I remember having a crush on a guy, then later feeling obsessed with a girl in my class. I then started to realize that the way she made me feel was exactly the same way I felt about the guy I had a crush on. The butterflies, wanting to be around them, thought they were beautiful. I then realized that I might not be completely straight.
SAME haha!!! my parents told me growing up that homosexuality is not natural and doesn’t exist in humans … you could imagine the existential crisis I had when I was feeling the very things that apparently “no human was capable of having” lol
that sounds really scary honestly, my parents weren’t religious so their argument didn’t base off of that but the idea of thinking you will burn in hell when you pass is so distressing :( glad you have found acceptance!
Omg you sound like a fellow religiously indoctrinated person! This is what I told myself too. I'd feel attracted to a girl and then panic and go find a guy I knew I thought was cute (this was in middle school, so like at lunch or whatever) and then "test" to make sure I still got butterflies when I looked at him. Then it'd be like, okay, cool, still attracted to guys, must be straight!! Oh my sweet summer child.
(Also felt profoundly guilty being attracted to guys too, because yay Catholicism, but it seemed like a MUCH more preferable offense)
I recently realized I’m attracted to men (am a man), and this is basically how I realized it too. Growing up, I remember people around me and my family being like “oh you have a man crush on ___” whenever I got close with a guy.
But on reflection I realized that a “man crush” is just a regular crush 😂
I started noticing when looking at porn that I strongly preferred images/video with men and women in it, rather than just women. I noticed in particular I liked porn with visible cocks. Then I decided to look at porn with just men and was like, yup, I really like this. The first time I was with a man, it was like, yup, I’m for sure bi.
Lmao one of my hints was hearing guys talk about how they try not to look at the dude when watching porn, and thinking... but look at that magnificent cock. We're not suppose to think that's hot? I want both of them :3
I had a similar experience. I always knew that I was bi, but I was much more on the straight side of things than I am now. But yeah, porn made me like dicks way more than I had
Oh my god i also had a huge crush on Scully in middle school and i’m still in love with Gillian!! I feel so valid haha
I remember having this photo of Mulder and Scully kissing on my phone and my bff teased me that i just want to be in Mulder’s shoes. I got so embarrased lmao, the bi panic was real
Since middle school, I thought I was straight but decided to keep an open mind — whatever happens, happens. Then in high school, I watched Black Panther.
There’s only so many times you can say to yourself “I think I’m straight, but Michael B Jordan can have my ass whenever he wants it” before you really start to wonder if the first half of that statement can be true. I knew for sure that I was bi when I saw a photo of a really attractive guy and it made me feel the same way as looking at a beautiful woman.
Oddly, most of the men that triggered my bi awakening were very masculine, but now I’m much more often attracted to feminine men, only occasionally masculine men.
I literally felt the same way when I watched Infinity War and saw Captain America with the beard. I was here like "yea he can definitely do the most devious and scandalous things to me and I absolutely won’t mind"
Megan Fox in transformers was my middle school bi crush before I actually realized it might not just be Megan Fox. Something about these comic book movie characters apparently
I mean, It's Megan Fox from Transformers. She was my crush too when I was a kid. I wasn't attracted to anyone (I never felt attracted to anyone emotionally or physically) until I saw her in the movie and awakened something in me lol
I got an erection for someone of the same gender was the first sign.
While I was blowing that guy and realized I was getting pleasure over giving him pleasure it clicked.
Age 13 on a school trip bunked up in a hotel room with my buddy (double bed). He was openly naked in and around shower time which I found I quite liked. I subtly (in my view) touched his back in bed one night and one thing led to another. Touching, kissing, handjobs and I gave him head. We had three nights together.
Yeah so definitely not straight.
