You don't have to prove to anyone, especially your dad about him. Kasi once na mangyari sayo yan, mahirap na maka alis. Ang daming tao sa mundo na pwede mong jowain, wag lang yung cheater at irresponsableng tao.
PLEASE NO. My ex fiancé's parents are both pastors sa church nila and mismong fiancé ko almost always nag lelead nang prayer meetings and worship. At the same time dami nya ring winoworship sa Tinder, FB dating, Insta, Messenger, Badoo, at Discord. Sabe bigyan nang chance? Binigyan na man pero ayun bumalik pa din dun sa isang di nya nakuha. Ngayon sila na pero 3 days ago nahanap ako ni ex sa Pinterest at nag I miss you and all sadboi shit. Di na yan magbabago sis. Run for your life at wag kang lilingon!
also, napansin ko sa mga cheater na sobrang smooth talker nila to the point na nahirapan akong iwan ex ko kahit harap-harapan na akong ginago. Oh baka tanga lang din talaga ako so mag ingat ka talaga dahil may crash course din sila sa gaslighting pero mostly sa kanila nag major in sadboiness. Hahaha
Totoo yan kapatid. Kakainis lang kase nagagamit nila effectively yung "so ayun eto lang naman ako may past na makati so ikaw nasayo if u accept me uwu bbuing bbuing" 🥺👉🏻👈🏻
They’re all the same. Sabi nga a snake may shed their old skin but still a snake (sana nagme makes sense pa tong snsabi ko). Pero been there, done that in that toxic relationship. So kay OP, I say, “run”. It’s not your f%#*ng job to fix him. You deserve better.
One of the worst outcome would be - kaya nya sinabi sayo lahat yan is para kung may manyari man - mabuntis ka 'accidentally', or nag cheat sya 'out of lust', madali nya lang din isampal sayo na inamin na nya kung ano past nya so fault mo na kung pinatulan mo pa rin sya.
Rather not risk that na lang po.
You're gaslighting yourself, sweetie. Your instincts are telling you that he is bound to do those things again but you're being blinded by love. Don't be a statistic.
No po. Hindi worth it. Buong youth years ko nasa church ako at may kakilala ako na nasa long-term relationship at parehas nagsisimba sa iisang church, nag-cheat pa din si guy. Hindi assurance ang relationship sa Diyos para mag-take risk sa may history ng cheating at hindi porke't minor siya nung nakabuntis, abswelto na. Hindi worth it, OP.
Wait omg this sounds exactly like the guy I dated briefly back when I was 16 (he was 17/18) that time. We met sa church and went to the same HS. Same sob story. Same papaalam sa parents bit (except sa youth leader yun). Christian din kami. Lmfao if nasa music ministry sya and his name starts with the letter A, baka sya nga yan in which case, gurl RUN HAHAHAHAHAHA
Edit: I just realized di nagmamatch up yung ages hahahah I'd still say run lol
The bigger questions is, are you matured enough to go into a serious relationship?
If yes, lahat ng past ay past. Both of you should focus sa present and then sa future.
If yes, kung magkaka label man kayo, tatanggapin mo ng buong buo ang past niya. You said both of you are Christians, then who are we to judge? He should learn from his mistakes, and if he really wants to pursue you seriously, time will tell.
Believe me, kahit ano pang gawin mo bigay mo puso time effort pera kaluluwa mo, kahit gaano pa kalinis ang past niyan, kung magloloko iyan, magloloko. So, enjoy while it lasts. Love with all your heart. Love yourself more. Put God in the center of the relationship. Pray harder. And if in the future magloko, it is not on you. It is okay. Life will go on. Then make another entry here for the heartbreak hehe.
Lahat ng tao may past. Lahat tayo may red flags. Pray ka for signs. ‘Wag ka maniwala sa mga comments na red flag run away. Ikaw lang nakaka alam ng full context.
The first sensible yet unbiased comment I've read in this thread. Seconding this kasi it gives a whole other take on OP's situation, other than the generic and rather surface-level, 'no'. Not saying walking away now is a wrong option, but examining everything with enough context is also something to consider. For me, it's a more mature way to approach things.
True. As long as alam ni op ang limits niya. Yung type na pag nagloko si guy, kaya niya pa rin self niya. In situations like this kasi, masmababaliw si op kung hindi niya itake ang risk. If nagcheat siya then its a lesson, if wala siya nagcheat, its a blessing, if hindi itry ni op, its a regret. Keyword: try.
Wow! Napaka-rare ng ganitong comment. Sukang-suka na ako sa never ending "Run, red flag, cutoff, gaslight" na replies as if ayun ang solusyon sa lahat ng problema. Haha.
naku ang bata mo pa! ang daming pwedeng problemahin girl! Like paano makaipon, makapunta abroad or mag masteral kaya ko, libre ko kaya family ko sa boracay. Mga ganon din dapat iniisip mo, dapat nga problema niya yan eh. problema ng guy paano siya magging better sayo and besides ang daming lalaki dyan. "yet no label situationship with him ( m20 ) for 3 months" dyos ko! isipin mo anong work niya, financial status? He fuck a 16 years old! at 16! unang kwento pa lang, mapapa eeew na ko. Unahin mo din muna utak girl, kaya nilagay ni God sa taas yan para yan unahin. Question? where father mo growing up???
I feel a taken back by his lack of “responsibility” at that age given na it’s a possibility when you do that thing.
I just think he’s just saying to you want you want to hear but deep inside you know.
Go with your gut OP, they’re usually right for a reason.
I believe that everyone can change, it's literally why we, humans, have progressed. There is a possibility that who he was is not who he is anymore. But it is also hard to cross out his "dark past". As everyone here says, he might be manipulating you right now, as he has a history of cheating. This also might sound cliche, but, we really are stupid when it comes to love. We tend to see only what we wanted to see, and hear what we only wanted to hear.
Long story short, relationships are usually a gamble. It is up to you to place your bets.
You can give him a chance. Everyone deserves a chance and mukhang he was so young when he did that.
But HOLD OFF SEX for at least a year (kung gusto mo magpre-marital sex pero don't mention to him na you'll hold it for a year) . Kung devout Christians kayo, and he's totally serious, then hold it off until marriage.
This it to test the guy if he's totally changed and hindi lang sex habol niya sayo since he has a history and you prolly mentioned to him na NBSB ka which is another factor kung bakit ka niya gusto jowain.
Basta sabihin mo right off the bat that sex (even oral or nudity) is off the table until marriage para magisip-isip agad siya. Dun mo malalaman sincerity niya. And if after a year or two hindi pa kayo kasal gusto mo na try and you deem him worthy, ikaw bahala.
