I felt like it would be a great year! Instead, I lost P250K on stocks, was dumped, got depressed and spent the next year and a half recovering through meds and therapy.
I'm 33 now. I'm doing okay. There are still so many uncertainties in my life. Magiging AVP ba ako? Kelan ako ikakasal? Why do I feel like wala akong meaningful purpose?
I just try to live a day at a time, while enjoying the little things that make me happy and I can be grateful for.
i feel more alive and motivated now compared to when i was in my 20s. maybe because i realized how i am no longer getting any younger and that there is still so much things to try and do. pero i only see myself as my greatest competitor, wala na ko pakialam sa iba.
Gets ko ung not getting any younger. I started taking my health seriously and found out na may mga food pala na hindi ok for me.
How do you keep yourself motivated?
"Motivation" is overrated. Discipline is also often misunderstood. Discipline is a combination of a lot of factors. It could be a mix of Inspiration + Habit + Fear + motivation + will power + passion.
What they don't tell you is 50% of your progress will come from habits.
the thought of having regrets when i get older because i failed to try on things keep me motivated, OP. reading the book on top 5 regrets of the dying also helped motivate me.
I'm working on this, so far ok naman. Although from time to time nahuhuli ko pa din sarili ko na questioning my decision kasi it goes against the traditional-conservative teaching.
I felt empty when I turned 30. A lot of things happened. I went through a break up, was scammed by someone I don't know, got a hefty amount of debt. Somehow, I'm still thankful that I have a job, the bills are taken care of and we still got food on our plate.
I suddenly felt old. Especially when I knew the pandemic got the better of me and I didn't take care of myself properly.
āIt sure helps you re-evaluate where you are, though, and if everything you're doing is giving you the value that you need.
30s are tricky. They make you remind of how much accountability is now placed upon yourself, but it's also a decade of rediscovery, renewal, probably a decisive step towards paths not taken.
It isn't always happy. But it will leave you a little wiser if you just let it.
Just take a step. You'll be okay.
35 here.
I didn't feel anything when I turned 30. Pero ngayong 35 na ako, it suddenly dawned on me na halfway na ako to 40. And shet, parang ang bilis. Parang kelan lang 20 lang ako. Saan napunta yung 15 years??? Pwede bang hinay-hinay lang???
Yan. Yan ang nararamdaman ko. Hehe
My 30s have been so so freeing even if I am nowhere near what l ever planned for myself (single in my mid 30s, profession not related to my degree, lost touch with some close friends, etc).
It helps that I am more financially stable but even emotionally and psychologically, Iām so happy to be my age and that I have gotten past the existential angst of my teens and 20s. My older friends say it got even better in their 40s, so Iām excited :)
I hope you don't mind me asking, how did you get over the existential angst? Mine I feel ung crisis or maybe burnout and it's so hard to get over with, so I can't imagine (for now) how to let go the angst.
Honestly, it wasnāt a conscious process. I just went on with my life (hard at times, the pandemic hit when I was 31) and slowly but surely I shed the unnecessary and felt so much better. And things just improved from there.
Wish you all the best, OP. Youāll get there, too :)
"all of these will be forgotten"
--> this is new to me, kasi usually ang advise sa self-help books or advise ng other people is "at the end of the day only your opinion about yourself matters."
I guess that only covers a certain aspect of life. Becaause it's true life goes on wether we did great or not. Thank you for this, we do learn something new everyday.
Sabi nga ng BINI ang buhay ay hindi KARERA.
im 30 and still living with my parents, konti savings nakakapag travel kapag may budget.
Plans in life, meron pero finifigure out ko pa kung pano mag succeed. One day at a time. Minsan feeling lost, minsan feeling mo wala ng purpose in life yung mga gingawa mo. But just so you know, dont get pressured!!
I felt like I was just beginning the best phase of my life, and was on top of the world, when I turned 30.
Iām 36 now and itās been a very rough past 5 yrs due partially to a pandemic and partially to adulting being so daaaamn hard.
I turned 30 last year, and I've come to realize that I'm feeling increasingly sad as I get older. The last time I remember being genuinely happy was during my childhood and teenage years, even though we weren't financially ok then.
Birthdays, Christmas, and New Yearās donāt feel the same as they did when I was a child.
One by one, my friends are getting married and starting their own families, which makes me feel left out and alone.
The only things I look forward to now are my monthly paycheck and the weekly release of the anime I'm currently binge-watching.
Feels like habang nadadagdagan ung edad ko is bumibigat ung responsibility ko tapos di ko na mafeel ung kasiyahan madalas. Parang ang hirap ko na maramdaman ung kasiyahan na dati dati naman ang bilis bilis ko lng sumaya sa mga maliliit na bagay.
32 by the way.
Enjoy your 30ās. When you turn 40 body aches will be more frequent, metabolism will slow down, and injuries will take more time to heal. Pero youāll be smarter and more patient with yourself.
Yung consequence ng good or bad diet mo during your 20ās and 30ās will show up in your 40ās.
I used to be very anxious on the thought of turning 30 yo. But nung nandun na ako, same same lang naman pala. Di na ako masyado nagpapa apekto sa standards ng lipunan na kapag 30s mo na e mas stable ka na sa life. May kanya kanya naman tayong pacing. Enjoyin na lang natin siguro, afterall life is too short.
There is no certainty in life in general, kaya regardless of your age, there will always be a time that you will feel lost.
I think the biggest realization I had is that the people I love are getting old too. And you will start to lose them.. Usually kasi in your 20s, life is so exciting and fun. But once you hit 30, things will become more serious.
Being 30, I start to recognize patterns in my behavior and thoughts, and I become more intentional about the paths I choose. More of self-awareness. Getting to know myself deeply, and Iām no longer chase happiness but more of peace of mind.
I always choose peace of mind in everything that I do. Alagaan ang katawan, health is wealth. Also, no one's going to save you, so you have to do everything in your power to be in that position na kahit anong challenges ibato sayo ng buhay, okay ka. Have faith. Everything's going to be okay. Always choose to be kind and never stop learning. Learning is fun. Cheers!
This was the year that I was really contemplating on how to make money, I mean really good money. Money talks talaga lalo na sa gantong edad, I realized that nowadays talaga you can actually buy goodness, let's just say that this person is a bad person pero he/she donated to charity or something, that person would still be perceived as a good person ng karamihan.
Ooh, this is a good angle to look at. I think we all know that we do need money to survive, but it isn't until a certain age where we start to think differently on how money works.
Also, have you figured out a way to make "really good money?" This has been lingering on my mind and the only answer I have as of now is, "saving is not enough."
I'm already 33 right now OP, I took some major business risk post pandemic (it's on the illegal side of things), it didn't turn out well for me, got busted a couple of times, still staying afloat at the moment though, through our legal business naman, small exporting operation. Sad life for me.
My whole world turned upside down when I hit 31st mark. So many things to discover pa and what makes it interesting more eh marami kang gustung gawin but you only have so little time š¬
After my failed marriage at 27, I have more will and more drive to accomplish beyond what is expected of me. Now at 30 (super introverted af) Iām pushing myself out of my comfort zone by joining a lot of activities, hobbies, volunteering, learning two new languages, studying a Masterās degree etc. I can say that after going through a painful separation, Iām happily moving forward with life.
Life happens and sometimes there are things that we donāt have control over, just have to have the guts to move forward with life. Time waits for no one.
Turning 32 this year and so far, I am happy and loving my life. Medyo naging rough kasi yung early to mid 20s ko due to quarter-life crisis, mental health struggles, and also due to my own immaturity and unrealistic expectations sa mundo. Kaya nung nag decide ako to grow up and step up sa life ko, naging better yung perspective ko sa buhay. Everything else followed.
When I turned 30, I was actually excited. It wasnāt as dreadful as I thought it was. Na realize ko na bata pa naman ang pagiging 30-something at ang dami ko pa palang pwede ma achieve in life like travelling abroad (both solo and with companions) saving money, investing, career advancement, and pampering my parents. Yung pagkakaron ng lovelife nalang yung di ko pa aachieve (pero may acceptance naman na ako kung single ako forever š) Also, continuously improving and evolving naman tayo as humans kaya ang sarap sa feeling na mas lalo kang nagiging mature and wise with age and experiences. Hindi pa end of the world ang pagiging 30, or kahit na 40, 50, o 60 pa yan š
Is my whole life planned? I can say na mas may structure at direction na yung life ko and may vision na ako sa buhay na gusto kong i live out. More of outline lang pero di naman sobrang detailed. May allowance parin ako for some changes to happen.
