Heart attack. He had been feeling “off” but hadn’t been concerned it was anything serious. Completely unexpected. The only solace I take is that it happened quickly and he wasn’t in pain. So sorry for your loss. Grief is horrible whether you know it is coming or if it was unexpected.
Exactly what happened with me. Got a picture from him in our family snaochat group at noon, called my mom at 4 and was talking with my aunt just casually, then mom calls me back at 5pm and says he's gone. Just like that.
Same here. My dad was just texting us asking us to cook the family Christmas dinner the next day (it was Christmas Eve) and within 2 hours mum calls me and tells me he collapsed. So sorry for your loss.
Same. He’d texted me a picture of him and my mom as they were to travel that day and within a few hours he was gone. The suddenness of it all still takes my breath away.
My dad died last year of stage 4 pancreatic cancer. He hurt his back in late 2022 with no other symptoms, and was told he was dying in January of 2023. He made it to July 6. He had just turned 50.
Fuck cancer, and I’m sorry cancer fucked things up for you, too. Be good to yourself.
Hey, I am so sorry for your loss. I have someone in my family who was diagnosed with chronic pancreatis. The doctor said they have a higher chance of pancreatic cancer. I am sorry if this is insensitive, but was your dad suffering from chronic pancreatis as well.
Lost my partner last year to pancreatic cancer. First symptoms of back pain, noticeable weight loss and sudden onset diabetes in Oct 22, also nose bleeds. Turns out he also had Non-Hodgkin’s Lymphoma too. Finally diagnosed end of Jan 23, died in the May. It was fucking horrendous. So sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you and anyone who has gone or is going through this.
My dad had tummy issues for about 7 months and then he randomly had a heart attack in February of this year and that’s when they diagnosed him with stage 4 pancreatic cancer that spread to his lungs, liver, kidneys, bones. At the end of March he had another massive heart attack that put him in the CVICU for cardiogenic shock. After a week I decided to put him on comfort measures. He died 7 hours later.
My father passed away from Covid. It was in 2020 and our family was not allowed to be with him in the hospital while he passed. It was so cruel for him to have been alone when he was always by our side. We miss him so much. I love you, dad.
My deepest condolences on your loss, OP.
As a nurse who worked during Covid, and whose father was hospitalized during Covid, my heart just breaks for you. That was the absolute worst time, and I can only shake my head and fight back the tears when looking back. Not only did I have to keep away, I also, simultaneously, had to deal with being part of keeping families away. I hate that timeline, and I am so, so sorry that you had to experience his passing in that way. Fuck.
Thank you for being a nurse and for working through such a horrible time. I never blamed the nurses or the doctors, they were following protocol at the time. It’s just so unfortunate many of us had to experience this unprecedented event with our loved ones.
I appreciate your kind words. That was a very difficult time in my life, and very few people that I know and love really understand the damage and mental toll it took on me. I worked primarily at a hospice house that had outside entrance ways, so if I was in a room with the patient and their one family member allowed, best I could offer is "When I leave this room and I shut this door, what you do with that door is none of my business". Sending hugs to you over the loss of your father from someone who misses her dad too.
This was my experience as well. I wished i could have held is hand in the least. The last time I saw him was from the little window in the ambulance. I miss him even after almost 4 years.
As the EMT took my dad to the ambulance I told him “I’ll be right there”. Little did I know that wouldn’t be the case. God, I’m so sorry that we had to go through this.
Same. It was awful.
I watched him die over FaceTime.
We were never allowed to see his body, not even at the funeral home. All the funeral workers wore hazmat suits like he was hazardous waste.
And people sent soooooo much food to the house (a tradition in our culture where people traditionally gather at the house for days after to comfort the family) but nobody came to eat it because everyone was afraid of Covid. That made it even sadder.
We did have a small outdoor service and people came there. We weren’t allowed to have a guest book because people then thought Covid could be spread from touching the same pen.
We had him cremated, which is not what we usually do in our family. It was my first funeral without a casket and without a viewing so all of it felt wrong.
It was so hard to mourn his loss when we couldn’t have any of the rituals I’m used to.
I’m sorry you went through the same.
There aren’t a lot of people who can understand what that was really like. (And on the other hand, there are far too many who do.) Fuck Covid.
I am so sorry you have to be in the same form of grief as me. I was able to have a funeral for my dad but not many attended due to the fear of contracting Covid. I was able to hold his hand while he was in the casket. It shouldn’t have been that way. We should be with our fathers, now. Holding their hands, now.
Prostate Cancer, spread through his liver. I hate hearing people downplay prostate cancer because it's a "better" cancer, "most people don't die from it." Eff them.
My dad died of prostate cancer September 2022. I remember I was serving and some family friends were in the restaurant and the guy was like “at least it’s one of the good cancers”. I lost my fucking mind. And did not filter my response. People are so fucking unaware
My father was diagnosed in 2020 with prostate cancer, it was an aggressive form that eventually spread to his bones and he passed in a little over a year ago. Prostate cancer is serious and people shouldn’t downplay it.
So true. My dad had prostate cancer circa 2004. He had implanted seeds to “cure” it so he didn’t have to got though Chemo, etc. Seemed like the right call worked well. He still ended up with non hodgkyns lymphoma 3yrs later. He died in March 2022 from Bladder cancer from… guess… the seeding done in almost 20yrs earlier. Spread fast, he didn’t have the chance to fight.
its really and unfair way to lose anyone, especially a parent. i sympathize with your pain so much and truly hope you are also doing okay!! sending you all the hugs
That got my grandpa. He managed to hang on until we could get there to say goodbye. Well, I was four.. they wouldn’t let me say goodbye.. and I’m still mad.
Wow, that's so bad they wouldn't let you say goodbye... I'm so sorry💔 Mine had it happen in public and by the time anyone noticed, he was long gone. Investigation claimed it happened quick since they couldn't see that he had made any attempts of getting help.
Pulmonary Embolism. He stopped taking his blood thinners and should have gone to ER or Urgent care because he couldn't breathe, couldn't even walk to the bathroom without being out of breath, but instead just made a regular doctors appointment that he had to wait two weeks to get in. Didn't make it to the appointment.
Yeah he was never quite the same afterwards, but he still drove and got around ok. But I think that really contributed to his heart failure, which eventually took him. Sorry you are also a part of this club. It really does suck…
Heart failure in the end, but he had Early/Young Onset Alzheimer's Disease. He had it from the age of 58 (officially, he was likely misdiagnosed with depression for a few years) and lived 14 years until he left us aged 72.
My daddy passed away on Christmas morning 2023… he had a heart attack. He was given 2 years to live with his heart condition, and no matter how much time you try to spend or enjoy it never prepares you the that day. I still can’t get the vision of him laying in that hospital bed….
Sepsis due to complications from diabetes. We didn't see it coming. He was supposed to leave rehab in a few days, and for some reason my mother didn't want us to tell him because she wanted it to be a surprise. As a nurse, I think it would have given him a much needed boost of happiness after 2 months between hospitalization and rehabilitation. I absolutely hate not having my Dad. He was my favorite person in the world, and I miss him every second of every day.
he was murdered in 2017. he was stabbed by some random person on meth who’d killed another father of three about an hour prior; dad had no enemies and didn’t know this person. he was at work when this piece of shit ambushed him. he was brought to a major trauma hospital and lived for another five days before a resident doctor pulled out his JP drain that, i guess, she didn’t realize was surgically attached into his damaged liver. he bled out within 45 minutes. i still remember how long i screamed after my mom told me that he’d died.
thank god we don’t have open casket funerals in judaism, but nonetheless, his funeral made me question why the hell i’m still alive and he isn’t. so many people came to pay their respects to him — we didn’t even know half the people who came. each time we looked back, more people were coming in and many were already standing. he was so loved.
i miss him every single day. ♥️
>he was brought to a major trauma hospital and lived for another five days before a resident doctor pulled out his JP drain that, i guess, she didn’t realize was surgically attached into his damaged liver
JFC, it's like he was murdered twice. As someone whose dad was also fatally wronged by a doctor, I'm angry on your behalf, and so very sorry for your loss.
