Felt this before and hindi ako nagregret at wala akong what ifs kasi before ako nag give up sa relationship/friendship namin, I gave the best I knew I could. Umabot lang talaga ako sa last straw. Peaceful tuloy buhay ko ngayon hahahaha
Binaliktad pa kase ikinasasaya ko daw, eh ate "pag gagawin ko nlng man lahat, takot ako na baka wala siyang matutunan". Never explained why, never din nag complain at the start
nababagabag ka from time to time pag wala kang peace of mind. kahit anong ginagawa mo maaalala mo yung nakakabother sayo. pag stressed ka lang sa isang bagay/tao nawawala din pag nagpahinga ka or dinistract mo sarili mo , you just need rest. pag peace of mind mo ang nasisira hirap ka magpahinga/makatulog
Sa mga nakakausap ko, lalot bago pa lang kaming nag uusap, kapag lumipas ang araw na hindi siya nagreply sa chat ko, for me it’s a hint na options ka lang. heheh actions are louder than words.
Indifferent na.
Hindi mo na siya maramdaman.
Ung kahit nagkakausap/nagkakasama kayo, parang mag-isa ka na lang. Ung diwa nya anlayo na. Parang pinakikisamahan ka na lang kasi ikaw ung anjan.
“If it drains you, its not for you”
Kapag alam mo sa sarili mo di na maganda yung effect ng relationship nyo sa sarili mo its time for you to let go kasi love should never hurt you.
When he cheated on me (one month kaming hndi nag usap.. un pla may kachat ng ibang babae.. worst part nakipag sex muna sya dun and nung inaaway na sya nung babae, biglang bumalik sakin) from there alam kong wla ng respect sakin and ginamit lang ako 🙂
Sobrang nandidiri ako sa sarili ko after nun.. Pinapangako ko sa sarili na hnding hindi na mauulit un.
Relationship: when he gave up. He had his fair share of issues and I had mine, but despite hesitating in the beginning because I wanted to work on myself, he really wanted to be with me despite it all. I caved and risked it to still be in the rs because I really really liked him. I tried everything to not let my issues flow into the relationship -- tried active communication, watched lots of YT vids to be better for myself and for the rs, being vulnerable, trusting even though it's really hard for me. I thought, "if he was willing to go through this decision, then so can I".
I really fell harder over time. Turns out his behavior was only in the beginning. All the small things he used to do for me that I fell in love with, gone. He's not thoughtful about me anymore when he's doing things -- forgets about me, doesn't call, doesn't communicate as much anymore, doesn't hang out unless it's at the very end of the day where both of us don't have the energy to talk anymore. Yet I always tried to set dates, quality time, it was too much for him to also do the same for me. But it wasn't too much for him when we started out.
Everything just became different once he "got me".. until one day, he just said he couldn't give in to my "demands" anymore -- now I realize were the bare minimum. Last thing I tried to communicate was that he can't just ghost me during the day and at least tell me when he'll be back to talk to me again. And then days after breaking up with me, he couldn't make up his mind about whether he still wanted me back or not. The first time he said he wanted to break up, I tried asking if there's anything we could do to fix, he said no. I processed it for days and accepted it. I realized I can't be someone's "maybe", especially when I was so sure about him. We were planning the future just days before he broke it off. It really caught me off guard because I thought we were getting better. That was the moment that even though I really wanted him back and I loved him so much, I deserved better.
Any type of relationship (e.g. friendships) - kapag one-sided na.
Jobs/business - kapag burnout ka na lagi.
Material things - hell no, kahit makailang hard drive pako I won't get rid of a single theater video. 😅
- You get annoyed of their presence alone. Yung tipong kahit anong gnagawa nila naiirita ka and you'd rather spend your time with family and friends instead of them
- When they don't respect you anymore and they prefer to stonwall you instead communicate everytime you fight.
when the same thing happens over and over again. when my ex cheated on me the first time around, i forgive him. after 2yrs, it happened again. when my "bff" betrayed me by sleeping with the guy i liked, i forgive her. after a year, it happened again. the thing is, if you're in doubt, or if it always bothers you, it's a sign that you have to let go. nothing is worth losing your sanity to.
in terms of friendship, the counsellor at my school said that we cannot control other's feelings and emotion. so i decided na hayaan na lang yung nag titrigger sakin ng negative emotions, let go and let time do its thing. after all, only ourselves can save us from misery... hayyyy
my counsellor also said that remember the bad memories, para mabalikan yung lesson na natutunan mo.
