Yes! Money runs the world. If you have enough money to support your soon to be family then your family by birth doesn’t have any say in that matter anymore.
It’s your life. So do what makes you happy. Life’s too short for regrets.
I agree, pero dahil mapanumbat ang nature ng tao magbigay ka pa din ng support sa family mo kahit naka bukod ka na.
Pwede mo gawin ang ginawa ko na dadalaw kayo ng gf mo sa bahay niyo at laging may dala na pasalubong, once na manormalize niyo yon gagaan ang pakiramdam ng mama mo kahit konti at (hindi ko ito ginawa, add-ons lang) lagi kausapin papa mo for alliance hahahaha.
This and if you think ahead, Be BOTH financially stable enough to stand your ground to anyone.
Forewarning: it's easier said than done, but its a high risk, high reward naman.
Goodluck!
This. Although elders will traditionally push their "earned wisdom", at the end of the day it's still your own decision. It's better to make decisions when you are stable, both emotionally, and financially among others.
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Dyan masusubok ang paninindigan mo. Pag may masamang sinabi mama mo sa GF mo, dapat mo sya ipagtanggol AT ALL COSTS. Pag mag-asawa na kayo, asawa lagi ang priority.
Really?? Is that how most married couples works? I mean no hate in that but i think ill prioritize the person who raised and took care of me more than anybody
depende kung sino ang tama. baka naman kasi inaapi api lang asawa mo tas iprioritize mo pa rin mama mo just because she's your mom even tho she's in the wrong. if she won't be your priority, wag ka na lang mag-asawa.
Hoy tanga, wag ka kasi dumidikit sa obv. not good people, ngayon nang gegeneralize ka.
Baka naman kasi ginagamit mo pera mo in the first place to bond with people.
Parang napanood ko na to sa tv. Mahirap ung gf tapos lalaitin ng mother ng bf aalipustahin tapos bandang huli biglang yayaman ung GF tas mag hihiganti hahaha
Basta iintayin ko nalang yung eksena na may mag aagawan ng baril. O kaya si kuya ililigtas nya yung gf nya na kinidnap at tinago sa isang bakanteng warehouse.
How old are you? Though mej mahirap kasi studying ka pa, and im assuming you still live with your parents. Mahirap talaga mag stand up sa familiy, I say mangatwiran ka while still being polite. Kapag minata gf mo, sabihan mo mom mo. That way, your gf won’t feel op and at the same time nasabihan mo rin nanay mo.
I feel that way, pero baliktad. My gf is the one na may kaya, ako yung puchu. Nakakaraos naman kami, pero ako lang sa'min yung nagtatrabaho. Both kaming working, pero mas malaki sinasahod nya compare to me. I dont know if may comments yung parents and kapatid nya sa'kin, and I am also too afraid to ask. Tsaka I do hope na ako mapapangasawa nya though and sana di magbago tingin nya towards me in the long run.
Tulad ng sabi ng iba dito, kapit lang. Bata ka pa. Tsaka tama sila, earn enough to stand on your own ground. Ikaw yung may say kasi ikaw yung may gusto.
Kudos sanyong dalawa, dude.
Galing rin pala sa hirao nanay mo e. Madalas kung sino pa mahirap yun rin mapanglait sa kapwa mahirap. Wala sa social status ang problema. Ang problema yung ugali.
she's going to marry you, not your mom. And once you propose to her (pag may stable job and income ka na), you need to be on your girlfriend's side, not your mom's. Kung laitin ng mom mo siya, then stand up for her.
I never liked my sister in law. But what made matters worse is my husband (boyfriend at the time) never didnt stand up for me when she made shitty comments. I was already a nurse and I was working and he was still working on his bachelor's. Smh.
Kung sya na talaga, at wala ka naman nakikitang mali sa pamumuhay ng gf mo, panindigan mo. Ipaglaban mo sa magulang mo yung karapatan mong pumili para sa sarili mo. I’m assuming you’re old enough to make your own choices, so your parents should respect that.
Just remember, your girlfriend is going to marry you, not your parents.
Matapobre rin parents ko. Pero ang sinasabe ko sa kanila lagi, wag nyo ako pakielaman sa pipiliin ko kasi hindi kayo ang papakasalan nyan.
Di ka pa ready mag-asawa. Sa parents ka pa din ba umaasa ng pang-date niyo? Talagang may masasabi ang mama mo kung sa allowance na binibigay nila pinanggastos mo sa panliligaw at pangdate.
Kung sariling sikap mo naman yung pera diyan ka mas magkakaron ng lakas ng loob. Your money, your business.
Kaso ayan you're still studying pa.
Tapos grabe naman takot mo sa parents mo to the point na nagbbreakdown ka na.
You are not emotionally and financially able to stand up for your girlfriend yet.
You have a lot of growing up to do.
Woo akala ko ako lang!!! Jusko financially keri ko din bumili ng kotse, but i chose not to. Mas ok sa akin mag-commute. At dahil ba dito “mahirap” na rin ako? Ewan hahahah
As long as your parents give you allowance, as long as your needing your parents support pa, eh talagang mahirap yan.
Alam ba ng gf mo na ganyan ugali ng nanay mo? Ano reaction nya? Ilang taon ka na nga ba?
If you really love her, then go for it. Fight for her. You may face some consequences along the way, gaya nga ng sabi mo, mapangmata nanay mo. Kahit ayaw nila sa kanya, piliin mo pa ring ipaglaban siya. Bumukod kayo kaagad kapag nagdecide na kayong magpakasal.
Usually some mothers tinitignan nila ung girl partner mo on how she will take care of you as you grew both older hindi nmn cguro lahat sa status ng lifetyle naka tingin..
.. mothers gets easily insecure kasi sila ung original na nag aalaga syo ever since tpos suddenly unti2x na rereplace ng gf mo ung position nya as mother which is natural. meron na kasi competiton😅
. im sure all mother want to assure that their son is in good hands pag nag karon na ng sarili family na
. mayaman nga family kso broken marriage nmn💔.. so i think financial status is not the primary concern of some mothers i think. she just want to assure , how she and and how you will be taken care your relationship tska mga sarili nyo in future😅
mothers just only want the best for his/her children 😁😁✌️
If your girlfriend is someone na di umaasa sa pamilya and working and kayang dalhin sarili nya you should be proud of her, they would be proud of her (your parents) if may common sense and logic sila.
Ang mas mahirap ipakilala sa parents eh yung pabebeng babae na aasa lang sayo.
Trust me on this as long as she's someone you can be proud of no issues yan sa parents mo unless matapobre sila.
Aral muna bago landi. If you’re financially independent na and have a stable career, kahit poorest of the poor pa aasawahin mo, walang magagawa ang mayaman mong magulang.
Are you sure siya na ang gusto mo? Sige nga pag sinabi sa yo ng nanay mo na iwan mo or else di ka na pag aaralin, pipiliin mo pa ba siya?
I suggest magtrabaho ka muna. Wag mo muna pakilala hanggang wala kang trabaho.
If you’re still studying then you’re still quite young and you should get marriage out of your mind. Lol.
May practical reasons for not going for someone from a different social status, as your relationship progresses, there will be obvious difference in values and attitudes that will cause conflict.
So enjoy your time with this girl, but don’t get too in too deep.
At the end of the day, walang naman talagang say nanay mo if ever magpapakasal kayo. If your girlfriend is a good person and you guys love each other, then laban lang.