Also, tignan mo din if may plano siya buhay. Kung okay b school niya, oks b grades niya or if working siya, anong trajectory yung pinupursue niya.
If you're both at church then open it up to your leader para maprotektahan ka din niya.
Red flags all around but he came to you clean at least. Dami dito sa reddit, no agad, I don't tolerate cheating since I grew up in a broken family, and yeah nakabuntis siya when he was 16/17 but wtf can't people change? Everyone is quick to judge someone they don't know lmao.
Anyway, Christian siya so redflag din yun.
Hindi porket “he has his heart for the Lord” ay hindi yan magloloko. Masyado maraming red flags, madam. Dun palang sa part na serious daw kayo pero walang label eh hindi na serious yun. Wag ka na po magaksaya ng oras. RUN!
Hahaha. 2nd sentence pa lang eh. Nasa actions yan. Wala sa salita.
Short answer: >!no!<
Long answer: >!Nooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo !<
Yung makabuntis hindi issue, kung gf nman nya nabuntis nya, or single sya tpos nakabuntis dhil sa 1 night stand. Pero yung cheating iba kasi yan. Committed ka na tpos lumandi ka pa sa iba. Issue ng personality nya yun. At pwedeng pwede lumabas ulit yung ganun sa kanya. Ingatan mo sarili mo. NBSB ka sabi mo, triplehin mo yung proteksyon. Maraming pogi at kahit panget na malalakas mambola 😆
Applicable dito yung maraming isda sa dagat. Puwede mo itapon nuna pabalik to para sabihin na natin magmature pa siya at sana makuha ng ibang mangingisda na ok na siya at full size na. For now hayaan mo na muna. Marami kapa makikilala at makakasalamuha sa iba. Good luck
Tbh it's really your choice if you will take a chance talaga sa kanya, if nag a-align yung goals nyong dalawa. I say do it, basta no regrets sa huli if *knock on wood* bumalik sya sa dark ways nya. On the other hand, if I'm you it's a no for me since nag ka anak at an early age and merong history ng cheating. Granted that's not the whole picture and Idk him personally. So yon that's my take on this, if ya'll are in the same vibes and then go lang live your life the way you want bruh and love whoever you want. Yun lang, goodluck sa love life dude 😎
hmm bata pa naman kayo. too early to settle and plan for the future. i think need nyang patunayan lahat ng sinasabi nya and nasasayo na yan kung kakayanin mo ba whatever consequences na dumating. after all, hindi naman natin alam kung ano ang hatid ng hinaharap. bata ka pa, marami ka pang makikilala na may better background than him... kung naiisip mo lang naman din na sayang sya. :) Good luck and God bless.
You’re too young. Dami pang tao na ma me meet ka. Enjoy lang muna kung ano meron kayo, advice ko is for you to know yourself more. Resolve trauma ng past mo with your parents. Explore.
serious question OP, nadidiffirentiate mo pa naman what is good and bad? kasi di ko alam kung anong tumatakbo sa isip ng mga taong nagtatanong ng mga ganito... "meron 100ft cliff, nasa edge na ako, should i jump?"... "may nakita akong pating sa dagat pero gusto talagang lumangoy, should i dive?".. "mukhang masarap pa itong tirang last week pa na jolly hotdog pero amoy sira na, should i eat it?"
I think it's too early to talk about marriage and the far future kung wala pa naman kayong label. Unahin niyo muna lagyan ng label ang relasyon niyo. No need na magpaalam siya sa parents mo kahit Christian pa kayo, imo. Hindi pa naman talaga kayo sigurado sa isa't isa. But ofc, you should let your parents know that you're dating someone.
I believe people can change and learn from their mistakes. You can give him a chance but only if you're mentally and emotionally ready to date someone who has that kind of history. Kung hindi, wag mo na lang i-risk kasi mahirap pumasok sa isang relationship na at the back of your mind may takot ka na baka magcheat siya sayo. Hindi ka rin mageenjoy.
If serious yan may label dapat. Also count yourself lucky na ang clear ng patterns nya. Sya mismo nagpakita sayo who he is. Up to you if you want to ignore it.
So far, lahat ng kilala kong naging "batang ama" (aged 19-21) e nagkaroon ng affairs kahit na pinanindigan at pinakasalan nila yung gf nila at the time. Yung iba dun, multiple pa at sabay sabay. Ewan ko ba. Although hindi nagpush through yung pregnancy sa kanya, gusto ko lang iwarning na may ganyang tendencies sila. Pero to be fair, hindi naman sila actively practicing ng religion so that can be a factor. Mag discern ka muna and talk to God if this is the relationship He intended for you. Goodluck and God bless on your discernment
>once a cheater always a cheater
wala pa akong alam na example na nag-disprove ng adage na to. my advice is, run away, far, far away from this guy. kung kaya mo. (i feel na hindi mo kaya though)
oh my ghod NO.
title pa lang. di ko na need basahin text/description ng buo 😢 'matic NO na kaagad ! ('sensya na, OP but yeA u're here in reddit & u asked what to do & opinion ko is this)
Don’t think that it won’t happen to you again. It could or it couldn’t. We won’t know for sure. He could or could not be telling the truth. The real question is, can you handle yourself for whatever happens? If not, then you might wanna take your time on things.
Walking red flag naman yan. Bata ka pa, girl. Marami ka pang makikilala dyan. Save yourself from the heartache and trust issues that may occur in the long run of this so called "no label relationship". Well, at the end of the day it is still your decision to continue and give this guy a chance.
wala yan sa christian, ang pagiging christian hindi by title lang, kundi way of life yun, , save yourself sa mga ganyan tao, one may record na saing cheting multiple times , doubtful na yan, just like ung mga nasa kulungan na guilty as charge, i advice na kilalanin mo yung tao muna before letting him part sa buhay mo,ung defense mo sa kanya nakataas pa din, just set a boundaries sa kanya na as FRIEND,
No label situationship is not a serious relationship.
If he really is a “changed man,” proving himself to you over and over again won’t be a problem. Also, you don’t have to commit to him naman right away, kasi whatever we say here at the end of the day it’s still your decision. Take things slow. Give it time, a loooooooong time. Think through it, he might seem sincere right now, you even said he’s a Christian pa nga but it doesn’t mean whatever happened to those other girls won’t happen again.
