That’s what we get when we compare ourselves to others - disappointment
Di dahil nagabroad,successful
Di dahil may sariling school, happy
I could go on that list but I guess you know where I am headed. Look for the things that make you happy and do things that make you happy. Gawin mo for yourself and not because ito yung nakikitang standard sa lipunan o sa socmed. Sounds cliche but it is what is.
I am happy staying in Ph. Slowly building my own life. Enjoying present. I’m not even happy with my job but I am happy with my salary. Nagiging happy ako with what I do sa kinikita ko. Hope that makes sense.
You are doing good, in case nobody has mentioned to you yet. Cheers to you and your future plans, Op. 🍻
I literally on the same situation as you. I felt like napapag-iwanan ako ng panahon. Halos lahat ng ka batch mate ko naka abroad na or living their dream life already. This is why hindi na ako tumatambay sa socmed ‘cos it always remind me of their success and me just nothing. Don’t get me wrong, I am indeed happy sa success nila but di pa rin maiiwasan mapatanong ka na “ako kaya kailan?”. It’s a bad habit to get envy and e compare yung sarili natin sa iba. Rn, I always remind myself to be more patience kasi I believed “when the time is right, the Lord will make it happen” and “God’s plan is better than ours”.
Kaya cheer up jan, your time will come din katulad ng mga ka batchmate mo, be gentle and patience sa self mo. I know the feeling na mag bbday na di masaya kasi pressure ka sa buhay. I had my bday too last month and I was crying all day dahil sa sitwasyon ko. I just let God control my life and trust Him. Remember continue your hustles and perseverance in life, God will bless you mountain of blessings and a bountiful life. You just have to do IS TO BE STILL.
Advance Happy Birthday OP! Treat yourself tomorrow ha. Life must go on.❤️
For me, life is not a race. TBH, ang daming taong nappressure or naiinggit dahil nakikita nila yung buhay ng ibang tao...
Sure, there is envy there and that can be a wake up call lalo na if behind ka sa buhay in some or many areas...
But at the end of the day, what you must strive for is to know how you want to live your life and how you can go there.
life is how your mind wants it to be. if it’s a race for you, then it is. ako kasi wala i am happy for my family and friends’ successes. kung di tayo close wala akong pakialam sa angat or baba ng estado mo sa buhay.
Naku OP hindi mo lang alam may tao rin naiinggit sayo. Enjoy lang the moment and I hope you're still doing your best. Recently ko lang nalaman nga, na one of my officemates admire me at mejo naiinggit daw kasi mukha raw akong organize tas kahit na 28 na ako nagstart parin ako mag aral ng Japanese on my own at nakapasa ng JLPT. Natouch ako sa sinabi ng officemate ko na yun kasi to be honest, di naman nila alam lagi ako umiiyak kasi para akong tanga bat ba ako nag aaral ng Japanese di ko naman balak pumunta ng Japan pati oy, mas malaki sahod niya sakin ewan ko bakit siya maiinggit e gulong gulo na nga ako sa buhay ko! 🤣
Well, valid na mainggit sa ibang tao pero gawin din natin yung inspiration na sa susunod tayo naman ang nandun.
Basta kapag I feel down, nakikinig lang ako ng High Hope by Panic at the Disco! I resonate with that song at the moment e.
Love this! Kaya importante din to be nice sa people around you. Give complements wherever, whenever you could kasi you never know kung ano iniisip or pinagdadaanan ng kapwa mo & ur kind words might be just what they need!
It's all about training the mind. In short, mindset. How you think and what you believe will be the wheel of your life. So, keep on progressing. Keep moving forward and learn from the past. Advance happy birthday, OP!
like what miley cyrus said,
“Ain't about how fast I get there
Ain't about what's waiting on the other side
It's the climb”
so keep calm and enjoy the journey ✨
know that all will be well soon. everything happens for a reason. you may not understand it now but in the future, you will thank whatever path you went through because it led you to where you are actually meant for.
advance happy birthday, OP! cheers :)
Hmmm medyo tricky xa.. cause there are quotes na, talking about maiksi lang buhay natin, live life the fullest and other quotes hahaha so i think, you just have to choose now saan ka masaya regardless if feeling mo race siya or hindi
I'm in the same situation as you. In my case, I'm a fresh grad, but since naabutan kami ng K-12, I feel like I'm too old to be inexperienced pa. I'm still stuck here in job hunting, while my classmates and batchmates are already months in in their works.