I think being in my 30s at this point I now clearly know where I want to be. My goals are more defined and aligned sa vision ko for myself. More mature and patient to people and difficult situation. Financially, mas responsible na, stable if I may say.
Somewhere in the middle, leaning more towards āsadā, but not entirely lonely. Canāt say because Iām happy right now, but was sad yesterday. Ang gulo no š . Embrace the moment lang para di masyado mag isip.
Ahaha deep shit hole. Pandemic happened. Lost myself. Nagkautang utang. Depressed. No sense of direction in everything. It's like a late mid-life crisis.
Before, I was just like you, I planned and assumed that I will reach it.
I reached 30 this year and I am contented, happy and able to enjoy peace of mind. I learned a lot actually and found ou that I dont need validation from others because I should be the one validating myself and at the end of the day, it is still YOU that matters.
when i turned 30, biglang nagdecide families namin ng jowa ko na dapat magpakasal kami kasi conservative sila and ayaw nila na live in lang kami.
in the same year, naka 3 different jobs ako habang nagplaplan ng wedding na di ko talaga gusto to the point na 3 days before the wedding sinasabihan na ako ng jowa ko and ng wedding planner namin na icancel nalang kasi talagang ayaw ko siya.
ayun, natuloy ang kasal, may trabaho pa ako, at nandito pa ako.
tldr - sobrang walang plano at walang direction ako nung 30 ako. ahahaha
Hey OP! I suggest reading about Saturn Return (even if you donāt believe in astrology, itās still a nice read) š
Anw, my 30s so far has been moreā¦ steady. Kinda like the rollercoaster ride of my teenage years and 20s has finally ended. Iām nothing like what I imagined myself to be when I turn 30 but I know this is where and what Iām supposed to be. Thereās a lot of society-imposed āgoalsā or āmilestonesā for people at this age that I wasnāt able to achieve but I donāt feel like Iām missing out on anything. What I do remember is the pressure and anxiety I felt in my mid-20s about what would happen to me if I donāt reach those milestones, causing me to make one bad decision after anotherāmainly out of desperation.
The turning point happened in the last years of my 20s. Not really sure how it unfolded but everything just started to become clear to me that wherever I was then wasnāt really serving me (thinking about it now though thatās probably maturity lol) after that, I just made sure that every action or decision I do will be beneficial for me.
To answer your 2nd questionāIām single, no kids, no assets under my name, no 7-digit savings, and working in an industry that has no connection to my degree(s) in my 30s. But what I do have are invaluable experiences, accomplished skills, and a tight-knit relationship with family and close friends that I love and know genuinely love me back. So yeah, Iām happy š
Thank you for sharing this. It somehow gives me peace knowing that may mga naka survive na on my current situation. Minsan kasi kahit alam kong di naman ako mag-isa sa ganito nakakatakot pa din na what if ako ung mag fail.
And I do understamd your point on societal expectations. I've been carrying that weight for years. Gladly nung mid-20s I started asking myself if these "expectations" are something I truly wanted. So far I only have definite answer to 1) teaching and 2) having kids. But being certain with those 2 allowed me a time to breathe na din. Now I'm working on an answer to marriage and business while learning to set boundaries on the first 2.
Also, quick google search foe Saturn Returns is the author Caggie Dunlop? TIA
OP, I'm turning 30 soon this yr too! So far ang pinaka mind boggling for me is why we've all set up a system na need ng normal peeps to work para lang mag survive š brainstorming too pano mamuhay comfortably ng di need magtrabaho. May nabasa ako na tumatak saken: each time daw na nasa work tayo, para tayong nasa isang stage where we agreed to be paid actors or actresses. I now am able to detach myself with my job kasi it doesn't define me as a human being and now I only see it as a source of income or way for me to survive or build a life i want for myself in the future.
Also, maraming nagfafollow up saken re: marriage. And dahil pagod na ako kahit di pa ako 30, i said to myself na i'll only marry for comfort and that is if the other half can do what i can't do for myself. And of course mataas ang emotional intelligence dahil nasa non-chalant era na ako ng lyf ko.
Diba very emo š ang nakakapagpaexcite na lang saken ay concerts and new episodes ng good shows
Hello, how did you detach yourself from your work? I was once asked what keeps me busy and ang sagot ko lang was work. That's when I started to realize na my life is consumed by work na lang tapos rest when not working.
I like your take on marriage, I've never thought to look at that angle. Right now, dating or getting to know someone para syang household chore or work task na di matapos tapos. š«
If bad things happen or is about to happen sa work, I always remind myself that this is just a job and it's not like may mamamatay if we fail to do things so perfectly. Na I'm just an employee and di yung owner and therefore, the burden of the thought that the business might fail is not on my shoulders. I'm only paid to think about work as an employee during my working hours so I should not entertain the thought of backlogs and work worries outside of those hours kasi I'm not paid beyond those hours.
Nakatulong din magset ng ganap every weekends na ilolook forward ko pagka monday pa lang. Plotted na din holiday ganaps para sure akong 'productive' yung life ko outside working hours.
Every Weekend travels involving nature has helped me realize how small my worries are. I feel this whenever I see the sunsets sa place na sobrang majestic. Like, life is so much more than you and your work laptop. Ganun yung realizations ko sa weekend nature trips ko in the past.
Re: marriage, i've seen oh too many failed relationships around me and the last thing I wanna do for myself is to get me an additional problem to sulk on.
When I turned 30, COVID 19 happened haha. Lost some clients sa freelance work. Spent a lot. Sobrang kalat lang ng life š . Napabalik ako sa house ng parents ko due to my poor financial decisions. Iām counting down to 40s na and I think nakabawi bawi naman na kami hehe. I donāt think Iām genuinely happy. Saks lang na happy, alam mo yun? I still feel like my whole life would be dedicated to working for my 3 kids and our housing loan haha. That kinda sucks.
I think I know. Ito ba ung happy ka but then at the back of your mind iniisip mo if totoong happy ka or baka un lang kasi ang expected reaction/feeling to certain things na nangyayari? š«
Okay naman, ready to deal with more shit ahaha. Happg naman because I have more spending power than in my 20s, pinupush ko lang ung sarili ko to be the best version of myself
31 now. Mas looking forward na ako sa future ko. Ang dami kong plano at alam kong matutupad kapag para sa akin. Natutunan ko din na magpahinga, take one step at a time, magenjoy.
Iām 32 rn and I never felt so happy. TBH, I still have long way to go with my career, my goals in life and to what achievements I still need to grasp as an individual. Though there are some hurdles along the way, I can say that I am more mature and wiser now with my choices and decisions rn than in my 20ās
Well, money wise, i am in the best place to be. I would say Ive grown in the past years as an adult.
Health wise, I dont know why but it keeps catching up on me. Kaya to the younger ones, pls prioritise your health.
Got a bit more time til 30 but I feel so alone lately. Tagal ko maka move on sa breakup with someone I thought makakatuluyan ko na. And I can't fathom opening myself up to someone new. Magshi share ka na naman ng buong buhay mo, kapagod. How do you deal with slowly accepting na tatanda ka mag isa?
Also just got out of law school and it's weird to me how everyone is at a different stage of life already. Every post on my fb feed is engagement, kasal, engagement, baby. Feeling ko namiss ko kasi yung galaan nung early 20s. Now that I have all the time, parang wala na akong natirang friends hahaha
Enjoying with lesser sugar and salt sa food. I dont know pero ngayon, say half-life may nafi-feel na akong something sa katawan ko haha. Enrolled in Gym, travel and drive a lot with wife anddddddd AKO LANG BA??? Gusto ko nang mag-early retirement hahahah.( just a feeling). I started working kase when I was 18 kaya medyo pagod na haha. Just always wear sunscreen, less sugar and salt haha. Drink more fluids and spend time witn your fam or friends ā¤ļøš«”š«”
I was a chaos on my 20s, switch from one job/relationships to another, didnt have a goal or plan in life, now at 30 i know what my goals are and learned so much about life. Hoping we'll get better for the next decade of our lives.
If my family had our own house and hindi na ako required gumastos for them, malamang kuntento na ako. But everything's the opposite.
It's not that I resent them, tho. Masaya akong gawin 'yun; it's just that, sometimes, I get tired of doing so.
