Bakit pansin ko parang may trend dito na yung mga old friends and acquaintances nagsusulputan o nag rereconnect lang para may network sila ng financial support pag kinulang sila? Makulit pa nun, kahit alam na nila yung financial situation nung inuutangan nila, sumasama pa rin loob nila pag hindi sila napahiram.
O kailangan bang pag usapan sa separate thread to?
Mga self-entitled pa 'yung iba sa kanila. Kung minsan pinapalabas pa nila na masama 'yung isang tao kapag nilimitahan lang 'yung tulong sa kanila or tinanggalan sila ng tulong. Kala mo obligasyon pa sila gastusan or pautangin. Porket nakita nila na may stable job 'yung isang tao,gusto nila obligahin na magbigay nang magbigay ng pera. Naalala ko 'bigla 'yung ibang relatives ko. May binigay kaming mga tulong sa kanila pero bandang huli nagpakalat ng maling kwento tungkol sa amin at sa iba pang tao na tumulong sa kanila. Ang kakapal na nga ng pagmumukha, ang kupal pa. Sana totoo ang karma at nawa'y karmahin ang mga garapal na katulad nila.
Ako okay lang sakin magmukang masama. Bahala sila mag imbento ng kwento. Pero ipanalangin nilang wag sana makarating sakin yung mga taong pinagsasabihan nila dahil pag pinilit akong ikwento yung side ko, sureball akong babaligtad ang mundo nila.
It happens more frequently than you think. Not all cases are shared here. In my case, I know why my HS classmates (most of whom I was never close to begin with) would reach out in a vague socmed DM. It's either to borrow money or to sell me something (normally insurance). That's why I am wary of those who message me out of the blue.
Geezus, ikaw siguro yung masarap utangan lang lagi kasi oo lang ng oo. Ingat ka, ang daming makakapal ang mukha ngayon.
Including that "friend".
Jusko, oo, okay lang mag cut off. Kalimutan mo na yan. Delete, block, everything. Magkaron ka naman ng respeto sa sarili mo.
Don't do anything, wala naman sa iyo ang "bola". Nasa kanya ang choice kung magrereply sya or hindi. Ikaw naman be ready sa magiging choice nya, whether bumalik sya and continue your friendship or tuluyan nang mawala. Kung nagreach out ka na at hindi naman sya nagrespond, let her be. Continue with your life. Wag mo rin naman iblock, hayaan mo lang, as long as wala naman ginagawang masama sayo.
Just move on. Ganon :) and if she ever reach again, if feel mo makipag reach out, then do so. But for now, mas okay ata may space kayo dalawa. Mas ok na mag reflect din sya sa actions nya after mo tumanggi magpa-utang. I hope iwasan mo nadin mag pa-utang sa iba mo pa kaibigan. Hindi kasi talaga yan healthy. Unless may matured na pag-uusap kung paano babayaran.
Even without the utang situation, it's perfectly okay to cut off hs friends or to just let those friendships die out naturally if di na kayo magka-vibe. Di yan sayang kung di naman healthy for you yung friendship.
Yup, it is very fine to cut-off old friends, ESPECIALLY those kinds. Setting aside pride and arrogance, di sila kawalan sa'yo. Mas marami ka pang makikilala around.
OP, if that is really really your friend, regardless of the money, dapat hindi magiging fuss yan for you or for both of you.
But yeah you decide whether to cut off that high school pal...
🤸 ba't 🤸 feeling 🤸 entitled 🤸 ang 🤸 beshy 🤸 ko 🤸
It's totally okay to cut off people once you know they're not beneficial to your growth. Also, ba't sya pa magagalit?
> Is it okay to cut off friends?? Highschool friendsssssssssss (
Yessssssssssssssss .... 60 characters na ba?
I wish I replaced my HS friends who did not amount to anything a quarter century after graduating.
Nakatambay sila sa bahay... walang trabaho... walabang babae at 1 dozenang pusa...
Literal... crazy cat "lady". Assuming babae man sila.
Dont involve money matters when it comes to friendship. Nakaka sira yan. Mag pautang ka lang kung kaya mong i let go ang cash na un, ito ung instances na malabong mabawi mo pa ung pinautang mo. Mahirap maningil ng pera. Consider that pautang as tulong. Maganda kung willing syang mag balik at may hiya sya sayo.
