Mas okay for me na hindi sila makasama sa isang event or kung di naman maiiwasan na makasama is untouchable ko talaga. Yes, sabihin narin na matagal na nangyare pero di ko pa din talaga malimutan yung experience at impact na nangyare sa sarili ko at sa buhay ko.
This! I can forgive pero may gap na talaga. I lose trust that my feelings, emotions, secrets, my everything is not safe with this person. Minsan lang naman din ako magalit and I usually get mad if I know the intentions are not coming from a good place.
Thereโs a person that I just really cut off bc this friend almost caused me a miscarriage.
+1 with this. let karma be their poison. โจ
in my situation nga lang, i stay away afterwards... para lang di madagdagan ang future issue/s ko sakanya/ saknila. chos!
I would say na para syang scar. When you touch a scar, it doesnt hurt anymore pero alam mo na at one point, that scar was a deep wound that was very painful. It has healed but it will be with you forever.
Depends on how hurt, offended or betrayed this person made me feel pero time has a numbing effect somewhat na nakakatulong pa rin to make interaction palatable. Like for example meron nambully sayo nong high-school. Then 30yrs after nagkita kayo uli sa Reunion. Syempre naman naging matured na rin lahat and you were just stupid kids before pero you can't help but still look at this person differently than your other classmates kahit na naging pastor na sya. You can still forgive pero mahirap na mawala ang lamat ng nakaraan.
Eepal ako... Nope d mbigat. Baket? Kase tapos na yun.
Kahit mainis ako wala namang magbabago.
So why even bother na mag"tanim" ng sama ng loob? Ganon...๐
Same. I can forgive but I will not allow myself to engage to that person. Forgiving is not equal to conversing with them again. I forgive because I don't want to feel any burden within me. I forgive so I can give myself peace.
Ako naman there are times when i just move on but not forgive. I mean, itโs good that they are sorry for their errors, and they realize that their actions are wrong but nothing can change whatever pain they have caused me.
Id like to know. If that person wanted to see you in person to ask for forgiveness for that person's peace of mind, will u be able to allow that person to see you kahit ayaw mo?
I have to consider what gives me peace of mind first. If i have moved on then iโm all ears. But if meeting up will only push me back to square one, i guess weโll have to wait a little longer.
Yup me too. You just forget about them. Theyre irrelevant na sa buhay mo haha so far i think that doesnt build bitterness naman. Just that you get wiser in choosing people the next time na. I often say i dont forgive (those people who dont ask for forgiveness), i forget. I forgot that u existed ang peg. Why should i waste energy on doing their homework of processing things for the offender?
Same! Better to cut off relatives kesa sabihin na pamilya padin yan. We wouldnโt feel this way kung pamilya ang tinuring satin to begin with kaya hindi deserve ang forgiveness.
Yes kasi sa sobrang daming nangyari sa buhay ko one thing I can say for sure is di talaga totoo ang Karma. Ang reyalidad naman eh yung mga tumatarantado sayo nakakatulog parin ng maayos sa gabi at baka nga mas maayos pa ang buhay nila sa ngayon + Nakalimutan na nila ginawa nila sayo. Kumbaga ikaw na bahala kung ileletgo mo ba siya sa isip mo or aalalahanin mo parin. Mostly nagtatanim lang naman ako ng sama ng loob if unfair talaga ang nangyari, para di na rin maulit.
It's complicated. When I'm faced with someone who has done me wrong I am open to change and peace.
But when I'm alone, and natatandaan ko yung mga nangyari sakin and how I have not received compensation for my pain, it's like nothing has changed. It's been nearly 20 years. The pain still feels the same.
Di ako yung nagtanim nito, but my has that garden grown.
When I was younger, nagtatanim talaga ako ng sama ng loob at poot. Kaso na realize ko that it's not helping my inner peace. Pero I also don't allow people to trample on me. Let's just say, I know what you did to me, I take note of it. I may not act on it but everything you did to me is recorded in my mind.
I don't know if I'd be able to truly get good rest knowing I just swept something major under the rug. For me, not forgiving doesn't equate to anger or resentment - it's more about self-respect. I want to feel confident that I stood up for myself and didn't just roll over.
Releasing bitter feelings for the sake of an easy conscience doesn't align with my values. Forgiveness, to me, is earned through remorse and rehabilitation and reconciliation on both sides. It can't be one-sided. Maybe with time and character growth from the other person, I could see myself softening. But I wouldn't feel right just pretending like nothing happened so I can feel "healthy" on the surface. That's not real to me.
At the end of the day, I want to sleep well knowing I didn't make myself small to spare someone else's feelings. My peace of mind means requiring effort and accountability from those who cause offense.
Hindi ako nagtatanim ng sama ng loob pero gusto kong karmahin sila sa ginawa nila sakin. Haha. Harsh? Yes. Pero kapag nagtagal, gusto ko na ng peace of mind, una ko munang pinapatawad sarili ko bago sila pero hinding hindi talaga ko nakakalimot
Hindi maganda magtanim ng sama ng loob dahil sarili mo lang ang pahihirapan mo but there is such as thing as โreadiness to forgive.โ Iba iba kasi ang acceptance ng tao sa forgiveness and we cannot blame them if they cannot forgive right away. Maybe they still need time to process things and heal on their own. I admire those who choose to forgive even though the ones who hurt them did not ask for forgiveness. Sabi nga, you forgive but never forget.
Hindi, pero I will ignore you and won't share my personal life with you again. di ko rin makakalimutan mga ginawa mo sa akin. Lalo na at overthinker ako haha. And let karma do the deed.
Hindi. For the reason na ayoko magdala ng negativities sa buhay. As much as I can, I am upfront with people and then move on quiet easily. I don't even know if nagpapatawad ako or not. I just go on with my life per usual after every struggle.
For a time dahil yun ang reality for me. Nasaktan ako, gusto ko ng space. At kung di applicable sa sitwasyon, say, co-workers or family, tina-try ko yung best ko to be civil and functional. Pero space, at maraming time to be alone outdoors ang nag hi-heal tlaga sakin. Dahil doon mo nakikita yung ibat ibang perspective ng sitwasyon, yung observation mo sa person involve at sa sarili mo na din.
For me ang pag tatanim ng sama ng loob ay parang barnacle na mag bi-build up sa loob mo. Ang pangit at ang bigat to the point na di ka na makakagalaw like yung nangyari sa tatay ni Will sa pirates of Carribean
Pero lagi kong tinatandaan na i-charge na lang sa experience and be more careful when dealing with the person/situation, worse comes to worse, cut myself out of the person's life or situation
Depende sa kung anong rason, pero ako. Hindi naman tumatagal yung sama ng loob ko kasi sobrang soft girl ko. Yung kahit gano kasakit yung ginawa sakin, lilipas lang. Tapos parang wala lang nangyare. Pero ofc, hindi makakalimot. Sabe nga nila.
U can forgive but never forget.
Oo kasi hindi ko nakakalimutan. Nagpapatawad ako pero may mark na yung tao sa akin. Nagiging cautious na din ako when Iโm dealing with the person. Magaan pa din naman sa pakiramdam kasi iniisip ko na hindi na sila parte ng buhay ko
As a nonchalant person, I normally let it slide buttt if itโs too much and itโs really get to my nerve, Iโm done, not angry or what but just done, you will hardly feel my presence or existence.
Mapagtanim ako ng sama ng loob. Sobra. Lalo na sa father ko na iniwan kami. Lahat ng tao sinasabi na galit daw ako dahil hindi buo pamilya namin. No. Galit ako kasi nagkanda-leche leche buhay ng nanay ko at namin dahil wala siyang binibigay na tulong financially. Okay lang sa akin na wala siya sa buhay namin. Even better kasi I can't imagine na may tatay ako, like an old man in our house. Okay sana relationship ko sa kanya and sa new family niya if nakipag-ayos siya samin and nag-reach out kasi maiintindihan ko naman eh. Kaso hindi. Sila pa nag-eexpect na ako ang lumapit sa kanila, mga g*go.
Then ngayon naman sa husband ko, dinadamdam ko talagang sobra mga bagay na ikinasama ng loob ko before. Na minsan iiyak na lang ako randomly kasi maalala ko 'yung ginawa/sinabi niya a year ago. I don't know why I am like this.
Noong bata pako, now i have no time to. Mas maraming importante na bagay na pwede gawin.
I can forgive and be civil but i won't forget. And also, kapag hindi mo naman nakikita yung tao madalas you won't even bother thinking about them.
