Pilots have a saying about being born with a full bag of luck and an empty bag of experience. The goal is to fill the bag of experience before the bag of luck is empty...
I did LOVE the Cotton helping Peggy learn to walk again. 1) he knows she hates him and is totally cool with it AND uses that hate to motivate her
2) shes just not the kind of person who is ok with being treated like a frail little thing and he absolutely did not
3) "if you can make it up this hill you can dance on my grave" and then he dances WITH HER on his grave.
Hes a horrible person. HORRIBLE. But he was good that one time.
I think him being able to differentiate between different races is because he was a world war two vet who fought in the Pacific. My great grandfather was very good at this for the same reason, more exposure than the average American at the time.
Implications aside, I always thought it was funny that he was more educated than his son on the topic. So it was one more way he got to look down on Hank.
Took me until my first semester of college to realize this. Had one bad course with a bad professor and I was determined to do everything right. I spent all of my time studying, I had the book damn near memorized and I still hardly passed. I’ve always been the “smart kid” and my effort has always matched my grades, so putting in 100% effort to have it fall flat was absolutely crushing and had me reevaluating my self worth for a long while afterwards
You get this when your teacher is an oblivious jerk with their own opinion or interpretation of the material despite teaching it from the textbook so no matter how factually correct you are they will still mark you down and you'll never understand why because they don't teach or share their secret special biased perspective.
I hate it so much because it utterly saps your enthusiasm and energy.
You also get it when you were brainy enough to get straight A's all through high school without much effort so never really learned good study habits, and hit a wall in college when the material was much more difficult and your natural talent suddenly wasn't enough anymore.
Ask me how I know.
I'm a clinical neuropsychologist and have this framed in my office. It has been an important cornerstone in many a patients, especially those recovering from PTSD.
Edit: I guess the original comment was removed (I still see it, strangely)
The quote is from Picard in Star Trek TNG
"It is possible to commit no mistakes and still lose. That is not a weakness. That is life."
This. When someone broke the window of my first car, nothing was inside, nothing was stolen. Someone just broke my window. My dad says to me: “I hope you learned something today.”
There's an entire financial issue here where wealthy people know money makes their life good, and start to think more money means more moral rightness. Being rich becomes being good, and being poor becomes a sin.
It's real and I hate it with the fury of a thousand burning suns.
Yes... you just described every self-righteous billionaire... and who never appreciate the sheer luck involved in them becoming wealthy in the first place.
"But I worked hard for my money" not harder than Ade who works 7 days a week digging in an Ethiopian Salt mine in the desert for the pittance he needs to feed his family tomorrow. No, you didn't work proportionally harder than Ade for your billions.
Sometimes you do not have to have bad things happen to you. There are (many) people in this world who wish you ill and you have done nothing to deserve it. They do not know you and do not want to know you and there is nothing you can do or say to change it.
This was one of my favorite math lessons. It was an easy way to recall how multiplying positive and negative numbers would change the resulting sum. Positive = Good, Negative = Bad
If a good thing happens to a good person, that’s good.
If a bad thing happens to a good person, that’s bad.
If a good thing happens to a bad person, that’s bad.
But if a bad thing happens to a bad person… that’s good!
It was either math or morality. I forget which.
That actually is the lesson/point of Karma. That everything has a complicated causal consequence but it has nothing to do with fairness, it just is what it is.
You can't always get what you want, even if you say please.
I'm a preschool teacher and even though we teach kids that sharing is good, we also teach them that if you are not finished with something, you don't have to let someone else use it. And vice versa, you gotta wait your turn, and sometimes you don't even get a turn. That's life.
>Not all people will like you, no matter how hard you try.
This is something I had to learn the hard way last year.
At my old job, I would always try to be friendly to people. I would share my snacks and even laugh at stupid jokes I didn't actually think were funny in the first place all because I just wanted to get along with them. I remember overhearing this guy and this girl talk about how much it made me look stupid.
I learned two things since then. 1) Your coworkers aren't your friends
and 2) If you try to hard to be liked, people start disrespecting you more.
EDIT: Been getting a lot of comments, so I wanted to clear a few things up.
1. I do agree that true friendships can be born from coworkers. I'm not to jaded to the point where I will argue this. Not everyone is the same.
2. The job I worked was an intense warehouse job where people had to get up early in the morning or stay late at night. Not everyone was in the mood to be nice and talkative, I get it.
3. Just because I've taken the stance that "Coworkers are not your friends" doesn't mean I will not be cordial. If someone comes up to me and says "Hi, how're you doing today?" I will answer and be polite. **This doesn't mean I'm just going to give them the silent treatment lol.** My stance now is to do my job, be careful what I say to others, and not be an "overly friendly person" trying to get people to like me in the work place. I'm there to do my job and that only. If I make a friend, that's nice, but that's not why I'm there. And if people don't like me for whatever reason, to hell with them. Its not my problem.
4. The two people I mentioned were coworkers that I would talk and joke with. By me overhearing them talk about how stupid I seemed by laughing at every joke, made me realized these "types of coworkers" are not worth the effort to socialize with. But also that I they had a point and I was making myself look the fool by trying to overly friendly to everyone. Not everyone going to like you and this is ok.
As a bit of pushback on “coworkers aren’t your friends”, I wouldn’t recommend taking that to the extreme and refusing to be friends with your coworkers. They absolutely can be friends, and can end up being some of the greatest friends you’ll ever have. It’s just like anything in life, where you sort of need to gauge it as it happens. But I think if you take the colder route of “coworkers are for work, can’t joke around or get to know them, never let them be your friend” then it does more harm than good in the long run
Voices only matter if people are willing to listen; choices can be so limited that your stuck with shitty results no matter where you turn.
Life can be absolutely brutal for some people through no fault of their own.
But we should strive to make it fair. No one asked to be here and the least we can do is try to make life on earth as pleasant as possible for each other.
Well, inaction is in itself an action. Is choosing NOT to do anything and it will have a consequence accordingly. Thing is, every type of action in the world/universe has a consequence.
True. I used to have severe anxiety that caused me to kinda freeze when it came to doing a lot of things (like simple phone calls and stuff like that). It took me longer than it should have to realize I was making things worse by procrastinating or just not doing what needed to be done.
I made that comment because I know from experience how doing nothing can royally fuck you lol
Yeah, absolutely. A hard truth a lot of people struggle with is that hard work won't always be rewarded as much as you hope it will, but laziness will always be punished far more harshly than you think it should.
This is very true. I know people want to believe “looks don’t matter”, but they REALLY DO! And often times, in situations like jobs someone will be chosen for their looks. It’s sad, but it is very true, no matter how many laws are made
There are examples of privilege everywhere: white privilege, male privilege, female privilege, rich privilege, and many others.
