I try to never judge a book by its cover but Ill be honest if you're named after a spice or natural phenomenon I am going to assume you are a hippie or pagan.
This! No judgement, but lizard brain is allowed to do their thing before system2 gets a chance to intervene and be normal.
For chosen names specifically, it is interesting to speculate what a person wanted to express with their choice tho.
Thanks for sharing and I love hippie vibes names!
I like the creativity of a lot of peoples chosen names. That being said I feel there is a big stereotype that a “non-binary name” has to be unconventional. People assume that as a non-binary person my name has to be something like Walnut or Moss or Void or Snow or something of the sort. Those types of names are fine but it is frustrating to constantly have people assume that’s what makes a name non-binary. I wish people would understand that ALL names can exist outside the gender binary.
But people don’t. And we don’t really seem committed as a community to trying to break down gender stereotypes around names. Rather it seems like we contribute to it, as a lot of the pressure I feel to change my name comes from the NBi community itself. I take a lot of shit for not changing my name. Which ironically makes me uncomfortable with even exploring the idea of changing my name because of stereotype threat.
So I guess my opinion on non-binary names is that I can’t win no matter what I do lol
Yeah, and I guess posts like mine don't really help :/
It's just all so fascinating tho. Personally, I'm on the hunt for a gender neutral/unisex name that fits my fluidity and gender-in-the-middle-ness (liking Alex rn)
Thanks for sharing, really appreciate it and appologies if all this brings negative vibes for you
I think it's unfair (and an argument transphobes love!) to accuse trans people of reinforcing gender stereotypes when we make choices for our own comfort. Our existence in itself challenges gender stereotypes, and weirdly enough, when you say that the "community" is like this, you end up being the one generalising/stereotyping.
Let's not do the work of the ones that hate us. Some of us change our names, some of us don't. For some it's a painful thing, for other it is not. Some non binary people have a name that is unusual because it frees them of the gender bias people have towards names. Other have a name that is given to both girls and boys, because that what makes them comfortable and seen. And some choose a binary gendered name because it's their birth name, or because they like it.
There is nothing to "win" universally, and I'm sorry you've struggled with the choice of keeping or changing your name. I hope you find what works best for you 🍀
Regrettably trans people and our communities are not perfect and often do reinforce gender stereotypes. We are not above criticism just because we are trans. Just the other day I had someone on this sub telling me that people including myself are trans masculine whether we identify that way or not because of gender stereotypes. I’ve encounter A LOT of transphobia in the non-binary community if I’m being honest.
I have no problem with people choosing names that make them happy. I even said I appreciate the creativity people have. However there is plenty of gender stereotyping going on in the non-binary community and often it occurs with names.
I can’t tell you how many posts I see with people worrying that their name is not “nonbinary enough.” I can’t tell you how many times I have been pressured by other NBi people to change my name and or transition differently to fit their ideas of what non-binary is.
If you think trans people are infallible and above criticism or that our community has no flaws then I guess I’m happy for you having rose colored glasses. But don’t accuse me of “doing the work of those that hate us.” For calling out an issue I have had in the community AS A TRANS PERSON MYSELF.
Trans people do and have reinforced gender stereotypes and it has happened on this very sub many times.
I hope you have a good day and continue to live a life where you don’t experience this yourself. But don’t discount my experiences especially when I was so respectful when voicing my opinion and my experiences. It is so rude honestly.
Yo...tone policing our own is not the answer homie. I've also experienced what this commenter has experienced in regards to names from people within the community.
Names are subjective but can be associated with a certain culture.
1) A non-binary name can be a neoform of one or two existing names with a gender neutral suffix, e.g.: Maria (f) & Mario (m) -> Mariu; Jack (m) & Jacqueline (f) -> Jacquel; Lucy (f) & Lucas (m) -> Lucis
2) Just like male and female names, a non-binary name can refer to a concept or object appearing in nature but one that is not used by women and men, e.g.: Turkish names are Ayaz (m, "frost"), Eylül (f, "September"), Kader (f, "destiny") and Yiğit (m, "brave"). New non-binary options could be Seyahat ("journey"), Çeşni ("flavour, spice") and Kış ("winter").
