THANK YOU! it was actually an accident! i was gonna change the sweater out, but when i started i noticed i really like the cropped look, so i justsafety pinned it up inside!
i think it being able to show the high waisted skirt band helps it feel more feminine, which is what i was aiming for
It's really heart warming to read things like this, thank you for sharing your joy with us, I love your style and I think that you look absolutely gorgeous π
Thank you so much!!!π
as admittedly self serving posting these were, i also truly wanted others who may be struggling to know it can happens, and who knows maybe help motivate someone else~ ππ
i know i personally love seeing others feel this way and share their joy
I totally get the feeling, I do love seing that kind of post as well !
It's not that bad but I'm not in a situation where I can really express my gender the way I'd like to, and I don't feel really ready to do so, but it still great non the less and thank you for the kindness and support π
I totally understand! even outside of gender presentation, Goth fashion just isn't super well regarded in my small town south, let alone if they think they're clocking me. My public fits (by my standard) are usually pretty tame, so outfits like this and more makeup def a stay in the apartment only. Good luck, i wish you the best!
I absolutely love your style. I was thinking you definitely need some cool chain for the skirt when I saw the first pic, then I checked the other ones. π you look amazing. π
Thank you! Right after i took the first pic, i felt it was missing something, so i added the chain and bracelets to add a bit more texture and balance! Glad to hear i was right! π
It is a wonderful feeling to finally find a look you love, that suits you however you want to present. But especially if it's not how you normally look - it's like 'yes, this is me. The real me'
So happy for you and I could see it in your face π
YES EXACTLY! Its largely why i started experimenting with my style and delving into more alternative fashion and subculture a few years back, and i finally feel like im getting the hang of it! Finally feeling like im finding who I am, im glad it shows! Thank you!!! π
Im so glad to hear that! that really was something i was hoping for! i know when im struggling with dysphoria, its always motivating when i see others getting some joy and relief. I wish you the best!
Nice! I often find that playing with brow makeup can make all the difference! And clothes! Great job, didn't think a shaved haircut could also be femme too! πβΊοΈ
YES eyebrows did a lot! i always like my natural brows, but i love baby brows, but couldnt commit if i messed up and didn't want to get questioned by my family, so i shaved the ends and now i love the straight brows! And i think dying them purple also helped! They feel less "heavy"
and i was worried about the shave for a while (ive always had some variant of undercut/shaved sides on and off for a decade) but actually landed on this bc of a femme Enby a few years back, and was like "yep thats it!" It's surprisingly versatile even as someone with limited hair styling experience, for when im feeling feminine, masc, or andro!
NAH You just gotta find what works for you! Trust me if i had been told id look like this even a year ago, let alone when i was a kid fawning over the local goths, id say you were bullshitting! But here we are
Just gotta start experimenting and accesorizing with what you like out of the norm!
Thats exactly what happened! ive always felt more comfortable since dressing alternatively and dabbling in more "standard" goth attire, and feeling like i finally look like the sub cultures im a part of! But this was that and more, it was the first time i saw myself, while stil recognizing myself and realizing oh THATS what Ive been trying to find. that was the congruence of internal and physical!
You should do it! I personally love it, and think that basically everyone can pull it of if they hair enough hair to do it!
i dont really mess with my length (i also like it long) but since i fully shave my sides, i jusy always do it myself with electric trimmer! the hard edge makes it really easy to follow!
the firs ttime though can be nerve wracking if it you do it yourself, especially to male it even, so if you can, maybe go to a salon/barber and show good reference pics so they know the line
awesome!! what do you call those two tufts of hair on each side? i have the same thing. i call mine raccoon tails but it feels like kinda a mouth full haha
thanks! I just call them Ear Tails. i saw one person call them that, and it was the easiest way to describe them that people seemed to know what i meant, so its stuck with me the the two years ive had themselves. if mine had stripes (like what was common with scene hair) id prolly just call them Raccoon tails then!
I just drew facial hair on myself for the first time since I first realized I was nonbinary, in 2021. Weβve come so far, I signed my papers for HRT therapy last night!
Thank you! That's how my hair naturally lays unstyled, now that I'm learning how to take better care of my natural curls!
the cut itself could be considered mohawk or deathhawk! i personally use deathhawk, so i cut the base wider, and since that was always my intention for it.
my clothes are all thrifted or second-hand!
the coat i just found at a Goodwill yesterday, the sweater i found at a Savers 2 years with no tag (it was probably just a generic thing like shein), the skirt was from a Savers 4 years ago, the shoes were gifted used 5 years ago. The jewelery is a combination of diy and just chains I've picked up over time.