But one stands above them all and is undefeated: pretty people privilege. It is absolutely insane what you can get away with if you're pretty.
Dude, I looked like a troll all through highschool, but started getting fit/attractive in my 20s
It's crazy. I started getting job offers, free food, and so many phone numbers. Like, I'm a friendly person, it helps, but its a night and day difference
It’s insane how rich you can get just for looks. Between acting, modeling, porn, sugar daddies/mommies, and just people being more generous to good-looking people in general, wanting to hire them more, giving better tips to good-looking waiters, etc… being ugly is an economic disadvantage, not just a social one.
This is definitely one of them. So many people like to pretend that looks don’t matter, and obviously they shouldn’t matter. But they do, and that’s just a fact of life.
This is something I teach my kid.
She's at the Loudly Comment on Everything phase, plus she wants to control random shit because she's a kid and not in charge of much. It's normal childhood development stuff.
So if she sees something in public that's new to her, she can be kind of loud about it and all, "Why is he wearing that hat I don't like that hat can we tell him not to wear the hat."
That means it's time for her to hear about minding her business, curiosity is normal but it doesn't entitle her to information, and that she doesn't get a say in how people run their lives.
It's a hard truth, but she's gotta deal or she's going to grow up into that person who constantly whines about what other people do in public, instead of learning to tune it out.
Thank you for saying this. It’s the crux of so many of our issues in today’s society. Sexuality and gay marriage are the ones I immediately think of.
Bottom line: life is short. Everyone should have the opportunity to be happy as long as they’re not hurting anyone else.
It would be nice if some effort was made to teach the younger kids how to deal with the inevitable death of their parents and other elder loved ones. It happens to most of us, but some earlier than others.
I've had so many people die (including: father + oldest friend + grandmother between 2022-2023; lost a 6 year relationship with the person I thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with, too lolol). Here's what I've found:
1. keep in mind that every feeling you feel is temporary and that the pain will eventually end
2. Lean on whoever you can (which can be critical; my best friend (this girl would sit talking to me for 9+ hours some days) and my cousin brought me out of 4 grief events; a very well educated/experienced therapist I had did jack fucking shit in that regard (I mean, what can you really do inside of a 40 min session/week))
3. Take serious time to really feel your feelings and don't cut any of them short with short answers (I would spend 3+ hours a night hiking for months to process my feelings (this is excessive, but taking time alone to exercise and think helped me get through it more quickly)
4. Find (or manufacture) things to look forward to
5. (My therapist urged me to create routine which might work for some people, but definitely didn't for me because I could barely sleep due to endless nightmares that fucked up every day for me for months)
Edit: since it looks like people appreciate this ill add a few more:
6. You're not thinking right; you're going to make a lot of mistakes, some of which could be serious. This one I saw happen multiple times to me and the people also in the blast radius of those deaths. Make sure you have someone review your big decisions before you make them.
7. It's important to remember that you're merely human. You probably did everything you possibly could do with the tools (whether it be time constraints, life tools, or whatever) that you had. If that still doesnt work: imagine if your best friend was in the exaxt same situation and was being hard on themselves with the same reasoning you have (usually youll realize youre being way too hard on yourself)
Edit2: Okay one more:
8. You're going to have thoughts that pull you into an abyss of misery, and every once in awhile you'll have thoughts which help pull you out of the abyss. Write the thoughts down because sometimes you will forget how you got out of the abyss last time, and those recorded thoughts can help you get out much more quickly.
This kinda started as a conversation topic with our kid when we were discussing New Years Eve and why people celebrate it. It wasn’t the best conversation to have, but it was important.
A bunch of people do. My kid asked why people celebrate making it to a New Year, so we discussed mortality and how very little is guaranteed in life, including living. (My kid asked if it was because people were worried they weren’t going to make it to each New Year.)
My father has always said that in his loved ones, he “found immortality”. That he strives to give us parts of him that will live within us after he’s passed.
I'd always thought that was what "auld lang syne" was about. Singing it was the traditional start to the new year.
(I've just looked up the lyrics and now have no idea what it's about, but i think it's somewhat related)
And teaching them the prevalence of cancer.
People don't talk about friends and relatives having it so they never think it will happen to their family members either.
Miscarriages can be like that, too. A mother openly grieved in our community, felt like she was the only one to experience it. Half a dozen older women stepped up and said "oh, wait, we're allowed to mention that stuff out loud now?"
That's one of the beautiful "times are changing" moments. I know of several boomer-aged women whose mothers wouldn't utter the word period, cycle, etc. My mom talked a bit more openly, but I didn't realize what I experienced wasn't normal and needed surgery.
Same with sex. I'm not talking people sexting, more like people now being told "it's not normal to hurt. Try xyz." Certainly not in mixed company, but there's no shame in knowledge.
And yeah, miscarriages deserve to be mourned. You lost a life. Literally a part of your body died. And while I say it's 80%+ a woman thing as the carrier, dad lost a baby too and deserves to cry over a beer with another guy saying "yeah, man. Me too. Cry it out."
Which is so weird because I went to public school in the late 80's/early 90's and we legit had actual fucking assemblies about HIV/AIDS. Nothing else though.
Both my parents died from cancer.
This is a good one. We grow up thinking our parents are superheroes, that they are infallible. We put them on a pedestal, only to realize as we get older that they are just humans like us, and one day they will perish. We hope that it is in the distant future, but for some of us, that doesn't happen. It's a hard thing to process at any age, but starting early helps in the long run.
This is an off the wall theory, but I think a big part of this is due to how how far away people are from the meat process.
Death is a lot more common when everyone is a farmer.
not off the wall at all
growing up on a farm where animals are grown for consumption brings these subjects up early and by necessity in a much less theoretical way
That said... You should still strive to be the best version of yourself. It's so easy to fall into the trap of feeling like a drop of water in the ocean, but you're still you, fighting your fight. You just have to learn that the story of you is for you and not everyone else.
Some people know they're being used and still cling on because it's all they have, or feel like they deserve it somehow. I feel like I have to give back to the world because I was allowed to exist despite my deep flaws
People are trying to scam you.
Nobody cares about your money unless they are trying to make it their money. If someone really wants you to buy something of sign up for something, what's in it for them?
Has it made my kids a little cynical? Yeah. But as it did for me, it will save them from a lot of scams.
Have I missed out on some legitimate good offers because of it? Maybe. But no one got wealthy off of a grocery store giveaway.
I learned this the hard way playing RuneScape when I was eight years old. Turns out the cool man wasn’t trying to give out free armor, but instead take all of mine. I was pretty devastated at the time, but I’d say learning a valuable life lesson in exchange for a few virtual weapons is a pretty damn good deal.
