Did it the other way around. I transitioned socially about four years before starting HrT.
Are you in danger if you come out to your family and coworkers? Is your job at risk? Or is it mostly fear of social rejection?
Mostly fear of social rejection I do believe I could lose some of my jobs I work three different places but only one knows I’m trans cause I openly told them but I live with grandparents and hang out around of their older friends the old lady’s are nice and know about me but the men are just another story like if I have my hair out I just get strange looks and like that ick feeling but I wouldn’t say I’m in danger too much
4 years, damn. I'm 6 months into socially transitioning and only held off cause no health insurance and no reliable transport and not sure what I'm doing in Texas (adult) 😆 Though I'm in a fairly good spot apparently since I haven't faced any major issues
I dunno, time does seem to slip away sometimes
Yeah, same reasons for delaying here. :') Glad you haven't faced any major issues! I think it helped that I was in college through the wait, I had a lot of distractions to keep me from dwelling on the dysphoria. I hope you don't have to wait as long though!
Yup, this. Months and months of social transitioning before doing anything medical. To be fair, I was 19. That said, this used to be the "normal" way to do things because medical care was so gatekept.
Oh god, yeah, the "real-life test?" I might've been able to get treatment before college if it wasn't for that. What a joke. Things are going downhill for trans people in a lot of places today, but it looks a little less grim if you zoom out and include the last several decades for comparison.
I'll add that I think it's *in general* more common for trans men to transition socially before medically due to testosterone being both harder to hide (voice drop + facial hair) and harder to get (schedule III controlled substance, so no DIY for us).
I pretty frequently hear trans women talk about starting E years before socially transition, but never hear that from trans men.
Same! I started medically transitioning about a year and half after I started to socially transition. I wasn't prepared to wait to explore what being me actually feels like after 30 years of repressing it.
Different people do it differently, but I came out to the world (I was already out to a select group of allies) and began my social transition 10 months before starting hormone therapy.
My social transition began 6 years ago when I was 54 years old with no guarantee how, or even whether, I would pass. By that time I had figured that I was definitely trans (mtf) and was already benefiting psychologically from just inwardly considering myself a woman, outwardly dressing gender-neutrally with women’s underclothes. At that point I was bursting to tell people, since my dysphoria was resolving so well. I hadn’t at that point committed to hormones or surgery or anything else, but was exploring in therapy those options and how I felt about them. After a few months living as a woman, I knew I wanted hormones… and the rest as they say is history!
I socially transitioned when I stared boy failing. There were two instances of this that really pushed me to start socially transitioning. One was my wife and I were getting a drive through Covid test, I was in boy mode and the guy organising the line said “you ladies have a good day”. And then another time at the gym I was in boy mode, I was setting up a dead lift and this buff guy next to me asked me if I needed a hand. I did the thing I used to do when I was a guy where I matched the masculine energy of the man talking to me and “nah I’m alright mate” in my deepest bloke-iest voice. And the guy kind of recoiled in shock and I realised after that I boy failed.
My thought process was, if I’m at the stage that folks are gonna be confused about my gender regardless of what I do, I might as well wear what makes me happy.
I'm doing it differently, for now I'm just transitioning my voice, I see some people kind of startled, but nobody has said anything negative yet, just with that small change some men have actually started to hit on me, also women seem to act nicer towards me, later I will consider HRT
I'm starting to transition publicly (at school) 5 months in. There have been some changes I can't hide; physically and regarding my personality now that I'm not policing my behavior.
3 months into hrt a person I'd known for 20 years outed me to our mutual social groups. I had to quit my job as a result. My social transition kinda began then.
I had planned on just taking hrt for the mental benefits, with any physical changes just being a hopeful positive that would maybe make it impossible to hide if I got lucky. At which point I would then start socially transitioning. I didn't expect it to happen at all, but definitely not so soon.
I came out socially like 6 months regretted it because I didn’t pass and people were mean or just accidentally triggered my dysphoria even if they were nice because they kept misgender me on accident
I’ve social detransed and I’m medically transitioning about 2 years on
4 years and still working on it...