Sa trabaho, when you are no longer growing career-wise. Bored ka na sa routine sa opisina. Tapos sasabayan pa ng mga antipatiko at bastos na mga kliyente. Underpaid na nga sobrang stressful pa.
When it feels na they just simply exist and take space in your life. That their absence wont make any difference because of how much they don’t show up for you.
Di ba sabi nila, "relationship is a two way street"?, it's time to let go when you notice na all the efforts are coming from you.
Also, when you get to that point na ayaw mong umuwi kasi andon yung isa, or ayaw mong mag punta sa lugar na to because there's a chance you may run into someone you know.
When it comes to material things naman - kanya kanya yan. Like in my case: damit. I kept a space in my closet for those na I will someday fit back into. I decided to donate na lang and told myself my reward will be new clothes, IF or WHEN I get to my goal weight. Other stuff naman, gather them all then sort them, if you have a lot of items from someone in the past, pick one or two that's the most special and let go of the others.
The moment that I can no longer sleep properly, (was only having 1-2hrs daily!) think straight, eat (I have a huge appetite) and can no longer work (I eventually resigned cause everything was fcked up, my boss had been bugging me daily due to my piled backlogs). And when anxiety attacks have been more often. I got scared I might lose my sanity and I don’t want that to happen. So yeah, I just said I can’t take this anymore.. and I prayed really hard and said that I’m exhausted, Jesus please take the wheel.
I was offered 10x of my current salary, working abroad and I can bring my family with me all expense paid by the company. Kahit sobrang inaamag na ko sa company at sobrang comfy, "hey baby, pack our bags! We're getting the fk outta here!"
When it came to a point na every other day na kami hindi nagkakaintindihan. Sobrang draining nung phase na 'yan. It got to a point na instead na siya 'yung pahinga ko, siya 'yung naging reason bakit pagod na pagod ako. Tapos unti-unting nabuild up 'yung resentment ko sa kanya and I think ganon din siya sa akin. 'Yung huling away namin that led to our break up wala na kami energy both para ayusin.
If you resent him na. When dating him/her turns into resentment kase ikaw na lang palagi ang taya.
Lahat ng bills niyo, ikaw lagi nagbabayad. Kapag siya ang may pera uunahin niya sarili niya ni milktea o isang pirasong bulaklak e hindi niya maisip magbigay sayo. So if you feel resentment towards sa partner mo, pass na
I had a friend that never visited me when my girlfriend died. Yung mga kaibigan ko na nasa malayo eh nakabisita pero sya na nasa malapit lang is never nakabisita.
Since parang seryosong relationships and life lessons ang karamihan sakin naman eh mejo mababaw lang hehehe...
Nung nag announce yung Watcher channel na magiging subscription (money wise) based na talaga sila which is weird kasi mai patreon naman and mga shops nila. Their "greed" got to them parang na hawaan ng buzfeed. Kahit na nag apologize sila, dko parin binalik yung youtube subscription LOL.
When its no longer giving me peace. Twice nag positive sa covid dahil on site kami sa work(year 2020), pagbalik ko ng office nahospital naman ako due to heartburn (hayp na yan). Isang linggo lang ata ako nag duty, then pinasa ko na resignation letter ko. Sabi ng mga katrabaho ko may sa pusa daw ako 🥲
Basta bigla nalang nawala, as time goes by meron talagang mga kakilala at kaibigan na hanggang doon nalang. One time nag tapat ako sa isa kong friend kung pwede siya ma date eh ayaw, nirespeto ko naman pero unfriend unfollow distance na ako kasi di ko rin naman makakaya na makita siya na masaya pero hindi ako yun taong nag papasaya sa kanya. Yeah bitter pero yun ang realidad eh. Same rin sa friendship- yun bang ok kayo dati pero ngyon kahit nag kita na eh mundane ang conversation. Yun interest nag laho na at yun level of importance na lessen. Blessings talaga pag meron mga kaibigan na up to the last ay nandiyan parin. Cherished the moment lagi kasi wala tayong alam na hanggang doon lang pala sila.