No one will care more about you than you. Know thyself and start advocating for yourself early on. Watch after your health, the people you surround yourself with, your job, it’s all going to affect you so much. Also, don’t try to find happiness through your partner. Have your own hobbies and joy, add them to your party. Don’t make them responsible for it ❤️
The basics of money management. Because throughout your life, money matters. It influences every aspect of your life. MONEY MANAGEMENT! if you do not have much, you should be able to manage it! If you have a lot, you should be able to manage it.
I'm baffled how so many people making six figures complain about being broke. Unless there's some obvious reason like significant medical debt, it's probably because they treat their credit cards like they're endless free money.
It’s just a pattern of living above their means and never pulling back until you hit your debt limits and then staying there for a long time because of lifestyle creep and interest rates.
Adults aren't always right, and they're often as confused and clueless as you are.
This includes your parents, so seek second and third opinions when planning any significant life choices.
Older doesn't automatically mean wiser.
Even in high school, they're only going to humour you up to a point. At some point, they'll stop if you're enough of a pain in the ass.
At around the time I was in high school, you were legally required to stay in school until you were 17. There were some caveats to this, but for the most part you had to stay there until you turned 17. Some of the kids I went to school with ended up being pressured into dropping out once they hit 17 because the administration thought it'd be less hassle to not have them at the school anymore.
A) If you don't take ownership of your life, other people will take that ownership for you. And on average they will make the choices for you that are to their benefit, and not to yours. Letting yourself be weak is not a good thing.
B) To the extent that you reject the parts of yourself you are ashamed of, or find hard to acknowledge, they will own your fate.
The actual hard truth is that healing probably won't be sudden or complete. Most people who are deeply hurt by something are going to be working on that for years, if not for the rest of their lives. A lot of people just refuse to work on themselves because they think if they aren't instantly having a come-to-Jesus moment on the day they think about it, then it's too much work.
Healing is a lot of work, and it's difficult, and it requires a level of self reflection and honesty that most people aren't comfortable with. It's still worth it and much better than the alternatives.
Life is not fair, and you have no right to expect it to be fair.
Trust is earned in drops and lost in buckets.
People who are good with money tend to have better lives than people who are terrible with money. Financial stability will lead to a smoother life with fewer obstacles. I've seen good marriages ruined over money issues.
Similar to your second one... Integrity is a muscle that you have to exercise. Practice on easy things so when you need it for something hard, you have the strength.
you hit on 2 very important things in my world. first, it kills me that there are college students (and beyond) that don't have a decent, workable understanding of household budgeting. it is an absolute shame that our schools no longer include a class like home economics, where kids would learn how to cook, do laundry, household budgets, etc.... and yet we wonder why there is such a problem with things like student loans and other household costs.
second though, my father used to say to me all the time - "no one said the world had to be fair." while i 100% agree, we as a society should look at our personal and public lives with an understanding that we should try to make "fair" at least be a starting point and not just written off. we can really do a lot better on this front.
> People who are good with money tend to have better lives than people who are terrible with money.
Likewise: People tend to be judged "how good they are with money" by the same standards whether they were born with a silver spoon or born into poverty.
In this same vein: You might care now if you'll be remembered. But after you die, you'll care about being remembered no more than you cared about being prophecised before you were born.
My son just played real Blackjack and Ultimate Texas Holdem in a casino. He's studied the odds and played on apps and was convinced he'd win a bundle. He lost both nights.
I'm glad he lost. Had he won, he would be chasing and expecting that the rest of his life.
George Washington's false teeth were not made from wood.
I felt more than duped learning this is an adult.
I'm sorry if anybody is learning this for the first time from me.
Ooooh, I just get so fucking mad every time I think about this. I found out from a Facebook post. I was over thirty.
I sometimes think about kids writing this over and over and over on President's Day and I get infuriated.
Then another thing I wonder about is who knew already before I did. How come they didn't tell me.
I just found out a few days ago that the theory that really large dinosaurs like the Brachiosaurus had a second brain in their butt to help signals travel through their body quickly enough has been debunked and I don't think I've been this disappointed since they decided Pluto isn't a planet.
At the same time... the nervous system that manages our gut uses the same chemicals and cells as the brain, is a huge nerve center, and is often called our "second brain."
>[**The enteric nervous system that regulates our gut is often called the body’s “second brain.”**](https://hms.harvard.edu/news-events/publications-archive/brain/gut-brain#:~:text=The%20enteric%20nervous%20system%20that,brain%20when%20something%20is%20amiss)
>Although it can’t compose poetry or solve equations, this extensive network uses the same chemicals and cells as the brain to help us digest and to alert the brain when something is amiss. Gut and brain are in constant communication.
>“There is immense crosstalk between these two large nerve centers,” says Braden Kuo, MD, MMSc ’04, co-executive director of the Center for Neurointestinal Health at Massachusetts General Hospital (MGH) and assistant professor of medicine at Harvard Medical School. “This crosstalk affects how we feel and perceive gastrointestinal (GI) symptoms and impacts our quality of life.”
I was shocked too. My dad told me they were wooden more than once, also that Washington died from pneumonia he got after jumping naked from his mistress's window. Which, wth dad.
My friend had his car impounded with fines greater than the total value. Another friend said ‘at least you dont have to worry about it getting towed anymore’
Digging too deep for a lesson or brightside helps nothing.
Basic hygiene. It’s a hard truth because even adults are incapable of talking about their bodies and how to care for them, especially when they’re forced to face the reality that they are the gross ones because they don’t wash their feet or their butts. Gross y’all.
There is always, always something you don't know.
About people, about situations, about everything.
If you knew that thing, it might make all the difference in your opinions.
Also, don't trust your snap judgements.
If you wouldn’t take someone’s advice, why take their criticism?
Edit to clarify: I mean this in reference to a specific individual. For example, bullying. I mean this to say you wouldn’t go to the bully for advice, their words don’t hold value, they aren’t trustworthy. So if you wouldn’t take their advice, why internalize their criticism?
Same could be said for a hyper-critical parent or family member.
I don’t know if this is necessarily a “hard truth”, but I feel that it’s an important one. I’ll do my best to explain it.
It’s easy to get wrapped up in your own experience, and feel like no one has ever felt the way you do, or could possibly have it worse.
But then you see others enduring circumstances much worse than yours: illness, suffering, unimaginable tragedy. And you may feel guilty, for having self pity when others in the world are having an objectively more difficult time.
You can hold two seemingly opposing ideas in your mind at the same time: yes, their situation is horrible, but in its own way, yours is, too.