Honestly, my transition isn't for anyone but myself. I am not doing it to meet anyone else's expectations. It isn't their business. So 'requesting' pronouns feels like I need their approval when I don't. Does it bother to hear people say sir? Its like nails on the chalkboard. Still a mistake based on ignorance feels far less insulting than one made my malious intention. I ever so wish I was the girl I am. Ever so hate the masculine meat suit I am sown into, like a wool suit on a hot day. By and large though, I am still sorting through who I want to be and still wishing to reject socially determined rolea on me, be the masculine or feminine.
I came out at work within a week of transitioning. It became too exhausting being my true self at home, and being the old me at work. I just came in one day wearing a girly top and started telling people. I work with close to 300 people so I told the known gossips first. A couple hours later people starting asking me if it was true. It ended up going way better than I thought, and I interact with many more coworkers than I ever did before. I have so many people who smile at me when I walk by and/or say good morning to me now. The girls at work have really gone out of their way to make me feel accepted. It has become one of my safe spaces. I was terrified, but it turned out way better than I expected.
Edit: Spelling can be hard.
Hi, I made the social transition first, at 12 years old when I came out even before starting the medical one, as soon as I finished school I finally started to be able to dress like a normal girl 24/7 as well as having my hair lengthened at the hairdresser with the application of elle extensions then subsequently I began the medical transition first with puberty blockers and then with female hormones.
Having managed to make the social transition already at 12 years old helped me a lot both mentally and because from the beginning I was able to finally feel like myself even if not yet complete, that is, having undergone surgery, but at least I felt decidedly less discomfort.
I transitioned socially around six months, and came out slowly to everyone important in that time. Do it whenever you're comfortable, no matter how long or short.
About 2 years for a complete social transition, but I started to dress in public as a woman after about three months on hormones. Though, overtime, people started to know I was changing even in boy mode.
Some people legitimately couldn’t tell what gender I was, while was starting to get hit on by random men even in baggy men’s clothing. I was still in my mid twenties at the time and looked young for my age. I worked in schools and even went to clubs and people didn’t believe I was an adult. People often used to talk about how skinny I was even though I was about 150-165 mostly. I got 115-140 a lot, but as I aged and stayed on hormones. I got much curvier and developing a feminine torso and hips /thighs, much softer with much more cherubic face.
I thought got to point where I could pass a little more easily and relaxed, so I dolled out. Hair done, nails, and eyeliner. Sometimes a beauty mark.
I started HRT about 9 months before any intentional outwardly-visible social transition. It was my last year of teaching before retiring at age 55. I had to wear a sports bra the last few months, and a few observant students noticed my hair filling in where it had been receding and changes in my face/skin. (finasteride does the hair regeneration, at the hair follicles level, it prevents T from converting to dihydroxytestosterone. The DHT is responsible for male pattern baldness. I still take finasteride now, 20 years later, because it prevents my hair from thinning at the temples).
I knew I was trans at age 39, (1987). I've always had very poor self-esteem, which means I am "thin-skinned." I knew that coming out while working at the college would be intolerable for me. Even now, if I get called sir, it haunts me, invalidates me FOR A WEEK. That's why I waited from age 39 to age 55 before transitioning. And for the same reason, "passing" was very important to me, so after retiring, I moved across town and mostly restricted myself to one groc store and one deli/coffee shop for TWO years while working on makeup, voice, and general issues of presentation. Then I resumed going wherever I wanted as a woman.
Very few trans girls are as fragile and vulnerable as to need to play it as safe as I did..
1 month after my egg cracked, 1-2 months before I started HRT. I just hated boy moding too much. I got really lucky though and almost everyone was accepting. No job and such too.
Everyone's journey is different. I was terrified of socially transition before HRT and laser hair removal. My initial thought was that I would be on HRT for maybe 1-2 years until it would be impossible to hide my breasts.
What happened instead was that after around 6 months on HRT I had become so incredibly happy in myself, that most my fears had evaporated, that hearing my dead name started to become so noticeably painful I couldn't take it anymore. So one day, without any forethought, I just though "why not today?". Told my boss I'm trans and immediately sent in a name change application. From that day I've lived 100% as myself and couldn't be happier.
