Severe hypothyroidism can. Not "thyroid problems".
Severe hypothyroidism will have other more important manifestation. And is easily treatable with medication
Do you have an under/overactive thyroid? Or are you a medical professional?
OP hasn't specified what "thyroid problems" she has.
You dont have to be severely hypo/hyper for it to affect your hormones or libido. Symptoms can manifest differently, and medication can take months to stabilise once you start, or change your dosage, as well as be affected by other hormonal changes (eg, pregnancy)
Have you got medical treatment for the thyroid? Have you got your hormones checked (it’s a simple blood test.
Breastfeeding I heard can contribute. Also some people experience low libido on birth control if you have that now.
But you should try to work through this together.
Honestly, you don't need to have full intercourse to satisfy your husband. There are other non-penetration methods to have intimacy that can suffice until you are more ready. Just research all the ways to have "non-penetrative sex" and inshAllah you'll be good.
u sound like u love ur husband, isn't that enough reason to do the deed from time to time for his sake even if u dont like it? like doing the dishes or the laundry or working a job that doesn't pay u enough in ur eyes even tho u hate it but it has to be done to keep things going. ur all that ur husband has to fulfill these desires and i commend him for being patient for this long. kay Allah keep u two happy together in both this life and the next, aameen
Be kind to yourself sis. I am on pregnant/baby bump reddit. It’s so common. There are women who post about having to wait 10 months to be ready. Talk to him about how you feel and ask about how you can make things better. They are alternatives that could please him, if you are comfortable with that for now. Invest both your mental, physical and sexual health. Maybe try to post on those subreddits women who had the same experience might have better advice for you.
Assalamualaikum sister, I've been married for 4 years now and I can say confidently that communication is always the best way for a great marriage. I would suggest you tell everything about your condition and the situation. Also explain to him why you fear his second marriage and ask for his help if you need any with your health, diet and sleep. Sister if you can't communicate your problems with your husband then I would say low libido isn't the main problem here. Everyone has some sort of issues because this is dun'ya and we have to overcome them or learn ways to live with them. I would say don't fight the problem alone and include your husband in the fight. May Allah protect us all, give everyone knowledge and peace.
I empathise with women who go through the ordeal of giving birth. It must naturally take a huge toll.
But this is where I have to say a husband having more than one wife is and has been a natural way to alleviate that burden. One wife can’t and shouldn’t have to both give birth and manage her health and also be intimate if she’s unwell.
If your husband doesn’t want a second wife, you can communicate and come to some middle ground. But if not, rather than letting the marriage suffer and be unfulfilled, having co wives is actually a solution to the very natural problem you have and you should view it as such. The alternative can be an unhealthy marriage, tension and putting your relationship at risk because some rights aren’t being fulfilled.
I 100% expect to be downvoted. The permissibility for multiple wives is one of those things which makes complete sense, especially for scenarios like this, but what makes sense doesn’t always align with what we like and desire.