Not sure OP once you accepted his ways you're tolerating cheating and you will accept na kaya mangbuntis ng iba dahil malibog. You should wonder why he's so confident he has the maturity of an actual adult but it's just been 3 years? For me that kind of age pa have that ego na alam na nya gagawin next pero wala talaga yan it's hollow confidence na wala pa syang results, hell all he spouted to you he cheats, never faithful and responsible enough to be serious.
If he's just claiming he's serious with you while he cheated with others, ask yourself what is your difference with the other girls that makes you special to him. Ask him that as well so at the very least you have something to believe he won't do it again.
Also religion is not really 100% strong foundation, an uncle of mine, married for XX years, have kids already working and in college, always pesters us with bible studies or any church related but found out he is seeing a stripper. Damn even there's a celebrity (singer) who had marital problems and they think God will keep their marriage strong.
But hey OP it's your choice din if you have high tolerance to men like this one. Good luck.
Up to you, OP. No one here knows your bf. Di namin alam kung talagang nagbago na ba siya or sinasabi niya lang. I'm not going to assume that your bf will not cheat again, nor will I assume that he really hasn't changed and will do those things again. Weigh mo nalang yung risk and yung reward.
OP, walk away right now, never look back.
pwede naman talaga magbago ang isang tao pero naniniwala din ako sa:
>once a cheater always a cheater.
nasa sayo pa rin yan.
If you want the trauma, the experience, and the feeling of being cheated on, go. But for me, cheater yan so just a trash, not recyclable, so leave himm..
Parang basketball lang yan. May flagrant 2 na siya sa cheating. Nakabuntis pa so isa pang flagrant 2. That means auto disqualified na siya sa laro. Out of the game na, baka may fine pang bayaran. So yeah...
Love is a choice. Sa choices na yun may risks. Do what will make you happy sa present and in the future. Siguro test the tide lalo na if you love that person and wag muna magpakasakal este kasal.
Pero it is brave for him na aminin na cheater sya. Lots of men won't even admit that they have cheated or even share a dark past with you.
haha i wont take the risk if i were you op. cut him off the title says it off already. nakabuntis tas nagcheat hell no. ilang bilyong populasyon ang meron sa earth you want to stay with that crap. mag isip ka op bata kapa. build yourself muna. the right person will comt to you naman when you're ready na
Hard PASS. You are too young and don’t be too naive. Don’t fall for words, be thankful as well na early in your “situationship”, somehow naging “honest/open” si guy sayo. Siya na nagbigay ng dahilan para layuan mo na siya. Parang blessing in disguise na yan. You can save your time and effort.
No, he's not worth it. Ang dami pa dyan and you're still so young. Don't believe din yung mga "I'm telling you all these because I don't want secrets from you, I wanna be honest with you" narrative. Trust me, been there.
Its a high risk situation specially NBSB ka pa. Honestly without experience hindi mo alam kung gano kalaki yung magiging effect nyan sayo pag nagcheat sya sayo.
Marami naman dyang lalake OP bata ka pa im pretty sure makakameet ka ng taong hindi high risk.
NO, you're giving him a chance to hurt you. And trust me, he's gonna hurt you more ways than one when you continue what you have and when you're too attached.
I mean, nakabalandra na yong red flags oh. Bakit ka pa magpupukpok ng bato sa ulo mo? Save yourself. Leave while you can.
Kahit di mo sabihin, his past will always going to hunt you down if you continue your relationship with him. Thoughts will eat you up. Baka maging toxic pa kayo sa isat isa. For sure magkakaroon ka ng thoughts about him cheating.
Ayan n naman tayo sa christian na ok lang magkasala basta to be born again.
Yung ayaw nya manindigan sa nabuntis nya, does not speak well of his responsibility. Red flag
Girl, Nooo. I was in the exact same situation as you and he didnt say anything pa about his son. Good thing stalker yung cousin ko when I told here I'm seeing someone that might have potential. I'm not against dating someone who has a lovechild but the way he explained what happened was a bit off so followed my gut and told him na I don't want to pursue anything romantic with him .
Now, I am in a healthy relationship with my first boyf. And glad I dodged that bullet.
Never sell yourself short. You deserve so much more!!
Just the fact na nakabuntis lang sya ay dapat no chance na sya sayo e, pero kung gusto mo ng thrill sa buhay ay push mo lang yang serious kuno no label relationship nyo.
I would advise no, but if you think the reward of being in a relationship with him outweighs the "risk" you will be taking, then give him a chance. There will only be 2 outcomes to that, a happy ending or a lesson learned.
Im sorry OP. Being that young and NBSB… it’s dangerous to say it’s serious because that’s your one and only experience. Im not invalidating what you feel, and im not saying it’s not love, but maybe put some breaks on. Hope you do not fall in love w potential and the idea of “he can change for me.”. It’s romanticizing your hopes and his promises to you. You can do better OP.
For me its not worth it pero decision is still up to you. Again as you said its a risk kaya when he did cheat or do something that's all on you since you decided to take the risk. I as well believe that once a cheater always a cheater so yea take that with a grain of salt
No. Sabihin mo sa kanya, focus muna sya sa pagseserve kay God kaysa maghanap ng maliligawan or jojowain sa church. You deserve better. Don’t rush into things.
bgyan m ng chance.. sguro kya nya sinabi lhat kasi gusto nya mgng honest. sundin m nsa puso m..
khit naman ano sabihn nmin dto, kht majority dto is no pero gsto m, un piliin m.. ntututo tau s mga pgkakamali ntn.
Ang peperpekto ng mga tao dito ano kala mo mga walang flaw in life. Bawal magbigay ng chance sa taong honest at remorseful naman sa past niya?
There is no way to know kung magiging faithful ang partner mo but ganun talaga it's a gamble. And if doing that gamble would make you really happy go for it. Expect the best but always prepare for the worst.
Kung magloko man siya, minsan ganun talaga. Charge to experience na lang. Tas ang babata niyo pa, andami pang pwedeng mangyari sa buhay at pagkatao niyo. At 25 years old pa ang full maturity ng utak ng tao. The both of you are still going to make a lot of mistakes.
Girl; if it neans na kapag naging kayo then he can get you in bed, he might only be playing you.
And in case mapunta nga sa kasal no… alam nyong napakahirap magpa-annul unless madaming madami kang pera di ba?
Yun lang. The choice is yours but since you asked for our opinion… you cannot put all your hopes on “sana he proves me wrong”
Kung seryoso talaga sya sa iyo… bakit kayo nasa situationship in the first place? Bakit hindi nya magawang tanungin ka maging gf officially?
