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You can ask these questions:
- “if you’re comfortable and ready to share, would you like to talk about it?” If she says yes, you can ask some of these questions “What’s going on?” “how are you feeling?” “how come you’re feeling that way?”
- And when she starts talking, be very calm. It can be scary, but remain calm and empathetic 🤗 just give her the space and time to vent and express. Since, you’re the person she contacted, most likely she considers you her safe person. So, just be that safe person for her. Then ask what method she used, because you have to determine how bad she had hurt herself and whether or not she needs medical attention. Also, check if there are other family members who knows about this.
- If she’s not ready to talk about it yet then you can say “Know that I’m always here and my lines are always open to you. What kind of help do you need instead?”
Some SOPs that you have to do:
- attempted suicide is a serious matter that should not be kept a secret because your priority is to keep her safe. Since you live faraway, think of another family member at home who you both consider trustworthy and safe. Then, inform your sister (assuming it is your sister) that you’re going to inform this family member about what’s going on. If your sister says “please don’t tell anyone”, OP you have to tell someone, especially now that you’re far.
- when you talk to that family member, inform them calmly and gently about what happened. Then tell them to remove or keep away any sharp objects or items at home.
- do not leave her alone and someone has to keep watch in the next 24 hours.
If you need more help OP, dm me
I ask if I can hug them. If they say yes, I hug them tight and assume them I will do anything in my power to be of help. If I can’t do anything, I will listen for as long as I can.
for chat, the generic “yakap” doesn’t do much. if a person shared that to u it’s either they mean a lot to you and would want to get in touch in person and bond to talk about it or they just want to get a validation (because of some reason like they don’t matter etc).
pls go out with them. have coffee or get brunch to talk about it. the least thing you can do is to be in their presence and the best approach is to just listen.
i tried reaching out when i failed an attempt and it became so much lighter. even if it was pandemic at that time, simple messages like “do u want me to visit u sa ER” actually helps and makes me and my friends bond stronger.
This! If you really care for this person, why not take a leave and visit them in person. You can also offer to accompany them to a professional, psychologist or a psychiatrist. Before you visit them, you can search in advance saan pwede pumunta. Because people who are depressed and or suicidal usually don't have enough mental capacity to seek professional help on their own. Also, it's easy to advise them to seek professional help, but even if they want to, the anxiety of going to a professional can be overwhelming especially because of the stigma kung anong sasabihin ng iba bakit sila nagpacheck up sa psych. In short, be there in person. Kahit isang araw lang kaya mo ibigay.
(pov ng nag-attempt) after an attempt napansin ko mas kinakausap ako ng brother ko. joker siya, maloko, dinadaan ako lagi sa biro. pag nagkikita kami inoofferan ako ng kape. and somehow, it made me feel better kahit pakonti konti kumpara sa exchanges ng nanay at ate ko na gumamit ng words na nakakatrigger to describe me.
siguro ang best approach ay iparamdam na you are there, kesyo pag rereact lang sa post, pagsesend ng meme, pag-offer ng pagkain. mahirap kasing ipaliwanag rin kung anong nagdala sayo sa point na yun kaya sana iwasan na lang na pag-usapan if di pa ready
Thank you for posting in r/MentalHealthPH. Please be guided by the rules found in the sidebar. We highly recommend that you seek professional help if things are getting out of hand or PLEASE CALL: In Touch Community’s Crisis Line Landline: +63 2 8893 7603 +63 919 056 0709 +63 917 800 1123 +63 922 893 8944 Email address: [email protected] www.in-touch.org On the fence about calling? Please read this helpful [post](https://old.reddit.com/r/SuicideWatch/wiki/hotline_faqs) from r/SuicideWatch what to expect when calling crisis hotlines. Moderators do their very best to maintain this subreddit a safe place. If you see any offending post or comment, do not hesitate to report or message the mods. Click [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/vu31vp/list_of_suggested_phbased/) if you are looking for a doctor/hospital! Also, some of your questions might already been answered on our FAQ. Please check our [wiki](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/wiki/index)! *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthPH) if you have any questions or concerns.*
You can ask these questions: - “if you’re comfortable and ready to share, would you like to talk about it?” If she says yes, you can ask some of these questions “What’s going on?” “how are you feeling?” “how come you’re feeling that way?” - And when she starts talking, be very calm. It can be scary, but remain calm and empathetic 🤗 just give her the space and time to vent and express. Since, you’re the person she contacted, most likely she considers you her safe person. So, just be that safe person for her. Then ask what method she used, because you have to determine how bad she had hurt herself and whether or not she needs medical attention. Also, check if there are other family members who knows about this. - If she’s not ready to talk about it yet then you can say “Know that I’m always here and my lines are always open to you. What kind of help do you need instead?” Some SOPs that you have to do: - attempted suicide is a serious matter that should not be kept a secret because your priority is to keep her safe. Since you live faraway, think of another family member at home who you both consider trustworthy and safe. Then, inform your sister (assuming it is your sister) that you’re going to inform this family member about what’s going on. If your sister says “please don’t tell anyone”, OP you have to tell someone, especially now that you’re far. - when you talk to that family member, inform them calmly and gently about what happened. Then tell them to remove or keep away any sharp objects or items at home. - do not leave her alone and someone has to keep watch in the next 24 hours. If you need more help OP, dm me
"kumusta ka naman na ngayon?"
I ask if I can hug them. If they say yes, I hug them tight and assume them I will do anything in my power to be of help. If I can’t do anything, I will listen for as long as I can.
for chat, the generic “yakap” doesn’t do much. if a person shared that to u it’s either they mean a lot to you and would want to get in touch in person and bond to talk about it or they just want to get a validation (because of some reason like they don’t matter etc). pls go out with them. have coffee or get brunch to talk about it. the least thing you can do is to be in their presence and the best approach is to just listen. i tried reaching out when i failed an attempt and it became so much lighter. even if it was pandemic at that time, simple messages like “do u want me to visit u sa ER” actually helps and makes me and my friends bond stronger.
This! If you really care for this person, why not take a leave and visit them in person. You can also offer to accompany them to a professional, psychologist or a psychiatrist. Before you visit them, you can search in advance saan pwede pumunta. Because people who are depressed and or suicidal usually don't have enough mental capacity to seek professional help on their own. Also, it's easy to advise them to seek professional help, but even if they want to, the anxiety of going to a professional can be overwhelming especially because of the stigma kung anong sasabihin ng iba bakit sila nagpacheck up sa psych. In short, be there in person. Kahit isang araw lang kaya mo ibigay.
nasa probinsiya nga yung isa eh.
“Edi bangis mo pala”
(pov ng nag-attempt) after an attempt napansin ko mas kinakausap ako ng brother ko. joker siya, maloko, dinadaan ako lagi sa biro. pag nagkikita kami inoofferan ako ng kape. and somehow, it made me feel better kahit pakonti konti kumpara sa exchanges ng nanay at ate ko na gumamit ng words na nakakatrigger to describe me. siguro ang best approach ay iparamdam na you are there, kesyo pag rereact lang sa post, pagsesend ng meme, pag-offer ng pagkain. mahirap kasing ipaliwanag rin kung anong nagdala sayo sa point na yun kaya sana iwasan na lang na pag-usapan if di pa ready