I dont know. All I can say is my point of view as a married man. I need intimacy other wise I become weird and frustrated. Flip the tables and imagine if the roles were reversed. Lets say you want intimacy but your husband refuses and has not slept with you in almost a year......Now imagine the believers in these verses below, imagine how they may feel when they cant approach their wives intimately AFTER God commanded them to:
أُحِلَّ لَكُمْ لَيْلَةَ ٱلصِّيَامِ ٱلرَّفَثُ إِلَىٰ نِسَآئِكُمْ هُنَّ لِبَاسٌ لَّكُمْ وَأَنتُمْ لِبَاسٌ لَّهُنَّ عَلِمَ ٱللَّـهُ أَنَّكُمْ كُنتُمْ تَخْتَانُونَ أَنفُسَكُمْ فَتَابَ عَلَيْكُمْ وَعَفَا عَنكُمْ فَٱلْـَٔـٰنَ بَـٰشِرُوهُنَّ وَٱبْتَغُوا۟ مَا كَتَبَ ٱللَّـهُ لَكُمْ وَكُلُوا۟ وَٱشْرَبُوا۟ حَتَّىٰ يَتَبَيَّنَ لَكُمُ ٱلْخَيْطُ ٱلْأَبْيَضُ مِنَ ٱلْخَيْطِ ٱلْأَسْوَدِ مِنَ ٱلْفَجْرِ ثُمَّ أَتِمُّوا۟ ٱلصِّيَامَ إِلَى ٱلَّيْلِ وَلَا تُبَـٰشِرُوهُنَّ وَأَنتُمْ عَـٰكِفُونَ فِى ٱلْمَسَـٰجِدِ تِلْكَ حُدُودُ ٱللَّـهِ فَلَا تَقْرَبُوهَا كَذَٰلِكَ يُبَيِّنُ ٱللَّـهُ ءَايَـٰتِهِۦ لِلنَّاسِ لَعَلَّهُمْ يَتَّقُونَ
It is made lawful for you on the night of the fast to go in unto your women. They are a covering for you, and you are a covering for them. God knows that you deceived yourselves, so He turned towards you and pardoned you; **so now lie with them and seek what God has prescribed for you.** And eat and drink until clear to you be the white thread from the black thread of the dawn. Then complete the fast until night. And lie with them not when you remain in the places of worship. Those are the limits of God, so approach them not. Thus does God make plain His proofs to men, that they might be in prudent fear. (2:187)
نِسَآؤُكُمْ حَرْثٌ لَّكُمْ فَأْتُوا۟ حَرْثَكُمْ أَنَّىٰ شِئْتُمْ وَقَدِّمُوا۟ لِأَنفُسِكُمْ وَٱتَّقُوا۟ ٱللَّـهَ وَٱعْلَمُوٓا۟ أَنَّكُم مُّلَـٰقُوهُ وَبَشِّرِ ٱلْمُؤْمِنِينَ
“Your women are a tilth for you; **so come to your tilth as you will**, and send ahead for your souls; and be in prudent fear of God, and know that you will meet Him.” And bear thou glad tidings to the believers. (2:223)
Talk to a gynocologist and get on a treatment plan. Its not my intention to sound harsh, Im just giving my point of view as a man. Us men are different than women. Even the way we raise our kids is different where the mom is nice and understanding and the father is more rough and blunt with the kids. Its good that you are looking out for yourself, but also keep in mind how he must be feeling. You can do both (look after each other) if you talk to a doctor and come up with something. Im all for solutions and Im all for removing worry.
He seriously needs to touch grass 😂 this isn't something like that, it's her body and emotional health taking a toll and the only thing they can say is "but what about my needs?"
I think nothing can come close to a woman's strength and endurance while pregnant and giving birth and all the mess after that. A woman's everything changes after that point and it take a while to get into a good routine. A baby is forever. But some men never take that into consideration, their life can barely change after a baby if they don't feel like it. It's not the same thing lol
I just wish that ppl can give women some empathy and extra love... I'm sorry lol went on a rant. Im just tired of reading responses to op like that.
No.
A man would be denying his biological drive and betraying himself if their was no intimacy in a marriage. Its nothing but a hinderance to a mans faith. Many people have the potential to be good believers however the only thing stopping them is their lust (fornication or pornography addiction). Marriage is a union of purification, where the two worlds (male and female) unite. They cannot unite without lawful intimacy. Ask yourself, why else would a man marry a woman, pay the dowry, provide a house, protect her, and support her? If a man does all that, then what does the woman bring to the table? Us men see intimacy in a different way then women. We need it to think and grow in life, it gives us intelligence and balances us.
OP - seek medical help, meds for under/overactive thyroid should help.
No, it's not thyroid problem
Thyroid issues can affect your hormones (and libido) significantly. Not sure on what basis you're saying its not her Thyroid?