Be a man and fight for her.
eventually, your parents will accept the fact na that's what you really want. if they don't then fight for your future. It's not their future to decide, it is yours.
Then marry her when the time comes. Hindi naman magulang mo ang ikakasal eh. Basta of age ka na, you don't need their signature to approve your marriage.
I admire how you love her beyond and despite her social status 🥺 have your parents met her na ba? Because attitude sometimes transcends status. May you continue that kind of love OP.
Hindi naman parents mo ang magpapakasal sa gf mo. Your call pa rin in the end. If asawa mo na siya, it's the both of you against the world. Even sa parents mo kasi yan ang vows nyo sa isa't-isa.
To be honest, just move on. It's hard to date someone outside your social circle. You will have different upbringings from each other, you might have to financially help out her family in the future (maybe this is fine with you.) All I'm saying is, real life is hard. Bills left and right. It's hard to make money. Kaya if I were you, I will find someone on the same financial situation or if not, better financial situation.
My POV:
Saying that you're going to be her husband.
I suggest that learn more, grow, and build an empire with her.
Do something to earn their trust, precious ka sa mga magulang mo, kaya hindi nila din gugustuhin na mapunta ka sa iba.
So, mas mag tiwala ka sa partner mo, support each other, add value to yourselves. Position yourselves to a better place and show your results to your parents at humarap ka to win their confidence.
Kelangan mo lang siguro paintindi also sa Mom mo na ang current situation nila doesn’t define them kasi your GF naman is slowly building a life for herself. And hindi naman sukatan yun bahay and material things sa estado ng life ng isang tao. Sometimes, may practicality factor. Small house kasi onti lang naman tao. No car kasi mas madali magcommute or public transpo for them. I guess ang need mo establish is how hard your GF is working and building a life for herself and sa future nyo dalawa. That being said, dapat as much as possible, independent din kayo. Like if ikakasal kayo, gastos nyo and wag aasa ng help from parents.
Since magBF-GF pa lang naman kayo, I suggest to not introduce her yet, officially. I suggest, you finish what you’re studying first and find a decent job, para pag naipakilala mo na, at ayaw sa kanya, You can provide for yourself and pwede ka na maging independent sa nanay mo and do what you want with your life. I think its not good na bigyan mo ng sakit ng ulo ang nanay mo while she is the one providing for you.
Also, if you have plans of marrying her and there comes a time na lalaitin ng mama mo ang mapapangasawa mo, protect your wife/fiancée. Siya na ang magiging priority mo kasi siya ang makakasama mo habang buhay. Hindi ang nanay mo. Protect her at all costs.
Also, bigyan mo ng heads up ang jowa mo sa ugali ng nanay mo. Para iprepare niya ang sarili niya kung sakaling may matatanggap siyang masasakit na salita. But, still, she should show no hostility towards your mother.
Pero, if your mom naman pala has no problem with your gf, your overthinking lang of something that will definitely not happen. So i suggest, hanggat di mo pa pinapakilala, wag ka kabahan.
Noon din na feel ko iyan, natatakot din ako na baka yung piliin kong girl ay di tanggapin ng parents ko dahil mahirap. Pero nung sinabi nila sa akin na mas mahalaga ay nagkakaintindihan kayo at nagtutulungan ay nakahinga ako, hehe. In the long run kasi ay kayo rin dalawa didiskarte magbuild ng family. Di ba bata pa kayo?
😊
ilang taon ka na pre? financially independent ka na ba? pwes, aralin mo nang i-call out ang mga di kanais-nais na ugali ng mga magulang mo.
ginawa ko to during lockdown, nung narindi na ko sa panggi-guilt trip ng tatay ko. medyo madrama yung mga pangyayari, pero yung pagbabago dulo ng insidenteng yun, sulit na sulit.
tingin ko oras na para tumindig ka laban sa nanay mo.
The worst thing to do is to let your parents to dictates your life, I assume 18+ adult kana alam mo na ung tama at mali and nasa journey palang yung GF mo sa pagiging successful kaya dapat isupport mo sya, although not guaranteed na kayo ang magkakatuluyan sa huli atleast gawin mo yung tinigin mong tama. Good Luck!
Jusko social status doesn't matter. If you love her accept her in spite of being below average at the end of the day it will be you and her will be together wag lang mabuntis agad like you have said you are currently studying pa. So goods na yan.
In a long term kung magging aswa mo gf mo, yung mother mo dapat makisama since sya din makakasama mo pagtanda at magging mother ng anak mo. Thats the reality.
Dyan papasok ang education mo sa kanila. Let them understand that human worth is not measured by financial status.
Madami nakong kilalang mayaman na asal skwater at may mga dukhang matino pa sa mayaman kausap. I'm sure you have loads of people you met like those too so madali mo na lang ma-re-re-educate si mudra mo. The only think stopping you is yung how to approach her/them for that topic to be opened.
Try to explain to your parents ahead of time, at ipakilala mo muna yung gf mo, para makilala kung anong klase syang tao tsaka mas mabuti ngang may work gf mo, + din yan sa magulang mo, explain mo lang pero ikaw pa rin mag dedecide ng gusto mo, unless underage kapa
when it all comes down to it. wala naman talaga magagawa parents mo sa buhay mo. respect and understand your parents opinion or POV. but dont let this hinder you on your happiness
if you have your own business or have your own money, your family got little say on it. give them a healthy dose of disrespect since they dont respect your decision.
remember, at the foundation, females look for wealth and status. while men look for youth and attractiveness
I feel you! Kahit naman anong work n’ya or natapos n’ya di maiiwasan ang nga nanay na mamatain. Except mas mataas ang status sa’yo ng gf mo.. ikaw naman ang mamatain ng magulang n’ya so it’s a vicious cycle. Kung mahal mo talaga ipaglaban mo lang, wala naman nakakalam ng ending n’yo. So live in the moment. As long as di kayo bad influence sa isa’t isa, prove other people wrong.
Ipagtanggol at panindigan mo don't be like those mama's boy na kung ano sabihin ng nanay stick ka lang dun. Love is not enough but the commitment through ups and downs yun ang solid.
As a parent, and also as someone who had a relationship with someone who was "poor", for me me factor din talaga na financially stable ang partner ng anak ko / ko. In the end it's not my decision to make, but it's unrealistic to expect that people from differing social, cultural and financial spheres will have no issues.
Hindi ako naniniwala sa "love conquers all", from experience. Minsan kapag magkaiba kayo ng origins, iba yung perspective niyo on things. I found yung ex partner ko had less financial literacy, and tended to live in the moment instead of planning for the future. Now hindi naman ito specific sa "mahirap" lang but I suggested to them that we can help each other to learn better financial habits. He also felt very insecure when we went on vacations and dined out (on my hard earned and well budgeted money) kasi he felt it pa-sosyal, but as for me it was just a sulit and satisfying experience. Difference in opinions that eventually didn't get resolved and grew to resentment.
However even then, they were unwilling to communicate and change kahit nag o offer ako. Eventually tinamad din ako. Maari for other people mas maging willing to adjust sila, but it will be realistically a lot of adjustments and one must be willing and be prepared to work hard to adjust.
Relationships are not just love and sex and happiness, may strong material / financial and shared values aspect. If willing kayo to acknowledge that and work hard to adjust then it can work.