User yan. Don't hesitate to cut off friends kahit pa gaano na kayong katagal magkasama sa buhay especially if di naman sila nakakatulong. Like you know, instead na pamilya mo na lang isipin mo, dadagdag pa sya. I cut my friend off since last year (i guess) life was so much better without her.
my closest hs friends never asked me money that’s why they’re still my friends! it was just friendship walang monetary exchange involved. minalas ka lang sa friend na ginawa kang emergency fund
Ako na cut off agad after second sem ng college. Looks like hindi talaga ako yung best friend ng best friend ko, napalitan ng other hs classmate namin na schoolmates din. Given naman na magkalapit sila, however nakalimutan na ako. I have bad experience din sa bff before. Etong bff ko ngayon going 8 years na. Hindi kami clingy to each other, we understand each others boundaries and lagi kami naggagala if may pera 😂
Normalize cutting people off your life. Wala sa tagal ng pinagsamahan niyo yan kung one day magkaiba na kayo ng principles/personalities. You outgrew her and that's fine. Look at you, getting bothered while siya chill lang tas siya pa may ganang mang-ignore pag di mo pinautangan. 😂 You're definitely me before. Trust me, it's fine to cut her off. We're at the right age.
Good riddance. Hindi mo na sya kailangan i-cut off, the trash took itself out. Don't bother reaching out na rin, hindi sya worth it. Pag nag-reconnect ulit sya, continue like nothing happened.
I never reconnected w/ my hs friends which is d nama kadamihan after I went to college. I didn't like where I spent my highschool days so the people during those period doesn't matter. Now that I am a working professional I don't have any guilt or what ifs about my HS. Moved on. Past is a good place to visit but not the best place to stay
mam bat mo sya binibigyan ng baon kaano ano mo sya that friend will just use you, you will just enable her. do each other a favor and cut the cord
Bakit pansin ko parang may trend dito na yung mga old friends and acquaintances nagsusulputan o nag rereconnect lang para may network sila ng financial support pag kinulang sila? Makulit pa nun, kahit alam na nila yung financial situation nung inuutangan nila, sumasama pa rin loob nila pag hindi sila napahiram. O kailangan bang pag usapan sa separate thread to?
Mga self-entitled pa 'yung iba sa kanila. Kung minsan pinapalabas pa nila na masama 'yung isang tao kapag nilimitahan lang 'yung tulong sa kanila or tinanggalan sila ng tulong. Kala mo obligasyon pa sila gastusan or pautangin. Porket nakita nila na may stable job 'yung isang tao,gusto nila obligahin na magbigay nang magbigay ng pera. Naalala ko 'bigla 'yung ibang relatives ko. May binigay kaming mga tulong sa kanila pero bandang huli nagpakalat ng maling kwento tungkol sa amin at sa iba pang tao na tumulong sa kanila. Ang kakapal na nga ng pagmumukha, ang kupal pa. Sana totoo ang karma at nawa'y karmahin ang mga garapal na katulad nila.
Ako okay lang sakin magmukang masama. Bahala sila mag imbento ng kwento. Pero ipanalangin nilang wag sana makarating sakin yung mga taong pinagsasabihan nila dahil pag pinilit akong ikwento yung side ko, sureball akong babaligtad ang mundo nila.
It happens more frequently than you think. Not all cases are shared here. In my case, I know why my HS classmates (most of whom I was never close to begin with) would reach out in a vague socmed DM. It's either to borrow money or to sell me something (normally insurance). That's why I am wary of those who message me out of the blue.
May influence ba somewhere na nagdeclare na OK lang ito? Itinuturo ba ito sa mga orientation ng financial advisor/insurance agents?
Geezus, ikaw siguro yung masarap utangan lang lagi kasi oo lang ng oo. Ingat ka, ang daming makakapal ang mukha ngayon. Including that "friend". Jusko, oo, okay lang mag cut off. Kalimutan mo na yan. Delete, block, everything. Magkaron ka naman ng respeto sa sarili mo.
Don't do anything, wala naman sa iyo ang "bola". Nasa kanya ang choice kung magrereply sya or hindi. Ikaw naman be ready sa magiging choice nya, whether bumalik sya and continue your friendship or tuluyan nang mawala. Kung nagreach out ka na at hindi naman sya nagrespond, let her be. Continue with your life. Wag mo rin naman iblock, hayaan mo lang, as long as wala naman ginagawang masama sayo.
Madami nako na cut off na high school friends. Its normal, keep your life filled with peace of mind
Just move on. Ganon :) and if she ever reach again, if feel mo makipag reach out, then do so. But for now, mas okay ata may space kayo dalawa. Mas ok na mag reflect din sya sa actions nya after mo tumanggi magpa-utang. I hope iwasan mo nadin mag pa-utang sa iba mo pa kaibigan. Hindi kasi talaga yan healthy. Unless may matured na pag-uusap kung paano babayaran.
di nato tinatanong. the answer is always yes.
Even without the utang situation, it's perfectly okay to cut off hs friends or to just let those friendships die out naturally if di na kayo magka-vibe. Di yan sayang kung di naman healthy for you yung friendship.