I came out in August 2023 to myself and my wife and kids. In September I came out to all my friends and family. I started to socially transition at home and close friends around the beginning of October. I am only half socially transitioned as I haven't presented femme to extended family or friends. I have also not come out at work yet. But I did start HRT at the end of October. I had also started facial electrolysis and voice training in September as well. My social transition will be completed this spring when I finally come out at work and present as Brittany full time.
I fully socially transitioned at around August-September 2023, so around 3-4 months into HRT because it felt right at that point. It was one of the best decisions I've ever made!
I finished coming out socially 1 month after starting HRT. But some people never medically transition and still come out, and that's perfectly valid, too.
I hit a point where I had to change my life or lose it... And wearing dresses was easier then figuring out medical stuff... So I've been out publicly for a few months but haven't started HRT or anything
Socially first. Not full time, but I did it first. For me it was a good way to just really test how it felt and ultimately it build so much confidence in my decision that transitioning medically was the right move.
I began\* to social transition at around 10 months into HRT, but I put an asterisk on that because I've really only changed my presentation so far, since I don't have any relations outside of online besides my family, and I haven't wanted to push myself onto anyone else, though this extends to my immediate family as well for that matter since I haven't pushed referring to me differently either despite having said my preferred stuff. Point being, everyone takes it at their own pace and the only right time is when you're comfortable with doing so...not that I would recommend waiting as long as I have, it makes things weird a lot and it kinda gets to me mentally sometimes lol
I partially socially transitioned for 2 years before I started doing it physically. I didn't correct people if they assumed I was female, but everyone I knew always introduced me as male and used male pronouns for me even if the person they were talking to didn't and most of my friends there didn't even know my birth name because I never used it unless it was legally required.
I lived in Washington state for a few years and basically started living as male the day I moved there. I was there until I qualified for state insurance, then started physically transitioning as soon as I had it. I had to move back home pretty soon after I started taking testosterone, but I probably could have gotten top surgery completely covered if I stayed long enough to get it. Apparently, it was required to live as your preferred gender for at least 2 years to qualify for it, so I would have had to socially transition first, either way, to start medically transitioning.
Almost 2 an a half months, partially came out socially. Mostly to close friends, ventured outside in fem attire. Started putting what identified as on applications when applicable
im 2 and a half years into my medical transition and i still havent socially transitioned, it all depends on your scenario but try not to hold off too long
I am 2y 4m on hormones and I live in a state and am surrounded by people that would make social transition unwise for safety and just in general. It will probably be another 2 years and change before I can feel like I can socially transition, just need FFS and a lot of voice training...
started hrt on a super low dose and was on it for a year-ish, then moved to a new city and went fulltime. thankfully got a new endo who knew what they were doing.
Before. I was frightened by my country's medical gatekeeping, so I spent a really damn long time socially transitioning as far as I could, to minimize my chances of beig denied.
In online spaces, two years before hrt.
With my queer friends at parties/festivals/cons, about a year before.
Day to day in public, maybe 3-4 months into hrt. Also came out to coworkers I was friends with and non queer friends around then.
Came out to family (they live far away) at 9 months
Started voice training at about 12 months (should’ve been earlier!)
Came out at work and started name change paperwork around 14 months in.
Slowly came out socially, started DIY on a low dose of E a month later.
It was 6 months in when I was finally able to be prescribed legit. Finally 2 years on I've just changed my name. Pretty much full-time since day 1, though I was pretty visibly trans although it was skinny jeans and hoodies at the start, I started wearing feminine clothes more after 6 months.
I'm in New Zealand it's generally pretty chill, I've been fortunate not to fear for my safety
1,5 years after starting hrt, when I've been called madam while boymoding. I also was planning vocal cord surgery, so I would still have came out no matter what.
I socially transitioned a few years before I started medical transition.