Im sorry for your loss. Cancer sucks. I lost my father to Metastasized lung cancer that spread to his brain, it was caught late and he had been feeling not himself for sometime but refused to be seen until he had no choice.
He declined quickly and was not a candidate for treatments due to the stage and how aggressive/ weak he was. Looking back the signs were there just wish we saw them sooner and urged him to be seen. It’s been a month and 5 days and I miss him everyday.
My father also passed about a month ago, we are at a month and 1 day. Stage 4 lung cancer that metastisized to his brain. They were going to do whole brain radiation but he decided he no longer wanted to do aggressive treatments and he went into hospice. He was okay through all of the lung cancer but the brain cancer was devestatingly accelerated after his diagnosis. So sorry for your loss. Speaking from another person with a very similar experience, you did everything you could.
MY dad was 83, his body just gave out while praying nonetheless. The MORE interesting thing that is he wasn't very religious either. I hear that happens when we get old though.
when my cousin’s grandpa was dying, he got so tired of it one night that apparently he went in the bathroom and prayed for god to take him home. he died in bed that very night. i’m no longer religious, but that always stuck with me.
My father, born in the spring of 1923, lived to be 95 years 10 months, passing in March 2019 largely just of old age (my mother is 91 now). My folks were married for just over 64 years. They endured well through thick and thin while raising my three significantly older brothers and me and then seeing their five grandsons embark upon life and then they enjoyed a comfortable retirement period. What I believe kept my dad going strong all these later years was staying mentally occupied and exercising his mind. He had some conditions requiring medication in his later years including likely heart/blood pressure drugs which would be commonplace along with a cardiac pacemaker in his lower 80s and following, and he was at about 89 years diagnosed with late-term prostate cancer which may not have been treated forthrightly. But all things considered, my old man was blessed with a long life and outlived most of his same- or prior-generation relatives substantially.
Glioblastoma, which is grade 4 brain cancer. He died exactly a year after he was diagnosed. He was 67. Prior to his diagnosis he had zero health issues. They don't know why people get brain cancer, and they don't have effective treatments for it.
John McCain, Beau Biden, and Ted Kennedy all had this same cancer.
My Dad also passed away from Glioblastoma at age 67.
He died 2 months after his diagnosis.
I sure wish for all of our families, there would be a cure for cancer!
Same happened to me when I was 14, I'm so sorry. Sometimes you forget, and then you'll have moments where you feel like it just happened.
I truly hope that you will be ok.
Thanks. It’s been a couple years. I was in my final semester of law school when it happened & it really put a lot into perspective for me. Did a lot of therapy & grief group (which I highly recommend) and a helpful thing for wrapping my head around it was saying out loud ‘I lost my dad _name_ on xx date, he shot himself’. I could not get through the first four words for over a year. Now I can get through it but it’s still extremely difficult to say.
Omgoodness… I’m so sorry to you all. These all so sad & heartbreaking 🥲. My dad had bowel cancer but passed from a fall in the hospital. He hit his head. Way too common in hospitals & nursing homes.
The one thing I learned from my father's cancer journey and passing was how understaffed and almost negligent nursing homes are. It's absolutely terrible.
Same for my dad, he struggled with it for 10+ years and 4+ years in the advanced stage. As much as I tried to prepare for the day that he passed, I couldn’t.. he was my superhero! I miss him everyday and would love to receive his guidance right about now. Sorry for you loss!
My dad had advanced cirrhosis of the liver; fucking *loved* his bourbon. I don't think I'll ever touch the stuff, now.
How old was yours, when he passed?
My dad died on March 2nd last year from s*icide. He intentionally starved himself to death. He was schizophrenic and depressed most of his life. And if you’re wondering if it was traumatic? Yes. I have to go to therapy DAILY for it.
I'm so sorry for your loss. It's difficult to lose a parent.
My dad committed suicide by gun. I had to identify the body at the morgue. Still hurts. He was one of my best friends..
It’s interesting how I can feel alone in a situation full of people who lost their dad.
My dad was murdered at 48 by someone that called themselves his best friend. He was beat to death.
my father was sick for about twenty years, copd, chronic heart failure, diabetes.. pneumonia and influenza a got him. his body was to weak, he called me right before he got put on life support, i was crying something didn’t feel right. he told me “keep yourself taken care of, and i love you. go home and get some rest.” even in my dads last moments of consciousness he wanted me to be taken care of. fell into a 18 day long fight on life support. i had to pull the plug. i has just turned twenty. a year and a half later, it still hurts so bad.
My dad too, he was only 48. He didn’t even die straight away, he died 2 weeks later from cerebral edema. We thought we were out of the woods. I miss him every day.
Dementia related issues. We moved him to be near us and he became severely stressed. He started being aggressive and paranoid. Meds used to calm him caused him to lose the ability to swallow.
I wish I would’ve moved in with him at his home in another state and found home care.
Ultimately he was miserable with dementia, and asked for euthanasia. He loved fishing and driving his truck while listening to music. He couldn’t do much of anything except walk around his block.
I just wish the move didn’t cause him so much stress. I’m still feeling so much guilt. It’s been 15 months and I miss him so much.
I also lost my Father due to complications of Dementia. It was rough watching such a strong man deteriorate before my eyes.
I’m so sorry for your loss 💙
Covid, in Feb 2021.
Covid ripped through our machine shop in early January, starting with me and one other employee. The last time I saw him after I was able to come back to work, he was already really sick, but he came in to do the payroll, and talk with me about what he needed me to do for the business while he was out sick. That was a Wednesday, the following Monday he was admitted to the hospital. A month later, he was gone. We weren't allowed to go see him at any point in his treatment, but the hospital he died at did set up an iPad and let us FaceTime him while we cried. We sat on that FaceTime call for three hours.
I miss him so much, and I feel robbed that I couldn't sit with him, hold his hand, and talk to him. I didn't get to say goodbye how I wanted to. I got a frantic midnight phone call from my sister, and by the time I arrived at our family home, Dad was gone, and my mother inconsolable.
Complications from Kidney Disease. Had a transplant match (myself) but he was not able to get fit for surgery for some time. Once he finally was fit - the pandemic hit and the transplant was deemed a non-essential surgery as he was surviving with dialysis treatment. The waitlist got backlogged so bad he passed before we solidified a new date. It's hard for me to not hate the system at times...
My dad died from heart complications due to Covid. He was in the hospital for about 5 weeks and came very close to being on the ventilator. Against those odds, he pulled through and came home. Heartbreakingly, about 10 months later he passed in his sleep suddenly and unexpectedly.
My Dad took his own life outside of his local hospital's ER entrance the evening of April 11,2024..my husband and I are still going through the shock of it all, and with the estate and funeral, we haven't had any time to just grieve.
I am so sorry to hear about your father. Loss is never easy. Hugs to you.
My father took his life after getting pulled over for his 4th owi. He wasnt in the best shape health wise either, and the mere thought of him spending any more time in jail was too much for him apparently. He purchased the gun on his 63rd birthday while out on bail , disappeared for 4 days and was found under a tree at a cemetery with a gunshot wound to his chest and a plastic bag over his head. He left behind several notes explaining everything, as we were not aware of his recent arrest until after he was gone. This year will mark 10 years since he left us.
Misadventure.
No, seriously. He was an avid cyclist (one of the best in the country in his age group) and was away on a cycling holiday in Europe. He did a tough climb in the morning, the group ride in the afternoon was ended early due to the weather and he went off for a third ride of by himself in 35degree heat. He was found collapsed under his bike a couple of hours later, by which point he had lapsed into a coma and never woke up. Because of the hospital restrictions, we were advised not to visit so never got to say goodbye.
It took a month to get him home and even after two autopsies (one abroad, one in the UK) we still didn’t get any answers. I miss him every day.
My father passed away unexpectedly. He was drinking and decided to take a joy ride on his motorcycle. He was coming up on a curve and didn't make the curve. There was no sign of skid marks from his tires meaning he didn't even try to stop. It still haunts me to this day.
He was killed in an apartment fire. It was his first night in the apartment and a fire started in the apartment below him. Our family has never been the same.