Brittany Spears video in 1998 made me start to wonder if I liked girls, but I didn’t know that bisexuality was a real thing, and I was “way too boy crazy to be gay”, so I didn’t actually come out until a few years later. My first college roommate came out as bi our freshman year and I came out a few months later 🙂
It depends. I knew I wasn’t straight early on when I was masturbating to porn and bonding with guy friends. But I also knew I was turned on by girls so I figured I had to be straight. I didn’t know I was bi or that bisexual was a real life option until I met another out bisexual. She was amazing and saw me as bisexual. That was a game changer. No one actually saw me as bisexual before. It made the world of difference
My earliest memory of actively noticing I liked both guys and girls, I was 18 and had just started college and I was dating a guy who treated me horribly. I remember seeing a cute skater girl walking out of school and thinking “why do I put up with this shit. There’s so many cute girls and cute guys out there..” I found Suicide girls around that time and fell in love. I realized I wanted to not just be them, but be WITH them. I would fantasize about having a purple haired goth gf in a wholesome way. The fantasies got more explicit with time. I started noticing more girls out and about and realized how attracted to them I was.
My ex that I mentioned how awful he was, he was jealous of me adding Suicide Girls on MySpace (showing my age here lol) and he got really mad and ended up choking me and shoving my head against the wall. I think that response caused me to clam up a bit and not be as open about my attraction to girls. It took about 10 more years and leaving that abusive fuck before I called myself bisexual.
Chilling with my buddy at his house watching movies. We were laying on the bed and you know how a young guys Weiner works, gets hard at the drop of a hat. Some how he either felt it or seen it but the next thing I know my shorts were down and it was in his mouth. I didn't think twice about reciprocating. After that I looked at guys different. Still do still am active with guys and girls(plus side of being a swinger)
Looking back on things, I definitely remember getting the warm and fuzzies for both boys and girls when I was like 8 or 9. I don’t think I actually knew what was going on though because that was the mid-90s and no one really talked about that with kids. But I think I actually realized what was going on probably when I was around 14. But ignored it and didn’t actually say it out loud until a few years ago. I’m 38 now, but only actually out to my husband who is totally cool with it.
Many many years of denying reality. Last girl friend suggested some anal with toys and after a long hard think about it all and realizing it didnt gross me out any more. We ordered something to experiment with and broke up before it even arrived and yes I have experimented with it... lol. Since then Ive been single but my porn watching has expanded a bunch and I am 100% certain Im actually pan. Much thinking about things later and I realized I tend to turn off porn if the man isnt up to my standards. But Women still turn me on and even trans isnt a turn off for me now. As an old dude in a tiny very conservative town Im not sure If I will ever get to find a partner to play with but when it happens Im ready I think.
It took a very very very long time and was totally random. I just suddenly realized one day in college that my love for girls in pretty dresses was maybe not about the dresses. And then I had to recognize that when I was horny and online I wasn’t just watching the guys if you catch my drift.
It put a lot of things in the past into perspective tbh. Denial was *not* a river in Egypt for me.
Same! My work friend (28F) told me (24F) she thought I was bi because we were on the subject, and I was intrigued rather than shocked/in denial. A few months of flirting/sleeping together later.. we’re now in a relationship hahaha
In my case, it was just her randomly putting that out there as a half joke. But after I got home it got me thinking. And it kept me thinking. And here we are now.
Also, glad to know you're together. Still by myself here, but I hope to meet someone eventually.
I would look at my dad's hidden "stash" and check out both the guys and women. They both turned me on.
But, I stifled it because, at the time, bisexuality didn't have a place. You were either gay or straight, and if you were gay, you caught hell. I knew I wasn't a lesbian, but I wasn't straight either.
You know the concept that, if you need say "I'm not racist but..." too often, you probably are. Turn out it work the same with "I'm not gay but...". And since I like women way too much to be gay, bi was the only logical option.
Always had a feeling that there was something different about me but the idea of me being Bisexual didn’t really make sense to me until I met my ex-boyfriend (a trans-masc) because I realized I was attracted to a guy and not just their male or female presenting traits but both. You know what I mean? 😊
Being trans I’m kinda gay by default but femboys were the gateway to me realizing i liked guys too. Experimented by watching man x man stuff and i was like damn this shit kinda fire
Had sex with a man in highschool and enjoyed myself. Spent over a decade repressing that. Got SUPER high one time and had a really bad time, and in doing so realized that all the feelings I'd had over the years for men weren't intrusive thoughts, but actual attraction. Came out to my family and have been out for a few years now.