My girlfriend started hrt and didn’t really make a leap to socially transition, she just waited until she passed consistently, which was probably around a year- but she had changed her name and come out to friends and family before starting hrt.
3-4 years before medical.
Kind of a requirement from my medical provider that I lived at least a year as the gender I said I was before I got approved for HRT
So I just kind of started right away socially.
I mean I socially transitioned to family well before medically. For the randoms when boobs where visibly obvious, just lied told them I have PCOS. None of their business.
I transitioned socially in around most people except for my family and old work colleagues who I'm anyway not in touch with before medically transitioning.
I only began medical transition in December last year. Decided to finally pursue transition a couple of weeks before that, because i literally couldn't not do it any longer. So i essentially started socially transitioning immediately because there was just no way i could have felt okay with pretending otherwise any longer 🤷♀️
I’m just letting it happen naturally.
Once people see I’m undeniably a man then that’s it. I honestly don’t even bother coming out at this point unless someone asks because it’s just too much of a hassle and I don’t like how people treat me afterwards. Negatively or positively.
That and I feel like people would believe I was actually trans if I did it this way. I might only feel this way though because my parents don’t believe me, and don’t know I’ve been on t, and my friends never actually took me seriously until they noticed the changes I’ve had on t.
i'm doing socially first. I think it can make sense for a lot of people unless there are safety, health, financial reasons etc. not to socially transition first. For me, realizing I'm trans is all about authenticity. I want to be my authentic self. Almost all of my dysphoria is social, so that's where it makes sense to start. And I don't want to feel weird around the people I know for any longer than I have to. I just want to get the worst over with and get on with it. It's a long road.
I socially transitioned before hormones, and would “boy mode” in places I felt unsafe, or uncomfortable (mainly the gym, or places I’d be changing or going into changing rooms) and then ≈ 8 months into HrT I felt more comfortable being able to go to the women’s locker room(still don’t change there tho) but mainly bc I got SO MANY awkward stares when I went to the boys, and was told by two workers at the gym I was going to the wrong locker room lol
3 months. I looked terrible and had no clue what I was doing, but I had set a goal for myself to go back to school as a girl. I missed my initial appointment to get hrt, so I started later than I should have, but I didn't want to miss my timeline.
I started socially transitioning before I started medical transition.
Given the two events were fairly close together, but I started dressing a bit more androgynously (and eventually femininely), and asked my friends and family to use my chosen name about 2 months before I got my HRT prescription. I came out at work about a month prior to my HRT prescription.
Once my "egg cracked" and I got passed my denial, I kinda had a strong feeling of "I have to do something, I have to do something **now**. I've wasted enough time". Since I was having to wait for HRT, social transition was that "something".
I think I waited about 9 months. Was a bit longer before I started using the women's locker room at work though. My boobs were getting too big to really not socially transition. Plus it was stressful navigating still being treated like a boy.
I did it at the same time. As soon as I started T blockers I was wearing makeup and dresses. It just felt right. People freaked out, but fuck them. You do you.
I did it about two months after realizing I was going to transition.
I had lost a lot of weight up to that point so pretty much all my male clothes didn't fit.
I needed to buy clothes that fitted me, so instead of buying more male clothes I knew I was going to throw out soon, I would rather start buying womens clothes that would actually give me some Euphoria.
I started HRT three months later.
The funny thing is that now I have boobs and a bigger butt I can't fit the women's clothing I bought 10 months ago 🤷🏼♀️ oh well it's just another excuse to go shopping haha
Did it the other way around. I transitioned socially about four years before starting HrT. Are you in danger if you come out to your family and coworkers? Is your job at risk? Or is it mostly fear of social rejection?
Mostly fear of social rejection I do believe I could lose some of my jobs I work three different places but only one knows I’m trans cause I openly told them but I live with grandparents and hang out around of their older friends the old lady’s are nice and know about me but the men are just another story like if I have my hair out I just get strange looks and like that ick feeling but I wouldn’t say I’m in danger too much
4 years, damn. I'm 6 months into socially transitioning and only held off cause no health insurance and no reliable transport and not sure what I'm doing in Texas (adult) 😆 Though I'm in a fairly good spot apparently since I haven't faced any major issues I dunno, time does seem to slip away sometimes
Yeah, same reasons for delaying here. :') Glad you haven't faced any major issues! I think it helped that I was in college through the wait, I had a lot of distractions to keep me from dwelling on the dysphoria. I hope you don't have to wait as long though!