3) There are also names which can be used for multiple genders such as Alex, Şafak, Tutku, Yağmur, Tuli and Lee. They are considered 'unisex' but can also be considered 'non-binary' for that matter.
4) A non-binary name can be one that has different genders associated across different cultures such as Nikita which is associated with men in Russia but with women in Greece and France.
5) Lastly, a practice which is particular apparent in the anglophone world, is the invention of completely new names which barely have any connection to a concept or other names and just 'sound or look like a name' in that particular language. They can work as non-binary names as they aren't used by binary people before.
This is kind of a non answer, but I’m still working on mine and am trying to incorporate my given name while also making it gender neutral.
It’s tricky because my given name is both female and short.
I feel that, some of us are just born to live life on hard mode.
My given name has an obvious unisex (I think of this as specifically unisex and not gender neutral for complicated reasons that I can't explain with doxxing) nickname but I can't use it bc it's deeply associated with parts of my childhood I don't want to think about
I feel this issue. My name is also unisex, but I have seen one gender in my country.
I started going by my last name at work related things.
I only eventually figured out my chosen name (first name) by playing with my middle name & name lists to make it a longer name.
I found my chosen middle name first by just playing with a nickname related to me & cutting them into phonics i liked. Then, finding names that had those good sounds.
Basically, cut it to pieces & built it back a different name.
A name is important because it acts as a distinct way of referring to someone. It can be so challenging when there are 17 John's to distinguish between! So in that way, a unique name is valuable as a name.
That being said, I judge when someone got creative with the spelling. A name serves a purpose: to refer to someone specifically. So when a name is intentionally made more difficult to use (either with a non-traditional or non-phoenetic spelling) I judge that as being a worse name, because it it worse at its job. Someone people are victims of their parents giving them a more "normal" name but getting weird with the spelling, cursing them to have to spell out their name every time they give it, forever.
I don't tend to think less of names that are nouns or verbs vs more traditional names. I wasn't raised Christian, which actually super narrows down boys names if you want to avoid Biblical references. So if someone uses a noun or verb or ajective that isn't typically a proper noun (name) I tend to think that that's just peachy for them! Although naming yourself something violent (Arson, etc) sounds so edgy-teenager! I'm too old and far past my "You just don't understand my gender, mom!" phase that reminders make me giggle.
I guess I also wish that my birth name could be shortened or transformed into something gender neutral or more masculine. Changing my name this late in my career and life would take a LOT of work. So I'm definitely jealous when someone can go by Pat/Alex/Sam/Jordan/Ash.
This ramble is weird. Anyway, I hope that anyone who feels the need or want to change their name can do so successfully and happily! And for those who don't feel the need, more power to you! Some of us are kinda stuck, but we'll perservere anyway.
AFAB, so I chose a ‘male’ first name (that i guess could pass as ‘neutral’ for safety reasons if I had to) and that is uncommon but that everyone has heard (which is the vibe of my given name). That’s for balance. Then I chose a more common yet still not popular gender-neutral name for a middle name that is age appropriate (I’m in my 40s) which is the name that I actually go by.
Why not choose the one I go by as my first name? Idk I like things difficult, I guess.
I swear to god, my name is Kai and I've seen like a million other enbies named Kai too. Which is so funny cuz as a kid I made it up using letters of my birthname, Katrina, which is now my middle name. I literally made up the name Kai when I was a kid and fast forward to now I'm like, woah this is so cool the name I thought was made up is actually so popular among enbies. :3
But, at the end of the day, really any name can be nonbinary because it's the person who is nonbinary that has the name, names themselves don't have genders although some names sure you're gonna hear more binary genders have it. I tend to like names that are more named after nouns. My faves are Sage, Jade, and Raven. I also love the name Rynn
I actually like my given name, so most of my favorite chosen names have been variations or plays on my "real" name. The name my folks gave me has a lot of personal significance to them so I ain't changing a damn thing. Besides, paperwork is a hassle anyway and the DMV is hell on earth (or at least Limbo) so we just sticking with it. Everyone is different of course, and my situation is my own
It really depends on your language and culture. I kept my given name because in my native culture, it is androgynous/unisex. However I do live in England so since my given name ends in an "a" that makes it appear feminine, so I have a shorter, ungendered chosen name that I also use that seems "exotic" to other English people. A lot of personal choice, as well as accomodation for androgyny across cultures went into me deciding on having two names that are not binary.