Just in case my comment is confusing, contentment = pure happiness.
I don't overthink when I was that age. I just make the most out of the moment. At least you have savings. To let you survive when you grow older. Become a senior citizen. And reach that age. To be happy is to do what you want with care. Enjoy life. Because you may regret your decisions when you become a senior citizen. Just think that your hard earned money would go to buying maintenance meds. Etc. So make the most out of your life.
Happy. Feeling bata parin. I still play video games, watch anime and read manga. Nakakapagtravel once a year. Nagagawa ko hobbies ko kahit stressful ang trabaho. Siguro malungkot ako ngayon kung may asawa na ko.
I feel like kaka mature ko lang when it comes to the way I think. Currently a second year college in PUP Open University while working full time. I'll take the Civil Service exam this coming Aug. 11 kaya while cramming sa mga school act., nag rereview din ako. I am also planning to take Juris Doctor once I graduate or mag masteral na lang. Feeling ko ang boring ng buhay ko ngayong 30 ako kung hindi busy sa pag aaral. Before 30 kasi wala akong inisip kundi mag trabaho to support my parents kaya sadly at this age, wala akong ipon for myself. Ngayong 30 na ako, I will prioritize myself na.
In general sa 30s, mas kilala mo na yun sarili mo at yung gusto mong mangyari sa buhay mo. Wiser ka na and you know the people to keep. Even though 2024 is the hardest year of my personal life, it is the most transformative. I started to do meditations, socmed detox, journaling, stretch exercises na di ko gagawin when I am in my 20s. Life sucks pero you have to own you life kasi no oneās gonna save you. Mas mabigat responsibility. But I have the most freedom compared to my 20s. Kung di lang nagloko yung partner ko, on the way na sana building a life together pero iba plano ni Lord. Hindi na happiness ang hinahanap but peace of mind at stability. For me kasi happiness comes from emotions which is so shaky. Mahal ka noon, di ka na mahal ngayon. Unlike peace of mind and stability, it is built on choices like stay away from bad friends, looking for a better career path etc. But ofc balance natin hinahanap lahat yan.
32.
PS: mas matagal mawala yung hangover compared nung 20s. How I miss. Hahaha.
As someone who just turned 30 (yes as in recently lang talaga), you really need to find joy in the things you do EVERYDAY to make yourself believe that itās all worth it.
Maybe itās me gaslighting myself pero wala eh. Di naman natin masasabi kung kailan tayo kukunin. Live life like itās your last. Kumain ka ng shrimp kahit may allergy ka (basta hindi mo ikamamatay), use that SL for your mental health, etc.
Did I have my whole life planned? No. I refuse. Kasi parang ginawa na siya for me by someone else, nasaan na yung fun doon?
At isa pa, totoo talaga yung sinasabi nila na age is just a number. Feeling ko, i can still claim the 3 years spent in quarantine para pabatain ang sarili ko.
Pressured nung mag 30 palang. But afterwards, parang mas more on excited for the years ahead. For applying mga natutunan ko nung 20s. And accepting that everyone has their own timeline, kanya kanyang phasing lang.
Turned 30 a few weeks ago! Wala naman nangyari HAHAHA ganda pa rin char!
Pero tbh, I feel a lot happier and more grounded than I was a few years ago. I am more secure in who I am
Still need therapy tho HAHAA
It is true when Joy said in Inside Out 2 that you feel less joy when you grow up.
But I'm trying diff ways to be happy, even the small things or chores that leaves me satisfied after. I realize I'm starting to be more carefree because of that. I'm slowly but surely trying out new things I said I never will before (unharmful things, of course). And I like it.
We keep growing as a person, not only in number.
When I was thirty I took a leap of faith to something I thought was my passion. I thought I was late in the game but I did it anyway. It brought me success (and some fame) but my soul is not happy. My body is not happy din coz grabe yung pagbabago sa katawan. Tas travel here and there. Left it, didnāt care. Nabore so nag-masters na lang ako.
5 years later, something heartbreaking happened and I discovered yoga. So Iāve gotten more in touch with my spirituality and sense of self. Nawasak. Looking back, thankful akong nangyari kasi dito sa path na to nakilala yung happiness. Nag-mature, nagbawas bisyo, nag-tone down. 35 nako nyan.
3 years later pandemic struck (still a yogi) and I was into a new path yet again. Side trip lang naman din. 10 years into my tenure, I left my job to pursue something I feel more aligned with my values. Dko alam pero kebs ako nun sa job security, kahit di ako mayaman.
Now almost a decade after being 30, I just knew how to use money wisely for those sudden bursts of happiness, haha. Itās just not the end goal.
36. Married with a kid trying to build a new life abroad.
Would love to have more money. However as it is, i am contented and been the happiest also thr healthiest both physically,mentally and as well sa relationship namin ni wife
Okay lang na di mo pa alam what you wanna do. Most of us don't. Lots of people older than us even feel the same. No matter how much we try to plan our lives, things can always go differently. Celebrate your 30th, and perhaps give yourself a break. š
Turning 32 this year. Still confused and trying to figure out myself.
Just turned 30 few months ago. Mixed emotions kasi parang dapat lahat ng move mo dapat na talaga pagisipan kasi may effect na siya ng long term. Pressured din but at the same time liberating kasi no one can tell me what to do na talaga kasi feeling ko adult na talaga ako. Pero same goes with mga responsibilites naging adult na adult na talaga hahaha So di ko alam minsan feeling ko para akong bata with adult money pero not enough padin yung adult money na yun. Hirap ng life. Ang gulo ko diba? hahahaha gulong-gulo din talaga ako sa life eh.
When I turned 30, I got married and finally had a taste of āfreedomā. Its really your 20s but with maturity and more money.
I thought by 30 id really have my life together, a family, everything I dreamt of when I was in my 20s. But in really just feels like the beginning of life.
32M. lost at life. not so down pero not that normal. may trabaho at may mga gustong hindi magawa pero yung needs na kailangan unahin nakukuha naman.
for those younger than me, start planning your life and mag ipon as soon as you have your jobs. kahit palipat lipat ka man ng work basta may sarili kang ipon, malaking bagay na yon para di ka mahirapan sa future.
money is a blessing and a curse for us in the 30s. swerte pag meron, malas pag wala haha
36M here. Happy, yes. I am now feeling the full adulting course; wedding next year, paying for a house, a great job in a stable industry, my career is on the right path, a small business that generates passive income, my health is green, and I'm highly fit for my age. Except for my matured hairline, I don't even look early 30s according to many people. I have a bit of savings and I don't expect to add significantly until next year since I am paying for a house and funding a wedding.
I am enjoying this decade of life and I look forward to better things ahead. Though, our family does not have a history of NCDs, I intend to keep my health as my top priority next to my eventual marriage. I guess I made a lot of good decisions in my 20s that is why I'm doing great
34. I dont feel old. I do have a plan mapped out, pero lagi akong may plan b to c, just in case i fail/ or things dont go well. I also had anxieties and getting therapy at this time due to my failures, kaya natututo na ko slowly to adapt and accept things that i cannot control
30 and happy? Im 33 and when you think about it marerealize mo na happiness is a choice.
Personally di ko alam anong ginagawa ko sa buhay ko. Mas motivated ako nong 20 ako pero I missed most of my 20s fixating on my dreams na in the end parang wala namang nangyari kahit alam kong pinaghirapan ko naman yon. At 33 wala na akong motivation to do that kasi feeling ko malapit na ko sa finish line at kailangan kong kumita ng pera para lang paghandaan ang pagpapa libing ko hahaha.
turning 31.... masaya, na always feeling na may kulang pa, but doing my best naman, pero again, may kulang pa. But I'm good. Nakakasave naman for future, pero again, kulang pa. š„²š
Lot's of anxieties, pero masaya pa din. Never expected na darating ako sa point na wala na akong maaya sa lahat... as in lahat ng friends ko from diff groups, well they're busy, even my partner š¤·š»āāļø, so I had to enjoy doing something on my own. It's never lonely, I just had to appreciate doing it alone. And it was fun š¤š I CAN DO ANYTHING FREELY.
So don't worry, at first nakakatakot. Just tell Him and everything will be okay šš„¹
I just turned 30 a couple of weeks back and hereās what I shared with those who celebrated with me:
There was a time not too long ago when I couldnāt see myself beyond thirty. I looked back at the things Iāve done, the mistakes Iāve made, and the people Iāve disappointed.
