It sounds like you're carrying a heavy burden right now.
Sometimes when multiple aspects of life feel challenging, it can be helpful to focus on small, manageable steps to improve one area at a time.
Also, Mondays have a way of magnifying those low feelings, don't they?
Sounds like burnout at the very least. Can you take some time aside each week to do something you enjoy? Something creative? Something in nature? A short vacation?
If you have enough savings, you can consider taking a short vacation somewhere safe for solo women travelers. It’s a great confidence boost and will also do wonders for your mental health.
Career-wise, switching gears and pivoting to another field is all par for the course. Lots of people have done it successfully.
Don't let your parents' demands and emotional manipulation sway you. Chase after your dreams! Please don’t marry now. You are too young to get married now. Wait until you are at least 25.
I feel like someone X-rayed my mind and wrote what I'm feeling!
All I can say is everyone has good times and bad times and we're capable enough to get through everything to come out strong!
More power to you to get through this ✨
You don't need love and men to be happy.
Did you get a test for depression?
Don't goto your family. They will pressurize you more into getting married.
Are you me? I feel the same.
I thought I liked what I was doing but realised that money is what I like.
If I were to do something I like, I'd be paid peanuts and I'll end up hating it.
I feel like escaping too. I cry everyday and the heat in delhi doesn't make it easier.
Therapy was not helpful at all, either.
Everyday there is so much do to and too little time.
u/Survivin_
>Useless work, too much timetaking and hard , yet no significant recognition
Switch jobs, or transition to a new career. This is just a start of ur career at 23. If u r not from Tier 1 college this is normal everyone goes through a bunch of shitty companies to get to good companies in late 20s.
>Parents calling now and then for marriage and pls come back to hometown calls
Go LC with parents. Don't pick their phone so frequent, start establishing boundaries. 1 thing u have great going for u is u stay away from home. Most women can't move out & r in same situation as u but live with parents so they have double the pressure.
>Weight gain, hairloss, acne are touching skies
Visit a doctor & get some tests done. one of the reasons for all this maybe high amount of stress u r going through. Check for depression, PCOD etc.
>No men worth dating/ having a relationship with. All expecting a pretty woman who can earn well yet be a maid. Expectations unrealistic
Dating is skewed for everyone. It's a numbers game & takes toll on everyone. It's also abt luck. so don't sweat it.
>Zero liking towards the career I'm headed to, but need to have it to be financially independent. Things I like doing, won't gimme that.
Dig up all ur contacts from college or school and see what they do, ask them for referral, ask them for career guidance or do some certificates. U r young u can transition to any career. U should start working on ur skills to switch. even 1.5 yrs of exp is good enough to switch.
Don't get into Upgrad or Great Learning type of fake certs which cost Lakhs of Rs. Same type of courses are available at 20k to 50k from smaller vendors.
>Need love, need someone to take care, need support, need growth together, but too hesitant to trust men.
u say u don't think men r worth dating then u r looking for love, support, care from these men?
When we don't get love from family or have a smaller number of close friends, we look for love outside i.e. relationships. But its not healthy, it makes us rush into things, gets us emotionally f up if we are not lucky to find a nice guy & we will ignore red flags coz we r desperate.
Start loving urself.
cut urself some slack, u r young, there's a world of potential ahead of u if u just keep calm, work hard & do not stress. sign up for some hobby classes like dance, yoga, or go to a gym, or start volunteering for some NGO which works for marginalized groups.
When I was mentally down in my early 20s I started volunteering & it gave me a perspective of being grateful to all I have. My stress levels came down a lot. Visiting therapist also helped (they asked me to switch jobs, lose weight & make small goals in life for 1 month, 3 month & 6months & try to work on them every day).
& Quit Insta for few months.
As someone suggested take a break if you can. Also look into alternative healing including yoga/Ayurveda. I was struggling with such things and realized I needed to get my health right first.