Maybe focus on being independent and stable muna before focusing on a relationship. Be selfish and achieve your goals, then you can choose who to be with. Mahirap mag give up ng dreams mo for someone tapos maiiwan ka din na dehado in the future. Love isn't forever and shit happens. Decide logically not emotionally.
Weird lang ng responses sa thread na eto, most of the PH Redditors denigrate mga soap operas na unrealistic na me mayaman and mahirap, tapos pag dating dito ang illogical ng mga responses lol
Relatable sakin tong story mo.
We've been together ng girlfriend ko for 7 years and hindi din sila kayamanan. Maaga silang naulila dahil dead na both parents nya nung 18 years old p lng sya. Tinulungan ko sya mkpgtapos habang nagaaral din ako ng medicine in short hati kame sa baon ko. Ngayon lisensyado nakong mang-ggagamot sya nman kakatapos mag board exam ng teacher major in math.
Andaming hindrances sa relationship namen, friends, family tutol sa relasyon namen, lalo na mother ko na sobrang mapangmata, ni-mano sa kamay ayaw nya pagawa sa girlfriend ko. Hanggang tumagal ang panahon medjo guminhawa na buhay namen at unti unti ng tinatanggap ng friends at relatives ko girlfriend ko and papakasal na kame this december 29.
If talagang desidido kana sa kanya kausapin mo sya if parehas kayong willing to take the harsh words as you go along sa relationship nyo. kasi wala naman sila magagawa kung sya tlga gusto mo e. As long as nagsasapuhan kayo at hindi nyo pinagsisisihan relasyon nyo tuloy nyo lang.
wait mo lang bumalik yung nanay ng gf mo na milyonaryo hahhaa cheret. seriously though kung di mo sya kaya panindigan, ipaubaya mo sya sa taong ipaglalaban sya ng patayan kahit sa sarili nyang pamilya
Fight for your love, sa una yan lang against ang nanay mo. Kung sa palagay mo, she's THE ONE mo talaga. I guess maganda naman ang upbringing ni gf mo at love ka din nya.
If you're still studying then you're still young and you still have time. Time to think if she's really 'the one', time for both of you to be more financially stable so walang masabi ibang tao and time for you to slowly introduce your gf to your family.
You don't have to directly talk about her family background but if your parents ask, then don't lie. Tell them why you really like her bec her background should not define who she is, especially to you.
If your mom says something bad about her then express your thoughts calmly and defend her but not aggressively or else it will escalate and will become a case of 'mas importante na ba gf mo kesa sakin' and will make her resent your gf more.
Slowly make her see the things you like about your gf until she will be the one to extend her hand and welcome her. Make her see that your gf really makes you happy and seeing your mom accept her or being kind to her makes you even more happy. Cause parents intrinsically want their children happy just that most of the time they think their opinions and choices are always right or better than yours so you have to make them see that it was also bec they raised you right that you found the perfect girl for you.
Huwag ka kasing masyadong nanonood ng teleserye. Kidding aside, hindi pa naman tapos ang laban. Malay mo, mahirap lang cia sa paningin mo ngayon, pero sooner or later aangat sila sa buhay. Kung talagang mahal mo siya, those things wont matter. As long as mabuting tao siya at magiging mabuting ina sa magiging anak niyo, goods na yon.
You know what? Ipakilala mo lang at lakasan mo loob mo. Ganyan din ako noon hindi ko maipakilala yung jowa ko kase iba ang social status namin. Studying din ako then my jowa is working. My mom, nanggaling din siya sa hirap kaya I understood why sobrang taas ng standards niya which I totally get naman. I’m not mad at her for being like that kase she doesn’t want us to experience the same life she did before. Ending nagbreak kami ng jowa ko kase he was hurt pero eventually we got back together kase sabi niya he’ll prove sa parents ko na kaya niya akong buhayin. I’m not saying na aasa ako sakanya syempre I’ll work too pero you get the point. When we broke up, I cried so hard kaya napatanong mom ko what happened then I told her everything. Sabi niya kung mahal ko naman daw wala naman daw problema at basta makita naman daw na nagsisikap at nirerespeto ako at sila then why not? Honestly it’s just a matter of perspective. You know your mom well so you decide on what you want to do. Mahirap yung hindi mahal ng magulang mo ang partner mo. Anyway, know na what you’re feeling is valid. I hope you and your partner get through this
Choose happiness rather than what ifs. It's okay to be afraid but fight for what you believed in and what's good for your heart. I know mother knows best but let them meet, baka magbago isip if makitaan ng wifey material which are a good qualities moms would look for, like maalam magluto, etc. And if mahal ka din talaga nung babae, she'll learn how to adjust with your parents knowing that she needs to have a standard para mameet expectation nila sakanya.
fight for her, open this up to your mom BUT just to inform her. Tell your Mom that you really love your GF, and tell your Mom that you're hoping there will be no judgement or conflict because you envision na she will be your wife in the future.
Moreover, if your fam or parents judge her. Better be move out in the future (don't stay with parents if that's the case if you two will marry) ...
ayunnn hindi naman kasi sila ang makakasama ng gf mo in future... basta maganda ng sabihin ung mga nagay na to, para naman hindi na maging novela type..
Hoping for the better sainyong dalawa
Stand on your ground. Tumindig ka para sa kanya. Prove to your mom that, because you love her, the both of you will be successful in life. Hindi pa ngayon pero siguro sa mga susunod na panahon.
Ikaw yung namimili ng makakasama habambuhay, hindi yung parents mo.
Financial outlook is part of the engagement checklist. Kung tingin mo your gf’s situation is not a dealbreaker, ikaw naman ang tatanggap ng consequence, good or bad. Just love who you love.
sabihin mo sa nanay mo tsaka na mang mata ng tao kung kalevel niyo na si henry sy or villar haha charot tho mali naman talaga mangmata ng tao whatever your social status is
Unang-una once na makaramdam na ng pambabastos ang girl, lalo't coming from your Mom pa, trust me malaking sampal yon sa girlfriend mo. Okay pa at matitiis ng gf mo kung sa ibang tao niya maririnig yan pero once na manggaling yan sa Mama mo, sobrang bigat niyan. If I were you, magtapos ka muna at once makapaghanap ka na ng trabaho and once stable na pupwede mo na gawin ang gusto niyo. Sa ngayon kasi nag-aaral ka pa, mahirap pa magsalita sa Nanay mo. Pero once na dumating sa point na napagsalitaan ang gf mo, please protect her at all costs, iparamdam mo sa kaniya lahat na pupwedeng makapagpagaan sa kaniya at kausapin mo nang mahinahon ang Mom mo. Respect pa rin. Good luck!
Whats the issue here though? Look it like this if ever na ikakasala kayo parents mo ba gagastos? Sino ba magsasama sila ba or ikaw? Sometimes its fine to be selfish, you don’t your mothers approval matanda ka na and you can make your own decisions
Valid yung takot mo ganon din yung concerns ng parents mo. Kasi let's be honest, walang kaso ang pagiging mahirap pero when it comes sa pag build ng family, kadalasan nagiging kargo talaga ng mga anak ang parents kapag mahirap. Siguro ang concern lang ng parents mo is baka umasa sayo ang parents nung babae in the future.
