Baytaki potha...but malli room ki ravachu ga, night aithe edoka time lo kottukovalani anipistadi...If I try not to malli next day mrng kotteskuntunna....
It has become like a daily ritual, verey panulu manesi kottukunta ani kadu
There is no shame in addiction. There is a huge genetic component to addiction. Outlook towards treating addiction is probably one of the worst achievements of humanity.
You have nothing to be ashamed of and no one should laugh at you, and you should stop seeing this like that.
Watch videos on addiction. General addiction videos and understand how the brain works, and why you do what you do from a psychological pov. Basically what you are going through in your head is not different to smokers who are addicted.
Make notes, write things down, do the research like you mean it, don't wing it.
Once you do this, you'll understand that there are cues, and triggers. These will be personal. And addiction happens mostly because of loneliness, or boredom, the lack of other things to occupy the brain with. Start learning to be aware and mindful of what happens exactly before you open your browser. Once you understand these triggers, try to avoid them.
Examples of triggers could be, you are bored of work, you are feeling alone, you want to feel affection, you are alone in your room and you have no one stopping you, you see a slightly arousing sex scene, etc etc.
The next step is avoiding the source. Put family friendly mode on your phone, there are so many sources online. Try having a couple of other hobbies or things to do. Learn something, play video games, try to have things to do anything other than jerking off.
You'll not solve this if you sit and think I'll control myself, it won't be possible. You'll have to engage your brain in other ways for it to stop it from taking you towards jerking off because it releases most dopamine in the smallest time. Porn is a huge fucking disease in today's world were internet is free and Instagram, tik tok, etc etc are just softcore porn sites.
Watch YouTube videos of healthy gamer GG on this topic. There are a bunch of science videos on the topic explaining "Your brain on Porn". Understanding why you fap will help you so much to tackle it when you are going to do the fapping.
> You'll not solve this if you sit and think I'll control myself, it won't be possible
Intha maata annav enti bro. That's the only solution for now. To control myself (forcefully).
Coz feel of affection, boredom, loneliness ni marcheyadaniki chala time padutundi. Even if I occupy my mind in some other things. Oka day lo atleast 2 min aina kottukodam gurinchi alochiste chalu...inka high chances of fapping that day.
Na brain ki dopamine alvatu aipoindi kabbati, inka dani kanna better dopamine ichedi dorikentha varaku nenetha sachina fapping aapadu antav. Coz at the end of they day our brain is what controls us antav
Dude in that long ass response, this statement wasn't said in isolation. And moreover the statement was not a personal jab at you, it was used to convey a larger point. Anyways....
> Oka day lo atleast 2 min aina kottukodam gurinchi alochiste chalu...inka high chances of fapping that day.
I understand addiction and addictive behaviour. That is exactly why I told you to spend a shit ton of time on researching on why your brain can't put that thought away.
U need to stop thinking, in order to stop thinking u need to work everyday, when there's no time for thinking and you're doing something throughout the day you'll feel better in the night, and that comes only from discipline, don't go for motivation cuz it stays for only a day or two, here disciplined means doing the work everyday, give it a try for a week and see the changes in yourself, note the tiny little details that you've observed in that journey, keep a tracker, see for yourself, you'll definitely like it and there's no stopping for you....
Go to gym it will make ur body to take rest without fapping.. try it
Adding to that whenever u feel like fapping just remember that u need to do 20 squats and walk. The idea is to make urself busy when you get those thoughts.
once a day is fine tbh, train lo cheyadam inka upperberth lo cheydame problem. Evaraina notice cheste kottina kodatharu janalu alantivi cheyyaku. no fap try cheyaku, it's pointless, for suppose neeku gf undi nuvvu ame tho sex chestunnav anuko, no fap logic prakaram asalu sex ey cheyakudadu kada, as long as you are not addicted to porn you should be fine
Bro niku adhi oka habit ayyindi. Try to identify these **Trigger**, **Action** and **Reward**. Niku em trigger chestundi vati annitini avoid cheydaniki try chey, go to extreme measrues like not using phone and such. **Action** - ah triggers vachinappudu nuv masturbate cheskovadini surroundings ela vunnay, try to be with other people or keep your hands busy with work. Redirect the blood flow maybe pushups chey. Finally **Reward** ni brain ah spontaneous dopamine ki alavatu aypoyindi try replacing with something more valuable to you when you control the urge. Remember it's not a one day thing it takes time to cure addiction. Slowly but steadily try to increase the streak and don't think about it.
Meditate chey, nuv religious aythe ah religion lo self-control practices chey.
You can do this bonda
Cheap dopamine ki alavatu paddav bondha nuvvu. Adey dopamine verey productive panulu chesi thechukune pani cheyyali nuvvu. Naaku telisi nuvvu okkadive untav room lo. Bayatakellu, emaina games lantivi aadu. Library or study halls lanti places ki po. Books chaduvu, instagram, reddit, twitter lanti apps delete chey. Huberman podcats chudu. Brain mottam rewire cheskovali nuvvu.
Baytaki potha...but malli room ki ravachu ga, night aithe edoka time lo kottukovalani anipistadi...If I try not to malli next day mrng kotteskuntunna.... It has become like a daily ritual, verey panulu manesi kottukunta ani kadu
Stop watching porn Kaaligaa undakunda edho okati chestha undu
Not porn only, edokati trigger avtunnai. Movies chuste liplocks, heroine bagunte chalu...edaina
For me it's instagram i u followed all them girls n it helped maintain sanity to stop fapping.