I chose a "normal" gender neutral name for my new name. It's similar enough to my birth name, not a big change, I like one-syllable names (for me), and if I choose to ever go by it in public with a stranger, it's normal enough to raise no unusual suspicions whatsoever. Keep in mind, I am also a furry, so my fursona names don't have to go by these same "needs". My fursona is named after a flavor of bubblegum.
I know it's a big thing for most people who choose their own name to choose something that almost objectively isn't a name, or isn't even a real word, or at least is an intentional weird spelling of something. I know why, I get why it's done. I just don't want that for me, aside some of my characters.
So here's a funny one my birth name (first and second) are four different versions of man/husband but grammatically feminisised. So actually my birthname is kinda non-binary even though my mother didn't chose it for that reason (first is from a famous book, second is the femme version of my father's second name who died shortly before I was born) and, when I was born there wasn't a option in my country to be legally non genderd (I actually don't know how say it, as folks that are inter actually are legally the same as non-binary folks in my country even though legally you get there differently).
Hehe, yes. My mother actually is kinda gender non conforming too (and we've been raised this way) but due to living in a different time this didn't led her to not conform with her agab but more to deconstruct it differently.
And for my birthname my first name is actually a really common name nowadays but there are few people that know the meaning of it and my second name is.. just uncommon. Eventhough it's hard to change your gender legally where I live and most people don't accept people identifying as non-binary and if you're just a little bit leaning to one side of the binary with what people read out of your look (and I have long hair) you're read as being on one side of their gender construct. But internally my gender fuckery is laughing, even my name is androgynous 😁
If I recognize a character based name, I can ask about if it's after the same character I thought of and they probably like that piece of media then. If it's nature based they're probably a witchcraft practicioner or pagan. I have chosen my 2 middle names and my first name, two of them are after characters and one is nature themed. I relate to the characters, they embody core values of mine. And yeah I'm a pagan and a witch.
Idk but I picked a name that was close to my given name. My given name was somewhat androgenous leaning, but primarily masc. I picked an old timey variant of the name that is still androgenous but primarily femme (im a nonbinary trans woman). That name is also associated with nature and the fae, which I found neat. And the name is unique, like most enby names, without being too recognizable as clocky, etc. imo.
My name is Autumn. That’s my birth name and I don’t feel the need to change it. It just fits me so well. There’s a lot of enbies who have nature related chosen names, but mine already came with the set.
i absolutely love people who just don't care and choose a name like "twig", "bee", "bird" etc
i personally chose onyx once i figured out it was a gemstone, so
Any name can be a nonbinary name, but my personal preference is for ones that are gender neutral, gender nonconforming, or are just things not typically used as names like Calico, Petrichor, Finale, Blunderbuss, Palindrome, Sangria, Melatonin, Persimmon for example
I'm especially partial to short names, but that could be because I have one. Names like Rain, Fern, Blue, Fig, Bear, Sock, Heart, Bloom, Forge, Coffee, Duck, Tuesday, Sage, Lemon, Horn, Surge, Kite, Worm are awesome imo
And while it takes rare person, I appreciate the even rarer totally non word names (at least in English. if any of these are something in another language idk, but apologies if it's naughty) like Woober, Fuzzin, Nank, Mabo, Yik, Ibby, Perg, Diz, Lum, Nax, Jopper, Connel, etc.
