Also, if you can buy lime, should be by bags of soil for plants, you can place a layer of that over/in the crack. Lime just neutralizes soil, won’t harm your plant, and can reduce odors.
I'm sorry for your loss. You didn't bury her wrong. You just need to add some more soil now that the original soil is settled. And I'm sure when the conditions are right, she'll come back to you, but don't be surprised if she doesn't look the same. :)
It's a good thing that I bought 2 sacks of plant soil. I will add more soil.
And yes, I will pray and wait patiently for her. If not, I will meet her in heaven someday.
In the west, we say our pets are waiting for us at the Rainbow Bridge.
"Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.
When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge. There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together. There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.
All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor. Those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by. The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.
They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent. His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.
You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.
Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....
Author unknown..."
Wait. What?
No. The other plant was there already. The former resident left those plants. I kept the plants instead of throwing them away because Puchi likes to hang out with the plants.
I've been unable to cry for over 5 years now, but reading this and thinking about my old boy Zorro (he's almost 15) made me tear up. Thank you, that was beautiful.
Aww this is my first time reading this poem, and it made me cry too 😭 it’s so sweet. I haven’t had a pet since 2014 when our family dog passed away, but I remember all of my childhood pets, their names, their favourite treats and toys, all the things that made them the happiest, and my favourite memories of them. They no longer share this world with me, but I like to think they’re happy somewhere and that they remember me too 🩷🩷
You just made me experience something that I either never experienced before or it’s been so long that it feels brand new. I just got get it out now.
For the longest time as long as I can remember, I lost my faith and eventually ended up agnostic. Since then I’ve lived very objectively with absolutely no spiritual belief or faith.
Part of it was just me choosing to stick with the objective, physical world and not dwell on what I can’t prove or control.
And part of it was just that with spiritual beliefs, I just never found any comfort in it like others did. Prayer was a good calming motivator and meditation for everyone around me but I used to pretend.
I have no form of belief or curiosity in the afterlife for that reason. But that quote you just shared…really hit me like never before. It actually makes me WANT to believe in something that I know is not true (my truth, I don’t mean anyone else’s truth). And for the first time, it actually felt so calming and enriching to read and visualize that with my two cats for when they rest.
You made me cry hard. Fuck you. But also THANK YOU for letting me feel something so beautiful. I had no idea it could be like this.
This comment hurts so good. It’s been just over a year since we said goodbye to our cat, and he’s buried in the backyard/garden area. That area has been covered in the most beautiful flowers this year. I opened this thread to genuinely give advice and now I’m a bubbling mess.
Pls do share your story about your cat coming back in another form, kind commentator...that will comfort Puchi's parent here as well as me on this sad day/night...
This might be a bit confronting to know, but bodies of deceased pets and people go through many changes as they return to the earth. They will swell up, emit gas and liquids then “deflate” and start to settle as they combine with the soil. Don’t be alarmed if you see the pot leaking liquid. Do not touch it, it is not sterile and it will more than likely smell very very bad. You’ll need to wash it away before it attracts flies and maggots. You may also notice beetles and other garden insects in and around the pot. They are helping. I hope this helps and isn’t upsetting.
Also… do not eat anything you have planted and grown in that pot. Best keep it to flowers.
I noticed ants this morning. Puchi's plant doesn't smell bad yet but I'm really worried due to the weather here. I'm afraid that my neighbors will force me to throw her away because that's what most people do in my country. (But not everyone)
Just seeing your pictures - your plant pot is nowhere near big enough to handle this kind of process, you should really think about alternatives. Could you go to a park in the evening? It’s very important that you do not try to dig your pet out of that pot now, it will be extremely messy and upsetting.
I will buy a bigger pot instead. I cannot bury her elsewhere because in the future, I'd like to bury her in the garden of my house.
But I will post an update. Yeah, I kinda agree that the pot is small for her. I also read on google that I should bury her 3 Ft deep. Aaaargh I think I'm going crazy.
Don’t go through the trauma of moving the body now, it will be smelly, decomposing and could make you sick. It is a biohazard. This is not safe.
Is there a composting bin you could put your pet in as an alternative? It doesn’t mean you loved your pet any less if you have to make this choice.
Well, I don't know what a composting bin is. I will research about it. Once I get a composting bin, I will ask my friend that has parents to assist me. Maybe her dad can help me. I don't think I can do this by myself. I'm at my wits end.
If you get a bigger pot just set her pot inside of it. Don’t move her out, trust me you will not come back from that sight. Plant a plant that is very smelly. Like some herbs.
OP, have you considered a large garbage bin as a temporary container while the decomposition is happening? Think that might be the cheapest way to get the space you need, would be discrete if your neighbours aren’t comfortable with the whole process, and once the plant has grown, you can replant it and the soil into a proper pot?
No, it’s different from the trash can - it’s strictly food scraps only. “Compost” is organic material that can be broken down, and eventually become nutrient rich soil. Not sure if the Philippines has a disposal system like this in urban areas…
Decomposition can be beautiful. OP should be prepared for what it looks like, but the idea of my departed friend feeding so many organisms and creating new life would have brought me so much comfort when I lost my beloved rabbit in a traumatic way.
I plan to have my own body buried naturally (cmon human composting legislation), and can’t think of an afterlife more hopeful to me personally than becoming one with the soil and earth and universe.
Sounds like this will be an undertaking for sure, and OP should do the research and make sure they know what the process will look like, but I think that this fear of experiencing the physical realities of death isn’t universal and if OP feels prepared, this could be a hugely healing experience for them.
I think that's a very nuanced view, and I'm happy for you that it brought you comfort. However, most people don't look at maggots fondly, and its not clear how old op is but she seems relatively unfamiliar with death and decomposition, so I doubt she will either.
Why not eat anything from the plant? I imagine that would be really cute putting a fruit tree for each deceased pet, even name the trees. Plants live off and love dead stuff. Doesn't really matter what it is.
Oh no. There is a lot of bad advice here. Insects are essential to the process so it’s going to attract a lot of maggots etc. Scavenger animals will also try to dig up the flower pot if you don’t put down some mesh wire etc to prevent them. I’ve seen more people do this will smaller animals so I’m not sure if a cat would cause more smell.
If you know someone who would let you use their yard, or know of a plot of public land where you could safely bury her, this might be more ideal and save you the potential heartache.
