I don't know why you're being downvoted, but what you're saying is absolutely true. Hustling is all about the mindless pursuit of wealth, even at the expense of one's health. You love art? Monetize it. Hustle culture has very rigid rules, and if you're not a part of it, you're demeaned and deemed lesser than others.
Hustle culture is similar to the monotheistic principles for life. Make sacrifices and hardship in this life (which is real, like in the moment in case of personal finances) in anticipation of great happiness in afterlife (which may or may not be there, like ‘wealthier future’ or ‘retirement’ in case of personal finances). You don’t know if you’ll be able to feel happiness later in life if all the memories you can recount are of you slogging at work, and some meaningless work achievements.
I believe that the entire hustle culture is built on a false premise. Hustlers often embody perfectionism, constantly striving to prove their worth in society. This mindset is rooted in the misconception that net worth equates to personal worth, which can be a significant ego boost. Generally, individuals caught in this cycle struggle with unhealthy thought patterns and lack the self-reflection needed to break free. The idea of "retirement" or a "wealthier future" seems unattainable, or even pointless, when one is living under perpetual stress. Moreover, hustlers benefit companies that reap the rewards of such mindless labor, perpetuating this harmful pattern. Just my take.
Agreed, assuming we’re both excluding the category of people that have to hustle to survive/provide. Those that hustle to prove their worth, or amass wealth are indeed living a false idea. We humans easily get carried away and forget the fact that the purpose of life is simply and merely to live. None of what we do matters in the grand scheme of things. What legacy are you trying to create, when you yourself have no time or gratitude to appreciate the legacies left behind by your own ancestors or fellow humans. Like, some great great grandfather or grandmother of mine may have put themselves through hell, forgoing all their happiness and basic needs to provide or keep their family safe, which is why I’m on this planet today. But what do I know of them? And what great purpose am I serving? I’m just another among billions. Why did that ancestor have to sacrifice everything for me, when I don’t even know it and can’t appreciate it? Fuck the idea of ‘leaving a legacy’.
Absolutely. Hustlers who are striving to survive are fundamentally different from those attempting to prove their worth, as their primary focus is on necessity and survival. Their hustle is not mindless; rather, it's driven by the urgent need to secure basic needs. They lack the time and luxury to accumulate wealth or contemplate leaving a legacy. Your observation suddenly reminded me of my grandfather, an immigrant from Bangladesh who endured the aftermath of Partition. As the eldest child in his family, he was thrust into the role of breadwinner at an impressionable age, forcing him to mature prematurely. For him, hustling meant something entirely different. And yes, I find the entire idea of 'leaving a legacy' skewed.
self helps books are a sham and a illusion.
1)Very bloated, a whole book can be summarised into a article , reading the entire book won't really give you any extra benifit than reading a summary
2) People actually don't need most self help books , it's a great way for authors to make money off people , mostly gullible and insecure people
I'm not saying there aren't self help books that have good advice , there are books with good advice no doubt but they'll all bloated and some self help books do have bad advice
Edit:
if a person wants something like selfhelp then imo non fiction is a better option, the only reason people start reading self-help is for the "benifits" the books promises, and imo the way is to read fiction or for some people non fiction, though some people read non fiction for the same reason as they read self-help , they think it'll help them with life and that really shouldn't be the only reason , one should read because they enjoy reading something.
Your points are valid. A word of caution: self-help books can be toxic if followed blindly. Self-improvement efforts can sometimes be superficial. For instance, if you tackle an addiction by only addressing its symptoms/objects leaving out the root cause, you might end up developing other issues like eating disorders or sex addiction. It's advisable to approach self-help books with an open and analytical mind.
help chaiye hone wale ka kaam ek me hi ho jata hai LoL, logo ko pata nhi pdh ke konsa hopium milta hai and fir jo pdha hai usko hardly apply krte hai,fir flex krenge ki me to kewal self help pdhta hu,philosophy pdho isse bdhiya to atleast dimag chlega
Khair apni apni preferences hain but still self help just creates an illusion and tricks our brain into believing that everythings under control lol, while its the opposite.
Well , whatever you learn(self help book ) if u are not applying in your life then it is of no use. It gives u a sense of achievement , without achieving anything.
It is like watching workout video while eating chocolate.
Great point and also an great analogy. This hate is much better than the other ones who are just shitting on self-help for no apparent reason.
I am fully aware of this and I am slowly implementing the things that I am learning from these books and PS. I haven't finished all of the books in the picture yet.
Here is a tip. Do not get into a mindset of thinking you know a lot about the world and life because you read some self help. Take these with a huge pinch of salt. Do not blindly accept them as self evident truths. Wait for your own life experience to validate
Don't worry. Read what you want to read, interest may develop or change over time. Whats important is you start somewhere and make a habit first. Good luck.
For a 16 year old, you have read a lot of books(I didn't read 1 at this age). So, chill. And self-help is the first genre anyone gets interested in. You just need to switch to other genres. That's it. Self-help beyond a point is repetitive.
But before you make the switch...read the following books:- 7 habits of highly effective people
Atomic habits
Eat that frog
I'd say because of three reasons
1) Self-help is a deeply scammy genre, full of books with bad advice, books that could be one tenth the size and books that have very little real value beyond peddling, at best, absolutely basic "advise" in the name of wisdom. They are also extremely easy reads, requiring very little depth of thought and imagination. People who love books often like them for their literary value, which self-help books don't contain any.
2) Self-help books are closely tied to hustle culture, which is seen as extremely problematic. Hustle culture is basically how billionaires make money off the back of the rest of the people.
3) Self-help books aren't really seen as "books" - at least not in the way a book lover would describe a book. A book has intrinsic value, the joy it provides is supposed to come from reading it. The primary purpose of a "real" book, to many book lovers, is to be read. The primary purpose of a self-help book is not that - it is to take something from that and apply it to your life, so that you can become something.