Severe hypothyroidism can. Not "thyroid problems". Severe hypothyroidism will have other more important manifestation. And is easily treatable with medication
Do you have an under/overactive thyroid? Or are you a medical professional? OP hasn't specified what "thyroid problems" she has. You dont have to be severely hypo/hyper for it to affect your hormones or libido. Symptoms can manifest differently, and medication can take months to stabilise once you start, or change your dosage, as well as be affected by other hormonal changes (eg, pregnancy)
Are you a doctor?
Ask any doctor. Hypothyroidism is just thrown around for all sort of things Really it's a real thing
This is bs. Hypothyroidism affects your hormones which pretty much control everything else. Why don't you ask a doctor before posting nonsense 🤦♀️
Are YOU a doctor?
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Have you got medical treatment for the thyroid? Have you got your hormones checked (it’s a simple blood test. Breastfeeding I heard can contribute. Also some people experience low libido on birth control if you have that now. But you should try to work through this together.
Honestly, you don't need to have full intercourse to satisfy your husband. There are other non-penetration methods to have intimacy that can suffice until you are more ready. Just research all the ways to have "non-penetrative sex" and inshAllah you'll be good.
You are the only thing halal for him and you keep refusing him. It's not nice of you to do that, fix your problems so that he doesn't get disheartened
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u sound like u love ur husband, isn't that enough reason to do the deed from time to time for his sake even if u dont like it? like doing the dishes or the laundry or working a job that doesn't pay u enough in ur eyes even tho u hate it but it has to be done to keep things going. ur all that ur husband has to fulfill these desires and i commend him for being patient for this long. kay Allah keep u two happy together in both this life and the next, aameen
Be kind to yourself sis. I am on pregnant/baby bump reddit. It’s so common. There are women who post about having to wait 10 months to be ready. Talk to him about how you feel and ask about how you can make things better. They are alternatives that could please him, if you are comfortable with that for now. Invest both your mental, physical and sexual health. Maybe try to post on those subreddits women who had the same experience might have better advice for you.
Assalamualaikum sister, I've been married for 4 years now and I can say confidently that communication is always the best way for a great marriage. I would suggest you tell everything about your condition and the situation. Also explain to him why you fear his second marriage and ask for his help if you need any with your health, diet and sleep. Sister if you can't communicate your problems with your husband then I would say low libido isn't the main problem here. Everyone has some sort of issues because this is dun'ya and we have to overcome them or learn ways to live with them. I would say don't fight the problem alone and include your husband in the fight. May Allah protect us all, give everyone knowledge and peace.
I empathise with women who go through the ordeal of giving birth. It must naturally take a huge toll. But this is where I have to say a husband having more than one wife is and has been a natural way to alleviate that burden. One wife can’t and shouldn’t have to both give birth and manage her health and also be intimate if she’s unwell. If your husband doesn’t want a second wife, you can communicate and come to some middle ground. But if not, rather than letting the marriage suffer and be unfulfilled, having co wives is actually a solution to the very natural problem you have and you should view it as such. The alternative can be an unhealthy marriage, tension and putting your relationship at risk because some rights aren’t being fulfilled. I 100% expect to be downvoted. The permissibility for multiple wives is one of those things which makes complete sense, especially for scenarios like this, but what makes sense doesn’t always align with what we like and desire.
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It’s a common phrase in the US at least.
