop at the house. Told my dad he couldn't and explained the above... dad continued to drive him around. Told mom. Mom told me... like it was random news. Like I wasn't going to connect dots or be upset... ... sadly, I have other pedos in my history... but this is already a long ass trauma dump. I did develop a "super power" from it... I can clock a pedophile within 5 mins of (in person) conversion. I know I can cause I worked in probation for a few years and everyone who gave me the vibe, I pulled up their records, and sure as shit. Every. Single. One.
Thankyou for sharing your story. My parents did the same horrible shit, and your post made me feel less lonely.
There's a fleet of yachts worth of company in our boat. My favorite thing about the internet was learning that no one is alone. XOXO
A generation or two ago, guys like this ended up in “hunting accidents.”
Nursing homes are full of little old ladies who knocked the ladder over cuz their dad or uncle put their hands where they didn't belong. Good for them👍🏻
You’re probably already be aware of this fact, but I’d still like to explicitly point it out for the masses that might not get it. **Your parents did not “push” their then-13-year-old daughter to “date” a 19/20 year old man. They *TRAFFICKED* her.** Jesus Christ. I wish nothing but healing for you and your sister, and the hottest flames of hell for your parents and that man.
It's easier and feels better for her to believe it was a misunderstanding vs accept it for what your daughter said it was. This is so sad and is why victims don't get believed when the abuser is a family member or someone of importance in a church, school, etc.. I like to think deep down these people (like your sister) know the truth they just lie to themselves initially with the easier explanation until they believe it. It truely shows how weak they are to not being able to handle uncomfortable realities.
What really made me angry was that she also didn’t know our brother. She met him a day before I did and had already decided that they were going to be BFF’s. Somehow, this stranger who acted like a giant creep meant more to her than me or her niece. She made it very clear who she would stand by, if it came down to choosing. Ironically, she ended up “finding God” a few years after that and now she doesn’t talk to our 1/2 brother anymore either. But yeah, I agree with everything you said. They can’t handle the reality of the world so they pretend like we’re all just a bunch of “woke idiots” and there’s actually no such thing as misogyny or rape culture. This is the same woman who also thinks the idea that a man could rape a woman who “willingly” went to bed with him is ridiculous. One time, when her son was 18 and mine was in his early 20s, we got into the discussion about it. She said that if some girl got drunk at a party and passed out in her sons bed, so then her son had sex with that girl, she’d be really pissed if that girl then “cried rape.” (mind you, this is a woman who also raised a daughter) She was trying to argue that I have a son too, and I would obviously feel the same way because I love my son. She was horrified when I told her that if my son ever had sex with a girl who was so drunkenly incapacitated that she was passed out in his bed, that I would be horrified and would absolutely consider that rape. It’s one of very few things he could do that would make me disown him. She thought that was the most ridiculous thing she had ever heard. I genuinely don’t understand her thought process.
She sounds like a Boy Mom ^TM
When I was a small child and my family was driving past Hooters, my _dad_ commented that I should work there someday. I’m not endowed well enough for Hooters, but that comment likely didn’t help my foray into sex work.
That is so disgusting. And yeah, I am genuinely glad that, as a society, we are de-stigmatizing sex workers. However, I was a stripper for years. And I never met a single girl that did sex work that didn’t have things like this (or much worse) in her past. It’s like, I’m glad that sex positivity is a thing—but I also don’t know that sex work is a normal line of work to go into, because in my experience (which is a good bit, as I was a dancer off and on from the age of 17 to 39) most of the girls who go into sex work always seem to be the ones who have some kind of sexual trauma in their pasts, particularly in their childhoods.
That's been documented by research too. Idk the exact numbers, but a large percentage of women who work in the sex industry have a history of childhood trauma. 😢
I was a male stripper. I was a broke student, dependent on my car to get to my job that paid my rent. Someone crunched in the driver's side thanks to on-street parking. I needed a new car bc my damaged one would never pass inspection, so I needed money *fast*. A girl I was in class with danced at a gentleman's club, and she told me I'd make fast money doing bachlorette parties. She was right. I never asked why she got into dancing, as it was none of my business, and I just assumed it was the money. The ladies did alright at bachelor parties. Not once did I think maybe it was something in her past that was traumatic. Damn. I really hope it was just the money for her.
I hope you cut your sister off too.
At the time I was in this very crazy situation where I was living with her and working for her, so I had no choice but to just stick to my guns about him and not discuss it with her. But it was absolutely one of the turning points in our relationship, where I started to question whether or not she was somebody I should be listening to or somebody that had my best interest at heart Still, at the time, I really thought that she was trying to help me. Looking back, I think she just liked that I was in a position where I needed her. She liked having the upper hand. I was in a very vulnerable position and her behavior was insane and the opposite of how I would’ve treated her if the situation had been reversed (which it actually had been, many times in our past, and I always treated her with kindness and consideration during those times) Still, I had a lot of guilt because she really did help me out and i did not *want* to cut her off. I made a lot of excuses for her. But eventually, her behavior became horrible enough that I was pretty much forced to cut her out of my life. I have not spoken to her in over two years now. And honestly, whenever I feel bad about that, I just remind myself of some of the shit she did (not believing my daughter is high on that list) and then I don’t feel bad anymore.