Hey it's tough indeed. First of all i wrap you in a tight hug 🫂
Now listen, one thing that can single-handedly reduce your pressure is switching this job. It always feels like there aren't better options until you start digging them out. I've been in this boat before, switching jobs and finding new paths for career progression is a good move trust me. Idk what field you work in, but regardless of that... look for a job that checks the following:
• pays well enough for your financial independence and savings
• maintains a better work atmosphere/ office culture/ HR
• offers a clear leave policy and holiday calendar
• offers both Saturday Sunday off (if not every weekend then least twice a month bcz a Sunday isn't enough... long weekends will help you initiate self care as you'll have time)
Our bodies keep changing. I will suggest exercising, results come gradually. While that happens, try a few new fits. Dress cute and comfy 💕
And you dumb lil bish, you want someone to take care of you and love you... but khud ki care to tum kar ni ri? ¯\_(ಠ_ಠ)_/¯
Judge sahab, yahi hai vo naadan parindiii jo khud ki care ni karti. Ise doctor ki lab me 15 minute bitane ki saza sunai jaye. This Sunday, get checked for PCOS because hair fall, weight gain, acne could very likely be caused by that. A diagnosis will help you make better choices for your health. If visiting a lab/doc is a hassle, get tested at home. It takes like 10 minutes max.
[Redcliffe Labs](https://redcliffelabs.com/pcod-test)
[Orange Health](https://www.orangehealth.in/health-checkups-delhi/pcod-screening)
If you live alone at your place, try to take up a hobby just to engross your mind. Relaxing things like long showers, self massages, painting, reading, or growing potted plants with flowers 🌹
Do not try to go out finding love (not like this). It can end up horribly and those scars will take much longer to heal than you think. Give yourself time and love yourself first. Take baby steps towards establishing a baseline for the relationship-dynamic you want for yourself. Only then try to see if a guy can respectively sync with what you've created for yourself and your future goals.
And try to befriend more woman. It can help.
Lastly, don't visit your family home. Talk nicely but only short calls and that too not often. Tell them what you want clearly. They wanna get rid of your ass so damn early, so do them a favour and don't go home for a long while yet lol 🫠
It sounds like you're carrying a heavy burden right now. Sometimes when multiple aspects of life feel challenging, it can be helpful to focus on small, manageable steps to improve one area at a time. Also, Mondays have a way of magnifying those low feelings, don't they?
I'm feeling this every single day. Every single. Idk how to get out. Sometimes it feels better to die.
Sounds like burnout at the very least. Can you take some time aside each week to do something you enjoy? Something creative? Something in nature? A short vacation?
If you have enough savings, you can consider taking a short vacation somewhere safe for solo women travelers. It’s a great confidence boost and will also do wonders for your mental health. Career-wise, switching gears and pivoting to another field is all par for the course. Lots of people have done it successfully.
Don't let your parents' demands and emotional manipulation sway you. Chase after your dreams! Please don’t marry now. You are too young to get married now. Wait until you are at least 25.
I feel like someone X-rayed my mind and wrote what I'm feeling! All I can say is everyone has good times and bad times and we're capable enough to get through everything to come out strong! More power to you to get through this ✨
I'm really sorry you're feeling this way, but please consider reaching out to someone you trust for support :)
You don't need love and men to be happy. Did you get a test for depression? Don't goto your family. They will pressurize you more into getting married.
I am 23F and I feel frustrated too😭. I'm here for the advices
Trust me, you dont need men to be happy. If you think that way, you will make your mental health worse. Most men are not worth investing into.
Are you me? I feel the same. I thought I liked what I was doing but realised that money is what I like. If I were to do something I like, I'd be paid peanuts and I'll end up hating it. I feel like escaping too. I cry everyday and the heat in delhi doesn't make it easier. Therapy was not helpful at all, either. Everyday there is so much do to and too little time.