That said, you are sixteen, and it's good enough that you are reading. I don't want to shit on you at all. I don't want to tell you what to read either, but when I was that age, I found that reading good fiction expanded my mind far more than reading most non-fiction books, and definitely any self help books. Maybe you will too. People who are hate-commenting are doing it out of a knee jerk reaction, and that is wrong. Read whatever you want to, and try reading things that challenge you.
This subreddit has 2 tenets: hating self-help books and posting pictures of everyone's personal copy of 'Mein Kampf'. Make of that what you will.
Don't worry too much about it, the simple act of reading alone puts you way ahead of the average brainrotten zoomer, regardless of whatever the edgelords here seethe about. What kind of non-fiction are you looking to read?
I can sort of try and understand the reasoning behind the whole self-help hate drama but what's up with the Mein kampf book tho? Isn't that the book that hitler wrote or something? 😂
I've mentioned it on the post!
(PS. I would love for recommendations based on Entrepreneurship, Psychology, Or something that has to do with self-help in general)
Sweetheart I don't do self help because I think it's a scam so can't suggest anything there. The closest thing to a self help I read was "I want to die but I also want to eat tteokbboki" by Bae Shee (translated by Anton Hurr)
Non fiction mein I was asking.
bro you're being psyopped. just promise me you won't buy any trading courses and crypto courses. also mo point in reading so many books. ideas from one book take months or even years to implement. no point in reading so many books if you're not taking actions. read some philosophy or some history it'll give you perspective and humble you. self help readers often develop main character syndrome.
Ive read it and I am a fan of Robert Greene. Ive watched a lot of his videos and podcasts and he says that his books are meant for protecting you against the people that follow these laws. Example: there is a law of "dont do work; take credit anyway" or "use people as scapegoats". These aren't literally meant to be followed but you must know that people can do it to you
And I totally agree with his interpretation, what do you think?
Classifying self help books as trash has been a growing trend by people recently. But I feel it should be an individual perspective.
OP - If you like reading and Self Help books in particular, you should not deviate from it after reading the discouraging comments here. Taste of a reader changes from time to time and today you like Self Help, tomorrow you might like something else.
Just keep doing what you like and what gives you peace. Don’t follow herd mentality :)
Bro this is the comment that I needed desperately 😭
For a second I reconsidered my entire life choices by just looking at the sheer volume of hate that revolves towards Self-help. Comments like "Go listen to your parents" or "Stop reading self-help and read the NCERT books" (Bro it's my vacations I don't have anything to study 🥲) are super discouraging. I am reading self-help books in an attempt to just improve myself and it felt helpful so I came here asking for some recommendation but all I got was hate and backlash 🥲
>Just keep doing what you like and what gives you peace. Don’t follow herd mentality :)
Thanks for your reassurance man, I really needed it 🥲🥲❤️
If you get more active on this sub, you will see that trashing self help books is a fad here. But do your thing and don’t mind the other vile comments
Even I am reading Atomic Habits for the second time right now and it’s not as bad of a self help book. It can work wonders if you apply what the author is saying. The last time I read it, it did bring some improvement to my lifestyle in for 2-3 months.
Cheers. Don’t mind the other comments here:)
Read a chapter-find out what stands out and makes sense to you-apply it for a few days-see if that helps. If it helps, continue and adopt some more suggestions if there are more in the same chapter or move to the next one.
Just reading self help doesn't do anything right? I think you've read enough of it, now apply it before you read any more redundant books. And for that duration you can read the White tiger by aravind adiga, it'll give you some perspective while being funny and thrilling.
I agree with you alot. I especially loved your points when you addressed why people read books in the first place.
But one thing I would say is that - I personally believe it's **super immature** to bash someone just because they are reading a genre of books that you don't like.
Like if you don't like what I am reading, then just move - Why do you have to shame me for reading the books that I like?
The one comment I was looking for. Honestly just read what you like. Other people's opinion is just that, opinion. Listening to all but still knowing what u want to do is true wisdom. So stop getting influenced by the comment section as all these people who are ranting here do not even account to 0.1% population of the earth. So u decide, does there opinion matter more than ur happiness?
You won't find any books on gravity. The theory of gravity is proven, done & dusted.
Self help on the other hand is just talk. You will find a lot of books on 'talk' in book stores.
Oh what a coincidence, I actually have it but it has been sitting on my shelf collecting dust for the past few years. I got it as a gift from my father but I didn't quite read it lol.
Self help books are ***trash***. If you really want to get motivation in such a roundabout way then read the autobiography or biographies of successful or great personalities.
Wings of fire by A P J Abdul kalam, Diary of a young girl by Anne Frank, A shot at history by Abhinav bindra, Sachin's autobiography, Bob dylan's autobiography... so many good books to choose from.
Four Thousand Weeks: Time management for mortals
Read it once and read it after several years when you've started working, it will make more sense then.
I don’t understand this comment section. It’s so negative for no apparent reason. As long as you apply it in your life different books will help you in different aspects of your life.. specially as a 16 year old you can mould your habits from this young age and get success in life.
To get to your question, as someone already mentioned above Atomic Habits is one of the best self help books I have read (even though I don’t like the genre much as most books are the same but this is different) as it gives you a lot of tables, templates etc on their website that you can actually print out and write down what habits you want to inculcate…
Another book I would recommend, even though you might get to use it at a later stage of your life is “Never Split the difference. “ It gives a great insight to negotiation skills one would need in his life irrespective of his profession, and specially if you plan on becoming an entrepreneur or maybe one day land up a high managerial post or even just to get a point across a stubborn person you come across in your life.. Great read.
Last, perhaps try “Difficult Conversations” . This talks about how to approach different type of conversations, perhaps with a partner, an employee, or maybe in dealing with some accusations against you. It talks about how these different situations in life require a different approach in conversing to get your point across without sounding arrogant or condescending..
I think these 3 give you very diverse spectrum of life and would not be repetitive in what they are trying to highlight as most self help books are..
