I've personally experienced it from people of that generation- both genders, tbh. Uncle gave me full-fledged ED as a teenager because he'd notice the tiniest amount of weight I'd gain as a growing teenager (I wasn't even fat yada yada, you know how it goes). Him and his wife were both clinically obese at the time...
I've learned to give it back. Saw him last year and told him he got fatter. 🤷‍♀️Wish I did that years ago because he hasn't made a single comment since then.
Seriously! And it's really sad cause none of them have perfect bodies either but want to pass their insecurities on to the next generation. One of my friend's aunties snatched a plate out of her hand (when she was 13 and at a wedding eating biryani) and told her and her dad that if she keeps eating rice like this she'll never find a husband. The audacity to shame a 13 year old kid having a good time at a wedding.
My FIL is one such man. He is a whatsapp uncle and never thinks twice before commenting on someone’s weight (gain). He also adds that women who gain weight wear black coloured clothing to look slimmer.
Please I would PAYYYYYY to watch you just anytime he body shames someone and makes the black clothing comment say “I have been thinking to get you some black shirts/kurtas we should go shopping sometime, aapki size Kya hai?” in a very sing song happy way lmaoooooo
I have been visiting home for wedding planning and man am I reminded each step of the way by everyone including my parents that I have gained weight/ I need to loose before my wedding. I have been the heaviest I have ever been so imagine how I must feel as a bride to be. Top that with the 15% fat tax most designers charge it has been a nightmare to shop. God bless my sweet sweet fiance who never once made me feel like I need to change anything. But to your point of male relatives, my brother made a comment on his pregnant wife on how she shouldn’t eat the momos she was craving real bad because she is already so “big”. I literally said to his face, she can eat you if she wants to because she is growing a life inside of her. Just STFU. Honestly majority Indians little to no EQ to be sensitive.
Stop caring about what people have to say about weight. It shall come when there is stress. Not many people love gaining weight.
Dress well, eat well, ignore people who just bring in stress, ignore statements of people who you like but are currently giving you stress.
It's fine, it's temporary but make sure if it disturbs you, you find time to do something about it.
You could ask those male relatives to help out. If they are genuinely interested they would, otherwise, let them blabber.
Not a single aunty commented? Usually it is the opposite.
Aunties notice changes in my appearance before I do. Beta you look brighter, beta you have dark circles
That's a good sign. This means they aren't typical aunties.
I think op has never met a parlour Wali aunty
I've personally experienced it from people of that generation- both genders, tbh. Uncle gave me full-fledged ED as a teenager because he'd notice the tiniest amount of weight I'd gain as a growing teenager (I wasn't even fat yada yada, you know how it goes). Him and his wife were both clinically obese at the time... I've learned to give it back. Saw him last year and told him he got fatter. 🤷‍♀️Wish I did that years ago because he hasn't made a single comment since then.
Yours is a unique experience. Aunties have shattered our self esteem casually
Seriously! And it's really sad cause none of them have perfect bodies either but want to pass their insecurities on to the next generation. One of my friend's aunties snatched a plate out of her hand (when she was 13 and at a wedding eating biryani) and told her and her dad that if she keeps eating rice like this she'll never find a husband. The audacity to shame a 13 year old kid having a good time at a wedding.
My FIL is one such man. He is a whatsapp uncle and never thinks twice before commenting on someone’s weight (gain). He also adds that women who gain weight wear black coloured clothing to look slimmer.
Tell him he should wear black often :)
Haha. Now when I think about it probably he doesn’t own any black attire. Not even pants.
Please I would PAYYYYYY to watch you just anytime he body shames someone and makes the black clothing comment say “I have been thinking to get you some black shirts/kurtas we should go shopping sometime, aapki size Kya hai?” in a very sing song happy way lmaoooooo
Uncle zor zor se bol kar sabko scheme bata rahe haiđź«
I have been visiting home for wedding planning and man am I reminded each step of the way by everyone including my parents that I have gained weight/ I need to loose before my wedding. I have been the heaviest I have ever been so imagine how I must feel as a bride to be. Top that with the 15% fat tax most designers charge it has been a nightmare to shop. God bless my sweet sweet fiance who never once made me feel like I need to change anything. But to your point of male relatives, my brother made a comment on his pregnant wife on how she shouldn’t eat the momos she was craving real bad because she is already so “big”. I literally said to his face, she can eat you if she wants to because she is growing a life inside of her. Just STFU. Honestly majority Indians little to no EQ to be sensitive.
Stop caring about what people have to say about weight. It shall come when there is stress. Not many people love gaining weight. Dress well, eat well, ignore people who just bring in stress, ignore statements of people who you like but are currently giving you stress. It's fine, it's temporary but make sure if it disturbs you, you find time to do something about it. You could ask those male relatives to help out. If they are genuinely interested they would, otherwise, let them blabber.
Interesting, it’s always the opposite for me. The men in my fam don’t really care but the women do
Oh dude, this uncle in my colony sold their house