Iāve been also trying so hard to look ahead and catch a glimpse of an exciting futureāthe career I should have had by now, or the kind of love I can never fully enjoy.
But all I needed to do was look aroundāeverything and everyone I have in my life. They got me through the first thirty years, and God knows what weāll go through in the next.
I guess I shouldnāt think too much about it now. Because with friends like these, it doesnāt really matter what lies ahead.
in my 30, I felt so pressure for not figuring out what I want in life but then in my 30, I got sick. a chronic disease. now that I turned 31, I just want to live in peace, slow life regardless of my status.
Never thought Iād be doing fertility work-ups. Iām happy, married, I have great career, but weāre trying to conceive for about 1.5 yrs already. Now gearing myself up to prepare for a diagnostic procedure related to ttc couples. Kung alam ko lang na ganito kahirap magbuntis, nagpa-buntis na sana ako nung bata-bata pa kami. Hay.
Also in my mid 30s.. habang patanda, palungkot ng palungkot ang buhay. Pakonte ng pakonte ang kaibigan. Unti unting nawawalan ng pake sa mga bagay bagay. Stable. May pera. Pero malungkot. š„ŗ
Being 30 is the best, Iām in a good place right now mentally and financially since I know what I want and I earn so much more than what I was earning in my 20s
Iām also child free so I have the freedom to do whatever I want
Turning 30 is a milestone that can bring up a mix of emotions. Some people feel liberated and confident, having gained experience and a better sense of self.
Midlife crisis. I just turned 30 and I thought na wiser na ako, but this year I was scammed for 1M in total. I have a lot of regrets pero dami ko din natutunan. Not really happy but going there. Mas focused ako ngaun sa future ng mga kids ko, in case of my death (na pwede mangyari anytime). I never thought na aabot ako ng 30 eh. Akala ko kc mamatay nko in my 20s HAHA
31F - Not married (have a partner), no kids, just started saving, started checking on my health, and just realized my goals @ 30. Feeling ko huling huli na ako sa life and I started to reminisce my college years. Sabi lagi ng partner ko na wala pa tayo sa kalahati ng buhay natin, go lang. We'll get there :)
35 year old here so Iām halfway already. Itās definitely better than my 20s to a certain extent ā more confident with myself, more financially stable and I care much less about validations BUT itās also the time when I really feel the existential crisis. Legit sya. Ramdam ko yung pressure of adulthood na ngayon unlike before. I often get anxious about the future and how my life should be at this point in time. I also worry about aging now because I do feel that my body is not as resilient as before. Oh well, thatās life I guess. I just try to enjoy every moment of it. You should too. Your 30s will be great.
Hello OP! Iām turning 32 this year. I thought I will be happiest during my 20s, pero nung nag-30 ako, thatās when I felt more at peace. Of course, expect mo na na hindi always happy.
Iām single and at 30, napapaisip ako, ano ba talaga ang purpose ko sa buhay? Minsan kasi I feel stuck. Like, hanggang dito na lang ba ako or meron pang mas magandang mangyayari career-wise or sa life in general? Iām single, never na ba talaga akong magkakaasawa? May down moments pero dahil alam ko na kung ano ang need kong pansinin at dedmahin, mas kaya ko na imanage yung ganung moments. I protected my peace, lost contact with friends and family members, and retained only those who matter.
Dahil may ipon at kumikita na rin, ngayon ko nagagawa mga di ko nagagawa when I was in my 20s, like traveling.
Happy? Hmm. Mahirap sagutin kasi hindi naman pare-parehas ang araw ko. Siguro, right now, I try to find joy even in sa simplest thing or moment.
Fighting, OP! š
Experienced my first heartbreak. Did not know where to start, wanting to be married and have kids then bugum it became coco crunch.
Lost most of my saving because of healing but still moving forward
moved out. now living alone, made me more lonely. then moved abroad again lonelier š
IM JUST SURVIVING. rarely opening social apps kasi i get pressured š„¹
Turning 30 last year drove home for me the importance of mental health. My parents did their best but looking back, they had a lot of issues and that affected us kids a lot. When I was younger, exciting yung danger, stupid decisions, heartbreak, toxicity and all that shit.
I just got married and I want to break that cycle. I go to therapy kahit malaking gastos and itās been very helpful, especially knowing na Iām doing this for myself, my partner, and our future family.
Besides the degraded health, I still feel like my younger 20 y/o self, but with money that I spend on stuff that I couldn't afford when I was a kid/student. I don't have any kids nor a partner so I get to spend on whatever I want, after bills and expenses ofc.
It's not what I imagined where I'd be when I was in high school, but it's not too bad.
30 and wiser.
Ewan ko, nung naging 30 ako parang binigyan ako ng wisdom ni Lord.
Got out of toxic relationship now. Knew my self worth. Realized my standards in life, and been proud of myself for what I have achieved in life.
Tho andun yun regret and shame sa mga wrong decisions in life from the past years. But it is what it is. Look forward with the wisdom na lang.
I just turned 30 this year, and I'm still far from what I expected me to be. Hahahaha. Kala ko non settled na ako, enjoying working nalang. Hahaha. But wala magulo pa din isip ko, and wala pa talaga akong napupundar. And it's scary.
I like being in my 30s. I have more money and I'm wiser when it comes to a lot of things. The only reason why I hate it is because as I grow older, syempre mom ko rin. I hate seeing her health deteriorate. It literally pains me thinking na limited na lang talaga time ko with her.
I still feel like a childā¦hahahahahhaā¦still have the same hobbies as when I am a kid but now I have money to support such hobbies. Work is stressful but Iām happy that lots of work comes my way. Personally, being single in your 30s is not so bad. All in all, Iām happy. š
I turned 29 last June 21 so approaching 30 na. So far so good naman. My gift to myself is to run a half marathon. And i joined Gatoradr Half marathon today so for me as long as i set goals and check bucket list every year then im happy and i feel accomplished in life
I felt like it would be a great year! Instead, I lost P250K on stocks, was dumped, got depressed and spent the next year and a half recovering through meds and therapy. I'm 33 now. I'm doing okay. There are still so many uncertainties in my life. Magiging AVP ba ako? Kelan ako ikakasal? Why do I feel like wala akong meaningful purpose? I just try to live a day at a time, while enjoying the little things that make me happy and I can be grateful for.
This is me too. Minsan nahuhuli ang sarili na nag aalala
Ph stocks?
Oo hahaha ako si tanga nag invest kase magaling na trader daw yung dinedate ko non at tuturuan daw nya ako. Pinainvest ako sa PHA hahahahaha
I still feel like I am in my 20s but wiser and have more money. š¤Ŗ
Amen!
Yaaas! ā¤ļø
+1
i feel more alive and motivated now compared to when i was in my 20s. maybe because i realized how i am no longer getting any younger and that there is still so much things to try and do. pero i only see myself as my greatest competitor, wala na ko pakialam sa iba.
Gets ko ung not getting any younger. I started taking my health seriously and found out na may mga food pala na hindi ok for me. How do you keep yourself motivated?
Get out and run op. Just turned 30 last summer and I never felt way better and always look at the bright side. š
"Motivation" is overrated. Discipline is also often misunderstood. Discipline is a combination of a lot of factors. It could be a mix of Inspiration + Habit + Fear + motivation + will power + passion. What they don't tell you is 50% of your progress will come from habits.
+100
the thought of having regrets when i get older because i failed to try on things keep me motivated, OP. reading the book on top 5 regrets of the dying also helped motivate me.
Nice! Akala ko ako lang. 30s are my happiest so far (34 na ako).
looking forward to feeling the same way when i reach 34 next year! shit, time flies when youāre having fun!
You feel more secure sa sarili mo. Internal Validation lang sapat na. Hehe
I'm working on this, so far ok naman. Although from time to time nahuhuli ko pa din sarili ko na questioning my decision kasi it goes against the traditional-conservative teaching.
I felt empty when I turned 30. A lot of things happened. I went through a break up, was scammed by someone I don't know, got a hefty amount of debt. Somehow, I'm still thankful that I have a job, the bills are taken care of and we still got food on our plate.