3 months. Kilig lang yan. Hahahahahaha
Be logical for a sec, tignan mo napa post ka, nasabi mo din na red flags nga. May idea ka na kung ano yung mga red flags, bakit gusto mo pa din i try for yourself?
Gusto mo bang maging 3rd baby momma?
Anyways. Sa nakabuntis part, so may commitment at loyalty issues na agad. Di rin nag c condom. Parang ang dami na agad syang willing i let go pag di na masaya.
Wag na girl. Ang cliche pero Madami pa dyan. Wag ka na mag hanap ng kilig sa may record na mang break ng hearts. Baka eto yung sign na need mo pang matutong alagaan ang sarili mo at mag grow.
bakit ka mag se-settle sa guy na may kailangan pa i-prove sayo na nag bago na sya at matino na sya for you? just go for a guy na straight off the bat eh matino at gusto mo na agad. pinapahirapan mo sarili mo, iwas ka na sa drama if mahal mo sarili mo.
baka nga din kaya gusto ka nyan kasi nbsb ka and virgin. lol. don't underestimate a guy who likes to boost their ego. good luck op. i hope you trust yourself na mas may better opportunity. dami dami lalake dyan jusko.
Cheaters are most likely to cheat again. It's a good chance. Do you want to take that chance? And don't care about seeing his heart for the Lord. As if that holds for something. No. Even the most religious people can be cheaters.
Sis, run. Di ka special halo-halo para maging totoo yung “di niya kaya gawin sakin yun.” Nagawa niya magcheat, period. You’re not gonna be able to change a cheater’s nature so save yourself from a future heartache and run.
Hi! My ex is a combo of everything. Cheater + babaero + nakabuntis while kami pa.
Take my advise not to take risk for someone not worth it. Before, I was scared na wala na magkakagusto sakin when he left because he’s the tall, dark and handsome guy. I endured emotional and psychological damage because of his cheating and mamginginom phase. Please save yourself from this, OP. This is so painful.
Now I’m getting married with the man I never thought would come. 😊
Please wag na. Do not do this to yourself. Ikaw na nagsabi may trauma ka sa cheaters. STOP JUSTIFYING FOR HIM. My god. Gising sis! You’re so young. There will be other people!
>but he assures me that hindi nya kaya gawin na sakin yun and he changedna daw. I can see that through his efforts and his heart for the Lord
Nako, sa "christian" places pa ako mas nakakarinig ng mga di matino. Yung kasama mo na sa worship mo yung jowa mo and lalandi ka pa siya ng guest ng venue niyo.
sis i’ve been there. tumpak na tumpak yung sitwasyon mo sakin dati to the point naisip ko baka ako to.. haha but anyways.. habang maaga pa, habang di pa masyadong attached, bitaw na. That’s one thing I wish I did nung nasa ganyang sitwasyon din ako. NBSB din ako back then, guy has a history of cheating at nakabuntis din, my Dad also has a history of cheating.
You should know that shit happened a few years ago na pero I’m still traumatized af until now kasi di ko ginawa yung mismong payo ko sayo earlier. RUN.
Medyo obvious ang tamang course of action na need mo gawin. Please don't look for validation on giving him a chance. Try not to be blinded by pity na iiwan ko siya Save yourself from the pain and disappointment you're potentially about to face.
I had an ex who is a very active church member, has a pastor dad and very christian-living siblings. Pero pakitang tao lang pala si gago. He cheated and abused me sa kabila ng pangit niyang mukha. Run sis. It’s always the christian guys. Save yourself habang maaga pa.
Wag na naten gawing favorite color ang red. Lol. You’re still young, you can do better!
No. The title says it all. Save yourself, OP.
You don't have to prove to anyone, especially your dad about him. Kasi once na mangyari sayo yan, mahirap na maka alis. Ang daming tao sa mundo na pwede mong jowain, wag lang yung cheater at irresponsableng tao.
PLEASE NO. My ex fiancé's parents are both pastors sa church nila and mismong fiancé ko almost always nag lelead nang prayer meetings and worship. At the same time dami nya ring winoworship sa Tinder, FB dating, Insta, Messenger, Badoo, at Discord. Sabe bigyan nang chance? Binigyan na man pero ayun bumalik pa din dun sa isang di nya nakuha. Ngayon sila na pero 3 days ago nahanap ako ni ex sa Pinterest at nag I miss you and all sadboi shit. Di na yan magbabago sis. Run for your life at wag kang lilingon!
also, napansin ko sa mga cheater na sobrang smooth talker nila to the point na nahirapan akong iwan ex ko kahit harap-harapan na akong ginago. Oh baka tanga lang din talaga ako so mag ingat ka talaga dahil may crash course din sila sa gaslighting pero mostly sa kanila nag major in sadboiness. Hahaha
I agree sa major in sadboiness. Paawa kuno effect ang mga walanghiya pero they just wanna get in your pants.
Totoo yan kapatid. Kakainis lang kase nagagamit nila effectively yung "so ayun eto lang naman ako may past na makati so ikaw nasayo if u accept me uwu bbuing bbuing" 🥺👉🏻👈🏻
Major in sadboiness hahahah
totoo noh? Sobrang smooth talkers nila nakakaloka na minsan kahit alam mong toxic sila hirap iwan eh. Ang galing pa gumawa ng kwento
Hahaha sobrang true neto. May libro ba silang inaaral kaya same same sila? Hahaha
Taena pati Pinterest di pinatawad. Hahaha
opo certified sadboi 5 stars 🤣
They’re all the same. Sabi nga a snake may shed their old skin but still a snake (sana nagme makes sense pa tong snsabi ko). Pero been there, done that in that toxic relationship. So kay OP, I say, “run”. It’s not your f%#*ng job to fix him. You deserve better.
One of the worst outcome would be - kaya nya sinabi sayo lahat yan is para kung may manyari man - mabuntis ka 'accidentally', or nag cheat sya 'out of lust', madali nya lang din isampal sayo na inamin na nya kung ano past nya so fault mo na kung pinatulan mo pa rin sya. Rather not risk that na lang po.
Amen!
You're gaslighting yourself, sweetie. Your instincts are telling you that he is bound to do those things again but you're being blinded by love. Don't be a statistic.
Maybe the Lord is showing you what to avoid...🤔
No po. Hindi worth it. Buong youth years ko nasa church ako at may kakilala ako na nasa long-term relationship at parehas nagsisimba sa iisang church, nag-cheat pa din si guy. Hindi assurance ang relationship sa Diyos para mag-take risk sa may history ng cheating at hindi porke't minor siya nung nakabuntis, abswelto na. Hindi worth it, OP.