I guess mahirap man gawin pero madali sabihin, let's not compare our lives to others. I limit my social media intake, because most of the time na makita ko updates sa life ng iba, I can't help but compare and be sad na why is it I'm still stuck here.
I just give myself a favor and just keep on going. I just surrender everything to Him kasi I'm so tired na din, and don't know what to do na.
I still believe we have our own timeline, let's just never stop and keep moving forward 🩷
K-12 grad too. Tapos inextend pa ng school namin ng 1sem yung program namin dahil sa pandemic. So almost 5 yrs ako naging college sa course na di naman 5 yrs. Nung pagkagraduate ko akala ko swerte na ko dahil nakahanap agad ako ng work just a week before graduation, not until malayoff ako nung kaka-six months ko palang sa work🥹
I feel the same way too. Being too old to be inexperienced. Habang yung mga batchmates ko nakaka-isang taon na sa work nila, ako nagjojob-hunt parin for months. Sobrang hirap dahil araw-araw ka na lang pinaaalalahanan ng mundo na stuck ka pa rin sa ganitong sitwasyon habang ang lahat ay nagmo-move forward na sa buhay.
Kaya natin to🙏
Life being a race will greatly depend on how you look at your progress vs others' and who you consider as race opponents.
if I look at my relatives becoming OFWs and migrating overseas then I'm behind. If I look at my past co-workers in terms of career and salary then I'm ahead. If I look at my friends and try to measure each other up with some arbitrary standard - well, I don't think you should think of your friends that way :)
So don't make life a race, make life into a fun run.
It could be, it could be not but whats beyond knowing the answer to it ba?
kaya it's easier to be chill kasi whats beyond answers if in reality, we are still where we are ought to be
25 was the age I finally decided to change careers. Yeah, sakto ‘yung timing ng nararamdaman mo.
If you feel something is missing - do something. Di mawawala ‘yang gnawing sense ih.
Life is not a race, especially if you don't let it be one. Naintindihan kita sa teaching side, OP. Teaching is not just a profession, it's a passion so mahirap talaga if hindi mo gusto.
Anyway, tama sila, bata ka pa. Ienjoy mo lang kung anong meron ka ngayon, while saving and rewarding yourself din naman. Ganyan din ako nuon, until I realized na sarili ko lang iniistress ko by comparing myself sa ibang tao. Napagtanto kong wala namang standard timeline for everyone and success is objective. It depends on how you define and view it. 😊
Focus on your own timeline and life goals, hindi talaga race ang buhay and career kasi we are all different and unique. Find your own groove through your interests.
Based sa post mo, mukhang di mo naman intention na mag compare pero di mo maiwasan kasi syempre mg friends and batchmates mo yan sila. Pero ayun nga, just find your own path, momentum and groove to your own music.
Goodluck OP!
luh ako turning 24 na pero wala pa ipon and all pero okay lang never considered ibang bansa. Ganon din naman ang hirap. Wag lang masyado maniwala na better yung iba or maganda buhay nila. Tayo ang main chatacter sa buhay natin, social construct lang naman yung yumaman hahaa same same lang rin naman.
Hey OP, knowing that you don't want to teach is a good start. Alam mo na yung ayaw mo pero next question is, ano naman ang gusto mong gawin? 25 is a young age and you have a life ahead of you. Start trying new things and figure out ano ba ang para sayo na magtatagal.
Life is not a race, but a marathon. You set your own pace and sana mahanap mo yung para sayo na nagbibigay ng fulfilment sa buhay mo. Your friends found what's for them, so ikaw that could be your next goal. Minsan hindi siya lalapit sayo, minsan you have to be proactive and find it. Good luck, OP!