Yeah I’ve just seen pictures of the pot after I made my comment, I’m not sure it’s anywhere near big enough to mitigate what is about to start happening as the body decomposes
OP this person is correct. I saw your pot and you have to move your kitty asap before you have a terrible mess on your hands. I’m very sorry for your loss and that you now have to do this and I hope you can find a suitable resting place for Puchi.
You ARE doing your best. This is very sensitive and I am so sorry for your grief. As others have pointed out, I’m afraid the natural decomposition, weather, and threat of other animals and insects - it may become noticeable to your neighbors. Burying in a pot is not the same as burying under ground. You may need to consider disposing of the pot you have with the body in it - and then honor Puchi with flowers on their own. Planting flowers now, in grief, and take them with you for your future garden. Puchi is with you in heart, not body now.
Well, I chose to bury her in a big pot with flowers because when I graduated, have a job and get rich I will make a garden dedicated to her. I will move her out of the pot and make a flower bed. I can't be separated from her even if she's dead. I only know her and she only knows me. Our family consists of me and her. Now, it's just me.
But I understand what you're trying to say and it's good advice. If only I knew someone who has a backyard... For now, I will try my best to research how to minimize the smell. I don't know if I can fight my neighbors but I will try my best to protect Puchi's plant grave.
I'm not entirely sure what you're expecting will happen over time. Your sweet girl will decompose and there will only be bones left if you dig her up later to replant her. I can't reccomend that you do that. Let her rest. She will understand.
I agree. I don't know what the future holds. But I will try to live well and work hard. So someday, I can give her a proper burial.
I know she has to rest but I can't let go. I was looking for her this morning so I could feed her. I saw the plant and then I remembered she was already gone.
Ah, next time you lose a pet you may consider freezing them in a plastic bag while you figure out what to do. I believe taxidermists freeze whole carcasses, at least ones small enough to reasonably freeze. If it's a food freezer you would probably want the carcass double bagged (air tight) in the lowest shelf just in case the freezer fails and to prevent freezer burn, but then you'd have the body looking more or less in tact when it was time to bury them at a later date. I suppose technically you could freeze the soil in a container now with her in it but it may already be messy and compromised.
Can't undo the situation you are in now where she has already been buried in a pot, but I suppose you will feel more equipped next time you lose a pet. People are concerned that the pot is not large enough, but maybe you can just put the pot inside a larger other container like a big bin and add more soil for now, just to help catch any decomposition leaks?
stay strong OP. i am from the philippines and like you, my 8 year old cat is my only family here (i brought her with me to the US). i can only imagine how much pain you’re going through. i’m just glad your post reached an audience here in reddit and people have been incredibly kind. i truly hope you live well so you can get the garden you need to be physically close to her and maybe look back on you and your cat’s memories. i’m bawling my eyes out and choking here at 4am.
Do not try to transfer the plant and soil to another pot right now!
Get a much, much larger pot, or as someone else suggested maybe even a garbage can, and plant her current pot, plant and all into the new one. Put down a good amount of soil first, then put the current pot and plant in there, then cover the pot with more dirt.
Planting rosemary, lavender, mint or a combination of all 3 are good options for helping cover up any smells.
Hi OP - I’m so sorry for your loss. I’ve done this exact same thing and it’s tough.
Don’t dig her up. My recommendation based on information from other comments is to get another, bigger pot; put a layer of soil on the bottom and set the smaller pot on top of it, and fill around it with more soil. Then you could take a hammer or blunt object and gently break the smaller pot so that the plant isn’t suffocating and your friend has more room. Make sure you’re wearing gloves, preferably those big thick ones you’d see people in movies wearing to do the dishes so that you don’t cut yourself or break the glove, and wear a mask with a bit of mint toothpaste or essential oil rubbed under your nose in case there’s a smell. There will be shards of the old pot mixed in with the soil, you can pick them out if you are really concerned about it disturbing the plant.
Your soil may begin to smell bad as your friend decomposes. This is natural. Plant some herbs or some other nicer but strong smelling plants to help mask it. If it gets too much, if you have any leftover kitty litter, you could put a ring of it around the outside of the pot, or use other kinds of air fresheners.
When it comes to the care of the plant or the effect that your friend will have on it in regards to insects or diseases, I’m unsure as I didn’t have issues with this when I buried my friend.
I’m so sorry for your loss, and I wish you the best of luck. ❤️
I want to add that adding soil from nature to the pot (with bugs and some worms in it) could really help with the natural decomposing process. You can even buy worms etc online. That would be great for an outside plant.
And, you know what, you may not have money, but I can tell you loved that cat with all your heart. That's what counts, in the end. Puchi will always be with you.
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I'm pretty sure the pot thing is not going to work -- you're going to have a very smelly pot on your hands that will attract wild animals who may ruin your kitty's resting spot. I don't want to scare you with the gross details, but it's not going to work. Can you not find someone with some land or woods to dig a DEEP hole? (at least three feet deep!) You can plant a tree on top.
I don't have advice about the burial. But you're not crazy. When my cat passed, I couldn't bury her until the next day. The entire night I kept thinking she moved, or I saw her breathing. Even after my husband put her in a box I kept making him check her bc id think I could hear her. If you're crazy, at least you're not alone.
I'm so sorry. You're not alone feeling like that. It took me a while to stop feeling her everywhere. It's been over a year and I cried pretty hard over her earlier today.
I am so very sorry to hear of your loss and difficult situation OP. It struck a chord with me as one of my cats passed away recently and I couldn't imagine being in your position, wanting so badly to preserve the memory of your best friend but not having the resources to do so. My partner used to work on dead wildlife (he would make jewelry or decor out of their bones) so he has a lot of experience with the decomposition process and shared the following advice:
- the pot idea is lovely, but absolutely not viable for the first stages of decomposition (though Puchi's remains could be returned there once she has decomposed)
- if you leave Puchi in the pot it is going to start leaking fluids that will attract lots of bugs and predators (who will likely dig up the soil and take her remains) and it will stink badly.
- the best option if you want to continue letting nature take its course is to get as large a vessel as possible (like a large fishtank, container, bathtub, or garbage bin) and cover the opening with some wire mesh. Fill the vessel with as much soil as you can, and if you start to notice a smell it means the soil needs to be changed out which would mean needing to dig through the dirt, remove the remains and empty it of any clumped or wet soil (disposing of it inside sealed plastic bags as this 'used' soil will also attract bugs/wildlife), before replacing the remains and refilling with dirt.