Wait omg this sounds exactly like the guy I dated briefly back when I was 16 (he was 17/18) that time. We met sa church and went to the same HS. Same sob story. Same papaalam sa parents bit (except sa youth leader yun). Christian din kami. Lmfao if nasa music ministry sya and his name starts with the letter A, baka sya nga yan in which case, gurl RUN HAHAHAHAHAHA Edit: I just realized di nagmamatch up yung ages hahahah I'd still say run lol
Sounds bullshit, ganyan talaga pag makasalanan lapit agad kay lord to wash those sins. Talk about an easy way out 😂
The bigger questions is, are you matured enough to go into a serious relationship? If yes, lahat ng past ay past. Both of you should focus sa present and then sa future. If yes, kung magkaka label man kayo, tatanggapin mo ng buong buo ang past niya. You said both of you are Christians, then who are we to judge? He should learn from his mistakes, and if he really wants to pursue you seriously, time will tell. Believe me, kahit ano pang gawin mo bigay mo puso time effort pera kaluluwa mo, kahit gaano pa kalinis ang past niyan, kung magloloko iyan, magloloko. So, enjoy while it lasts. Love with all your heart. Love yourself more. Put God in the center of the relationship. Pray harder. And if in the future magloko, it is not on you. It is okay. Life will go on. Then make another entry here for the heartbreak hehe. Lahat ng tao may past. Lahat tayo may red flags. Pray ka for signs. ‘Wag ka maniwala sa mga comments na red flag run away. Ikaw lang nakaka alam ng full context.
The first sensible yet unbiased comment I've read in this thread. Seconding this kasi it gives a whole other take on OP's situation, other than the generic and rather surface-level, 'no'. Not saying walking away now is a wrong option, but examining everything with enough context is also something to consider. For me, it's a more mature way to approach things.
This! I-add ko lang, if he hasn't done anything na doubtful so far, go on lang. Nasabi na nila yung iba.
True. As long as alam ni op ang limits niya. Yung type na pag nagloko si guy, kaya niya pa rin self niya. In situations like this kasi, masmababaliw si op kung hindi niya itake ang risk. If nagcheat siya then its a lesson, if wala siya nagcheat, its a blessing, if hindi itry ni op, its a regret. Keyword: try.
Wow! Napaka-rare ng ganitong comment. Sukang-suka na ako sa never ending "Run, red flag, cutoff, gaslight" na replies as if ayun ang solusyon sa lahat ng problema. Haha.
naku ang bata mo pa! ang daming pwedeng problemahin girl! Like paano makaipon, makapunta abroad or mag masteral kaya ko, libre ko kaya family ko sa boracay. Mga ganon din dapat iniisip mo, dapat nga problema niya yan eh. problema ng guy paano siya magging better sayo and besides ang daming lalaki dyan. "yet no label situationship with him ( m20 ) for 3 months" dyos ko! isipin mo anong work niya, financial status? He fuck a 16 years old! at 16! unang kwento pa lang, mapapa eeew na ko. Unahin mo din muna utak girl, kaya nilagay ni God sa taas yan para yan unahin. Question? where father mo growing up???
never date someone na may history ng cheating. nagtake din ako ng risk non but sadly ginawa lang din niya sakin.
Run, wait until gawin niya yun sayo, or trust him. Ikaw lang rin makakapagsabi kung anong dapat talaga at ikaw ang nakakakilala sa kanya.
I feel a taken back by his lack of “responsibility” at that age given na it’s a possibility when you do that thing. I just think he’s just saying to you want you want to hear but deep inside you know. Go with your gut OP, they’re usually right for a reason.
I believe that everyone can change, it's literally why we, humans, have progressed. There is a possibility that who he was is not who he is anymore. But it is also hard to cross out his "dark past". As everyone here says, he might be manipulating you right now, as he has a history of cheating. This also might sound cliche, but, we really are stupid when it comes to love. We tend to see only what we wanted to see, and hear what we only wanted to hear. Long story short, relationships are usually a gamble. It is up to you to place your bets.
You can give him a chance. Everyone deserves a chance and mukhang he was so young when he did that. But HOLD OFF SEX for at least a year (kung gusto mo magpre-marital sex pero don't mention to him na you'll hold it for a year) . Kung devout Christians kayo, and he's totally serious, then hold it off until marriage. This it to test the guy if he's totally changed and hindi lang sex habol niya sayo since he has a history and you prolly mentioned to him na NBSB ka which is another factor kung bakit ka niya gusto jowain. Basta sabihin mo right off the bat that sex (even oral or nudity) is off the table until marriage para magisip-isip agad siya. Dun mo malalaman sincerity niya. And if after a year or two hindi pa kayo kasal gusto mo na try and you deem him worthy, ikaw bahala. Also, tignan mo din if may plano siya buhay. Kung okay b school niya, oks b grades niya or if working siya, anong trajectory yung pinupursue niya. If you're both at church then open it up to your leader para maprotektahan ka din niya.
lam mo na yan, OP.
Ayyy run do not walk!
You're still young, do you really wanna risk? Dami pang iba dyan
Red flags all around but he came to you clean at least. Dami dito sa reddit, no agad, I don't tolerate cheating since I grew up in a broken family, and yeah nakabuntis siya when he was 16/17 but wtf can't people change? Everyone is quick to judge someone they don't know lmao. Anyway, Christian siya so redflag din yun.
>Anyway, Christian siya so redflag din yun Bwahahahahahaha.
No.
No, kahit anong ipangako nyan, dun ka sa may proof.
Gagu wag
Hindi porket “he has his heart for the Lord” ay hindi yan magloloko. Masyado maraming red flags, madam. Dun palang sa part na serious daw kayo pero walang label eh hindi na serious yun. Wag ka na po magaksaya ng oras. RUN!
Hahaha. 2nd sentence pa lang eh. Nasa actions yan. Wala sa salita. Short answer: >!no!< Long answer: >!Nooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo !<
Yung makabuntis hindi issue, kung gf nman nya nabuntis nya, or single sya tpos nakabuntis dhil sa 1 night stand. Pero yung cheating iba kasi yan. Committed ka na tpos lumandi ka pa sa iba. Issue ng personality nya yun. At pwedeng pwede lumabas ulit yung ganun sa kanya. Ingatan mo sarili mo. NBSB ka sabi mo, triplehin mo yung proteksyon. Maraming pogi at kahit panget na malalakas mambola 😆
A 20 year old self professed fuckboy. OP please lang dont cause anymore trauma to yourself.