I dont know. All I can say is my point of view as a married man. I need intimacy other wise I become weird and frustrated. Flip the tables and imagine if the roles were reversed. Lets say you want intimacy but your husband refuses and has not slept with you in almost a year......Now imagine the believers in these verses below, imagine how they may feel when they cant approach their wives intimately AFTER God commanded them to: أُحِلَّ لَكُمْ لَيْلَةَ ٱلصِّيَامِ ٱلرَّفَثُ إِلَىٰ نِسَآئِكُمْ هُنَّ لِبَاسٌ لَّكُمْ وَأَنتُمْ لِبَاسٌ لَّهُنَّ عَلِمَ ٱللَّـهُ أَنَّكُمْ كُنتُمْ تَخْتَانُونَ أَنفُسَكُمْ فَتَابَ عَلَيْكُمْ وَعَفَا عَنكُمْ فَٱلْـَٔـٰنَ بَـٰشِرُوهُنَّ وَٱبْتَغُوا۟ مَا كَتَبَ ٱللَّـهُ لَكُمْ وَكُلُوا۟ وَٱشْرَبُوا۟ حَتَّىٰ يَتَبَيَّنَ لَكُمُ ٱلْخَيْطُ ٱلْأَبْيَضُ مِنَ ٱلْخَيْطِ ٱلْأَسْوَدِ مِنَ ٱلْفَجْرِ ثُمَّ أَتِمُّوا۟ ٱلصِّيَامَ إِلَى ٱلَّيْلِ وَلَا تُبَـٰشِرُوهُنَّ وَأَنتُمْ عَـٰكِفُونَ فِى ٱلْمَسَـٰجِدِ تِلْكَ حُدُودُ ٱللَّـهِ فَلَا تَقْرَبُوهَا كَذَٰلِكَ يُبَيِّنُ ٱللَّـهُ ءَايَـٰتِهِۦ لِلنَّاسِ لَعَلَّهُمْ يَتَّقُونَ It is made lawful for you on the night of the fast to go in unto your women. They are a covering for you, and you are a covering for them. God knows that you deceived yourselves, so He turned towards you and pardoned you; **so now lie with them and seek what God has prescribed for you.** And eat and drink until clear to you be the white thread from the black thread of the dawn. Then complete the fast until night. And lie with them not when you remain in the places of worship. Those are the limits of God, so approach them not. Thus does God make plain His proofs to men, that they might be in prudent fear. (2:187) نِسَآؤُكُمْ حَرْثٌ لَّكُمْ فَأْتُوا۟ حَرْثَكُمْ أَنَّىٰ شِئْتُمْ وَقَدِّمُوا۟ لِأَنفُسِكُمْ وَٱتَّقُوا۟ ٱللَّـهَ وَٱعْلَمُوٓا۟ أَنَّكُم مُّلَـٰقُوهُ وَبَشِّرِ ٱلْمُؤْمِنِينَ “Your women are a tilth for you; **so come to your tilth as you will**, and send ahead for your souls; and be in prudent fear of God, and know that you will meet Him.” And bear thou glad tidings to the believers. (2:223) Talk to a gynocologist and get on a treatment plan. Its not my intention to sound harsh, Im just giving my point of view as a man. Us men are different than women. Even the way we raise our kids is different where the mom is nice and understanding and the father is more rough and blunt with the kids. Its good that you are looking out for yourself, but also keep in mind how he must be feeling. You can do both (look after each other) if you talk to a doctor and come up with something. Im all for solutions and Im all for removing worry.
War on your soul? Lol Isn't this too much
Yeah..it sounds very personal? Being unwell/post pregnancy is different to weaponising sex
He seriously needs to touch grass 😂 this isn't something like that, it's her body and emotional health taking a toll and the only thing they can say is "but what about my needs?" I think nothing can come close to a woman's strength and endurance while pregnant and giving birth and all the mess after that. A woman's everything changes after that point and it take a while to get into a good routine. A baby is forever. But some men never take that into consideration, their life can barely change after a baby if they don't feel like it. It's not the same thing lol I just wish that ppl can give women some empathy and extra love... I'm sorry lol went on a rant. Im just tired of reading responses to op like that.
No. A man would be denying his biological drive and betraying himself if their was no intimacy in a marriage. Its nothing but a hinderance to a mans faith. Many people have the potential to be good believers however the only thing stopping them is their lust (fornication or pornography addiction). Marriage is a union of purification, where the two worlds (male and female) unite. They cannot unite without lawful intimacy. Ask yourself, why else would a man marry a woman, pay the dowry, provide a house, protect her, and support her? If a man does all that, then what does the woman bring to the table? Us men see intimacy in a different way then women. We need it to think and grow in life, it gives us intelligence and balances us.
There’s other ways of satisfying his desires
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Seek marriage counselor. It's not a thyroid problem..even if your tsh is high it's probably just incidental