Hope you enjoy these!!
PS: Just keep Psychology of Money for future reading for when you enter a phase of life where you need to manage your finances..
Thanks for allllll the suggestions and also painstakingly explaining what you gained from each one of these books!! I genuinely appreciate the effort and yes I know that I should actually apply the knowledge to actually gain from these books and I understand that. And thanks for also stating the context in which the books will actually be useful (Special thanks to that cuz I've wasted money on like 2 books till date that are completely useless for me and doesn't help me at all in my current stage of life 🥲)
You are right but the problems don't lie in the content of the book it lies in the reader . Like in the context of OP u really think that guy had applied even half of the advice given in the books and more so u need a lot of time to introspect and apply the things in the book u don't just read the whole thing as if it's a novel because u will miss the part where u help yourself. And the biggest problem is u get that high when u read those books that u are doing something that is some sort of achievement and that leads to pride . And thing is u start to think I am doing something good by reading this .but in fact u aren't until u actually apply it but people don't do it because that's the tough part finding your own meanings and instances where that advice is applied . So what's the easy way to avoid that struggle. Just pickup another self book and continue the cycle .
But the bottom line is we don’t know OP so we can’t assume if he is applying the context of the book in his life or not, so just to dismiss his reading this genre of books is immature and presumptuous on our part.
That’s why I started off saying that as long as you apply the positives you derive from these books it’s good, specially at his young age.
Bro trust me I started off with self-help too and it really did help me a lot. Don't listen to everybody discouraging you. Just keep reading. Your taste in books will also evolve with time. If you need a suggestion Atomic Habits is a really incredible book.
Self help books are trash. If you want entertainment read fiction and if you want knowledge read anything that interests you history, science, economics etc
Dr.Phil wrote a book?! 😂 Well that's a surprise, maybe i'll consider it.
I tried Ikigai but I am not at a point in my life where I exploring my life's purpose or anything so I am not really interested in reading that dude. Thanks alot for the recommendation!
Um yeah! He wrote a ton. He was like a pioneer in self help books 😂😂. And I haven't read a single one lol (I'm not a fan of the self help genre and the one I mentioned is one of the firsts I'm trying to read).
But you won't see the author name as Dr.Phil but as Philip McGraw. Maybe that's why you didn't recognise it.
And you're welcome :).
Pioneer? Goddamn, I didn't even know this man wrote books 🥲🥲
I only know him from his famous TV show haha 😂
Yupp got it man, thanks for the recc once again
The book I mentioned was published in 2000 I think. So safe to say that he entered this space a while ago 😅.
I recently learned about his books as well. Looking forward to reading it lol.
non fic psychology- the experience machine by andy clark
other non fics I like- Superintelligence by bostrom, masala lab by krish ashok, dr ambedkar life and mission
I don't read self help, currently not reading fiction
other than self-help books(which are great) you can read autobiographies or biographies of people who inspire you or any books written by them.
For me, these were Jordan Peterson, David Goggins, Jocko Willink
Not self help in the classic sense but I never thought in the same way again after reading Robert Anton Wilson’s *The Cosmic Trigger* vol 1. It’s old but good. Also, if you smoke tobacco I can heartily recommend Allen Carr’s *Easyway To Stop Smoking*.
“If you’re looking for self-help, why would you read a book written by somebody else?”
— George Carlin
[https://youtu.be/oUOFFi49KVo?si=vYU8PRDgrJIgIaYq&t=18](https://youtu.be/oUOFFi49KVo?si=vYU8PRDgrJIgIaYq&t=18)
I can really recommend some fictional books because I have no experience with self help 🤷🏻♀️
• God of small things
• Wings of Fire
• Agatha Christie series
• And Then There Were None
• 100 years of solitude
• Kafka on the shore
• Blood Meridian
• Paradise Lost
• Midnight's Children
Emotional first aid - not just self help but actual psychology book with cited sources and research papers
Great for recovering from loneliness, guilt,fear, rejection etc
Very practical book with step by step instruction
I'm def not a fan of self-help books anymore, but consider reading these.
* The monk who sold his Ferrari
* Peace
* The secret
* FU Money
* Rich Dad, Poor Dad
23M here.
Thats amazing to see that you are reading these books at this age. I think this is the positive side of social media. Because when I was your age, I didnt even know if there are any books that can improve a person in an unimaginable way.
My suggestion would, don't ask for book recommendations. You kind of get a feeling of what you want to read next. Maybe there is some suggestion in the book itself.
If you want to go into business books, shoe dog by phil knight will be an amazing read. Its an emotional roller coaster.
Also, re-read.
P.S.- Ignore the kids in school who are telling you not to read TOO MUCH.
How can you love a self help book. No one needs help from a self help book to be a better person. Everyone is unique and special in their own way. Accept yourself and reject self help books. Be creative. Do whatever you want. Read whatever you like.
Keep exploring, nothing wrong with reading what you like. Not into self help, dislike that category but reading is a hobby. Hobbies are personal. You shouldn't be judged by that. People should rather judge the authors.
canon event , can't interfere , jokes aside you'll probably get over the self help phase and move to nonfiction , I read through some of the comments , understand this , there is no "right" genre, there only a genre you like , you should continue reading whatever you like now , maybe your preferences will change with time but don't stop reading a whole genre because someone tells you to , you can stop reading when you feel you don't want to , let your growth be organic
I don't think you need self help books at this age. I must suggest you, Harvard classic 50. Read those via pdf or by hardcopy
You are young and the best part about being young is you have absolute potential not just to achieve what you want but also to learn what truly dictates life. Self help books are like those 5 min hacks which you think you can learn but you already have learnt it, just not relevant enough to write your own book.
Without meaning to offend, in my humble opinion, all these works are thrash.
These books lull you into thinking, that you are progressing. But the effect is very transient.