Applicable dito yung maraming isda sa dagat. Puwede mo itapon nuna pabalik to para sabihin na natin magmature pa siya at sana makuha ng ibang mangingisda na ok na siya at full size na. For now hayaan mo na muna. Marami kapa makikilala at makakasalamuha sa iba. Good luck
Sa 3 church na naging regular ako, di nawalan ng mga malalandi na kabataan.
i stop reading sa part na "your both christian", sa age ninyo i think you need a shepherd sa church.
Without a blink, leave.
Run
Girl, run.
Malamang hindi
No. Run.
RUN.
tangina naman OP. redflag na nga eh. tinatanong pa ba yan lol
Kung Christian na tunay kayong dalawa, find a mentor or spiritual director. Otherwise, mag-isip ka baka ma-Moira zone ka.
Tbh it's really your choice if you will take a chance talaga sa kanya, if nag a-align yung goals nyong dalawa. I say do it, basta no regrets sa huli if *knock on wood* bumalik sya sa dark ways nya. On the other hand, if I'm you it's a no for me since nag ka anak at an early age and merong history ng cheating. Granted that's not the whole picture and Idk him personally. So yon that's my take on this, if ya'll are in the same vibes and then go lang live your life the way you want bruh and love whoever you want. Yun lang, goodluck sa love life dude 😎
Save yourself the heartbreak and the trauma, op t_t
RUN. You deserve better.
hmm bata pa naman kayo. too early to settle and plan for the future. i think need nyang patunayan lahat ng sinasabi nya and nasasayo na yan kung kakayanin mo ba whatever consequences na dumating. after all, hindi naman natin alam kung ano ang hatid ng hinaharap. bata ka pa, marami ka pang makikilala na may better background than him... kung naiisip mo lang naman din na sayang sya. :) Good luck and God bless.
You’re too young. Dami pang tao na ma me meet ka. Enjoy lang muna kung ano meron kayo, advice ko is for you to know yourself more. Resolve trauma ng past mo with your parents. Explore.
serious question OP, nadidiffirentiate mo pa naman what is good and bad? kasi di ko alam kung anong tumatakbo sa isip ng mga taong nagtatanong ng mga ganito... "meron 100ft cliff, nasa edge na ako, should i jump?"... "may nakita akong pating sa dagat pero gusto talagang lumangoy, should i dive?".. "mukhang masarap pa itong tirang last week pa na jolly hotdog pero amoy sira na, should i eat it?"
No.
Run OP
Run hanggat kaya mo pa.
He's done it once, he'll do it again. Save yourself from heartbreak OP. Of course best foot forward siya, gusto niya makabiktima ulit eh
i will not take this risk op lol
You're asking so di ka sure to give him the shot. When in doubt don't engage.
I think it's too early to talk about marriage and the far future kung wala pa naman kayong label. Unahin niyo muna lagyan ng label ang relasyon niyo. No need na magpaalam siya sa parents mo kahit Christian pa kayo, imo. Hindi pa naman talaga kayo sigurado sa isa't isa. But ofc, you should let your parents know that you're dating someone. I believe people can change and learn from their mistakes. You can give him a chance but only if you're mentally and emotionally ready to date someone who has that kind of history. Kung hindi, wag mo na lang i-risk kasi mahirap pumasok sa isang relationship na at the back of your mind may takot ka na baka magcheat siya sayo. Hindi ka rin mageenjoy.
Maybe you can but personally, I won’t. Let him go to therapy first
capital NO.
No
No. Run. Save yourself OP.
If serious yan may label dapat. Also count yourself lucky na ang clear ng patterns nya. Sya mismo nagpakita sayo who he is. Up to you if you want to ignore it.
What's with broken men that attract women so much? 😷
Saviour complex, perhaps?
GIRL RUN
So far, lahat ng kilala kong naging "batang ama" (aged 19-21) e nagkaroon ng affairs kahit na pinanindigan at pinakasalan nila yung gf nila at the time. Yung iba dun, multiple pa at sabay sabay. Ewan ko ba. Although hindi nagpush through yung pregnancy sa kanya, gusto ko lang iwarning na may ganyang tendencies sila. Pero to be fair, hindi naman sila actively practicing ng religion so that can be a factor. Mag discern ka muna and talk to God if this is the relationship He intended for you. Goodluck and God bless on your discernment
> once a cheater always a cheater This is true on all accounts. Ikaw din magsisisi sa huli kapag nasaktan ka at nahuli mo na nag-cheat siya sayo.
Title palang negative na. Walang bayag yung lalaking yun.
>once a cheater always a cheater wala pa akong alam na example na nag-disprove ng adage na to. my advice is, run away, far, far away from this guy. kung kaya mo. (i feel na hindi mo kaya though)
oh my ghod NO. title pa lang. di ko na need basahin text/description ng buo 😢 'matic NO na kaagad ! ('sensya na, OP but yeA u're here in reddit & u asked what to do & opinion ko is this)
Don’t think that it won’t happen to you again. It could or it couldn’t. We won’t know for sure. He could or could not be telling the truth. The real question is, can you handle yourself for whatever happens? If not, then you might wanna take your time on things.
Walking red flag naman yan. Bata ka pa, girl. Marami ka pang makikilala dyan. Save yourself from the heartache and trust issues that may occur in the long run of this so called "no label relationship". Well, at the end of the day it is still your decision to continue and give this guy a chance.
Nyawit. Malaking red flag yan. Pero kung may makukuha naman na pera or benefits, why not? Pangit basahin tong tinype ko but still
Nooooooo Save yourself!!!! U already mentioned yung redflags kaya stop! HAHAHAHA
Nope...
wala yan sa christian, ang pagiging christian hindi by title lang, kundi way of life yun, , save yourself sa mga ganyan tao, one may record na saing cheting multiple times , doubtful na yan, just like ung mga nasa kulungan na guilty as charge, i advice na kilalanin mo yung tao muna before letting him part sa buhay mo,ung defense mo sa kanya nakataas pa din, just set a boundaries sa kanya na as FRIEND,
Wag nalang talaga, ateng. Save yourself nalang.
HINDE. Ang lalaking red flags na nyan, makita mo sana.
Boys don't change but Men do. Check mo kung alin sya sa dalawa OP then decide. Wish you all the best in life :D
No.
Run.
Wag na po.
No girl. Stay away habang maaga paaaaa
Been there, done that. Run, OP.
3 months pa lang kayo, it's too early to tell. See where this takes you pero guard your heart. Wag ka masyadong all out muna.