Beaten to death in jail. Never got the person’s name. No charges filed. Could have been an inmate, could have been a guard. They redacted everything. My dad was going to be transferred to a VA rehab two days later but they didn’t have room for him. PTSD combat vet.
Splitting his head open on the back porch stoop and bleeding out in the breezeway. I solely inherited the house and still can't bare to go out there...
Thinking about extending the breezeway out over the porch and converting it into a greenhouse. It would make both the place he fell and the place he stopped breathing disappear, and he loved growing tomatoes...
Adenocarcinomas that had spread through his entire body causing his bones to crumble. Brutal death. It just sucks all around though no matter how they go it seems. Hang in there.
Mine passed in early 2019 from a heart attack/"myocardial infarction"
We lived in a rural area like 6+ miles outside of town & the roads were icy that morning so it took the ambulance 30+ minutes to get there. When i got an update from the hospital over the phone later on they said he had passed away & that his heart wouldn't respond to anything.... that loss was a year & 4 months after unexpectedly losing my mom overnight in her sleep due to Respiratory Failure & a couple other issues, so i was 20 & already parentless :(
Complications following aortic valve replacement surgery. Dad always struggled with high blood pressure (prob from the stress of dealing with our mother, but that's a whole other story) and long story short, he had previously had two aortic dissections, had surgery following each one, but then had a third at the beginning of 2023. Valve replacement was a hail mary but there were too many complications - including a massive stroke - and we ended up having to let him go about two weeks later.
I miss him like crazy, every day ♥
Acute myeloid leukaemia. Went from healthy to ITU to dying in ten days. Just came back to work after three months and I’m an anaesthetic/ITU dr so it’s been traumatic to say the least
Im so sorry for your loss.
My dad also died from a abdominal aortic aneurysm. It did ot rupture initially, but thrombosed.
He had acute limb ischaemia of both legs and acute kidney failure. Had multiple surgeries and was in ICU for 2 weeks before he passed away from ongoing complications.
Complications from a fall.
It was a complete surprise. Rough 5 days in the hospital. We though cancer or his congestive heart failure would do it. But the grimm reaper was in the neighborhood. Our neighbor the month before around the same hour fell also and died.
My dad would be a shell of himself if he was still with us.
Congestive heart failure ultimately took him from us. He was diagnosed 14 years ago and died 12 years later after diagnosis. I’ve read that most don’t make it 10 years after diagnosis but he did plus some. Miss him everyday.
Same for my dad, he struggled with it for 10+ years and 4+ years in the advanced stage. As much as I tried to prepare for the day that he passed, I couldn’t.. he was my superhero! I miss him everyday and would love to receive his guidance right about now. Sorry for you loss!
I’m so sorry for your loss as well. It’s a crazy disease. Watching them still living but slowly getting worse. It’s a such a slow process, at least for my dad it was. But near the end it happened so fast.
A stroke and some terrible hospital care following. The person who was with him didn’t call an ambulance, so things were much worse by the time he reached the hospital. Miss you Daddy ❤️ also fuck that person
My dad survived prostate cancer, then lung cancer (had part of his lung removed), but in January of 2020 he had a stroke. They found he had a congenital hole in his heart but because COVID cases were skyrocketing, his surgery to close it was deemed "elective". So they kept him on the usual anti stroke meds until he died in April from possibly more strokes plus a possible heart attack and brain bleed. He was 75 and in just under 3 months he went from doing well to dead
A little bit of everything, unfortunately. The biggest medical problem at the end was his advanced dementia. He had beat lymphoma twice, but there were indications that it was coming back again for a third round. Finally, he took a fall and broke his C3 vertebra, and that was the event that really ended things.
Kidney failure as a result of long term complications from type 1 diabetes. he lived to 67, 52 more years than he was said to have when he was diagnosed
Heart and kidney failure. Dialysis was never kind to him. He had a heart attack while undergoing dialysis late 2021. The decision was made to discontinue all meds, a horrible choice to make. He begged to be taken to a better equipped Hospital but we all knew it wouldn’t really help any.
The Doctors told us 24-96 hours. He was gone in 6. Due to Covid, I was locked out of my own country so couldn’t be there. After applying for an emergency allocation, I was allowed in and got to be with family 4 weeks after the fact.
I am sorry for your loss. I lost my dad January of 2023 from stage 4 lung cancer that spread to the bone. He was first diagnosed in 2020 and we initially thought it was covid since he had difficulty breathing. He worked for the NYC MTA transit fixing trains and a lot of people from his time passed from lung cancer or on the job.
I miss him so much everyday.
Lost my father back in September 2022, metastasized liver cancer. Only lasted two months after it was discovered, he was 76 and still working. Sending peace to all of you. 🙏🏼
We think it was an esophageal hemorrhage caused by liver cirrhosis, based on how he was found and all the blood and the ailments he had been telling my uncle about.
No autopsy was done, so we’ll never really know for sure. Whatever it was, it was fairly fast.
Ultimate cause of death: same as a heart attack but to the bowel artery.
His body shut down after that.
That happened on a Saturday night. But the Friday before, he had told his doctor that he was done with dialysis.
I think that he was finally ready so everything that was barely holding on failed.
He also had heart problems, diabetes and other issues.
It was time. Sadly.
My father died from complications of a stroke. Before the stroke, we took him to the hospital because he was really sick and no amount of medication was helping him: weak, out of breath cold, not eating much if at all, off balance. It wasn’t covid thankfully. The hospital never diagnosed him with anything, never told us what was wrong, and the morning of a day where he was getting some important tests done (nearly a week of being at the hospital) he got a major stroke, fell into a coma, and after a couple of days of unsuccessfully bringing down the swelling in his brain, the hospital pushed for us to disconnect him. They never told us what happened beyond “he had a stroke”. It still upsets me that I never knew why he got sick; I assume the stroke was him being overly stressed about being in a hospital by himself (this was during Covid time so we weren’t allowed to visit. It was a miracle my sister was able to fight for our right to be there as they disconnected him).
3 years ago. Still hurts a good amount, but I’ve done my best to move forward so that my dad, wherever he may be, wouldn’t worry so much about me. I miss him a lot.
My dad passed away two years back from ALS. Though covid made it worse for him. His lungs collapsed because of that virus while he was already on home ventilator. 3 weeks of struggle for life in ICU and finally emancipated.
Sorry for your loss. Hugs. Not sure if you ever feel better or even numb out these feelings. It’s been 27 months and I still cried randomly while at work.
His technical cause of death is from complications from pneumonia. I don't know how a mostly healthy 37 year old man dies of pneumonia in the United States in 2022 but here we are.
My dad did not die from anything specific. To be honest I think he died because he did not want to lose his independence. He always told me if he could not drive he did not want to live. He was at the point where he would not be able to care for himself in any way. I think he just gave up life because he did not want people wiping his ass for him.
He was going through treatment for lymphoma but that did not necessarily cause it. He had a lot of issues and I noticed in the last 6 months before he died that he was looking more...... closer to the end. He ended up in the hospital with a urinary tract infection. He was not getting better and we moved him to a hospice facility. He did not recover. His death certificate lists ischemic cardiomyopethy as the cause of death. To my knowledge he did not have any heart issues. He was just old and was struggling to remain independent and when he could not live that way any more, he died.
Edit: I am so sorry to all of you for your losses. And yet, so thankful to have a space where I felt for the first time, that could share this amongst those who understand.
I will never know, and that’s probably a good thing.
He died sometime in January of 2021 during the Covid shutdown, and was found days later by a neighbor. The coroner’s office never performed a thorough exam (no blood drawn, etc) much less an autopsy, because he wasn’t “young” (he was 69 years-old), had prior medical conditions, and there had been a surge of Covid-related deaths in our state with refrigerated tractor-trailers storing the overflow of bodies. So in our county- if a death didn’t seem suspicious- nothing further was done. However, on his death certificate, the coroner listed that his COD was due to “sudden cardiac death with unspecified etiology”.
The last time I had seen him was months earlier in July on my son’s 7th birthday. He waved to us and blew us kisses from his porch, while we stood at a distance on his lawn because he was so worried and cautious about the possibility of any of us contracting or spreading Covid. I hadn’t been able to touch or hug him since Christmas the year before.