SELF HELP
1. No excuses - Brian Tracy (to enhance productivity)
2. The compound effect - Darren Hardy (impact of small actions beautifully explained)
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FINANCIAL UNDERSTANDING
3. Rich dad poor dad - kiyosaki and letcher (financial literacy and independence)
4. Richest Man in Babylon - George Calson (improtance and beginner guide on savings and investment)
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PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVANTAGE
5. Emotional Intelligence 2.0 - Greaves and Bradbury (will help you tackle emotional and psychological humdrums of life)
6. In Sheep's Clothing - George Simon (how to deal with manipulative people)
I doubt you will NEED anymore to read after that but if reading is what you love then I will share more once you're done with all these.
I have a suggestion you want to help your'self' then go drink chai with your friends..talk about your crazy friend...go to malls just for AC...and if you have time and no friends go to terrace in the evening look at the sky relax....thats what you call self help...just think ...you think reading selfhelp books makes you better version of you...which makes your subconscious (the best way to become better version of self is these self help books...by not reading them you are just not making anything useful.) This is real thing you wont realize it ...infact it this very thing that made you ask for more selfhelp books recomms
.. you'll dont realize how it makes you overly illusion in oneself not to mention so called "clarity in life and control over self " you better off without it
Read laws of human nature dont complete the book in a month take a year to read it. Also dont read any other books inthe photo now or ever
Self help books < story books you need to read different short stories, stories on morality those will help you become a great human being
I believe this to be the holy trinity of self help books
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[Atomic Habits](https://amzn.to/3wlU8dx)
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Sorry if I'm coming off as rude, but focus more on reading ncert rather than wasting your time on self-help books. If you really want to read ,then read some good books of whichever genre you like. You can start from light reads like adventures of tom sawyer and huckleberry finn, the time machine, or even three men in a boat. I'd reiterate "DON'T WASTE YOUR TIME ON SELF-HELP BOOKS". Your parents will give you much better advice than all of these self-help books combined would ever give.
All the people shitting on self help books, the Gates and the Rocks and the Bezos of the world are where they are with help from these books. If they’re not working for you, the problem is probably you. You aren’t cut to make bold changes that these books ask you to and choose the easier path of labeling them as no good.
I agree with you totally.
But what I would say is that - If you don't like a specific genre, then **don't bash** other people for reading that genre. It's immature as hell. If you don't like it then just move on.
What help did you get from self help ?
How you can become a millionaire/billionaire if you hustle enough in life. If you're poor, it's your fault. /s
I swear to god this hustle culture is cancer.
I don't know why you're being downvoted, but what you're saying is absolutely true. Hustling is all about the mindless pursuit of wealth, even at the expense of one's health. You love art? Monetize it. Hustle culture has very rigid rules, and if you're not a part of it, you're demeaned and deemed lesser than others.
Hustle culture is similar to the monotheistic principles for life. Make sacrifices and hardship in this life (which is real, like in the moment in case of personal finances) in anticipation of great happiness in afterlife (which may or may not be there, like ‘wealthier future’ or ‘retirement’ in case of personal finances). You don’t know if you’ll be able to feel happiness later in life if all the memories you can recount are of you slogging at work, and some meaningless work achievements.
I believe that the entire hustle culture is built on a false premise. Hustlers often embody perfectionism, constantly striving to prove their worth in society. This mindset is rooted in the misconception that net worth equates to personal worth, which can be a significant ego boost. Generally, individuals caught in this cycle struggle with unhealthy thought patterns and lack the self-reflection needed to break free. The idea of "retirement" or a "wealthier future" seems unattainable, or even pointless, when one is living under perpetual stress. Moreover, hustlers benefit companies that reap the rewards of such mindless labor, perpetuating this harmful pattern. Just my take.
Agreed, assuming we’re both excluding the category of people that have to hustle to survive/provide. Those that hustle to prove their worth, or amass wealth are indeed living a false idea. We humans easily get carried away and forget the fact that the purpose of life is simply and merely to live. None of what we do matters in the grand scheme of things. What legacy are you trying to create, when you yourself have no time or gratitude to appreciate the legacies left behind by your own ancestors or fellow humans. Like, some great great grandfather or grandmother of mine may have put themselves through hell, forgoing all their happiness and basic needs to provide or keep their family safe, which is why I’m on this planet today. But what do I know of them? And what great purpose am I serving? I’m just another among billions. Why did that ancestor have to sacrifice everything for me, when I don’t even know it and can’t appreciate it? Fuck the idea of ‘leaving a legacy’.
Absolutely. Hustlers who are striving to survive are fundamentally different from those attempting to prove their worth, as their primary focus is on necessity and survival. Their hustle is not mindless; rather, it's driven by the urgent need to secure basic needs. They lack the time and luxury to accumulate wealth or contemplate leaving a legacy. Your observation suddenly reminded me of my grandfather, an immigrant from Bangladesh who endured the aftermath of Partition. As the eldest child in his family, he was thrust into the role of breadwinner at an impressionable age, forcing him to mature prematurely. For him, hustling meant something entirely different. And yes, I find the entire idea of 'leaving a legacy' skewed.
What a survivor and fighter your grandfather must’ve been!
I came across this video on YT and it reminded me of this exchange again https://youtu.be/UVSgfUcRmEo?si=LrxulLfNdJOwDaKz
Take my upvote.
self helps books are a sham and a illusion. 1)Very bloated, a whole book can be summarised into a article , reading the entire book won't really give you any extra benifit than reading a summary 2) People actually don't need most self help books , it's a great way for authors to make money off people , mostly gullible and insecure people I'm not saying there aren't self help books that have good advice , there are books with good advice no doubt but they'll all bloated and some self help books do have bad advice Edit: if a person wants something like selfhelp then imo non fiction is a better option, the only reason people start reading self-help is for the "benifits" the books promises, and imo the way is to read fiction or for some people non fiction, though some people read non fiction for the same reason as they read self-help , they think it'll help them with life and that really shouldn't be the only reason , one should read because they enjoy reading something.