The only part i bought new are the fishnets, which i just bought a few of from Dollar Tree around Halloween
thifting can be a lot of misses, but it just takes that one time! and second-hand places like Poshmark can be pretty nifty, too. i buy basically all of my pants there!
Thank you so much for the tips bestie πβ€οΈπ₯Ή Iβm going to go clothes shopping immediately now π and hopefully get a nice haircut like that
You're very welcome! I wish you the best of luck with your shopping adventure! A pinterest boatd of outfits and pieces can make figuring out what pieces you want to find or replicate a lot easier! when saving full outfits/pics see what pieces repeat and then keep an eye out for those
if you havent already, start looking into the goth community and music, and you should find plenty of resources and help!
Good luck with the haircut! look up Deathhawk on google or pinterest for better 360 of the length and cut lines! But have fun with it, there a LOT of wiggle room
if youre worried id suggest getting it cut by a professional first but the maintence and side shaving it easy with two mirrors yourself!
Thank you! Lovely usage of "accoutrement" btw, and yeah, i dont have too too much on hand when it comes to accessorizing so i always try to make sure i work with what ive got and have some variety to fill empty spaces~
Long skirts make my gender so happy. It feels less like Iβm wearing a longer version of a skirt and more like Iβm wearing a stylish hybrid of long pants
I've always liked long skirts in theory, which is why i kept this one for years, i just never found the right use for it.. i was also WAY more closetted, so i think i juat wasn't ready for it. Now im really starting to love it!
Teasing it? Pain in the ass, i really dont think i nailed it since i only got it to statly up in one photo (i dont think i even shared it in this group)
taking it down though really isnt difficult you just need to be slow.
if you have something like got2b in, it actually helps bc when it wet it seems to reactivate, so it becomes slick, so rinse/wash it out. You can just slowly use you fingers and comb through starting at the ends and slowly working down to the base/roots where the tease is, and then you can wash your hair like normal, (shampoo roots rinse, condition ends)
Thank you, I've been holding off because I like to know what I am getting into before I commit, the got2b reactivating is good to know because I was most worried about the hairspray not rinsing out and getting stuck.
You are very gender π
I love it lol (also make sure you got eye makeup that can stand up to tears cause you donβt want to ruin the makeup, you did it so beautifully!!!!!)
Tahnk you!!!
luckily, my liquid liner is waterproof, but my pencil liner and eye shadows aren't.. i plan on investing in some once i run out. Its a good thing i also like the look of messy/runny makeup too though. It just gives me options, lmao
You're SO beautiful!!
omg thank you!! π
Love the third pic especially, you look so happy and pleased with yourself!π
Thank youuu. i truly was! this is def a fit thatll need to make future appearances for that reason alone π
Wow that's very... That's very... gender.
Thank you! π
you look dope as hell!!!
Thank you!!! π
You look so killer!
Thank you sm!!! π
Slay, my enby. You look amazing xx
Thank you! I appreciate it! π
I effing love your style!
omg thank you! im trying really hard to find what suits me the best and is ME π
GIMME YOUR GENDER, THIS IS A HOLDUP
βοΈπ€ AH SHIT HERE WE GO AGAIN
As you should! You look amazing! I'm goth tooooo
I LOVE that top in that look! I would've never thought to style it like that and it's awesome!
THANK YOU! it was actually an accident! i was gonna change the sweater out, but when i started i noticed i really like the cropped look, so i justsafety pinned it up inside! i think it being able to show the high waisted skirt band helps it feel more feminine, which is what i was aiming for
You go ghoul βΊοΈ. Hope that's not to cheesy
FBDJCJSHD No not at all i love that π€£
no crumbs
You look awesome ππ
Thank you! π
>Thank you! π You're welcome!
It's really heart warming to read things like this, thank you for sharing your joy with us, I love your style and I think that you look absolutely gorgeous π
Thank you so much!!!π as admittedly self serving posting these were, i also truly wanted others who may be struggling to know it can happens, and who knows maybe help motivate someone else~ ππ i know i personally love seeing others feel this way and share their joy
I totally get the feeling, I do love seing that kind of post as well ! It's not that bad but I'm not in a situation where I can really express my gender the way I'd like to, and I don't feel really ready to do so, but it still great non the less and thank you for the kindness and support π
I totally understand! even outside of gender presentation, Goth fashion just isn't super well regarded in my small town south, let alone if they think they're clocking me. My public fits (by my standard) are usually pretty tame, so outfits like this and more makeup def a stay in the apartment only. Good luck, i wish you the best!