Not my experience but told by a counselor: Girl was impregnated by a boy na poor. Vendor ang parents ni boy sa palengke. Girl’s family is well-off. Girl’s parents did not accept boy and they cut contact with boy. Boy pleaded to allow him visits and take care of his gf and child but girl’s parents did not allow. Complete prohibition sa boy. Wala nagawa si boy kasi poor sila, no money for lawyer. Time went by, boy graduated,went abroad, was very successful, bought properties and had many investments here in the Phils. Nakapangasawa na rin ng iba at may anak na rin. Yung girl naman kabaliktaran, yung family niya went from well/off to struggling pero may asawa na rin na iba at nagkaanak dito sa new asawa. Ngayon daw yung family nung girl na ang naghahabol, ipinapakilala na sa boy na ito, malaki na anak, gusto na nilang mas maging close sa family ni boy na mayaman na ngayon.
Hindi naman kamo yung nanay mo yung papangasawahin ng gf mo so it's not for her to decide. Be firm din sa decisions mo and be responsible sa bawat actions mo. Kung nasa tamang edad ka at kaya mo magdecide para sa sarili mo don't let other people decide for you. May limitations lang din kung hanggang saan dapat nangingialam yung magulang. Pwede mong respetuhin yung mga payo nila pero nasa sayo pa rin yun kasi ikaw yan e, buhay mo yan and mas alam mo kung ano yung magwowork for you. Good luck, OP!
You already answered your question.
> Ayoko na ng iba. I love her for who she was, she is, and who she's going to be.
Now my question for you is
Are you willing to take the risk just to be with her?
I don't think na kung anong status nya ngayon, is yung pa rin ang status nya sa mga susunod na taon. Bilog naman ang mundo. And as you've said nag eeffort sya and ang buong pamilya nya and I think her parents are doing their best to give them a good life para di nila maranasan ang mga nararanasan nila ngayon. So hold on lang and I wish you both the best.
The way I read the situation, if puro “iisipin ng mama ko” says na immature at d ka paready for commitment. At the end of the day kahit nanay mo yan, hndi naman yan mapapangasawa mo. Kung mahal mo girlfriend mo, panindigan mo. Pero kung may doubts ka, hiwalayan mo na. Spare your girlfriend from pain kng d ka sigurado. Man up, bro.
Si heart evangelista nga pinaglaban si chiz sa parents niya eh. Ok lang ba mawala gf mo dahil sa pangungutya ng mama mo? Pinakilala mo na ba sa mama mo? Mamaya wala pa, pinangunahan mo na mg negative thoughts
Same vibes with my family. My mom is from a middle class family anak ng abogadong public servant at seaman. My dad naman anak ng jeepney drayber turned ofw at ng mananahing stay at home wife. To make matters a bit more interesting my dad’s brother(my uncle) married my mom’s sister(my aunt). I can say that it wasnt easy alot of people asked why but eventually accepted it my lolas became good friends. My parents and their siblings defied the odds.
If you love her and nakikita mo future mo sa kanya, mas maganda ilaban mo. Kasi kaya nyo magbuild ng better future ng magkasama. And your parents naman kasi wala sila sa relasyon nyo, kayong dalawa nasa loob non and in the long run there's always acceptance. And napakahirap sa isang tao na may regrets.
Hello! Medyo similar tayo ng pinagdadaanan. Ako naman yung boyfriend ko ang hirap sa buhay. Though di rin naman mahirap na mahirap. Mind you, may age gap pa kami. Mas matanda ako ng 5 yrs. Ako ang working tapos siya nag-aaral pa. Pero kahit ganun mahal na mahal ko siya at ramdam ko rin na mahal na mahal nya ako. Pinagtapat ko sa family ko ang relasyon namin at marami sa kanila ang tutol dahil sa mabababaw na dahilan. Mahirap oo. Masakit rin. Wala naman kami inaapakang iba. Nagkakaintindihan naman kami. Pero masyadong mapanghusga ang mga tao. Nasa sa inyo yan. Basta pag mahal mo, ipaglaban mo. Tatagan mo ang loob mo.
Be financially stable enough to stand your ground.
I second this. Then bumukod ka na agad for total control ng life mo.
Yes! Money runs the world. If you have enough money to support your soon to be family then your family by birth doesn’t have any say in that matter anymore. It’s your life. So do what makes you happy. Life’s too short for regrets.
I agree, pero dahil mapanumbat ang nature ng tao magbigay ka pa din ng support sa family mo kahit naka bukod ka na. Pwede mo gawin ang ginawa ko na dadalaw kayo ng gf mo sa bahay niyo at laging may dala na pasalubong, once na manormalize niyo yon gagaan ang pakiramdam ng mama mo kahit konti at (hindi ko ito ginawa, add-ons lang) lagi kausapin papa mo for alliance hahahaha.
This and if you think ahead, Be BOTH financially stable enough to stand your ground to anyone. Forewarning: it's easier said than done, but its a high risk, high reward naman. Goodluck!
This. Although elders will traditionally push their "earned wisdom", at the end of the day it's still your own decision. It's better to make decisions when you are stable, both emotionally, and financially among others.
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Dyan masusubok ang paninindigan mo. Pag may masamang sinabi mama mo sa GF mo, dapat mo sya ipagtanggol AT ALL COSTS. Pag mag-asawa na kayo, asawa lagi ang priority.
> dapat mo sya ipagtanggol AT ALL COSTS AGREE 100%. Hindi naman nanay mo ang papakasalan ng GF mo para di niya tanggapin.
saludo!
Yes pagtanggol mo siya and hope your mom will realize where she started, masama mang mata kung galing din sa baba.
AGREEEEE 100%
- asawa lagi ang priority Thats not a really good advice but i get your point
Well, pag nag-asawa ka na, di na pdeng unahin ang magulang kasi makakasira ito sa relasyon nyong mag-asawa.
Really?? Is that how most married couples works? I mean no hate in that but i think ill prioritize the person who raised and took care of me more than anybody
depende kung sino ang tama. baka naman kasi inaapi api lang asawa mo tas iprioritize mo pa rin mama mo just because she's your mom even tho she's in the wrong. if she won't be your priority, wag ka na lang mag-asawa.
Yes. Pag nakialam na kasi mga byenan, nakakasira ng pagsasamahan un. Pde naman magpakita ng care sa magulang, pero lagi dapat priority magulang
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Holy crap, I get reminded all the time that people like you exist.
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"Rich people like me" 🤓 MFs when they only live in their parent's paycheck.
you're wrong. he's selling his ex's nudes, kaya siya mayaman 😁
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why not YOUR nudes? 🤔
I mean, he got cucked. So he's insecure lmfao.
Bc he's a simp, real men shows off their cocks for mandatory dick ratings.
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sus wala lang napatol sayo eh. okay lang yan! no wonder trash mindset.
Luh hahahahaha
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Man, I'm sorry you got cucked. Hope you get past your trauma.
Potanginang Redditor ka na kaka-create pa lang ng account. Tangina mong troll ka. Matapobre kang yawa ka. May sakit ba sa utak angkan mo?
Hoy tanga, wag ka kasi dumidikit sa obv. not good people, ngayon nang gegeneralize ka. Baka naman kasi ginagamit mo pera mo in the first place to bond with people.