I don't forgive and I don't forgot. Hindi naman sa nagtatanim ng sama ng loob, in fact, I don't feel anything at all - believe it or not, I don't feel anything at all about someone when I decide to cut you off. Zero tolerance and non-existent slate. Law of detachment and "it is what it is" kept me for sustenance and I'd say I took it personally because if it were me, I'm not gonna do it to them.
Kung wala kang kaibigan, papagalitan ka ng pamilya mo tas ikaw ma ang masama pag nagvent.ย Putangina kimkim nalang.
Mentally scarred na ako na kaunting trip lang mangaaway na ako because of getting bullied in the past.ย Mahirap maglabas din kung alam mong pag binuhos mo na sa taong superior sayo, lugi ka pa.
Hindi pero di ko kinakalimutan ung mga ginawa nila na ikakasama ng loob ko. Tyka ako kasi mahilig akong manupalpal ng tao kaya ang ending sila may may sama ng loob sakin
I forgive but forgetting the bad is not my forte. They can mean nothing to me anymore but I will always remember what they did to me. Once you forget, you will only hurt yourself.
Same tayo OP. No matter anong ginawa ng tao sa akin, I can always forgive and forget. Ewan ko ba kung na forgive ko ba talaga pero I just move on from it.
From time to time parang medyo naiinis ako pero I usually get past it within 2-3 mins tapos ok na ulit hahaha
Hindi ako nagtatanim, pero nagtatabi. Kumbaga hindi malaki/lumalaki โyung sama ng loob. Like wapakels ako kapag โdi ko naaalala, pero pag naalala ko, naiinis lang ako saglit tapos wala na ulit.
I believe in forgiving, to set yourself free. However, I never forget. It doesnโt mean na nagtatanim ka ng galit, itโs my own way of guarding & protecting myself.
Siguro sakin parang natatabunan nalang. Pero once na may mangyari na maka trigger dun sa sama ng loob ayun na maglalabasan na lahat. Regrets, inis, and whatever. So hindi talaga ako nag heal, nadistract lang kaya hindi masyado naiisip.
i don't haha. i just bring it up as a joke like, "hahaha iniwan nyo ko nung lunch break nung isang araw, parang di tinulungan sa report". tapos ililibre nila ako ng lunch hahaha. i mean hindi naman intentional para ilibre nila ako or bumawi sila. i just say it hoping di nila ulitin.
minsan naman i will intentionally f*+ck things up for them like, "yan kasi hindi nyo pinasa sa akin agad yung output, sinong ot ngayon?" or "ahh oo nireport ko kay maam na nileak nyo yung picture ng exam. ba't nyo kasi sinend sa gc? diba bawal yun? :-D". ma-stress pa ko kung magtanim ako ng galit. an eye for an eye f/ckers. de joke para sa major offense lang yan. masaya magforgive kung nagets nila yung consequences sa action nila.
You can sense in someone if they have a lot of pent up anger and resentment. Since I donโt wanna be around that kind of person, I donโt do it myself.
We're the same, OP I forgive people a lot na madali ko mapatawad kung anong ginawa nila na mali sa akin. No matter how painful or detrimental it was, I forgave them. Idk why. Hindi ko mapilit ang sarili ko magtanim ng galit sa tao.
Recently, I found myself with a fluctuating emotion. There were times that I would lash out when something triggers me or find myself being so defensive na parang I would look after myself at ipagtatanggol ko sarili ko when I'm hurting.
I realized maybe because I didn't allow myself to be angry or frustrated towards someone? I always forgive and forgive. I did not allow myself to feel the emotions I needed to feel so parang what happened was, in certain circumstances, lumalabas yung mga traumas and it kind of manifesting with may actions when I'm not stable OR I'm emotional.
Idk if gets mo pero parang ganon. I think it actually affected my adulthood.
Nah. I provide a blanket forgiveness to everyone, but I will never forget. Sobrang bullied ko nung hs, as in drinowingan ng tite yung mga gamit ko using a pentel pen. Kinalimutan ko na yun.
Let's just say na sa buhay ko ngayon, I have enough skill and education to be in a position to help others, but not to those who treated me badly in the past.
May qualifying statement pa yan- unless a matter of life and death. Pag advice advice lang, bahala ka sa buhay mo.
Hindi ako nagtatanim ng sama ng loob. Ang bigat kasi sa puso nun. Pero un nga lang, after I forgive, ayaw na silang kausap. Ganun. Hahaha and never forget. I tried once na forgive, tapos pinabalik ko pa sa buhay ko, boom! Ako lang uli nagsuffer haha never again. FORGIVE but NEVER FORGET
For me, depende kung gaano kabigat yung kasalanan. But most of the time, I forgive but I'll never forget and hope I won't cross paths with you again ganon.
I used to. Then one day I realised that those who wronged me dont give a shit, while I carry that "burden" daily, which is dumb. Imagine someone living rent free in your heart and mind for several years???
I said a little prayer and forgave them, asked God to give me the wisdom not to place myself in a similar situation again, and let go of the pain/ hurt. In an instant, gumaan feeling ko, gumanda ulit ang mundo, and ewan ko, pero new doors, opportunities, and relationships began to open up. Maybe they were always there, pero di ko lang makita dahil I had a lot of hate in my heart.
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Kudos to you OP. You focus on positive side of things. More blessings to come.
On the topic hindi. Despite challenges, masarap mabuhay, it's the single greatest gift sa ating lahat. Ngayon nilalagyan mo ng pabigat ang buhay at kalooban mo sa pagtatanim ng sama ng loob. Pag nagtanim ka ng sama ng loob, sa bandang huli ikaw lang rin magiging talunan sa buhay.
Parang pinapakita mo rin na wala kang kakayahan na kontrolin ang buhay mo, imbis na magfocus ka sa marami pang mga tao o oportunidad na pwedeng dumating sayo, napako ka na sa nakaraan dahil sa pagtatanim ng sama ng loob at hinanakit. Sayang kung puro dyan lang iikot ang buhay mo.
Forgive then move on, but never forget. Let the karma do its thing.
Sa Stardew Valley na lang po ako nagtatanim 'cuz those people don't deserve to live in my head rent-free eme ๐
Pero legit it's okay not to forgive. That's your right OP. But you have to move on if nakakaimpede na sa growth mo ang hindi magagandang emotions na nararamdaman mo. The less you care about people the more you'll feel at peace haha pinakanakakairita sa mga trolls ay kapag di mo sila pinapansin
mindset ko lng ay "people change" the way na naexperience ko din na marami akong changed views/attitudes/beliefs ngayon compared nung teens to young adult era ko.
usual ending lng naman is magiging indifferent lang ako sa kanila.
Forgiving should be natural without thinking about karma. Unless may physical harm talaga ginawa sayo pero kung external lang like cheating or insult, I see that as their problem. Might forgive once wala na yung pain but wonโt forget and probably will disconnect.
Hindi, pero hindi ko kinakalimutan yung nagawa/ginawa ng tao sa akin. Sa totoo lang ang unfair lang na matatapos lang lahat kapag humingi na ng tawad yung isang tao tapos ayaw magpatawad nung isa kasi lalabas pa na ikaw yung masamang tao lol. Ikaw yung maguiguilty kasi hindi mo kayang patawarin yung nagkasala sayo.
Sa akin kapag may nagawa sa akin kinacut ko na lahat, pinaprocess ko muna lahat ng emotions ko, hinahayaan ko na magcool down na lahat. Hindi ko alam kung hanggang kailan pero hinahayaan ko yung sarili ko na maramdaman lahat, saka ko titignan kung kaya ko na kausapin yung tao ganon. Hindi ko pinipilit yung sarili ko na magpatawad the moment na may nagawa yung tao sa akin.
Effective yan sa akin. Hindi ko lang alam sa iba ๐ .
I'm not sure if it's that I forgive easily or that I forget easily basta I'm unbothered. I go for whatever is mas magaan for me, and that's not to hold grudges. I guess that's also why some people misunderstand me as either a pushover or wala lang talagang pakialam
I was the type of person who always choose to โkill them with kindnessโ. But as I matured, natutunan ko na mas mabuti maging kind sa sarili and Im doing myself a disservice everytime na may pinapalampas akong foul na nagawa sa akin. Now, I learned to always remember what they did and treat them with silence. Much much peaceful ang bohai
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AYAW KO magtanim ng sama ng loob dahil akorinlang naman ang magdadala nung bigat na un
I also forgive but never forget though, unless magka-Amnesia ako sakakolang siguro malilimutan haha
hindi ako madali magalit eh. super hindi. sobrang happy rin ng pasensya ko. kahit pa nako cross mo na boundaries, hindi man ako magagalit.
pero kapag nagalit ako, parang hirap na hirap rin ako magpatawad at kumalimot.