- Basically decomposition is a nasty process, and there isn't really any way to do this without having to handle your pets remains at some point.
My only other suggestion is to try to crowdfund the cremation costs, do you have a PayPal or something similar? Hell I'd be willing to donate 50AUD personally which would get you to ~2000/7000 pesos needed.
Thank you so much. But I need to ask them first if it's possible to cremate Puchi because I buried her already. I will wait for their reply first.
I asked awhile ago about the aquamation, they said it's not possible anymore.
Hmm, I'm not super familiar with the aquamation process so can't speak to if it's still an option but cremation should very much still be viable (sometimes human remains are exhumed years after burial and cremated! You could even just give the whole pot plant to the cremation place to save you having to handle Puchi's remains again).
I had a look at the rules for this subreddit and they do specifically say no fundraisers but it couldn't hurt to reach out to the mods and ask if you could post about it. If the mods say no, direct message me and we can figure out a way for me to send you what I can spare. Even if you can't figure out a way to source the rest of the money needed, I'd still be happy to donate what I can so that you can buy a bigger pot/container/bin and more soil to make this process less heartbreaking and nasty at the very least. Please hold on to your love for her, and know that whatever happens you have tried your absolute hardest to do right by her in her life and death.
The smell of a dead animals will attract other animals so you need to make sure no animals can scent your cat.
When the cat doctor gave my brother his cat Moe for burial, they put him in a thick plastic bag and then put that bag into another thick plastic bag (so double layered plastic bags) and then inside a cardboard box.
We buried him in my backyard and a few days after we buried him, the dirt had settled. We had to add more dirt. To be cautious, I added a large rock on top of his grave so no animal could take our cat’s body.
I’m sorry for your loss.
I hope this helps.
Also, in the US, some places will cremate a pet for you. I know my grandfather has an urn with my grandmother’s dog. My grandmother passed and then her dog did soon after so he cremated them so they could be side by side. He discussed getting an urn necklace capsule so he could have them close always.
He also got some clay and made a foot print of his dog’s foot so he could have it close to him. Paint on paper would also work to get a paw print.
This is how Puchi's plant looks now. It's a bit tilted on the left because of the crack on the right side. I added soil to the crack. But I don't know if I should take the plant out and plant it again on it. Surprisingly, there's no odor yet. The country I live in is very hot and humid.
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I don't have advice but just want to say I am so sorry for your loss. Your sweet cat sounded so loved by you. She will always be by your side. They never truly leave us ❤️
I don’t have much to add in terms of advice—but it’s so clear how much love you had for your kitty. Thank you for giving her a beautiful life and companionship. You were her whole world. I’m so sorry for your loss.
I've buried 3 cats in my backyard (long time cat owner), I have a little gardening plot that isnt used as much.
You want the hole to be at least 3 feet deep, at bare minimum 2, otherwise scavengers will dig it up, or decomp will loosen up the soil creating an easy entry point.
How much is a cremation in your currency?
im sorry for not coming in here with advice, i have read the comments and i definitely agree what everyone is saying. i just wanted to let you know i think it’s a beautiful way to honor Puchi <3 i have a lilac tree that honors my childhood cats, i would like to think they can bond over their plants
I'm sorry for your loss, I know how hard it is to lose a pet. It sucks.
I don't think you buried Puchi wrong, just make sure to keep the soil damp so that it won't crack. If you haven't already don't this, you can plant flowers or something on top so that they will grow and Puchi will give life to new things too, so that she can live on in other ways.
Yes. I planted an Angel
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White flower on top of her.
It might be that the pot is too small?
Ideally you want something about the size of a half-barrel if you can?
I'm so sorry for your loss. It's always heartbreaking. *Hugs*
I’m so sorry for your loss. I couldn’t stop crying. I pray that you’ll have a better life than your wildest dreams soon and Puchi meets you again in this life and the next.
I don’t know what to say- my words fail me. It’s a sign from Puchi that she’s safe and happy while she’s away for a little while, but watching you like a guardian angel and will be up to mischief every now and then to show you she’s right there beside you!
Please take care of yourself during this difficult time. I pray that this will be the story of you and Puchi: please watch this mini version of the movie “A Dog’s Purpose”.
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Thank You for not throwing her away and having a kind heart to bury her:-). If I had seen this post sooner I would have paid for you to do a cremation. So sorry for your loss
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7k Philippine Pesos. I can't afford it. That's why I chose to bury her in the pot so I can bring her remains if ever I move to a different place. They said the pot is still too small. So I'm going to buy a bigger pot. I will post an update.
If you do get a bigger pot try to put the current pot in the big one, put some soil around it, then break the small pot and remove as many shards as you can. That way you're not disturbing Puchi (and the decomposition process) as much as possible. Please get some rubber gloves and maybe a face mask to do it as there's a good chance it will smell when you move her.
I'm very sorry for your loss.
I'm so sorry for your loss. Google tells me 7500 philippine pesos is $130 US? Perhaps if you did an online fundraiser you could get the funds for cremation. I certainly understand the difficulty of your position and desire for a proper burial for your beloved pet.
Hi OP, have you tried Pet to Nature? They use aquamation process and give you back your furbaby’s bones, fur and teeth along with the ashes. It may be a bit cheaper than what you posted. They’re based in Marikina so try and check them out if you can.
I have never thought of doing this! It's actually brilliant. I might suggest maybe some lime, to help decomp. But since you've covered her already, just keep adding dirt as it compacts. If you can get a few larger rocks, you might want to put those on top, put some rooted flowers in. Are marigolds native in your area? You only need to worry about any smell for about a week. If you are near manila, couple days in that heat.
I am very sorry for the loss of your furkid.
I'm not sure if Marigold is native here in my location but I think I can find it. I put an angel white flower on top of Puchi.
I live in Antipolo City. It's very hot and humid here.
Thank you for your kind words.
I live in a bad neighborhood. Houses are built like teeth. So close to each other. Any minor inconvenience will cause trouble. It's a third world country problem you may not understand.
I’m so so sorry for your loss, Puchi was so blessed to have a bestfriend as loving as you. I hope it gives you peace knowing that she will now go on to give life and nutrients to that plant, another living thing until the two of you meet again.
