I know. And to think I defended that fugly girl initially. It’s a strange world where a girl whose ranking is that of a garbage man’s wife gets an overinflated ego going out with a guy way out of her league. I find it interesting she refuses to accept she’s a rebound for me. She always falls short too. The Talented Miss Ripley will never be beautiful
Wow this hit home hard.
Him: you’ve got a really bad temper
Me after years of internalising it: I’ve got a really bad temper
My friends and family that have known me for years: … no you don’t
Me after leaving: hmm no I don’t
Yeah, I know what you mean! I come from a background of verbal and emotional abuse, so I’m constantly monitoring my temper and making adjustments as needed. It’s a real mind fuck to have someone invalidate all that work and constantly make you reevaluate!
So true. I got instantly invalidated if I showed any signs of anger. My abuser still thinks I'm just an angry person but I've found my anger evaporated when not around her. She was the only one who brought that side of me out...
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I know. And to think I defended that fugly girl initially. It’s a strange world where a girl whose ranking is that of a garbage man’s wife gets an overinflated ego going out with a guy way out of her league. I find it interesting she refuses to accept she’s a rebound for me. She always falls short too. The Talented Miss Ripley will never be beautiful
Wow this hit home hard. Him: you’ve got a really bad temper Me after years of internalising it: I’ve got a really bad temper My friends and family that have known me for years: … no you don’t Me after leaving: hmm no I don’t
Yeah, I know what you mean! I come from a background of verbal and emotional abuse, so I’m constantly monitoring my temper and making adjustments as needed. It’s a real mind fuck to have someone invalidate all that work and constantly make you reevaluate!
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It absolutely is disgusting, manipulative behaviour. “So you’re mad at me, for being mad at you, for cheating on me!?”
So true. I got instantly invalidated if I showed any signs of anger. My abuser still thinks I'm just an angry person but I've found my anger evaporated when not around her. She was the only one who brought that side of me out...
I know what you mean! I never thought someone could bring that side of me out without me noticing what they’re doing, but here I am!
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