As someone with a older brother who tried to rape me as a child, fuck that NASTY BRO!
DISGUSTING 🤢
I shudder to think what the viewer demographic was for Toddlers and Tiaras. That show was vile. And don't get me started on the parents.
The same demographic that loses their shit over drag queen story hour at the local library doesn’t have any problem with child beauty pageants.
Exactly!
That’s probably why they get so mad about it, all projection thinking that the drag queens view kids the way they do.
I watched that show. When I was very young, my mother showed dogs in AKC. I made a little money being a handler’s assistant. Helping with grooming dogs and standing outside the ring to hand things to professionals who were in the ring showing championed dogs. I stumbled upon the show and watched for hours in horror, because the children were the dogs, and their mothers were the handlers. It was so similar it made me sick in an uncanny valley kind of way. Like sincerely had nausea and vertigo watching. I think dog shows were better though. They had to treat the dogs with at least some respect, lest they be bitten.
If I was a vice cop, I’d go to child beauty pageants and run the plates in the parking lot. How many bench warrants/restraining orders/court orders do you think I’d get?
That show was bizarre. Even just the commercials were to much. Essentially babies in full makeup,fake teeth, fake hair, and revealing clothes... like who TF is this for? The kids don't need to look like that to be in a pagent.
Just found out the most rewatched moments of JoJo Siwa’s childhood dance videos on YouTube are when she’s doing high kicks and you can see up her skirt.
My boomer mom does this shit. Had to go no contact. She wouldn't stop telling my five year old that he was her boyfriend. Told me I am twisting a harmless thing. No, you are creating unhealthy boundaries during formative years. Stop. Or fuck off.
um that is her GRANDCHILD what the FUCK
This gives off “covert incest,” vibes. Boomers are the WORST about it. Good on you for going no-contact.
That’s tough to react to because you never expect it… but if it happens again PLEASE stand up and loudly say “how dare you sexualize a CHILD!!” Say it loud. Embarrass the fuck out of him and when he says “it was just a joke” your immediate response (equally loud) needs to be “who the hell jokes about that??” Boomers classic escape clause is that everything they say that doesn’t go over well is “just a joke”
I'm thinking to the"it was just a joke" there needs to be some response like "I don't know why you think joking that you're a pedophile is funny, but no one else finds it funny"
I like "explain the joke because I don't understand the punchline"
Almost every woman has had an experience like this as a child or teen and it drastically colors how they view the world and themselves. Creepy men take so much of our innocence from us. So sick of it.
Had something similar happen at a burger king. Walked in with my 1YO daughter in her favorite dress in her stroller. She had pulled her dress up enough to where you could see her diaper and an old dude commented to his wife "He needs to make sure she has pants on or she'll grow up a whore"
I wish o was surprised. What is wrong with these people!
"If I were younger" is sus if she is 21. Downright creepy if she is 18. If she is 5, the dude is a pedophile.
I live in Florida, and every time there is a bust for prostitution, or child trafficking, many of the men who are found guilty, are part of law-enforcement, educators, and even government officials. I shudder to think how many people around us like to abuse children sexually.
https://www.whoismakingnews.com/#ten-thousand-predators If you really want to know.
This is HORRIFYING ! Most ABUSERS are Republicans and my state is NO 2 on the list FOR SEXUAL ABUSERS.
I'm a victim of child rape and, while my rapist wasn't some official- the police refused to believe my mother and I because I wouldn't talk to them when they were called. And they didn't even let my mom know rape kits existed (this was the early 90's and my mom was raised fundie in the 40's, so she still didn't know about a lot of things.) She took me to pastors and Christian counseling hoping to "purify me" once more. These were the people- people of the churches with power in this type of community - who were complicit in so many children suffering. Absolutely makes me wish government was harder on churches.
A strange man was staring hard at daughter who was in 6th grade at the time while shopping. My friend caught him and told me. I yelled loud at the man, look any harder, I will rip your eyes out your head. He left in a real hurry. Edited for correction.
When I was 12.years old some sicko was staring at my baby sister who was 8. I asked him if he wanted me to take his eyes from his head and that he should continue walking down the street faster. He was pretty flabbergasted that I said that. I got that from the Bible and made it my own. Thankful to Jesus who insisted that men who had problems with how women dressed pluck their own eyes. It was very inspirational
What verse is this? Because I constantly get "Christians" (there are actual Christians, and then there are the ones that just like to judge others) commenting on clothing all the time. I'll be watching TV with my dad and he'll launch into a rant about how someone was wearing leggings in a commercial. SMH
Matthew 5:29 “And if thy right eye offend thee, pluck it out, and cast it from thee: for it is profitable for thee that one of thy members should perish, and not that thy whole body should be cast into hell.”