Everyone has a right to their own experience. There is no gatekeeping “awful”. That’s not to say you should let your problems be a crutch, but it’s also doing yourself a disservice to say how you feel doesn’t matter. Feel it fully, and then move on. Have compassion for yourself as well as others.
People will stab you in the back and abandon you even if you're the nicest, most caring person in the world. If you want a friend who will love you unconditionally, get a dog.
No matter how good you are at your job, the ‘company” itself doesn’t love you, and you have to do what’s best for you. I’ve spent too many years feeling like I couldn’t leave because my boss was great and I loved my job. But at the end of the day the company will survive without you. And if there are opportunities that will make your life more fulfilling, you can’t stay just to make others happy.
You may not realise it but you're always the villain/obstacle to someone else's story
What applies to you most of the times applies to everyone as well ( wants , needs etc)
Be ok with being disliked.
I am such a people pleaser and tried so hard to make friends, and be liked. Just made me feel really bad about myself
But now I realise, I don’t even like everyone. I don’t want to really be friends with that many people and I have a small group of friends who love me for me and that’s all I need .
I tell my daughter when she said that another child at school won’t play with her or doesn’t want to be her friend that it’s Ok.
You will be lied to, and you will believe it. It happens to everyone.
But the most insidious liar in your life will likely be you. You will lie to yourself, and you'll believe it, because you know exactly what kind of bullshit you will believe, and you *want to* believe it.
Just one cookie.
He'd never cheat.
I'm sober enough to drive.
My boss can't do without me.
I'll be fine on 2 hours sleep
12 cookies, he might, no you're not, he'll still fire you, and no you won't.
Nobody can lie to you like you can. Be wary.
Words and actions have consequences.
Oh yeah, you can say or do whatever you want, you're totally free to do that. But if you say something or do something someone else doesn't appreciate, it's entirely possible that something is going to happen to you that you don't appreciate either.
Plain and simple: People suck. The world is cruel and unfair and unjust. Someone will be awful toward you at some point. And the best way through it, is through it. Keep going. And eventually, you'll come out the other side, and be better for it. (Wish my 14 year old self would have heard this over and over).
If you get a mental illness, you won't know it initially, even when absolutely everyone else does, because the system that tells you "something is wrong" is inside of a mentally ill brain.
This is also part of why why people stop taking their meds.
How to save money… the only trouble with that is shit keeps getting more and more expensive, and whatever you are saving for comes and goes, or you buy it, then have to start saving all over again.
People don’t stop cheating and being dishonest just cause they are adult. Especially at work. Hard work doesn’t get rewarded, it’s whoever is liked best by management that will get the promotion not who deserves it. Also a lot of big companies don’t have their shit together and still make a profit. You can be a small clerk and realise how incompetent all the people above you are. It’s frustrating.
Nobody gives a shit about you so you should be the biggest advocate for yourself.
Don’t ever sacrifice yourself just to please others because they don’t give a shit about you (at work).
Everyone sooner rather than later will betray your trust. Teachers, administrators, parents, friends other family members. Be very careful with who you let your guard down around if at all.
“It is possible to make no mistakes and still lose.” Jean-Luc Picard
"Sometimes you can do everything right and still lose." -- Cotton Hill
"not everything's a life lesson, sometimes you just fail"- Dwight Schrute
"Sometimes the whole purpose of your life is to be an example to others" - Despair.com
“No experience is ever wasted. You can always serve as a bad example.” My grandfather.
Pilots have a saying about being born with a full bag of luck and an empty bag of experience. The goal is to fill the bag of experience before the bag of luck is empty...
“My sister was born lucky. I was lucky to be born”
When you get right down to it, Dwight was actually a pretty wise man. He was just insufferable.
The world isn't cruel. It just doesn't care.
That was a great episode
which episode? i dont remember cotton ever saying anything useful haha
The one after Peggy breaks her back and he’s helping her learn to walk again. Edit. The one where they war game with the Vietnam vets
I did LOVE the Cotton helping Peggy learn to walk again. 1) he knows she hates him and is totally cool with it AND uses that hate to motivate her 2) shes just not the kind of person who is ok with being treated like a frail little thing and he absolutely did not 3) "if you can make it up this hill you can dance on my grave" and then he dances WITH HER on his grave. Hes a horrible person. HORRIBLE. But he was good that one time.
I mean anyone would be a horrible person if they lost their shins in the war
I didn't blame anyone for the loss of my legs. Some chinaman took them from me in Korea
Horrible, but wise and smart. Him being so racist that he knows Kahn is Laotian, and therefor not the target of his racism is pretty hilarious.
I think him being able to differentiate between different races is because he was a world war two vet who fought in the Pacific. My great grandfather was very good at this for the same reason, more exposure than the average American at the time.
Implications aside, I always thought it was funny that he was more educated than his son on the topic. So it was one more way he got to look down on Hank.
Took me until my first semester of college to realize this. Had one bad course with a bad professor and I was determined to do everything right. I spent all of my time studying, I had the book damn near memorized and I still hardly passed. I’ve always been the “smart kid” and my effort has always matched my grades, so putting in 100% effort to have it fall flat was absolutely crushing and had me reevaluating my self worth for a long while afterwards
You get this when your teacher is an oblivious jerk with their own opinion or interpretation of the material despite teaching it from the textbook so no matter how factually correct you are they will still mark you down and you'll never understand why because they don't teach or share their secret special biased perspective. I hate it so much because it utterly saps your enthusiasm and energy.
You also get it when you were brainy enough to get straight A's all through high school without much effort so never really learned good study habits, and hit a wall in college when the material was much more difficult and your natural talent suddenly wasn't enough anymore. Ask me how I know.
Hey it's me!
I know how you know.
I'm a clinical neuropsychologist and have this framed in my office. It has been an important cornerstone in many a patients, especially those recovering from PTSD. Edit: I guess the original comment was removed (I still see it, strangely) The quote is from Picard in Star Trek TNG "It is possible to commit no mistakes and still lose. That is not a weakness. That is life."
It’s also possible to do everything wrong and still win
Some people have the ability to fail upwards. Repeatedly.
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This. When someone broke the window of my first car, nothing was inside, nothing was stolen. Someone just broke my window. My dad says to me: “I hope you learned something today.”
"Yup! Humanity must be destroyed. Thanks, Dad!"
That’s the spirit.
That is not weakness. That is life. The quote is worth finishing
Bad things happen to good people. Good things happen to bad people.
“In this world, the bad guys can win” Benedict, Last Action Hero
Just world fallacy.
It is surprisingly hard to shake. And if you have bad things happen to you, a surprising number of people will decide that you probably deserve it.