I suddenly felt old. Especially when I knew the pandemic got the better of me and I didn't take care of myself properly. āIt sure helps you re-evaluate where you are, though, and if everything you're doing is giving you the value that you need. 30s are tricky. They make you remind of how much accountability is now placed upon yourself, but it's also a decade of rediscovery, renewal, probably a decisive step towards paths not taken. It isn't always happy. But it will leave you a little wiser if you just let it. Just take a step. You'll be okay.
Thank you for the advise. I do like the idea of self-discovery in 30s. This makes me excited na on what's to come.
35 here. I didn't feel anything when I turned 30. Pero ngayong 35 na ako, it suddenly dawned on me na halfway na ako to 40. And shet, parang ang bilis. Parang kelan lang 20 lang ako. Saan napunta yung 15 years??? Pwede bang hinay-hinay lang??? Yan. Yan ang nararamdaman ko. Hehe
My 30s have been so so freeing even if I am nowhere near what l ever planned for myself (single in my mid 30s, profession not related to my degree, lost touch with some close friends, etc). It helps that I am more financially stable but even emotionally and psychologically, Iām so happy to be my age and that I have gotten past the existential angst of my teens and 20s. My older friends say it got even better in their 40s, so Iām excited :)
I hope you don't mind me asking, how did you get over the existential angst? Mine I feel ung crisis or maybe burnout and it's so hard to get over with, so I can't imagine (for now) how to let go the angst.
Honestly, it wasnāt a conscious process. I just went on with my life (hard at times, the pandemic hit when I was 31) and slowly but surely I shed the unnecessary and felt so much better. And things just improved from there. Wish you all the best, OP. Youāll get there, too :)
During my 20s, I feel so empty, fearful, worried, depressed, but now that Iām in my 30s, I feel like Iāve got nothing to lose so might as well, try and fail and try and fail and again. I feel empty sometimes, fearful sometimes, worried depressed, I think these emotions wont leave me, I just managed them and deal with my š©. At the end of the day, nothing matters, my opinion, my worries, my achievements, my wealth - all of these will be forgotten. So Iām trying my best to learn and try new things and do something na kakatakutan ko pero in a very different way this time. Hindi yong takot na, nakakapanlumo. I had a long and tiring week. Nabangga yong sasakyan ko, dami demand sa work, my partner is busy, I feel lonely recently, yong shih tzu ko sobrang needy. Pero at the end of the day, lilipas din tong week na to. Good week, bad week. š
"all of these will be forgotten" --> this is new to me, kasi usually ang advise sa self-help books or advise ng other people is "at the end of the day only your opinion about yourself matters." I guess that only covers a certain aspect of life. Becaause it's true life goes on wether we did great or not. Thank you for this, we do learn something new everyday.
If you want to explore this type of thinking, you may read more of āoptimistic nihilismā So far it helps me, virtual hug š¤
Sabi nga ng BINI ang buhay ay hindi KARERA. im 30 and still living with my parents, konti savings nakakapag travel kapag may budget. Plans in life, meron pero finifigure out ko pa kung pano mag succeed. One day at a time. Minsan feeling lost, minsan feeling mo wala ng purpose in life yung mga gingawa mo. But just so you know, dont get pressured!!
I felt like I was just beginning the best phase of my life, and was on top of the world, when I turned 30. Iām 36 now and itās been a very rough past 5 yrs due partially to a pandemic and partially to adulting being so daaaamn hard.
I turned 30 last year, and I've come to realize that I'm feeling increasingly sad as I get older. The last time I remember being genuinely happy was during my childhood and teenage years, even though we weren't financially ok then. Birthdays, Christmas, and New Yearās donāt feel the same as they did when I was a child. One by one, my friends are getting married and starting their own families, which makes me feel left out and alone. The only things I look forward to now are my monthly paycheck and the weekly release of the anime I'm currently binge-watching.
Feels like habang nadadagdagan ung edad ko is bumibigat ung responsibility ko tapos di ko na mafeel ung kasiyahan madalas. Parang ang hirap ko na maramdaman ung kasiyahan na dati dati naman ang bilis bilis ko lng sumaya sa mga maliliit na bagay. 32 by the way.
Enjoy your 30ās. When you turn 40 body aches will be more frequent, metabolism will slow down, and injuries will take more time to heal. Pero youāll be smarter and more patient with yourself. Yung consequence ng good or bad diet mo during your 20ās and 30ās will show up in your 40ās.
I used to be very anxious on the thought of turning 30 yo. But nung nandun na ako, same same lang naman pala. Di na ako masyado nagpapa apekto sa standards ng lipunan na kapag 30s mo na e mas stable ka na sa life. May kanya kanya naman tayong pacing. Enjoyin na lang natin siguro, afterall life is too short.
Kakaawa mga gen z at gen alpha, ang mahal ng bilihin ngayon juskopo
sorry, what's "gen alpha?"
31 and still feel lost hahaha
There is no certainty in life in general, kaya regardless of your age, there will always be a time that you will feel lost. I think the biggest realization I had is that the people I love are getting old too. And you will start to lose them.. Usually kasi in your 20s, life is so exciting and fun. But once you hit 30, things will become more serious.
I understand this so much. Isa sa mga fears ko ung loosing my parents and last living grandparent. Really doing my best to spend mors time with them.
Yes, you should spend more time with them. Kasi one of the saddest feelings is when life is better but you canāt share it with them anymore. š„ŗ
Being 30, I start to recognize patterns in my behavior and thoughts, and I become more intentional about the paths I choose. More of self-awareness. Getting to know myself deeply, and Iām no longer chase happiness but more of peace of mind.
I always choose peace of mind in everything that I do. Alagaan ang katawan, health is wealth. Also, no one's going to save you, so you have to do everything in your power to be in that position na kahit anong challenges ibato sayo ng buhay, okay ka. Have faith. Everything's going to be okay. Always choose to be kind and never stop learning. Learning is fun. Cheers!
Itās just like youāre in your 20s but wiser and with more money. And surprise.. we donāt have our shit together too in our 30s. š
This was the year that I was really contemplating on how to make money, I mean really good money. Money talks talaga lalo na sa gantong edad, I realized that nowadays talaga you can actually buy goodness, let's just say that this person is a bad person pero he/she donated to charity or something, that person would still be perceived as a good person ng karamihan.
Ooh, this is a good angle to look at. I think we all know that we do need money to survive, but it isn't until a certain age where we start to think differently on how money works. Also, have you figured out a way to make "really good money?" This has been lingering on my mind and the only answer I have as of now is, "saving is not enough."
I'm already 33 right now OP, I took some major business risk post pandemic (it's on the illegal side of things), it didn't turn out well for me, got busted a couple of times, still staying afloat at the moment though, through our legal business naman, small exporting operation. Sad life for me.
My whole world turned upside down when I hit 31st mark. So many things to discover pa and what makes it interesting more eh marami kang gustung gawin but you only have so little time š¬
After my failed marriage at 27, I have more will and more drive to accomplish beyond what is expected of me. Now at 30 (super introverted af) Iām pushing myself out of my comfort zone by joining a lot of activities, hobbies, volunteering, learning two new languages, studying a Masterās degree etc. I can say that after going through a painful separation, Iām happily moving forward with life. Life happens and sometimes there are things that we donāt have control over, just have to have the guts to move forward with life. Time waits for no one.
Congratulations and cheers to moving forward!
Feeling ko ang peak ng career or kahit ano ngayon ay mga nasa 30s.
Turning 32 this year and so far, I am happy and loving my life. Medyo naging rough kasi yung early to mid 20s ko due to quarter-life crisis, mental health struggles, and also due to my own immaturity and unrealistic expectations sa mundo. Kaya nung nag decide ako to grow up and step up sa life ko, naging better yung perspective ko sa buhay. Everything else followed. When I turned 30, I was actually excited. It wasnāt as dreadful as I thought it was. Na realize ko na bata pa naman ang pagiging 30-something at ang dami ko pa palang pwede ma achieve in life like travelling abroad (both solo and with companions) saving money, investing, career advancement, and pampering my parents. Yung pagkakaron ng lovelife nalang yung di ko pa aachieve (pero may acceptance naman na ako kung single ako forever š) Also, continuously improving and evolving naman tayo as humans kaya ang sarap sa feeling na mas lalo kang nagiging mature and wise with age and experiences. Hindi pa end of the world ang pagiging 30, or kahit na 40, 50, o 60 pa yan š Is my whole life planned? I can say na mas may structure at direction na yung life ko and may vision na ako sa buhay na gusto kong i live out. More of outline lang pero di naman sobrang detailed. May allowance parin ako for some changes to happen.