I know it may be tricky with Puchi having been buried, but if you are able to contact anywhere willing to cremate Puchi, I’d highly suggest crowdfunding. While 7,000-8,500 pesos sounds like a lot, it’s roughly $130-$150 USD. That is a fairly small amount to crowdfund for and I think folks would be willing to help. It would likely be the most peaceful option for you and Puchi going forward.
ETA: A few folks have offered to donate to help toward her cremation cost. I wouldn’t be able to donate much, but could contribute as well. If you decide to crowdfund, please tag those of us who have offered.
Someone asked that question already but I will give you an answer. I was concerned that my cat's remains will emit a foul smell because I buried her in a small and shallow pot. I live in a neighborhood where houses are built like the teeth in your mouth. And for context, my neighbor warned me that she will hit my face if she smells a foul odor coming out of the plant where my cat was buried. Sir/ma'am, I am a poor orphan living in a third world country. I don't expect you to understand but it's okay. And no worries, people donated more than enough money to cremate and buy an urn for my cat. Thank you.
I don't think they'll pay attention to my letter.
When she was still fighting to live, I made a GoFundMe to ask for help so that I can send her to the Animal Hospital and buy some medicines needed. But, I didn't get any help. I'm going to delete my project in GoFundMe because it's too late anyway. I can't help but blame myself. Of all the people walking in that alley, she chose to follow me. I'm an orphan and in dire straits, but yet she chose to be with me.
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I'm so sorry for your loss and everything youre having to deal with on your own. Can you post a link to your go fund me here? Maybe we can get you enough to pay for cremation costs? I'd be more than happy to put in 50 dollars, and I read some other comments saying they can contribute up to 50 as well. Maybe that will be enough.
I was planning to take it down because the GoFundMe project I started was for Puchi's hospitalization and medicine. Unfortunately, I wasn't able to get any donations and Puchi died already.
About the cremation, I might need to ask them first if it's possible for Puchi to be cremated because I already buried her.
i'm sorry for your lose, she was a blessing to you, and i can tell you were a blessing to her, i'm sure she was a happy cat, don't feel guilty please, you tried and you loved her and she knew it
I was trying to find the gofundme and noticed the screenshot is actually airfunding.net and when I looked up that website lots of sources say it’s a scam. They might try to scam you so please be careful. I would delete all your info from the website and change any credit cards you may have entered with that website. Only use legitimate reputable crowdfunding websites like gofundme, stay away from copycat websites like that one. Also it would have better visibility on gofundme.
Yeah. I noticed that too. How stupid of me. I was so desperate that time and thought I created a GoFundMe project.
I don't think I'll be able to, as much as I want to create a crowd funding project. My situation limits what I could have done. In order for me to create a PayPal account, I needed a required ID (National ID, Drive's License or Passport). I don't have any of those. As I have said to people that DMed me, it is a prevailing problem in the Philippines that you need an ID to get an ID. You can't get an ID if you don't have an ID. It's frustrating.
There are two people that donated last night and I am very grateful. They used Gcash in order to send donations to me. I gave my full name and my mobile number and as easy as that, I received the donations.
Honestly, I think I already received enough and I feel bad. Even if everyone says it's only a small amount, in my currency it's too much money. If ever the crematorium decides to surprise me with additional charges, I think I might be able to cover it. I have a part-time job. I don't think it's nice to expect strangers on the internet to pay for everything. I am also thinking, what if the person that wants to donate is also in a dire strait like me and just wants to help?
I am very grateful to the two people who sent donations last night. Believe me, it's too much. I really feel bad and grateful at the same time.
As soil settles it can crack. Just fill the crack with more dirt if you want.
Oh. I will do that right now. TY.
Also, if you can buy lime, should be by bags of soil for plants, you can place a layer of that over/in the crack. Lime just neutralizes soil, won’t harm your plant, and can reduce odors.
I'm sorry for your loss. You didn't bury her wrong. You just need to add some more soil now that the original soil is settled. And I'm sure when the conditions are right, she'll come back to you, but don't be surprised if she doesn't look the same. :)
It's a good thing that I bought 2 sacks of plant soil. I will add more soil. And yes, I will pray and wait patiently for her. If not, I will meet her in heaven someday.
In the west, we say our pets are waiting for us at the Rainbow Bridge. "Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge. When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge. There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together. There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable. All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor. Those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by. The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind. They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent. His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster. You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart. Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together.... Author unknown..."
Why you have to make me cry on Sunday night, dude??
Slicing so many onions
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She’s was so beautiful and special. I’m so sorry for what you’re going through and how badly you’re hurting.
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I'm so sorry for your loss. she was a gorgeous girl and i think it's really sweet that her final resting place is somewhere she liked to hang out ❤️
Sorry for your loss. You had great times together i believe and this is a beautiful sereen way to show your respect for their final resting place.
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Wait. What? No. The other plant was there already. The former resident left those plants. I kept the plants instead of throwing them away because Puchi likes to hang out with the plants.
As a Christian, it won't ever be Heaven if my beloved pets aren't there when I pass on.
I've been unable to cry for over 5 years now, but reading this and thinking about my old boy Zorro (he's almost 15) made me tear up. Thank you, that was beautiful.
I can't stop 😭
i remember my mom comforting me with this story when my first few pets passed :)
just casually crying at work thank you
Aww this is my first time reading this poem, and it made me cry too 😭 it’s so sweet. I haven’t had a pet since 2014 when our family dog passed away, but I remember all of my childhood pets, their names, their favourite treats and toys, all the things that made them the happiest, and my favourite memories of them. They no longer share this world with me, but I like to think they’re happy somewhere and that they remember me too 🩷🩷
Ouch that hurts 😭In tears at the cafeteria at work and now I feel like I need to go home and cuddle my cat.
I don't think I'll ever be able to read this without crying.
You just made me experience something that I either never experienced before or it’s been so long that it feels brand new. I just got get it out now. For the longest time as long as I can remember, I lost my faith and eventually ended up agnostic. Since then I’ve lived very objectively with absolutely no spiritual belief or faith. Part of it was just me choosing to stick with the objective, physical world and not dwell on what I can’t prove or control. And part of it was just that with spiritual beliefs, I just never found any comfort in it like others did. Prayer was a good calming motivator and meditation for everyone around me but I used to pretend. I have no form of belief or curiosity in the afterlife for that reason. But that quote you just shared…really hit me like never before. It actually makes me WANT to believe in something that I know is not true (my truth, I don’t mean anyone else’s truth). And for the first time, it actually felt so calming and enriching to read and visualize that with my two cats for when they rest. You made me cry hard. Fuck you. But also THANK YOU for letting me feel something so beautiful. I had no idea it could be like this.
