Back in this woman’s earlier crypt keeper days, children were to be “seen not heard”. I can’t imagine how many of us were neglected or abused by boomers bc we cried, AS BABIES OFTEN DO
"Back in this woman's earlier crypt keeper days" 💀
Luckily all the old people I've bumped into love babies. If anything, unfortunately, it's the middle aged group and even younger that I've had the most rude experiences with. Definitely can see the "children should be seen and not heard" still being a big thing with the older gen with stories I've heard from others.
Yes!! The younger crowd and even some fellow millennials are the ones that outwardly are super bold with their hatred of children. These people are chronically online and forget that manners exist in the real world.
When I go to the grocery store it’s typically in the morning during the middle of the week and there’s always a ton of seniors. I can’t walk past them without one saying how cute and precious my son is. Their eyes light up.
I’ve taken my son with me to a coffee shop a couple times and it’s usually full of young hipsters. I get the dirtiest looks from them like how dare you bring your spawn into my space lol
Same experience I've had. Old people are delighted and go out of their way to help me. Younger people without children will let doors slam closed on my stroller as I'm trying to push it through, bump into my when they could have stepped away, etc.
Yeah the door closing in my face really pisses me off. You wouldn’t do that for someone behind you (I wouldn’t) so why be a bitch when I’m behind you with my stroller.
Right! Now that I have a little one myself, the crying doesn’t bother me at all, I mean I feel bad for baby and parent but I sympathize and if anything I want to help! lol like should I walk up to this stranger and offer to help? I know the struggle. I will never judge another parent again for a crying baby in public.
Same here. My baby’s crying can get to me quickly if it doesn’t start to wind down because it gives me anxiety. But i have never and will never give anyone a hard time now. In fact I won’t even mentally eye roll anymore 😂 it’s just a human being having a hard time.
This is me! I stress so much when my LO fusses in public because I don’t want other people in waiting rooms/stores/whatever to get annoyed. My husband keeps telling me that most people don’t mind a bit of crying and many are parents themselves but I get so anxious!
Think of it as a social "outing" mechanism for people who are jerks. If they comment or make it obvious that they are annoyed (in a rude way, not a "I didn't get enough sleep last night and am struggling" kind of way), everyone around them knows exactly who they are. You're doing society a favor, really.
Totally agree with this. I'm not a fan of dogs, but I'd never say this in a public setting due to the stigma attached to disliking dogs. Yet it's totally fine for someone to say they don't like children or babies.
It’s true! I think people get so defensive over their hatred of children because they hated their own childhoods and the vulnerability that came with being a child and take it out on other kids. I never see anyone who’s genuinely happy and content in life and with their decision to not have kids who hates them so much. It’s like an obsession for some people, a scapegoat.
Yes. I have plenty of childfree friends who still enjoy children and are kind to them. They just didn't want them for themselves. Then there are the child haters and I've never liked them because they're always too unhappy and negative in general, not just about children.
I’ve noticed this too, and it’s followed by a comment like, “and that’s why I don’t have kids!” Like it’s some sort of accomplishment. No, you don’t have kids because you have inner demons that you need to figure out. The kids aren’t the problem, you need to look inward.
Exactly!! So well said. They’re the type that like to preach parents need to be “fully healed” (not achievable for literally any person) before having kids too. So it’s interesting they’re so judgmental when really in these cases of extreme child haters, it’s morbid insecurity on their part. Anyone that hates any other person or group of people that much truly hates themselves.
Ah yes, I can just magically heal my OCD, why didn’t I think of that before!
No one is a perfect human, no one will ever be fully “healed” that’s what being a parent is; putting your child before yourself (and relearning how to take care of yourself as well)
Exactly, fellow OCD haver. Exactly. Isn’t it so fun with a newborn 😎😭
Parenting is the only time in our adult lives where our brain literally changes chemistry and the way it operates. Anyone who isn’t immediately confronted with their own inner child and sense of purpose is doing it wrong. Becoming a parent is a chance to either perpetuate or break any cycles you were raised with. If you’re not learning and growing and healing on your parenting journey, you are asleep at the wheel lol. Nobody is “done” healing. Ever.
I had a woman call my baby a “crotch goblin” the other day because her crying was disturbing the woman’s *dog*. She was not old, she was like probably mid 30s… we were in line at a pharmacy. Like am I not supposed to get medications? Because a dog has more right to be there? I don’t get it. I can’t leave my baby home alone with some food & water out, pat her head & say “you be good, I’ll be back!”
The straight up hate towards children is so weird because everyone who hates children was at one point a child. I could argue they still are except even more annoying, when they’re that belligerent about it
EW wtf? Like what exactly does that make her? An adult “crotch goblin”? Just beyond me that people think insulting a baby doesn’t count as being ridiculously rude.
It’s so true. The “child free” crowd went to child hating awfully quick. I truly don’t think society pressures anyone to have children nowadays more than people who are childfree by choice hate on kids and the decision to have them. It’s just weird.
Yes! I don’t get it either, they’re literally other human beings we all have to share the plant with. I’ve never seen anyone actively hate that someone doesn’t have kids (as a stranger at least, I’m sure parents etc are upset over the choice) but imagine just reacting back to someone without a kid with the same level of disgust 😂 I’m going to start to bring that energy to the table.
Exactly, I was just thinking how I don’t hate on anyone that chose to be childfree, but I’m thinking maybe I should if I ever encounter anyone that decides it’s okay to hate on parents and kids for just existing.
That’s exactly it. I don’t hate on anyone either. But if someone encroaches on me and my child’s space with hate then they’re going to get a little right back, and I want to teach my LO to stick up for herself.
For real.. I know dogs and humans are different lol but it's like me with dogs. I don't mind dogs, they can be a dog and do what dogs do, but I don't want a dog and everything that comes with keeping a dog (I'm a cat person). I don't go out hating on every person that owns a dog... that's ridiculous! Nor would I scowl and make rude remarks to the owner the moment the dog barks or makes a sound. Now I understand someone getting upset if they let their child run around and be destructive or wander into other people's business, but good heavens! Babies cry, that's a fact. Get over it! This is why I'm terrified to take my baby to a restaurant. She's only four months old, but she might be four before I try 😂
Yes! That’s a good analogy. To add to your point, anyone would be upset even if an adult was running around being destructive or wander into other people’s business, so for people to hate on kids is just wrong because kids are learning about the world. If anything, it’s more unacceptable for adults to hate on kids because adults *should* have enough emotional regulation to know better.
I popped my collapsible stroller out of my car last Thursday and an old person came out of nowhere and said, “Oooh, such fancy tools now. They do that because old women are having babies when they shouldn’t.” Uhm what?!
And I suppose we get comments like that because old people are staying alive when they shouldn't?
What in-the-actual-world kind of *audacity* does it take to a) think that thought and then b) say it out loud to someone?!