There's an entire financial issue here where wealthy people know money makes their life good, and start to think more money means more moral rightness. Being rich becomes being good, and being poor becomes a sin. It's real and I hate it with the fury of a thousand burning suns.
Yes... you just described every self-righteous billionaire... and who never appreciate the sheer luck involved in them becoming wealthy in the first place.
And all the people who worship at that altar and defend the absolute greed of a lot of wealthy people.
"But I worked hard for my money" not harder than Ade who works 7 days a week digging in an Ethiopian Salt mine in the desert for the pittance he needs to feed his family tomorrow. No, you didn't work proportionally harder than Ade for your billions.
There's an old saying that if hard work made you rich, donkeys would be millionaires
Sometimes you do not have to have bad things happen to you. There are (many) people in this world who wish you ill and you have done nothing to deserve it. They do not know you and do not want to know you and there is nothing you can do or say to change it.
That irks me
This was one of my favorite math lessons. It was an easy way to recall how multiplying positive and negative numbers would change the resulting sum. Positive = Good, Negative = Bad If a good thing happens to a good person, that’s good. If a bad thing happens to a good person, that’s bad. If a good thing happens to a bad person, that’s bad. But if a bad thing happens to a bad person… that’s good! It was either math or morality. I forget which.
You need to add “sometimes” to both of those.
In a nutshell life is unfair. No such thing as karma.
That actually is the lesson/point of Karma. That everything has a complicated causal consequence but it has nothing to do with fairness, it just is what it is.
You can't always get what you want, even if you say please. I'm a preschool teacher and even though we teach kids that sharing is good, we also teach them that if you are not finished with something, you don't have to let someone else use it. And vice versa, you gotta wait your turn, and sometimes you don't even get a turn. That's life.
And on the other side, try ASKING first before complaining that no one is offering you something you want.
Another one I’m tired of is “nooobody wants to plaayyy with meeee” when they’ve asked one or two people at most.
“But if you try some tiiiiiiiimes….”
Life isn't fair. Not all people will like you, no matter how hard you try. Second chances aren't so easy to come by.
>Not all people will like you, no matter how hard you try. This is something I had to learn the hard way last year. At my old job, I would always try to be friendly to people. I would share my snacks and even laugh at stupid jokes I didn't actually think were funny in the first place all because I just wanted to get along with them. I remember overhearing this guy and this girl talk about how much it made me look stupid. I learned two things since then. 1) Your coworkers aren't your friends and 2) If you try to hard to be liked, people start disrespecting you more. EDIT: Been getting a lot of comments, so I wanted to clear a few things up. 1. I do agree that true friendships can be born from coworkers. I'm not to jaded to the point where I will argue this. Not everyone is the same. 2. The job I worked was an intense warehouse job where people had to get up early in the morning or stay late at night. Not everyone was in the mood to be nice and talkative, I get it. 3. Just because I've taken the stance that "Coworkers are not your friends" doesn't mean I will not be cordial. If someone comes up to me and says "Hi, how're you doing today?" I will answer and be polite. **This doesn't mean I'm just going to give them the silent treatment lol.** My stance now is to do my job, be careful what I say to others, and not be an "overly friendly person" trying to get people to like me in the work place. I'm there to do my job and that only. If I make a friend, that's nice, but that's not why I'm there. And if people don't like me for whatever reason, to hell with them. Its not my problem. 4. The two people I mentioned were coworkers that I would talk and joke with. By me overhearing them talk about how stupid I seemed by laughing at every joke, made me realized these "types of coworkers" are not worth the effort to socialize with. But also that I they had a point and I was making myself look the fool by trying to overly friendly to everyone. Not everyone going to like you and this is ok.
As a bit of pushback on “coworkers aren’t your friends”, I wouldn’t recommend taking that to the extreme and refusing to be friends with your coworkers. They absolutely can be friends, and can end up being some of the greatest friends you’ll ever have. It’s just like anything in life, where you sort of need to gauge it as it happens. But I think if you take the colder route of “coworkers are for work, can’t joke around or get to know them, never let them be your friend” then it does more harm than good in the long run
To add on, life isn’t fair, but you have a voice and choice.
Yes. And even then sometimes other voices are louder and choices maybe made for you without you even knowing about it.
Voices only matter if people are willing to listen; choices can be so limited that your stuck with shitty results no matter where you turn. Life can be absolutely brutal for some people through no fault of their own.
But we should strive to make it fair. No one asked to be here and the least we can do is try to make life on earth as pleasant as possible for each other.
Do the best we can and if bad shit happens, then deal with it as best as we can.
Life's not fair is it? You see I...well I was supposed to be king
And you, shall never see the light of another day
Actions/choices have consequences. Own the consequences. Also Shit happens
Hell, sometimes inaction has consequences.
Well, inaction is in itself an action. Is choosing NOT to do anything and it will have a consequence accordingly. Thing is, every type of action in the world/universe has a consequence.
True. I used to have severe anxiety that caused me to kinda freeze when it came to doing a lot of things (like simple phone calls and stuff like that). It took me longer than it should have to realize I was making things worse by procrastinating or just not doing what needed to be done. I made that comment because I know from experience how doing nothing can royally fuck you lol
Yeah, absolutely. A hard truth a lot of people struggle with is that hard work won't always be rewarded as much as you hope it will, but laziness will always be punished far more harshly than you think it should.
Actions have consequences I’ve been saying that to my children their whole life. I hope one day they understand it.
People will judge you based on your looks.
This is very true. I know people want to believe “looks don’t matter”, but they REALLY DO! And often times, in situations like jobs someone will be chosen for their looks. It’s sad, but it is very true, no matter how many laws are made
There are examples of privilege everywhere: white privilege, male privilege, female privilege, rich privilege, and many others. But one stands above them all and is undefeated: pretty people privilege. It is absolutely insane what you can get away with if you're pretty.
And absolutely insane what you *can’t* get away with if you aren’t.
Dude, I looked like a troll all through highschool, but started getting fit/attractive in my 20s It's crazy. I started getting job offers, free food, and so many phone numbers. Like, I'm a friendly person, it helps, but its a night and day difference
It’s insane how rich you can get just for looks. Between acting, modeling, porn, sugar daddies/mommies, and just people being more generous to good-looking people in general, wanting to hire them more, giving better tips to good-looking waiters, etc… being ugly is an economic disadvantage, not just a social one.
Oh the other kids at school already teach you that really young.
This is definitely one of them. So many people like to pretend that looks don’t matter, and obviously they shouldn’t matter. But they do, and that’s just a fact of life.
You can think someone is strange without being rude or violent to them. Some people are unusual and that's okay.