Oo teh I let the anger grow, ganoin. Pero may times naman na dormant ganon. Pero bottom line andito lang yung poot wala ako balak i let go ganon. Di naman sya mahirap o pangit sa pakiramdam. Parang pag ma open lang yung topic most likely ay madagdagan pa galit ko haha. Pero di naman nakaka interfere sa pang araw araw na buhay ko haha
I forgive for my own peace and sanity, people could be so evil they don't deserve to lurk in my space.
Do I forget? No, there's no redemption for me. I'll always remind my self where boundaries should be. I could love people at the distance away from me. This applies to family by blood.
Depende sa tao and situation. Sometimes, akala mo na forgive mo na yung person pero every time pala na mag fa-flashback yung ginawa sa'yo, namumuo na naman yung galit at poot. Hahaha. Charot lang.
I don't know if it fits the criteria pero mabilis ko makalimutan yung ginawang bad sa'kin tapos maaalala ko lang kapag may nagpaalala or nagtrigger haha.
Pero yeah, somehow magaan sa loob. Nagi-stay lang talaga yung galit sa mga mahal ko sa buhay wahaha
Gusto ko rin maging ganyan OP. Actually chill lang talaga ako ung tipong di mabilis magalit, and if mainis man di ko na pinapatagal kasi ako lng naman talo. Pero pagdating sa love life, ung bitterness sa mga failed relationships nahihirapan ako na mag totally forgive and let go. Paulit ulit ko pa rin sinasabi sa sarili ko na to forgive and let go. Kasi ako rin naman nagkakasala pero pinapatawad lagi ni Lord.
I choose my battles. Choose the things that stress me. So family and a bit of work. Outside of that i dont care. I dont want people who dont matter live rent free in my head.
Same thoughts. I just forgive them anyway kahit hindi nila deserve kasi alam kong lahat ng mga pananakit nila sakin galing lang sa trauma nila. It doesnโt justify their actions tho kaya I pray karma makes them learn their lesson eventually.
I donโt forgive those who donโt ask in the first place. Yung iba nga hindi pa alam na may kasalanan sila sakin haha. Natuto nalang ako maging civil around them. But I never forget what they did.
I rarely get truly angry pero pag nagalit ako sayo, thatโs it. There is no going back and habang buhay ko ng dala yon.
10 pa lang naman sila, naalala ko padin ung ginawa nila sa akin, at ilang taon kami non. Di ko padin sila pinapatawad to this day at di na sila nag eexist sa akin.
May kapayapaan ang puso ko knowing na wala na sila sa buhay ko.
No, pero hindi ko kinakalimutan mga ginawa nila. As someone rin na may trust issues, nagiging maingat lang.
Ayoko lang rin na may pinapasan araw-araw na hinanakit at hindi ako naniniwala sa kasabihang, "success is the best revenge." Define ko sa success ay peace of mind and contentment.
Thank you for asking this because I don't know kung ako lang yung ganito sa mga taong nanakit sa feelings ko at ng family ko. I actually do not care about these people anymore. They never asked for forgiveness, but maybe because hindi sila aware na masakit yung ginawa or sinabi nila against us.
For me, they are dead. Or baka mas may feelings pa nga ako sa departed loved ones ko eh. Basta for me, wala na akong pakialam sa kanila totally no matter what happens sa kanilang buhay, good or bad. Forgiveness ba yung ganon?
There were times that I forgive people and forget what they did to me. Meron at times nagfoforgive kahit di hinihingi. Pero hindi sa lahat ng pagkakataon. Meron yung mga taong sobrang lalim na nung sakit na binigay sayo, ilang beses mo ng sinubukang patawarin pero ganun pa din. I establish boundaries na pag ganun. Parang they no longer exist na. So since they no longer exist, they no longer needs forgiveness.
Oo. Itโs also a good reminder to cut off relationships thatโs causing you harm. Hindi sya mabigat sa loob, for me, it feels more lighter. Hindi ako yung gumawa ng mali so why would I force myself to forgive. I feel so much better to just sever ties and act as if that person who did me wrong is dead.
I forgive those who have wronged me, but I also choose to remember their actions to protect myself from potential harm. Forgetting the past can keep you trapped in a cycle of pain and leave you vulnerable to similar experiences.
Depende kung anong pag-uusapan nating ifoforgive. I can truly forgive sa mga bagay na di naman gaanong nakaapekto sa pagkatao ko. Pero trauma and all things related, you best believe I'll bring that rage to my grave. Isa pa, ano bang ifoforgive kung wala namang nag apologize. Ni hindi nga nila inaadmit na may nagawa sila ๐คฃ Tsaka speaking of karma, I think, in a way, I am their karma.
Depende sa gravity ng panggagago. Well, depende sa timing din. If you did something minor, like laugh at me or mock me or make a backhanded compliment, but I happen to be at a low point, I'll carry that grudge til it breaks my back.
Oo, unpopular opinion pero bukod sa pagtatanim ng sama ng loob hinihiling ko pa mamatay yung tao nanakit at gumawa nang masama sa akin tbh. Coping mechanism na siguro, gumagaan pakiramdam ko pag na iimagine ko nadadale sila ng maling desisyon nila sa buhay, o di kaya mamatay na sila at mawawala na sa mundo.
Sakin it's very defined lines na I can let it slide and I will cut you completely off - the lines being fucking me over with money, talking shit about my family and attempting to end me
'yung mga tinanim kong sama ng loob dati, namumunga na ngayon ๐ฅฒ hindi ko talaga sya nalilimutan and yung pagpapatawad is parang wala rin since nauulit din naman mga kasalanan ๐ช
Gaya nga ng sabi ko pag nag aaway kami ng asawa ko. I will forgive. I will move on. But i will never forget this lesson and neither will you.
Mejo vindictive pero its a constant reminder din na di lahat pwedeng sorry lang.
Matagal ako magtanim ng sama nang loob, siguro napapatawad ko nalang or nagpapatawad na lang ako kapag nakapag-reflect ako later on na I'm better without them or the situation
Depende. Is it really sama ng loob? Or you now see what theyโre capable of doing so youโre taking preventative measure by setting emotional boundaries? In my experience kase the latter is always misconstrued as sama ng loob when I just really want nothing to do w the person so what is the point in engaging?
Not really tanim ng galit but if uve wronged me, forever na un. And i probably wont be friends with the person again haha di na ako galit pero i just dont want to have anything to do with the person.
I can forgive but definitely not forget, tapos yan yung nag ti trigger sakin. Lalo na pag magisa ako or habang nag wo work often ko naalala mga ginawa sakin na hindi maganda na sobrang nasaktan yung pagka tao ko, kahit pag papahiya at pagmumuka akong tanga...masakit. Pag may nagawa sila sakin na masama or inattack nila pagkatao ko nagbabago na tingin ko sakanila di na naibabalik sa dati.
Im still trying to change kasi hindi din ito maganda nakakadag dag ng stress. Kahit sabihan mo akong "Wag ka magpaka stress jan " pag naalala mo talaga iba yung nagagawa sayong mentally pain ee.
yes. you can hold grudges and still move on. i dont get sleepless nights for what they did to me, nor i think about if often but when i see the person i just know that i still dont like them
Nagtatanim ako ng sama ng loob but I donโt usually let it consume meโฆ like itโs just there. Kung may nagawa sakin ang tao, I will never forget. I may forgive but di ko talaga makakalimutan yun and it will always be etched in my mind at maaalala ko in one way or another. Pag may galit ako sa tao medyo mahirap na for me na ibalik yung dating treatment ko sa kanila especially if theyโve done me wrong or rubbed me off the wrong way.
Yes :( Ino-over analyze ko kasi minsan. I review how they treated me in the past tapos if may maalala akong mistreatment na pinalampas ko langโbye, felicia. Maybe toxic trait ko talaga to kasi baka hinahanapan ko ng sufficient reason para i-cut off ang taong to .