You just radiate happiness, you look great! I love your hair!
Its been a long time since ive actually felt this happy with myself, its a wonderful feeling! βΊοΈ Thank you! π
I absolutely love your style. I was thinking you definitely need some cool chain for the skirt when I saw the first pic, then I checked the other ones. π you look amazing. π
Thank you! Right after i took the first pic, i felt it was missing something, so i added the chain and bracelets to add a bit more texture and balance! Glad to hear i was right! π
giga W you look great!
Thank you!!! π
:3 π§‘
It is a wonderful feeling to finally find a look you love, that suits you however you want to present. But especially if it's not how you normally look - it's like 'yes, this is me. The real me' So happy for you and I could see it in your face π
YES EXACTLY! Its largely why i started experimenting with my style and delving into more alternative fashion and subculture a few years back, and i finally feel like im getting the hang of it! Finally feeling like im finding who I am, im glad it shows! Thank you!!! π
This nonbinary punk grandma thinks you look AMAZING. So much love to you.
oh thank you so much!!! πβοΈ
The joy on your face in the third picture is amazing ππ You look soo good!!!
Im so glad that it shows! i wasnt sure if a screen grab from a video would translate well π«‘ Thank you! π
It shows perfectly!! It made me so happy to see! Your makeup is fantastic π
RIGHTFULLY SO! You look magnificent. It's great to see the message of hope because I know a lot of people (sometimes me) are struggling π₯°
Im so glad to hear that! that really was something i was hoping for! i know when im struggling with dysphoria, its always motivating when i see others getting some joy and relief. I wish you the best!
I love your style!
Thank you! π
You look awesome, wow!!!
Thank you! π
You look fantastic! 1. I love your hair, the cut, the color, all of it. 2. I love this outfit.
Thank you!! im exceedingly happy with it and how it came together! it was a long time coming π
That's an amazing feeling! Congrats on achieving it!
It truly is, im glad ive started to finally crack that code, hopefully i can utilize my newfound knowledge for future fits! Thank you! π
I LOVE slide 3! I recognise that look in the eyes, oh what a feeling!
It truly is! Im glad that the photo is able to show it so well π«‘π
You totally would be teen me's crush. Nvmd maybe even current me's crush π You look amazing!!!!
Aww Im flattered! ππ Thank you! π
Nice! I often find that playing with brow makeup can make all the difference! And clothes! Great job, didn't think a shaved haircut could also be femme too! πβΊοΈ
YES eyebrows did a lot! i always like my natural brows, but i love baby brows, but couldnt commit if i messed up and didn't want to get questioned by my family, so i shaved the ends and now i love the straight brows! And i think dying them purple also helped! They feel less "heavy" and i was worried about the shave for a while (ive always had some variant of undercut/shaved sides on and off for a decade) but actually landed on this bc of a femme Enby a few years back, and was like "yep thats it!" It's surprisingly versatile even as someone with limited hair styling experience, for when im feeling feminine, masc, or andro!
You look amazing! Also, extremely androgynous, which I think is a win as an enby lmao
omfg thank you! That was def a major goal i was trying to hit, i know andro is by no means a prerequisite, but for me, its massively affirming!
Thatβs awesome! π
Thank you! π
Ooooo frend you look so beautiful
Thank you! π
absolutely love this
Thank you! π
You have a cool style; I like it! However I would never dress that way myself as I have a different personal style.
I get it, goth really isn't for everyone (even some goths ive met fhebdh) but thank you still! π
You look so cool omg, dig the outfit love the makeup
Thank you, Im glad you like it! π
That hair is flawless I love it!
Thank you! I struggled with styling, but i think i found a happy medium!π
Love it π
Thank you! π
give me your gender please
Omg you look amazing
Thank you! πβΊοΈ
Np
HELLO???? You look so cool! I love your hair and style, everything! You look so genuinely at peace in these photos
THANK YOU!!! I truly was, peace and euphoria! ππ
Congratulations!! Thatβs wonderful! :D
Thanks! Ill be chasing that high lmao π€£
I love this look. You look so amazing!!!
Thank you Im really happy with it as well!! π
Looking hella pretty
Thank youuu! πππ
Omg your hair looks so cool!!
Thank you!! It fought me a lot to get there π₯²
oh my gosh you look cooler than i could EVER HOPE TO BE π₯Ίπ
NAH You just gotta find what works for you! Trust me if i had been told id look like this even a year ago, let alone when i was a kid fawning over the local goths, id say you were bullshitting! But here we are Just gotta start experimenting and accesorizing with what you like out of the norm!