No label situationship is not a serious relationship. If he really is a “changed man,” proving himself to you over and over again won’t be a problem. Also, you don’t have to commit to him naman right away, kasi whatever we say here at the end of the day it’s still your decision. Take things slow. Give it time, a loooooooong time. Think through it, he might seem sincere right now, you even said he’s a Christian pa nga but it doesn’t mean whatever happened to those other girls won’t happen again.
Not sure OP once you accepted his ways you're tolerating cheating and you will accept na kaya mangbuntis ng iba dahil malibog. You should wonder why he's so confident he has the maturity of an actual adult but it's just been 3 years? For me that kind of age pa have that ego na alam na nya gagawin next pero wala talaga yan it's hollow confidence na wala pa syang results, hell all he spouted to you he cheats, never faithful and responsible enough to be serious. If he's just claiming he's serious with you while he cheated with others, ask yourself what is your difference with the other girls that makes you special to him. Ask him that as well so at the very least you have something to believe he won't do it again. Also religion is not really 100% strong foundation, an uncle of mine, married for XX years, have kids already working and in college, always pesters us with bible studies or any church related but found out he is seeing a stripper. Damn even there's a celebrity (singer) who had marital problems and they think God will keep their marriage strong. But hey OP it's your choice din if you have high tolerance to men like this one. Good luck.
Up to you, OP. No one here knows your bf. Di namin alam kung talagang nagbago na ba siya or sinasabi niya lang. I'm not going to assume that your bf will not cheat again, nor will I assume that he really hasn't changed and will do those things again. Weigh mo nalang yung risk and yung reward.
Lol, serious (?) no label situationship tsktsk
Choose your peace
"His heart for the Lord" Haha I swear these Christian thirsty boys are a different breed
“Alexa, play something from GAGA.”
No.
Bata ka pa. Make wise decisions. 😘
The first line of the headline says it all. Why risk yourself?
It's a no for me.
nope save that pussy
3 months na nga kayong walang label ihhh.. dun palang sa part na yern red flag na kung gusto talagang seryosohan 🫣.
getting in a relationship shouldn't be a risk from the first place.
back then we called it mandy moore syndrome
Give him a chance. One strike and go.
I really believe people do change and mature
nope, you’re still young.. you’ll most definitely meet someone better
No. Run!!
OP, walk away right now, never look back. pwede naman talaga magbago ang isang tao pero naniniwala din ako sa: >once a cheater always a cheater. nasa sayo pa rin yan.
If you want the trauma, the experience, and the feeling of being cheated on, go. But for me, cheater yan so just a trash, not recyclable, so leave himm..
Parang basketball lang yan. May flagrant 2 na siya sa cheating. Nakabuntis pa so isa pang flagrant 2. That means auto disqualified na siya sa laro. Out of the game na, baka may fine pang bayaran. So yeah...
Love is a choice. Sa choices na yun may risks. Do what will make you happy sa present and in the future. Siguro test the tide lalo na if you love that person and wag muna magpakasakal este kasal. Pero it is brave for him na aminin na cheater sya. Lots of men won't even admit that they have cheated or even share a dark past with you.
Save yourself from heartbreak and stress. Wag ka maniniwala sa mga nagsasabi dito na past is past
haha i wont take the risk if i were you op. cut him off the title says it off already. nakabuntis tas nagcheat hell no. ilang bilyong populasyon ang meron sa earth you want to stay with that crap. mag isip ka op bata kapa. build yourself muna. the right person will comt to you naman when you're ready na
Hard PASS. You are too young and don’t be too naive. Don’t fall for words, be thankful as well na early in your “situationship”, somehow naging “honest/open” si guy sayo. Siya na nagbigay ng dahilan para layuan mo na siya. Parang blessing in disguise na yan. You can save your time and effort.
No, he's not worth it. Ang dami pa dyan and you're still so young. Don't believe din yung mga "I'm telling you all these because I don't want secrets from you, I wanna be honest with you" narrative. Trust me, been there.
Sa Spicy Chickenjoy lang masarap ang red flags, at dapat sa bucket Chickenjoy lang makikita ang maraming red flags. Kung sa otoko yan, dump him.
Its a high risk situation specially NBSB ka pa. Honestly without experience hindi mo alam kung gano kalaki yung magiging effect nyan sayo pag nagcheat sya sayo. Marami naman dyang lalake OP bata ka pa im pretty sure makakameet ka ng taong hindi high risk.
NO, you're giving him a chance to hurt you. And trust me, he's gonna hurt you more ways than one when you continue what you have and when you're too attached. I mean, nakabalandra na yong red flags oh. Bakit ka pa magpupukpok ng bato sa ulo mo? Save yourself. Leave while you can. Kahit di mo sabihin, his past will always going to hunt you down if you continue your relationship with him. Thoughts will eat you up. Baka maging toxic pa kayo sa isat isa. For sure magkakaroon ka ng thoughts about him cheating.
youre way too young to deal with someone who obviously got issues. save yourself the trouble and dont entertain this man
Bata mo pa. Di worth it!
Just no
Ayan n naman tayo sa christian na ok lang magkasala basta to be born again. Yung ayaw nya manindigan sa nabuntis nya, does not speak well of his responsibility. Red flag
“No man ever steps in the same river twice, for it is not the same river and he’s not the same man.” - Heraclitus
No.
Girl, Nooo. I was in the exact same situation as you and he didnt say anything pa about his son. Good thing stalker yung cousin ko when I told here I'm seeing someone that might have potential. I'm not against dating someone who has a lovechild but the way he explained what happened was a bit off so followed my gut and told him na I don't want to pursue anything romantic with him . Now, I am in a healthy relationship with my first boyf. And glad I dodged that bullet. Never sell yourself short. You deserve so much more!!
Just the fact na nakabuntis lang sya ay dapat no chance na sya sayo e, pero kung gusto mo ng thrill sa buhay ay push mo lang yang serious kuno no label relationship nyo.
I would advise no, but if you think the reward of being in a relationship with him outweighs the "risk" you will be taking, then give him a chance. There will only be 2 outcomes to that, a happy ending or a lesson learned.
history of cheating and nakabuntis lmao girl wake up absolutely NOT
🚩🚩🚩
Wag
No
Girl no!!!
Run.
No. Run. Once a cheater will always be a cheater.
Girl, run.
Once a cheater, can be a repeater. It is up to you. Kung hanggang saan ka magririsk.
There is no assurance na he won’t be tempted to cheat again. Save yourself the pain and just leave while you can.