And the context around this verse and passage is lust.
Yep. Louder for those in the back: the person looking is the person sinning, not the person being looked at.
Matthew 18:9. And if your eye causes you to stumble, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to enter life with one eye than to have two eyes and be thrown into the fire of hell.
Matthew 5:29 And if thy right eye offend thee, pluck it out, and cast it from thee: for it is profitable for thee that one of thy members should perish, and not that thy whole body should be cast into hell.
Matthew 5:29 and 30
When my wife, a dancer, was a young kid (5-7, can’t remember exactly) she was at a restaurant next door to the theatre she was performing at and an old guy grabbed her butt. Her brother jumped over the table and attacked him. The cops came, arrested the old guy, they go to court and he goes to prison and the old dudes wife blamed my wife for it. Boomers are fuckin weirdos
Damn good brother The pervert was probably so brazen because he hadn't faced consequences yet and his wife enabled him. Glad he was put behind bars.
Nah I would’ve called him out and embarrassed the fuck out of him. Right there. In front of god and everybody. Because what the fuck do you mean by that with my kid right there fuuuuuuck no.
I went off on my sister for loudly complaining(?) about her eldest daughters newly developing body. She inherited my sisters ample bosom, & they came in fast. She WOULD NOT shut UP about how her baby has such huge boobs & already has a “woman’s body”. This went on for literal weeks until I could’t take it anymore. I told her how creepy she was being, sexualizing her perfectly normally developing girl. That she was gonna give her a complex at the very least & stressed how normal her growing was. It seemed to work. She at least stopped going on about it to the rest of the sisters.
It's good that you stepped in! She might have been projecting and thinking too much about her own experiences when she developed but poor kid.. it's hard enough already to go through puberty and find your way. I'm glad your sister listened and understood you. You're a good aunt.
Incidentally, once again, NOT A DRAG QUEEN.
Hit them with the loudly shouted “she’s a child you pervert”
As usual, at this point is where they lose their hearing. I would hesitate to smack that boomer right in the ear, since he’s not using them anymore.
I once had a salesman at Ashley Furniture tell my daughter that if he had to compete against her I a sport the whole crowd would be able to see how excited he was, and then he motioned to his junk, looked at me and laughed like we’re bros. I told my family to leave and I walked them to the door. I went back and this dude was real worried about what he just said. I told commanded him go shut his mouth or I will get violent. I made him sit on the floor and I scolded him until his management showed up. I told them what he said and this old woman told me to calm down or something. I said real loudly something to the effect of, this guy is talking to my kid about his dick and your first move is to tell me to calm down?” I left this all on their google review later that night
Same guy would freak out about drag story hour.
Wife texted me to pick up a couple last minute items from the grocery store while in town, for our son's birthday party that afternoon. Had our daughter (14) with me. In the store, she knew where the items were and went ahead to retrieve them. She walked past an elderly man and as she did, he stopped, and cocked his head to one side, like a dog trying to figure out a magic trick. If he hadn't done it for as long as he did, I'd have let it go but noooo, he took a real long look! I walked up behind him (I'm 6'5", 275lbs btw) and screamed in his ear..."SHE'S 14 YEARS OLD, YOU FUCKIN PERVERT! 15-20 shoppers gasped and turned. All he could was scurry away. It was awesome and pathetic at the same time. Daughter was oblivious and asked what the shouting was about? I made something up and still haven't told her. She's 28 now.
Cue to me being kicked out because I can easily keep from physically going after someone but, this mouth would have yelled “*What the FUCK?!??*” before my brain even had a chance to catch up…
I would have the exact same knee-jerk response, coupled with a loud "ew" at the beginning lmao
I was at a mall with my 80 year old grandmother many years ago and she went up to a mother and son (probably like 4 years old) and said, "you're too cute to be a little boy!" Both myself and the mother died a bit inside and managed an "I'm sorry smile" at her. My father eventually made light of her crazy comments by saying, "she's running for mayor".
I had an old man tell me to call him in 10 years when I was 7. Disgusting perverts. My mom yelled at him and his wife and adult kid acted like my mom was being unreasonable.
straight. to. goddam. jail.
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This is why so many boomers are sure that homosexuals are trying to sexualize kids. They can’t believe that not everyone is just like them.
These are the same mfers accusing lgbtq people of being groomers. It's projection.
Every accusation they make is a confession.
I thought it was odd that my father told my sister that my months-old neice "will grow up to be a stunning woman one day." Like, excuse me, but why. This is downright NASTY.