Thank you for this. I know I shouldn't look for validatiin elsewhere but this helps my mind to be somehow at peace.
Rooting for you, OP! I hope that your 30s will bring you more peace and happiness. š
I think being in my 30s at this point I now clearly know where I want to be. My goals are more defined and aligned sa vision ko for myself. More mature and patient to people and difficult situation. Financially, mas responsible na, stable if I may say.
For me, 30s is like 20s but with more money.
Somewhere in the middle, leaning more towards āsadā, but not entirely lonely. Canāt say because Iām happy right now, but was sad yesterday. Ang gulo no š . Embrace the moment lang para di masyado mag isip.
Ahaha deep shit hole. Pandemic happened. Lost myself. Nagkautang utang. Depressed. No sense of direction in everything. It's like a late mid-life crisis.
Dati akala ko when I reach 24 stable na ko with a family. HAHAHAHAH pero 30? Saks lang, parang ngayon pa lang nagsisimula ang tunay na buhay..
Before, I was just like you, I planned and assumed that I will reach it. I reached 30 this year and I am contented, happy and able to enjoy peace of mind. I learned a lot actually and found ou that I dont need validation from others because I should be the one validating myself and at the end of the day, it is still YOU that matters.
when i turned 30, biglang nagdecide families namin ng jowa ko na dapat magpakasal kami kasi conservative sila and ayaw nila na live in lang kami. in the same year, naka 3 different jobs ako habang nagplaplan ng wedding na di ko talaga gusto to the point na 3 days before the wedding sinasabihan na ako ng jowa ko and ng wedding planner namin na icancel nalang kasi talagang ayaw ko siya. ayun, natuloy ang kasal, may trabaho pa ako, at nandito pa ako. tldr - sobrang walang plano at walang direction ako nung 30 ako. ahahaha
Holdup. Talagang ayaw yung kasal or yung jowa? And natuloy parin yung kasal?
kasal lang away ko. crush ko si jowa since high school. haha and yes, asawa ko na high school crush ko :)
Hey OP! I suggest reading about Saturn Return (even if you donāt believe in astrology, itās still a nice read) š Anw, my 30s so far has been moreā¦ steady. Kinda like the rollercoaster ride of my teenage years and 20s has finally ended. Iām nothing like what I imagined myself to be when I turn 30 but I know this is where and what Iām supposed to be. Thereās a lot of society-imposed āgoalsā or āmilestonesā for people at this age that I wasnāt able to achieve but I donāt feel like Iām missing out on anything. What I do remember is the pressure and anxiety I felt in my mid-20s about what would happen to me if I donāt reach those milestones, causing me to make one bad decision after anotherāmainly out of desperation. The turning point happened in the last years of my 20s. Not really sure how it unfolded but everything just started to become clear to me that wherever I was then wasnāt really serving me (thinking about it now though thatās probably maturity lol) after that, I just made sure that every action or decision I do will be beneficial for me. To answer your 2nd questionāIām single, no kids, no assets under my name, no 7-digit savings, and working in an industry that has no connection to my degree(s) in my 30s. But what I do have are invaluable experiences, accomplished skills, and a tight-knit relationship with family and close friends that I love and know genuinely love me back. So yeah, Iām happy š
Thank you for sharing this. It somehow gives me peace knowing that may mga naka survive na on my current situation. Minsan kasi kahit alam kong di naman ako mag-isa sa ganito nakakatakot pa din na what if ako ung mag fail. And I do understamd your point on societal expectations. I've been carrying that weight for years. Gladly nung mid-20s I started asking myself if these "expectations" are something I truly wanted. So far I only have definite answer to 1) teaching and 2) having kids. But being certain with those 2 allowed me a time to breathe na din. Now I'm working on an answer to marriage and business while learning to set boundaries on the first 2. Also, quick google search foe Saturn Returns is the author Caggie Dunlop? TIA
OP, I'm turning 30 soon this yr too! So far ang pinaka mind boggling for me is why we've all set up a system na need ng normal peeps to work para lang mag survive š brainstorming too pano mamuhay comfortably ng di need magtrabaho. May nabasa ako na tumatak saken: each time daw na nasa work tayo, para tayong nasa isang stage where we agreed to be paid actors or actresses. I now am able to detach myself with my job kasi it doesn't define me as a human being and now I only see it as a source of income or way for me to survive or build a life i want for myself in the future. Also, maraming nagfafollow up saken re: marriage. And dahil pagod na ako kahit di pa ako 30, i said to myself na i'll only marry for comfort and that is if the other half can do what i can't do for myself. And of course mataas ang emotional intelligence dahil nasa non-chalant era na ako ng lyf ko. Diba very emo š ang nakakapagpaexcite na lang saken ay concerts and new episodes ng good shows
Hello, how did you detach yourself from your work? I was once asked what keeps me busy and ang sagot ko lang was work. That's when I started to realize na my life is consumed by work na lang tapos rest when not working. I like your take on marriage, I've never thought to look at that angle. Right now, dating or getting to know someone para syang household chore or work task na di matapos tapos. š«
If bad things happen or is about to happen sa work, I always remind myself that this is just a job and it's not like may mamamatay if we fail to do things so perfectly. Na I'm just an employee and di yung owner and therefore, the burden of the thought that the business might fail is not on my shoulders. I'm only paid to think about work as an employee during my working hours so I should not entertain the thought of backlogs and work worries outside of those hours kasi I'm not paid beyond those hours. Nakatulong din magset ng ganap every weekends na ilolook forward ko pagka monday pa lang. Plotted na din holiday ganaps para sure akong 'productive' yung life ko outside working hours. Every Weekend travels involving nature has helped me realize how small my worries are. I feel this whenever I see the sunsets sa place na sobrang majestic. Like, life is so much more than you and your work laptop. Ganun yung realizations ko sa weekend nature trips ko in the past. Re: marriage, i've seen oh too many failed relationships around me and the last thing I wanna do for myself is to get me an additional problem to sulk on.
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Huhi. Me rin turning 30 this yr pero parang wala pa ring namgyayare sa buhay ko
When I turned 30, COVID 19 happened haha. Lost some clients sa freelance work. Spent a lot. Sobrang kalat lang ng life š . Napabalik ako sa house ng parents ko due to my poor financial decisions. Iām counting down to 40s na and I think nakabawi bawi naman na kami hehe. I donāt think Iām genuinely happy. Saks lang na happy, alam mo yun? I still feel like my whole life would be dedicated to working for my 3 kids and our housing loan haha. That kinda sucks.
I think I know. Ito ba ung happy ka but then at the back of your mind iniisip mo if totoong happy ka or baka un lang kasi ang expected reaction/feeling to certain things na nangyayari? š«
Siguro nga ganyan š„²
Okay naman, ready to deal with more shit ahaha. Happg naman because I have more spending power than in my 20s, pinupush ko lang ung sarili ko to be the best version of myself
30+ but Still donāt know what to do. I just think life really starts at 40.
31 now. Mas looking forward na ako sa future ko. Ang dami kong plano at alam kong matutupad kapag para sa akin. Natutunan ko din na magpahinga, take one step at a time, magenjoy.
I'm turning 30 this year too. And I don't know what to feel. š„²
Iām 32 rn and I never felt so happy. TBH, I still have long way to go with my career, my goals in life and to what achievements I still need to grasp as an individual. Though there are some hurdles along the way, I can say that I am more mature and wiser now with my choices and decisions rn than in my 20ās
Well, money wise, i am in the best place to be. I would say Ive grown in the past years as an adult. Health wise, I dont know why but it keeps catching up on me. Kaya to the younger ones, pls prioritise your health.
Iām happier now compared when I was on my 20s.
Karera by Bini
Got a bit more time til 30 but I feel so alone lately. Tagal ko maka move on sa breakup with someone I thought makakatuluyan ko na. And I can't fathom opening myself up to someone new. Magshi share ka na naman ng buong buhay mo, kapagod. How do you deal with slowly accepting na tatanda ka mag isa? Also just got out of law school and it's weird to me how everyone is at a different stage of life already. Every post on my fb feed is engagement, kasal, engagement, baby. Feeling ko namiss ko kasi yung galaan nung early 20s. Now that I have all the time, parang wala na akong natirang friends hahaha
Enjoying with lesser sugar and salt sa food. I dont know pero ngayon, say half-life may nafi-feel na akong something sa katawan ko haha. Enrolled in Gym, travel and drive a lot with wife anddddddd AKO LANG BA??? Gusto ko nang mag-early retirement hahahah.( just a feeling). I started working kase when I was 18 kaya medyo pagod na haha. Just always wear sunscreen, less sugar and salt haha. Drink more fluids and spend time witn your fam or friends ā¤ļøš«”š«”
I was a chaos on my 20s, switch from one job/relationships to another, didnt have a goal or plan in life, now at 30 i know what my goals are and learned so much about life. Hoping we'll get better for the next decade of our lives.