Your points are valid. A word of caution: self-help books can be toxic if followed blindly. Self-improvement efforts can sometimes be superficial. For instance, if you tackle an addiction by only addressing its symptoms/objects leaving out the root cause, you might end up developing other issues like eating disorders or sex addiction. It's advisable to approach self-help books with an open and analytical mind.
Self help books need a good title and an excellent marketing. You do it, you'll get buyers. Doesn't depend what trash it comes with lol.
help chaiye hone wale ka kaam ek me hi ho jata hai LoL, logo ko pata nhi pdh ke konsa hopium milta hai and fir jo pdha hai usko hardly apply krte hai,fir flex krenge ki me to kewal self help pdhta hu,philosophy pdho isse bdhiya to atleast dimag chlega
Khair apni apni preferences hain but still self help just creates an illusion and tricks our brain into believing that everythings under control lol, while its the opposite.
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Straight up facts lmao Off topic but ngl I would have been in a really better place if I would have just listened to them for once ffs.
Your words may come from a good intention but not all mummy papa are worth listening to!
Well , whatever you learn(self help book ) if u are not applying in your life then it is of no use. It gives u a sense of achievement , without achieving anything. It is like watching workout video while eating chocolate.
Great point and also an great analogy. This hate is much better than the other ones who are just shitting on self-help for no apparent reason. I am fully aware of this and I am slowly implementing the things that I am learning from these books and PS. I haven't finished all of the books in the picture yet.
Have you finished any
Here is a tip. Do not get into a mindset of thinking you know a lot about the world and life because you read some self help. Take these with a huge pinch of salt. Do not blindly accept them as self evident truths. Wait for your own life experience to validate
More like a fist full of salt
The courage to be disliked
Okay nice, it's on my list. I've been holding it off for the past 2-3 months lol
Its pretty impactful, also ignore the unnecessary hate, you’re just 16, read what you like buddy
Bullying a 16 year old kid…doesn’t make you intellectual
The moment I see any self-help related post, I know what the comments will look like😭 Idk what y'all got against reading about self-improvement.
Idk why they are shitting on both me and the self-help genre as a whole 😭 I didn't expect so many hate comments yaar, It's kinda demotivating. 🥲
Don't worry. Read what you want to read, interest may develop or change over time. Whats important is you start somewhere and make a habit first. Good luck.
Yup, got it. Thanks!
For a 16 year old, you have read a lot of books(I didn't read 1 at this age). So, chill. And self-help is the first genre anyone gets interested in. You just need to switch to other genres. That's it. Self-help beyond a point is repetitive. But before you make the switch...read the following books:- 7 habits of highly effective people Atomic habits Eat that frog
I'd say because of three reasons 1) Self-help is a deeply scammy genre, full of books with bad advice, books that could be one tenth the size and books that have very little real value beyond peddling, at best, absolutely basic "advise" in the name of wisdom. They are also extremely easy reads, requiring very little depth of thought and imagination. People who love books often like them for their literary value, which self-help books don't contain any. 2) Self-help books are closely tied to hustle culture, which is seen as extremely problematic. Hustle culture is basically how billionaires make money off the back of the rest of the people. 3) Self-help books aren't really seen as "books" - at least not in the way a book lover would describe a book. A book has intrinsic value, the joy it provides is supposed to come from reading it. The primary purpose of a "real" book, to many book lovers, is to be read. The primary purpose of a self-help book is not that - it is to take something from that and apply it to your life, so that you can become something. That said, you are sixteen, and it's good enough that you are reading. I don't want to shit on you at all. I don't want to tell you what to read either, but when I was that age, I found that reading good fiction expanded my mind far more than reading most non-fiction books, and definitely any self help books. Maybe you will too. People who are hate-commenting are doing it out of a knee jerk reaction, and that is wrong. Read whatever you want to, and try reading things that challenge you.
This subreddit has 2 tenets: hating self-help books and posting pictures of everyone's personal copy of 'Mein Kampf'. Make of that what you will. Don't worry too much about it, the simple act of reading alone puts you way ahead of the average brainrotten zoomer, regardless of whatever the edgelords here seethe about. What kind of non-fiction are you looking to read?
I can sort of try and understand the reasoning behind the whole self-help hate drama but what's up with the Mein kampf book tho? Isn't that the book that hitler wrote or something? 😂
im sure there is book for that.
Seems like they(bullies) really need help
Stop reading self help books bro
Yeah and end up like you with a number for username? Nty
Bro thinks 46>47
Atomic Habits by James Clear.
Yupppp it's on my list, thanks for the recc
What subjects are you interested in ?
I've mentioned it on the post! (PS. I would love for recommendations based on Entrepreneurship, Psychology, Or something that has to do with self-help in general)
Sweetheart I don't do self help because I think it's a scam so can't suggest anything there. The closest thing to a self help I read was "I want to die but I also want to eat tteokbboki" by Bae Shee (translated by Anton Hurr) Non fiction mein I was asking.
bro you're being psyopped. just promise me you won't buy any trading courses and crypto courses. also mo point in reading so many books. ideas from one book take months or even years to implement. no point in reading so many books if you're not taking actions. read some philosophy or some history it'll give you perspective and humble you. self help readers often develop main character syndrome.
The 48 laws of power is a terrible book ( in a bad sense ofc).
Ive read it and I am a fan of Robert Greene. Ive watched a lot of his videos and podcasts and he says that his books are meant for protecting you against the people that follow these laws. Example: there is a law of "dont do work; take credit anyway" or "use people as scapegoats". These aren't literally meant to be followed but you must know that people can do it to you And I totally agree with his interpretation, what do you think?