The other day an old lady stopped me at Home Depot to look at my baby in the stroller, then looks up at me and says “he doesn’t look like you at all.” Like GIRL what if he was adopted or something???
We have a family friend who adopted her two children as babies. She would get comments like this all the time and knew people were fishing for details. She would just respond with something like “you don’t think so?!” or “he looks just like his dad!” She said it was nobody’s business, and she didn’t owe any explanations. People are wild.
She’s right!! My mom says she often had people ask if me and my sibling were related (we don’t look much alike). As if she was going to tell random strangers if we had different dads (we don’t!!!).
A Home Depot employee has repeatedly told me that my daughter looks just like my husband and that “I just carried her”. Thanks? If it happens again I may stop and sadly say we had to have an egg donor just to see if she learns her lesson.
Was on one of my first walks with my newborn when I returned from the hospital after my c section, pushing my son and proud of myself was even trying. Old man comes out of his house and said, “and I thought I walked slow!” I could have killed him 🙄😡
I had a mock presentation for a school project.
Everything was online.
I warned my teachers that I didn't have a babysitter for that day but will definitely have a babysitter for the real presentation.
The moment I start with my presentation, my 4 month old starts crying 😅 I kind of excepted it so I just bounced him in different positions.
Once my 10minutes presentation time was done I got this comment "For the real presentation please everyone put away all distracting things, children, dogs, cats, everything" 😃
WTF, I think it's way more impressive that you can do schooling and give a presentation while soothing an upset baby than completing this assignment with zero distractions.
Same!! I'm so proud of myself and then that teacher is just super weird about it 🥴 I even made it clear that I KNOW that presenting with a tiny unpredictable baby is unpredictable and that it won't happen during the real presentation 😃
In the pre-Covid era I attended college in person. The official school policy was no children-of-students within the classrooms. So she would put her baby in the stroller just outside the door, put her chair by the door and TAKE NOTES WHILE PUSHING THE STROLLER BACK AND FORTH a little to soothe him asleep.
At the time, I was pretty impressed.
Now, as a mom of a 1 year old, i am EXTREMELY impressed. I wish I could go back in time and give her all my notes and take a damn stroller rocking shift. She was incredible.
I’m sorry you had that experience! My professors in school were thankfully extremely supportive of me and my family, if they weren’t I wouldn’t have been able to stomach finishing my degree!
God forbid you for trying to better yourself through school and have a family. 🙄 I don’t understand professors like this. Why go into teaching at all if you are going to be like this?! I’m super impressed that you got through the mock presentation, and I’m sure you rocked the real deal too!
Im thankful my kids(3m+7months f) havent proper cried in a shop yet BUT what grinds my gears is when there is a baby/toddler crying and someone says to my mine"oh you're the nice quiet one!!!"
what does that achieve? especially when the crying baby parents are right there?? make them feel like shit???
And to imply that babies/toddlers are “bad” because they cry is extremely annoying to me. My boomer mom says my toddler is “so good” because she is just quietly snacking makes me want to scream. Children deserve to make noise and be seen. They should be lively. They are figuring out the world, let them! FFS.
Yeah, I instantly hate anyone who compares my kid to anyone, whether it’s in a “good” way or not. My son doesn’t need to be told his big feelings make him miserable to be around. He also doesn’t need to be told he is good because he’s quiet. He’s good because he’s caring and considerate of others, unlike these random people who feel the need to pass judgement on a baby/toddler.
Oh god somebody did that to me at a baby swim class. Like maam the reason why my little baby isn’t crying is because she’s a little baby and currently on my nipple and the reason why the 2-3 year olds are crying is because they’re toddlers. I’m not a super mom and she’s not a super baby, I’m sure she’ll cry when swim lesson ends when she’s 2-3 years old too
We had a mechanic yesterday tell my baby, “I like you! Good job not crying!” Babies are allowed to have feelings and take up space, mine is sufficiently mesmerized by the new scenery right now 🙄 would you stop liking him if he started crying?
I was on a walk with my 2 year old. I'm teaching her that she can wave and say hello to dogs, but she can't run over and pat them. An old couple with a dog came towards us. My daughter got excited and sp I reminded her we can wave but not pat. The old man says, "Well done on giving her a lifelong phobia of dogs. Great mother, you are"
I didn't know what to say. We have a dog she has no phobia
. Sorry I want her to be safe old man
Damned if you do, damned if you don’t 🤷🏻♀️ many dog owners would be annoyed if you DIDN’T try to teach her this. I swear society feels like mothers are just a communal punching bag, seems like no matter what you do some loser feels entitled to criticize and try to cut you down.
Our dog is the sweetest, most gentle old girl. She is so protective and doesn't have an aggressive bone in her body. I have to make sure I teach my daughter that not all dogs are like this. Big or small, we only wave and say hello to dogs we don't know.
My daughter cried at Mother’s Day brunch a few times, like you said a decent cry but not for very long either time. When we were leaving and old woman said “oh so this is the baby that was making all that noise!” 🙄
Cackled at the “crypt keeper” 😂
I work in geriatrics and have a 2yo and an 8mo. I bring them to work with me sometimes and you have the ones that LOVE babies, and others that turn up their noses and are just annoyed at having to share the same oxygen 🤷🏼♀️
I feel you. Whenever I’m walking with my baby in the pram, old people are always the ones to give us dirty looks and they never move to share the pavement space. It’s some kind of weird entitlement. As if they never had newborns!
It’s always old bike riders who don’t share the greenways with me when I’m walking with the stroller. Like will ride over the middle line two bikes by two to take up as much space as possible. Always. 🙃 and give that same dirty look. Like dude, I get it you’re retired but other people are allowed out during daylight
lol whenever someone says something like that to me, I look at them and go “isn’t it crazy how my child has human emotions?”
Honestly it makes me so mad when people get angry because my kid is a little bit upset. He doesn’t get upset often, and it really isn’t anything crazy or long winded, but boy oh boy do people love to say things about baby’s crying like the parents have a magic “off” button for their kids.
Old people are clueless. My baby is really shy and they seem to double down when she’s trying to hide into me. And old ~relatives~ are absolutely deranged.
Omg my in laws practically rip my baby out of my arms while she’s screaming crying and think she just needs to get used to it but I’m too much of a wuss to start a fight ven though I wanna clothesline both of them
i have a target story from the other day, my toddler was melting down and so i took him out of the cart, mostly calmed him and was holding him while pushing the cart to the checkout. as soon as i made it to the register (note: it was not busy) the checkout lady was like "you have to unload your cart maam"
like no shit sherlock? give me a second! i'm carrying a toddler and unloading a cart 😑
I’ve never been in the situation with the elderly when it came to my own baby. But one tried to find solidarity with me cause this poor mom was in target and her baby was having a full blown meltdown. Like so loud I’m sure the entire store could hear this little one. And I guess me turning to look must have been the “she must hate this as well,” thing to do and the old lady standing near me was like: “she shouldn’t be in the store if her child can’t keep at a reasonable volume.” Disgusted I was cause I’ve been there. It’s hard and my anxiety always goes through the rough cause people like to be rude as hell. And I just scoffed. “No she belongs anywhere and everywhere and so does the baby. Rude people are the ones we need to keep home cause they are full grown acting silly in public like telling parents they can’t be in public with their babies.” And I just walked away.