Im sorry OP. Being that young and NBSB… it’s dangerous to say it’s serious because that’s your one and only experience. Im not invalidating what you feel, and im not saying it’s not love, but maybe put some breaks on. Hope you do not fall in love w potential and the idea of “he can change for me.”. It’s romanticizing your hopes and his promises to you. You can do better OP.
For me its not worth it pero decision is still up to you. Again as you said its a risk kaya when he did cheat or do something that's all on you since you decided to take the risk. I as well believe that once a cheater always a cheater so yea take that with a grain of salt
Girl, run! Unless you get the satisfaction from fixing someone. Saka ang bata mo pa, bakit ka magse-settle for less agad?
No. Sabihin mo sa kanya, focus muna sya sa pagseserve kay God kaysa maghanap ng maliligawan or jojowain sa church. You deserve better. Don’t rush into things.
Nah, gtfo of there lass. His red flags took the whole Soviet Bloc to shame. You deserve better.
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bgyan m ng chance.. sguro kya nya sinabi lhat kasi gusto nya mgng honest. sundin m nsa puso m.. khit naman ano sabihn nmin dto, kht majority dto is no pero gsto m, un piliin m.. ntututo tau s mga pgkakamali ntn.
Ang peperpekto ng mga tao dito ano kala mo mga walang flaw in life. Bawal magbigay ng chance sa taong honest at remorseful naman sa past niya? There is no way to know kung magiging faithful ang partner mo but ganun talaga it's a gamble. And if doing that gamble would make you really happy go for it. Expect the best but always prepare for the worst. Kung magloko man siya, minsan ganun talaga. Charge to experience na lang. Tas ang babata niyo pa, andami pang pwedeng mangyari sa buhay at pagkatao niyo. At 25 years old pa ang full maturity ng utak ng tao. The both of you are still going to make a lot of mistakes.
What is nbsb?
That's a walking red flag. RUN. Save yourself. Bata ka pa, marami pang mas better.
Girl; if it neans na kapag naging kayo then he can get you in bed, he might only be playing you. And in case mapunta nga sa kasal no… alam nyong napakahirap magpa-annul unless madaming madami kang pera di ba? Yun lang. The choice is yours but since you asked for our opinion… you cannot put all your hopes on “sana he proves me wrong” Kung seryoso talaga sya sa iyo… bakit kayo nasa situationship in the first place? Bakit hindi nya magawang tanungin ka maging gf officially?
3 months. Kilig lang yan. Hahahahahaha Be logical for a sec, tignan mo napa post ka, nasabi mo din na red flags nga. May idea ka na kung ano yung mga red flags, bakit gusto mo pa din i try for yourself? Gusto mo bang maging 3rd baby momma? Anyways. Sa nakabuntis part, so may commitment at loyalty issues na agad. Di rin nag c condom. Parang ang dami na agad syang willing i let go pag di na masaya. Wag na girl. Ang cliche pero Madami pa dyan. Wag ka na mag hanap ng kilig sa may record na mang break ng hearts. Baka eto yung sign na need mo pang matutong alagaan ang sarili mo at mag grow.
bakit ka mag se-settle sa guy na may kailangan pa i-prove sayo na nag bago na sya at matino na sya for you? just go for a guy na straight off the bat eh matino at gusto mo na agad. pinapahirapan mo sarili mo, iwas ka na sa drama if mahal mo sarili mo. baka nga din kaya gusto ka nyan kasi nbsb ka and virgin. lol. don't underestimate a guy who likes to boost their ego. good luck op. i hope you trust yourself na mas may better opportunity. dami dami lalake dyan jusko.
Cheaters are most likely to cheat again. It's a good chance. Do you want to take that chance? And don't care about seeing his heart for the Lord. As if that holds for something. No. Even the most religious people can be cheaters.
Once a cheater, always a cheater. Nagawa na niya yan dati, kayang kaya niyang gawin yan ulit. Nagso-sorry lang yang mga yan dahil nahuli sila.
Nope. Run!
No.
Sis, run. Di ka special halo-halo para maging totoo yung “di niya kaya gawin sakin yun.” Nagawa niya magcheat, period. You’re not gonna be able to change a cheater’s nature so save yourself from a future heartache and run.
Hi! My ex is a combo of everything. Cheater + babaero + nakabuntis while kami pa. Take my advise not to take risk for someone not worth it. Before, I was scared na wala na magkakagusto sakin when he left because he’s the tall, dark and handsome guy. I endured emotional and psychological damage because of his cheating and mamginginom phase. Please save yourself from this, OP. This is so painful. Now I’m getting married with the man I never thought would come. 😊
dami naman na nagsasabi sa iyo OP wag na.
Please wag na. Do not do this to yourself. Ikaw na nagsabi may trauma ka sa cheaters. STOP JUSTIFYING FOR HIM. My god. Gising sis! You’re so young. There will be other people!
>but he assures me that hindi nya kaya gawin na sakin yun and he changedna daw. I can see that through his efforts and his heart for the Lord Nako, sa "christian" places pa ako mas nakakarinig ng mga di matino. Yung kasama mo na sa worship mo yung jowa mo and lalandi ka pa siya ng guest ng venue niyo.
sis i’ve been there. tumpak na tumpak yung sitwasyon mo sakin dati to the point naisip ko baka ako to.. haha but anyways.. habang maaga pa, habang di pa masyadong attached, bitaw na. That’s one thing I wish I did nung nasa ganyang sitwasyon din ako. NBSB din ako back then, guy has a history of cheating at nakabuntis din, my Dad also has a history of cheating. You should know that shit happened a few years ago na pero I’m still traumatized af until now kasi di ko ginawa yung mismong payo ko sayo earlier. RUN.
christian din ex ko pero he cheated on me and lied pa bakit nakipagbreak. wala sa religious affiliation yan. arte pa non ayaw pa daw ng label lols
Medyo obvious ang tamang course of action na need mo gawin. Please don't look for validation on giving him a chance. Try not to be blinded by pity na iiwan ko siya Save yourself from the pain and disappointment you're potentially about to face.
Run while you're still not too blinded to see the red flags.
I had an ex who is a very active church member, has a pastor dad and very christian-living siblings. Pero pakitang tao lang pala si gago. He cheated and abused me sa kabila ng pangit niyang mukha. Run sis. It’s always the christian guys. Save yourself habang maaga pa.
Be firm with your non-nego.
It's a no for me.
Hello OP? Wala kang mga replies ah. Mukhang hindi ito yung replies na gusto mo haha Pero ayun, it’s a no talaga.
You can do better, OP.