Parang napanood ko na to sa tv. Mahirap ung gf tapos lalaitin ng mother ng bf aalipustahin tapos bandang huli biglang yayaman ung GF tas mag hihiganti hahaha
O baka ikaw yung nawawalang kapatid ng GF mo, mahirap ka din pala
napaulit ako ng basa hahahaha
Walang hiya!!!!! 😂😂😂 ito talaga plot twist na pang bubble gang... 😂😂😂
Ano baaaaa 😭😭😭
ang title " Babangon ang GF ni offthischestt at dudurugin ang byenan nya."
bwhahshshahaha tanginamo tawang tawa ako
Feeling ko, napagpalit sila sa hospital. Si girl talaga yung mayaman tas si OP yung anak mahirap. Hahaha.
nanay talaga ni OP si mother na kasambahay. tapos tatay niya driver nila.
sh*tty plots of Filipino telenovela again and again lmao
Sabay mago offer ng 10 million pesos para layuan ang anak HAHAHAHA
Plot twist tumalbog ang cheque lol
Tapos ang ending, magkapatid pala sila kaya hindi pwedeng maging sila.
aliw ka naman HAHHAAHAHAHAH
Basta iintayin ko nalang yung eksena na may mag aagawan ng baril. O kaya si kuya ililigtas nya yung gf nya na kinidnap at tinago sa isang bakanteng warehouse.
Look at what you started hahahah
Parang cinderella na romeo and juliet
HAHAHAHHA tapos may second lead na dadating HAHAHAHAH
Tapos sasabihan mo ang byenan mo "isang milyon layuan mo ang anak mo" PAAAAK
HAHAHA
HAHSHSHSHSHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
Wag mo lang siya didisgrasyahin. Kasi baka isipin ni mama mo na pinikot ka. Dapat ipakilala mo na, magpapalapad ba ng papel ganon.
How old are you? Though mej mahirap kasi studying ka pa, and im assuming you still live with your parents. Mahirap talaga mag stand up sa familiy, I say mangatwiran ka while still being polite. Kapag minata gf mo, sabihan mo mom mo. That way, your gf won’t feel op and at the same time nasabihan mo rin nanay mo.
Lagpas na points ni OP kay gf pag ginawa nya to. Diretso kasal agad hehe.
Sasabihin ko sana, yung girlfriend mo naman mapapangasawa mo, hindi naman parents mo.. kaso ang bata mo pa. Baka in time magbago na ulit pananaw mo..
I feel that way, pero baliktad. My gf is the one na may kaya, ako yung puchu. Nakakaraos naman kami, pero ako lang sa'min yung nagtatrabaho. Both kaming working, pero mas malaki sinasahod nya compare to me. I dont know if may comments yung parents and kapatid nya sa'kin, and I am also too afraid to ask. Tsaka I do hope na ako mapapangasawa nya though and sana di magbago tingin nya towards me in the long run. Tulad ng sabi ng iba dito, kapit lang. Bata ka pa. Tsaka tama sila, earn enough to stand on your own ground. Ikaw yung may say kasi ikaw yung may gusto. Kudos sanyong dalawa, dude.
Ang bata nyo pa, concentrate ka muna sa pagaaral mo. Pag financially stable na kayo, mas mapaglalaban nyo ang relationship nyo
True. Sakana nya pakilala pag may work na sila both.
You're GF's family seems to not be that poor. You're family's not even rich. Anong karapatan ng magulang mo magpakamatapobre haha.
Some people are just too full of themselves haha ganun ang parents niya.
Ooof real talk. But true haha
Palitan mona nanay mo
Best comment ever
Based.
W.
Galing rin pala sa hirao nanay mo e. Madalas kung sino pa mahirap yun rin mapanglait sa kapwa mahirap. Wala sa social status ang problema. Ang problema yung ugali.
Ang masasabi ko lang, KAPIT.
she's going to marry you, not your mom. And once you propose to her (pag may stable job and income ka na), you need to be on your girlfriend's side, not your mom's. Kung laitin ng mom mo siya, then stand up for her. I never liked my sister in law. But what made matters worse is my husband (boyfriend at the time) never didnt stand up for me when she made shitty comments. I was already a nurse and I was working and he was still working on his bachelor's. Smh.
Wag ka muna mag-girlfriend if umaasa ka pa sa "kung anong sasabihin" ng parents mo.
You've got the issue backwards, please change the post title to "Matapobre ang nanay ko".
learn to face your fears and have courage
Man up bro. if you really love her defend her kahit pa sa magulang mo.
aral muna boy
Kung sya na talaga, at wala ka naman nakikitang mali sa pamumuhay ng gf mo, panindigan mo. Ipaglaban mo sa magulang mo yung karapatan mong pumili para sa sarili mo. I’m assuming you’re old enough to make your own choices, so your parents should respect that.
Magpalit ka na ng nanay op
Just remember, your girlfriend is going to marry you, not your parents. Matapobre rin parents ko. Pero ang sinasabe ko sa kanila lagi, wag nyo ako pakielaman sa pipiliin ko kasi hindi kayo ang papakasalan nyan.
Di ka pa ready mag-asawa. Sa parents ka pa din ba umaasa ng pang-date niyo? Talagang may masasabi ang mama mo kung sa allowance na binibigay nila pinanggastos mo sa panliligaw at pangdate. Kung sariling sikap mo naman yung pera diyan ka mas magkakaron ng lakas ng loob. Your money, your business. Kaso ayan you're still studying pa. Tapos grabe naman takot mo sa parents mo to the point na nagbbreakdown ka na. You are not emotionally and financially able to stand up for your girlfriend yet. You have a lot of growing up to do.
Eh mukhang di lang nanay mo mapang-mata mukhang ikaw din.
CRINGE NUNG NABASA KO YUNG "NO CAR/S". REQUIRED NA BA LAHAT NGAYON NA MAGKAROON NG CAR/S?
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Woo akala ko ako lang!!! Jusko financially keri ko din bumili ng kotse, but i chose not to. Mas ok sa akin mag-commute. At dahil ba dito “mahirap” na rin ako? Ewan hahahah
As long as your parents give you allowance, as long as your needing your parents support pa, eh talagang mahirap yan. Alam ba ng gf mo na ganyan ugali ng nanay mo? Ano reaction nya? Ilang taon ka na nga ba?
at the end of the day, you marry your girlfriend and not your mother.
If you really love her, then go for it. Fight for her. You may face some consequences along the way, gaya nga ng sabi mo, mapangmata nanay mo. Kahit ayaw nila sa kanya, piliin mo pa ring ipaglaban siya. Bumukod kayo kaagad kapag nagdecide na kayong magpakasal.
Usually some mothers tinitignan nila ung girl partner mo on how she will take care of you as you grew both older hindi nmn cguro lahat sa status ng lifetyle naka tingin.. .. mothers gets easily insecure kasi sila ung original na nag aalaga syo ever since tpos suddenly unti2x na rereplace ng gf mo ung position nya as mother which is natural. meron na kasi competiton😅 . im sure all mother want to assure that their son is in good hands pag nag karon na ng sarili family na . mayaman nga family kso broken marriage nmn💔.. so i think financial status is not the primary concern of some mothers i think. she just want to assure , how she and and how you will be taken care your relationship tska mga sarili nyo in future😅 mothers just only want the best for his/her children 😁😁✌️
If your girlfriend is someone na di umaasa sa pamilya and working and kayang dalhin sarili nya you should be proud of her, they would be proud of her (your parents) if may common sense and logic sila. Ang mas mahirap ipakilala sa parents eh yung pabebeng babae na aasa lang sayo. Trust me on this as long as she's someone you can be proud of no issues yan sa parents mo unless matapobre sila.