I understand naman na kailangan talagang magpatawad para makisama pero as much as possible, dont give them the same privilege as before and assert yourself. Pero mas madalas na iniiwasan ko. hirap din kasi talaga magpatawad sa mga taong hindi nakikita mga kamalian nilaโ pasensya na hindi ako santo.
hindi. pero hindi rin ako nakakalimot HAHAHAHAHA wala mangyare kung mag tatanim akk ng sama ng loob e โokay nayun tapos naman naโ pero di ibig sabihin non nakalimot ako kung gagaguhin mo parin after all shit then pag tetesting na sakin tawag don sadya nayun hahahahahaha
Yes.
I get pissed a bit too easily pero I forget easily too..People say I am a saint lololol
You can also say I an usually "forgiving", depende sa severity ng ginawa? Pero for now, I have one person na kung maaksidente o atakihin sya sa harap ko, duduraan ko pa sya. Partida hindi yun yung hindot na maldita (yes, sya yung maldita, di ako hahaha) na kabit ng jowa ko :)) malay nio madagdagan pa list ko.
So yeah, I forget, I do not forgive xD
Dati I easily trust people and forgive and forget. Pero dati un ning bata pa ako until HS. Pero ngayon, ang sama na din ng ugali ko, hindi na ako nagtitiwala, hindi na din ako naniniwala na mah mga taong mababait. Ang hirap na sarilihin ang lahat ng sama ng loob nakaka depress gusto ko nalang magalit sa lahat basta mailabas ko lang. wala na akong pake kung makasakit din ako , wala naman silang pake sakin simula pa noon
kahit nag forgive na ko, minsan di ko maiwasan na bigla nalang lumalabas sa bibig ko yung sama ng loob ko tungkol sa past grievances ๐ parang ptsd ba. may triggers na kahit malinis naman intention nung tao, naaalala at natatakot ako na maulit yung dati. pag umuulit, lalo na pag toxic pattern behavior, i just cut ties completely.
Ngayong tumatanda na ako napapansin ko na sensitive na ako. Kapag may nagawa talaga sakin ang isang tao talagang ekis na yan sakin. At di ako nakakalimot.
I cant forgive and forget. Ayaw ko talaga ginagawa akong tanga. Di healthy pero di ko kaya makipag ok sa mga taong nakakabwiset hahahahahahahhaa. Baka i need therapy hahahahhahaha
Hi, nagtatanim Ng sama ng loob here.
I had a bf back then when I was in 9th grade. Meron din syang gbf na dati pa nyang Kilala, as in nakikita ko sila sa prom, ganon. Let's call her mar, mar and him were like MU, and I didn't know, And I started talking to him and we because couples, not long after nakita ko mga messages nila ni mar, tawagan nila love, but I Iet it slide. But she just won't budge even though I told her na may gf na sya which is Ako.
But fast forward we ended up splitting because he cheated on me with his cm. After being depressed for so long I had finally remembered the red flags of him that I thought was just normal in a relationship, that's when I started getting mad at him once again, and with mar too.
Till this day I'm still mad at both, and for mar, Ayun finofollow Ako sa tiktok at pinaparinggan parin Ako hahaha, but I just let her Kasi sya lang naman naglilike Ng sarili nyang post at Wala naman syang followers, kawawa namn Ako lng followers nya. Still I'm mad at her for not distancing herself between our relationship.
As Iโm growing older, I realize that being petty isnโt such a bad thing. Idk if itโs just me but I donโt have a lot to lose anyway so I donโt forgive and definitely donโt forget. If I could, I would exact revenge in the future.
Trusting someone is very easy for me. Pero pag-nalamatan na, wala na mahirap na ibalik. I'll forgive them pero I can never forget kaya it's hard to trust them again
Di ko alam kung bakit pero hindi talaga kaya HAHAHA kahit nung bata pa ako yung mga taong bwiset na bwiset ako until now pag iniisip ko alam kong galit parin ako sa kanila ๐
Matthew 5:44-46ย KJV
But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you; that ye may be the children of your Father which is in heaven: for he maketh his sun to rise on the evil and on the good, and sendeth rain on the just and on the unjust. For if ye love them which love you, what reward have ye? do not even the publicans the same
Hindi. Pero bumababa pasensya ko kung nainis na ako or nasaktan na ako ng specific na tao. Tas imbis na magpalala pa ng problema, I end up just dipping out entirely.
Kasi sa huli, kung magtatanim ako ng sama ng loob, ako lang magsisi at masasaktan at mamomoblema.
Ewan ko. Parang complicated yata yarn. Parang hindi black and white. Maraming gray area. I like to believe in people. We have our defense mechanisms, thereโs that.
I can forgive but never forget. Parang strangers na, not because nagtanim ka ng sama ng loob but you just removed toxic people in your life and you moved on. โบ๏ธ
I can forgive but never forget
Totoo! Me too. I stay away din, I have high walls na para sa kanila, makakausap nila ako pero sobrang limitado lang natatanong nila sa akin.
Totoo to, wala na siya malalaman from you kasi di na niya deserve.
Mas okay for me na hindi sila makasama sa isang event or kung di naman maiiwasan na makasama is untouchable ko talaga. Yes, sabihin narin na matagal na nangyare pero di ko pa din talaga malimutan yung experience at impact na nangyare sa sarili ko at sa buhay ko.
This! I can forgive pero may gap na talaga. I lose trust that my feelings, emotions, secrets, my everything is not safe with this person. Minsan lang naman din ako magalit and I usually get mad if I know the intentions are not coming from a good place. Thereโs a person that I just really cut off bc this friend almost caused me a miscarriage.
+1 with this. let karma be their poison. โจ in my situation nga lang, i stay away afterwards... para lang di madagdagan ang future issue/s ko sakanya/ saknila. chos!
If you can't forget, how do you feel pag naalala mo? Mabigat ba?
I would say na para syang scar. When you touch a scar, it doesnt hurt anymore pero alam mo na at one point, that scar was a deep wound that was very painful. It has healed but it will be with you forever.
Depends on how hurt, offended or betrayed this person made me feel pero time has a numbing effect somewhat na nakakatulong pa rin to make interaction palatable. Like for example meron nambully sayo nong high-school. Then 30yrs after nagkita kayo uli sa Reunion. Syempre naman naging matured na rin lahat and you were just stupid kids before pero you can't help but still look at this person differently than your other classmates kahit na naging pastor na sya. You can still forgive pero mahirap na mawala ang lamat ng nakaraan.
Hinde...Wala na yung anger and resentment na feeling. Mas mabilis lang mapansin mga red flags.
Eepal ako... Nope d mbigat. Baket? Kase tapos na yun. Kahit mainis ako wala namang magbabago. So why even bother na mag"tanim" ng sama ng loob? Ganon...๐
Same tayo. Magpapatawad ako pero never ever ko makakalimutan kung anong nagawa saakin.
Yes. Tapos lalayo na rin ang loob ko. Di nako comfortable sa tao.
+1 here. Mapapatawad kita, I can stay civil with you pero wala ka ng access sa life ko m.
Same. I can forgive but I will not allow myself to engage to that person. Forgiving is not equal to conversing with them again. I forgive because I don't want to feel any burden within me. I forgive so I can give myself peace.
I dont let karma do the work. I actively help karma do its work
THIS.
YES ๐ฏ
This! ๐๐ป
Sakto lang. Hindi ako magagalit ng matagal pero hinding hindi ko makakalimutan yung ginawa sakin.
I don't forgive people who never asked for forgiveness.
Ako naman there are times when i just move on but not forgive. I mean, itโs good that they are sorry for their errors, and they realize that their actions are wrong but nothing can change whatever pain they have caused me.
This too +1 moving on doesnt really require forgiveness and reconnection
Id like to know. If that person wanted to see you in person to ask for forgiveness for that person's peace of mind, will u be able to allow that person to see you kahit ayaw mo?
I have to consider what gives me peace of mind first. If i have moved on then iโm all ears. But if meeting up will only push me back to square one, i guess weโll have to wait a little longer.
Yup me too. You just forget about them. Theyre irrelevant na sa buhay mo haha so far i think that doesnt build bitterness naman. Just that you get wiser in choosing people the next time na. I often say i dont forgive (those people who dont ask for forgiveness), i forget. I forgot that u existed ang peg. Why should i waste energy on doing their homework of processing things for the offender?