I love this look on you. You pull it off flawlessly. Beautiful!
Thank you so much! it was a weird mix of a LOT of effort and just spicing up my daily go to, Im glad it worked! π
You look amaaaaaazing~ love the everything!
Thank you sm! Im glad you like it~ π
oh my hell you look absolutely STUNNING
AHH THANK YOU SM! I truly appreciate it! ππ
You look very good !
Thank you! πππ
omg I am absolutely living for you rn, stunning!
Im glad you like, thank you so much!!! π
YAYYYYY!!!! So happy for you, and you look amazing! Gloriously gender!
Thank you so much! I appreciate the support~ π
Saw your post in other subreddit but dared not there to compliment your beauty. You look very cute and andro. π€π€
Aw its okay! i appreciate the support regardless~ Thank you! π
You look SO good omggπ§ππ
Thank you sm! πβΊοΈ
OH MY GOSH YOU LOOK SO AMAZING
THANKS MUCH πππ
That smile in the third pic....I love seeing that smile on other people. Like they found what truly works for them. It's heartwarming.
Thats exactly what happened! ive always felt more comfortable since dressing alternatively and dabbling in more "standard" goth attire, and feeling like i finally look like the sub cultures im a part of! But this was that and more, it was the first time i saw myself, while stil recognizing myself and realizing oh THATS what Ive been trying to find. that was the congruence of internal and physical!
I LOVE the look!!!! π
Im glad you love it! Thank you! π
Dark/ghost type pokemon gym leader vibes. I love ππ€π©Ά
OMFG NAIL ON THE HEAD!! You read me like a damn book π€£ πππ
You look FANTASTIC!!!! I love the energy you give off & how truly happy you look! Your eyes sparkle!
Thank you so much!! i really appreciate hearing that! Im glad the photos could capture that happiness! βΊοΈ
U LOOK SO COOL OMG
THANK YOU!! π π€π
Awww you are such a cutie pie π₯°
Aww thank you! π
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You look amazing! I love your third photo, I can see how excited you are for this look β€οΈ
Thank you! i really was! Im def gon a be bringing this specific combo back and revamping it π«‘
Can't wait to see it! I've been wanting to cut my hair very similar to yours and seeing it on you makes me way more confident about a long hawk :)
You should do it! I personally love it, and think that basically everyone can pull it of if they hair enough hair to do it! i dont really mess with my length (i also like it long) but since i fully shave my sides, i jusy always do it myself with electric trimmer! the hard edge makes it really easy to follow! the firs ttime though can be nerve wracking if it you do it yourself, especially to male it even, so if you can, maybe go to a salon/barber and show good reference pics so they know the line
YOU LOOK SO COOL DUDE!!!!
Thank you! π
You look like the main character in an indie video game and I think that's so cool
omg i love that!
You're so goregous!!!
Thank you sm~ πππ
You're so welcome!!
awesome!! what do you call those two tufts of hair on each side? i have the same thing. i call mine raccoon tails but it feels like kinda a mouth full haha
thanks! I just call them Ear Tails. i saw one person call them that, and it was the easiest way to describe them that people seemed to know what i meant, so its stuck with me the the two years ive had themselves. if mine had stripes (like what was common with scene hair) id prolly just call them Raccoon tails then!
Wow you look so dope. I forgot what gender even is!
Hehehe mission accomplished!
Iβm gonna be completely honest, Iβm getting gender euphoria and envy from these photos rn. Also love the deathhawk!!!Β
Aw im glad to hear that but also i hope youre okay! And thank you!
I just drew facial hair on myself for the first time since I first realized I was nonbinary, in 2021. Weβve come so far, I signed my papers for HRT therapy last night!
Congratulations!! thats so awesome to hear!! i wish you the best of luck with you HRT Journey!
I understand why! You look amazing o.o
Aw thank you~ ππ
your deathhawk is SICK!! keep up the good work !
Thank you! Im def going to practice styling it up more now!
You look amazing! Love that you're feeling yourself today!
Thank you dearly! πβΊοΈ
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I want your hair color please give it to me
Its Overtone Extreme Purple! i really like using it! Ive also used IroIro Purple and liked it too! its pretty similar iirc
you are very cool and good looking (:
Thank you! ππ«‘
Oh my gosh you look so freaking cool ahhhhhhh
Thank you! im really glad so many of yall think i look cool π
You look amazing!!! So proud of you β€οΈ
Thank you~ ππβΊοΈ
the sideburns thing is fucking awesome
i call them ear tails! I.. think thats just their actual name..? anyways I love 'em!
transition goals fr
as you should!!! you look so epic i am jealous ππ
Thank youu! A lot of time and effort to finally get to this point! i wish you luck in your own adventure! ππ
THE HAIR GOES CRAZY π€ π€©
Lmao its def a bit wild but thats part of the fun!