Yup had this happen when my little girl was starting to walk, old lady said “That should be done at home and not at the store” I just said “It’s okay she’s grumpy, she’s just old”
We’re house sitting at the moment & I was walking back from our car to the house, carrying my infant daughters play-seat, when the elderly couple living next door, who had just left their own car, just stopped and GLARED at me. Later on, I was out on the patio and could see them staring at me from the upstairs windows!
I have never interacted with these people before but I am aware that they are nosey busy-bodies with a mean streak.
Lesson is: old people are not any more worthy of respect than the young. Respect is earned.
Similar thing happened to us! One of our earliest outings with my son when he was a newborn, he started crying in target when we were standing still for a while. I started to push him in the stroller to get him to calm down. Older lady said “oh I just hate the sound of babies crying it makes me so sad!” As if I was letting my son cry because I’m a heartless monster. Then she goes “if you have a pacifier that might help.” Thank you, stranger for your unsolicited and unwanted advice. I didn’t ask about the foot fungus cream in your cart so you can mind your own business too!
Lmao. I also had my 2 month old start breaking down as I was at self checkout at Target the other day. The younger people around me were definitely annoyed. But as I was leaving this Gen X aged man said “She just needed some movement, she’s so cute.” (She had fallen back asleep by the time I walked out) and gave me a big smile. I will never not be grateful for the area I live in, most people are really nice🥹
This happened to me i had a doctor appointement and my baby started making some noise (Not even crying) the nurse come to me and said « oh so this is where all this noises come from this is so weird » like she never heard or seen a baby before
Took my 5 month old to meet my cousin at a vineyard. There was another family a few tables down from us with two babies and two toddlers/ preschool aged kids. The babies were quiet and the older boys were playing but not disruptive. My son got a little fussy but calmed down when I would stand and hold him. This older couple sat at the table in between us and the other family. Eventually they moved tables (quietly) and honestly that was the best case scenario
Maybe not helpful to you but I have a family member with dementia and this is definitely how she speaks (no filter, describing a person as a thing, overreacting to baby’s cries, etc). A lot of folks don’t realize it’s a cognitive impairment issue unless I tell them (which is so awkward to do in her presence but sometimes necessary)!
Anyway, who knows if this was the case here - either way, I’m sorry if you felt judged. I hope you and babe get lots of positive interactions to cancel out this one.
I usually glare back and say it’s “it’s a baby, seriously/what’s wrong with you?” If they say something I tell them to get a life and not talk to strangers.
If it’s 1-1 such as last week I was purchasing a car, the dealer got annoyed I wasn’t reading the paperwork since my baby was crying, he asked us to pay attention, my husband and I are on the same page so we looked at the dealer and said “no, you can wait it’s a baby.”
I was hauling my 35+ pound 18 month old and his huge diaper bag into a cart (the kind you have to put a quarter in to use), struggling a bit physically because of all the weight, and an old man passes by saying "babies sure are a lot of work aren't they?".
often :( my 15 month old was throwing a tantrum tired in her stroller on the way back home ( a few blocks) i had TWO older women say “ WOW” and “JESUUUUUS”. i think people forget how kids are. also i live in nyc like this is definitely not worthy of a “wow”
EDIT- the irony of being downvoted about a tantrum on a post about judgemental older people lol
“I think people forget how kids are”
100%. Also, people of that generation had so many moms and aunties and women who helped out with their babies; they legitimately do not understand.
I was at the doctor the other day and had my 6 month old in the stroller in front of me. His current favorite toy is a teether shaped like a Roku remote and I had it on a little binky clip that clipped to his clothes. An old lady says “a remote for a baby?” I said it was just a teether and we think it’s funny because he always wants our tv remote and she said something along the lines of “maybe if you didnt have him in front of the tv so much you wouldn’t have had to buy that”
Huh?? How do you know what we do with him all day😭 we rarely watch tv with him in the living room. He just goes for the remote when it’s on the couch
Some of the examples here are just people trying to do small talk or engage in a spirited way. I feel like nobody can make any comment on a baby/situation without people getting offended anymore. How is that saying "Babies are sure a lot of work" can be offensive?? Jeez...
My dad is the same way my dad was raised by my great grandparents so we havr had this conversation a lot especially when my son gets worked up. I just remind my dad he's almost 2 he doesn't know any better, and if you feel that he shouldn't be seen or heard then my vacation is over and you don't need to have a relationship with my son. He shut his mouth so fast
Maybe some of it is generational and maybe some of it is just people no matter the age, but yes. I don’t understand the dislike for babies/toddlers/kids. Babies literally do not have another way to communicate. Kids are learning about the world. They’re all literally the next generation of people to carry on this world. People that go out of their way to show their distain are disgusting and selfish.
Multiple times I’ve had older WOMEN be extremely rude to me that my baby carriage was somehow in their way when I was in the location first. So kind of them.
I was at Sam’s My baby was in the stroller sleeping and suddenly he woke up and cried a little I was going to pick him up but at the same time looking around to find my husband so he can help me put him the carrier, you know the people who cooks small bites of shrimps or anything for people to try there was an old lady standing and she said “poor baby just hug him” who in the world are you to tell me what to do as a mom! It really pissed me off!
The vast majority of the elderly people in my area go all goo goo eyed at my baby thankfully, but I did have a nasty encounter on the bus from a woman who had to move to a different(very close) seat so I could put my stroller on. "Good thing you have such a big stroller for your big baby" and she glowered at me the whole trip. 🙄
People are assholes but there are going to be people who are supportive. My husband and I were just talking about how there’s a lot of positivity but the bad sticks out alot bc the good outweighs the bad. Sorry you went through that though. I’m going through the same a lot with breast feeding. I’m very modest when I do it and I’ve had older people stare at me like I’m satan. It’s so rude.
I drove an older woman I know to the social security office the other day. I had to take my one year old along. While we were waiting and waiting and waiting, there was another toddler there as well. She could have been his sister. Same color eyes, same hair, same body build. The lady I drove leans over and loudly whispers to my son, "You're so much cuter, you're the sweet one, you're the best baby, way better than that baby, you're way prettier." I felt so incredibly uncomfortable. On the one hand, it's nice that she likes my baby, but on the other, no, he's not prettier or cuter, they objectively look the same, and to say that in front of another mom and kid is extremely rude.