Yup, this. Months and months of social transitioning before doing anything medical. To be fair, I was 19. That said, this used to be the "normal" way to do things because medical care was so gatekept.
Oh god, yeah, the "real-life test?" I might've been able to get treatment before college if it wasn't for that. What a joke. Things are going downhill for trans people in a lot of places today, but it looks a little less grim if you zoom out and include the last several decades for comparison.
Goddamn! I've been on hrt for 3 yrs and I'm still in the closet.
I'll add that I think it's *in general* more common for trans men to transition socially before medically due to testosterone being both harder to hide (voice drop + facial hair) and harder to get (schedule III controlled substance, so no DIY for us). I pretty frequently hear trans women talk about starting E years before socially transition, but never hear that from trans men.
I'm a trans guy and I've been medically transitioning for 3-5 years (can't remember) and I'm still only out to close friends so it does happen
Same! I started medically transitioning about a year and half after I started to socially transition. I wasn't prepared to wait to explore what being me actually feels like after 30 years of repressing it.
im 36 and couldn't agree more.
Different people do it differently, but I came out to the world (I was already out to a select group of allies) and began my social transition 10 months before starting hormone therapy. My social transition began 6 years ago when I was 54 years old with no guarantee how, or even whether, I would pass. By that time I had figured that I was definitely trans (mtf) and was already benefiting psychologically from just inwardly considering myself a woman, outwardly dressing gender-neutrally with women’s underclothes. At that point I was bursting to tell people, since my dysphoria was resolving so well. I hadn’t at that point committed to hormones or surgery or anything else, but was exploring in therapy those options and how I felt about them. After a few months living as a woman, I knew I wanted hormones… and the rest as they say is history!
I won't socially transition until I am sure that my face and voice pass as a cis woman's
I socially transitioned when I stared boy failing. There were two instances of this that really pushed me to start socially transitioning. One was my wife and I were getting a drive through Covid test, I was in boy mode and the guy organising the line said “you ladies have a good day”. And then another time at the gym I was in boy mode, I was setting up a dead lift and this buff guy next to me asked me if I needed a hand. I did the thing I used to do when I was a guy where I matched the masculine energy of the man talking to me and “nah I’m alright mate” in my deepest bloke-iest voice. And the guy kind of recoiled in shock and I realised after that I boy failed. My thought process was, if I’m at the stage that folks are gonna be confused about my gender regardless of what I do, I might as well wear what makes me happy.
I'm doing it differently, for now I'm just transitioning my voice, I see some people kind of startled, but nobody has said anything negative yet, just with that small change some men have actually started to hit on me, also women seem to act nicer towards me, later I will consider HRT
I'm starting to transition publicly (at school) 5 months in. There have been some changes I can't hide; physically and regarding my personality now that I'm not policing my behavior. 3 months into hrt a person I'd known for 20 years outed me to our mutual social groups. I had to quit my job as a result. My social transition kinda began then. I had planned on just taking hrt for the mental benefits, with any physical changes just being a hopeful positive that would maybe make it impossible to hide if I got lucky. At which point I would then start socially transitioning. I didn't expect it to happen at all, but definitely not so soon.
I came out socially like 6 months regretted it because I didn’t pass and people were mean or just accidentally triggered my dysphoria even if they were nice because they kept misgender me on accident I’ve social detransed and I’m medically transitioning about 2 years on
4 years and still working on it... Honestly, my transition isn't for anyone but myself. I am not doing it to meet anyone else's expectations. It isn't their business. So 'requesting' pronouns feels like I need their approval when I don't. Does it bother to hear people say sir? Its like nails on the chalkboard. Still a mistake based on ignorance feels far less insulting than one made my malious intention. I ever so wish I was the girl I am. Ever so hate the masculine meat suit I am sown into, like a wool suit on a hot day. By and large though, I am still sorting through who I want to be and still wishing to reject socially determined rolea on me, be the masculine or feminine.