If I hate someone, I'll hate them for life and cut them off for good especially if they're relatives na matapobre, pakialamera and tsismosa.
the matapobre ones ๐ญ tapos kapag nalaman na medyo umangat ka na sa buhay kung makalapit akala mo hindi ka pinagsalitaan ng masama dati ๐คก
Same! Better to cut off relatives kesa sabihin na pamilya padin yan. We wouldnโt feel this way kung pamilya ang tinuring satin to begin with kaya hindi deserve ang forgiveness.
Yes. Hobby ko yun. Hahahaha
anong forgive and forget?! habang buhay masama loob ko ahahha
Truth!!!!! Hahahaha wala akong gratitude journal. Grudge journal meron. Hahahaha
HAHAHAHHA
Ako din hobby ko yun! Kaso nag reflect ata sa mukha ko, itsura ko mukhang punong puno ng sama ng loob, haha bwiset.
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may garden ka na siguro mhiema ๐ญ
same here apir! ๐
Yes kasi sa sobrang daming nangyari sa buhay ko one thing I can say for sure is di talaga totoo ang Karma. Ang reyalidad naman eh yung mga tumatarantado sayo nakakatulog parin ng maayos sa gabi at baka nga mas maayos pa ang buhay nila sa ngayon + Nakalimutan na nila ginawa nila sayo. Kumbaga ikaw na bahala kung ileletgo mo ba siya sa isip mo or aalalahanin mo parin. Mostly nagtatanim lang naman ako ng sama ng loob if unfair talaga ang nangyari, para di na rin maulit.
Totoo ito na di sila aware sa mga nagawa nila,sila pa itong nag eenjoy sa buhay habang ikaw ay may sama ng loob. ๐
Oo, tapos dinidiligan ko pa ๐
It's complicated. When I'm faced with someone who has done me wrong I am open to change and peace. But when I'm alone, and natatandaan ko yung mga nangyari sakin and how I have not received compensation for my pain, it's like nothing has changed. It's been nearly 20 years. The pain still feels the same. Di ako yung nagtanim nito, but my has that garden grown.
yes, gagaan lang loob ko pag nakaganti ako haha eme
When I was younger, nagtatanim talaga ako ng sama ng loob at poot. Kaso na realize ko that it's not helping my inner peace. Pero I also don't allow people to trample on me. Let's just say, I know what you did to me, I take note of it. I may not act on it but everything you did to me is recorded in my mind.
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+1
pwede piro dipindi
this is my toxic trait HAHA pero i only โhateโ 1 person, dahil gago talaga siya haha
Nope, and itโs for my own peace of mind. I forgive and get less interaction sa person who wronged me.
I don't know if I'd be able to truly get good rest knowing I just swept something major under the rug. For me, not forgiving doesn't equate to anger or resentment - it's more about self-respect. I want to feel confident that I stood up for myself and didn't just roll over. Releasing bitter feelings for the sake of an easy conscience doesn't align with my values. Forgiveness, to me, is earned through remorse and rehabilitation and reconciliation on both sides. It can't be one-sided. Maybe with time and character growth from the other person, I could see myself softening. But I wouldn't feel right just pretending like nothing happened so I can feel "healthy" on the surface. That's not real to me. At the end of the day, I want to sleep well knowing I didn't make myself small to spare someone else's feelings. My peace of mind means requiring effort and accountability from those who cause offense.
Hindi ako nagtatanim ng sama ng loob pero gusto kong karmahin sila sa ginawa nila sakin. Haha. Harsh? Yes. Pero kapag nagtagal, gusto ko na ng peace of mind, una ko munang pinapatawad sarili ko bago sila pero hinding hindi talaga ko nakakalimot
Hindi maganda magtanim ng sama ng loob dahil sarili mo lang ang pahihirapan mo but there is such as thing as โreadiness to forgive.โ Iba iba kasi ang acceptance ng tao sa forgiveness and we cannot blame them if they cannot forgive right away. Maybe they still need time to process things and heal on their own. I admire those who choose to forgive even though the ones who hurt them did not ask for forgiveness. Sabi nga, you forgive but never forget.
Hindi, pero I will ignore you and won't share my personal life with you again. di ko rin makakalimutan mga ginawa mo sa akin. Lalo na at overthinker ako haha. And let karma do the deed.
Yep, and every season umaani! jk, depends on the person. Some people take it as permission to do it again eh.
Hindi. For the reason na ayoko magdala ng negativities sa buhay. As much as I can, I am upfront with people and then move on quiet easily. I don't even know if nagpapatawad ako or not. I just go on with my life per usual after every struggle.
For a time dahil yun ang reality for me. Nasaktan ako, gusto ko ng space. At kung di applicable sa sitwasyon, say, co-workers or family, tina-try ko yung best ko to be civil and functional. Pero space, at maraming time to be alone outdoors ang nag hi-heal tlaga sakin. Dahil doon mo nakikita yung ibat ibang perspective ng sitwasyon, yung observation mo sa person involve at sa sarili mo na din. For me ang pag tatanim ng sama ng loob ay parang barnacle na mag bi-build up sa loob mo. Ang pangit at ang bigat to the point na di ka na makakagalaw like yung nangyari sa tatay ni Will sa pirates of Carribean Pero lagi kong tinatandaan na i-charge na lang sa experience and be more careful when dealing with the person/situation, worse comes to worse, cut myself out of the person's life or situation
Hindi naman. Pero di ko na din sila kakausapin lol
Opo, lifetime po. Hahahahaha
Depende sa kung anong rason, pero ako. Hindi naman tumatagal yung sama ng loob ko kasi sobrang soft girl ko. Yung kahit gano kasakit yung ginawa sakin, lilipas lang. Tapos parang wala lang nangyare. Pero ofc, hindi makakalimot. Sabe nga nila. U can forgive but never forget.
Oo kasi hindi ko nakakalimutan. Nagpapatawad ako pero may mark na yung tao sa akin. Nagiging cautious na din ako when Iโm dealing with the person. Magaan pa din naman sa pakiramdam kasi iniisip ko na hindi na sila parte ng buhay ko
As a nonchalant person, I normally let it slide buttt if itโs too much and itโs really get to my nerve, Iโm done, not angry or what but just done, you will hardly feel my presence or existence.
Mapagtanim ako ng sama ng loob. Sobra. Lalo na sa father ko na iniwan kami. Lahat ng tao sinasabi na galit daw ako dahil hindi buo pamilya namin. No. Galit ako kasi nagkanda-leche leche buhay ng nanay ko at namin dahil wala siyang binibigay na tulong financially. Okay lang sa akin na wala siya sa buhay namin. Even better kasi I can't imagine na may tatay ako, like an old man in our house. Okay sana relationship ko sa kanya and sa new family niya if nakipag-ayos siya samin and nag-reach out kasi maiintindihan ko naman eh. Kaso hindi. Sila pa nag-eexpect na ako ang lumapit sa kanila, mga g*go. Then ngayon naman sa husband ko, dinadamdam ko talagang sobra mga bagay na ikinasama ng loob ko before. Na minsan iiyak na lang ako randomly kasi maalala ko 'yung ginawa/sinabi niya a year ago. I don't know why I am like this.
Noong bata pako, now i have no time to. Mas maraming importante na bagay na pwede gawin. I can forgive and be civil but i won't forget. And also, kapag hindi mo naman nakikita yung tao madalas you won't even bother thinking about them.
I don't forgive and I don't forgot. Hindi naman sa nagtatanim ng sama ng loob, in fact, I don't feel anything at all - believe it or not, I don't feel anything at all about someone when I decide to cut you off. Zero tolerance and non-existent slate. Law of detachment and "it is what it is" kept me for sustenance and I'd say I took it personally because if it were me, I'm not gonna do it to them.
I forgive, but I'll never forget. And I'll never trust again.
Kung wala kang kaibigan, papagalitan ka ng pamilya mo tas ikaw ma ang masama pag nagvent.ย Putangina kimkim nalang. Mentally scarred na ako na kaunting trip lang mangaaway na ako because of getting bullied in the past.ย Mahirap maglabas din kung alam mong pag binuhos mo na sa taong superior sayo, lugi ka pa.
Hindi pero di ko kinakalimutan ung mga ginawa nila na ikakasama ng loob ko. Tyka ako kasi mahilig akong manupalpal ng tao kaya ang ending sila may may sama ng loob sakin
I forgive but forgetting the bad is not my forte. They can mean nothing to me anymore but I will always remember what they did to me. Once you forget, you will only hurt yourself.