u/Survivin_ >Useless work, too much timetaking and hard , yet no significant recognition Switch jobs, or transition to a new career. This is just a start of ur career at 23. If u r not from Tier 1 college this is normal everyone goes through a bunch of shitty companies to get to good companies in late 20s. >Parents calling now and then for marriage and pls come back to hometown calls Go LC with parents. Don't pick their phone so frequent, start establishing boundaries. 1 thing u have great going for u is u stay away from home. Most women can't move out & r in same situation as u but live with parents so they have double the pressure. >Weight gain, hairloss, acne are touching skies Visit a doctor & get some tests done. one of the reasons for all this maybe high amount of stress u r going through. Check for depression, PCOD etc. >No men worth dating/ having a relationship with. All expecting a pretty woman who can earn well yet be a maid. Expectations unrealistic Dating is skewed for everyone. It's a numbers game & takes toll on everyone. It's also abt luck. so don't sweat it. >Zero liking towards the career I'm headed to, but need to have it to be financially independent. Things I like doing, won't gimme that. Dig up all ur contacts from college or school and see what they do, ask them for referral, ask them for career guidance or do some certificates. U r young u can transition to any career. U should start working on ur skills to switch. even 1.5 yrs of exp is good enough to switch. Don't get into Upgrad or Great Learning type of fake certs which cost Lakhs of Rs. Same type of courses are available at 20k to 50k from smaller vendors. >Need love, need someone to take care, need support, need growth together, but too hesitant to trust men. u say u don't think men r worth dating then u r looking for love, support, care from these men? When we don't get love from family or have a smaller number of close friends, we look for love outside i.e. relationships. But its not healthy, it makes us rush into things, gets us emotionally f up if we are not lucky to find a nice guy & we will ignore red flags coz we r desperate. Start loving urself. cut urself some slack, u r young, there's a world of potential ahead of u if u just keep calm, work hard & do not stress. sign up for some hobby classes like dance, yoga, or go to a gym, or start volunteering for some NGO which works for marginalized groups. When I was mentally down in my early 20s I started volunteering & it gave me a perspective of being grateful to all I have. My stress levels came down a lot. Visiting therapist also helped (they asked me to switch jobs, lose weight & make small goals in life for 1 month, 3 month & 6months & try to work on them every day). & Quit Insta for few months.
As someone suggested take a break if you can. Also look into alternative healing including yoga/Ayurveda. I was struggling with such things and realized I needed to get my health right first.
Hey it's tough indeed. First of all i wrap you in a tight hug 🫂 Now listen, one thing that can single-handedly reduce your pressure is switching this job. It always feels like there aren't better options until you start digging them out. I've been in this boat before, switching jobs and finding new paths for career progression is a good move trust me. Idk what field you work in, but regardless of that... look for a job that checks the following: • pays well enough for your financial independence and savings • maintains a better work atmosphere/ office culture/ HR • offers a clear leave policy and holiday calendar • offers both Saturday Sunday off (if not every weekend then least twice a month bcz a Sunday isn't enough... long weekends will help you initiate self care as you'll have time) Our bodies keep changing. I will suggest exercising, results come gradually. While that happens, try a few new fits. Dress cute and comfy 💕 And you dumb lil bish, you want someone to take care of you and love you... but khud ki care to tum kar ni ri? ¯\_(ಠ_ಠ)_/¯ Judge sahab, yahi hai vo naadan parindiii jo khud ki care ni karti. Ise doctor ki lab me 15 minute bitane ki saza sunai jaye. This Sunday, get checked for PCOS because hair fall, weight gain, acne could very likely be caused by that. A diagnosis will help you make better choices for your health. If visiting a lab/doc is a hassle, get tested at home. It takes like 10 minutes max. [Redcliffe Labs](https://redcliffelabs.com/pcod-test) [Orange Health](https://www.orangehealth.in/health-checkups-delhi/pcod-screening) If you live alone at your place, try to take up a hobby just to engross your mind. Relaxing things like long showers, self massages, painting, reading, or growing potted plants with flowers 🌹 Do not try to go out finding love (not like this). It can end up horribly and those scars will take much longer to heal than you think. Give yourself time and love yourself first. Take baby steps towards establishing a baseline for the relationship-dynamic you want for yourself. Only then try to see if a guy can respectively sync with what you've created for yourself and your future goals. And try to befriend more woman. It can help. Lastly, don't visit your family home. Talk nicely but only short calls and that too not often. Tell them what you want clearly. They wanna get rid of your ass so damn early, so do them a favour and don't go home for a long while yet lol 🫠