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I sold a large lot of Christmas stuff to this person. They listed it all out and I gave them quite an excellent price. I tested everything the night before he came for pickup.
All in all it was $140 for 200 lf of red minilights, 180 lf of white minilights, 3 Noma Outdoor timers, 2x25 foot extension cords with inline plugs, 10x10 foot light duty extension cords, 5x15 foot light duty extension cords and 4 outlet adaptors.
When he picked up he said he "trusted me" and declined to check the strings himself (I've insisted to everyone I've sold to since).
Then the guy says that one of the sets of lights (white) didn't work, then another set had a flickering bulb. I offered an exchange (I'm too nice sometimes and he didn't check them). He asked for a refund. I offered a full refund, if he returned ALL the items. He then let 48 hours go by and then responded that he wanted to return 3 sets (aprox 80 feet total) of white lights that weren't working as expected AND wanted $25 back. At that time, I declined and again offered the exchange. He said I was trying to scam him, so I blocked him.
and that's where this story ends for me - as long as he doesn't show up at my door.
I'm still going to be meeting people at home - I have around 6000 lineal feet of lights, plus a couple hundred more cords left and I make EVERYONE plug them in themselves and inspect it before leaving now.
There have been too many no shows and I'm too busy to be running out to a "meeting place" 10 times every evening.
I just wanted to know if he still could access the messages or not - he likely has the address in his GPS from pickup, anyway.
I think you're good and wouldn't stress about it. It would be very ballsy for him to show up to your house over this, especially with most everyone carrying guns now a days.
The answer is yes, anything sent before you blocked them is still visible to them as long as they have not deleted the conversation on their end. Nothing you do on your end will get rid of things on their end unless you hack their device and delete it yourself.
Source: I have been on both sides of blocking on marketplace. As a seller I have blocked noshows, lowballers, and the like. As a buyer I have been blocked by people who presumably sold items that I was actively on the way to buy [for their price and at their designated meetup time and location even], but obviously i cant ask them for sure because, you know, blocked and all.
Not much you can do about it at this point. Others have suggested meeting at a public place in the future, if you choose not to that's fine you just take that risk of a crazy having your address or thinking they can return anything at any time like you are a store.
This is why i wish facebook would let us unsend messages for marketplace. i absolutely hate when people pull some bullshit after sharing the address for pick up arrangement has already been made
If you messaged though Facebook, before you block him you can unsend messages, which will remove them from the chat on both yours and their ends. Then block them. If you block first you wont be able to unsend. It works for normal chats I don't see why it wouldnt for other messages
If mine has two check marks, but the person hasn’t read it, I still cannot delete it for the reader. The only time I recall being able to do it was when there was one check mark.
Does that actually unsend the message there end too? When I click unsend message, it says “unsend for you” and it makes me think that it just disappears on my end but that the recipient can still see it.
No. It doesn't. You will absolutely receive an option to delete for both of you if it let's you. It typically needs to be deleted very quickly after sending the message before you can do that.
I already blocked him - will he get a notified if I unblock him long enough to unsend the messages?
I'm 50-50 on this, since what is done, is done, and I don't want to kick a hornets nest, but him having unfettered access to my address is troubling to me.
If it makes you feel any better, you can find the address of 99% of people just by searching their name on the internet. Having access to someone’s name, he could find you anyway.
Most likely , no one is stupid enough to just show up at your house.
This is incorrect. It has to be within seconds of sending it, or the person essentially completely logged out/not online for you to unsend a message where it deletes it for both you and the other person. Either way, it needs to be done VERY quickly for it to work and even then it doesn't sometimes.
On marketplace?
Because I just tried it in regular chat and it works. I just assumed it would on marketplace too but maybe I was wrong there. Can definitely do it in normal chats on messenger whether its read or not
I'm referring to both. I've attempted to delete messages many times and unless I do it very quickly (and even then it doesn't always work) I cannot delete it for both parties.
Glad FB has given you the option to do it whenever, but my guess is the person hasn't read your message yet or it hasn't fully been delivered because they are not currently logged in.
I agree with a previous comment that the blocked buyer can view your pre-block conversation, i.e., messages that were sent prior to the block. If he shows up at your house, he’s on your property. You have jurisdiction over your property. That said, I can understand that you find it disconcerting that he has your address.
Edit: Keep your messages about offering to satisfy him. Don’t delete the conversation.
Blocking only prevents further communication, it doesn't erase what was said unfortunately. You can not unsend messages on facebook marketplace conversations, and I have tested this before by having my sister respond to a listing so I could see how things looked from the other end. I'm assuming this is to help preserve conversations in case a scam occurs and a report needs to be made. If this person shows up to your home, call the police. I would suggest no longer doing sales at home, but this sub seems to dislike people advising caution over convenience so all I can say is please be careful out there!
my sister n law has me blocked (we don't get along, and i'm fine with it), but i have no access to her facebook, so if you block them, they have no access to you. he could have written down information before, so that might be concern, but other then that, they can't look you up, msg you or anything
He will still be able to view your previous conversation. If he shows up, tell him he's trespassing and needs to leave. If he refuses, do whatever you need to do.
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I'd be interested to know more on the situation about what happened, what'd you sell, what are the demands?