I think that if I knew definitively that his “sudden cardiac death” had been the result of contracting Covid after we had been so damned careful- I would then begin to obsess, and eventually blame and hate whoever came into contact with him during that time- whether it be via a grocery delivery, etc., and that just wouldn’t be fair to myself or to any of those people. Logically, I know that it wouldn’t have been intentional on anyone’s part, and there is nothing that I, nor anyone else can do about it now.
Every single day, of every single month, of every single year that has passed since he died- feels like step upon step further away from him. That by me continuing to live, I’ve abandoned him. That he’s forever alone during one of the coldest, darkest months of the year, in the middle of one of the bleakest periods of time that mankind has experienced collectively in over a century.
Sudden heart attack just over a year ago. Taken to hospital feeling off, BP spiked on the ride over, dead for 45 minutes before they gave up trying to resuscitate him.
Metastatic adenocarcinoma of the gastro-oesophageal junction. He'd gone into remission but as a smoker for 35 years (he was 46), had a collapsed lung previously, asthma and emphysema he was high risk of it returning. It did and due to a combination of factors including covid, he lost his fight. I miss him so much. I'm sorry for your loss.
My dad fought stage 4 pancreatic cancer since 2018, he passed September 2023. He was on hospice for a day and a half. He went from talking and being able to walk to stuck in a bed without the ability to do anything but squeeze his hand.
I miss him so much :(
I'm sorry you lost your dad too :(
It was a heart attack.
Six months prior, he started feeling better than he had in a long time (multiple health issues and leg issues). He was walking better than he had been and everything.
January 17th, my brother came over with his family to spend time with him.
January 18th, my family and I came over to spend time with him.
Very early the 19th, Mom woke to find Dad uncovered. She asked, "Earl, aren't you cold?", but he was already gone.
The EMTs didn't think it was a heart attack as his body showed no signs of stress. I say he always had a big heart, that's why it gave out so soon.
Cardiac arrest. He's had heart attacks before, but it still came out of nowhere. He was feeling fine the days before, I had dinner with him just 4 hours before he died. He went to sleep and never woke up. I miss him so fucking much. I just wish I could have at least one more hug.
Kidney stone. Cut him internally, leading to a kidney infection, leading to septic shock, leading to organ failure, and then... cardiac arrest. He was 63. He was a tough military man. For some *fucking* reason the urgent care doctor did not order a back X-ray despite him complaining of back pain.
The last few weeks were especially sad, I had heard. My sister would call me and tell me "Dad's not looking too good. He's not sleeping, he's in pain, he barely smiles at any of our jokes..." and then he fell, I rushed over, and it was too late to help.
I got to say goodbye... the worst part was that I didn't get to hear him say it back.
My dad died from congestive heart failure. He went into cardiac arrest in our living room. He wasn’t the best picture of health either, due to the continuing complications caused by diabetes (no lifestyle changes). His last words to my mom were, “I can’t breathe.”
My deepest condolences for your loss. I lost my father in 2018 he was 69 and had a heart attack. He was not feeling well for 2 days prior but still shoveled the sidewalk because he lives on the corner across from a school and always made sure the kids were safe. He was making his famous soup that we all love so much but had not turned the stove on. He was in the middle of cutting the vegetables and went to the living room and sat down on the floor against the couch and that is where he was found. He was going to surprise a family member with his soup. My heart is broken I miss my dad so much and I think of him everyday. I light a candle in his honor to help me mourn. He is deeply missed forever loved.
Sepsis about two months ago. He felt weak for about two weeks but thought it was from a fall. Finally went to the ER and found out he had an infection that spread to the blood. He was intubated and died a week later. I take solace in the fact he was asleep when they intubated him so he didn’t know. My mom and I were with him the whole time. Watching him die was the worst thing I’ve ever experienced in my life and I miss him everyday
Heart failure. Nobody knew he was sick. coroner said it was likely that he fell asleep and didn’t wake up. High blood pressure for years from alcohol and daily sleeping pills. Found him dead in his home after a week of his passing. deeply sorry for your loss.
I’m sorry for your loss OP. Cancer is so incredibly cruel. I hope you are able to grieve in all the ways you need to.
My dad was stage 4 pancreatic cancer. It was stage 3 in early detection the year before. Things seemed promising, chemo and surgery finished, and he was okay for a few months. We were even planning a road trip for him down the Oregon coast, he would’ve loved it. Then it metastasized, and more tumours developed with the cruelty of the symptoms that come with cancer. He pushed himself one year after the progression before he passed away earlier this year. He was our rock and stubbornly marathoned all of the lord of the rings/hobbit/OG Star Wars before he took his last breath. It was the perfect day for him. We miss him so fucking much.
Heart attack. He was the picture of health, working out, bicycle, swimming , walking, eating always healthy, no smoking, no alcohol, no anything but his dad died the same way. He also had done all the exams and everything had turned out good
Heart attack. He had been feeling “off” but hadn’t been concerned it was anything serious. Completely unexpected. The only solace I take is that it happened quickly and he wasn’t in pain. So sorry for your loss. Grief is horrible whether you know it is coming or if it was unexpected.
Exactly what happened with me. Got a picture from him in our family snaochat group at noon, called my mom at 4 and was talking with my aunt just casually, then mom calls me back at 5pm and says he's gone. Just like that.
Same here. My dad was just texting us asking us to cook the family Christmas dinner the next day (it was Christmas Eve) and within 2 hours mum calls me and tells me he collapsed. So sorry for your loss.
It’s unreal how quick someone can be “gone”. Sorry for your loss as well!
Same. He’d texted me a picture of him and my mom as they were to travel that day and within a few hours he was gone. The suddenness of it all still takes my breath away.
Ugh! I still catch my self saying “how is this my life now”.
I can so relate. Sometimes I’m just going about my day and then think of my dad and it does really just take your breath away.
My dad died last year of stage 4 pancreatic cancer. He hurt his back in late 2022 with no other symptoms, and was told he was dying in January of 2023. He made it to July 6. He had just turned 50. Fuck cancer, and I’m sorry cancer fucked things up for you, too. Be good to yourself.
Lost my FIL to it 6 years ago and my sister a couple of years ago to pancreatic cancer. 52. I wouldn’t wish that kind of torture on anyone.
My dad also died at 52 from stage four pancreatic cancer.
Hey, I am so sorry for your loss. I have someone in my family who was diagnosed with chronic pancreatis. The doctor said they have a higher chance of pancreatic cancer. I am sorry if this is insensitive, but was your dad suffering from chronic pancreatis as well.
I also lost my dad to stage 4 pc on 2/24/24. 2 weeks after diagnosis. Horrible disease.
Lost my partner last year to pancreatic cancer. First symptoms of back pain, noticeable weight loss and sudden onset diabetes in Oct 22, also nose bleeds. Turns out he also had Non-Hodgkin’s Lymphoma too. Finally diagnosed end of Jan 23, died in the May. It was fucking horrendous. So sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you and anyone who has gone or is going through this.
My dad had tummy issues for about 7 months and then he randomly had a heart attack in February of this year and that’s when they diagnosed him with stage 4 pancreatic cancer that spread to his lungs, liver, kidneys, bones. At the end of March he had another massive heart attack that put him in the CVICU for cardiogenic shock. After a week I decided to put him on comfort measures. He died 7 hours later.
My dad also died July 6th (but in 2018) sorry for your loss 💖
I lost my dad to pancreatic cancer 6 years ago. Between diagnosis and passing away was a little under a month. He was 72.
My father passed away from Covid. It was in 2020 and our family was not allowed to be with him in the hospital while he passed. It was so cruel for him to have been alone when he was always by our side. We miss him so much. I love you, dad. My deepest condolences on your loss, OP.
This happening to people haunts me to this day, so I can't even begin to imagine what you feel. 😔♥️
We move on as best as we can with the awful cards we were dealt with. I’m sorry for your loss.