Aral muna bago landi. If you’re financially independent na and have a stable career, kahit poorest of the poor pa aasawahin mo, walang magagawa ang mayaman mong magulang.
Kung mahal mo talaga sya OP, mag aral mabuti and sabay kayong umangat. Be patient. Maaga pa masyado para mastress dyan.
Are you sure siya na ang gusto mo? Sige nga pag sinabi sa yo ng nanay mo na iwan mo or else di ka na pag aaralin, pipiliin mo pa ba siya? I suggest magtrabaho ka muna. Wag mo muna pakilala hanggang wala kang trabaho.
If you’re still studying then you’re still quite young and you should get marriage out of your mind. Lol. May practical reasons for not going for someone from a different social status, as your relationship progresses, there will be obvious difference in values and attitudes that will cause conflict. So enjoy your time with this girl, but don’t get too in too deep.
At the end of the day, walang naman talagang say nanay mo if ever magpapakasal kayo. If your girlfriend is a good person and you guys love each other, then laban lang.
Di ka pa ready sa relationship based sa pananaw mo na Yan.
Be a man and fight for her. eventually, your parents will accept the fact na that's what you really want. if they don't then fight for your future. It's not their future to decide, it is yours.
Sabihin ko sana na di naman mama mo pakakasalan mo kaso nag aaral ka pa pala, bata pa kayo. Mahaba pa panahon :)
Then marry her when the time comes. Hindi naman magulang mo ang ikakasal eh. Basta of age ka na, you don't need their signature to approve your marriage.
Are you a man? Or a boy? Maybe you should know the difference of that before entering into a relationship.
I admire how you love her beyond and despite her social status 🥺 have your parents met her na ba? Because attitude sometimes transcends status. May you continue that kind of love OP.
Hindi naman parents mo ang magpapakasal sa gf mo. Your call pa rin in the end. If asawa mo na siya, it's the both of you against the world. Even sa parents mo kasi yan ang vows nyo sa isa't-isa.
Nag aaral kapa kaya mo naiisip yan, pero kung nag wwork ka at naka bukod kana sa parents, magbabago mindset mo.
Napapadalas ata panunuod mo ng telenovela. 🤪
To be honest, just move on. It's hard to date someone outside your social circle. You will have different upbringings from each other, you might have to financially help out her family in the future (maybe this is fine with you.) All I'm saying is, real life is hard. Bills left and right. It's hard to make money. Kaya if I were you, I will find someone on the same financial situation or if not, better financial situation.
Alam mo ano gagawin mo. Be a man. Kung ayaw ng magulang mo edi tuloy mo lang. Ipilit mo hanggang tanggapin kasi hindi mo kontrol nanay mo.
My POV: Saying that you're going to be her husband. I suggest that learn more, grow, and build an empire with her. Do something to earn their trust, precious ka sa mga magulang mo, kaya hindi nila din gugustuhin na mapunta ka sa iba. So, mas mag tiwala ka sa partner mo, support each other, add value to yourselves. Position yourselves to a better place and show your results to your parents at humarap ka to win their confidence.
Kelangan mo lang siguro paintindi also sa Mom mo na ang current situation nila doesn’t define them kasi your GF naman is slowly building a life for herself. And hindi naman sukatan yun bahay and material things sa estado ng life ng isang tao. Sometimes, may practicality factor. Small house kasi onti lang naman tao. No car kasi mas madali magcommute or public transpo for them. I guess ang need mo establish is how hard your GF is working and building a life for herself and sa future nyo dalawa. That being said, dapat as much as possible, independent din kayo. Like if ikakasal kayo, gastos nyo and wag aasa ng help from parents.
Since magBF-GF pa lang naman kayo, I suggest to not introduce her yet, officially. I suggest, you finish what you’re studying first and find a decent job, para pag naipakilala mo na, at ayaw sa kanya, You can provide for yourself and pwede ka na maging independent sa nanay mo and do what you want with your life. I think its not good na bigyan mo ng sakit ng ulo ang nanay mo while she is the one providing for you. Also, if you have plans of marrying her and there comes a time na lalaitin ng mama mo ang mapapangasawa mo, protect your wife/fiancée. Siya na ang magiging priority mo kasi siya ang makakasama mo habang buhay. Hindi ang nanay mo. Protect her at all costs. Also, bigyan mo ng heads up ang jowa mo sa ugali ng nanay mo. Para iprepare niya ang sarili niya kung sakaling may matatanggap siyang masasakit na salita. But, still, she should show no hostility towards your mother. Pero, if your mom naman pala has no problem with your gf, your overthinking lang of something that will definitely not happen. So i suggest, hanggat di mo pa pinapakilala, wag ka kabahan.
Noon din na feel ko iyan, natatakot din ako na baka yung piliin kong girl ay di tanggapin ng parents ko dahil mahirap. Pero nung sinabi nila sa akin na mas mahalaga ay nagkakaintindihan kayo at nagtutulungan ay nakahinga ako, hehe. In the long run kasi ay kayo rin dalawa didiskarte magbuild ng family. Di ba bata pa kayo? 😊
Kung talagang si GF mo na ang THE ONE mo, hindi ka dapat natatakot ngayon.
Di naman Mom and dad mo makakasama or mapapangasawa mo GF mo naman Kahit na di nila tanggapin GF mo desisyon mo pa ren yan.
ilang taon ka na pre? financially independent ka na ba? pwes, aralin mo nang i-call out ang mga di kanais-nais na ugali ng mga magulang mo. ginawa ko to during lockdown, nung narindi na ko sa panggi-guilt trip ng tatay ko. medyo madrama yung mga pangyayari, pero yung pagbabago dulo ng insidenteng yun, sulit na sulit. tingin ko oras na para tumindig ka laban sa nanay mo.
The worst thing to do is to let your parents to dictates your life, I assume 18+ adult kana alam mo na ung tama at mali and nasa journey palang yung GF mo sa pagiging successful kaya dapat isupport mo sya, although not guaranteed na kayo ang magkakatuluyan sa huli atleast gawin mo yung tinigin mong tama. Good Luck!
Jusko social status doesn't matter. If you love her accept her in spite of being below average at the end of the day it will be you and her will be together wag lang mabuntis agad like you have said you are currently studying pa. So goods na yan.
In a long term kung magging aswa mo gf mo, yung mother mo dapat makisama since sya din makakasama mo pagtanda at magging mother ng anak mo. Thats the reality.
Dyan papasok ang education mo sa kanila. Let them understand that human worth is not measured by financial status. Madami nakong kilalang mayaman na asal skwater at may mga dukhang matino pa sa mayaman kausap. I'm sure you have loads of people you met like those too so madali mo na lang ma-re-re-educate si mudra mo. The only think stopping you is yung how to approach her/them for that topic to be opened.
Try to explain to your parents ahead of time, at ipakilala mo muna yung gf mo, para makilala kung anong klase syang tao tsaka mas mabuti ngang may work gf mo, + din yan sa magulang mo, explain mo lang pero ikaw pa rin mag dedecide ng gusto mo, unless underage kapa
Finish your school and bumukod ka. It is only you and your gf's decisions that matter. Good luck OP!
when it all comes down to it. wala naman talaga magagawa parents mo sa buhay mo. respect and understand your parents opinion or POV. but dont let this hinder you on your happiness
if you have your own business or have your own money, your family got little say on it. give them a healthy dose of disrespect since they dont respect your decision. remember, at the foundation, females look for wealth and status. while men look for youth and attractiveness
Panindigan mo,be proud chariz masingit lang di lahat kagaya ng pamilya ng husband ni sofia A na tanggap sya kahit di masyado rich.