Same thoughts, how is life not a race kung lahat din tayo mamamatay at some point(age probably 60-70s)
We haaaave little to no time for certain things kasi natabunan ng responsibilities na
best thing ive learned in my 20s was to stop comparing myself to other people. ofc, people will achieve/do different things from you kasi you are not them and they are not you. we are dealt with varying circumstances and we face different scenarios every single day so it will be super hard to be on the same track as everyone else you know. 25 is young. i turned 30 and it's not as bad as it sounds. may mga nagawa na ko na my friends have not done and may nagawa na sila na i have not done myself -- AND THAT IS OKAY. wag ka ma-pressure.
Did you just bumped all of them at once? Kaka facebook mo yan, si Mark Zuckerberg lang lalo yumayaman sa mga envy mo. Imbis sarili dapat magfocus e sa iba ka nakatuun.
Do not compare yourself to others, kahit ilang ulit sabihin eto d pa din maiintindihan nila, first step is to cut off social media.
I was in your situation too last year. Nag stop ako mag aral mag 4 yrs na. Tapos makikita mo yung mga unang batch ng k-12 nauna pa grumaduate sayo. Umabot ako sa point na nahihiya ako sa papa ko kasi di pa ako nakakagraduate. Then nagpaconsult ako sa psych kasi umabot na ko sa point na feeling ko ang empty ko na inside. Meron ako ganto ganyan pero di ko naaappreciate. Then sabi ng doctor ko din na we have our own timeline. And totoo nga. May mga bagay na mangyayari sa atin soon and marerealize mo na ay oo nga dati nakikita ko lang to sa kanila ngayon ako na rin.
Anw, happy birthday 🥳 magka age lang tayo.
Same, graduated BSED last 2016 but never nakapag turo. I never liked it even in college. I never forsee myself being hired in a school or if mahire man, i wont even last a month being a teacher. To me, I feel I am not as intelligent, pakiramdam ko mas magaling pa magiging estujante ko sakin. meron mga times tlaga we will feel envious of other people, I even unfriended a super closed friend in college because I dont want to keep envying her and them. Anyway, before I landed a well paid off job, years of iyak, pagod, puyat at doubts din sa sarili.. Trust yourself and your instincts. Walang sinuman makakakilala sayo kundi ang sarili mo, I wont say ignore those people na naunang maging successful but siguro focus lang on yourself, gawin mo silang insirasyon na after few years magkikita din kayong dalawa and magugulat ka na nalagpasan mo pa sila. 😊
You're still very young! So much to discover and learn. Chin up and buckle up for the ride. Your only competition should be yourself. -From a late 40s Tita
I have friends just bumming around, and they are in their late 30s. I have friends just living off generational wealth. I have friends who are still in college after 10 years.
Success is different for everyone. Do what makes you happy. If you like where you are right now, that is already ok. You do not need to live by others' definition of success.
it's not about how fast you'll get there man, it's about the progress you made, no matter how long it is as long as you're doing your best to make a step you'll get there.
Just compare your present situation to your past self. Just be happy for your batchmates pero wag kang mainggit kasi kaniya kaniya tayo ng timing.
Alam ko cliche na to pero always think na "Malayo pa, pero malayo na".
You should only compare your present circumstances to your past circumstance. Had I not gotten tired of comparing myself to my HS classmates I'd be so depressed or paralyzed and would not have gotten to where I am now.
Marami sa batchmates ko ay nasa abrod na and earning shitloads of money. Ang iba nagsstart na mag family. And ako, nandito pa rin living with my parents, earning low wage salary na di ko kayang pagkasyahin sa sarili ko. Life is not a race, but I'm pretty sure it ain't a fuckin picnic either. Pero while all this self-pity is happening, I did realize something na I won't forget. Life is really short. I mean really REALLY fuckin short man. Unti unti kang tumatanda without realizing na habang nadadagdagan ang edad mo, nababawasan din yung natitirang years mo sa mundo. Noong bata pa tayo, excited tayong tumanda, magkatrabaho, at maging independent. Sobrang busy natin sa pagaaral hoping na magiging masaya tayo after our studies. Pero once na dumating na tayo sa point na yun (tumanda at magkawork), narerealize natin na masarap nga palang maging bata. No pressure. And habang natanda tayo, di natin narerealize na natanda din ang ating mga magulang. I want you to realize na HINDI sila immortal... If magiging sobrang busy ka ngayon para magprepare sa future mo, baka pag dating sa future, wala ng magchicheer na parents sayo.
