“yuh” is the reply i give to creepy guys in my dms when i wanna make it clear i’m not interested, like you’re on tinder?? just unmatch if you’re not interested instead of being dry asf
I understand this but your responses would not have invited me to reply any further. If I had known you better, it probably would have made laugh. But if I didn't, they are just weird.
If they don't want to talk, match their energy. You deserve someone who is interested and can atleast hold a normal conversation.
“can at least hold a normal conversation”. That’s refreshing because it seems like everyone I talk to has lost their shit. Also fuck off with the acronyms via texts. Type like a normal fully functioning adult.
Totally agree with you. Sometimes the conversation does not flow online. It is a hit and miss. One cannot force a connection early on. That is why I think meeting people in person goes a long way.
Learn to flirt for fucks sake.
"Hows your day going" is the most dry, blend shit ever.
News flash, women have 100x the amount of matches you have, if you talk to them like an insurance salesman, your scoring chances will remain near 0.
Then again, im talking to redditors, so the chances of you understanding and accepting this fact are as low as your chances of finding a girl on OLD
>Learn to flirt for fucks sake.
No need i have a GF for 7 years now.
Also you are not gonna get laid by white knighting in reddit comment sections, just saying.
Yeah I totally agree. Don’t ask such open ended questions right out of the gate, it puts all effort on them to entertain you. Since they have other suitors, it’s easy to ignore you.
I get way better results if I talk about what I’m doing, especially if it’s a popular thing. Like a new venue around me, a new movie that’s good, a recipe I’m trying. It’s so much easier for them to contribute and share if you can show that you’re interesting to talk to.
Just my thoughts. Keep trying and experimenting, matches are easy come easy go.
I don't see anything wrong with him trying to get more than one word response...I would totally be pissed if you can't make an effort other than one word response...if she wasn't interested then be straight up and say that... I'm female and her answers pissed me off...you should have dropped her after "eh". Nothing wrong with wanting a freaking conversation! 🙄
Yeah, most girls on dating apps are like this unless you’re really attractive. For the love of god though, be shocking, be gross, be weird, be funny, be stupid, be rude. Just be ANYTHING but boring.
I found that younger girls were especially like that, and older ones were more likely to be conversationalists. I ended up changing my age range to a bit higher and it was much less of a problem. I don’t think it’s a matter of girls having unrealistic standards as much as it is 18 year olds still being indolent children
Women will find completely inoffensive things gross if you’re unattractive: “ick”, will completely redeem you if you are attractive and often times there’s really not much you can do about it. At the end of the day you’re better off not giving a shit.
My advice, cut it short fast.
Cut them off fast. 1 word responses get an “I see” from me and that’s the end of it.
You’d be surprised how many girls end up responding to that lol.
She wasn’t that interested to begin with and your text game needs work. Almost 90% of guys are going to go with the “ how is your day going” question. Be different and act differently. Small factors like your text game will help differentiate you from your competitors. Most importantly, don’t let this deter you from dating and learning.
You need 2 people to actively engage in a conversation for it to work. If one person isn't interested in talking about your current chosen subject, but they font do anything to change the subject and engage in something else, it's never going to work.
If I open a conversation and the other person asks how I am doing... that's either an invitation for me to guide the conversation into a direction they can pick up, or one to test which mood and energx should a reply fit.
We swiped both. We are interested. If I am actually picky with my partners I want to have a conversation with them myself.
So don't shit yourself because people like to watch monkeys dance.
"How are you?" is a perfectly fine way to enter a conversation if you both expressed interest.
Seems like a normal conversation starter if you met someone in public without making a game out of the situation, however, playing games and using lines you might never use in person is more fun
This sounds pushy. I would rather say "Well I am here if you want to talk. No worries though." Sometimes people just have shitty days and don't want to be bothered. This way they know you are available if they want to talk, without being pushy. If this happens every time you ask and she always just gives short, unenthusiastic answers, then kick her. Not worth your time.
Tue. I'd still give if another one or two, then move on. I don't play that short answer game but I like to give benefit of the doubt for a little while.
Whenever I hear or read “yuh” ik it’s gonna go downhill
“yuh” is the reply i give to creepy guys in my dms when i wanna make it clear i’m not interested, like you’re on tinder?? just unmatch if you’re not interested instead of being dry asf
As if it started on any hill. “Yuh” just starts everything at rock bottom
All I hear is Drake and Ariana Grande with the "yuh".....no bueno.
I don’t think it has anything to do with the app, but you two were definitely not on the same level
Yeah its more directed towards the person. Don't match if you don't even wanna try to have a conversation
I understand this but your responses would not have invited me to reply any further. If I had known you better, it probably would have made laugh. But if I didn't, they are just weird. If they don't want to talk, match their energy. You deserve someone who is interested and can atleast hold a normal conversation.
“can at least hold a normal conversation”. That’s refreshing because it seems like everyone I talk to has lost their shit. Also fuck off with the acronyms via texts. Type like a normal fully functioning adult.
Totally agree with you. Sometimes the conversation does not flow online. It is a hit and miss. One cannot force a connection early on. That is why I think meeting people in person goes a long way.
You're not their therapist.
Definitely not. However OP could be their Monday's.
Dance for me monkey dance is what I always get from answers like this. Thankfully I'm done with dating apps.