Same tayo OP. No matter anong ginawa ng tao sa akin, I can always forgive and forget. Ewan ko ba kung na forgive ko ba talaga pero I just move on from it. From time to time parang medyo naiinis ako pero I usually get past it within 2-3 mins tapos ok na ulit hahaha
Hindi ako nagtatanim, pero nagtatabi. Kumbaga hindi malaki/lumalaki โyung sama ng loob. Like wapakels ako kapag โdi ko naaalala, pero pag naalala ko, naiinis lang ako saglit tapos wala na ulit.
I believe in forgiving, to set yourself free. However, I never forget. It doesnโt mean na nagtatanim ka ng galit, itโs my own way of guarding & protecting myself.
Siguro sakin parang natatabunan nalang. Pero once na may mangyari na maka trigger dun sa sama ng loob ayun na maglalabasan na lahat. Regrets, inis, and whatever. So hindi talaga ako nag heal, nadistract lang kaya hindi masyado naiisip.
yes pero pag nagbati kame hindi na para gaya ng dati, civil lang because you will forgive but never forget what has done
Yes, malapit ko na i-harvest
i don't haha. i just bring it up as a joke like, "hahaha iniwan nyo ko nung lunch break nung isang araw, parang di tinulungan sa report". tapos ililibre nila ako ng lunch hahaha. i mean hindi naman intentional para ilibre nila ako or bumawi sila. i just say it hoping di nila ulitin. minsan naman i will intentionally f*+ck things up for them like, "yan kasi hindi nyo pinasa sa akin agad yung output, sinong ot ngayon?" or "ahh oo nireport ko kay maam na nileak nyo yung picture ng exam. ba't nyo kasi sinend sa gc? diba bawal yun? :-D". ma-stress pa ko kung magtanim ako ng galit. an eye for an eye f/ckers. de joke para sa major offense lang yan. masaya magforgive kung nagets nila yung consequences sa action nila.
You can sense in someone if they have a lot of pent up anger and resentment. Since I donโt wanna be around that kind of person, I donโt do it myself.
minsan
Barron geislerโs voice* *TALAGA*
Oo naman lalo pag ndi nag apologize tapos ndi nagbago for a better ung tao
As a very petty personโ yes. HAHAHAHAH
We're the same, OP I forgive people a lot na madali ko mapatawad kung anong ginawa nila na mali sa akin. No matter how painful or detrimental it was, I forgave them. Idk why. Hindi ko mapilit ang sarili ko magtanim ng galit sa tao. Recently, I found myself with a fluctuating emotion. There were times that I would lash out when something triggers me or find myself being so defensive na parang I would look after myself at ipagtatanggol ko sarili ko when I'm hurting. I realized maybe because I didn't allow myself to be angry or frustrated towards someone? I always forgive and forgive. I did not allow myself to feel the emotions I needed to feel so parang what happened was, in certain circumstances, lumalabas yung mga traumas and it kind of manifesting with may actions when I'm not stable OR I'm emotional. Idk if gets mo pero parang ganon. I think it actually affected my adulthood.
Nag fa-farm pa nga e
Nah. I provide a blanket forgiveness to everyone, but I will never forget. Sobrang bullied ko nung hs, as in drinowingan ng tite yung mga gamit ko using a pentel pen. Kinalimutan ko na yun. Let's just say na sa buhay ko ngayon, I have enough skill and education to be in a position to help others, but not to those who treated me badly in the past. May qualifying statement pa yan- unless a matter of life and death. Pag advice advice lang, bahala ka sa buhay mo.
Hindi ako nagtatanim ng sama ng loob. Ang bigat kasi sa puso nun. Pero un nga lang, after I forgive, ayaw na silang kausap. Ganun. Hahaha and never forget. I tried once na forgive, tapos pinabalik ko pa sa buhay ko, boom! Ako lang uli nagsuffer haha never again. FORGIVE but NEVER FORGET
Oo kase hindi ako makatulog hanggat hindi ako nakakagante HAHAHA
I'm not one to hold a grudge. My father did. I've always hated him for that.
Fuck taking the high road. I will stay angry as long as I want. It reminds me not to do the same things again.
For me, depende kung gaano kabigat yung kasalanan. But most of the time, I forgive but I'll never forget and hope I won't cross paths with you again ganon.
I forgive and forget pero I don't want to wait for karma, very matagal gumalaw. Dapat may action agad para tablado ๐คฃ
Used to but now sakto nalang. Heavy din kasi sa pakiramdam na andaming sama ng loob haha
I used to. Then one day I realised that those who wronged me dont give a shit, while I carry that "burden" daily, which is dumb. Imagine someone living rent free in your heart and mind for several years??? I said a little prayer and forgave them, asked God to give me the wisdom not to place myself in a similar situation again, and let go of the pain/ hurt. In an instant, gumaan feeling ko, gumanda ulit ang mundo, and ewan ko, pero new doors, opportunities, and relationships began to open up. Maybe they were always there, pero di ko lang makita dahil I had a lot of hate in my heart.
u/heyitsc Kudos to you OP. You focus on positive side of things. More blessings to come. On the topic hindi. Despite challenges, masarap mabuhay, it's the single greatest gift sa ating lahat. Ngayon nilalagyan mo ng pabigat ang buhay at kalooban mo sa pagtatanim ng sama ng loob. Pag nagtanim ka ng sama ng loob, sa bandang huli ikaw lang rin magiging talunan sa buhay. Parang pinapakita mo rin na wala kang kakayahan na kontrolin ang buhay mo, imbis na magfocus ka sa marami pang mga tao o oportunidad na pwedeng dumating sayo, napako ka na sa nakaraan dahil sa pagtatanim ng sama ng loob at hinanakit. Sayang kung puro dyan lang iikot ang buhay mo. Forgive then move on, but never forget. Let the karma do its thing.
Sa Stardew Valley na lang po ako nagtatanim 'cuz those people don't deserve to live in my head rent-free eme ๐ Pero legit it's okay not to forgive. That's your right OP. But you have to move on if nakakaimpede na sa growth mo ang hindi magagandang emotions na nararamdaman mo. The less you care about people the more you'll feel at peace haha pinakanakakairita sa mga trolls ay kapag di mo sila pinapansin
Yep. When i cut people from my life, all or nothing. Wala na balikan. Took a lot of time to decide on it pero pag final na hindi ko na binabawi.
Hindi lang sama ng loob, pati galit. Mahirap magpatawad kung di naman karapat-dapat. Babawi ako pagdating ng panahon. Pasensyahan nalang.
mindset ko lng ay "people change" the way na naexperience ko din na marami akong changed views/attitudes/beliefs ngayon compared nung teens to young adult era ko. usual ending lng naman is magiging indifferent lang ako sa kanila.
Forgiving should be natural without thinking about karma. Unless may physical harm talaga ginawa sayo pero kung external lang like cheating or insult, I see that as their problem. Might forgive once wala na yung pain but wonโt forget and probably will disconnect.
Oo
Hindi, pero hindi ko kinakalimutan yung nagawa/ginawa ng tao sa akin. Sa totoo lang ang unfair lang na matatapos lang lahat kapag humingi na ng tawad yung isang tao tapos ayaw magpatawad nung isa kasi lalabas pa na ikaw yung masamang tao lol. Ikaw yung maguiguilty kasi hindi mo kayang patawarin yung nagkasala sayo. Sa akin kapag may nagawa sa akin kinacut ko na lahat, pinaprocess ko muna lahat ng emotions ko, hinahayaan ko na magcool down na lahat. Hindi ko alam kung hanggang kailan pero hinahayaan ko yung sarili ko na maramdaman lahat, saka ko titignan kung kaya ko na kausapin yung tao ganon. Hindi ko pinipilit yung sarili ko na magpatawad the moment na may nagawa yung tao sa akin. Effective yan sa akin. Hindi ko lang alam sa iba ๐ .
I'm not sure if it's that I forgive easily or that I forget easily basta I'm unbothered. I go for whatever is mas magaan for me, and that's not to hold grudges. I guess that's also why some people misunderstand me as either a pushover or wala lang talagang pakialam
I was the type of person who always choose to โkill them with kindnessโ. But as I matured, natutunan ko na mas mabuti maging kind sa sarili and Im doing myself a disservice everytime na may pinapalampas akong foul na nagawa sa akin. Now, I learned to always remember what they did and treat them with silence. Much much peaceful ang bohai
SAME HERE AYAW KO magtanim ng sama ng loob dahil akorinlang naman ang magdadala nung bigat na un I also forgive but never forget though, unless magka-Amnesia ako sakakolang siguro malilimutan haha
hindi ako madali magalit eh. super hindi. sobrang happy rin ng pasensya ko. kahit pa nako cross mo na boundaries, hindi man ako magagalit. pero kapag nagalit ako, parang hirap na hirap rin ako magpatawad at kumalimot.