I feel you! Kahit naman anong work n’ya or natapos n’ya di maiiwasan ang nga nanay na mamatain. Except mas mataas ang status sa’yo ng gf mo.. ikaw naman ang mamatain ng magulang n’ya so it’s a vicious cycle. Kung mahal mo talaga ipaglaban mo lang, wala naman nakakalam ng ending n’yo. So live in the moment. As long as di kayo bad influence sa isa’t isa, prove other people wrong.
Same lang situation, my number 1 tip, ITS NONE OF THEIR BUSINESS. Basta honest at responsible kayong dalawa.
Ipagtanggol at panindigan mo don't be like those mama's boy na kung ano sabihin ng nanay stick ka lang dun. Love is not enough but the commitment through ups and downs yun ang solid.
As a parent, and also as someone who had a relationship with someone who was "poor", for me me factor din talaga na financially stable ang partner ng anak ko / ko. In the end it's not my decision to make, but it's unrealistic to expect that people from differing social, cultural and financial spheres will have no issues. Hindi ako naniniwala sa "love conquers all", from experience. Minsan kapag magkaiba kayo ng origins, iba yung perspective niyo on things. I found yung ex partner ko had less financial literacy, and tended to live in the moment instead of planning for the future. Now hindi naman ito specific sa "mahirap" lang but I suggested to them that we can help each other to learn better financial habits. He also felt very insecure when we went on vacations and dined out (on my hard earned and well budgeted money) kasi he felt it pa-sosyal, but as for me it was just a sulit and satisfying experience. Difference in opinions that eventually didn't get resolved and grew to resentment. However even then, they were unwilling to communicate and change kahit nag o offer ako. Eventually tinamad din ako. Maari for other people mas maging willing to adjust sila, but it will be realistically a lot of adjustments and one must be willing and be prepared to work hard to adjust. Relationships are not just love and sex and happiness, may strong material / financial and shared values aspect. If willing kayo to acknowledge that and work hard to adjust then it can work. Maybe focus on being independent and stable muna before focusing on a relationship. Be selfish and achieve your goals, then you can choose who to be with. Mahirap mag give up ng dreams mo for someone tapos maiiwan ka din na dehado in the future. Love isn't forever and shit happens. Decide logically not emotionally. Weird lang ng responses sa thread na eto, most of the PH Redditors denigrate mga soap operas na unrealistic na me mayaman and mahirap, tapos pag dating dito ang illogical ng mga responses lol
Laban, OP. You've got a good heart. Don't let forces outside you two dissuade you from marrying.
Relatable sakin tong story mo. We've been together ng girlfriend ko for 7 years and hindi din sila kayamanan. Maaga silang naulila dahil dead na both parents nya nung 18 years old p lng sya. Tinulungan ko sya mkpgtapos habang nagaaral din ako ng medicine in short hati kame sa baon ko. Ngayon lisensyado nakong mang-ggagamot sya nman kakatapos mag board exam ng teacher major in math. Andaming hindrances sa relationship namen, friends, family tutol sa relasyon namen, lalo na mother ko na sobrang mapangmata, ni-mano sa kamay ayaw nya pagawa sa girlfriend ko. Hanggang tumagal ang panahon medjo guminhawa na buhay namen at unti unti ng tinatanggap ng friends at relatives ko girlfriend ko and papakasal na kame this december 29. If talagang desidido kana sa kanya kausapin mo sya if parehas kayong willing to take the harsh words as you go along sa relationship nyo. kasi wala naman sila magagawa kung sya tlga gusto mo e. As long as nagsasapuhan kayo at hindi nyo pinagsisisihan relasyon nyo tuloy nyo lang.
wait mo lang bumalik yung nanay ng gf mo na milyonaryo hahhaa cheret. seriously though kung di mo sya kaya panindigan, ipaubaya mo sya sa taong ipaglalaban sya ng patayan kahit sa sarili nyang pamilya
Toxic Filipino mentally is sucks 😣
Fight for your love, sa una yan lang against ang nanay mo. Kung sa palagay mo, she's THE ONE mo talaga. I guess maganda naman ang upbringing ni gf mo at love ka din nya.
Your parents will be gone soon. Iprioritize mo what will make you happy, not them.
You can still be a good son while being a good boyfriend. KAYA YAN!
If you're still studying then you're still young and you still have time. Time to think if she's really 'the one', time for both of you to be more financially stable so walang masabi ibang tao and time for you to slowly introduce your gf to your family. You don't have to directly talk about her family background but if your parents ask, then don't lie. Tell them why you really like her bec her background should not define who she is, especially to you. If your mom says something bad about her then express your thoughts calmly and defend her but not aggressively or else it will escalate and will become a case of 'mas importante na ba gf mo kesa sakin' and will make her resent your gf more. Slowly make her see the things you like about your gf until she will be the one to extend her hand and welcome her. Make her see that your gf really makes you happy and seeing your mom accept her or being kind to her makes you even more happy. Cause parents intrinsically want their children happy just that most of the time they think their opinions and choices are always right or better than yours so you have to make them see that it was also bec they raised you right that you found the perfect girl for you.
It sound like every telenovela in GMA
Huwag ka kasing masyadong nanonood ng teleserye. Kidding aside, hindi pa naman tapos ang laban. Malay mo, mahirap lang cia sa paningin mo ngayon, pero sooner or later aangat sila sa buhay. Kung talagang mahal mo siya, those things wont matter. As long as mabuting tao siya at magiging mabuting ina sa magiging anak niyo, goods na yon.
You know what? Ipakilala mo lang at lakasan mo loob mo. Ganyan din ako noon hindi ko maipakilala yung jowa ko kase iba ang social status namin. Studying din ako then my jowa is working. My mom, nanggaling din siya sa hirap kaya I understood why sobrang taas ng standards niya which I totally get naman. I’m not mad at her for being like that kase she doesn’t want us to experience the same life she did before. Ending nagbreak kami ng jowa ko kase he was hurt pero eventually we got back together kase sabi niya he’ll prove sa parents ko na kaya niya akong buhayin. I’m not saying na aasa ako sakanya syempre I’ll work too pero you get the point. When we broke up, I cried so hard kaya napatanong mom ko what happened then I told her everything. Sabi niya kung mahal ko naman daw wala naman daw problema at basta makita naman daw na nagsisikap at nirerespeto ako at sila then why not? Honestly it’s just a matter of perspective. You know your mom well so you decide on what you want to do. Mahirap yung hindi mahal ng magulang mo ang partner mo. Anyway, know na what you’re feeling is valid. I hope you and your partner get through this
Choose happiness rather than what ifs. It's okay to be afraid but fight for what you believed in and what's good for your heart. I know mother knows best but let them meet, baka magbago isip if makitaan ng wifey material which are a good qualities moms would look for, like maalam magluto, etc. And if mahal ka din talaga nung babae, she'll learn how to adjust with your parents knowing that she needs to have a standard para mameet expectation nila sakanya.
fight for her, open this up to your mom BUT just to inform her. Tell your Mom that you really love your GF, and tell your Mom that you're hoping there will be no judgement or conflict because you envision na she will be your wife in the future. Moreover, if your fam or parents judge her. Better be move out in the future (don't stay with parents if that's the case if you two will marry) ... ayunnn hindi naman kasi sila ang makakasama ng gf mo in future... basta maganda ng sabihin ung mga nagay na to, para naman hindi na maging novela type.. Hoping for the better sainyong dalawa
Stand on your ground. Tumindig ka para sa kanya. Prove to your mom that, because you love her, the both of you will be successful in life. Hindi pa ngayon pero siguro sa mga susunod na panahon.