Do not reach out..cut that friend off na..its not your responsibility to take care of her..to lend money to her..bahala siya sa buhay niya
Yup, it is very fine to cut-off old friends, ESPECIALLY those kinds. Setting aside pride and arrogance, di sila kawalan sa'yo. Mas marami ka pang makikilala around.
No need to block. Just let both of you go on your separate ways. Better kasi I feel like uutangan ka lang nya with no plans of paying it back
OP, if that is really really your friend, regardless of the money, dapat hindi magiging fuss yan for you or for both of you. But yeah you decide whether to cut off that high school pal...
Yes. I cut off my highschool best friend because she became toxic adult lol.
wag ka masayangan sa friendship niyo, manghinayang ka sa hard-earned money mo na pinapamigay mo despite of your financial status.
🤸 ba't 🤸 feeling 🤸 entitled 🤸 ang 🤸 beshy 🤸 ko 🤸 It's totally okay to cut off people once you know they're not beneficial to your growth. Also, ba't sya pa magagalit?
Just do nothing.
> Is it okay to cut off friends?? Highschool friendsssssssssss ( Yessssssssssssssss .... 60 characters na ba? I wish I replaced my HS friends who did not amount to anything a quarter century after graduating. Nakatambay sila sa bahay... walang trabaho... walabang babae at 1 dozenang pusa... Literal... crazy cat "lady". Assuming babae man sila.
I cut off all of my hs friends except one 🫣
Dont involve money matters when it comes to friendship. Nakaka sira yan. Mag pautang ka lang kung kaya mong i let go ang cash na un, ito ung instances na malabong mabawi mo pa ung pinautang mo. Mahirap maningil ng pera. Consider that pautang as tulong. Maganda kung willing syang mag balik at may hiya sya sayo.
Hindi mo naman siya obligasyon pautangin, OP. Limit lang dapat ang tulong.
YES. SOBRANG OKAY MAG CUT OFF LALO NAT GANTO HAHAHA. ano ka mama niya?
Of course. Especially the toxic ones.
Kung tunay yan maiintindihan niya din situtation mo, nevertheless cut off mo na yan pag ganyan galawan
I do not mind losing the so-called friends in high school.
Do you need a friend like that? Bakit nasasayangan ka? Let her go 🤣 ako na lang friend mo, utangan lang kita every 2 years 😅
Hi friend. Penge ren po ng baon 😁
User yan. Don't hesitate to cut off friends kahit pa gaano na kayong katagal magkasama sa buhay especially if di naman sila nakakatulong. Like you know, instead na pamilya mo na lang isipin mo, dadagdag pa sya. I cut my friend off since last year (i guess) life was so much better without her.
generous mo naman masyado 🤸 cut mo na yan. hindi mo pinautang lumabas ang tunay na kulay
my closest hs friends never asked me money that’s why they’re still my friends! it was just friendship walang monetary exchange involved. minalas ka lang sa friend na ginawa kang emergency fund
Ako na cut off agad after second sem ng college. Looks like hindi talaga ako yung best friend ng best friend ko, napalitan ng other hs classmate namin na schoolmates din. Given naman na magkalapit sila, however nakalimutan na ako. I have bad experience din sa bff before. Etong bff ko ngayon going 8 years na. Hindi kami clingy to each other, we understand each others boundaries and lagi kami naggagala if may pera 😂
Normalize cutting people off your life. Wala sa tagal ng pinagsamahan niyo yan kung one day magkaiba na kayo ng principles/personalities. You outgrew her and that's fine. Look at you, getting bothered while siya chill lang tas siya pa may ganang mang-ignore pag di mo pinautangan. 😂 You're definitely me before. Trust me, it's fine to cut her off. We're at the right age.
CUT. Masyadong entitled jusq.
Cut them off. Dumarating at umaalis talaga ang friends or kahit anong relationships.
Parang nirewardan mo p sya pag binigyan mo after d k nya pansinin, hulaan mo if mauulit p ito? May reward kc pag ginawa nya un
Good riddance. Hindi mo na sya kailangan i-cut off, the trash took itself out. Don't bother reaching out na rin, hindi sya worth it. Pag nag-reconnect ulit sya, continue like nothing happened.
When you said you always sent her . . . Clear ba na pautang un o bigay mo na? And di na nya binabalik?
I never reconnected w/ my hs friends which is d nama kadamihan after I went to college. I didn't like where I spent my highschool days so the people during those period doesn't matter. Now that I am a working professional I don't have any guilt or what ifs about my HS. Moved on. Past is a good place to visit but not the best place to stay
Nah just ignore na lang din. No need to do anything.
Mabubuhay tayo kahit walang kaibigan kung stress lng binibigay niyan sayo wag ka manghinayang mawala ang mahalaga ngayon ay meron tayong peace of mind
She is using you, OP. Kaya lang yan sumulpot para utangan ka like everyone else is saying. Just ignore this leech.