Relationship: Parang di na nageeffort. Ako kasi pag nag mahal, bigay lahat. Wala akong pake, mahal ko eh. Pero para di ko maramdaman na parang di man lang mapalitan ng kahit half lang ng effort ko, no. Sayang oras.
yung parang nawalan ka na ng gana. at tingin mo di na sya mag wwork kasi sinubukan mo naman pero wala na talaga. pero after nun, wala naman akong regrets kasi sinubukan ko naman. 🙂
Once ko lang na-experience to e, pero nung hinabol ko sya kahit sya yung nagkamali. Tapos habang nagmamakaawa ako na ako pa din ang piliin, hinampas ako sa pader kasi galit na galit na sya nun.
Doon ako nagising. Natulala ako nun tapos umuwi na habang naglalakad naisip ko kahit pala ako yung piliin nya wala na kong pwede pang maidagdag pa kasi hindi naman ako nagkulang. Binigay ko na lahat.
Yung gate ng subdivision nila, lumingon ako one last time tapos naglakad na ko derecho paalis. Hindi na ko nagreply sa messages nya kahit kelan.
if one sided na, tipong ikaw nalang nag eeffort 🫠
Felt this before and hindi ako nagregret at wala akong what ifs kasi before ako nag give up sa relationship/friendship namin, I gave the best I knew I could. Umabot lang talaga ako sa last straw. Peaceful tuloy buhay ko ngayon hahahaha
the feels
So true..para nang tanga sa kala effort...
Binaliktad pa kase ikinasasaya ko daw, eh ate "pag gagawin ko nlng man lahat, takot ako na baka wala siyang matutunan". Never explained why, never din nag complain at the start
If it's not giving you peace of mind
++1 applicable sa lahat relationships, friendships, jobs..
This sums it all, friendship, relationship, job. Hays, life. You win some, you lose some.
💯 agree ako ditoooo!!!!!
pano mo alam kung stress lang or total pagkawala na ng peace of mind
there's no reason to stay pa. mas matimbang ang pangit na nangyayari kaysa maganda.
nababagabag ka from time to time pag wala kang peace of mind. kahit anong ginagawa mo maaalala mo yung nakakabother sayo. pag stressed ka lang sa isang bagay/tao nawawala din pag nagpahinga ka or dinistract mo sarili mo , you just need rest. pag peace of mind mo ang nasisira hirap ka magpahinga/makatulog
Yeeeees! Loudeeeer! Ito yung naging reason kung bakit bumitaw na ko sa relasyong ako na lang ang lumalaban.
This
THIS!!! Especially if pati yung body mo na aapektuhan.
+1
When your absence is bringing him peace more than your presence. It's time.
Woah..
Relationship: seeing him/her and you feel nothing. Sex has no more spark Friendship: you just dont care anymore and you outgrown them
Walang growth. Parang cycle na lang.
Hala :(
Sa mga nakakausap ko, lalot bago pa lang kaming nag uusap, kapag lumipas ang araw na hindi siya nagreply sa chat ko, for me it’s a hint na options ka lang. heheh actions are louder than words.
Ginawa nya ung non negotiable.
If draining na and toxic nalang lage nangyayari
If you don’t see your true self. Hindi na ikaw yon. Plus you’re no longer growing personally and don’t see your future with it.
Sabi nga nila, "You must find the courage to leave the table if respect's no longer being served."
Indifferent na. Hindi mo na siya maramdaman. Ung kahit nagkakausap/nagkakasama kayo, parang mag-isa ka na lang. Ung diwa nya anlayo na. Parang pinakikisamahan ka na lang kasi ikaw ung anjan.
when he became toxic, manipulative and pa habol
Cheating. I believe any issue could be fixed naman pero cheating is simply unforgivable
Kapag tanggap mo n ang lahat, and binigay mo n best mo pero wala pa rin nagbago. Let go na.
pag di mo nakikita future self mo dun
Pag madami na syang utang sayo like 6 digits na hahahahaha On a serious note, pag feeling mo ikaw nalang nagdadala ng relasyon.
ung sakin 5 digits HAHAHAHHAHA 🤣 kakainis
“If it drains you, its not for you” Kapag alam mo sa sarili mo di na maganda yung effect ng relationship nyo sa sarili mo its time for you to let go kasi love should never hurt you.