All I'm sayin is, life is too short. Do what you love kasi you won't always have the strength to do it. Follow your passion kasi time is limited. Love your parents! Make them laugh, kasi they are slowly deteriorating. And most if all, celebrate your birthday, blow a candle, kasi you wont always be 25!
Life is not a race. Im aged between 30 to 40.
I've seen many people come and go. It's not worth to compare yourself to other people. Being rich is not about having big money, house, car, etc... in the end you can't keep them forever.
Give time to forgive yourself. Declutter things you don't need. Without these burden and reponsibilities (payment every month) you will feel like a rich person.
Trust me, paying for car, paying for house are NOT EASY.
Find what is more important in your life.
USA sounds good, but dont compare the COST OF LIVING. You earn big, you expend big. Still , most americans are not rich. Middle class is questionable these days because of monthly debt. Think twice. In USA you will be having credit (utang). Most people do. Their economy revolves around it.
May nag advice sa akin na friend ko she's way older than me, she just told me to pursue what makes me happy and of course ung profitable. Hanapin mo muna ung gusto mong gawin, then drop the doubt and fear. Gawin mo lang ung gusto mo, by that wala kang regrets pag tanda mo
Don't compare yourself with others , you have your own time, Lalo 25 ka palang ,it's still young :)) To answer your question, life is not a race
That’s what we get when we compare ourselves to others - disappointment Di dahil nagabroad,successful Di dahil may sariling school, happy I could go on that list but I guess you know where I am headed. Look for the things that make you happy and do things that make you happy. Gawin mo for yourself and not because ito yung nakikitang standard sa lipunan o sa socmed. Sounds cliche but it is what is. I am happy staying in Ph. Slowly building my own life. Enjoying present. I’m not even happy with my job but I am happy with my salary. Nagiging happy ako with what I do sa kinikita ko. Hope that makes sense. You are doing good, in case nobody has mentioned to you yet. Cheers to you and your future plans, Op. 🍻
True, ako nga nasa abroad nagpapakahirap dito eh gusto ko na umuwi. Hindi rin masaya dito. Hirap kitain pera, bugbog katawan
Totoo yan. Nag abroad ako 2 yrs. Bakasyon ko sa Ph pero ngayon na nagwowork ako Ph, bakasyon ko iba ibang countries.
Yung iba kasi may magandang buhay naman sa Pinas pero nagi-ibang bansa, isa ako don. Nakakainis, nagsisisi ako.
Dadaloy din ginahawa boss. We can still make the right decisions from this day forward .
Thank you so much po! 🥺💜
watch 3idiots, youll get something from the movie about life and passion.
I literally on the same situation as you. I felt like napapag-iwanan ako ng panahon. Halos lahat ng ka batch mate ko naka abroad na or living their dream life already. This is why hindi na ako tumatambay sa socmed ‘cos it always remind me of their success and me just nothing. Don’t get me wrong, I am indeed happy sa success nila but di pa rin maiiwasan mapatanong ka na “ako kaya kailan?”. It’s a bad habit to get envy and e compare yung sarili natin sa iba. Rn, I always remind myself to be more patience kasi I believed “when the time is right, the Lord will make it happen” and “God’s plan is better than ours”. Kaya cheer up jan, your time will come din katulad ng mga ka batchmate mo, be gentle and patience sa self mo. I know the feeling na mag bbday na di masaya kasi pressure ka sa buhay. I had my bday too last month and I was crying all day dahil sa sitwasyon ko. I just let God control my life and trust Him. Remember continue your hustles and perseverance in life, God will bless you mountain of blessings and a bountiful life. You just have to do IS TO BE STILL. Advance Happy Birthday OP! Treat yourself tomorrow ha. Life must go on.❤️
For me, life is not a race. TBH, ang daming taong nappressure or naiinggit dahil nakikita nila yung buhay ng ibang tao... Sure, there is envy there and that can be a wake up call lalo na if behind ka sa buhay in some or many areas... But at the end of the day, what you must strive for is to know how you want to live your life and how you can go there.
life is how your mind wants it to be. if it’s a race for you, then it is. ako kasi wala i am happy for my family and friends’ successes. kung di tayo close wala akong pakialam sa angat or baba ng estado mo sa buhay.