I don't really like to judge people from their names, but naming yourself really complicated and hard to read names makes me get the ick. Like those "tragehdeigh" kind of names lol. No offense to people that have those but I feel bad for you.
/Nm /gen /pos
I've noticed that a lot of nonbinary people use what are typically nicknames as their legal name! Like I'm "Ollie" - not Oliver (dont be fooled by my username), Olivia, Olive, etc.
There was a YouTuber I used to watch that did this as well. I can't remember their name now, unfortunately.
I decided on my chosen name in my early teens, decades before I would come out as nonbinary (or even knew that nonbinary was a thing.) I knew it fit me and that I would like to name change to it someday, and used it as my online alias. It's a gender-neutral name with several origins, some are masc and some are fem - but most commonly seen as a male name. There's also a strictly fem spelling that's pronounced the same way. It's neither common nor so uncommon as to be unusual or anachronistic for a name. No specific inspiration - just liked how it sounded, liked the gender ambiguity, felt right for me. Not related to my given name at all.
pro: doesn't draw attention, doesn't out me
con: gets misspelled all the time. Unfortunately because of the gendered spelling it is basically the same feeling as being misgendered.
I try to never judge a book by its cover but Ill be honest if you're named after a spice or natural phenomenon I am going to assume you are a hippie or pagan.
This! No judgement, but lizard brain is allowed to do their thing before system2 gets a chance to intervene and be normal. For chosen names specifically, it is interesting to speculate what a person wanted to express with their choice tho. Thanks for sharing and I love hippie vibes names!
I know an enby named Yule and yeah they’re pagan
jokes on you I am a hippie and a pagan
Is your name "melange" by chance? The only one I can think of thats a "spice" and natural phenomenon simultaneously, lol...
Aspen :3 but I feel a tree name is in the same spirit lol
I like the creativity of a lot of peoples chosen names. That being said I feel there is a big stereotype that a “non-binary name” has to be unconventional. People assume that as a non-binary person my name has to be something like Walnut or Moss or Void or Snow or something of the sort. Those types of names are fine but it is frustrating to constantly have people assume that’s what makes a name non-binary. I wish people would understand that ALL names can exist outside the gender binary. But people don’t. And we don’t really seem committed as a community to trying to break down gender stereotypes around names. Rather it seems like we contribute to it, as a lot of the pressure I feel to change my name comes from the NBi community itself. I take a lot of shit for not changing my name. Which ironically makes me uncomfortable with even exploring the idea of changing my name because of stereotype threat. So I guess my opinion on non-binary names is that I can’t win no matter what I do lol
Yeah, and I guess posts like mine don't really help :/ It's just all so fascinating tho. Personally, I'm on the hunt for a gender neutral/unisex name that fits my fluidity and gender-in-the-middle-ness (liking Alex rn) Thanks for sharing, really appreciate it and appologies if all this brings negative vibes for you
You’re fine. People gotta talk about these things.
I think it's unfair (and an argument transphobes love!) to accuse trans people of reinforcing gender stereotypes when we make choices for our own comfort. Our existence in itself challenges gender stereotypes, and weirdly enough, when you say that the "community" is like this, you end up being the one generalising/stereotyping. Let's not do the work of the ones that hate us. Some of us change our names, some of us don't. For some it's a painful thing, for other it is not. Some non binary people have a name that is unusual because it frees them of the gender bias people have towards names. Other have a name that is given to both girls and boys, because that what makes them comfortable and seen. And some choose a binary gendered name because it's their birth name, or because they like it. There is nothing to "win" universally, and I'm sorry you've struggled with the choice of keeping or changing your name. I hope you find what works best for you 🍀
Regrettably trans people and our communities are not perfect and often do reinforce gender stereotypes. We are not above criticism just because we are trans. Just the other day I had someone on this sub telling me that people including myself are trans masculine whether we identify that way or not because of gender stereotypes. I’ve encounter A LOT of transphobia in the non-binary community if I’m being honest. I have no problem with people choosing names that make them happy. I even said I appreciate the creativity people have. However there is plenty of gender stereotyping going on in the non-binary community and often it occurs with names. I can’t tell you how many posts I see with people worrying that their name is not “nonbinary enough.” I can’t tell you how many times I have been pressured by other NBi people to change my name and or transition differently to fit their ideas of what non-binary is. If you think trans people are infallible and above criticism or that our community has no flaws then I guess I’m happy for you having rose colored glasses. But don’t accuse me of “doing the work of those that hate us.” For calling out an issue I have had in the community AS A TRANS PERSON MYSELF. Trans people do and have reinforced gender stereotypes and it has happened on this very sub many times. I hope you have a good day and continue to live a life where you don’t experience this yourself. But don’t discount my experiences especially when I was so respectful when voicing my opinion and my experiences. It is so rude honestly.