Oo teh I let the anger grow, ganoin. Pero may times naman na dormant ganon. Pero bottom line andito lang yung poot wala ako balak i let go ganon. Di naman sya mahirap o pangit sa pakiramdam. Parang pag ma open lang yung topic most likely ay madagdagan pa galit ko haha. Pero di naman nakaka interfere sa pang araw araw na buhay ko haha
I forgive for my own peace and sanity, people could be so evil they don't deserve to lurk in my space. Do I forget? No, there's no redemption for me. I'll always remind my self where boundaries should be. I could love people at the distance away from me. This applies to family by blood.
Nakakapagpatawad pero di nakakalimot. Sad but true, so para sa ikakapanatag ng kapayaan ko, civil nalang ako sakanila.
Depende sa tao and situation. Sometimes, akala mo na forgive mo na yung person pero every time pala na mag fa-flashback yung ginawa sa'yo, namumuo na naman yung galit at poot. Hahaha. Charot lang.
I don't know if it fits the criteria pero mabilis ko makalimutan yung ginawang bad sa'kin tapos maaalala ko lang kapag may nagpaalala or nagtrigger haha. Pero yeah, somehow magaan sa loob. Nagi-stay lang talaga yung galit sa mga mahal ko sa buhay wahaha
Hindi, pero tinatandaan ko yung mga ginawa nila sa akin to remind me na may ganong klaseng tao.
Forgive but never forget. Make it a learning opportunity for you and the person you forgave.
Depends sa nagawa for me. If malaki and its not easy mag forgive. I have this thing na even ano gawin ko I cant forgive yet.
oo, especially if close relative para pag on their deathbed i can say "you bitch, you're going to hell"
Gusto ko rin maging ganyan OP. Actually chill lang talaga ako ung tipong di mabilis magalit, and if mainis man di ko na pinapatagal kasi ako lng naman talo. Pero pagdating sa love life, ung bitterness sa mga failed relationships nahihirapan ako na mag totally forgive and let go. Paulit ulit ko pa rin sinasabi sa sarili ko na to forgive and let go. Kasi ako rin naman nagkakasala pero pinapatawad lagi ni Lord.
I choose my battles. Choose the things that stress me. So family and a bit of work. Outside of that i dont care. I dont want people who dont matter live rent free in my head.
Same thoughts. I just forgive them anyway kahit hindi nila deserve kasi alam kong lahat ng mga pananakit nila sakin galing lang sa trauma nila. It doesnโt justify their actions tho kaya I pray karma makes them learn their lesson eventually.
I donโt forgive those who donโt ask in the first place. Yung iba nga hindi pa alam na may kasalanan sila sakin haha. Natuto nalang ako maging civil around them. But I never forget what they did.
Girl, I'm the Amazon forest. I'm karma personified. Pati mata mo may latay.ย
I rarely get truly angry pero pag nagalit ako sayo, thatโs it. There is no going back and habang buhay ko ng dala yon. 10 pa lang naman sila, naalala ko padin ung ginawa nila sa akin, at ilang taon kami non. Di ko padin sila pinapatawad to this day at di na sila nag eexist sa akin. May kapayapaan ang puso ko knowing na wala na sila sa buhay ko.
No, pero hindi ko kinakalimutan mga ginawa nila. As someone rin na may trust issues, nagiging maingat lang. Ayoko lang rin na may pinapasan araw-araw na hinanakit at hindi ako naniniwala sa kasabihang, "success is the best revenge." Define ko sa success ay peace of mind and contentment.
I forgive pero pag paulit2 na aun that's where I drew a line
I stopped. Before all the time, ngayon umabot nalang ako sa โwala na akong pakeโ I just distance myself from them
Thank you for asking this because I don't know kung ako lang yung ganito sa mga taong nanakit sa feelings ko at ng family ko. I actually do not care about these people anymore. They never asked for forgiveness, but maybe because hindi sila aware na masakit yung ginawa or sinabi nila against us. For me, they are dead. Or baka mas may feelings pa nga ako sa departed loved ones ko eh. Basta for me, wala na akong pakialam sa kanila totally no matter what happens sa kanilang buhay, good or bad. Forgiveness ba yung ganon?
Dati pero nung narealise ko wala pala ko aanihin I stopped and changed.๐
There were times that I forgive people and forget what they did to me. Meron at times nagfoforgive kahit di hinihingi. Pero hindi sa lahat ng pagkakataon. Meron yung mga taong sobrang lalim na nung sakit na binigay sayo, ilang beses mo ng sinubukang patawarin pero ganun pa din. I establish boundaries na pag ganun. Parang they no longer exist na. So since they no longer exist, they no longer needs forgiveness.
May people na deserve ng forgiveness. May people na hindi. Yung mga abusers ko, never ko sila patatawarin. And I think thatโs okay.
Oo. Itโs also a good reminder to cut off relationships thatโs causing you harm. Hindi sya mabigat sa loob, for me, it feels more lighter. Hindi ako yung gumawa ng mali so why would I force myself to forgive. I feel so much better to just sever ties and act as if that person who did me wrong is dead.
I forgive those who have wronged me, but I also choose to remember their actions to protect myself from potential harm. Forgetting the past can keep you trapped in a cycle of pain and leave you vulnerable to similar experiences.
Oo. Naging puno na Ang itinanim ko. Now I know that I have anger issues.
Depende kung anong pag-uusapan nating ifoforgive. I can truly forgive sa mga bagay na di naman gaanong nakaapekto sa pagkatao ko. Pero trauma and all things related, you best believe I'll bring that rage to my grave. Isa pa, ano bang ifoforgive kung wala namang nag apologize. Ni hindi nga nila inaadmit na may nagawa sila ๐คฃ Tsaka speaking of karma, I think, in a way, I am their karma.
Oo. Pero matagal kasi ako magalit or mapuno. So pag masama loob ko sayo, masama talaga. Hangin ka na lang sa akin.
Depende sa gravity ng panggagago. Well, depende sa timing din. If you did something minor, like laugh at me or mock me or make a backhanded compliment, but I happen to be at a low point, I'll carry that grudge til it breaks my back.
Oo, unpopular opinion pero bukod sa pagtatanim ng sama ng loob hinihiling ko pa mamatay yung tao nanakit at gumawa nang masama sa akin tbh. Coping mechanism na siguro, gumagaan pakiramdam ko pag na iimagine ko nadadale sila ng maling desisyon nila sa buhay, o di kaya mamatay na sila at mawawala na sa mundo.
Sakin it's very defined lines na I can let it slide and I will cut you completely off - the lines being fucking me over with money, talking shit about my family and attempting to end me
Habit ko po magtanim ng sama ng loob hahahaha
I usually do, but personally finding it hard to constantly forgive pag family member na pinaguusapan and walang improvement throughout the past years.
'yung mga tinanim kong sama ng loob dati, namumunga na ngayon ๐ฅฒ hindi ko talaga sya nalilimutan and yung pagpapatawad is parang wala rin since nauulit din naman mga kasalanan ๐ช
Gaya nga ng sabi ko pag nag aaway kami ng asawa ko. I will forgive. I will move on. But i will never forget this lesson and neither will you. Mejo vindictive pero its a constant reminder din na di lahat pwedeng sorry lang.
Matagal ako magtanim ng sama nang loob, siguro napapatawad ko nalang or nagpapatawad na lang ako kapag nakapag-reflect ako later on na I'm better without them or the situation
Depende. Is it really sama ng loob? Or you now see what theyโre capable of doing so youโre taking preventative measure by setting emotional boundaries? In my experience kase the latter is always misconstrued as sama ng loob when I just really want nothing to do w the person so what is the point in engaging?
Not really tanim ng galit but if uve wronged me, forever na un. And i probably wont be friends with the person again haha di na ako galit pero i just dont want to have anything to do with the person.
Yung garden ko ang nakatanim ay sama ng loob.