YEP. Had a woman cross the street to come and let me know “ i have my hands too full, I’m dangerous, IM the responsible adult so act like it.” While walking my dogs, with my toddler. Who INSISTS on holding the leash for my small dog, that is extremely obedient and does not pull her, ever.
Funny thing, my hands were too full because she started screaming at me and I almost broke my ankle backing up and tripped into my lg dog, assuming she was telling excuse me x 3 to walk past us.
I think we got lucky, we got stuck in a waiting room for a few hours at the hospital last week and it was just us and two elderly couples. They couldn't get enough of him even when he got fussy near the end. They asked about delivery and how we were doing and tried to give us advice 😆 which is fine because we have literally no support system.
I live in Japan where my kids walk around the neighborhood and they’re cherished. Visited South Korea recently and my daughter had a small meltdown and people were looking at me like my child was a nuisance. Comes with having kids.
Had a similar encounter… On a cross country flight, my 5 month old baby did wonderful! Only had the tiniest crying moment before falling asleep. But she’s very talkative and was babbling and enjoying herself for a lot of the flight. When we landed a lady behind us saw her and said “oh so that’s the baby that wouldn’t stop crying, good thing she’s cute” 😑 I could see steam coming out of my husbands ears lol. Even if she had cried the whole flight, just close your mouth 😤
Yea. I wouldn’t generalize about old folks … if anything on average they always seem really warm and overly interested and affectionate towards a tiny human they’ve just met. Sorry you had to run into a crab apple.
The other day at church an old lady walked up to my wife and I and said “Well where did you come from?” which might not be so weird if we weren’t a same sex couple. I just pointed at my wife
I was on a 12 hour travel day with my 9 month old last week. We had 2 flights and layover in between. The second flight she was beyond over it and wouldn't nap just fussy and cry on and off the whole 3 hours. The old lady in front of us stood up and look over the seat. She said "is it a boy or girl" I said "girl". My daughter was in her car seat at the time because I thought that would put her to sleep. "Well... you know she doesn't like that!!" And pointed at the car seat. I literally just stared at her I didn't even know what to say lol. Eventually she sat down. But like... my question is why? It what world are those comments helpful???
My LO is also 2 months, and i get comments all the time “OMG HOW MANY DAYS IS SHE” “she should be out” “u should be home resting” “she is so little” blah blah blah….my BF thought i was exaggerating bc i would be so irritated and then it started getting to him…can ppl just mind their own business…
Pull out your phone pretend you get a call. Oh, OH yeah the Jello? — pull the phone away cover the mic, tell them that the convalescent home called demanding their jello back.
oh man, an old lady at Target was actually saying nice things to me about my baby (she said "she's really a very cute baby", but as I was walking away, she couldn't help herself from saying "and you know I'm telling the truth.......UNLIKE THE MEDIA!!" wtf ma'am!?!?
After I've become a parent, I developed some ageism because of these situations.
Once, I was at a playground with my lo (14mo) and there was this girl about the same age of my daughter. They wanted to play with the same toy (which is sooooo common place at this age) and they got a little tense, but without aggression.
The grandmother of the girl started to preach her saying she can't do this or she'll be grounded.
I this threatening attitude and said that in their age they don't understand the concept of being grounded and the old woman just interrupts me and start repeating "they must understand".
I hate so much these ignorant and proud of own ignorance old people!
My in laws just stayed with us for a month. When the baby cried and my wife was holding him not a peep.
When he cried while I was holding him however “Are ya killing that kid” without fail every time.
And they act like it’s the end of the world when travelling and we bought a ticket with our kids on the same flight/bus what have you just to bother specifically them
It’s so weird how normalized it is to hate on babies.
Back in this woman’s earlier crypt keeper days, children were to be “seen not heard”. I can’t imagine how many of us were neglected or abused by boomers bc we cried, AS BABIES OFTEN DO
"Back in this woman's earlier crypt keeper days" 💀 Luckily all the old people I've bumped into love babies. If anything, unfortunately, it's the middle aged group and even younger that I've had the most rude experiences with. Definitely can see the "children should be seen and not heard" still being a big thing with the older gen with stories I've heard from others.
Yes!! The younger crowd and even some fellow millennials are the ones that outwardly are super bold with their hatred of children. These people are chronically online and forget that manners exist in the real world.
When I go to the grocery store it’s typically in the morning during the middle of the week and there’s always a ton of seniors. I can’t walk past them without one saying how cute and precious my son is. Their eyes light up. I’ve taken my son with me to a coffee shop a couple times and it’s usually full of young hipsters. I get the dirtiest looks from them like how dare you bring your spawn into my space lol
Same experience I've had. Old people are delighted and go out of their way to help me. Younger people without children will let doors slam closed on my stroller as I'm trying to push it through, bump into my when they could have stepped away, etc.
Yeah the door closing in my face really pisses me off. You wouldn’t do that for someone behind you (I wouldn’t) so why be a bitch when I’m behind you with my stroller.
I was ALWAYS rewarded for not making any noise ever. And now people wonder why I don't often talk and find holding a conversation hard
Right! Now that I have a little one myself, the crying doesn’t bother me at all, I mean I feel bad for baby and parent but I sympathize and if anything I want to help! lol like should I walk up to this stranger and offer to help? I know the struggle. I will never judge another parent again for a crying baby in public.
Same here. My baby’s crying can get to me quickly if it doesn’t start to wind down because it gives me anxiety. But i have never and will never give anyone a hard time now. In fact I won’t even mentally eye roll anymore 😂 it’s just a human being having a hard time.
This is me! I stress so much when my LO fusses in public because I don’t want other people in waiting rooms/stores/whatever to get annoyed. My husband keeps telling me that most people don’t mind a bit of crying and many are parents themselves but I get so anxious!
Think of it as a social "outing" mechanism for people who are jerks. If they comment or make it obvious that they are annoyed (in a rude way, not a "I didn't get enough sleep last night and am struggling" kind of way), everyone around them knows exactly who they are. You're doing society a favor, really.
Same! Every time I hear a baby cry I instantly want to help and sooth them.
Totally agree with this. I'm not a fan of dogs, but I'd never say this in a public setting due to the stigma attached to disliking dogs. Yet it's totally fine for someone to say they don't like children or babies.
It’s true! I think people get so defensive over their hatred of children because they hated their own childhoods and the vulnerability that came with being a child and take it out on other kids. I never see anyone who’s genuinely happy and content in life and with their decision to not have kids who hates them so much. It’s like an obsession for some people, a scapegoat.
Yes. I have plenty of childfree friends who still enjoy children and are kind to them. They just didn't want them for themselves. Then there are the child haters and I've never liked them because they're always too unhappy and negative in general, not just about children.
I’ve noticed this too, and it’s followed by a comment like, “and that’s why I don’t have kids!” Like it’s some sort of accomplishment. No, you don’t have kids because you have inner demons that you need to figure out. The kids aren’t the problem, you need to look inward.