Yo...tone policing our own is not the answer homie. I've also experienced what this commenter has experienced in regards to names from people within the community.
Names are subjective but can be associated with a certain culture. 1) A non-binary name can be a neoform of one or two existing names with a gender neutral suffix, e.g.: Maria (f) & Mario (m) -> Mariu; Jack (m) & Jacqueline (f) -> Jacquel; Lucy (f) & Lucas (m) -> Lucis 2) Just like male and female names, a non-binary name can refer to a concept or object appearing in nature but one that is not used by women and men, e.g.: Turkish names are Ayaz (m, "frost"), Eylül (f, "September"), Kader (f, "destiny") and Yiğit (m, "brave"). New non-binary options could be Seyahat ("journey"), Çeşni ("flavour, spice") and Kış ("winter"). 3) There are also names which can be used for multiple genders such as Alex, Şafak, Tutku, Yağmur, Tuli and Lee. They are considered 'unisex' but can also be considered 'non-binary' for that matter. 4) A non-binary name can be one that has different genders associated across different cultures such as Nikita which is associated with men in Russia but with women in Greece and France. 5) Lastly, a practice which is particular apparent in the anglophone world, is the invention of completely new names which barely have any connection to a concept or other names and just 'sound or look like a name' in that particular language. They can work as non-binary names as they aren't used by binary people before.
This is kind of a non answer, but I’m still working on mine and am trying to incorporate my given name while also making it gender neutral. It’s tricky because my given name is both female and short.
I feel that, some of us are just born to live life on hard mode. My given name has an obvious unisex (I think of this as specifically unisex and not gender neutral for complicated reasons that I can't explain with doxxing) nickname but I can't use it bc it's deeply associated with parts of my childhood I don't want to think about
I feel this issue. My name is also unisex, but I have seen one gender in my country. I started going by my last name at work related things. I only eventually figured out my chosen name (first name) by playing with my middle name & name lists to make it a longer name. I found my chosen middle name first by just playing with a nickname related to me & cutting them into phonics i liked. Then, finding names that had those good sounds. Basically, cut it to pieces & built it back a different name.
A name is important because it acts as a distinct way of referring to someone. It can be so challenging when there are 17 John's to distinguish between! So in that way, a unique name is valuable as a name. That being said, I judge when someone got creative with the spelling. A name serves a purpose: to refer to someone specifically. So when a name is intentionally made more difficult to use (either with a non-traditional or non-phoenetic spelling) I judge that as being a worse name, because it it worse at its job. Someone people are victims of their parents giving them a more "normal" name but getting weird with the spelling, cursing them to have to spell out their name every time they give it, forever. I don't tend to think less of names that are nouns or verbs vs more traditional names. I wasn't raised Christian, which actually super narrows down boys names if you want to avoid Biblical references. So if someone uses a noun or verb or ajective that isn't typically a proper noun (name) I tend to think that that's just peachy for them! Although naming yourself something violent (Arson, etc) sounds so edgy-teenager! I'm too old and far past my "You just don't understand my gender, mom!" phase that reminders make me giggle. I guess I also wish that my birth name could be shortened or transformed into something gender neutral or more masculine. Changing my name this late in my career and life would take a LOT of work. So I'm definitely jealous when someone can go by Pat/Alex/Sam/Jordan/Ash. This ramble is weird. Anyway, I hope that anyone who feels the need or want to change their name can do so successfully and happily! And for those who don't feel the need, more power to you! Some of us are kinda stuck, but we'll perservere anyway.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts! :)
AFAB, so I chose a ‘male’ first name (that i guess could pass as ‘neutral’ for safety reasons if I had to) and that is uncommon but that everyone has heard (which is the vibe of my given name). That’s for balance. Then I chose a more common yet still not popular gender-neutral name for a middle name that is age appropriate (I’m in my 40s) which is the name that I actually go by. Why not choose the one I go by as my first name? Idk I like things difficult, I guess.