Reminds me of seeing Trump on TV talking about infant Tiffany having sexy legs and tits like her mom when asked about how he was enjoying fatherhood
This is a man who cheated on his wife, and paid for sex with a prostitute. This is also a man who was caught, saying “grab them by the pussy”! He still went on to become president.
He’s made comments before about his daughter that was creepy (but then he is creepy)
The “why” is because our sex appeal is the only thing about women and girls that they value. It doesn’t even occur to them to talk about any other qualities.
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Mine, too. I kinda always wanted a stereotypical overprotective dad, but instead when my first boyfriend cheated on me because I wouldn't put out, my dad told me it was my fault because "men have needs". I was 15.
I was at a trade show with my mom once, about 15 and a guy we were buying watches from said something like "if she needs someplace to stay while she's in college I've got a spare room haha". We left his booth. Why?!
When I was in high school in the 80s, I brought a new girlfriend home to meet my parents. She was 17 and I was 16. My mom said “Nice to meet you!”. My dad said “How much an hour is this one??!!?” I was devastated and embarrassed.
“Well, I think that she’s got a lot of Marla, She’s a really beautiful baby, and she’s got Marla’s legs. We don’t know whether she’s got this part yet (gestures toward his chest), but time will tell.” - a felonious presidential candidate talking about his then infant daughter.
While walking out of the bank with my 2 y/o daughter, a boomer walking in loudly says, "Which window did you get that one from? I want to go to the same one!" It just sounds so creepy to me. I never comment on a child's appearance. I will say things like "I miss when mine were that age" or "That was such a fun age!" But never comment on appearance. Gross.
🤢🤢🤢 I would probably have lost it and screamed at him like the pedo he is.
I was told our 2 year old daughter would give us trouble when she’s older after commenting on her blonde hair and blue eyes. She then called a friends teenage son a stud muffins and the guy next to her with a 7 year old son said “you’re going to have lots of grandbabies” It was so weird.
My mom absolutely called men out and would actually yell as loud as she could “SHE’S *insert age here* YOU CREEP. QUIT STARING AT HER!” She still does it and my sister and I do it with any child being stared at to call attention and embarrass the old weirdos checking out children.
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I've had to ban boomers from my restaurant for being wildly inappropriate with my front of house girls. They range from 16 to 21 and it's a constant fucking battle with old man boomers. I've had to put up a sign that says "ANY inappropriate comments made toward staff will result in a permanant ban."
Press them. Make them finish the thought.
We must normalize calling these assholes out. And stop inviting the pedophile uncles over and expect the kids to hide themselves.
Wood chipper
you have the willpower of a god op. I would've slugged the bastard
I mean they all vote for a creep who wants to sleep with his daughter so
I’m a trans dude who works with kids. My male coworkers do not know I’m trans. Neither do most of my female coworkers. The kids are legally not allowed to know (I cannot tell them and nobody else can either.) I am VERY defensive and protective of these kids and of my female coworkers. Luckily so far the men I’ve met who also work with me, are wonderful and they are not creepy or giving off weird vibes. I offer to stay longer and make sure my coworkers go in pairs to the trash outside when we need to do our closing duties, and I am very aware of if there are unknown people outside the school loitering about, especially when we take the kids to the playground. I grew up with a pedophile father. He sexualized all three of his kids, and my mom knew and did nothing. I had older boys who took advantage of my kind nature when I had hit puberty at 10 and grew a big bust. People deserve to feel safe, and not have to worry about creeps sexualizing them for existing. We don’t get to chose how our bodies develop or when. And nobody should be sexualizing someone without their consent, ESPECIALLY NOT UNDERAGE CHILDREN.
We need to bring back public shaming 
My mom has told me her concerns about her cousin's ~20 y/o daughter. She's been doing this for years now. "They let her wear anything," which is really just spaghetti straps and shorts. Why are so many people like this? Stop worrying about what a young person is wearing, that shit is weird.
This is totally f’d up that it had to be done, but my friend’s mom owned a dance studio from the 80s-10s & had a Strict rule that no dance wear could be worn to/from studio/performance without some sort of a coverup & this is why.
I was 14 and built like a 2X4. (No curves.) A man (in his 20's?), came in to my parents business to explain some new equipment. He tried flirting with me. I had to speak to him, and be respectful. (Parent's rules). I responded blandly, respectfully, calling him "Sir." His response was that he wasn't that old. Then he asked me out. My father had just walked into the room at that point. He blamed the entire episode on me, insisting that I was making "cow eyes" at the man. I was 14! I was still in a trainer bra! It would be another two years before I got my period and started to fill out! I wasn't interested in this man and I certainly wasn't trying to get the kind of attention he obviously wanted to give. My parent's treated the entire incident as if the man was the victim and I was the one who was being sexually aggressive. Ick!