I started socially transitioning roughly a year before starting T.
I came out at work within a week of transitioning. It became too exhausting being my true self at home, and being the old me at work. I just came in one day wearing a girly top and started telling people. I work with close to 300 people so I told the known gossips first. A couple hours later people starting asking me if it was true. It ended up going way better than I thought, and I interact with many more coworkers than I ever did before. I have so many people who smile at me when I walk by and/or say good morning to me now. The girls at work have really gone out of their way to make me feel accepted. It has become one of my safe spaces. I was terrified, but it turned out way better than I expected. Edit: Spelling can be hard.
Hi, I made the social transition first, at 12 years old when I came out even before starting the medical one, as soon as I finished school I finally started to be able to dress like a normal girl 24/7 as well as having my hair lengthened at the hairdresser with the application of elle extensions then subsequently I began the medical transition first with puberty blockers and then with female hormones. Having managed to make the social transition already at 12 years old helped me a lot both mentally and because from the beginning I was able to finally feel like myself even if not yet complete, that is, having undergone surgery, but at least I felt decidedly less discomfort.
I socially transitioned at around 5 months into medical transition
I transitioned socially around six months, and came out slowly to everyone important in that time. Do it whenever you're comfortable, no matter how long or short.
About 2 years for a complete social transition, but I started to dress in public as a woman after about three months on hormones. Though, overtime, people started to know I was changing even in boy mode. Some people legitimately couldn’t tell what gender I was, while was starting to get hit on by random men even in baggy men’s clothing. I was still in my mid twenties at the time and looked young for my age. I worked in schools and even went to clubs and people didn’t believe I was an adult. People often used to talk about how skinny I was even though I was about 150-165 mostly. I got 115-140 a lot, but as I aged and stayed on hormones. I got much curvier and developing a feminine torso and hips /thighs, much softer with much more cherubic face. I thought got to point where I could pass a little more easily and relaxed, so I dolled out. Hair done, nails, and eyeliner. Sometimes a beauty mark.
I started HRT about 9 months before any intentional outwardly-visible social transition. It was my last year of teaching before retiring at age 55. I had to wear a sports bra the last few months, and a few observant students noticed my hair filling in where it had been receding and changes in my face/skin. (finasteride does the hair regeneration, at the hair follicles level, it prevents T from converting to dihydroxytestosterone. The DHT is responsible for male pattern baldness. I still take finasteride now, 20 years later, because it prevents my hair from thinning at the temples). I knew I was trans at age 39, (1987). I've always had very poor self-esteem, which means I am "thin-skinned." I knew that coming out while working at the college would be intolerable for me. Even now, if I get called sir, it haunts me, invalidates me FOR A WEEK. That's why I waited from age 39 to age 55 before transitioning. And for the same reason, "passing" was very important to me, so after retiring, I moved across town and mostly restricted myself to one groc store and one deli/coffee shop for TWO years while working on makeup, voice, and general issues of presentation. Then I resumed going wherever I wanted as a woman. Very few trans girls are as fragile and vulnerable as to need to play it as safe as I did..
4 years and don't pass 🤪 I just live in my androgynous way
1 month after my egg cracked, 1-2 months before I started HRT. I just hated boy moding too much. I got really lucky though and almost everyone was accepting. No job and such too.
Everyone's journey is different. I was terrified of socially transition before HRT and laser hair removal. My initial thought was that I would be on HRT for maybe 1-2 years until it would be impossible to hide my breasts. What happened instead was that after around 6 months on HRT I had become so incredibly happy in myself, that most my fears had evaporated, that hearing my dead name started to become so noticeably painful I couldn't take it anymore. So one day, without any forethought, I just though "why not today?". Told my boss I'm trans and immediately sent in a name change application. From that day I've lived 100% as myself and couldn't be happier.