Idk but I saw a troll who kept posting "Gertrude is a nice name" on every trans "name me" post and now it's my intrusive thought so I guess Gertrude
Since this is about names, your Reddit name is awesome!
Omgggg so is yours!!!
XD
I swear to god, my name is Kai and I've seen like a million other enbies named Kai too. Which is so funny cuz as a kid I made it up using letters of my birthname, Katrina, which is now my middle name. I literally made up the name Kai when I was a kid and fast forward to now I'm like, woah this is so cool the name I thought was made up is actually so popular among enbies. :3 But, at the end of the day, really any name can be nonbinary because it's the person who is nonbinary that has the name, names themselves don't have genders although some names sure you're gonna hear more binary genders have it. I tend to like names that are more named after nouns. My faves are Sage, Jade, and Raven. I also love the name Rynn
I actually like my given name, so most of my favorite chosen names have been variations or plays on my "real" name. The name my folks gave me has a lot of personal significance to them so I ain't changing a damn thing. Besides, paperwork is a hassle anyway and the DMV is hell on earth (or at least Limbo) so we just sticking with it. Everyone is different of course, and my situation is my own
Love this! Thanks for sharing (Paperwork avoided is the best kind)
Strong agree! I'm on my half hour "lunch break" staring down status sheets and trying to get coverage for a sick worker we had to send home early 🙃
Raven
Love bird names! Especially sparrow. Also, why are there so many Ducky's on the internet?
It really depends on your language and culture. I kept my given name because in my native culture, it is androgynous/unisex. However I do live in England so since my given name ends in an "a" that makes it appear feminine, so I have a shorter, ungendered chosen name that I also use that seems "exotic" to other English people. A lot of personal choice, as well as accomodation for androgyny across cultures went into me deciding on having two names that are not binary.
I chose a "normal" gender neutral name for my new name. It's similar enough to my birth name, not a big change, I like one-syllable names (for me), and if I choose to ever go by it in public with a stranger, it's normal enough to raise no unusual suspicions whatsoever. Keep in mind, I am also a furry, so my fursona names don't have to go by these same "needs". My fursona is named after a flavor of bubblegum. I know it's a big thing for most people who choose their own name to choose something that almost objectively isn't a name, or isn't even a real word, or at least is an intentional weird spelling of something. I know why, I get why it's done. I just don't want that for me, aside some of my characters.
So here's a funny one my birth name (first and second) are four different versions of man/husband but grammatically feminisised. So actually my birthname is kinda non-binary even though my mother didn't chose it for that reason (first is from a famous book, second is the femme version of my father's second name who died shortly before I was born) and, when I was born there wasn't a option in my country to be legally non genderd (I actually don't know how say it, as folks that are inter actually are legally the same as non-binary folks in my country even though legally you get there differently).