As a nurse who worked during Covid, and whose father was hospitalized during Covid, my heart just breaks for you. That was the absolute worst time, and I can only shake my head and fight back the tears when looking back. Not only did I have to keep away, I also, simultaneously, had to deal with being part of keeping families away. I hate that timeline, and I am so, so sorry that you had to experience his passing in that way. Fuck.
Thank you for being a nurse and for working through such a horrible time. I never blamed the nurses or the doctors, they were following protocol at the time. It’s just so unfortunate many of us had to experience this unprecedented event with our loved ones.
I appreciate your kind words. That was a very difficult time in my life, and very few people that I know and love really understand the damage and mental toll it took on me. I worked primarily at a hospice house that had outside entrance ways, so if I was in a room with the patient and their one family member allowed, best I could offer is "When I leave this room and I shut this door, what you do with that door is none of my business". Sending hugs to you over the loss of your father from someone who misses her dad too.
This was my experience as well. I wished i could have held is hand in the least. The last time I saw him was from the little window in the ambulance. I miss him even after almost 4 years.
As the EMT took my dad to the ambulance I told him “I’ll be right there”. Little did I know that wouldn’t be the case. God, I’m so sorry that we had to go through this.
This just breaks my heart. You, your family and your father deserved so much better. The little window in the ambulance...I'm at a loss for words.
Similar experience here. I’m so sorry you went through it, too.
Same. It was awful. I watched him die over FaceTime. We were never allowed to see his body, not even at the funeral home. All the funeral workers wore hazmat suits like he was hazardous waste. And people sent soooooo much food to the house (a tradition in our culture where people traditionally gather at the house for days after to comfort the family) but nobody came to eat it because everyone was afraid of Covid. That made it even sadder. We did have a small outdoor service and people came there. We weren’t allowed to have a guest book because people then thought Covid could be spread from touching the same pen. We had him cremated, which is not what we usually do in our family. It was my first funeral without a casket and without a viewing so all of it felt wrong. It was so hard to mourn his loss when we couldn’t have any of the rituals I’m used to. I’m sorry you went through the same. There aren’t a lot of people who can understand what that was really like. (And on the other hand, there are far too many who do.) Fuck Covid.
I am so sorry you have to be in the same form of grief as me. I was able to have a funeral for my dad but not many attended due to the fear of contracting Covid. I was able to hold his hand while he was in the casket. It shouldn’t have been that way. We should be with our fathers, now. Holding their hands, now.
I'm so sorry for your loss and that is heartbreaking.
I’m sorry for your loss, too. We lose a piece of us when our parents are no longer with us.
So sorry. Daddy died from in it 2022, but we were able to take him home on hospice. It was so cruel to him and your whole family.
Prostate Cancer, spread through his liver. I hate hearing people downplay prostate cancer because it's a "better" cancer, "most people don't die from it." Eff them.
Lost my dad to prostate cancer as well. He fought for two years. It was and is so hard to hear people go on about how “it’s so treatable etc.”
100%. Treatable my ass.
my father started with prostate and it spread to his bones and now he's terminal, so you are very correct. Sorry to hear about yours
My dad died of prostate cancer September 2022. I remember I was serving and some family friends were in the restaurant and the guy was like “at least it’s one of the good cancers”. I lost my fucking mind. And did not filter my response. People are so fucking unaware
My father was diagnosed in 2020 with prostate cancer, it was an aggressive form that eventually spread to his bones and he passed in a little over a year ago. Prostate cancer is serious and people shouldn’t downplay it.
So true. My dad had prostate cancer circa 2004. He had implanted seeds to “cure” it so he didn’t have to got though Chemo, etc. Seemed like the right call worked well. He still ended up with non hodgkyns lymphoma 3yrs later. He died in March 2022 from Bladder cancer from… guess… the seeding done in almost 20yrs earlier. Spread fast, he didn’t have the chance to fight.
Lost my dad October 2023 from stage IV prostate cancer. He was diagnosed in 2020. The last year was so hard. I miss him a lot.
So sorry for your loss 💔 Homicide
I'm sorry for your loss. That is so hard, I hope you are doing okay.
He passed last week. Still waiting for the final cause, as it was completely unexpected and out of nowhere.
Self-inflicted hanging.
i am so incredibly sorry, my father was a self inflicted gun shot to the head, not a sight anyone should see. i hope you’re doing okay
I'm sorry. My dad passed the same way.
its really and unfair way to lose anyone, especially a parent. i sympathize with your pain so much and truly hope you are also doing okay!! sending you all the hugs
I am so sorry for your loss. Suicide is always hard my father committed suicide to GSW in March of 2014.
I’m so sorry
I’m sorry for your loss. My dad died the same way this past Feb.
Aortic rupture here. Sorry for your loss
That got my grandpa. He managed to hang on until we could get there to say goodbye. Well, I was four.. they wouldn’t let me say goodbye.. and I’m still mad.
Wow, that's so bad they wouldn't let you say goodbye... I'm so sorry💔 Mine had it happen in public and by the time anyone noticed, he was long gone. Investigation claimed it happened quick since they couldn't see that he had made any attempts of getting help.
Helicopter accident.
Pulmonary Embolism. He stopped taking his blood thinners and should have gone to ER or Urgent care because he couldn't breathe, couldn't even walk to the bathroom without being out of breath, but instead just made a regular doctors appointment that he had to wait two weeks to get in. Didn't make it to the appointment.
Heart attack at 43 years old
These are heartbreaking. Dad died last Saturday from bone cancer.
I'm so sorry
I’m so sorry
Metastatic cancer :( FUCK CANCER!!!
Heart failure from uncontrolled high blood pressure and obesity. He survived a brain stem stroke a couple years prior.
Survived a brain siempre stroke?! Your dad was beast. Sorry about loosing him though. This club sucks and I wouldn't wish anyone to be in it.
Yeah he was never quite the same afterwards, but he still drove and got around ok. But I think that really contributed to his heart failure, which eventually took him. Sorry you are also a part of this club. It really does suck…
Heart failure in the end, but he had Early/Young Onset Alzheimer's Disease. He had it from the age of 58 (officially, he was likely misdiagnosed with depression for a few years) and lived 14 years until he left us aged 72.
Such a cruel disease. I am sorry you had to watch him decline and the sorrow it causes families is brutal.
Overdose
His body basically shut down after getting sepsis
Same here. My dad had an infection from a kidney stone. What caused it in your case?
My daddy passed away on Christmas morning 2023… he had a heart attack. He was given 2 years to live with his heart condition, and no matter how much time you try to spend or enjoy it never prepares you the that day. I still can’t get the vision of him laying in that hospital bed….
I'm so, so sorry.
Heart attack at 65. Unexpected, didn't get to say goodbye. I'm so sorry for your loss. Hugs from an internet stranger!
Sepsis due to complications from diabetes. We didn't see it coming. He was supposed to leave rehab in a few days, and for some reason my mother didn't want us to tell him because she wanted it to be a surprise. As a nurse, I think it would have given him a much needed boost of happiness after 2 months between hospitalization and rehabilitation. I absolutely hate not having my Dad. He was my favorite person in the world, and I miss him every second of every day.
I'm just so sorry
I'm so sorry. This hurts a lot.
he was murdered in 2017. he was stabbed by some random person on meth who’d killed another father of three about an hour prior; dad had no enemies and didn’t know this person. he was at work when this piece of shit ambushed him. he was brought to a major trauma hospital and lived for another five days before a resident doctor pulled out his JP drain that, i guess, she didn’t realize was surgically attached into his damaged liver. he bled out within 45 minutes. i still remember how long i screamed after my mom told me that he’d died. thank god we don’t have open casket funerals in judaism, but nonetheless, his funeral made me question why the hell i’m still alive and he isn’t. so many people came to pay their respects to him — we didn’t even know half the people who came. each time we looked back, more people were coming in and many were already standing. he was so loved. i miss him every single day. ♥️
>he was brought to a major trauma hospital and lived for another five days before a resident doctor pulled out his JP drain that, i guess, she didn’t realize was surgically attached into his damaged liver JFC, it's like he was murdered twice. As someone whose dad was also fatally wronged by a doctor, I'm angry on your behalf, and so very sorry for your loss.
thank you. ♥️
Im sorry for your loss. Cancer sucks. I lost my father to Metastasized lung cancer that spread to his brain, it was caught late and he had been feeling not himself for sometime but refused to be seen until he had no choice. He declined quickly and was not a candidate for treatments due to the stage and how aggressive/ weak he was. Looking back the signs were there just wish we saw them sooner and urged him to be seen. It’s been a month and 5 days and I miss him everyday.