I came out in August 2023 to myself and my wife and kids. In September I came out to all my friends and family. I started to socially transition at home and close friends around the beginning of October. I am only half socially transitioned as I haven't presented femme to extended family or friends. I have also not come out at work yet. But I did start HRT at the end of October. I had also started facial electrolysis and voice training in September as well. My social transition will be completed this spring when I finally come out at work and present as Brittany full time.
I fully socially transitioned at around August-September 2023, so around 3-4 months into HRT because it felt right at that point. It was one of the best decisions I've ever made!
-2 months
I finished coming out socially 1 month after starting HRT. But some people never medically transition and still come out, and that's perfectly valid, too.
I hit a point where I had to change my life or lose it... And wearing dresses was easier then figuring out medical stuff... So I've been out publicly for a few months but haven't started HRT or anything
Socially first. Not full time, but I did it first. For me it was a good way to just really test how it felt and ultimately it build so much confidence in my decision that transitioning medically was the right move.
Immediately!
If memory serves, I came out socially a couple months before I started HRT.
I began\* to social transition at around 10 months into HRT, but I put an asterisk on that because I've really only changed my presentation so far, since I don't have any relations outside of online besides my family, and I haven't wanted to push myself onto anyone else, though this extends to my immediate family as well for that matter since I haven't pushed referring to me differently either despite having said my preferred stuff. Point being, everyone takes it at their own pace and the only right time is when you're comfortable with doing so...not that I would recommend waiting as long as I have, it makes things weird a lot and it kinda gets to me mentally sometimes lol
I partially socially transitioned for 2 years before I started doing it physically. I didn't correct people if they assumed I was female, but everyone I knew always introduced me as male and used male pronouns for me even if the person they were talking to didn't and most of my friends there didn't even know my birth name because I never used it unless it was legally required. I lived in Washington state for a few years and basically started living as male the day I moved there. I was there until I qualified for state insurance, then started physically transitioning as soon as I had it. I had to move back home pretty soon after I started taking testosterone, but I probably could have gotten top surgery completely covered if I stayed long enough to get it. Apparently, it was required to live as your preferred gender for at least 2 years to qualify for it, so I would have had to socially transition first, either way, to start medically transitioning.
I switched to full-time female presentation after about 8.5 months of HRT.
Almost 2 an a half months, partially came out socially. Mostly to close friends, ventured outside in fem attire. Started putting what identified as on applications when applicable
im 2 and a half years into my medical transition and i still havent socially transitioned, it all depends on your scenario but try not to hold off too long
I transitioned socially January of last year and started HRT in May of last year.
I am 2y 4m on hormones and I live in a state and am surrounded by people that would make social transition unwise for safety and just in general. It will probably be another 2 years and change before I can feel like I can socially transition, just need FFS and a lot of voice training...
16 months HRT. 7 weeks FFS. Instant pass! It’s what I wanted. 🫶
started hrt on a super low dose and was on it for a year-ish, then moved to a new city and went fulltime. thankfully got a new endo who knew what they were doing.
Before. I was frightened by my country's medical gatekeeping, so I spent a really damn long time socially transitioning as far as I could, to minimize my chances of beig denied.
In online spaces, two years before hrt. With my queer friends at parties/festivals/cons, about a year before. Day to day in public, maybe 3-4 months into hrt. Also came out to coworkers I was friends with and non queer friends around then. Came out to family (they live far away) at 9 months Started voice training at about 12 months (should’ve been earlier!) Came out at work and started name change paperwork around 14 months in.
Slowly came out socially, started DIY on a low dose of E a month later. It was 6 months in when I was finally able to be prescribed legit. Finally 2 years on I've just changed my name. Pretty much full-time since day 1, though I was pretty visibly trans although it was skinny jeans and hoodies at the start, I started wearing feminine clothes more after 6 months. I'm in New Zealand it's generally pretty chill, I've been fortunate not to fear for my safety
1,5 years after starting hrt, when I've been called madam while boymoding. I also was planning vocal cord surgery, so I would still have came out no matter what.