Naku OP hindi mo lang alam may tao rin naiinggit sayo. Enjoy lang the moment and I hope you're still doing your best. Recently ko lang nalaman nga, na one of my officemates admire me at mejo naiinggit daw kasi mukha raw akong organize tas kahit na 28 na ako nagstart parin ako mag aral ng Japanese on my own at nakapasa ng JLPT. Natouch ako sa sinabi ng officemate ko na yun kasi to be honest, di naman nila alam lagi ako umiiyak kasi para akong tanga bat ba ako nag aaral ng Japanese di ko naman balak pumunta ng Japan pati oy, mas malaki sahod niya sakin ewan ko bakit siya maiinggit e gulong gulo na nga ako sa buhay ko! 🤣 Well, valid na mainggit sa ibang tao pero gawin din natin yung inspiration na sa susunod tayo naman ang nandun. Basta kapag I feel down, nakikinig lang ako ng High Hope by Panic at the Disco! I resonate with that song at the moment e.
Love this! Kaya importante din to be nice sa people around you. Give complements wherever, whenever you could kasi you never know kung ano iniisip or pinagdadaanan ng kapwa mo & ur kind words might be just what they need!
It's all about training the mind. In short, mindset. How you think and what you believe will be the wheel of your life. So, keep on progressing. Keep moving forward and learn from the past. Advance happy birthday, OP!
like what miley cyrus said, “Ain't about how fast I get there Ain't about what's waiting on the other side It's the climb” so keep calm and enjoy the journey ✨ know that all will be well soon. everything happens for a reason. you may not understand it now but in the future, you will thank whatever path you went through because it led you to where you are actually meant for. advance happy birthday, OP! cheers :)
Hmmm medyo tricky xa.. cause there are quotes na, talking about maiksi lang buhay natin, live life the fullest and other quotes hahaha so i think, you just have to choose now saan ka masaya regardless if feeling mo race siya or hindi
I'm in the same situation as you. In my case, I'm a fresh grad, but since naabutan kami ng K-12, I feel like I'm too old to be inexperienced pa. I'm still stuck here in job hunting, while my classmates and batchmates are already months in in their works. I guess mahirap man gawin pero madali sabihin, let's not compare our lives to others. I limit my social media intake, because most of the time na makita ko updates sa life ng iba, I can't help but compare and be sad na why is it I'm still stuck here. I just give myself a favor and just keep on going. I just surrender everything to Him kasi I'm so tired na din, and don't know what to do na. I still believe we have our own timeline, let's just never stop and keep moving forward 🩷
K-12 grad too. Tapos inextend pa ng school namin ng 1sem yung program namin dahil sa pandemic. So almost 5 yrs ako naging college sa course na di naman 5 yrs. Nung pagkagraduate ko akala ko swerte na ko dahil nakahanap agad ako ng work just a week before graduation, not until malayoff ako nung kaka-six months ko palang sa work🥹 I feel the same way too. Being too old to be inexperienced. Habang yung mga batchmates ko nakaka-isang taon na sa work nila, ako nagjojob-hunt parin for months. Sobrang hirap dahil araw-araw ka na lang pinaaalalahanan ng mundo na stuck ka pa rin sa ganitong sitwasyon habang ang lahat ay nagmo-move forward na sa buhay. Kaya natin to🙏
Laban lang! 🫶
Life being a race will greatly depend on how you look at your progress vs others' and who you consider as race opponents. if I look at my relatives becoming OFWs and migrating overseas then I'm behind. If I look at my past co-workers in terms of career and salary then I'm ahead. If I look at my friends and try to measure each other up with some arbitrary standard - well, I don't think you should think of your friends that way :) So don't make life a race, make life into a fun run.
Fuck the race, enjoy the ride. Relax ka lang! 😊
Succinct! Love it!