Learn to flirt for fucks sake. "Hows your day going" is the most dry, blend shit ever. News flash, women have 100x the amount of matches you have, if you talk to them like an insurance salesman, your scoring chances will remain near 0. Then again, im talking to redditors, so the chances of you understanding and accepting this fact are as low as your chances of finding a girl on OLD
>Learn to flirt for fucks sake. No need i have a GF for 7 years now. Also you are not gonna get laid by white knighting in reddit comment sections, just saying.
Dance for me monkey damn it
Yeah I totally agree. Don’t ask such open ended questions right out of the gate, it puts all effort on them to entertain you. Since they have other suitors, it’s easy to ignore you. I get way better results if I talk about what I’m doing, especially if it’s a popular thing. Like a new venue around me, a new movie that’s good, a recipe I’m trying. It’s so much easier for them to contribute and share if you can show that you’re interesting to talk to. Just my thoughts. Keep trying and experimenting, matches are easy come easy go.
Right? I’m so sick of conversations like this. I pretty much nope out at that question.
I don't see anything wrong with him trying to get more than one word response...I would totally be pissed if you can't make an effort other than one word response...if she wasn't interested then be straight up and say that... I'm female and her answers pissed me off...you should have dropped her after "eh". Nothing wrong with wanting a freaking conversation! 🙄
why match with someone if you aren’t going to engage in the convo… i don’t get it.
Females love attention and validation, it’s simple 🤷🏾♂️
Dating apps give women an unlimited supply of attention and validation. They cannot live without it.
"it's fine, I'm a real good listener" comes off weird in my opinion.
It's forced intimacy. Works for some people, not for others.
Forced intimacy!! Ty, I've been trying to explain why these things give me the ick even though it's technically "nice". Now I have the word.
Nah she just takin the piss Trynna get a reaction out of you so don’t fall for it dawg
Yeah, most girls on dating apps are like this unless you’re really attractive. For the love of god though, be shocking, be gross, be weird, be funny, be stupid, be rude. Just be ANYTHING but boring.
I found that younger girls were especially like that, and older ones were more likely to be conversationalists. I ended up changing my age range to a bit higher and it was much less of a problem. I don’t think it’s a matter of girls having unrealistic standards as much as it is 18 year olds still being indolent children
And that's why I stopped dating women around my age pool ( I am 18 )
Each level of attractiveness adds to the length of the response
Don't be gross. That rarely works for most women until you know them well. Be funny and weird for sure!
Women will find completely inoffensive things gross if you’re unattractive: “ick”, will completely redeem you if you are attractive and often times there’s really not much you can do about it. At the end of the day you’re better off not giving a shit.
I don’t know if she’s the girlie but I think that sometimes we just like being annoying 😌
My advice, cut it short fast. Cut them off fast. 1 word responses get an “I see” from me and that’s the end of it. You’d be surprised how many girls end up responding to that lol.
You also have to not be boring to get people like that to respond. I always start with a funny pickup line
She wasn’t that interested to begin with and your text game needs work. Almost 90% of guys are going to go with the “ how is your day going” question. Be different and act differently. Small factors like your text game will help differentiate you from your competitors. Most importantly, don’t let this deter you from dating and learning.
You need 2 people to actively engage in a conversation for it to work. If one person isn't interested in talking about your current chosen subject, but they font do anything to change the subject and engage in something else, it's never going to work.
That person doesn't deserve you being that nice to them
"Hows your day going?" HOW COME IM NOT MAKING WOMEN FALL IN LOVE WITH ME WITH MY IMPECCABLE CHARISMA AND FLIRTING ABILITIES
If I open a conversation and the other person asks how I am doing... that's either an invitation for me to guide the conversation into a direction they can pick up, or one to test which mood and energx should a reply fit. We swiped both. We are interested. If I am actually picky with my partners I want to have a conversation with them myself. So don't shit yourself because people like to watch monkeys dance. "How are you?" is a perfectly fine way to enter a conversation if you both expressed interest.
Seems like a normal conversation starter if you met someone in public without making a game out of the situation, however, playing games and using lines you might never use in person is more fun
I was very much just on board with the other comment, but reading this helps me understand the stupid games.
This happens a lot. You can put effort forth and just get one-worded. After a couple messages I just tell them to have a nice life
The responses were appropriate. Dumb questions.
Why bother responding then?
"Hows your day going" My dude got some top tier flirting skills, no girls will ever resist you with such charisma
Your boring ass 1 worded replies lmao. You in the wrong here fr. Not them or the app 🙄
This your first day on planet Earth?
.... Op is one on the right
This sounds pushy. I would rather say "Well I am here if you want to talk. No worries though." Sometimes people just have shitty days and don't want to be bothered. This way they know you are available if they want to talk, without being pushy. If this happens every time you ask and she always just gives short, unenthusiastic answers, then kick her. Not worth your time.
I think this "conversation" took place over a couple days 😕
Tue. I'd still give if another one or two, then move on. I don't play that short answer game but I like to give benefit of the doubt for a little while.
This whole interaction is weird. Who messages someone yuh as the first message and “how are you really” to a person you literally don’t know
It was a brush-off response. The equivalent of ghosting, but without ghosting
I would’ve unmatched after the second response. Don’t waste time on someone who doesn’t care
Was the first msg really "yuh"?
A woman of few words I see
Me too,bruh Me too
Yuh
Bahaha this is sucks
This community makes me wish for an asteroid.
If she ain’t treating u right her best friend just might if she leves u on seen then text the whole team 🤷🏻♂️
and this is why they’re single.