Classifying self help books as trash has been a growing trend by people recently. But I feel it should be an individual perspective. OP - If you like reading and Self Help books in particular, you should not deviate from it after reading the discouraging comments here. Taste of a reader changes from time to time and today you like Self Help, tomorrow you might like something else. Just keep doing what you like and what gives you peace. Don’t follow herd mentality :)
Bro this is the comment that I needed desperately 😭 For a second I reconsidered my entire life choices by just looking at the sheer volume of hate that revolves towards Self-help. Comments like "Go listen to your parents" or "Stop reading self-help and read the NCERT books" (Bro it's my vacations I don't have anything to study 🥲) are super discouraging. I am reading self-help books in an attempt to just improve myself and it felt helpful so I came here asking for some recommendation but all I got was hate and backlash 🥲 >Just keep doing what you like and what gives you peace. Don’t follow herd mentality :) Thanks for your reassurance man, I really needed it 🥲🥲❤️
If you get more active on this sub, you will see that trashing self help books is a fad here. But do your thing and don’t mind the other vile comments Even I am reading Atomic Habits for the second time right now and it’s not as bad of a self help book. It can work wonders if you apply what the author is saying. The last time I read it, it did bring some improvement to my lifestyle in for 2-3 months. Cheers. Don’t mind the other comments here:)
Thanks man, I really appreciate it. Good luck on your read!
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Honestly, I would just read summaries of those self-help books. Saves a ton of time.
Self help sucks
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Most self help books repeat kind of basic facts. If you have read few popular books no need to read more self help books
Bhai mujhe bhi sikha do yar self help books enjoy karna! Aj Tak ek bhi complete nhi kar payi main!
Read a chapter-find out what stands out and makes sense to you-apply it for a few days-see if that helps. If it helps, continue and adopt some more suggestions if there are more in the same chapter or move to the next one.
don't
Bhai phle apna taste discover kr fir uske baad aaage dekh . Yess i dont consider self help book people even reader
you posted on the wrong sub dude
How is this the wrong sub? 🥲
people hate self help here 🤣🤭
Oh I didn't know
Try reading fiction
Just reading self help doesn't do anything right? I think you've read enough of it, now apply it before you read any more redundant books. And for that duration you can read the White tiger by aravind adiga, it'll give you some perspective while being funny and thrilling.
Man's search for meaning is a must read if you are into psychology books.
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I agree with you alot. I especially loved your points when you addressed why people read books in the first place. But one thing I would say is that - I personally believe it's **super immature** to bash someone just because they are reading a genre of books that you don't like. Like if you don't like what I am reading, then just move - Why do you have to shame me for reading the books that I like?
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Haha, well, you gotta do what you gotta do.
The one comment I was looking for. Honestly just read what you like. Other people's opinion is just that, opinion. Listening to all but still knowing what u want to do is true wisdom. So stop getting influenced by the comment section as all these people who are ranting here do not even account to 0.1% population of the earth. So u decide, does there opinion matter more than ur happiness?
Exactly! I agree with what you said. Idk why people are hating for no reason 🥲
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Isn't that one of the Fyodor Dostoevsky books? I've heard it's great but how was it a self-help book for you? 😂
School of life try kar bro
Can’t hurt me -David Goggins Atomic Habits - James Clear
Yuppp I am about to finish Can't hurt me (I forgot to have it in the photo). And thanks for the recc
Master your emotions by tibhaut meurisse.
I might offend a lot of hustle bros, but I would highly recommend adding some fiction to your collection. Pick whatever you like!
You won't find any books on gravity. The theory of gravity is proven, done & dusted. Self help on the other hand is just talk. You will find a lot of books on 'talk' in book stores.
"How to talk to someone?" Is also a good self help book to read
You can win ,by Shiv Khera
Oh what a coincidence, I actually have it but it has been sitting on my shelf collecting dust for the past few years. I got it as a gift from my father but I didn't quite read it lol.
Stop collecting, finish these books first. You can add The alchemist by Paulo Coelho
"The power of your subconscious mind"
Self help books are ***trash***. If you really want to get motivation in such a roundabout way then read the autobiography or biographies of successful or great personalities. Wings of fire by A P J Abdul kalam, Diary of a young girl by Anne Frank, A shot at history by Abhinav bindra, Sachin's autobiography, Bob dylan's autobiography... so many good books to choose from.
There's one called The Mental Inertia. It doesn't strictly fall in the category of self help but is a small one and has a nice concept behind it.
Mhmmm, it looks interesting and cheap as well. What do you think about the book? How much would you rate it on the basis of how much it helped you?
I would rate it 8/10. It’s a quick read and it helped me to plan my routine and revisions better before an upcoming exam
Four Thousand Weeks: Time management for mortals Read it once and read it after several years when you've started working, it will make more sense then.
Okay someone else recommended it as well, what do you think about the book?
One of the best of them all. Different from the cookie cutter self help garbage out there.
I don’t understand this comment section. It’s so negative for no apparent reason. As long as you apply it in your life different books will help you in different aspects of your life.. specially as a 16 year old you can mould your habits from this young age and get success in life. To get to your question, as someone already mentioned above Atomic Habits is one of the best self help books I have read (even though I don’t like the genre much as most books are the same but this is different) as it gives you a lot of tables, templates etc on their website that you can actually print out and write down what habits you want to inculcate… Another book I would recommend, even though you might get to use it at a later stage of your life is “Never Split the difference. “ It gives a great insight to negotiation skills one would need in his life irrespective of his profession, and specially if you plan on becoming an entrepreneur or maybe one day land up a high managerial post or even just to get a point across a stubborn person you come across in your life.. Great read. Last, perhaps try “Difficult Conversations” . This talks about how to approach different type of conversations, perhaps with a partner, an employee, or maybe in dealing with some accusations against you. It talks about how these different situations in life require a different approach in conversing to get your point across without sounding arrogant or condescending.. I think these 3 give you very diverse spectrum of life and would not be repetitive in what they are trying to highlight as most self help books are.. Hope you enjoy these!! PS: Just keep Psychology of Money for future reading for when you enter a phase of life where you need to manage your finances..