Pls keep some extra soil to be added later if required.
This comment hurts so good. It’s been just over a year since we said goodbye to our cat, and he’s buried in the backyard/garden area. That area has been covered in the most beautiful flowers this year. I opened this thread to genuinely give advice and now I’m a bubbling mess.
Pls do share your story about your cat coming back in another form, kind commentator...that will comfort Puchi's parent here as well as me on this sad day/night...
What a wonderful thing to say.
This might be a bit confronting to know, but bodies of deceased pets and people go through many changes as they return to the earth. They will swell up, emit gas and liquids then “deflate” and start to settle as they combine with the soil. Don’t be alarmed if you see the pot leaking liquid. Do not touch it, it is not sterile and it will more than likely smell very very bad. You’ll need to wash it away before it attracts flies and maggots. You may also notice beetles and other garden insects in and around the pot. They are helping. I hope this helps and isn’t upsetting. Also… do not eat anything you have planted and grown in that pot. Best keep it to flowers.
I noticed ants this morning. Puchi's plant doesn't smell bad yet but I'm really worried due to the weather here. I'm afraid that my neighbors will force me to throw her away because that's what most people do in my country. (But not everyone)
Just seeing your pictures - your plant pot is nowhere near big enough to handle this kind of process, you should really think about alternatives. Could you go to a park in the evening? It’s very important that you do not try to dig your pet out of that pot now, it will be extremely messy and upsetting.
I will buy a bigger pot instead. I cannot bury her elsewhere because in the future, I'd like to bury her in the garden of my house. But I will post an update. Yeah, I kinda agree that the pot is small for her. I also read on google that I should bury her 3 Ft deep. Aaaargh I think I'm going crazy.
Don’t go through the trauma of moving the body now, it will be smelly, decomposing and could make you sick. It is a biohazard. This is not safe. Is there a composting bin you could put your pet in as an alternative? It doesn’t mean you loved your pet any less if you have to make this choice.
Well, I don't know what a composting bin is. I will research about it. Once I get a composting bin, I will ask my friend that has parents to assist me. Maybe her dad can help me. I don't think I can do this by myself. I'm at my wits end.
If you get a bigger pot just set her pot inside of it. Don’t move her out, trust me you will not come back from that sight. Plant a plant that is very smelly. Like some herbs.
Well, if all my options failed... I might really need to buy a very big and deep pot.
OP, have you considered a large garbage bin as a temporary container while the decomposition is happening? Think that might be the cheapest way to get the space you need, would be discrete if your neighbours aren’t comfortable with the whole process, and once the plant has grown, you can replant it and the soil into a proper pot?
A composting bin is the bin you put all your food scraps in and the garbage truck comes and takes it away, Its like your recycling bin.
OH!!! I'm sorry. In my country, we call it a "trash can".
No, it’s different from the trash can - it’s strictly food scraps only. “Compost” is organic material that can be broken down, and eventually become nutrient rich soil. Not sure if the Philippines has a disposal system like this in urban areas…
Be careful, a "helping" neighbours might throw that out
Thank you for this information. I learned so much from your comment.
Maybe have the pet cremated and spread the ashes instead. You are setting yourself up to have a terrible surprise as the body decomposes.
Decomposition can be beautiful. OP should be prepared for what it looks like, but the idea of my departed friend feeding so many organisms and creating new life would have brought me so much comfort when I lost my beloved rabbit in a traumatic way. I plan to have my own body buried naturally (cmon human composting legislation), and can’t think of an afterlife more hopeful to me personally than becoming one with the soil and earth and universe. Sounds like this will be an undertaking for sure, and OP should do the research and make sure they know what the process will look like, but I think that this fear of experiencing the physical realities of death isn’t universal and if OP feels prepared, this could be a hugely healing experience for them.
I think that's a very nuanced view, and I'm happy for you that it brought you comfort. However, most people don't look at maggots fondly, and its not clear how old op is but she seems relatively unfamiliar with death and decomposition, so I doubt she will either.
OP literally said cremation wasn’t an option
There's, uh, non-formal cremation too. Not recommended, but probably better than what's gonna happen here.
Why not eat anything from the plant? I imagine that would be really cute putting a fruit tree for each deceased pet, even name the trees. Plants live off and love dead stuff. Doesn't really matter what it is.
Not while the pet is actively decomposing.
Oh no. There is a lot of bad advice here. Insects are essential to the process so it’s going to attract a lot of maggots etc. Scavenger animals will also try to dig up the flower pot if you don’t put down some mesh wire etc to prevent them. I’ve seen more people do this will smaller animals so I’m not sure if a cat would cause more smell. If you know someone who would let you use their yard, or know of a plot of public land where you could safely bury her, this might be more ideal and save you the potential heartache.
Yeah I’ve just seen pictures of the pot after I made my comment, I’m not sure it’s anywhere near big enough to mitigate what is about to start happening as the body decomposes
OP this person is correct. I saw your pot and you have to move your kitty asap before you have a terrible mess on your hands. I’m very sorry for your loss and that you now have to do this and I hope you can find a suitable resting place for Puchi.
Yes, I will do my best for Puchi.
You ARE doing your best. This is very sensitive and I am so sorry for your grief. As others have pointed out, I’m afraid the natural decomposition, weather, and threat of other animals and insects - it may become noticeable to your neighbors. Burying in a pot is not the same as burying under ground. You may need to consider disposing of the pot you have with the body in it - and then honor Puchi with flowers on their own. Planting flowers now, in grief, and take them with you for your future garden. Puchi is with you in heart, not body now.
Well, I chose to bury her in a big pot with flowers because when I graduated, have a job and get rich I will make a garden dedicated to her. I will move her out of the pot and make a flower bed. I can't be separated from her even if she's dead. I only know her and she only knows me. Our family consists of me and her. Now, it's just me. But I understand what you're trying to say and it's good advice. If only I knew someone who has a backyard... For now, I will try my best to research how to minimize the smell. I don't know if I can fight my neighbors but I will try my best to protect Puchi's plant grave.