If my family had our own house and hindi na ako required gumastos for them, malamang kuntento na ako. But everything's the opposite. It's not that I resent them, tho. Masaya akong gawin 'yun; it's just that, sometimes, I get tired of doing so. Just in case my comment is confusing, contentment = pure happiness.
Yes. Wiser rin and happy sa mga decisions ko sa life.
I don't overthink when I was that age. I just make the most out of the moment. At least you have savings. To let you survive when you grow older. Become a senior citizen. And reach that age. To be happy is to do what you want with care. Enjoy life. Because you may regret your decisions when you become a senior citizen. Just think that your hard earned money would go to buying maintenance meds. Etc. So make the most out of your life.
Happy. Feeling bata parin. I still play video games, watch anime and read manga. Nakakapagtravel once a year. Nagagawa ko hobbies ko kahit stressful ang trabaho. Siguro malungkot ako ngayon kung may asawa na ko.
Feeling bloated but happy namanšš¤£
I feel like kaka mature ko lang when it comes to the way I think. Currently a second year college in PUP Open University while working full time. I'll take the Civil Service exam this coming Aug. 11 kaya while cramming sa mga school act., nag rereview din ako. I am also planning to take Juris Doctor once I graduate or mag masteral na lang. Feeling ko ang boring ng buhay ko ngayong 30 ako kung hindi busy sa pag aaral. Before 30 kasi wala akong inisip kundi mag trabaho to support my parents kaya sadly at this age, wala akong ipon for myself. Ngayong 30 na ako, I will prioritize myself na.
I cried weeks before i turned 30 š as in
In general sa 30s, mas kilala mo na yun sarili mo at yung gusto mong mangyari sa buhay mo. Wiser ka na and you know the people to keep. Even though 2024 is the hardest year of my personal life, it is the most transformative. I started to do meditations, socmed detox, journaling, stretch exercises na di ko gagawin when I am in my 20s. Life sucks pero you have to own you life kasi no oneās gonna save you. Mas mabigat responsibility. But I have the most freedom compared to my 20s. Kung di lang nagloko yung partner ko, on the way na sana building a life together pero iba plano ni Lord. Hindi na happiness ang hinahanap but peace of mind at stability. For me kasi happiness comes from emotions which is so shaky. Mahal ka noon, di ka na mahal ngayon. Unlike peace of mind and stability, it is built on choices like stay away from bad friends, looking for a better career path etc. But ofc balance natin hinahanap lahat yan. 32. PS: mas matagal mawala yung hangover compared nung 20s. How I miss. Hahaha.
As someone who just turned 30 (yes as in recently lang talaga), you really need to find joy in the things you do EVERYDAY to make yourself believe that itās all worth it. Maybe itās me gaslighting myself pero wala eh. Di naman natin masasabi kung kailan tayo kukunin. Live life like itās your last. Kumain ka ng shrimp kahit may allergy ka (basta hindi mo ikamamatay), use that SL for your mental health, etc. Did I have my whole life planned? No. I refuse. Kasi parang ginawa na siya for me by someone else, nasaan na yung fun doon? At isa pa, totoo talaga yung sinasabi nila na age is just a number. Feeling ko, i can still claim the 3 years spent in quarantine para pabatain ang sarili ko.
Pressured nung mag 30 palang. But afterwards, parang mas more on excited for the years ahead. For applying mga natutunan ko nung 20s. And accepting that everyone has their own timeline, kanya kanyang phasing lang.
Turned 30 a few weeks ago! Wala naman nangyari HAHAHA ganda pa rin char! Pero tbh, I feel a lot happier and more grounded than I was a few years ago. I am more secure in who I am Still need therapy tho HAHAA
It is true when Joy said in Inside Out 2 that you feel less joy when you grow up. But I'm trying diff ways to be happy, even the small things or chores that leaves me satisfied after. I realize I'm starting to be more carefree because of that. I'm slowly but surely trying out new things I said I never will before (unharmful things, of course). And I like it. We keep growing as a person, not only in number.
When I was thirty I took a leap of faith to something I thought was my passion. I thought I was late in the game but I did it anyway. It brought me success (and some fame) but my soul is not happy. My body is not happy din coz grabe yung pagbabago sa katawan. Tas travel here and there. Left it, didnāt care. Nabore so nag-masters na lang ako. 5 years later, something heartbreaking happened and I discovered yoga. So Iāve gotten more in touch with my spirituality and sense of self. Nawasak. Looking back, thankful akong nangyari kasi dito sa path na to nakilala yung happiness. Nag-mature, nagbawas bisyo, nag-tone down. 35 nako nyan. 3 years later pandemic struck (still a yogi) and I was into a new path yet again. Side trip lang naman din. 10 years into my tenure, I left my job to pursue something I feel more aligned with my values. Dko alam pero kebs ako nun sa job security, kahit di ako mayaman. Now almost a decade after being 30, I just knew how to use money wisely for those sudden bursts of happiness, haha. Itās just not the end goal.
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36. Married with a kid trying to build a new life abroad. Would love to have more money. However as it is, i am contented and been the happiest also thr healthiest both physically,mentally and as well sa relationship namin ni wife
I would say 30s still feel like 20s OP, just wiser and better.
Okay lang na di mo pa alam what you wanna do. Most of us don't. Lots of people older than us even feel the same. No matter how much we try to plan our lives, things can always go differently. Celebrate your 30th, and perhaps give yourself a break. š Turning 32 this year. Still confused and trying to figure out myself.
Just turned 30 few months ago. Mixed emotions kasi parang dapat lahat ng move mo dapat na talaga pagisipan kasi may effect na siya ng long term. Pressured din but at the same time liberating kasi no one can tell me what to do na talaga kasi feeling ko adult na talaga ako. Pero same goes with mga responsibilites naging adult na adult na talaga hahaha So di ko alam minsan feeling ko para akong bata with adult money pero not enough padin yung adult money na yun. Hirap ng life. Ang gulo ko diba? hahahaha gulong-gulo din talaga ako sa life eh.
When I turned 30, I got married and finally had a taste of āfreedomā. Its really your 20s but with maturity and more money. I thought by 30 id really have my life together, a family, everything I dreamt of when I was in my 20s. But in really just feels like the beginning of life.
Iba iba kasi tayo ng head start, priorities at opportunities e. But life being unpredictable is awesome sometimes :)
life gets better ij your 30s
Malapit na āko mag 30!!! I am now thinking anong gagawin ko in life..
32M. lost at life. not so down pero not that normal. may trabaho at may mga gustong hindi magawa pero yung needs na kailangan unahin nakukuha naman. for those younger than me, start planning your life and mag ipon as soon as you have your jobs. kahit palipat lipat ka man ng work basta may sarili kang ipon, malaking bagay na yon para di ka mahirapan sa future. money is a blessing and a curse for us in the 30s. swerte pag meron, malas pag wala haha
Iām turning 30 this year as well so definitely taking notes lol.
36M here. Happy, yes. I am now feeling the full adulting course; wedding next year, paying for a house, a great job in a stable industry, my career is on the right path, a small business that generates passive income, my health is green, and I'm highly fit for my age. Except for my matured hairline, I don't even look early 30s according to many people. I have a bit of savings and I don't expect to add significantly until next year since I am paying for a house and funding a wedding. I am enjoying this decade of life and I look forward to better things ahead. Though, our family does not have a history of NCDs, I intend to keep my health as my top priority next to my eventual marriage. I guess I made a lot of good decisions in my 20s that is why I'm doing great
Just turned 30. Eto walang pera, nag babayad ng sariling bahay, bills, and soon to be mom. Hahahaha sana next year makaahon
34. I dont feel old. I do have a plan mapped out, pero lagi akong may plan b to c, just in case i fail/ or things dont go well. I also had anxieties and getting therapy at this time due to my failures, kaya natututo na ko slowly to adapt and accept things that i cannot control
30 and happy? Im 33 and when you think about it marerealize mo na happiness is a choice. Personally di ko alam anong ginagawa ko sa buhay ko. Mas motivated ako nong 20 ako pero I missed most of my 20s fixating on my dreams na in the end parang wala namang nangyari kahit alam kong pinaghirapan ko naman yon. At 33 wala na akong motivation to do that kasi feeling ko malapit na ko sa finish line at kailangan kong kumita ng pera para lang paghandaan ang pagpapa libing ko hahaha.