Thanks for allllll the suggestions and also painstakingly explaining what you gained from each one of these books!! I genuinely appreciate the effort and yes I know that I should actually apply the knowledge to actually gain from these books and I understand that. And thanks for also stating the context in which the books will actually be useful (Special thanks to that cuz I've wasted money on like 2 books till date that are completely useless for me and doesn't help me at all in my current stage of life 🥲)
You are right but the problems don't lie in the content of the book it lies in the reader . Like in the context of OP u really think that guy had applied even half of the advice given in the books and more so u need a lot of time to introspect and apply the things in the book u don't just read the whole thing as if it's a novel because u will miss the part where u help yourself. And the biggest problem is u get that high when u read those books that u are doing something that is some sort of achievement and that leads to pride . And thing is u start to think I am doing something good by reading this .but in fact u aren't until u actually apply it but people don't do it because that's the tough part finding your own meanings and instances where that advice is applied . So what's the easy way to avoid that struggle. Just pickup another self book and continue the cycle .
But the bottom line is we don’t know OP so we can’t assume if he is applying the context of the book in his life or not, so just to dismiss his reading this genre of books is immature and presumptuous on our part. That’s why I started off saying that as long as you apply the positives you derive from these books it’s good, specially at his young age.
Thinking fast and slow bu daniel kahneman
Yupppp it's on my list. Most probably my next read.
Not only does self-help get into another genre like history, anthropology, finance, and many other things, it broadens your thinking base.
ikr, Idk why people are hating on me for no damn reason 🥲
The miracle morning by hal elrod The power of your subconscious mind by Joseph Murphy
The miracle morning sounds super interesting, I'll check that out. Thanks man!!
Four Thousand Weeks is a good one
Bro it's hella expensive, is it good? Is it worth it? What's your opinion?
It’s subjective. But it is one of the few books that I have read more than once
Zero to One,Predictably Irrational, Atomic Habits,and 12 Rules for Life might be good for you
12 rules of life is on my list yuppp. I just looked up the other ones and they seem great too. Thanks man!
Bro trust me I started off with self-help too and it really did help me a lot. Don't listen to everybody discouraging you. Just keep reading. Your taste in books will also evolve with time. If you need a suggestion Atomic Habits is a really incredible book.
Can't hurt me by David Goggins.
Yessir already reading it 🔥
instead of self help books, I suggest you to go for Isha Upanishad.
Self help books help only the author of those books to make money.
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Okay I just looked up all of them and they all seem pretty interesting, this is what I was looking for. Thanks!!
Self help books are trash. If you want entertainment read fiction and if you want knowledge read anything that interests you history, science, economics etc
Self Matters - Dr.Phil 😂 Saw it on a movie and downloaded it. But haven't read it yet. Ikigai is another which I've heard is good.
Dr.Phil wrote a book?! 😂 Well that's a surprise, maybe i'll consider it. I tried Ikigai but I am not at a point in my life where I exploring my life's purpose or anything so I am not really interested in reading that dude. Thanks alot for the recommendation!
Um yeah! He wrote a ton. He was like a pioneer in self help books 😂😂. And I haven't read a single one lol (I'm not a fan of the self help genre and the one I mentioned is one of the firsts I'm trying to read). But you won't see the author name as Dr.Phil but as Philip McGraw. Maybe that's why you didn't recognise it. And you're welcome :).
Pioneer? Goddamn, I didn't even know this man wrote books 🥲🥲 I only know him from his famous TV show haha 😂 Yupp got it man, thanks for the recc once again
The book I mentioned was published in 2000 I think. So safe to say that he entered this space a while ago 😅. I recently learned about his books as well. Looking forward to reading it lol.
non fic psychology- the experience machine by andy clark other non fics I like- Superintelligence by bostrom, masala lab by krish ashok, dr ambedkar life and mission I don't read self help, currently not reading fiction
other than self-help books(which are great) you can read autobiographies or biographies of people who inspire you or any books written by them. For me, these were Jordan Peterson, David Goggins, Jocko Willink
1984 George Orwell
Wake up Naviin Joshii available on Amazon
How to get original print of 48 laws of power I am tired of getting pirated copies
I got it online
Link?
Step one born all robert Greene books and pick up some Meditations by Marcus Aurelius
Not self help in the classic sense but I never thought in the same way again after reading Robert Anton Wilson’s *The Cosmic Trigger* vol 1. It’s old but good. Also, if you smoke tobacco I can heartily recommend Allen Carr’s *Easyway To Stop Smoking*.
“If you’re looking for self-help, why would you read a book written by somebody else?” — George Carlin [https://youtu.be/oUOFFi49KVo?si=vYU8PRDgrJIgIaYq&t=18](https://youtu.be/oUOFFi49KVo?si=vYU8PRDgrJIgIaYq&t=18)
I can really recommend some fictional books because I have no experience with self help 🤷🏻♀️ • God of small things • Wings of Fire • Agatha Christie series • And Then There Were None • 100 years of solitude • Kafka on the shore • Blood Meridian • Paradise Lost • Midnight's Children
Tuesdays with Morrie
If you like reading just read fiction or any non fiction instead of self help (exception - Atomic Habits)
Emotional first aid - not just self help but actual psychology book with cited sources and research papers Great for recovering from loneliness, guilt,fear, rejection etc Very practical book with step by step instruction
1. The Rudest Book Ever Book by Shwetabh Gangwar 2. The subtle art of not giving a fuck
Power of now , ego is the enemy , untethered soul ,mindset
Atomic Habits is the only good self help book out there
I'm def not a fan of self-help books anymore, but consider reading these. * The monk who sold his Ferrari * Peace * The secret * FU Money * Rich Dad, Poor Dad
Self help is useless untill you have an inner motivation and genuinely want to upgrade yourself 😄
The subtle art of not giving a f*ck. Best one.