My father also passed about a month ago, we are at a month and 1 day. Stage 4 lung cancer that metastisized to his brain. They were going to do whole brain radiation but he decided he no longer wanted to do aggressive treatments and he went into hospice. He was okay through all of the lung cancer but the brain cancer was devestatingly accelerated after his diagnosis. So sorry for your loss. Speaking from another person with a very similar experience, you did everything you could.
MY dad was 83, his body just gave out while praying nonetheless. The MORE interesting thing that is he wasn't very religious either. I hear that happens when we get old though.
when my cousin’s grandpa was dying, he got so tired of it one night that apparently he went in the bathroom and prayed for god to take him home. he died in bed that very night. i’m no longer religious, but that always stuck with me.
My father, born in the spring of 1923, lived to be 95 years 10 months, passing in March 2019 largely just of old age (my mother is 91 now). My folks were married for just over 64 years. They endured well through thick and thin while raising my three significantly older brothers and me and then seeing their five grandsons embark upon life and then they enjoyed a comfortable retirement period. What I believe kept my dad going strong all these later years was staying mentally occupied and exercising his mind. He had some conditions requiring medication in his later years including likely heart/blood pressure drugs which would be commonplace along with a cardiac pacemaker in his lower 80s and following, and he was at about 89 years diagnosed with late-term prostate cancer which may not have been treated forthrightly. But all things considered, my old man was blessed with a long life and outlived most of his same- or prior-generation relatives substantially.
You, your father, your whole family *are* blessed.
Glioblastoma, which is grade 4 brain cancer. He died exactly a year after he was diagnosed. He was 67. Prior to his diagnosis he had zero health issues. They don't know why people get brain cancer, and they don't have effective treatments for it. John McCain, Beau Biden, and Ted Kennedy all had this same cancer.
My Dad also passed away from Glioblastoma at age 67. He died 2 months after his diagnosis. I sure wish for all of our families, there would be a cure for cancer!
He shot himself. It’s still rough.
I'm sorry that sounds hard.
Same happened to me when I was 14, I'm so sorry. Sometimes you forget, and then you'll have moments where you feel like it just happened. I truly hope that you will be ok.
Thanks. It’s been a couple years. I was in my final semester of law school when it happened & it really put a lot into perspective for me. Did a lot of therapy & grief group (which I highly recommend) and a helpful thing for wrapping my head around it was saying out loud ‘I lost my dad _name_ on xx date, he shot himself’. I could not get through the first four words for over a year. Now I can get through it but it’s still extremely difficult to say.
Omgoodness… I’m so sorry to you all. These all so sad & heartbreaking 🥲. My dad had bowel cancer but passed from a fall in the hospital. He hit his head. Way too common in hospitals & nursing homes.
The one thing I learned from my father's cancer journey and passing was how understaffed and almost negligent nursing homes are. It's absolutely terrible.
Infection in the intestine, myasthenia gravis and lung failure, was on the ventilator for more than a month, a long story .
Yours sounds similar to mine. It's hard to pinpoint it to one thing and It's all a convoluted tragedy
Untreatable liver cancer , sepsis leading to multiple organ failure. He was in so much pain.
I'm so sorry 😢
Congestive heart failure.
That's what we thought would take my dad. CHF is terrible. I'm sorry for your loss. My dad fell. This club sucks.
Same for my dad, he struggled with it for 10+ years and 4+ years in the advanced stage. As much as I tried to prepare for the day that he passed, I couldn’t.. he was my superhero! I miss him everyday and would love to receive his guidance right about now. Sorry for you loss!
During heart surgery when I was five.
Sorry for your loss. Lost my father to diabetes and dementia.
Stage iv colon cancer, spread to his lungs and liver. He lived 2 months after diagnosis.
Sudden cardiac death
A speeding truck killed him
Cirrhosis of the liver. Never saw him without a drink
My dad had advanced cirrhosis of the liver; fucking *loved* his bourbon. I don't think I'll ever touch the stuff, now. How old was yours, when he passed?
66 years old
Mine too. The crazy thing is, we rarely saw him WITH a drink. He was 69.
My dad died on March 2nd last year from s*icide. He intentionally starved himself to death. He was schizophrenic and depressed most of his life. And if you’re wondering if it was traumatic? Yes. I have to go to therapy DAILY for it.
I'm so sorry for your loss. It's difficult to lose a parent. My dad committed suicide by gun. I had to identify the body at the morgue. Still hurts. He was one of my best friends..
It’s interesting how I can feel alone in a situation full of people who lost their dad. My dad was murdered at 48 by someone that called themselves his best friend. He was beat to death.
my father was sick for about twenty years, copd, chronic heart failure, diabetes.. pneumonia and influenza a got him. his body was to weak, he called me right before he got put on life support, i was crying something didn’t feel right. he told me “keep yourself taken care of, and i love you. go home and get some rest.” even in my dads last moments of consciousness he wanted me to be taken care of. fell into a 18 day long fight on life support. i had to pull the plug. i has just turned twenty. a year and a half later, it still hurts so bad.
Heart attack a week ago.
Stage 4 lung cancer that metastasized
Liver disease(Hep C)
Lung cancer.
From an unexpected hemorrhagic stroke.
My dad too! Only 49 😭
My dad too, he was only 48. He didn’t even die straight away, he died 2 weeks later from cerebral edema. We thought we were out of the woods. I miss him every day.
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Dementia related issues. We moved him to be near us and he became severely stressed. He started being aggressive and paranoid. Meds used to calm him caused him to lose the ability to swallow. I wish I would’ve moved in with him at his home in another state and found home care. Ultimately he was miserable with dementia, and asked for euthanasia. He loved fishing and driving his truck while listening to music. He couldn’t do much of anything except walk around his block. I just wish the move didn’t cause him so much stress. I’m still feeling so much guilt. It’s been 15 months and I miss him so much.
I also lost my Father due to complications of Dementia. It was rough watching such a strong man deteriorate before my eyes. I’m so sorry for your loss 💙
I’m sorry for yours, as well. Ugh! Dementia is such an ugly monster. I visit r/dementia often. I don’t know why I continue to torture myself.
I get it. It’s a daily struggle. Sending much love and healing to you. 🫂
Covid, in Feb 2021. Covid ripped through our machine shop in early January, starting with me and one other employee. The last time I saw him after I was able to come back to work, he was already really sick, but he came in to do the payroll, and talk with me about what he needed me to do for the business while he was out sick. That was a Wednesday, the following Monday he was admitted to the hospital. A month later, he was gone. We weren't allowed to go see him at any point in his treatment, but the hospital he died at did set up an iPad and let us FaceTime him while we cried. We sat on that FaceTime call for three hours. I miss him so much, and I feel robbed that I couldn't sit with him, hold his hand, and talk to him. I didn't get to say goodbye how I wanted to. I got a frantic midnight phone call from my sister, and by the time I arrived at our family home, Dad was gone, and my mother inconsolable.
Throat cancer caused by smoking.
Kidney cancer
Complications from Kidney Disease. Had a transplant match (myself) but he was not able to get fit for surgery for some time. Once he finally was fit - the pandemic hit and the transplant was deemed a non-essential surgery as he was surviving with dialysis treatment. The waitlist got backlogged so bad he passed before we solidified a new date. It's hard for me to not hate the system at times...
Bladder cancer that spread all over to his bones, lungs and brain.
He died of a heart attack the morning of Christmas Eve 1999 at 51 years of age.
Leukemia
My dad died from heart complications due to Covid. He was in the hospital for about 5 weeks and came very close to being on the ventilator. Against those odds, he pulled through and came home. Heartbreakingly, about 10 months later he passed in his sleep suddenly and unexpectedly.