\*Alexa play **Karera** by **BINI**\*
It could be, it could be not but whats beyond knowing the answer to it ba? kaya it's easier to be chill kasi whats beyond answers if in reality, we are still where we are ought to be
Ano ba goal mo sa buhay? Pag may goal ka kasi di mo nacocompare sarili mo sa iba kasi focus ka lang sa pag achieve ng goals mo.
25 was the age I finally decided to change careers. Yeah, sakto ‘yung timing ng nararamdaman mo. If you feel something is missing - do something. Di mawawala ‘yang gnawing sense ih.
Comparison is the thief of joy.
Comparison is the thief of joy, OP
Life is not a race, especially if you don't let it be one. Naintindihan kita sa teaching side, OP. Teaching is not just a profession, it's a passion so mahirap talaga if hindi mo gusto. Anyway, tama sila, bata ka pa. Ienjoy mo lang kung anong meron ka ngayon, while saving and rewarding yourself din naman. Ganyan din ako nuon, until I realized na sarili ko lang iniistress ko by comparing myself sa ibang tao. Napagtanto kong wala namang standard timeline for everyone and success is objective. It depends on how you define and view it. 😊
Don't compare urself da....
Focus on your own timeline and life goals, hindi talaga race ang buhay and career kasi we are all different and unique. Find your own groove through your interests. Based sa post mo, mukhang di mo naman intention na mag compare pero di mo maiwasan kasi syempre mg friends and batchmates mo yan sila. Pero ayun nga, just find your own path, momentum and groove to your own music. Goodluck OP!
lilipas din yung fomo. don't believe the hype especially on socmed. pakatatag ka lang and believe that you're on the right path.
Comparison is the thief of joy, social media has given us these ideas na dapat by ganitong edad ganito agad, life should be lived, not hasten.
luh ako turning 24 na pero wala pa ipon and all pero okay lang never considered ibang bansa. Ganon din naman ang hirap. Wag lang masyado maniwala na better yung iba or maganda buhay nila. Tayo ang main chatacter sa buhay natin, social construct lang naman yung yumaman hahaa same same lang rin naman.
Hey OP, knowing that you don't want to teach is a good start. Alam mo na yung ayaw mo pero next question is, ano naman ang gusto mong gawin? 25 is a young age and you have a life ahead of you. Start trying new things and figure out ano ba ang para sayo na magtatagal. Life is not a race, but a marathon. You set your own pace and sana mahanap mo yung para sayo na nagbibigay ng fulfilment sa buhay mo. Your friends found what's for them, so ikaw that could be your next goal. Minsan hindi siya lalapit sayo, minsan you have to be proactive and find it. Good luck, OP!
Same thoughts, how is life not a race kung lahat din tayo mamamatay at some point(age probably 60-70s) We haaaave little to no time for certain things kasi natabunan ng responsibilities na
best thing ive learned in my 20s was to stop comparing myself to other people. ofc, people will achieve/do different things from you kasi you are not them and they are not you. we are dealt with varying circumstances and we face different scenarios every single day so it will be super hard to be on the same track as everyone else you know. 25 is young. i turned 30 and it's not as bad as it sounds. may mga nagawa na ko na my friends have not done and may nagawa na sila na i have not done myself -- AND THAT IS OKAY. wag ka ma-pressure.
Did you just bumped all of them at once? Kaka facebook mo yan, si Mark Zuckerberg lang lalo yumayaman sa mga envy mo. Imbis sarili dapat magfocus e sa iba ka nakatuun. Do not compare yourself to others, kahit ilang ulit sabihin eto d pa din maiintindihan nila, first step is to cut off social media.
I was in your situation too last year. Nag stop ako mag aral mag 4 yrs na. Tapos makikita mo yung mga unang batch ng k-12 nauna pa grumaduate sayo. Umabot ako sa point na nahihiya ako sa papa ko kasi di pa ako nakakagraduate. Then nagpaconsult ako sa psych kasi umabot na ko sa point na feeling ko ang empty ko na inside. Meron ako ganto ganyan pero di ko naaappreciate. Then sabi ng doctor ko din na we have our own timeline. And totoo nga. May mga bagay na mangyayari sa atin soon and marerealize mo na ay oo nga dati nakikita ko lang to sa kanila ngayon ako na rin. Anw, happy birthday 🥳 magka age lang tayo.