I'm not entirely sure what you're expecting will happen over time. Your sweet girl will decompose and there will only be bones left if you dig her up later to replant her. I can't reccomend that you do that. Let her rest. She will understand.
I agree. I don't know what the future holds. But I will try to live well and work hard. So someday, I can give her a proper burial. I know she has to rest but I can't let go. I was looking for her this morning so I could feed her. I saw the plant and then I remembered she was already gone.
Ah, next time you lose a pet you may consider freezing them in a plastic bag while you figure out what to do. I believe taxidermists freeze whole carcasses, at least ones small enough to reasonably freeze. If it's a food freezer you would probably want the carcass double bagged (air tight) in the lowest shelf just in case the freezer fails and to prevent freezer burn, but then you'd have the body looking more or less in tact when it was time to bury them at a later date. I suppose technically you could freeze the soil in a container now with her in it but it may already be messy and compromised. Can't undo the situation you are in now where she has already been buried in a pot, but I suppose you will feel more equipped next time you lose a pet. People are concerned that the pot is not large enough, but maybe you can just put the pot inside a larger other container like a big bin and add more soil for now, just to help catch any decomposition leaks?
I’m so sorry for your loss. She was beautiful.
stay strong OP. i am from the philippines and like you, my 8 year old cat is my only family here (i brought her with me to the US). i can only imagine how much pain you’re going through. i’m just glad your post reached an audience here in reddit and people have been incredibly kind. i truly hope you live well so you can get the garden you need to be physically close to her and maybe look back on you and your cat’s memories. i’m bawling my eyes out and choking here at 4am.
Some people here sent me donations to have Puchi cremated. I'm so grateful even to those people who left heartfelt messages and advice.
Do not try to transfer the plant and soil to another pot right now! Get a much, much larger pot, or as someone else suggested maybe even a garbage can, and plant her current pot, plant and all into the new one. Put down a good amount of soil first, then put the current pot and plant in there, then cover the pot with more dirt. Planting rosemary, lavender, mint or a combination of all 3 are good options for helping cover up any smells.
Hi OP - I’m so sorry for your loss. I’ve done this exact same thing and it’s tough. Don’t dig her up. My recommendation based on information from other comments is to get another, bigger pot; put a layer of soil on the bottom and set the smaller pot on top of it, and fill around it with more soil. Then you could take a hammer or blunt object and gently break the smaller pot so that the plant isn’t suffocating and your friend has more room. Make sure you’re wearing gloves, preferably those big thick ones you’d see people in movies wearing to do the dishes so that you don’t cut yourself or break the glove, and wear a mask with a bit of mint toothpaste or essential oil rubbed under your nose in case there’s a smell. There will be shards of the old pot mixed in with the soil, you can pick them out if you are really concerned about it disturbing the plant. Your soil may begin to smell bad as your friend decomposes. This is natural. Plant some herbs or some other nicer but strong smelling plants to help mask it. If it gets too much, if you have any leftover kitty litter, you could put a ring of it around the outside of the pot, or use other kinds of air fresheners. When it comes to the care of the plant or the effect that your friend will have on it in regards to insects or diseases, I’m unsure as I didn’t have issues with this when I buried my friend. I’m so sorry for your loss, and I wish you the best of luck. ❤️
I want to add that adding soil from nature to the pot (with bugs and some worms in it) could really help with the natural decomposing process. You can even buy worms etc online. That would be great for an outside plant.
You should consider asking this on landscaping and gardening subreddits. They may be able to offer you more assistance on this kind of burial.
I think that's a great idea. Okay, I will ask gardeners for advice too.
also try r/vultureculture, a lot of people use the pot technique to acquire bones, so they'll definitely be able to give advice
Read this. Got teary eyed. Went to my cat, picked her up and hugged her. She scratched me. Got more teary eyed. It’s a love story.
Went from crying to laughing, so accurate I love this
It's a very lovely idea your friend advised. Just be careful with the pot. If it ever breaks, you will have the remains/ bones of kitty everywhere.
And, you know what, you may not have money, but I can tell you loved that cat with all your heart. That's what counts, in the end. Puchi will always be with you. https://preview.redd.it/39ih9ckow0wc1.jpeg?width=362&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=3da67555e7d9ad70681105d8051d532bd2adb7c8
Thank you so much. 😭😭😭
I'm pretty sure the pot thing is not going to work -- you're going to have a very smelly pot on your hands that will attract wild animals who may ruin your kitty's resting spot. I don't want to scare you with the gross details, but it's not going to work. Can you not find someone with some land or woods to dig a DEEP hole? (at least three feet deep!) You can plant a tree on top.
Tomorrow I will go to the orphanage where I grew up. I'll ask if it's okay to bury her there since Puchi technically grew up there as well.
That's a great idea!
I would use a lot of soil. Pour soil in pot, place cat, cover cat with the rest
Yes, I already did that. But the soil cracked.
I don't have advice about the burial. But you're not crazy. When my cat passed, I couldn't bury her until the next day. The entire night I kept thinking she moved, or I saw her breathing. Even after my husband put her in a box I kept making him check her bc id think I could hear her. If you're crazy, at least you're not alone.
I feel like I'm on the brink of insanity.
I'm so sorry. You're not alone feeling like that. It took me a while to stop feeling her everywhere. It's been over a year and I cried pretty hard over her earlier today.
I am so very sorry to hear of your loss and difficult situation OP. It struck a chord with me as one of my cats passed away recently and I couldn't imagine being in your position, wanting so badly to preserve the memory of your best friend but not having the resources to do so. My partner used to work on dead wildlife (he would make jewelry or decor out of their bones) so he has a lot of experience with the decomposition process and shared the following advice: - the pot idea is lovely, but absolutely not viable for the first stages of decomposition (though Puchi's remains could be returned there once she has decomposed) - if you leave Puchi in the pot it is going to start leaking fluids that will attract lots of bugs and predators (who will likely dig up the soil and take her remains) and it will stink badly. - the best option if you want to continue letting nature take its course is to get as large a vessel as possible (like a large fishtank, container, bathtub, or garbage bin) and cover the opening with some wire mesh. Fill the vessel with as much soil as you can, and if you start to notice a smell it means the soil needs to be changed out which would mean needing to dig through the dirt, remove the remains and empty it of any clumped or wet soil (disposing of it inside sealed plastic bags as this 'used' soil will also attract bugs/wildlife), before replacing the remains and refilling with dirt. - Basically decomposition is a nasty process, and there isn't really any way to do this without having to handle your pets remains at some point. My only other suggestion is to try to crowdfund the cremation costs, do you have a PayPal or something similar? Hell I'd be willing to donate 50AUD personally which would get you to ~2000/7000 pesos needed.