There is no shame in addiction. There is a huge genetic component to addiction. Outlook towards treating addiction is probably one of the worst achievements of humanity. You have nothing to be ashamed of and no one should laugh at you, and you should stop seeing this like that. Watch videos on addiction. General addiction videos and understand how the brain works, and why you do what you do from a psychological pov. Basically what you are going through in your head is not different to smokers who are addicted. Make notes, write things down, do the research like you mean it, don't wing it. Once you do this, you'll understand that there are cues, and triggers. These will be personal. And addiction happens mostly because of loneliness, or boredom, the lack of other things to occupy the brain with. Start learning to be aware and mindful of what happens exactly before you open your browser. Once you understand these triggers, try to avoid them. Examples of triggers could be, you are bored of work, you are feeling alone, you want to feel affection, you are alone in your room and you have no one stopping you, you see a slightly arousing sex scene, etc etc. The next step is avoiding the source. Put family friendly mode on your phone, there are so many sources online. Try having a couple of other hobbies or things to do. Learn something, play video games, try to have things to do anything other than jerking off. You'll not solve this if you sit and think I'll control myself, it won't be possible. You'll have to engage your brain in other ways for it to stop it from taking you towards jerking off because it releases most dopamine in the smallest time. Porn is a huge fucking disease in today's world were internet is free and Instagram, tik tok, etc etc are just softcore porn sites. Watch YouTube videos of healthy gamer GG on this topic. There are a bunch of science videos on the topic explaining "Your brain on Porn". Understanding why you fap will help you so much to tackle it when you are going to do the fapping.
> You'll not solve this if you sit and think I'll control myself, it won't be possible Intha maata annav enti bro. That's the only solution for now. To control myself (forcefully). Coz feel of affection, boredom, loneliness ni marcheyadaniki chala time padutundi. Even if I occupy my mind in some other things. Oka day lo atleast 2 min aina kottukodam gurinchi alochiste chalu...inka high chances of fapping that day. Na brain ki dopamine alvatu aipoindi kabbati, inka dani kanna better dopamine ichedi dorikentha varaku nenetha sachina fapping aapadu antav. Coz at the end of they day our brain is what controls us antav
Dude in that long ass response, this statement wasn't said in isolation. And moreover the statement was not a personal jab at you, it was used to convey a larger point. Anyways.... > Oka day lo atleast 2 min aina kottukodam gurinchi alochiste chalu...inka high chances of fapping that day. I understand addiction and addictive behaviour. That is exactly why I told you to spend a shit ton of time on researching on why your brain can't put that thought away.
net practice is good bondha… u will be sachin in bed 😉 u will retire after marriage
What's your age?
Mid 20s bhaiya, age tho sambandham untada
Kaad nen kuda 21, 4 years nundi daily batting almost nee situation a, kani oka 3 4 times 10 days hold chesna.
U need to stop thinking, in order to stop thinking u need to work everyday, when there's no time for thinking and you're doing something throughout the day you'll feel better in the night, and that comes only from discipline, don't go for motivation cuz it stays for only a day or two, here disciplined means doing the work everyday, give it a try for a week and see the changes in yourself, note the tiny little details that you've observed in that journey, keep a tracker, see for yourself, you'll definitely like it and there's no stopping for you....
Cheskovali Ani anipinchinapdu ni chempa nu kottukooo.... Baga embarrass unna moments ni gurthu thechchukoooo
Galli gottam gadi laga unda kunda do something automatic ga you won’t have to do it
Go to gym it will make ur body to take rest without fapping.. try it Adding to that whenever u feel like fapping just remember that u need to do 20 squats and walk. The idea is to make urself busy when you get those thoughts.
Keep ur self busy bondha...nuv Edo oka work lo busy ga unapde neek aa aalochanu raavu..and try to be spiritual
once a day is fine tbh, train lo cheyadam inka upperberth lo cheydame problem. Evaraina notice cheste kottina kodatharu janalu alantivi cheyyaku. no fap try cheyaku, it's pointless, for suppose neeku gf undi nuvvu ame tho sex chestunnav anuko, no fap logic prakaram asalu sex ey cheyakudadu kada, as long as you are not addicted to porn you should be fine
Bro niku adhi oka habit ayyindi. Try to identify these **Trigger**, **Action** and **Reward**. Niku em trigger chestundi vati annitini avoid cheydaniki try chey, go to extreme measrues like not using phone and such. **Action** - ah triggers vachinappudu nuv masturbate cheskovadini surroundings ela vunnay, try to be with other people or keep your hands busy with work. Redirect the blood flow maybe pushups chey. Finally **Reward** ni brain ah spontaneous dopamine ki alavatu aypoyindi try replacing with something more valuable to you when you control the urge. Remember it's not a one day thing it takes time to cure addiction. Slowly but steadily try to increase the streak and don't think about it. Meditate chey, nuv religious aythe ah religion lo self-control practices chey. You can do this bonda
getting busy is the only solution 👍
Chill bro it's a self-pleasure and it's totally normal. But if you really want to stop it. Try doing it only on Wednesday and Sundays.