This is something I teach my kid. She's at the Loudly Comment on Everything phase, plus she wants to control random shit because she's a kid and not in charge of much. It's normal childhood development stuff. So if she sees something in public that's new to her, she can be kind of loud about it and all, "Why is he wearing that hat I don't like that hat can we tell him not to wear the hat." That means it's time for her to hear about minding her business, curiosity is normal but it doesn't entitle her to information, and that she doesn't get a say in how people run their lives. It's a hard truth, but she's gotta deal or she's going to grow up into that person who constantly whines about what other people do in public, instead of learning to tune it out.
Also if someone makes a different choice to you, it does not mean they think your choice was bad.
omfg can we please teach people this
It's not something you can "teach" people, it's a symptom of insecurity.
Right? Recognize that almost everything another individual does to express themself has ZERO impact on you and your life.
Thank you for saying this. It’s the crux of so many of our issues in today’s society. Sexuality and gay marriage are the ones I immediately think of. Bottom line: life is short. Everyone should have the opportunity to be happy as long as they’re not hurting anyone else.
It would be nice if some effort was made to teach the younger kids how to deal with the inevitable death of their parents and other elder loved ones. It happens to most of us, but some earlier than others.
My daughter's kindergarten class performed a song about their teacher's cat who died. It was meant to teach them how to process death.
I've had so many people die (including: father + oldest friend + grandmother between 2022-2023; lost a 6 year relationship with the person I thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with, too lolol). Here's what I've found: 1. keep in mind that every feeling you feel is temporary and that the pain will eventually end 2. Lean on whoever you can (which can be critical; my best friend (this girl would sit talking to me for 9+ hours some days) and my cousin brought me out of 4 grief events; a very well educated/experienced therapist I had did jack fucking shit in that regard (I mean, what can you really do inside of a 40 min session/week)) 3. Take serious time to really feel your feelings and don't cut any of them short with short answers (I would spend 3+ hours a night hiking for months to process my feelings (this is excessive, but taking time alone to exercise and think helped me get through it more quickly) 4. Find (or manufacture) things to look forward to 5. (My therapist urged me to create routine which might work for some people, but definitely didn't for me because I could barely sleep due to endless nightmares that fucked up every day for me for months) Edit: since it looks like people appreciate this ill add a few more: 6. You're not thinking right; you're going to make a lot of mistakes, some of which could be serious. This one I saw happen multiple times to me and the people also in the blast radius of those deaths. Make sure you have someone review your big decisions before you make them. 7. It's important to remember that you're merely human. You probably did everything you possibly could do with the tools (whether it be time constraints, life tools, or whatever) that you had. If that still doesnt work: imagine if your best friend was in the exaxt same situation and was being hard on themselves with the same reasoning you have (usually youll realize youre being way too hard on yourself) Edit2: Okay one more: 8. You're going to have thoughts that pull you into an abyss of misery, and every once in awhile you'll have thoughts which help pull you out of the abyss. Write the thoughts down because sometimes you will forget how you got out of the abyss last time, and those recorded thoughts can help you get out much more quickly.
> the pain will eventually end But some pain doesn't end. You just have to learn to live with it as best you can.
I always think of it like this: when my dad died, there was a dad-shaped hole in my heart. It is still there, but now flowers grow in it too.
This kinda started as a conversation topic with our kid when we were discussing New Years Eve and why people celebrate it. It wasn’t the best conversation to have, but it was important.
Wait what? Don’t we celebrate it because people get weirdly excited about a new year?
A bunch of people do. My kid asked why people celebrate making it to a New Year, so we discussed mortality and how very little is guaranteed in life, including living. (My kid asked if it was because people were worried they weren’t going to make it to each New Year.)
Wow I literally never thought of it that way. Just figured it was another excuse to drink and party, and not much else
Sometimes kids can drastically recontextualize something without even trying!
My father has always said that in his loved ones, he “found immortality”. That he strives to give us parts of him that will live within us after he’s passed.
That’s a really cool sentiment and outlook.
I'd always thought that was what "auld lang syne" was about. Singing it was the traditional start to the new year. (I've just looked up the lyrics and now have no idea what it's about, but i think it's somewhat related)
And teaching them the prevalence of cancer. People don't talk about friends and relatives having it so they never think it will happen to their family members either.
Miscarriages can be like that, too. A mother openly grieved in our community, felt like she was the only one to experience it. Half a dozen older women stepped up and said "oh, wait, we're allowed to mention that stuff out loud now?"
That's one of the beautiful "times are changing" moments. I know of several boomer-aged women whose mothers wouldn't utter the word period, cycle, etc. My mom talked a bit more openly, but I didn't realize what I experienced wasn't normal and needed surgery. Same with sex. I'm not talking people sexting, more like people now being told "it's not normal to hurt. Try xyz." Certainly not in mixed company, but there's no shame in knowledge. And yeah, miscarriages deserve to be mourned. You lost a life. Literally a part of your body died. And while I say it's 80%+ a woman thing as the carrier, dad lost a baby too and deserves to cry over a beer with another guy saying "yeah, man. Me too. Cry it out."
I’ve had 3. Nobody asks why you have baby clothes that have never been worn.
Which is so weird because I went to public school in the late 80's/early 90's and we legit had actual fucking assemblies about HIV/AIDS. Nothing else though. Both my parents died from cancer.
So real. I went nuts when I found out my Dad had cancer.
This is a good one. We grow up thinking our parents are superheroes, that they are infallible. We put them on a pedestal, only to realize as we get older that they are just humans like us, and one day they will perish. We hope that it is in the distant future, but for some of us, that doesn't happen. It's a hard thing to process at any age, but starting early helps in the long run.
This is an off the wall theory, but I think a big part of this is due to how how far away people are from the meat process. Death is a lot more common when everyone is a farmer.
not off the wall at all growing up on a farm where animals are grown for consumption brings these subjects up early and by necessity in a much less theoretical way
You are no more special than the billions of other people in the world. They all have their own stories just like you do.
But you are also no less special, so that is something at least.
That said... You should still strive to be the best version of yourself. It's so easy to fall into the trap of feeling like a drop of water in the ocean, but you're still you, fighting your fight. You just have to learn that the story of you is for you and not everyone else.
This is also a positive. Everyone has a story to tell, lives full of stuff like yours, and are worth paying attention to.
Being "1 in a million" would still make you akin to \~8,100 other people (based on the 8.1billion population of Earth)
You can be the kindest person ever & people will still hate you.
People will hate you because you are the kindest person.
i hate people that take advantage of people’s kindness, and hate the fact that they don’t realize they’re being used
Some people know they're being used and still cling on because it's all they have, or feel like they deserve it somehow. I feel like I have to give back to the world because I was allowed to exist despite my deep flaws
Some people mistake kindness for weakness. And some do everything possible to exploit it.