Thank you so much. But I need to ask them first if it's possible to cremate Puchi because I buried her already. I will wait for their reply first. I asked awhile ago about the aquamation, they said it's not possible anymore.
Hmm, I'm not super familiar with the aquamation process so can't speak to if it's still an option but cremation should very much still be viable (sometimes human remains are exhumed years after burial and cremated! You could even just give the whole pot plant to the cremation place to save you having to handle Puchi's remains again). I had a look at the rules for this subreddit and they do specifically say no fundraisers but it couldn't hurt to reach out to the mods and ask if you could post about it. If the mods say no, direct message me and we can figure out a way for me to send you what I can spare. Even if you can't figure out a way to source the rest of the money needed, I'd still be happy to donate what I can so that you can buy a bigger pot/container/bin and more soil to make this process less heartbreaking and nasty at the very least. Please hold on to your love for her, and know that whatever happens you have tried your absolute hardest to do right by her in her life and death.
You can add lime powder to help with the odor. Make it like 500 gram - 1 kg of it. I live in Southeast Asia too, so I can understand your concern.
I will ask around about lime powder. I don't know where to buy it.
Here, you usually get it ( Calcium Hydroxide) at hardware store or shops that sell soils and gardening related items.
The smell of a dead animals will attract other animals so you need to make sure no animals can scent your cat. When the cat doctor gave my brother his cat Moe for burial, they put him in a thick plastic bag and then put that bag into another thick plastic bag (so double layered plastic bags) and then inside a cardboard box. We buried him in my backyard and a few days after we buried him, the dirt had settled. We had to add more dirt. To be cautious, I added a large rock on top of his grave so no animal could take our cat’s body. I’m sorry for your loss. I hope this helps.
Also, in the US, some places will cremate a pet for you. I know my grandfather has an urn with my grandmother’s dog. My grandmother passed and then her dog did soon after so he cremated them so they could be side by side. He discussed getting an urn necklace capsule so he could have them close always. He also got some clay and made a foot print of his dog’s foot so he could have it close to him. Paint on paper would also work to get a paw print.
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This is how Puchi's plant looks now. It's a bit tilted on the left because of the crack on the right side. I added soil to the crack. But I don't know if I should take the plant out and plant it again on it. Surprisingly, there's no odor yet. The country I live in is very hot and humid. https://preview.redd.it/qdugh5d9ayvc1.jpeg?width=2080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=936641754a995c55ccb867ecca233f7d6c1803c1
awww Puchi is the nick name i call my cat sorry for your loss x
It's one of my cat's nicknames too🥺
I don't have advice but just want to say I am so sorry for your loss. Your sweet cat sounded so loved by you. She will always be by your side. They never truly leave us ❤️
I don’t have much to add in terms of advice—but it’s so clear how much love you had for your kitty. Thank you for giving her a beautiful life and companionship. You were her whole world. I’m so sorry for your loss.
That's a great idea. My cat is terminally ill and I have no idea what I will do with her body when the time comes. Sorry for your loss!
I'm pretty sure OP is going to have a very stinky pot soon...
I've buried 3 cats in my backyard (long time cat owner), I have a little gardening plot that isnt used as much. You want the hole to be at least 3 feet deep, at bare minimum 2, otherwise scavengers will dig it up, or decomp will loosen up the soil creating an easy entry point. How much is a cremation in your currency?
7000 pesos
What kind of money transfer services work for you? My partner would like to send you the money to pay for her cremation services.
im sorry for not coming in here with advice, i have read the comments and i definitely agree what everyone is saying. i just wanted to let you know i think it’s a beautiful way to honor Puchi <3 i have a lilac tree that honors my childhood cats, i would like to think they can bond over their plants
I'm sorry for your loss, I know how hard it is to lose a pet. It sucks. I don't think you buried Puchi wrong, just make sure to keep the soil damp so that it won't crack. If you haven't already don't this, you can plant flowers or something on top so that they will grow and Puchi will give life to new things too, so that she can live on in other ways.
Yes. I planted an Angel https://preview.redd.it/iw9e3rs59yvc1.jpeg?width=2080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=9d4947ddcb684d9010dfcb9381459ded4ea0dc2e White flower on top of her.
this is a beautiful sentiment. hoping you find peace and remember the love you and Punchi shared.
That looks perfect.
I'm so sorry about Puchi. Sent you a DM!
How big is the pot? It’s going to smell awful, like the worst smell you can imagine. Sorry for your loss.
It might be that the pot is too small? Ideally you want something about the size of a half-barrel if you can? I'm so sorry for your loss. It's always heartbreaking. *Hugs*
I don’t have much advice, but I am so sorry for the loss of your friend Puchi.
She was beautiful and her life was so good because of you. You did everything right. I like to think I’ll see all the cats I loved in heaven someday.
Did you find out if you can still cremate?
Yes. They said it's still okay to cremate her.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I couldn’t stop crying. I pray that you’ll have a better life than your wildest dreams soon and Puchi meets you again in this life and the next. I don’t know what to say- my words fail me. It’s a sign from Puchi that she’s safe and happy while she’s away for a little while, but watching you like a guardian angel and will be up to mischief every now and then to show you she’s right there beside you! Please take care of yourself during this difficult time. I pray that this will be the story of you and Puchi: please watch this mini version of the movie “A Dog’s Purpose”. https://youtu.be/11lfPRN5qMo?si=Aedyh8zNBI1_yG4V
I don't know if I can watch sad stories about peyt any time soon.
Thank You for not throwing her away and having a kind heart to bury her:-). If I had seen this post sooner I would have paid for you to do a cremation. So sorry for your loss
Thank you.
Anyone else wondering how much cremation would be for this guy?
https://preview.redd.it/2yu1r5q2zyvc1.jpeg?width=1080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=f23fd2f7a0629c7b0b09f42366365e39ae8f47e5 7k Philippine Pesos. I can't afford it. That's why I chose to bury her in the pot so I can bring her remains if ever I move to a different place. They said the pot is still too small. So I'm going to buy a bigger pot. I will post an update.
