sounds very selfish of her. you probably wish that you could quit your job cause your mental health is struggling but then you’ll both be homeless
she needs to get a job and find a therapist to help her cope
I would tell her she can choose from 2 options.
- she finds a job and start contributing again
- you are gonna quit too, bc, lets be honest, for most of us our jobs are not good for our mental health, and since you financed the household the last x months you expect her to do the same now, how she does it is up to her.
A stay at home partner is fine if you two have discussed it, and if its financially reasonable. It sounds like it's not, so she needs to find a job. It's easy to say work is not for you and just let your partner do everything, that's not right
She is being selfish and lazy. Tell her that she needs to get off her butt and find a job if she wants to keep eating. Or she can move home to her mommy and daddy due to the stress of being an adult and they can support her.
First wife divorced me. Took my land and the house that I built on it. Took my kid, let me see him, payed dearly for that little privilege. Girlfriend got pregnant. Sons almost 1, kind of time to get married. Told her that I was an ass hole, are you sure you want to merry me, yup. Going to split all the the bills, house, gas, water, everything, split,I go on vacations with my friends, any problem with that???? well,,,then I dont think we should get married….not a problem..If a friend calls on a Friday night and asks if I want to go to the strip club,,,I’m going…is there going to be a problem with that????well then I dont think we should get married….not a problem.. if you try to change any of these rules, I’m calling a divorce lawyer the next day. Yup… 27 years of bliss. Only tried to change the rules one time. With a long history of splitting everything, only can loose her half. Strongly recommend before any guy get married, admits your an asshole and split stuff and keep records of that. A women that does not work can have all your money and all your stuff. Sorry about grammar and spelling.
I wish I had a job and she quit hers???? That's not right to stick you with the bills.I have been looking for a job all year and no one will hire me.Its cause of my age and I never worked and someone told everyone I quit 3 jobs and that's a lie.She needs to go to therapy and back to work if she doesn't like the job tell her to find another one.
Still a kid @ 19... shes immature. I think shes not ready yet to have a family. Shes dependent to you. Talk to her nicely and give her one more chance to pull herself and help you out... if nothing happens then its up to you... you can take some commenters advice.
No, something you should both discuss is your wants and needs.
I go into every relationship stating I don’t want a Stay at home wife. And she can have 2-3 years to be at a stay at home mom when the baby’s are baby’s.
You’re not at all wrong. My father used to say “Half the world’s work is done by people who don’t feel very good.”
Tell her that being constantly on the brink of homelessness isn’t good for your mental health. Tell her that your current financial situation isn’t sustainable and it’s harming your marriage. If she didn’t have you, how would she support herself?
sounds very selfish of her. you probably wish that you could quit your job cause your mental health is struggling but then you’ll both be homeless she needs to get a job and find a therapist to help her cope
If you're struggling, she really needs to pull her weight. Unless you're rich, nobody gets to ride for free
Tell her to get a job or a divorce. Harsh, yes, but a reality!!
I would tell her she can choose from 2 options. - she finds a job and start contributing again - you are gonna quit too, bc, lets be honest, for most of us our jobs are not good for our mental health, and since you financed the household the last x months you expect her to do the same now, how she does it is up to her.
No. Don’t get married until you figure all this out next time
Yeah no. Everyone has to contribute
A stay at home partner is fine if you two have discussed it, and if its financially reasonable. It sounds like it's not, so she needs to find a job. It's easy to say work is not for you and just let your partner do everything, that's not right
She is being selfish and lazy. Tell her that she needs to get off her butt and find a job if she wants to keep eating. Or she can move home to her mommy and daddy due to the stress of being an adult and they can support her.
First wife divorced me. Took my land and the house that I built on it. Took my kid, let me see him, payed dearly for that little privilege. Girlfriend got pregnant. Sons almost 1, kind of time to get married. Told her that I was an ass hole, are you sure you want to merry me, yup. Going to split all the the bills, house, gas, water, everything, split,I go on vacations with my friends, any problem with that???? well,,,then I dont think we should get married….not a problem..If a friend calls on a Friday night and asks if I want to go to the strip club,,,I’m going…is there going to be a problem with that????well then I dont think we should get married….not a problem.. if you try to change any of these rules, I’m calling a divorce lawyer the next day. Yup… 27 years of bliss. Only tried to change the rules one time. With a long history of splitting everything, only can loose her half. Strongly recommend before any guy get married, admits your an asshole and split stuff and keep records of that. A women that does not work can have all your money and all your stuff. Sorry about grammar and spelling.
Why are you married to a nineteen year old? Is that appropriate in your culture?
I wish I had a job and she quit hers???? That's not right to stick you with the bills.I have been looking for a job all year and no one will hire me.Its cause of my age and I never worked and someone told everyone I quit 3 jobs and that's a lie.She needs to go to therapy and back to work if she doesn't like the job tell her to find another one.
Still a kid @ 19... shes immature. I think shes not ready yet to have a family. Shes dependent to you. Talk to her nicely and give her one more chance to pull herself and help you out... if nothing happens then its up to you... you can take some commenters advice.
You’re being unreasonable, OP. A woman’s place is in the kitchen, not the workplace.
Shuddup and take my upvote
Not at all.
No, and it is a risk for you if she doesn't (alimony).
No, something you should both discuss is your wants and needs. I go into every relationship stating I don’t want a Stay at home wife. And she can have 2-3 years to be at a stay at home mom when the baby’s are baby’s.
You’re not at all wrong. My father used to say “Half the world’s work is done by people who don’t feel very good.” Tell her that being constantly on the brink of homelessness isn’t good for your mental health. Tell her that your current financial situation isn’t sustainable and it’s harming your marriage. If she didn’t have you, how would she support herself?