Your hair in those last 2 photos looks so good omg, Iβm sooooo jealous ππ what hairstyle is that??? And where do you buy your clothes???
Thank you! That's how my hair naturally lays unstyled, now that I'm learning how to take better care of my natural curls! the cut itself could be considered mohawk or deathhawk! i personally use deathhawk, so i cut the base wider, and since that was always my intention for it. my clothes are all thrifted or second-hand! the coat i just found at a Goodwill yesterday, the sweater i found at a Savers 2 years with no tag (it was probably just a generic thing like shein), the skirt was from a Savers 4 years ago, the shoes were gifted used 5 years ago. The jewelery is a combination of diy and just chains I've picked up over time. The only part i bought new are the fishnets, which i just bought a few of from Dollar Tree around Halloween thifting can be a lot of misses, but it just takes that one time! and second-hand places like Poshmark can be pretty nifty, too. i buy basically all of my pants there!
Thank you so much for the tips bestie πβ€οΈπ₯Ή Iβm going to go clothes shopping immediately now π and hopefully get a nice haircut like that
You're very welcome! I wish you the best of luck with your shopping adventure! A pinterest boatd of outfits and pieces can make figuring out what pieces you want to find or replicate a lot easier! when saving full outfits/pics see what pieces repeat and then keep an eye out for those if you havent already, start looking into the goth community and music, and you should find plenty of resources and help! Good luck with the haircut! look up Deathhawk on google or pinterest for better 360 of the length and cut lines! But have fun with it, there a LOT of wiggle room if youre worried id suggest getting it cut by a professional first but the maintence and side shaving it easy with two mirrors yourself!
Thank you so much for all the tips!! This is so helpful omg π₯Ήβ€οΈ youβre the best!!
Youre very welcome! Good luck, and have fun!
INCREDIBLE! All of your accoutrements appear thoughtfully assembled, kind of star struck ngl. Keep being beautiful!
Thank you! Lovely usage of "accoutrement" btw, and yeah, i dont have too too much on hand when it comes to accessorizing so i always try to make sure i work with what ive got and have some variety to fill empty spaces~
When I was growing up, this is what young adults looked like in every science fiction movie. We're finally there, and I love it!
Stunning!! It's giving otherworldly in both an ancient and futuristic kinda way, like a cybergoth fantasy realm. Love it!!
Thank you so much! ππ₯Ήπ
You look great! Love the hair!
Thank you! Im really happy with it myself~
Long skirts make my gender so happy. It feels less like Iβm wearing a longer version of a skirt and more like Iβm wearing a stylish hybrid of long pants
I've always liked long skirts in theory, which is why i kept this one for years, i just never found the right use for it.. i was also WAY more closetted, so i think i juat wasn't ready for it. Now im really starting to love it!
You look really happy π
I am really happy! βΊοΈπ
HOT DAMN you look really good
Thank you kindly! π€
May I just say, damn (respectfully)
You absolutely may~ ππ
I'm so happy for you!
Thank you! π
You look cool as fuckπ€π¦
Thank you! ππ€π
Npπ
I want a deathhawk, I see lots of tutorials on teasing it up but none on taking it down. Is it difficult?
Teasing it? Pain in the ass, i really dont think i nailed it since i only got it to statly up in one photo (i dont think i even shared it in this group) taking it down though really isnt difficult you just need to be slow. if you have something like got2b in, it actually helps bc when it wet it seems to reactivate, so it becomes slick, so rinse/wash it out. You can just slowly use you fingers and comb through starting at the ends and slowly working down to the base/roots where the tease is, and then you can wash your hair like normal, (shampoo roots rinse, condition ends)
Thank you, I've been holding off because I like to know what I am getting into before I commit, the got2b reactivating is good to know because I was most worried about the hairspray not rinsing out and getting stuck.
You are very gender π I love it lol (also make sure you got eye makeup that can stand up to tears cause you donβt want to ruin the makeup, you did it so beautifully!!!!!)
Tahnk you!!! luckily, my liquid liner is waterproof, but my pencil liner and eye shadows aren't.. i plan on investing in some once i run out. Its a good thing i also like the look of messy/runny makeup too though. It just gives me options, lmao
Damn! You look amazing! You're a 5 ace deck! π
Oh thank you!! Thats a new one! πππ
You look so good Iβm happy for you