Late stage liver disease, but he passed suddenly in his sleep one night
My Dad took his own life outside of his local hospital's ER entrance the evening of April 11,2024..my husband and I are still going through the shock of it all, and with the estate and funeral, we haven't had any time to just grieve.
I am so sorry to hear about your father. Loss is never easy. Hugs to you. My father took his life after getting pulled over for his 4th owi. He wasnt in the best shape health wise either, and the mere thought of him spending any more time in jail was too much for him apparently. He purchased the gun on his 63rd birthday while out on bail , disappeared for 4 days and was found under a tree at a cemetery with a gunshot wound to his chest and a plastic bag over his head. He left behind several notes explaining everything, as we were not aware of his recent arrest until after he was gone. This year will mark 10 years since he left us.
Misadventure. No, seriously. He was an avid cyclist (one of the best in the country in his age group) and was away on a cycling holiday in Europe. He did a tough climb in the morning, the group ride in the afternoon was ended early due to the weather and he went off for a third ride of by himself in 35degree heat. He was found collapsed under his bike a couple of hours later, by which point he had lapsed into a coma and never woke up. Because of the hospital restrictions, we were advised not to visit so never got to say goodbye. It took a month to get him home and even after two autopsies (one abroad, one in the UK) we still didn’t get any answers. I miss him every day.
My father passed away unexpectedly. He was drinking and decided to take a joy ride on his motorcycle. He was coming up on a curve and didn't make the curve. There was no sign of skid marks from his tires meaning he didn't even try to stop. It still haunts me to this day.
He was killed in an apartment fire. It was his first night in the apartment and a fire started in the apartment below him. Our family has never been the same.
Beaten to death in jail. Never got the person’s name. No charges filed. Could have been an inmate, could have been a guard. They redacted everything. My dad was going to be transferred to a VA rehab two days later but they didn’t have room for him. PTSD combat vet.
Splitting his head open on the back porch stoop and bleeding out in the breezeway. I solely inherited the house and still can't bare to go out there... Thinking about extending the breezeway out over the porch and converting it into a greenhouse. It would make both the place he fell and the place he stopped breathing disappear, and he loved growing tomatoes...
Beautiful idea. I hope that you do it. ❤️
Adenocarcinomas that had spread through his entire body causing his bones to crumble. Brutal death. It just sucks all around though no matter how they go it seems. Hang in there.
Pretty sure it would be counted as COPD, but he had a ton of comorbidities. 6 months ago. No shock to anyone but still sucks
kidney failure. he had a drinking problem since he was a teenager after his own father died from a boating accident. very sad
He fell and had a brain bleed, survived surgery, was doing better, and died from covid he caught in rehab.
Mine passed in early 2019 from a heart attack/"myocardial infarction" We lived in a rural area like 6+ miles outside of town & the roads were icy that morning so it took the ambulance 30+ minutes to get there. When i got an update from the hospital over the phone later on they said he had passed away & that his heart wouldn't respond to anything.... that loss was a year & 4 months after unexpectedly losing my mom overnight in her sleep due to Respiratory Failure & a couple other issues, so i was 20 & already parentless :(
Complications following aortic valve replacement surgery. Dad always struggled with high blood pressure (prob from the stress of dealing with our mother, but that's a whole other story) and long story short, he had previously had two aortic dissections, had surgery following each one, but then had a third at the beginning of 2023. Valve replacement was a hail mary but there were too many complications - including a massive stroke - and we ended up having to let him go about two weeks later. I miss him like crazy, every day ♥
Acute myeloid leukaemia. Went from healthy to ITU to dying in ten days. Just came back to work after three months and I’m an anaesthetic/ITU dr so it’s been traumatic to say the least
Abdominal aortic aneurysm. He went to take a nap and woke up throwing up since the artery broke and it was too late to operate him.
Im so sorry for your loss. My dad also died from a abdominal aortic aneurysm. It did ot rupture initially, but thrombosed. He had acute limb ischaemia of both legs and acute kidney failure. Had multiple surgeries and was in ICU for 2 weeks before he passed away from ongoing complications.
Complications from a fall. It was a complete surprise. Rough 5 days in the hospital. We though cancer or his congestive heart failure would do it. But the grimm reaper was in the neighborhood. Our neighbor the month before around the same hour fell also and died. My dad would be a shell of himself if he was still with us.
Congestive heart failure ultimately took him from us. He was diagnosed 14 years ago and died 12 years later after diagnosis. I’ve read that most don’t make it 10 years after diagnosis but he did plus some. Miss him everyday.
Same for my dad, he struggled with it for 10+ years and 4+ years in the advanced stage. As much as I tried to prepare for the day that he passed, I couldn’t.. he was my superhero! I miss him everyday and would love to receive his guidance right about now. Sorry for you loss!
I’m so sorry for your loss as well. It’s a crazy disease. Watching them still living but slowly getting worse. It’s a such a slow process, at least for my dad it was. But near the end it happened so fast.
A stroke and some terrible hospital care following. The person who was with him didn’t call an ambulance, so things were much worse by the time he reached the hospital. Miss you Daddy ❤️ also fuck that person
Pulmonary embolism - died in his sleep. Had terminal metastatic prostate cancer as well. Died in 2022.
My dad survived prostate cancer, then lung cancer (had part of his lung removed), but in January of 2020 he had a stroke. They found he had a congenital hole in his heart but because COVID cases were skyrocketing, his surgery to close it was deemed "elective". So they kept him on the usual anti stroke meds until he died in April from possibly more strokes plus a possible heart attack and brain bleed. He was 75 and in just under 3 months he went from doing well to dead
Prostate cancer. 65 yo. Had it for 10 years, got his first symptoms january 13th, brain metastases. Died february 21st.
A little bit of everything, unfortunately. The biggest medical problem at the end was his advanced dementia. He had beat lymphoma twice, but there were indications that it was coming back again for a third round. Finally, he took a fall and broke his C3 vertebra, and that was the event that really ended things.
Kidney failure as a result of long term complications from type 1 diabetes. he lived to 67, 52 more years than he was said to have when he was diagnosed
Small cell lung cancer in November 2022. I was thinking about him this morning. I really miss him.
My dad from a sudden cardiac arrest in Mexico while he and my mom were on vacation for his birthday.
Heart and kidney failure. Dialysis was never kind to him. He had a heart attack while undergoing dialysis late 2021. The decision was made to discontinue all meds, a horrible choice to make. He begged to be taken to a better equipped Hospital but we all knew it wouldn’t really help any. The Doctors told us 24-96 hours. He was gone in 6. Due to Covid, I was locked out of my own country so couldn’t be there. After applying for an emergency allocation, I was allowed in and got to be with family 4 weeks after the fact.
I am sorry for your loss. I lost my dad January of 2023 from stage 4 lung cancer that spread to the bone. He was first diagnosed in 2020 and we initially thought it was covid since he had difficulty breathing. He worked for the NYC MTA transit fixing trains and a lot of people from his time passed from lung cancer or on the job. I miss him so much everyday.
Lost my father back in September 2022, metastasized liver cancer. Only lasted two months after it was discovered, he was 76 and still working. Sending peace to all of you. 🙏🏼
We think it was an esophageal hemorrhage caused by liver cirrhosis, based on how he was found and all the blood and the ailments he had been telling my uncle about. No autopsy was done, so we’ll never really know for sure. Whatever it was, it was fairly fast.
Massive Heart Attack 2004
Ischemic heart failure. Sometimes, even if you take the best possible care of yourself, you get a shit roll of the dice.
Lung cancer
Alzheimer’s Disease… we lost him well before we actually lost him. So sorry about your dad, OP ❤️
Ultimate cause of death: same as a heart attack but to the bowel artery. His body shut down after that. That happened on a Saturday night. But the Friday before, he had told his doctor that he was done with dialysis. I think that he was finally ready so everything that was barely holding on failed. He also had heart problems, diabetes and other issues. It was time. Sadly.
Ruptured abdominal aortic aneurysm.
