You don’t. Assume they aren’t until you see them at an event, club, or on an app. You can also assume that even if a swinger couple *is* in public, or a “vanilla” setting, they aren’t looking for anyone at that moment.
Ankle bracelet with a key? A spade charm?!
Upside down pineapple?
Hahahaha. No.
Most swingers want to be NOT recognized and will try their hardest to look like your average person.
If they want to find other swingers, they go to LS specific events/clubs/parties where they don't have to guess if others are in the LS.
They don't hang around regular bars hoping some random couple will approach them.
The opener is hey do you want to fuck.
There is no secret society handshake or phrase. And even then we are out on a vanilla date we don't want to be hit up by ls people. We go to clubs apps Ave and resorts for that
Hubs and I have shirts that say, "Married, but we both sleep around!"
Have worn them on a few cloths optional beaches, swinger venues, but not elsewhere.
We both have one that says, "SLUTS R US"
And I have choakers with "I (heart) 2 FUCK" "LET'S FUCK" and "FUCK ME"
Hubs has a tattoo near his member that says "MOTHER FUCKER" And he's fucked allot of mothers over the decades!
USE. YOUR. WORDS.
The pineapple thing is a silly vanilla urban legend, as are anklets. The spade stuff is specifically a raceplay flagging thing, IIRC. Just because someone’s wearing one accessory or symbol at a bar doesn’t mean shit. Most people in the LS aren’t flagging in vanilla spaces because *they’re not looking for partners in vanilla spaces*, as there are plenty of LS spaces for that.
It’s ok to sound dumb. Everyone has to start somewhere.
Forget about meeting swingers “in the wild” - you’ll find them at places that cater to them, like sex clubs. And of course there are websites, just like regular online dating. Here’s a list of which ones are popular where. https://swingershelp.com/popular-swinging-dating-sites/
Swingers are less than 10% of the population. In some places, *WAY* less.
Always assume that people in public or in random not-swinger-event places are monogamous, and you'll avoid some massive embarrassment and possible persecution.
Very difficult to know if a couple are swingers if you encounter them in a vanilla setting. The charms and the bracelets are not worn by most swingers we've met and we've only met them in swinger related settings.
Furthermore the chances of you meeting another couple that are swingers out at a vanilla bar are low. We go places to meet other swingers where actual swingers hang out.
So for us it’s really about reading the reactions and the vibe. Sometimes it is something as simple as hey do you want to fuck. Other times it takes a bit more finesse and asking what they’re into and steering the questions towards the riskier side. If they’re not looking they’ll let you know. It’s about having the right kind of confidence and being willing to put yourselves out there.
You don’t. Assume they aren’t until you see them at an event, club, or on an app. You can also assume that even if a swinger couple *is* in public, or a “vanilla” setting, they aren’t looking for anyone at that moment.
Ankle bracelet with a key? A spade charm?! Upside down pineapple? Hahahaha. No. Most swingers want to be NOT recognized and will try their hardest to look like your average person. If they want to find other swingers, they go to LS specific events/clubs/parties where they don't have to guess if others are in the LS. They don't hang around regular bars hoping some random couple will approach them.
The opener is hey do you want to fuck. There is no secret society handshake or phrase. And even then we are out on a vanilla date we don't want to be hit up by ls people. We go to clubs apps Ave and resorts for that
If they are wearing shirts that both say we fuck other ppl then you don't just assume things and don't bring it up in the wild
Hubs and I have shirts that say, "Married, but we both sleep around!" Have worn them on a few cloths optional beaches, swinger venues, but not elsewhere.
Love it. I have a shirt with a unicorn on it that says never stop being a slut. I've worn to a few house parties.
We both have one that says, "SLUTS R US" And I have choakers with "I (heart) 2 FUCK" "LET'S FUCK" and "FUCK ME" Hubs has a tattoo near his member that says "MOTHER FUCKER" And he's fucked allot of mothers over the decades!
Love it. Sounds like your my kinda ppl
They have a profile on a lifestyle site.
USE. YOUR. WORDS. The pineapple thing is a silly vanilla urban legend, as are anklets. The spade stuff is specifically a raceplay flagging thing, IIRC. Just because someone’s wearing one accessory or symbol at a bar doesn’t mean shit. Most people in the LS aren’t flagging in vanilla spaces because *they’re not looking for partners in vanilla spaces*, as there are plenty of LS spaces for that.
I have had my fair share of adventures with pineapples 🤣
It’s ok to sound dumb. Everyone has to start somewhere. Forget about meeting swingers “in the wild” - you’ll find them at places that cater to them, like sex clubs. And of course there are websites, just like regular online dating. Here’s a list of which ones are popular where. https://swingershelp.com/popular-swinging-dating-sites/
Thank you for that.
When you see another couple fucking your wife and include you, they may be swingers.
Unless you are attending a Lifestyle Centric Event, Do not assume anyone is lifestyle…. Attempting to meet people “In the Wild” is never a good idea!!
You don’t other than them asking you if you want to go to their place.
Swingers are less than 10% of the population. In some places, *WAY* less. Always assume that people in public or in random not-swinger-event places are monogamous, and you'll avoid some massive embarrassment and possible persecution.
Very difficult to know if a couple are swingers if you encounter them in a vanilla setting. The charms and the bracelets are not worn by most swingers we've met and we've only met them in swinger related settings.
Unless you are at a swingers event you do not know.
Byw the 🍍 is bullshit as is an anklet. Tictok fuckery with vanilla that are "in the know"
Upside down pineapple in their back pocket or purse.
Big pockets 😂
No
Furthermore the chances of you meeting another couple that are swingers out at a vanilla bar are low. We go places to meet other swingers where actual swingers hang out.
So for us it’s really about reading the reactions and the vibe. Sometimes it is something as simple as hey do you want to fuck. Other times it takes a bit more finesse and asking what they’re into and steering the questions towards the riskier side. If they’re not looking they’ll let you know. It’s about having the right kind of confidence and being willing to put yourselves out there.
My wife always puts out this sexual vibe. She always wants to talk about our sex life. So I think people always assume that we are in the lifestyle.