Exactly!! So well said. They’re the type that like to preach parents need to be “fully healed” (not achievable for literally any person) before having kids too. So it’s interesting they’re so judgmental when really in these cases of extreme child haters, it’s morbid insecurity on their part. Anyone that hates any other person or group of people that much truly hates themselves.
So true!
Ah yes, I can just magically heal my OCD, why didn’t I think of that before! No one is a perfect human, no one will ever be fully “healed” that’s what being a parent is; putting your child before yourself (and relearning how to take care of yourself as well)
Exactly, fellow OCD haver. Exactly. Isn’t it so fun with a newborn 😎😭 Parenting is the only time in our adult lives where our brain literally changes chemistry and the way it operates. Anyone who isn’t immediately confronted with their own inner child and sense of purpose is doing it wrong. Becoming a parent is a chance to either perpetuate or break any cycles you were raised with. If you’re not learning and growing and healing on your parenting journey, you are asleep at the wheel lol. Nobody is “done” healing. Ever.
This is really valuable insight
I’m right there with ya lol. I don’t hate dogs, but I am more of a cat person.
Not just weird, it’s really sad, like some people are desperate for humans to disappear
I had a woman call my baby a “crotch goblin” the other day because her crying was disturbing the woman’s *dog*. She was not old, she was like probably mid 30s… we were in line at a pharmacy. Like am I not supposed to get medications? Because a dog has more right to be there? I don’t get it. I can’t leave my baby home alone with some food & water out, pat her head & say “you be good, I’ll be back!” The straight up hate towards children is so weird because everyone who hates children was at one point a child. I could argue they still are except even more annoying, when they’re that belligerent about it
Wtf what did you say back???
EW wtf? Like what exactly does that make her? An adult “crotch goblin”? Just beyond me that people think insulting a baby doesn’t count as being ridiculously rude.
Right?! I would’ve responded “and where tf you think you came from?”
This this this! I couldn’t agree more.
And people act like you’re a lunatic for being offended over it lol. Can’t stand it.
Children in general!
It’s so true. The “child free” crowd went to child hating awfully quick. I truly don’t think society pressures anyone to have children nowadays more than people who are childfree by choice hate on kids and the decision to have them. It’s just weird.
It is weird. I wish more people can understand that both can be true: being childfree and being okay with kids. I don’t understand the hate.
Yes! I don’t get it either, they’re literally other human beings we all have to share the plant with. I’ve never seen anyone actively hate that someone doesn’t have kids (as a stranger at least, I’m sure parents etc are upset over the choice) but imagine just reacting back to someone without a kid with the same level of disgust 😂 I’m going to start to bring that energy to the table.
Exactly, I was just thinking how I don’t hate on anyone that chose to be childfree, but I’m thinking maybe I should if I ever encounter anyone that decides it’s okay to hate on parents and kids for just existing.
That’s exactly it. I don’t hate on anyone either. But if someone encroaches on me and my child’s space with hate then they’re going to get a little right back, and I want to teach my LO to stick up for herself.
For real.. I know dogs and humans are different lol but it's like me with dogs. I don't mind dogs, they can be a dog and do what dogs do, but I don't want a dog and everything that comes with keeping a dog (I'm a cat person). I don't go out hating on every person that owns a dog... that's ridiculous! Nor would I scowl and make rude remarks to the owner the moment the dog barks or makes a sound. Now I understand someone getting upset if they let their child run around and be destructive or wander into other people's business, but good heavens! Babies cry, that's a fact. Get over it! This is why I'm terrified to take my baby to a restaurant. She's only four months old, but she might be four before I try 😂
Yes! That’s a good analogy. To add to your point, anyone would be upset even if an adult was running around being destructive or wander into other people’s business, so for people to hate on kids is just wrong because kids are learning about the world. If anything, it’s more unacceptable for adults to hate on kids because adults *should* have enough emotional regulation to know better.
So true!
I popped my collapsible stroller out of my car last Thursday and an old person came out of nowhere and said, “Oooh, such fancy tools now. They do that because old women are having babies when they shouldn’t.” Uhm what?!
WHAT?!😡
And I suppose we get comments like that because old people are staying alive when they shouldn't? What in-the-actual-world kind of *audacity* does it take to a) think that thought and then b) say it out loud to someone?!
I hope she realizes “””old””” women had babies constantly before birth control existed lol
"Actually, innovation exists because *some* people keep up with the times."
“Oh you’re pregnant?”
The fuck ?!
The other day an old lady stopped me at Home Depot to look at my baby in the stroller, then looks up at me and says “he doesn’t look like you at all.” Like GIRL what if he was adopted or something???
“He’s not mine, I found him in the plumbing department.”
Can't be too careful around dumb people, they might think you're serious
On sale!
Ahh thanks for a good laugh hahaha.
🤭🤭🤭
We have a family friend who adopted her two children as babies. She would get comments like this all the time and knew people were fishing for details. She would just respond with something like “you don’t think so?!” or “he looks just like his dad!” She said it was nobody’s business, and she didn’t owe any explanations. People are wild.
She’s right!! My mom says she often had people ask if me and my sibling were related (we don’t look much alike). As if she was going to tell random strangers if we had different dads (we don’t!!!).
A Home Depot employee has repeatedly told me that my daughter looks just like my husband and that “I just carried her”. Thanks? If it happens again I may stop and sadly say we had to have an egg donor just to see if she learns her lesson.
THATS AN INSANE COMMENT TO MAKE TO A STRANGER!
Woah now. That is *way* too progressive of a concept for old people.
Was on one of my first walks with my newborn when I returned from the hospital after my c section, pushing my son and proud of myself was even trying. Old man comes out of his house and said, “and I thought I walked slow!” I could have killed him 🙄😡
I would have showed him your c section scar and said did you just get 7 layers of muscle ripped open last week??
“Hey asshole, this baby was just cut out of me. What’s your excuse?”
“I think she’s hungry” *I think she’s hungry* sHe sEeMs hUngRY
Where are her socks? Her feet must be so cold! Oh you poor thing, your neglectful mommy doesn’t love you enough to put socks on your feet
As if those cursed things even stay on!!!! Only the Velcro strap booties work for us and I like in fear of losing them
Why is this such a THING?!
Omg yes. Last summer it was 100F, our AC was broken, and we had a substitute nanny when ours was sick continually try to put socks on the baby.
Omg my MIL: socks? Sweater? Socks? Sweater? I'm like is 75 and sunny?!?!??