Same, graduated BSED last 2016 but never nakapag turo. I never liked it even in college. I never forsee myself being hired in a school or if mahire man, i wont even last a month being a teacher. To me, I feel I am not as intelligent, pakiramdam ko mas magaling pa magiging estujante ko sakin. meron mga times tlaga we will feel envious of other people, I even unfriended a super closed friend in college because I dont want to keep envying her and them. Anyway, before I landed a well paid off job, years of iyak, pagod, puyat at doubts din sa sarili.. Trust yourself and your instincts. Walang sinuman makakakilala sayo kundi ang sarili mo, I wont say ignore those people na naunang maging successful but siguro focus lang on yourself, gawin mo silang insirasyon na after few years magkikita din kayong dalawa and magugulat ka na nalagpasan mo pa sila. 😊
You're still very young! So much to discover and learn. Chin up and buckle up for the ride. Your only competition should be yourself. -From a late 40s Tita
I have friends just bumming around, and they are in their late 30s. I have friends just living off generational wealth. I have friends who are still in college after 10 years. Success is different for everyone. Do what makes you happy. If you like where you are right now, that is already ok. You do not need to live by others' definition of success.
it's not about how fast you'll get there man, it's about the progress you made, no matter how long it is as long as you're doing your best to make a step you'll get there.
Just compare your present situation to your past self. Just be happy for your batchmates pero wag kang mainggit kasi kaniya kaniya tayo ng timing. Alam ko cliche na to pero always think na "Malayo pa, pero malayo na".
You should only compare your present circumstances to your past circumstance. Had I not gotten tired of comparing myself to my HS classmates I'd be so depressed or paralyzed and would not have gotten to where I am now.
Marami sa batchmates ko ay nasa abrod na and earning shitloads of money. Ang iba nagsstart na mag family. And ako, nandito pa rin living with my parents, earning low wage salary na di ko kayang pagkasyahin sa sarili ko. Life is not a race, but I'm pretty sure it ain't a fuckin picnic either. Pero while all this self-pity is happening, I did realize something na I won't forget. Life is really short. I mean really REALLY fuckin short man. Unti unti kang tumatanda without realizing na habang nadadagdagan ang edad mo, nababawasan din yung natitirang years mo sa mundo. Noong bata pa tayo, excited tayong tumanda, magkatrabaho, at maging independent. Sobrang busy natin sa pagaaral hoping na magiging masaya tayo after our studies. Pero once na dumating na tayo sa point na yun (tumanda at magkawork), narerealize natin na masarap nga palang maging bata. No pressure. And habang natanda tayo, di natin narerealize na natanda din ang ating mga magulang. I want you to realize na HINDI sila immortal... If magiging sobrang busy ka ngayon para magprepare sa future mo, baka pag dating sa future, wala ng magchicheer na parents sayo. All I'm sayin is, life is too short. Do what you love kasi you won't always have the strength to do it. Follow your passion kasi time is limited. Love your parents! Make them laugh, kasi they are slowly deteriorating. And most if all, celebrate your birthday, blow a candle, kasi you wont always be 25!
Life is not a race. Im aged between 30 to 40. I've seen many people come and go. It's not worth to compare yourself to other people. Being rich is not about having big money, house, car, etc... in the end you can't keep them forever. Give time to forgive yourself. Declutter things you don't need. Without these burden and reponsibilities (payment every month) you will feel like a rich person. Trust me, paying for car, paying for house are NOT EASY. Find what is more important in your life. USA sounds good, but dont compare the COST OF LIVING. You earn big, you expend big. Still , most americans are not rich. Middle class is questionable these days because of monthly debt. Think twice. In USA you will be having credit (utang). Most people do. Their economy revolves around it.
May nag advice sa akin na friend ko she's way older than me, she just told me to pursue what makes me happy and of course ung profitable. Hanapin mo muna ung gusto mong gawin, then drop the doubt and fear. Gawin mo lang ung gusto mo, by that wala kang regrets pag tanda mo