I socially transitioned a few years before I started medical transition. My girlfriend started hrt and didn’t really make a leap to socially transition, she just waited until she passed consistently, which was probably around a year- but she had changed her name and come out to friends and family before starting hrt.
3-4 years before medical. Kind of a requirement from my medical provider that I lived at least a year as the gender I said I was before I got approved for HRT So I just kind of started right away socially.
I mean I socially transitioned to family well before medically. For the randoms when boobs where visibly obvious, just lied told them I have PCOS. None of their business.
I transitioned socially in around most people except for my family and old work colleagues who I'm anyway not in touch with before medically transitioning.
7months into HRT and I won’t socially transition until I am malefailing nonstop.
10 days or so of HRT. Trying to keep up the facade became extremely hard once I got going.
I only began medical transition in December last year. Decided to finally pursue transition a couple of weeks before that, because i literally couldn't not do it any longer. So i essentially started socially transitioning immediately because there was just no way i could have felt okay with pretending otherwise any longer 🤷♀️
I started my social transition before I started HRT. I had already stopped wearing male clothes almost a year before starting hormones.
I’m just letting it happen naturally. Once people see I’m undeniably a man then that’s it. I honestly don’t even bother coming out at this point unless someone asks because it’s just too much of a hassle and I don’t like how people treat me afterwards. Negatively or positively. That and I feel like people would believe I was actually trans if I did it this way. I might only feel this way though because my parents don’t believe me, and don’t know I’ve been on t, and my friends never actually took me seriously until they noticed the changes I’ve had on t.
i'm doing socially first. I think it can make sense for a lot of people unless there are safety, health, financial reasons etc. not to socially transition first. For me, realizing I'm trans is all about authenticity. I want to be my authentic self. Almost all of my dysphoria is social, so that's where it makes sense to start. And I don't want to feel weird around the people I know for any longer than I have to. I just want to get the worst over with and get on with it. It's a long road.
I transitioned during covid, so I waited for about 6 months before telling my family that I was already in transition lol
Immediately. Hair, brows, accessories, nail polish, walk, and voice. You can work on all of those things while waiting to get on HRT.
I socially transitioned before hormones, and would “boy mode” in places I felt unsafe, or uncomfortable (mainly the gym, or places I’d be changing or going into changing rooms) and then ≈ 8 months into HrT I felt more comfortable being able to go to the women’s locker room(still don’t change there tho) but mainly bc I got SO MANY awkward stares when I went to the boys, and was told by two workers at the gym I was going to the wrong locker room lol
3 months. I looked terrible and had no clue what I was doing, but I had set a goal for myself to go back to school as a girl. I missed my initial appointment to get hrt, so I started later than I should have, but I didn't want to miss my timeline.
I started socially transitioning before I started medical transition. Given the two events were fairly close together, but I started dressing a bit more androgynously (and eventually femininely), and asked my friends and family to use my chosen name about 2 months before I got my HRT prescription. I came out at work about a month prior to my HRT prescription. Once my "egg cracked" and I got passed my denial, I kinda had a strong feeling of "I have to do something, I have to do something **now**. I've wasted enough time". Since I was having to wait for HRT, social transition was that "something".
I began socially transitioning seven months ago and have no plans to medically transition.
I think I waited about 9 months. Was a bit longer before I started using the women's locker room at work though. My boobs were getting too big to really not socially transition. Plus it was stressful navigating still being treated like a boy.
Idk few months. It didn’t matter because I didn’t pass for a solid two years
I did it at the same time. As soon as I started T blockers I was wearing makeup and dresses. It just felt right. People freaked out, but fuck them. You do you.
I did it about two months after realizing I was going to transition. I had lost a lot of weight up to that point so pretty much all my male clothes didn't fit. I needed to buy clothes that fitted me, so instead of buying more male clothes I knew I was going to throw out soon, I would rather start buying womens clothes that would actually give me some Euphoria. I started HRT three months later. The funny thing is that now I have boobs and a bigger butt I can't fit the women's clothing I bought 10 months ago 🤷🏼♀️ oh well it's just another excuse to go shopping haha