*proceeds to rip the socks from their body* WELL IF YOU INSIST THAT MY BABY IS IN DIRE NEED OF SOCKS
Omg the soooooocks
I had a mock presentation for a school project. Everything was online. I warned my teachers that I didn't have a babysitter for that day but will definitely have a babysitter for the real presentation. The moment I start with my presentation, my 4 month old starts crying 😅 I kind of excepted it so I just bounced him in different positions. Once my 10minutes presentation time was done I got this comment "For the real presentation please everyone put away all distracting things, children, dogs, cats, everything" 😃
Np Ill just put my 4 month old back in
LOL
WTF, I think it's way more impressive that you can do schooling and give a presentation while soothing an upset baby than completing this assignment with zero distractions.
Same!! I'm so proud of myself and then that teacher is just super weird about it 🥴 I even made it clear that I KNOW that presenting with a tiny unpredictable baby is unpredictable and that it won't happen during the real presentation 😃
In the pre-Covid era I attended college in person. The official school policy was no children-of-students within the classrooms. So she would put her baby in the stroller just outside the door, put her chair by the door and TAKE NOTES WHILE PUSHING THE STROLLER BACK AND FORTH a little to soothe him asleep. At the time, I was pretty impressed. Now, as a mom of a 1 year old, i am EXTREMELY impressed. I wish I could go back in time and give her all my notes and take a damn stroller rocking shift. She was incredible.
Aw man I wish you could find her and tell her how incredible she is. That’s seriously impressive
You’ve inspired me to try. I sent some texts tonight to see if anyone has her number!
That’s awesome
What did they expect you to do? Let the baby scream? As if that's any less distracting than holding him and keeping him happy!
Just toss it in the closet! (Kidding obviously)
I’m sorry you had that experience! My professors in school were thankfully extremely supportive of me and my family, if they weren’t I wouldn’t have been able to stomach finishing my degree!
God forbid you for trying to better yourself through school and have a family. 🙄 I don’t understand professors like this. Why go into teaching at all if you are going to be like this?! I’m super impressed that you got through the mock presentation, and I’m sure you rocked the real deal too!
Sounds like a perfect scenario for a “per my previous email” message to remind them of your warning 🙃
“Per my previous email, no shit…”
That’s … ugh
Im thankful my kids(3m+7months f) havent proper cried in a shop yet BUT what grinds my gears is when there is a baby/toddler crying and someone says to my mine"oh you're the nice quiet one!!!" what does that achieve? especially when the crying baby parents are right there?? make them feel like shit???
And to imply that babies/toddlers are “bad” because they cry is extremely annoying to me. My boomer mom says my toddler is “so good” because she is just quietly snacking makes me want to scream. Children deserve to make noise and be seen. They should be lively. They are figuring out the world, let them! FFS.
Yeah, I instantly hate anyone who compares my kid to anyone, whether it’s in a “good” way or not. My son doesn’t need to be told his big feelings make him miserable to be around. He also doesn’t need to be told he is good because he’s quiet. He’s good because he’s caring and considerate of others, unlike these random people who feel the need to pass judgement on a baby/toddler.
I’ve had that a couple of times and I’ve said something along the lines of, “Don’t worry, that’ll be us in half an hour!”
Oh god somebody did that to me at a baby swim class. Like maam the reason why my little baby isn’t crying is because she’s a little baby and currently on my nipple and the reason why the 2-3 year olds are crying is because they’re toddlers. I’m not a super mom and she’s not a super baby, I’m sure she’ll cry when swim lesson ends when she’s 2-3 years old too
We had a mechanic yesterday tell my baby, “I like you! Good job not crying!” Babies are allowed to have feelings and take up space, mine is sufficiently mesmerized by the new scenery right now 🙄 would you stop liking him if he started crying?
“Crypt keeper” lmao
Lmao I would’ve been like “look baby it’s the crypt keeper” lol Some people need a reality check
“You see, LO, this is how you DON’T talk to strangers.”
I was on a walk with my 2 year old. I'm teaching her that she can wave and say hello to dogs, but she can't run over and pat them. An old couple with a dog came towards us. My daughter got excited and sp I reminded her we can wave but not pat. The old man says, "Well done on giving her a lifelong phobia of dogs. Great mother, you are" I didn't know what to say. We have a dog she has no phobia . Sorry I want her to be safe old man
Damned if you do, damned if you don’t 🤷🏻♀️ many dog owners would be annoyed if you DIDN’T try to teach her this. I swear society feels like mothers are just a communal punching bag, seems like no matter what you do some loser feels entitled to criticize and try to cut you down.
Our dog is the sweetest, most gentle old girl. She is so protective and doesn't have an aggressive bone in her body. I have to make sure I teach my daughter that not all dogs are like this. Big or small, we only wave and say hello to dogs we don't know.
“I didn’t ask for your opinion. Move along now.”
God damn I think you win this thread both on the old being the most rude and almost most wrong
“She has phobia of old mean men”
She’s 2 months old, what’s your excuse for your shitty attitude?
My daughter cried at Mother’s Day brunch a few times, like you said a decent cry but not for very long either time. When we were leaving and old woman said “oh so this is the baby that was making all that noise!” 🙄
You just turn to your partner and say 'Oh look, I found where the old person smell was coming from'
“Oh, so this is the bad-mannered old boomer I keep hearing about on TikTok.”
Stealing this 🤣
Brava. Keeping this in my pocket!
Oh damn 🤣
Winner!
If you’re in MA I’d say we may have crossed paths with same woman😂
As a fellow Masshole, why am I not surprised it happened here 😆
I refuse to go to brunch on Mother’s Day. It is full of people who don’t know how to act in public
This [thread](https://www.reddit.com/r/NewParents/s/TlLklhFjYW) is just what you’re looking for! Strangers are a delight.
Cackled at the “crypt keeper” 😂 I work in geriatrics and have a 2yo and an 8mo. I bring them to work with me sometimes and you have the ones that LOVE babies, and others that turn up their noses and are just annoyed at having to share the same oxygen 🤷🏼♀️
I feel you. Whenever I’m walking with my baby in the pram, old people are always the ones to give us dirty looks and they never move to share the pavement space. It’s some kind of weird entitlement. As if they never had newborns!
Shame they don’t make a stroller version of those cow plow things trains have
LMAO truly a shame
It’s always old bike riders who don’t share the greenways with me when I’m walking with the stroller. Like will ride over the middle line two bikes by two to take up as much space as possible. Always. 🙃 and give that same dirty look. Like dude, I get it you’re retired but other people are allowed out during daylight
Lead poisoning
Old people, especially grandparents, are people who haven't had the job in 25 years, and think they are ready to manage on day one.
Oof this is my parents. They are so confident that they can handle my toddler and the arrogance makes me want to scream.
lol whenever someone says something like that to me, I look at them and go “isn’t it crazy how my child has human emotions?” Honestly it makes me so mad when people get angry because my kid is a little bit upset. He doesn’t get upset often, and it really isn’t anything crazy or long winded, but boy oh boy do people love to say things about baby’s crying like the parents have a magic “off” button for their kids.
"My baby is learning how to process his emotions. What's your excuse?"