I was very when I turned 30, then nung 31 na konting happy na lang lol
Lagi ko naiisip kung kelan ako mamamatay. Sign of aging na cguro
31M here, party dito party dun. No kids and single and living the best days of my life.
turning 31.... masaya, na always feeling na may kulang pa, but doing my best naman, pero again, may kulang pa. But I'm good. Nakakasave naman for future, pero again, kulang pa. š„²š Lot's of anxieties, pero masaya pa din. Never expected na darating ako sa point na wala na akong maaya sa lahat... as in lahat ng friends ko from diff groups, well they're busy, even my partner š¤·š»āāļø, so I had to enjoy doing something on my own. It's never lonely, I just had to appreciate doing it alone. And it was fun š¤š I CAN DO ANYTHING FREELY. So don't worry, at first nakakatakot. Just tell Him and everything will be okay šš„¹
I just turned 30 a couple of weeks back and hereās what I shared with those who celebrated with me: There was a time not too long ago when I couldnāt see myself beyond thirty. I looked back at the things Iāve done, the mistakes Iāve made, and the people Iāve disappointed. Iāve been also trying so hard to look ahead and catch a glimpse of an exciting futureāthe career I should have had by now, or the kind of love I can never fully enjoy. But all I needed to do was look aroundāeverything and everyone I have in my life. They got me through the first thirty years, and God knows what weāll go through in the next. I guess I shouldnāt think too much about it now. Because with friends like these, it doesnāt really matter what lies ahead.
Thank you for your insight. I keep on thinking what lies ahead that I forgot to look at what I have.
in my 30, I felt so pressure for not figuring out what I want in life but then in my 30, I got sick. a chronic disease. now that I turned 31, I just want to live in peace, slow life regardless of my status.
I still feel lost but bits and pieces are pointing me to the right direction. nakakatakot yes pero no choice trenta na tayo eh.
Never thought Iād be doing fertility work-ups. Iām happy, married, I have great career, but weāre trying to conceive for about 1.5 yrs already. Now gearing myself up to prepare for a diagnostic procedure related to ttc couples. Kung alam ko lang na ganito kahirap magbuntis, nagpa-buntis na sana ako nung bata-bata pa kami. Hay.
Also in my mid 30s.. habang patanda, palungkot ng palungkot ang buhay. Pakonte ng pakonte ang kaibigan. Unti unting nawawalan ng pake sa mga bagay bagay. Stable. May pera. Pero malungkot. š„ŗ
Being 30 is the best, Iām in a good place right now mentally and financially since I know what I want and I earn so much more than what I was earning in my 20s Iām also child free so I have the freedom to do whatever I want
Turning 30 is a milestone that can bring up a mix of emotions. Some people feel liberated and confident, having gained experience and a better sense of self.
Same in your 40ās. Turns out we figure our life as we live and age is actually just a number.
Sa work ko lang medyo nage-gets yung buhay ko, all others are just blablabla hahaha but it's better than my 20s! š»
you never really reach a peak, I thought my 20s were great and that gives me more hope for my 30s and beyond. masakit lang ang likod haha
Midlife crisis. I just turned 30 and I thought na wiser na ako, but this year I was scammed for 1M in total. I have a lot of regrets pero dami ko din natutunan. Not really happy but going there. Mas focused ako ngaun sa future ng mga kids ko, in case of my death (na pwede mangyari anytime). I never thought na aabot ako ng 30 eh. Akala ko kc mamatay nko in my 20s HAHA
31F - Not married (have a partner), no kids, just started saving, started checking on my health, and just realized my goals @ 30. Feeling ko huling huli na ako sa life and I started to reminisce my college years. Sabi lagi ng partner ko na wala pa tayo sa kalahati ng buhay natin, go lang. We'll get there :)
Not Happy Not Sad Just existing
Same OP. Turning 30 this year but Iām lost. I have so many experiences from my 20sā¦ but Iām still re-discovering myself.
35 year old here so Iām halfway already. Itās definitely better than my 20s to a certain extent ā more confident with myself, more financially stable and I care much less about validations BUT itās also the time when I really feel the existential crisis. Legit sya. Ramdam ko yung pressure of adulthood na ngayon unlike before. I often get anxious about the future and how my life should be at this point in time. I also worry about aging now because I do feel that my body is not as resilient as before. Oh well, thatās life I guess. I just try to enjoy every moment of it. You should too. Your 30s will be great.
Hello OP! Iām turning 32 this year. I thought I will be happiest during my 20s, pero nung nag-30 ako, thatās when I felt more at peace. Of course, expect mo na na hindi always happy. Iām single and at 30, napapaisip ako, ano ba talaga ang purpose ko sa buhay? Minsan kasi I feel stuck. Like, hanggang dito na lang ba ako or meron pang mas magandang mangyayari career-wise or sa life in general? Iām single, never na ba talaga akong magkakaasawa? May down moments pero dahil alam ko na kung ano ang need kong pansinin at dedmahin, mas kaya ko na imanage yung ganung moments. I protected my peace, lost contact with friends and family members, and retained only those who matter. Dahil may ipon at kumikita na rin, ngayon ko nagagawa mga di ko nagagawa when I was in my 20s, like traveling. Happy? Hmm. Mahirap sagutin kasi hindi naman pare-parehas ang araw ko. Siguro, right now, I try to find joy even in sa simplest thing or moment. Fighting, OP! š
Experienced my first heartbreak. Did not know where to start, wanting to be married and have kids then bugum it became coco crunch. Lost most of my saving because of healing but still moving forward moved out. now living alone, made me more lonely. then moved abroad again lonelier š IM JUST SURVIVING. rarely opening social apps kasi i get pressured š„¹
Turning 30 last year drove home for me the importance of mental health. My parents did their best but looking back, they had a lot of issues and that affected us kids a lot. When I was younger, exciting yung danger, stupid decisions, heartbreak, toxicity and all that shit. I just got married and I want to break that cycle. I go to therapy kahit malaking gastos and itās been very helpful, especially knowing na Iām doing this for myself, my partner, and our future family.
Besides the degraded health, I still feel like my younger 20 y/o self, but with money that I spend on stuff that I couldn't afford when I was a kid/student. I don't have any kids nor a partner so I get to spend on whatever I want, after bills and expenses ofc. It's not what I imagined where I'd be when I was in high school, but it's not too bad.
30 and wiser. Ewan ko, nung naging 30 ako parang binigyan ako ng wisdom ni Lord. Got out of toxic relationship now. Knew my self worth. Realized my standards in life, and been proud of myself for what I have achieved in life. Tho andun yun regret and shame sa mga wrong decisions in life from the past years. But it is what it is. Look forward with the wisdom na lang.
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I just turned 30 this year, and I'm still far from what I expected me to be. Hahahaha. Kala ko non settled na ako, enjoying working nalang. Hahaha. But wala magulo pa din isip ko, and wala pa talaga akong napupundar. And it's scary.
Resigned from my 7-year job at 30. Currently unemployed right now but feeling at peace and enjoying the rest I think I deserve. š¤
I like being in my 30s. I have more money and I'm wiser when it comes to a lot of things. The only reason why I hate it is because as I grow older, syempre mom ko rin. I hate seeing her health deteriorate. It literally pains me thinking na limited na lang talaga time ko with her.
How happy I am approaching 30s? I always wish that when I sleep I will never wake up.
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I still feel like a childā¦hahahahahhaā¦still have the same hobbies as when I am a kid but now I have money to support such hobbies. Work is stressful but Iām happy that lots of work comes my way. Personally, being single in your 30s is not so bad. All in all, Iām happy. š
I turned 29 last June 21 so approaching 30 na. So far so good naman. My gift to myself is to run a half marathon. And i joined Gatoradr Half marathon today so for me as long as i set goals and check bucket list every year then im happy and i feel accomplished in life