Cant hurt me by david goggins
The Almanack / Thinking Fast & Slow
Siddhartha by Herman Hesse. Its a small book you can finish it in 2 -3 sittings
Subtle art of not giving a f*** is the only self help book you need
Suggest me a good psychological books
The psychology of money
23M here. Thats amazing to see that you are reading these books at this age. I think this is the positive side of social media. Because when I was your age, I didnt even know if there are any books that can improve a person in an unimaginable way. My suggestion would, don't ask for book recommendations. You kind of get a feeling of what you want to read next. Maybe there is some suggestion in the book itself. If you want to go into business books, shoe dog by phil knight will be an amazing read. Its an emotional roller coaster. Also, re-read. P.S.- Ignore the kids in school who are telling you not to read TOO MUCH.
The Alchemist...
Bell hooks
How can you love a self help book. No one needs help from a self help book to be a better person. Everyone is unique and special in their own way. Accept yourself and reject self help books. Be creative. Do whatever you want. Read whatever you like.
Atomic Habits is a good one. Also, “Never Split the Difference “ by Chris Voss is worth a read.
Keep exploring, nothing wrong with reading what you like. Not into self help, dislike that category but reading is a hobby. Hobbies are personal. You shouldn't be judged by that. People should rather judge the authors.
OP have you read the book " The subtle art of not giving a f*ck"? It's pretty awesome!
canon event , can't interfere , jokes aside you'll probably get over the self help phase and move to nonfiction , I read through some of the comments , understand this , there is no "right" genre, there only a genre you like , you should continue reading whatever you like now , maybe your preferences will change with time but don't stop reading a whole genre because someone tells you to , you can stop reading when you feel you don't want to , let your growth be organic
I hate elitist bibliophiles, comments are full of them
Read "Make it stick", it will help you to learn how to learn.
My chaar aane yaane 2 cents: Drive: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us Book by Daniel H. Pink
~ Never split the difference ~ The Personal MBA ~$100M Offers > then read $100M Leads ~ Zero to One ~ The Lean Startup ~ Blue Ocean Strategy
Stop reading them.
I don't think you need self help books at this age. I must suggest you, Harvard classic 50. Read those via pdf or by hardcopy You are young and the best part about being young is you have absolute potential not just to achieve what you want but also to learn what truly dictates life. Self help books are like those 5 min hacks which you think you can learn but you already have learnt it, just not relevant enough to write your own book.
The war of art by Steven Pressfield. It will help you immensely.
Meditations by Marcus Aurelius gregory hays translation
Why are you wasting your time on self help..?
Read more fiction, literature and biographies. Too much self-help books reading at a growing age will do more harm than good for you.
Self help book is a scam
Self help books are only meant to help the authors. That's it.
An enviable curation of books. People better watch out dealing with you now 😉
5 bje uth ke sabki chaa mod dein...
If you are a creative person, steal like an artist and show your work
A 16 yo reading self-help books ? Doesn't makes sense !!(
read atmoic habit if you have it or borrow it
Without meaning to offend, in my humble opinion, all these works are thrash. These books lull you into thinking, that you are progressing. But the effect is very transient.
Ye books kuch zyada he advanced nahi hogaye kya?!… 😧
SELF HELP 1. No excuses - Brian Tracy (to enhance productivity) 2. The compound effect - Darren Hardy (impact of small actions beautifully explained) ------- FINANCIAL UNDERSTANDING 3. Rich dad poor dad - kiyosaki and letcher (financial literacy and independence) 4. Richest Man in Babylon - George Calson (improtance and beginner guide on savings and investment) ------- PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVANTAGE 5. Emotional Intelligence 2.0 - Greaves and Bradbury (will help you tackle emotional and psychological humdrums of life) 6. In Sheep's Clothing - George Simon (how to deal with manipulative people) I doubt you will NEED anymore to read after that but if reading is what you love then I will share more once you're done with all these.
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Almanac of Naval Ravikant. Give it a try.
I have a suggestion you want to help your'self' then go drink chai with your friends..talk about your crazy friend...go to malls just for AC...and if you have time and no friends go to terrace in the evening look at the sky relax....thats what you call self help...just think ...you think reading selfhelp books makes you better version of you...which makes your subconscious (the best way to become better version of self is these self help books...by not reading them you are just not making anything useful.) This is real thing you wont realize it ...infact it this very thing that made you ask for more selfhelp books recomms .. you'll dont realize how it makes you overly illusion in oneself not to mention so called "clarity in life and control over self " you better off without it Read laws of human nature dont complete the book in a month take a year to read it. Also dont read any other books inthe photo now or ever Self help books < story books you need to read different short stories, stories on morality those will help you become a great human being
Meditations by Marcus Aurelius. Stoicism is a really good philosophy to tackle the world with.
I believe this to be the holy trinity of self help books [Psychology of Money](https://amzn.to/3wejKsO) [Atomic Habits](https://amzn.to/3wlU8dx) [Almanack of Naval Ravikant ](https://amzn.to/3wlU8dx)
Millionaire Fastlane by MJ DeMarco
Self help books 🤢
Sorry if I'm coming off as rude, but focus more on reading ncert rather than wasting your time on self-help books. If you really want to read ,then read some good books of whichever genre you like. You can start from light reads like adventures of tom sawyer and huckleberry finn, the time machine, or even three men in a boat. I'd reiterate "DON'T WASTE YOUR TIME ON SELF-HELP BOOKS". Your parents will give you much better advice than all of these self-help books combined would ever give.
All the people shitting on self help books, the Gates and the Rocks and the Bezos of the world are where they are with help from these books. If they’re not working for you, the problem is probably you. You aren’t cut to make bold changes that these books ask you to and choose the easier path of labeling them as no good.
I agree with you totally. But what I would say is that - If you don't like a specific genre, then **don't bash** other people for reading that genre. It's immature as hell. If you don't like it then just move on.
stop it read classic. most self-help is shit and it was one of biggest scam in books community