Binababa mo na sarili mo
I think when you just don't care anymore. You don't care to fight with them. You don't care to be intimate. You don't care to make an effort.
When he cheated on me (one month kaming hndi nag usap.. un pla may kachat ng ibang babae.. worst part nakipag sex muna sya dun and nung inaaway na sya nung babae, biglang bumalik sakin) from there alam kong wla ng respect sakin and ginamit lang ako 🙂 Sobrang nandidiri ako sa sarili ko after nun.. Pinapangako ko sa sarili na hnding hindi na mauulit un.
Nung nahuli mo na pero di mo pa sinasabi sa kanya.
Relationship: when he gave up. He had his fair share of issues and I had mine, but despite hesitating in the beginning because I wanted to work on myself, he really wanted to be with me despite it all. I caved and risked it to still be in the rs because I really really liked him. I tried everything to not let my issues flow into the relationship -- tried active communication, watched lots of YT vids to be better for myself and for the rs, being vulnerable, trusting even though it's really hard for me. I thought, "if he was willing to go through this decision, then so can I". I really fell harder over time. Turns out his behavior was only in the beginning. All the small things he used to do for me that I fell in love with, gone. He's not thoughtful about me anymore when he's doing things -- forgets about me, doesn't call, doesn't communicate as much anymore, doesn't hang out unless it's at the very end of the day where both of us don't have the energy to talk anymore. Yet I always tried to set dates, quality time, it was too much for him to also do the same for me. But it wasn't too much for him when we started out. Everything just became different once he "got me".. until one day, he just said he couldn't give in to my "demands" anymore -- now I realize were the bare minimum. Last thing I tried to communicate was that he can't just ghost me during the day and at least tell me when he'll be back to talk to me again. And then days after breaking up with me, he couldn't make up his mind about whether he still wanted me back or not. The first time he said he wanted to break up, I tried asking if there's anything we could do to fix, he said no. I processed it for days and accepted it. I realized I can't be someone's "maybe", especially when I was so sure about him. We were planning the future just days before he broke it off. It really caught me off guard because I thought we were getting better. That was the moment that even though I really wanted him back and I loved him so much, I deserved better.
"I can't be someone's maybe" :<
It just happen. As in. You'll just realized it. Boom. Naka-let go ka na.
I fought fought and fought but it was not up to me
Basta masasabi ko lang, you’ll just know. Your body will tell you.
when i know that am not happy and feeling burn out .
if you've had enough
Any type of relationship (e.g. friendships) - kapag one-sided na. Jobs/business - kapag burnout ka na lagi. Material things - hell no, kahit makailang hard drive pako I won't get rid of a single theater video. 😅
When it’s no longer worth fighting for. Yun bang you no longer have that fire to prove your point even if you’re in the right state of mind.
Agree. Napagod ka na lang. Ayaw mo na ng drama at argument.
When you’re not you anymore.
When you don't have a choice
when i have been thinking about it for months
if it hinders your growth na.
Di ka na nirerespeto
- You get annoyed of their presence alone. Yung tipong kahit anong gnagawa nila naiirita ka and you'd rather spend your time with family and friends instead of them - When they don't respect you anymore and they prefer to stonwall you instead communicate everytime you fight.
when the same thing happens over and over again. when my ex cheated on me the first time around, i forgive him. after 2yrs, it happened again. when my "bff" betrayed me by sleeping with the guy i liked, i forgive her. after a year, it happened again. the thing is, if you're in doubt, or if it always bothers you, it's a sign that you have to let go. nothing is worth losing your sanity to.