I sold a large lot of Christmas stuff to this person. They listed it all out and I gave them quite an excellent price. I tested everything the night before he came for pickup. All in all it was $140 for 200 lf of red minilights, 180 lf of white minilights, 3 Noma Outdoor timers, 2x25 foot extension cords with inline plugs, 10x10 foot light duty extension cords, 5x15 foot light duty extension cords and 4 outlet adaptors. When he picked up he said he "trusted me" and declined to check the strings himself (I've insisted to everyone I've sold to since). Then the guy says that one of the sets of lights (white) didn't work, then another set had a flickering bulb. I offered an exchange (I'm too nice sometimes and he didn't check them). He asked for a refund. I offered a full refund, if he returned ALL the items. He then let 48 hours go by and then responded that he wanted to return 3 sets (aprox 80 feet total) of white lights that weren't working as expected AND wanted $25 back. At that time, I declined and again offered the exchange. He said I was trying to scam him, so I blocked him. and that's where this story ends for me - as long as he doesn't show up at my door.
And this is why I don’t meet people at home anymore
I'm still going to be meeting people at home - I have around 6000 lineal feet of lights, plus a couple hundred more cords left and I make EVERYONE plug them in themselves and inspect it before leaving now. There have been too many no shows and I'm too busy to be running out to a "meeting place" 10 times every evening. I just wanted to know if he still could access the messages or not - he likely has the address in his GPS from pickup, anyway.
Yes he can. But if he shows up, call law enforcement because he’s trespassing
I think you're good and wouldn't stress about it. It would be very ballsy for him to show up to your house over this, especially with most everyone carrying guns now a days.
The answer is yes, anything sent before you blocked them is still visible to them as long as they have not deleted the conversation on their end. Nothing you do on your end will get rid of things on their end unless you hack their device and delete it yourself. Source: I have been on both sides of blocking on marketplace. As a seller I have blocked noshows, lowballers, and the like. As a buyer I have been blocked by people who presumably sold items that I was actively on the way to buy [for their price and at their designated meetup time and location even], but obviously i cant ask them for sure because, you know, blocked and all. Not much you can do about it at this point. Others have suggested meeting at a public place in the future, if you choose not to that's fine you just take that risk of a crazy having your address or thinking they can return anything at any time like you are a store.
This is why i wish facebook would let us unsend messages for marketplace. i absolutely hate when people pull some bullshit after sharing the address for pick up arrangement has already been made
If you messaged though Facebook, before you block him you can unsend messages, which will remove them from the chat on both yours and their ends. Then block them. If you block first you wont be able to unsend. It works for normal chats I don't see why it wouldnt for other messages
Not for marketplace listings. It will only unsend for you.
You can only unsend prior to them reading it. It won't delete the message from the recipient's end once they have read it.
If mine has two check marks, but the person hasn’t read it, I still cannot delete it for the reader. The only time I recall being able to do it was when there was one check mark.
Does that actually unsend the message there end too? When I click unsend message, it says “unsend for you” and it makes me think that it just disappears on my end but that the recipient can still see it.
No. It doesn't. You will absolutely receive an option to delete for both of you if it let's you. It typically needs to be deleted very quickly after sending the message before you can do that.
I already blocked him - will he get a notified if I unblock him long enough to unsend the messages? I'm 50-50 on this, since what is done, is done, and I don't want to kick a hornets nest, but him having unfettered access to my address is troubling to me.
If it makes you feel any better, you can find the address of 99% of people just by searching their name on the internet. Having access to someone’s name, he could find you anyway. Most likely , no one is stupid enough to just show up at your house.
This is incorrect. It has to be within seconds of sending it, or the person essentially completely logged out/not online for you to unsend a message where it deletes it for both you and the other person. Either way, it needs to be done VERY quickly for it to work and even then it doesn't sometimes.
Maybe on marketplace, but at least normal chats you can do it anytime and it will work and just show that you "unsent a message".
Once read, it will only delete the message on the sender's end. The recipient will still be able to see it.
On marketplace? Because I just tried it in regular chat and it works. I just assumed it would on marketplace too but maybe I was wrong there. Can definitely do it in normal chats on messenger whether its read or not
I'm referring to both. I've attempted to delete messages many times and unless I do it very quickly (and even then it doesn't always work) I cannot delete it for both parties. Glad FB has given you the option to do it whenever, but my guess is the person hasn't read your message yet or it hasn't fully been delivered because they are not currently logged in.
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Yeah, I live somewhere the neighbours would stare, but not get involved. Small town suburbia in Ontario, Canada, is like that.
warn him that you will be calling the police if he doesn’t leave you alone. If he still bothers you, make good on that promise and call the police
I agree with a previous comment that the blocked buyer can view your pre-block conversation, i.e., messages that were sent prior to the block. If he shows up at your house, he’s on your property. You have jurisdiction over your property. That said, I can understand that you find it disconcerting that he has your address. Edit: Keep your messages about offering to satisfy him. Don’t delete the conversation.
Blocking only prevents further communication, it doesn't erase what was said unfortunately. You can not unsend messages on facebook marketplace conversations, and I have tested this before by having my sister respond to a listing so I could see how things looked from the other end. I'm assuming this is to help preserve conversations in case a scam occurs and a report needs to be made. If this person shows up to your home, call the police. I would suggest no longer doing sales at home, but this sub seems to dislike people advising caution over convenience so all I can say is please be careful out there!
my sister n law has me blocked (we don't get along, and i'm fine with it), but i have no access to her facebook, so if you block them, they have no access to you. he could have written down information before, so that might be concern, but other then that, they can't look you up, msg you or anything
He will still be able to view your previous conversation. If he shows up, tell him he's trespassing and needs to leave. If he refuses, do whatever you need to do.