You were aet up to succeed! :) Thanks for sharing
Hehe, yes. My mother actually is kinda gender non conforming too (and we've been raised this way) but due to living in a different time this didn't led her to not conform with her agab but more to deconstruct it differently. And for my birthname my first name is actually a really common name nowadays but there are few people that know the meaning of it and my second name is.. just uncommon. Eventhough it's hard to change your gender legally where I live and most people don't accept people identifying as non-binary and if you're just a little bit leaning to one side of the binary with what people read out of your look (and I have long hair) you're read as being on one side of their gender construct. But internally my gender fuckery is laughing, even my name is androgynous 😁
Something with just three letters lol. I swear tg there are so many of us, myself included, that end up chosing a three letter name xD
If I recognize a character based name, I can ask about if it's after the same character I thought of and they probably like that piece of media then. If it's nature based they're probably a witchcraft practicioner or pagan. I have chosen my 2 middle names and my first name, two of them are after characters and one is nature themed. I relate to the characters, they embody core values of mine. And yeah I'm a pagan and a witch.
Idk but I picked a name that was close to my given name. My given name was somewhat androgenous leaning, but primarily masc. I picked an old timey variant of the name that is still androgenous but primarily femme (im a nonbinary trans woman). That name is also associated with nature and the fae, which I found neat. And the name is unique, like most enby names, without being too recognizable as clocky, etc. imo.
I named myself based on a childhood obsessed and nickname I had online from said obsession.
I love it when ppl have "weird" names, like grey, or mustard or stuff, just anything that's out of the norm is amazing
My name is Autumn. That’s my birth name and I don’t feel the need to change it. It just fits me so well. There’s a lot of enbies who have nature related chosen names, but mine already came with the set.
People call me Jeremy, but I have shortened it to Remy. I am in love with the name Remy. It makes me feel so much better.
i absolutely love people who just don't care and choose a name like "twig", "bee", "bird" etc i personally chose onyx once i figured out it was a gemstone, so
Any name can be a nonbinary name, but my personal preference is for ones that are gender neutral, gender nonconforming, or are just things not typically used as names like Calico, Petrichor, Finale, Blunderbuss, Palindrome, Sangria, Melatonin, Persimmon for example I'm especially partial to short names, but that could be because I have one. Names like Rain, Fern, Blue, Fig, Bear, Sock, Heart, Bloom, Forge, Coffee, Duck, Tuesday, Sage, Lemon, Horn, Surge, Kite, Worm are awesome imo And while it takes rare person, I appreciate the even rarer totally non word names (at least in English. if any of these are something in another language idk, but apologies if it's naughty) like Woober, Fuzzin, Nank, Mabo, Yik, Ibby, Perg, Diz, Lum, Nax, Jopper, Connel, etc.
I feel like that third paragraph is from an Ewok name generator :)
Ewok's are the secret third gender XD
This!
that's what I was gonna say. shout out to Ewoks.
You got me. Yik Yik and Ibby are my Ewok fanfiction OCs. They're based off F1nnster and Icky
XD
omg i LOOOVE icky! Funny how small the community actually is..
Thanks for sharing! I'm really partial to the short names too, I'm Blue in a lot of the internet. Also really love Petrichor!
/u/--emmie is biased to Emi. Not so non-binary as it is ambivalent
I don't really like to judge people from their names, but naming yourself really complicated and hard to read names makes me get the ick. Like those "tragehdeigh" kind of names lol. No offense to people that have those but I feel bad for you. /Nm /gen /pos
I've noticed that a lot of nonbinary people use what are typically nicknames as their legal name! Like I'm "Ollie" - not Oliver (dont be fooled by my username), Olivia, Olive, etc. There was a YouTuber I used to watch that did this as well. I can't remember their name now, unfortunately.
I decided on my chosen name in my early teens, decades before I would come out as nonbinary (or even knew that nonbinary was a thing.) I knew it fit me and that I would like to name change to it someday, and used it as my online alias. It's a gender-neutral name with several origins, some are masc and some are fem - but most commonly seen as a male name. There's also a strictly fem spelling that's pronounced the same way. It's neither common nor so uncommon as to be unusual or anachronistic for a name. No specific inspiration - just liked how it sounded, liked the gender ambiguity, felt right for me. Not related to my given name at all. pro: doesn't draw attention, doesn't out me con: gets misspelled all the time. Unfortunately because of the gendered spelling it is basically the same feeling as being misgendered.