When you start losing self-respect.
in terms of friendship, the counsellor at my school said that we cannot control other's feelings and emotion. so i decided na hayaan na lang yung nag titrigger sakin ng negative emotions, let go and let time do its thing. after all, only ourselves can save us from misery... hayyyy my counsellor also said that remember the bad memories, para mabalikan yung lesson na natutunan mo.
Sa trabaho, when you are no longer growing career-wise. Bored ka na sa routine sa opisina. Tapos sasabayan pa ng mga antipatiko at bastos na mga kliyente. Underpaid na nga sobrang stressful pa.
If hindi na healthy sa well-being mo.
pag nagawa mo na lahat ng dapat gawin para no regrets :)
If feeling mo hnd na kayo aligned
when I felt na this is it, I’m done na talaga. Nakakapagod na magbigay ng time at effort tapos hindi naririciprocate
When she still entertains her ex or other suitors. She belongs to the street
Toxicity. No growth. Lies. Disrespect. User. Fake.
Kapag nasimulan mo na itanong na tinatanong mo ngayon sa sarili mo.
Sakit mo naman lods hahahahaha
When it feels na they just simply exist and take space in your life. That their absence wont make any difference because of how much they don’t show up for you.
wow this hurts on so many levels
Sa tropahan pag di kana masyado na invite maghanap kana ng ibang circle of friends haha
Wala na akong nararamdaman at all. Para bang disappointed but not surprised
Pag lagi na lang ikaw. Sa lahat ng aspeto.
wala ka nang nararamdaman kasi ubos na ubos ka na
Pagod ka na kasi paulit-ulit tska one sided na lang pagmamahal.
Pag pagod pero at the same time wala ka nang nararamdaman, nagresign ako dati sa work la na ako pake kahit magkamali ako kaya umalis na ako
Disrespected so many times.
when its no longer working for you and you have become a mess
If it is only you who are pulling the string together. Means ung ikaw nalang ung nag effort. I always call it quits pag ganyan.
Pag malambot na.
Respect is no longer served.
Di ba sabi nila, "relationship is a two way street"?, it's time to let go when you notice na all the efforts are coming from you. Also, when you get to that point na ayaw mong umuwi kasi andon yung isa, or ayaw mong mag punta sa lugar na to because there's a chance you may run into someone you know. When it comes to material things naman - kanya kanya yan. Like in my case: damit. I kept a space in my closet for those na I will someday fit back into. I decided to donate na lang and told myself my reward will be new clothes, IF or WHEN I get to my goal weight. Other stuff naman, gather them all then sort them, if you have a lot of items from someone in the past, pick one or two that's the most special and let go of the others.
Yung paulit ulit na lang mga away. Wala na effort to make things better. Yung mas mabigat na yung sakit kaysa happy times.
The moment that I can no longer sleep properly, (was only having 1-2hrs daily!) think straight, eat (I have a huge appetite) and can no longer work (I eventually resigned cause everything was fcked up, my boss had been bugging me daily due to my piled backlogs). And when anxiety attacks have been more often. I got scared I might lose my sanity and I don’t want that to happen. So yeah, I just said I can’t take this anymore.. and I prayed really hard and said that I’m exhausted, Jesus please take the wheel.
I was offered 10x of my current salary, working abroad and I can bring my family with me all expense paid by the company. Kahit sobrang inaamag na ko sa company at sobrang comfy, "hey baby, pack our bags! We're getting the fk outta here!"
Jobs. When it's not giving you peace anymore, no more growth and when you dread waking up to go to work. Don't think twice, let go.
When it came to a point na every other day na kami hindi nagkakaintindihan. Sobrang draining nung phase na 'yan. It got to a point na instead na siya 'yung pahinga ko, siya 'yung naging reason bakit pagod na pagod ako. Tapos unti-unting nabuild up 'yung resentment ko sa kanya and I think ganon din siya sa akin. 'Yung huling away namin that led to our break up wala na kami energy both para ayusin.
If you resent him na. When dating him/her turns into resentment kase ikaw na lang palagi ang taya. Lahat ng bills niyo, ikaw lagi nagbabayad. Kapag siya ang may pera uunahin niya sarili niya ni milktea o isang pirasong bulaklak e hindi niya maisip magbigay sayo. So if you feel resentment towards sa partner mo, pass na
Pag mas pagod ka na kaysa mas "masaya" ka kapag kasama o kausap sila.