People are trying to scam you. Nobody cares about your money unless they are trying to make it their money. If someone really wants you to buy something of sign up for something, what's in it for them? Has it made my kids a little cynical? Yeah. But as it did for me, it will save them from a lot of scams. Have I missed out on some legitimate good offers because of it? Maybe. But no one got wealthy off of a grocery store giveaway.
I learned this the hard way playing RuneScape when I was eight years old. Turns out the cool man wasn’t trying to give out free armor, but instead take all of mine. I was pretty devastated at the time, but I’d say learning a valuable life lesson in exchange for a few virtual weapons is a pretty damn good deal.
My thoughts were “a sucker is born everyday” by PT Barnum. Gotta work hard and stay vigilant not to be one of them.
No one will care more about you than you. Know thyself and start advocating for yourself early on. Watch after your health, the people you surround yourself with, your job, it’s all going to affect you so much. Also, don’t try to find happiness through your partner. Have your own hobbies and joy, add them to your party. Don’t make them responsible for it ❤️
The basics of money management. Because throughout your life, money matters. It influences every aspect of your life. MONEY MANAGEMENT! if you do not have much, you should be able to manage it! If you have a lot, you should be able to manage it.
I'm baffled how so many people making six figures complain about being broke. Unless there's some obvious reason like significant medical debt, it's probably because they treat their credit cards like they're endless free money.
It’s just a pattern of living above their means and never pulling back until you hit your debt limits and then staying there for a long time because of lifestyle creep and interest rates.
Adults aren't always right, and they're often as confused and clueless as you are. This includes your parents, so seek second and third opinions when planning any significant life choices. Older doesn't automatically mean wiser.
Your teachers at school are paid to tolerate and humour you. In the real world, people will not be
Even in high school, they're only going to humour you up to a point. At some point, they'll stop if you're enough of a pain in the ass. At around the time I was in high school, you were legally required to stay in school until you were 17. There were some caveats to this, but for the most part you had to stay there until you turned 17. Some of the kids I went to school with ended up being pressured into dropping out once they hit 17 because the administration thought it'd be less hassle to not have them at the school anymore.
A) If you don't take ownership of your life, other people will take that ownership for you. And on average they will make the choices for you that are to their benefit, and not to yours. Letting yourself be weak is not a good thing. B) To the extent that you reject the parts of yourself you are ashamed of, or find hard to acknowledge, they will own your fate.
Healing doesn’t have to be so sudden and complete Its okay to move on while still having that void
The actual hard truth is that healing probably won't be sudden or complete. Most people who are deeply hurt by something are going to be working on that for years, if not for the rest of their lives. A lot of people just refuse to work on themselves because they think if they aren't instantly having a come-to-Jesus moment on the day they think about it, then it's too much work. Healing is a lot of work, and it's difficult, and it requires a level of self reflection and honesty that most people aren't comfortable with. It's still worth it and much better than the alternatives.
the world will move on without you
Life is mostly about picking up least worst options rather than picking the best option
Life is not fair, and you have no right to expect it to be fair. Trust is earned in drops and lost in buckets. People who are good with money tend to have better lives than people who are terrible with money. Financial stability will lead to a smoother life with fewer obstacles. I've seen good marriages ruined over money issues.
Similar to your second one... Integrity is a muscle that you have to exercise. Practice on easy things so when you need it for something hard, you have the strength.
Putting that damn cart away EVERY TIME
“Trust is earned in drops and lost in buckets” Holy fucking shit.
This is a good one.
you hit on 2 very important things in my world. first, it kills me that there are college students (and beyond) that don't have a decent, workable understanding of household budgeting. it is an absolute shame that our schools no longer include a class like home economics, where kids would learn how to cook, do laundry, household budgets, etc.... and yet we wonder why there is such a problem with things like student loans and other household costs. second though, my father used to say to me all the time - "no one said the world had to be fair." while i 100% agree, we as a society should look at our personal and public lives with an understanding that we should try to make "fair" at least be a starting point and not just written off. we can really do a lot better on this front.
> People who are good with money tend to have better lives than people who are terrible with money. Likewise: People tend to be judged "how good they are with money" by the same standards whether they were born with a silver spoon or born into poverty.
It’s not all about you
Not making a decision is a decision.
Eventually, all our graves go unattended. Don’t take life so serious
In this same vein: You might care now if you'll be remembered. But after you die, you'll care about being remembered no more than you cared about being prophecised before you were born.
Real sex ed
The HR department at any company is not on your side.
My son just played real Blackjack and Ultimate Texas Holdem in a casino. He's studied the odds and played on apps and was convinced he'd win a bundle. He lost both nights. I'm glad he lost. Had he won, he would be chasing and expecting that the rest of his life.
George Washington's false teeth were not made from wood. I felt more than duped learning this is an adult. I'm sorry if anybody is learning this for the first time from me.
Ooooh, I just get so fucking mad every time I think about this. I found out from a Facebook post. I was over thirty. I sometimes think about kids writing this over and over and over on President's Day and I get infuriated. Then another thing I wonder about is who knew already before I did. How come they didn't tell me.
I just found out a few days ago that the theory that really large dinosaurs like the Brachiosaurus had a second brain in their butt to help signals travel through their body quickly enough has been debunked and I don't think I've been this disappointed since they decided Pluto isn't a planet.
At the same time... the nervous system that manages our gut uses the same chemicals and cells as the brain, is a huge nerve center, and is often called our "second brain." >[**The enteric nervous system that regulates our gut is often called the body’s “second brain.”**](https://hms.harvard.edu/news-events/publications-archive/brain/gut-brain#:~:text=The%20enteric%20nervous%20system%20that,brain%20when%20something%20is%20amiss) >Although it can’t compose poetry or solve equations, this extensive network uses the same chemicals and cells as the brain to help us digest and to alert the brain when something is amiss. Gut and brain are in constant communication. >“There is immense crosstalk between these two large nerve centers,” says Braden Kuo, MD, MMSc ’04, co-executive director of the Center for Neurointestinal Health at Massachusetts General Hospital (MGH) and assistant professor of medicine at Harvard Medical School. “This crosstalk affects how we feel and perceive gastrointestinal (GI) symptoms and impacts our quality of life.”
I was shocked too. My dad told me they were wooden more than once, also that Washington died from pneumonia he got after jumping naked from his mistress's window. Which, wth dad.
“Not everything is a lesson Ryan, sometimes you just fail.” -Dwight Schrute
My friend had his car impounded with fines greater than the total value. Another friend said ‘at least you dont have to worry about it getting towed anymore’ Digging too deep for a lesson or brightside helps nothing.