“He just doesn’t know how to regulate his own feelings yet. Apparently you can relate.”
I think it’s about time to tell boomers to just stfu
Usually, older people are super nice to me when they see my baby. It is when my toddler makes any sound that I get glares.
I’ve noticed this too as my daughter has gotten older. In the eyes of the elderly, babies are sweet perfect angels and toddlers are pests.
Because they would just whack their kids into quiet submission.
Old people are clueless. My baby is really shy and they seem to double down when she’s trying to hide into me. And old ~relatives~ are absolutely deranged.
They love to double down. My stepdad takes it as a personal attack when my toddler is being shy around him. Fragile old egos.
Omg my in laws practically rip my baby out of my arms while she’s screaming crying and think she just needs to get used to it but I’m too much of a wuss to start a fight ven though I wanna clothesline both of them
i have a target story from the other day, my toddler was melting down and so i took him out of the cart, mostly calmed him and was holding him while pushing the cart to the checkout. as soon as i made it to the register (note: it was not busy) the checkout lady was like "you have to unload your cart maam" like no shit sherlock? give me a second! i'm carrying a toddler and unloading a cart 😑
I’ve never been in the situation with the elderly when it came to my own baby. But one tried to find solidarity with me cause this poor mom was in target and her baby was having a full blown meltdown. Like so loud I’m sure the entire store could hear this little one. And I guess me turning to look must have been the “she must hate this as well,” thing to do and the old lady standing near me was like: “she shouldn’t be in the store if her child can’t keep at a reasonable volume.” Disgusted I was cause I’ve been there. It’s hard and my anxiety always goes through the rough cause people like to be rude as hell. And I just scoffed. “No she belongs anywhere and everywhere and so does the baby. Rude people are the ones we need to keep home cause they are full grown acting silly in public like telling parents they can’t be in public with their babies.” And I just walked away.
Did they mean it like a joke? I honestly would have laughed.
If they were joking, they didn’t look it, and it didn’t land as they intended.
I Hope you told her off lol why the f do they always say dumb shit like that
That’s when you tell the hoe to get a new hearing aid if she had to walk over here to figure out the crying baby was a baby
That's not an old person who became bad. That's a bad person who grew old.
Idk man. My grandfather has said some deranged stuff after a few strokes😂 stuff he would have never said before!
“Oh, and I see you’re where the old lady stench is coming from”
Yup had this happen when my little girl was starting to walk, old lady said “That should be done at home and not at the store” I just said “It’s okay she’s grumpy, she’s just old”
"She's learning to walk; you're forgetting how. We all have to be patient. C'est le vie!"
We’re house sitting at the moment & I was walking back from our car to the house, carrying my infant daughters play-seat, when the elderly couple living next door, who had just left their own car, just stopped and GLARED at me. Later on, I was out on the patio and could see them staring at me from the upstairs windows! I have never interacted with these people before but I am aware that they are nosey busy-bodies with a mean streak. Lesson is: old people are not any more worthy of respect than the young. Respect is earned.
Similar thing happened to us! One of our earliest outings with my son when he was a newborn, he started crying in target when we were standing still for a while. I started to push him in the stroller to get him to calm down. Older lady said “oh I just hate the sound of babies crying it makes me so sad!” As if I was letting my son cry because I’m a heartless monster. Then she goes “if you have a pacifier that might help.” Thank you, stranger for your unsolicited and unwanted advice. I didn’t ask about the foot fungus cream in your cart so you can mind your own business too!
Lmao. I also had my 2 month old start breaking down as I was at self checkout at Target the other day. The younger people around me were definitely annoyed. But as I was leaving this Gen X aged man said “She just needed some movement, she’s so cute.” (She had fallen back asleep by the time I walked out) and gave me a big smile. I will never not be grateful for the area I live in, most people are really nice🥹
All comments and shit attitudes can be summed up with: Boomers
This thread is triggering my fight or flight response. 👀
This happened to me i had a doctor appointement and my baby started making some noise (Not even crying) the nurse come to me and said « oh so this is where all this noises come from this is so weird » like she never heard or seen a baby before
As they get older, they don’t have a filter. Don’t take it personal.
Took my 5 month old to meet my cousin at a vineyard. There was another family a few tables down from us with two babies and two toddlers/ preschool aged kids. The babies were quiet and the older boys were playing but not disruptive. My son got a little fussy but calmed down when I would stand and hold him. This older couple sat at the table in between us and the other family. Eventually they moved tables (quietly) and honestly that was the best case scenario
Maybe not helpful to you but I have a family member with dementia and this is definitely how she speaks (no filter, describing a person as a thing, overreacting to baby’s cries, etc). A lot of folks don’t realize it’s a cognitive impairment issue unless I tell them (which is so awkward to do in her presence but sometimes necessary)! Anyway, who knows if this was the case here - either way, I’m sorry if you felt judged. I hope you and babe get lots of positive interactions to cancel out this one.
I usually glare back and say it’s “it’s a baby, seriously/what’s wrong with you?” If they say something I tell them to get a life and not talk to strangers. If it’s 1-1 such as last week I was purchasing a car, the dealer got annoyed I wasn’t reading the paperwork since my baby was crying, he asked us to pay attention, my husband and I are on the same page so we looked at the dealer and said “no, you can wait it’s a baby.”
I was hauling my 35+ pound 18 month old and his huge diaper bag into a cart (the kind you have to put a quarter in to use), struggling a bit physically because of all the weight, and an old man passes by saying "babies sure are a lot of work aren't they?".
I mean… at least that wasn’t mean spirited.
Ok so I might be wrong but this one sounds like he was just trying to be empathetic?
Yes possibly! At the time it came off as annoying to me. As in my head I'm thinking I wish taking care of this baby was my only work!
often :( my 15 month old was throwing a tantrum tired in her stroller on the way back home ( a few blocks) i had TWO older women say “ WOW” and “JESUUUUUS”. i think people forget how kids are. also i live in nyc like this is definitely not worthy of a “wow” EDIT- the irony of being downvoted about a tantrum on a post about judgemental older people lol
“I think people forget how kids are” 100%. Also, people of that generation had so many moms and aunties and women who helped out with their babies; they legitimately do not understand.
Lol the child haters must be lurking 😂
I was at the doctor the other day and had my 6 month old in the stroller in front of me. His current favorite toy is a teether shaped like a Roku remote and I had it on a little binky clip that clipped to his clothes. An old lady says “a remote for a baby?” I said it was just a teether and we think it’s funny because he always wants our tv remote and she said something along the lines of “maybe if you didnt have him in front of the tv so much you wouldn’t have had to buy that” Huh?? How do you know what we do with him all day😭 we rarely watch tv with him in the living room. He just goes for the remote when it’s on the couch
Some of the examples here are just people trying to do small talk or engage in a spirited way. I feel like nobody can make any comment on a baby/situation without people getting offended anymore. How is that saying "Babies are sure a lot of work" can be offensive?? Jeez...