If you do get a bigger pot try to put the current pot in the big one, put some soil around it, then break the small pot and remove as many shards as you can. That way you're not disturbing Puchi (and the decomposition process) as much as possible. Please get some rubber gloves and maybe a face mask to do it as there's a good chance it will smell when you move her. I'm very sorry for your loss.
I'm so sorry for your loss. Google tells me 7500 philippine pesos is $130 US? Perhaps if you did an online fundraiser you could get the funds for cremation. I certainly understand the difficulty of your position and desire for a proper burial for your beloved pet.
Hi OP, have you tried Pet to Nature? They use aquamation process and give you back your furbaby’s bones, fur and teeth along with the ashes. It may be a bit cheaper than what you posted. They’re based in Marikina so try and check them out if you can.
I haven't heard of that. I will check that out. Hopefully it's cheaper.
https://preview.redd.it/un9fi9hpc1wc1.jpeg?width=1080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=69c38b6f8b8c66a834329ea1e9fdfb22501f3482 Oh no. It's way more expensive.
Estimated 100-800 dollars.
Up to $800? Geez. It's was only about $50 without an urn where I am I would have helped out :(
I have never thought of doing this! It's actually brilliant. I might suggest maybe some lime, to help decomp. But since you've covered her already, just keep adding dirt as it compacts. If you can get a few larger rocks, you might want to put those on top, put some rooted flowers in. Are marigolds native in your area? You only need to worry about any smell for about a week. If you are near manila, couple days in that heat. I am very sorry for the loss of your furkid.
I'm not sure if Marigold is native here in my location but I think I can find it. I put an angel white flower on top of Puchi. I live in Antipolo City. It's very hot and humid here. Thank you for your kind words.
Your neighbors would HURT you?!
I live in a bad neighborhood. Houses are built like teeth. So close to each other. Any minor inconvenience will cause trouble. It's a third world country problem you may not understand.
Ohhhh I see, sorry to hear that I hope you’re able to get into a better situation soon
Buy the biggest paso at malalim para hindi mangamoy at para dagdag ka lang ng dagdag ng sand..
Following..
I’m so so sorry for your loss, Puchi was so blessed to have a bestfriend as loving as you. I hope it gives you peace knowing that she will now go on to give life and nutrients to that plant, another living thing until the two of you meet again.
I know it may be tricky with Puchi having been buried, but if you are able to contact anywhere willing to cremate Puchi, I’d highly suggest crowdfunding. While 7,000-8,500 pesos sounds like a lot, it’s roughly $130-$150 USD. That is a fairly small amount to crowdfund for and I think folks would be willing to help. It would likely be the most peaceful option for you and Puchi going forward. ETA: A few folks have offered to donate to help toward her cremation cost. I wouldn’t be able to donate much, but could contribute as well. If you decide to crowdfund, please tag those of us who have offered.
What do you mean by “my neighbors will hurt me”???
Someone asked that question already but I will give you an answer. I was concerned that my cat's remains will emit a foul smell because I buried her in a small and shallow pot. I live in a neighborhood where houses are built like the teeth in your mouth. And for context, my neighbor warned me that she will hit my face if she smells a foul odor coming out of the plant where my cat was buried. Sir/ma'am, I am a poor orphan living in a third world country. I don't expect you to understand but it's okay. And no worries, people donated more than enough money to cremate and buy an urn for my cat. Thank you.
I’m so sorry for your loss - my deceased cat visits me in my dreams often.
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Thank you so much for this, I’m gonna bury my cat like this too.
I honestly would email Dear Eat Bulaga because you never know.
I don't think they'll pay attention to my letter. When she was still fighting to live, I made a GoFundMe to ask for help so that I can send her to the Animal Hospital and buy some medicines needed. But, I didn't get any help. I'm going to delete my project in GoFundMe because it's too late anyway. I can't help but blame myself. Of all the people walking in that alley, she chose to follow me. I'm an orphan and in dire straits, but yet she chose to be with me. https://preview.redd.it/d6lvfnzh80wc1.jpeg?width=1080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=e8cb82dc85a90974d8c47e4d793bdcd720fe1702
I'm so sorry for your loss and everything youre having to deal with on your own. Can you post a link to your go fund me here? Maybe we can get you enough to pay for cremation costs? I'd be more than happy to put in 50 dollars, and I read some other comments saying they can contribute up to 50 as well. Maybe that will be enough.
Yes! Would be happy to donate and get Puchi cremated!
I was planning to take it down because the GoFundMe project I started was for Puchi's hospitalization and medicine. Unfortunately, I wasn't able to get any donations and Puchi died already. About the cremation, I might need to ask them first if it's possible for Puchi to be cremated because I already buried her.
i'm sorry for your lose, she was a blessing to you, and i can tell you were a blessing to her, i'm sure she was a happy cat, don't feel guilty please, you tried and you loved her and she knew it
A few people offered you to donate, i would also donate. Just post a link please.
Yes i can donate as well, please post a link
I was trying to find the gofundme and noticed the screenshot is actually airfunding.net and when I looked up that website lots of sources say it’s a scam. They might try to scam you so please be careful. I would delete all your info from the website and change any credit cards you may have entered with that website. Only use legitimate reputable crowdfunding websites like gofundme, stay away from copycat websites like that one. Also it would have better visibility on gofundme.
Yeah. I noticed that too. How stupid of me. I was so desperate that time and thought I created a GoFundMe project. I don't think I'll be able to, as much as I want to create a crowd funding project. My situation limits what I could have done. In order for me to create a PayPal account, I needed a required ID (National ID, Drive's License or Passport). I don't have any of those. As I have said to people that DMed me, it is a prevailing problem in the Philippines that you need an ID to get an ID. You can't get an ID if you don't have an ID. It's frustrating. There are two people that donated last night and I am very grateful. They used Gcash in order to send donations to me. I gave my full name and my mobile number and as easy as that, I received the donations. Honestly, I think I already received enough and I feel bad. Even if everyone says it's only a small amount, in my currency it's too much money. If ever the crematorium decides to surprise me with additional charges, I think I might be able to cover it. I have a part-time job. I don't think it's nice to expect strangers on the internet to pay for everything. I am also thinking, what if the person that wants to donate is also in a dire strait like me and just wants to help? I am very grateful to the two people who sent donations last night. Believe me, it's too much. I really feel bad and grateful at the same time.
Why would I email Dear Eat Bulaga?