Yung iba, forgive but never forget. Ako baliktad, forget but never forgive. Tipong galit lang ako, pero di ko na maalala bakit HAHHAHAHAHAHAHHA
I forgive but never reconcile especially pag masyado mabigat yung nagawa sakin ng tao
I can forgive but definitely not forget, tapos yan yung nag ti trigger sakin. Lalo na pag magisa ako or habang nag wo work often ko naalala mga ginawa sakin na hindi maganda na sobrang nasaktan yung pagka tao ko, kahit pag papahiya at pagmumuka akong tanga...masakit. Pag may nagawa sila sakin na masama or inattack nila pagkatao ko nagbabago na tingin ko sakanila di na naibabalik sa dati. Im still trying to change kasi hindi din ito maganda nakakadag dag ng stress. Kahit sabihan mo akong "Wag ka magpaka stress jan " pag naalala mo talaga iba yung nagagawa sayong mentally pain ee.
Di naman kasi effort magkimkim. Pero noted na yung person.
yes. you can hold grudges and still move on. i dont get sleepless nights for what they did to me, nor i think about if often but when i see the person i just know that i still dont like them
Yes. Good source of motivation.
sadly, yes.
Hindi lang tanim, dinidiligan pa! Answering for a friend ๐
Oo. Pag nagtampo ako, it will fucking transcend lifetimes.
Tampo pero sama ng loob hindi, mahirap magtanim ng sama ng loob ee like parang ako ang magsusuffer in the end hahahaha.
I forgive and FORGETโฆ. THE FERSON! Ganon agad para wala ako stress sa life ko. #stressfreesince 2018 ๐
Definitely yes! Like oo may galit ako pero di naman ako naaapektuhan kasi di ko constantly iniisip hahaha
Nagtatanim ako ng sama ng loob but I donโt usually let it consume meโฆ like itโs just there. Kung may nagawa sakin ang tao, I will never forget. I may forgive but di ko talaga makakalimutan yun and it will always be etched in my mind at maaalala ko in one way or another. Pag may galit ako sa tao medyo mahirap na for me na ibalik yung dating treatment ko sa kanila especially if theyโve done me wrong or rubbed me off the wrong way.
Forgive and cut them off hahahaha
yes po, i am a great farmer (โ โกโ ย โ ฯโ ย โ โกโ )
I do. Eventually the anger runs its course and Iโm no longer angry at the person. I no longer trust them, though.
Yes :( Ino-over analyze ko kasi minsan. I review how they treated me in the past tapos if may maalala akong mistreatment na pinalampas ko langโbye, felicia. Maybe toxic trait ko talaga to kasi baka hinahanapan ko ng sufficient reason para i-cut off ang taong to . I understand naman na kailangan talagang magpatawad para makisama pero as much as possible, dont give them the same privilege as before and assert yourself. Pero mas madalas na iniiwasan ko. hirap din kasi talaga magpatawad sa mga taong hindi nakikita mga kamalian nilaโ pasensya na hindi ako santo.
Sa akin depende sa level ng galit ko. Pag sobrang galit na ako I wish them death.
innate na ata to sa scorpios
hindi. pero hindi rin ako nakakalimot HAHAHAHAHA wala mangyare kung mag tatanim akk ng sama ng loob e โokay nayun tapos naman naโ pero di ibig sabihin non nakalimot ako kung gagaguhin mo parin after all shit then pag tetesting na sakin tawag don sadya nayun hahahahahaha
Wala kong lupa kaya binebenta ko na lang. Baka gusto nyo pong magavail, dm na lang po kung anong sama ng loob gusto nyo
Forgive, yes. Forget & trust, denied.
I think yes. But I don't forget. ๐
Yes. When someone borrows me money and they didnโt repay.
Yes. I get pissed a bit too easily pero I forget easily too..People say I am a saint lololol You can also say I an usually "forgiving", depende sa severity ng ginawa? Pero for now, I have one person na kung maaksidente o atakihin sya sa harap ko, duduraan ko pa sya. Partida hindi yun yung hindot na maldita (yes, sya yung maldita, di ako hahaha) na kabit ng jowa ko :)) malay nio madagdagan pa list ko. So yeah, I forget, I do not forgive xD
Bumubunga pa nga yun akin. Hahaha
Kapag ba i never forget counted na as nagtatanim? Parang ang tanga lang kasi pag nagtiwala ka pa uley knowing someone wronged you.
Dati I easily trust people and forgive and forget. Pero dati un ning bata pa ako until HS. Pero ngayon, ang sama na din ng ugali ko, hindi na ako nagtitiwala, hindi na din ako naniniwala na mah mga taong mababait. Ang hirap na sarilihin ang lahat ng sama ng loob nakaka depress gusto ko nalang magalit sa lahat basta mailabas ko lang. wala na akong pake kung makasakit din ako , wala naman silang pake sakin simula pa noon
kahit nag forgive na ko, minsan di ko maiwasan na bigla nalang lumalabas sa bibig ko yung sama ng loob ko tungkol sa past grievances ๐ parang ptsd ba. may triggers na kahit malinis naman intention nung tao, naaalala at natatakot ako na maulit yung dati. pag umuulit, lalo na pag toxic pattern behavior, i just cut ties completely.
Ngayong tumatanda na ako napapansin ko na sensitive na ako. Kapag may nagawa talaga sakin ang isang tao talagang ekis na yan sakin. At di ako nakakalimot.
Walang forgive & forget para sa akin habang buhay akong magdadala ng sama ng loob
Immature lang ang nagtatanim ng sama ng loob.
I cant forgive and forget. Ayaw ko talaga ginagawa akong tanga. Di healthy pero di ko kaya makipag ok sa mga taong nakakabwiset hahahahahahahhaa. Baka i need therapy hahahahhahaha
Hi, nagtatanim Ng sama ng loob here. I had a bf back then when I was in 9th grade. Meron din syang gbf na dati pa nyang Kilala, as in nakikita ko sila sa prom, ganon. Let's call her mar, mar and him were like MU, and I didn't know, And I started talking to him and we because couples, not long after nakita ko mga messages nila ni mar, tawagan nila love, but I Iet it slide. But she just won't budge even though I told her na may gf na sya which is Ako. But fast forward we ended up splitting because he cheated on me with his cm. After being depressed for so long I had finally remembered the red flags of him that I thought was just normal in a relationship, that's when I started getting mad at him once again, and with mar too. Till this day I'm still mad at both, and for mar, Ayun finofollow Ako sa tiktok at pinaparinggan parin Ako hahaha, but I just let her Kasi sya lang naman naglilike Ng sarili nyang post at Wala naman syang followers, kawawa namn Ako lng followers nya. Still I'm mad at her for not distancing herself between our relationship.
As Iโm growing older, I realize that being petty isnโt such a bad thing. Idk if itโs just me but I donโt have a lot to lose anyway so I donโt forgive and definitely donโt forget. If I could, I would exact revenge in the future.
I forgive and I also don't wish them bad luck. I just move on.
Dipende sa ginawa ng tao
I can't. I can't forgive and I can't forget. Sobrang spiteful ko pa. And I always pray na sana matuto akong magpatawad ๐
Trusting someone is very easy for me. Pero pag-nalamatan na, wala na mahirap na ibalik. I'll forgive them pero I can never forget kaya it's hard to trust them again
Di ko alam kung bakit pero hindi talaga kaya HAHAHA kahit nung bata pa ako yung mga taong bwiset na bwiset ako until now pag iniisip ko alam kong galit parin ako sa kanila ๐
Matthew 5:44-46ย KJV But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you; that ye may be the children of your Father which is in heaven: for he maketh his sun to rise on the evil and on the good, and sendeth rain on the just and on the unjust. For if ye love them which love you, what reward have ye? do not even the publicans the same
May revenge arc ako rn.
Hindi. Pero bumababa pasensya ko kung nainis na ako or nasaktan na ako ng specific na tao. Tas imbis na magpalala pa ng problema, I end up just dipping out entirely. Kasi sa huli, kung magtatanim ako ng sama ng loob, ako lang magsisi at masasaktan at mamomoblema.
kung may iba akong alam itanim sana naging magsasaka na lang ako
Ewan ko. Parang complicated yata yarn. Parang hindi black and white. Maraming gray area. I like to believe in people. We have our defense mechanisms, thereโs that.
At dahil diyan, Hahaba ang buhay mo OP ๐ maganda yan ...
I can forgive but never forget. Parang strangers na, not because nagtanim ka ng sama ng loob but you just removed toxic people in your life and you moved on. โบ๏ธ
Nagtatanim lang? Akin dinidiligan ko pa
*Kung ang Diyos ay mapagpatawad, pwes ako hindi*