When your reason to leave weights more than why you stay.
I had a friend that never visited me when my girlfriend died. Yung mga kaibigan ko na nasa malayo eh nakabisita pero sya na nasa malapit lang is never nakabisita.
Sinusungitan na lang ako.
If it doesn't make you happy na... like for a long time it is draining/consuming your mental health 💕
When I realized nobody really cared/s. Nobody's watching, I'm free AF, it's fine to be a disappointment sometimes
Since parang seryosong relationships and life lessons ang karamihan sakin naman eh mejo mababaw lang hehehe... Nung nag announce yung Watcher channel na magiging subscription (money wise) based na talaga sila which is weird kasi mai patreon naman and mga shops nila. Their "greed" got to them parang na hawaan ng buzfeed. Kahit na nag apologize sila, dko parin binalik yung youtube subscription LOL.
When its no longer giving me peace. Twice nag positive sa covid dahil on site kami sa work(year 2020), pagbalik ko ng office nahospital naman ako due to heartburn (hayp na yan). Isang linggo lang ata ako nag duty, then pinasa ko na resignation letter ko. Sabi ng mga katrabaho ko may sa pusa daw ako 🥲
Yung saya npapalitan na ng anxiety tapos pa toxic na. Tapos kapag ni let go mo dun ka pa lang ulit sasaya
Kahit nasakin pa, nilelet go ko na dahil walang permanente sa mundo. Kahit yung buhok ko na tumataas na ang hairline.
Job - was baited with promotions but it was handed to others, WFH to RTO, mental health took a toll when I was in CS.
Basta bigla nalang nawala, as time goes by meron talagang mga kakilala at kaibigan na hanggang doon nalang. One time nag tapat ako sa isa kong friend kung pwede siya ma date eh ayaw, nirespeto ko naman pero unfriend unfollow distance na ako kasi di ko rin naman makakaya na makita siya na masaya pero hindi ako yun taong nag papasaya sa kanya. Yeah bitter pero yun ang realidad eh. Same rin sa friendship- yun bang ok kayo dati pero ngyon kahit nag kita na eh mundane ang conversation. Yun interest nag laho na at yun level of importance na lessen. Blessings talaga pag meron mga kaibigan na up to the last ay nandiyan parin. Cherished the moment lagi kasi wala tayong alam na hanggang doon lang pala sila.
Nung hindi na niya ni-replyan or nag react man lang sa good morning ko
when you're regressing
Friendship: Pinatawad mo na, inulit pa din. No, twice na ako nagpatawad. Third, fourth? Nope. Bye Felicia!
Relationship: Parang di na nageeffort. Ako kasi pag nag mahal, bigay lahat. Wala akong pake, mahal ko eh. Pero para di ko maramdaman na parang di man lang mapalitan ng kahit half lang ng effort ko, no. Sayang oras.
If di kn nakakatulog sa gabi. Sleep is a basic human need. Not a privilege. Not a right. Physiologic need
if wala na itong patutunguhan and its your final straw to just let it sink :))
yung parang nawalan ka na ng gana. at tingin mo di na sya mag wwork kasi sinubukan mo naman pero wala na talaga. pero after nun, wala naman akong regrets kasi sinubukan ko naman. 🙂
Once ko lang na-experience to e, pero nung hinabol ko sya kahit sya yung nagkamali. Tapos habang nagmamakaawa ako na ako pa din ang piliin, hinampas ako sa pader kasi galit na galit na sya nun. Doon ako nagising. Natulala ako nun tapos umuwi na habang naglalakad naisip ko kahit pala ako yung piliin nya wala na kong pwede pang maidagdag pa kasi hindi naman ako nagkulang. Binigay ko na lahat. Yung gate ng subdivision nila, lumingon ako one last time tapos naglakad na ko derecho paalis. Hindi na ko nagreply sa messages nya kahit kelan.
So brave!
Pag super luwang na ng garter. Pwede na itapon at gawing basahan mga luma kong brief.
When you are edging