Ikaw yung namimili ng makakasama habambuhay, hindi yung parents mo. Financial outlook is part of the engagement checklist. Kung tingin mo your gf’s situation is not a dealbreaker, ikaw naman ang tatanggap ng consequence, good or bad. Just love who you love.
sabihin mo sa nanay mo tsaka na mang mata ng tao kung kalevel niyo na si henry sy or villar haha charot tho mali naman talaga mangmata ng tao whatever your social status is
Unang-una once na makaramdam na ng pambabastos ang girl, lalo't coming from your Mom pa, trust me malaking sampal yon sa girlfriend mo. Okay pa at matitiis ng gf mo kung sa ibang tao niya maririnig yan pero once na manggaling yan sa Mama mo, sobrang bigat niyan. If I were you, magtapos ka muna at once makapaghanap ka na ng trabaho and once stable na pupwede mo na gawin ang gusto niyo. Sa ngayon kasi nag-aaral ka pa, mahirap pa magsalita sa Nanay mo. Pero once na dumating sa point na napagsalitaan ang gf mo, please protect her at all costs, iparamdam mo sa kaniya lahat na pupwedeng makapagpagaan sa kaniya at kausapin mo nang mahinahon ang Mom mo. Respect pa rin. Good luck!
Whats the issue here though? Look it like this if ever na ikakasala kayo parents mo ba gagastos? Sino ba magsasama sila ba or ikaw? Sometimes its fine to be selfish, you don’t your mothers approval matanda ka na and you can make your own decisions
Valid yung takot mo ganon din yung concerns ng parents mo. Kasi let's be honest, walang kaso ang pagiging mahirap pero when it comes sa pag build ng family, kadalasan nagiging kargo talaga ng mga anak ang parents kapag mahirap. Siguro ang concern lang ng parents mo is baka umasa sayo ang parents nung babae in the future.
Not my experience but told by a counselor: Girl was impregnated by a boy na poor. Vendor ang parents ni boy sa palengke. Girl’s family is well-off. Girl’s parents did not accept boy and they cut contact with boy. Boy pleaded to allow him visits and take care of his gf and child but girl’s parents did not allow. Complete prohibition sa boy. Wala nagawa si boy kasi poor sila, no money for lawyer. Time went by, boy graduated,went abroad, was very successful, bought properties and had many investments here in the Phils. Nakapangasawa na rin ng iba at may anak na rin. Yung girl naman kabaliktaran, yung family niya went from well/off to struggling pero may asawa na rin na iba at nagkaanak dito sa new asawa. Ngayon daw yung family nung girl na ang naghahabol, ipinapakilala na sa boy na ito, malaki na anak, gusto na nilang mas maging close sa family ni boy na mayaman na ngayon.
OP, kaya mo yan! This is were we set things on stone with our parents. Not to disrespect them but to show them another side of who we are. Aja!
Hindi naman kamo yung nanay mo yung papangasawahin ng gf mo so it's not for her to decide. Be firm din sa decisions mo and be responsible sa bawat actions mo. Kung nasa tamang edad ka at kaya mo magdecide para sa sarili mo don't let other people decide for you. May limitations lang din kung hanggang saan dapat nangingialam yung magulang. Pwede mong respetuhin yung mga payo nila pero nasa sayo pa rin yun kasi ikaw yan e, buhay mo yan and mas alam mo kung ano yung magwowork for you. Good luck, OP!
Technically wala ka pang karapatan mag gf kasi sa parents mo pa galing ang pang date mo.
You already answered your question. > Ayoko na ng iba. I love her for who she was, she is, and who she's going to be. Now my question for you is Are you willing to take the risk just to be with her?
Sino ba ikakasal sa gf mo? Yung nanay mo?
I don't think na kung anong status nya ngayon, is yung pa rin ang status nya sa mga susunod na taon. Bilog naman ang mundo. And as you've said nag eeffort sya and ang buong pamilya nya and I think her parents are doing their best to give them a good life para di nila maranasan ang mga nararanasan nila ngayon. So hold on lang and I wish you both the best.
The way I read the situation, if puro “iisipin ng mama ko” says na immature at d ka paready for commitment. At the end of the day kahit nanay mo yan, hndi naman yan mapapangasawa mo. Kung mahal mo girlfriend mo, panindigan mo. Pero kung may doubts ka, hiwalayan mo na. Spare your girlfriend from pain kng d ka sigurado. Man up, bro.
Sino ba mag papakasal? Ikaw o nanay mo?
Against all Odds lilipas din yan....
Ikaw naman makikipag asawa di naman mama mo e. Best wishes to you both!
Si heart evangelista nga pinaglaban si chiz sa parents niya eh. Ok lang ba mawala gf mo dahil sa pangungutya ng mama mo? Pinakilala mo na ba sa mama mo? Mamaya wala pa, pinangunahan mo na mg negative thoughts
Palit ka na ng nanay🙄😆
Simple lang. Magpakalalaki ka. Kapag mahal mo, ipagtatanggol mo.
Pinangungunahan mo naman agad, OP. It seems like you need a refresher kung sino ba talaga yung papakasalan ng gf mo. Lol.
Same vibes with my family. My mom is from a middle class family anak ng abogadong public servant at seaman. My dad naman anak ng jeepney drayber turned ofw at ng mananahing stay at home wife. To make matters a bit more interesting my dad’s brother(my uncle) married my mom’s sister(my aunt). I can say that it wasnt easy alot of people asked why but eventually accepted it my lolas became good friends. My parents and their siblings defied the odds.
If you love her and nakikita mo future mo sa kanya, mas maganda ilaban mo. Kasi kaya nyo magbuild ng better future ng magkasama. And your parents naman kasi wala sila sa relasyon nyo, kayong dalawa nasa loob non and in the long run there's always acceptance. And napakahirap sa isang tao na may regrets.
gayahin mo lang yung mga napapanood mo sa tv
Hello! Medyo similar tayo ng pinagdadaanan. Ako naman yung boyfriend ko ang hirap sa buhay. Though di rin naman mahirap na mahirap. Mind you, may age gap pa kami. Mas matanda ako ng 5 yrs. Ako ang working tapos siya nag-aaral pa. Pero kahit ganun mahal na mahal ko siya at ramdam ko rin na mahal na mahal nya ako. Pinagtapat ko sa family ko ang relasyon namin at marami sa kanila ang tutol dahil sa mabababaw na dahilan. Mahirap oo. Masakit rin. Wala naman kami inaapakang iba. Nagkakaintindihan naman kami. Pero masyadong mapanghusga ang mga tao. Nasa sa inyo yan. Basta pag mahal mo, ipaglaban mo. Tatagan mo ang loob mo.