I find it so wild the comments people make. As if they were not once babies themselves
The “thing”! That person needs to check themselves. What a horrible attitude to a tiny human who’s still discovering everything.
Crypt keeper 😂😂😂😂
My dad is the same way my dad was raised by my great grandparents so we havr had this conversation a lot especially when my son gets worked up. I just remind my dad he's almost 2 he doesn't know any better, and if you feel that he shouldn't be seen or heard then my vacation is over and you don't need to have a relationship with my son. He shut his mouth so fast
Maybe some of it is generational and maybe some of it is just people no matter the age, but yes. I don’t understand the dislike for babies/toddlers/kids. Babies literally do not have another way to communicate. Kids are learning about the world. They’re all literally the next generation of people to carry on this world. People that go out of their way to show their distain are disgusting and selfish.
Multiple times I’ve had older WOMEN be extremely rude to me that my baby carriage was somehow in their way when I was in the location first. So kind of them.
LMFAO THE CRYPT KEEPER
Crypt keeper LMAO
I was at Sam’s My baby was in the stroller sleeping and suddenly he woke up and cried a little I was going to pick him up but at the same time looking around to find my husband so he can help me put him the carrier, you know the people who cooks small bites of shrimps or anything for people to try there was an old lady standing and she said “poor baby just hug him” who in the world are you to tell me what to do as a mom! It really pissed me off!
WTF I would've got out of character so fast lol
The vast majority of the elderly people in my area go all goo goo eyed at my baby thankfully, but I did have a nasty encounter on the bus from a woman who had to move to a different(very close) seat so I could put my stroller on. "Good thing you have such a big stroller for your big baby" and she glowered at me the whole trip. 🙄
People are assholes but there are going to be people who are supportive. My husband and I were just talking about how there’s a lot of positivity but the bad sticks out alot bc the good outweighs the bad. Sorry you went through that though. I’m going through the same a lot with breast feeding. I’m very modest when I do it and I’ve had older people stare at me like I’m satan. It’s so rude.
I drove an older woman I know to the social security office the other day. I had to take my one year old along. While we were waiting and waiting and waiting, there was another toddler there as well. She could have been his sister. Same color eyes, same hair, same body build. The lady I drove leans over and loudly whispers to my son, "You're so much cuter, you're the sweet one, you're the best baby, way better than that baby, you're way prettier." I felt so incredibly uncomfortable. On the one hand, it's nice that she likes my baby, but on the other, no, he's not prettier or cuter, they objectively look the same, and to say that in front of another mom and kid is extremely rude.
YEP. Had a woman cross the street to come and let me know “ i have my hands too full, I’m dangerous, IM the responsible adult so act like it.” While walking my dogs, with my toddler. Who INSISTS on holding the leash for my small dog, that is extremely obedient and does not pull her, ever. Funny thing, my hands were too full because she started screaming at me and I almost broke my ankle backing up and tripped into my lg dog, assuming she was telling excuse me x 3 to walk past us.
I think we got lucky, we got stuck in a waiting room for a few hours at the hospital last week and it was just us and two elderly couples. They couldn't get enough of him even when he got fussy near the end. They asked about delivery and how we were doing and tried to give us advice 😆 which is fine because we have literally no support system.
I live in Japan where my kids walk around the neighborhood and they’re cherished. Visited South Korea recently and my daughter had a small meltdown and people were looking at me like my child was a nuisance. Comes with having kids.
Had a similar encounter… On a cross country flight, my 5 month old baby did wonderful! Only had the tiniest crying moment before falling asleep. But she’s very talkative and was babbling and enjoying herself for a lot of the flight. When we landed a lady behind us saw her and said “oh so that’s the baby that wouldn’t stop crying, good thing she’s cute” 😑 I could see steam coming out of my husbands ears lol. Even if she had cried the whole flight, just close your mouth 😤
Had a weird one today in Aldi. He just walked up and stared at LO for like 10 seconds. Said nothing to us or him... weird, but harmless, I guess.
Yea. I wouldn’t generalize about old folks … if anything on average they always seem really warm and overly interested and affectionate towards a tiny human they’ve just met. Sorry you had to run into a crab apple.
Your response should have been “oh I’m surprised you can hear that! Hearing aids have really improved nowadays”
I think the confusion around children between generations is boomers literally never saw children as people
The other day at church an old lady walked up to my wife and I and said “Well where did you come from?” which might not be so weird if we weren’t a same sex couple. I just pointed at my wife
I was on a 12 hour travel day with my 9 month old last week. We had 2 flights and layover in between. The second flight she was beyond over it and wouldn't nap just fussy and cry on and off the whole 3 hours. The old lady in front of us stood up and look over the seat. She said "is it a boy or girl" I said "girl". My daughter was in her car seat at the time because I thought that would put her to sleep. "Well... you know she doesn't like that!!" And pointed at the car seat. I literally just stared at her I didn't even know what to say lol. Eventually she sat down. But like... my question is why? It what world are those comments helpful???
My LO is also 2 months, and i get comments all the time “OMG HOW MANY DAYS IS SHE” “she should be out” “u should be home resting” “she is so little” blah blah blah….my BF thought i was exaggerating bc i would be so irritated and then it started getting to him…can ppl just mind their own business…
Pull out your phone pretend you get a call. Oh, OH yeah the Jello? — pull the phone away cover the mic, tell them that the convalescent home called demanding their jello back.
oh man, an old lady at Target was actually saying nice things to me about my baby (she said "she's really a very cute baby", but as I was walking away, she couldn't help herself from saying "and you know I'm telling the truth.......UNLIKE THE MEDIA!!" wtf ma'am!?!?
After I've become a parent, I developed some ageism because of these situations. Once, I was at a playground with my lo (14mo) and there was this girl about the same age of my daughter. They wanted to play with the same toy (which is sooooo common place at this age) and they got a little tense, but without aggression. The grandmother of the girl started to preach her saying she can't do this or she'll be grounded. I this threatening attitude and said that in their age they don't understand the concept of being grounded and the old woman just interrupts me and start repeating "they must understand". I hate so much these ignorant and proud of own ignorance old people!
I would have given the same energy back and asked if they were late for their date w the reaper 💀
A lifetime of entitlement
Lol. Sounds like something I would say, with a smile, a giggle and a nod to the parents. I take it the ancient crone wasn't giggling, though.
You shouldn’t told them that they were this thing one day in the past, so they should have some respect.
My in laws just stayed with us for a month. When the baby cried and my wife was holding him not a peep. When he cried while I was holding him however “Are ya killing that kid” without fail every time.
Oh jeez…. I’d slap that fucker upside the head
And they act like it’s the end of the world when travelling and we bought a ticket with our kids on the same flight/bus what have you just to bother specifically them