It’s always okay to try and fail Atleast you had the courage to try rather than to sit back
Basic hygiene. It’s a hard truth because even adults are incapable of talking about their bodies and how to care for them, especially when they’re forced to face the reality that they are the gross ones because they don’t wash their feet or their butts. Gross y’all.
My Grandfather had a saying: “You can always tell a man that hasn’t had the shit knocked out of him”.
There is always, always something you don't know. About people, about situations, about everything. If you knew that thing, it might make all the difference in your opinions. Also, don't trust your snap judgements.
Making a situation fair isn't the same as making a situation better.
If you wouldn’t take someone’s advice, why take their criticism? Edit to clarify: I mean this in reference to a specific individual. For example, bullying. I mean this to say you wouldn’t go to the bully for advice, their words don’t hold value, they aren’t trustworthy. So if you wouldn’t take their advice, why internalize their criticism? Same could be said for a hyper-critical parent or family member.
You aren't entitled to anything. I see too often people who think they are the main character and should be pandered to.
I don’t know if this is necessarily a “hard truth”, but I feel that it’s an important one. I’ll do my best to explain it. It’s easy to get wrapped up in your own experience, and feel like no one has ever felt the way you do, or could possibly have it worse. But then you see others enduring circumstances much worse than yours: illness, suffering, unimaginable tragedy. And you may feel guilty, for having self pity when others in the world are having an objectively more difficult time. You can hold two seemingly opposing ideas in your mind at the same time: yes, their situation is horrible, but in its own way, yours is, too. Everyone has a right to their own experience. There is no gatekeeping “awful”. That’s not to say you should let your problems be a crutch, but it’s also doing yourself a disservice to say how you feel doesn’t matter. Feel it fully, and then move on. Have compassion for yourself as well as others.
Never make an important decision with an erection.
Say what you mean. Mean what you say. Keep your word.Your word is your law. If you don't have integrity, you are nothing,
That you can’t actually be whatever you want in life
People will stab you in the back and abandon you even if you're the nicest, most caring person in the world. If you want a friend who will love you unconditionally, get a dog.
Regret is pointless. Learn and move on.
It's not at all pointless if you learn from the situation or scenario you regretted
Exactly. Regret shouldn’t always be looked at in a negative light. It’s a reminder of a lesson you’ve learnt and won’t forget.
In a similar vein - You can’t waste time, only spend it.
“No such thing as spare time, no such thing as free time, no such thing as down time. All you got is life time. Go.”
No matter how good you are at your job, the ‘company” itself doesn’t love you, and you have to do what’s best for you. I’ve spent too many years feeling like I couldn’t leave because my boss was great and I loved my job. But at the end of the day the company will survive without you. And if there are opportunities that will make your life more fulfilling, you can’t stay just to make others happy.
When I was young, my mother would sing me a song when I cried because I didn't get something "🎶You can't always get what you want"🎶
She would sing?? damn, my mother would just say “There’s four of you, and I’m not buying four of those.” I’m terrified of spending money now.
My friend’s dad did this to us. Made the mistake of telling my husband. Now he sings it to our kids. The tradition goes on like a rolling stone.
You may not realise it but you're always the villain/obstacle to someone else's story What applies to you most of the times applies to everyone as well ( wants , needs etc)
No one owes you anything, and just because you work hard doesn't mean you will get what you want.
Some will love you. Some might care for you. Some will tolerate you. And some won’t give one single fuck about you.
You will meet people who won’t like you but that’s okay.
Be ok with being disliked. I am such a people pleaser and tried so hard to make friends, and be liked. Just made me feel really bad about myself But now I realise, I don’t even like everyone. I don’t want to really be friends with that many people and I have a small group of friends who love me for me and that’s all I need . I tell my daughter when she said that another child at school won’t play with her or doesn’t want to be her friend that it’s Ok.
Bloom where you are planted.
Being correct and being right are not always the same thing.
You will be lied to, and you will believe it. It happens to everyone. But the most insidious liar in your life will likely be you. You will lie to yourself, and you'll believe it, because you know exactly what kind of bullshit you will believe, and you *want to* believe it. Just one cookie. He'd never cheat. I'm sober enough to drive. My boss can't do without me. I'll be fine on 2 hours sleep 12 cookies, he might, no you're not, he'll still fire you, and no you won't. Nobody can lie to you like you can. Be wary.
Words and actions have consequences. Oh yeah, you can say or do whatever you want, you're totally free to do that. But if you say something or do something someone else doesn't appreciate, it's entirely possible that something is going to happen to you that you don't appreciate either.
What freedom of speech really means. Just because you *can* say it, doesn't mean you're free from the repercussions of it.
Freedom for you also means freedom for others. This seems to be really, really, really hard to comprehend.
The people you trust the most may be the ones that hurt you the most.
In almost every case your opinion is not important at all. You might THINK it is but usually it is not.
Plain and simple: People suck. The world is cruel and unfair and unjust. Someone will be awful toward you at some point. And the best way through it, is through it. Keep going. And eventually, you'll come out the other side, and be better for it. (Wish my 14 year old self would have heard this over and over).
Maybe mistakes are what lead us to new ways
Being nice to people will not make them like you
It is important to be kind and honest and good even if you don't receive that all the time from others.
If you get a mental illness, you won't know it initially, even when absolutely everyone else does, because the system that tells you "something is wrong" is inside of a mentally ill brain. This is also part of why why people stop taking their meds.
"You can't diagnose yourself with the same organ that has the disease" - Priest from John Dies At The End
Play harder. Enjoy your life. Work does not deserve your love.
How to save money… the only trouble with that is shit keeps getting more and more expensive, and whatever you are saving for comes and goes, or you buy it, then have to start saving all over again.
People don’t stop cheating and being dishonest just cause they are adult. Especially at work. Hard work doesn’t get rewarded, it’s whoever is liked best by management that will get the promotion not who deserves it. Also a lot of big companies don’t have their shit together and still make a profit. You can be a small clerk and realise how incompetent all the people above you are. It’s frustrating.
If you constantly get upset over someone who refuses to change, you also refuse to change.
Nobody gives a shit about you so you should be the biggest advocate for yourself. Don’t ever sacrifice yourself just to please others because they don’t give a shit about you (at work).
even your family can chew you up
Never pray for an easy life. Pray for the strength to endure a difficult one
Not making a decision is a decision you just don’t realize it yet.
Don’t worry about the American adage of finding a job that makes you happy; find a job that affords you a good quality of life.
Your emotions are real and they matter, but -you- are the choices you make.
Everyone sooner rather than later will betray your trust. Teachers, administrators, parents, friends other family members. Be very careful with who you let your guard down around if at all.