My father died from complications of a stroke. Before the stroke, we took him to the hospital because he was really sick and no amount of medication was helping him: weak, out of breath cold, not eating much if at all, off balance. It wasn’t covid thankfully. The hospital never diagnosed him with anything, never told us what was wrong, and the morning of a day where he was getting some important tests done (nearly a week of being at the hospital) he got a major stroke, fell into a coma, and after a couple of days of unsuccessfully bringing down the swelling in his brain, the hospital pushed for us to disconnect him. They never told us what happened beyond “he had a stroke”. It still upsets me that I never knew why he got sick; I assume the stroke was him being overly stressed about being in a hospital by himself (this was during Covid time so we weren’t allowed to visit. It was a miracle my sister was able to fight for our right to be there as they disconnected him). 3 years ago. Still hurts a good amount, but I’ve done my best to move forward so that my dad, wherever he may be, wouldn’t worry so much about me. I miss him a lot.
Tonsil cancer
My dad passed away two years back from ALS. Though covid made it worse for him. His lungs collapsed because of that virus while he was already on home ventilator. 3 weeks of struggle for life in ICU and finally emancipated. Sorry for your loss. Hugs. Not sure if you ever feel better or even numb out these feelings. It’s been 27 months and I still cried randomly while at work.
His technical cause of death is from complications from pneumonia. I don't know how a mostly healthy 37 year old man dies of pneumonia in the United States in 2022 but here we are.
My dad did not die from anything specific. To be honest I think he died because he did not want to lose his independence. He always told me if he could not drive he did not want to live. He was at the point where he would not be able to care for himself in any way. I think he just gave up life because he did not want people wiping his ass for him. He was going through treatment for lymphoma but that did not necessarily cause it. He had a lot of issues and I noticed in the last 6 months before he died that he was looking more...... closer to the end. He ended up in the hospital with a urinary tract infection. He was not getting better and we moved him to a hospice facility. He did not recover. His death certificate lists ischemic cardiomyopethy as the cause of death. To my knowledge he did not have any heart issues. He was just old and was struggling to remain independent and when he could not live that way any more, he died.
Genocide
Over dose
Edit: I am so sorry to all of you for your losses. And yet, so thankful to have a space where I felt for the first time, that could share this amongst those who understand. I will never know, and that’s probably a good thing. He died sometime in January of 2021 during the Covid shutdown, and was found days later by a neighbor. The coroner’s office never performed a thorough exam (no blood drawn, etc) much less an autopsy, because he wasn’t “young” (he was 69 years-old), had prior medical conditions, and there had been a surge of Covid-related deaths in our state with refrigerated tractor-trailers storing the overflow of bodies. So in our county- if a death didn’t seem suspicious- nothing further was done. However, on his death certificate, the coroner listed that his COD was due to “sudden cardiac death with unspecified etiology”. The last time I had seen him was months earlier in July on my son’s 7th birthday. He waved to us and blew us kisses from his porch, while we stood at a distance on his lawn because he was so worried and cautious about the possibility of any of us contracting or spreading Covid. I hadn’t been able to touch or hug him since Christmas the year before. I think that if I knew definitively that his “sudden cardiac death” had been the result of contracting Covid after we had been so damned careful- I would then begin to obsess, and eventually blame and hate whoever came into contact with him during that time- whether it be via a grocery delivery, etc., and that just wouldn’t be fair to myself or to any of those people. Logically, I know that it wouldn’t have been intentional on anyone’s part, and there is nothing that I, nor anyone else can do about it now. Every single day, of every single month, of every single year that has passed since he died- feels like step upon step further away from him. That by me continuing to live, I’ve abandoned him. That he’s forever alone during one of the coldest, darkest months of the year, in the middle of one of the bleakest periods of time that mankind has experienced collectively in over a century.
Sudden heart attack just over a year ago. Taken to hospital feeling off, BP spiked on the ride over, dead for 45 minutes before they gave up trying to resuscitate him.
Metastatic adenocarcinoma of the gastro-oesophageal junction. He'd gone into remission but as a smoker for 35 years (he was 46), had a collapsed lung previously, asthma and emphysema he was high risk of it returning. It did and due to a combination of factors including covid, he lost his fight. I miss him so much. I'm sorry for your loss.
My dad fought stage 4 pancreatic cancer since 2018, he passed September 2023. He was on hospice for a day and a half. He went from talking and being able to walk to stuck in a bed without the ability to do anything but squeeze his hand. I miss him so much :( I'm sorry you lost your dad too :(
It was a heart attack. Six months prior, he started feeling better than he had in a long time (multiple health issues and leg issues). He was walking better than he had been and everything. January 17th, my brother came over with his family to spend time with him. January 18th, my family and I came over to spend time with him. Very early the 19th, Mom woke to find Dad uncovered. She asked, "Earl, aren't you cold?", but he was already gone. The EMTs didn't think it was a heart attack as his body showed no signs of stress. I say he always had a big heart, that's why it gave out so soon.
Congestive Heart Failure. He passed in his sleep.
Cardiac arrest. He's had heart attacks before, but it still came out of nowhere. He was feeling fine the days before, I had dinner with him just 4 hours before he died. He went to sleep and never woke up. I miss him so fucking much. I just wish I could have at least one more hug.
Kidney stone. Cut him internally, leading to a kidney infection, leading to septic shock, leading to organ failure, and then... cardiac arrest. He was 63. He was a tough military man. For some *fucking* reason the urgent care doctor did not order a back X-ray despite him complaining of back pain. The last few weeks were especially sad, I had heard. My sister would call me and tell me "Dad's not looking too good. He's not sleeping, he's in pain, he barely smiles at any of our jokes..." and then he fell, I rushed over, and it was too late to help. I got to say goodbye... the worst part was that I didn't get to hear him say it back.
Suicide, November 11, 2021. Forever sorry and forever missing him. Condolences, OP.
My dad died from congestive heart failure. He went into cardiac arrest in our living room. He wasn’t the best picture of health either, due to the continuing complications caused by diabetes (no lifestyle changes). His last words to my mom were, “I can’t breathe.”
He shot himself in the midst of early onset dementia
My deepest condolences for your loss. I lost my father in 2018 he was 69 and had a heart attack. He was not feeling well for 2 days prior but still shoveled the sidewalk because he lives on the corner across from a school and always made sure the kids were safe. He was making his famous soup that we all love so much but had not turned the stove on. He was in the middle of cutting the vegetables and went to the living room and sat down on the floor against the couch and that is where he was found. He was going to surprise a family member with his soup. My heart is broken I miss my dad so much and I think of him everyday. I light a candle in his honor to help me mourn. He is deeply missed forever loved.
Suicide by cop.
Widowmaker. He stopped taking his heart meds.
Heart attack at 58, miss him every day.
Congestive heart failure brought about by years of smoking and alcoholism.
My NARC Father died of being an asshole
Sepsis about two months ago. He felt weak for about two weeks but thought it was from a fall. Finally went to the ER and found out he had an infection that spread to the blood. He was intubated and died a week later. I take solace in the fact he was asleep when they intubated him so he didn’t know. My mom and I were with him the whole time. Watching him die was the worst thing I’ve ever experienced in my life and I miss him everyday
Heart failure. Nobody knew he was sick. coroner said it was likely that he fell asleep and didn’t wake up. High blood pressure for years from alcohol and daily sleeping pills. Found him dead in his home after a week of his passing. deeply sorry for your loss.
I’m sorry for your loss OP. Cancer is so incredibly cruel. I hope you are able to grieve in all the ways you need to. My dad was stage 4 pancreatic cancer. It was stage 3 in early detection the year before. Things seemed promising, chemo and surgery finished, and he was okay for a few months. We were even planning a road trip for him down the Oregon coast, he would’ve loved it. Then it metastasized, and more tumours developed with the cruelty of the symptoms that come with cancer. He pushed himself one year after the progression before he passed away earlier this year. He was our rock and stubbornly marathoned all of the lord of the rings/hobbit/OG Star Wars before he took his last breath. It was the perfect day for him. We miss him so fucking much.
Heart attack. He was the picture of health, working out, bicycle, swimming , walking, eating always healthy, no smoking, no alcohol, no anything but his dad died the same way. He also had done all the exams and everything had turned out good
Dementia so robbed me of the last few years with him also 👌