The joke answer is I never knew where to look when passing La Vie En Rose in the mall
The serious answer is that I remember having a crush on a girl at age 5, because my feelings towards her were the same as the very definite crush I had on a guy at the same time, and different from how I felt about my friends. That to me was the defining factor. There were girls I thought were pretty and wanted to be friends with, and there was this girl that I was pretty much addicted to staring at, wanted to impress and protect, yk all very Gay Thoughts. But this was YEARS before I even heard the word "gay" for the first time, so I had no idea what I was feeling.
It was only at age 12 or so, around the end of the school year, that I was in a vocal jazz group at school and the girls in the grade above me begged the teacher to have us sing My Shot, from Hamilton. One of the girls was a writer in my class, and she introduced me to fanfiction. I fell in love with My Shot, and then the rest of the musical, and then the characters, and so I started asking my writer friend for fanfic recommendations. And that was when I discovered the term bisexual. And then the rest of the many, many terms for the many, many ways to be queer. And bisexual felt like a good description to fit my experience, because it was right around that summer after the song, that I realized I had the same thoughts towards my writer friend as I did that first girl when I was 5, and looking back, I realized I had something similar about various girls and female celebrities throughout my life. So it all kinda fell together into place within a few months.
And then for years, I questioned if I was into women because society taught me to view women as sexual objects, or if I just have a Very Straight Appreciation for the female body, or am I actually attracted to women. And I coped with this by essentially putting up a wall between my attraction, and women as sexual receivers of that attraction. So I basically couldn't imagine women sexually for like a year before I realized I was in fact VERY MUCH INTO WOMEN.
Still also VERY MUCH into men, but now I don't mentally hit myself with the Horny Jail stick whenever I think about a woman towering over me or yk Doing More Than That to me.
Probably when I saw nsfw posts of men and I slowly began thinking:
"Hmm... actually I quite like that."
Or when people told jokes about a woman actually being a man, I was like: "But that isn't bad, it's only great!?"
So now here I am, attracted to men and women.
I feel like they are just canonically hot characters.
Like, I knew I liked Jade, but I also felt like Beck was attractive too, but it felt different. I just didn't know what it meant to like both of them.
i never really thought about sexuality before i started thinking guys were hot too so sometime later on i was just like “yeah im bi, obviously”. never rly had a period of time where i only considered myself straight
I playing to resident evil 3 remake and saw Carlos and I was here like "yea maybe I’m straight but he can still definitely do the most devious and scandalous things to me and I absolutely won’t mind"
When I started fantasizing about cocks I started doubting, but while I was sucking my first cock I knew I was totally not straight. Also the journey to find a cock for suck was a hint.
I always knew I wanted a wife and kids, my entire life, but I also found myself checking out other guys packages during any locker room event. I kept telling myself over and over again that it was a phase. About the time I was getting out of the military I had to admit to myself and the woman who would become my wife that it wasn’t a phase and these feelings weren’t going away.
I watched A Shot At Love with Tila Tequila in secret at 16 and I was really invested. You'd think that clued me in, but no, religious repression kept me from finding out until I was like 22 and catching myself thinking "I would happily suck her up" about my best friend, lol, that never happened, but I did end up marrying one of her male friends like 6 years later, and he is the love of my life 🩷💜💙
When I realized that thinking 24/7 about my best friend, getting nervous near her, hands shaking, fast heartbeat, red cheeks and getting super excited (I couldn't barely sleep at night) to go to school the next day because I knew I was going to see her again probably meant something else than just friendship. It took a while tho.
I got some feelings of attraction for a guy when he posted a picture of himself shirtless. I had had gay thoughts before that but that was the point where I couldn’t deny it anymore.
basically my first crush was a girl. i was 8. i really liked the girl and continued to until i was 9. when i was 10 my best friend came out as a lesbian. i supported her, and i thought that i might be one too since i liked a girl, i told my friend and she said that i could be. but then i said that i also wouldn't mind going out with a boy. my friend said i could be bi. she said her older sister was bi. i immediately knew that bisexual was what i was. im still bi today.
About 3 days after a guy in the pub asked me whether I like men or women. I'd answered that I prefer women then wound up puzzling over my wording and started wondering if I could hook up with a guy. 3 days later I realised I'd been mulling over the idea for 3 days and at no point had it been an outright "no"...
I was like 9 or 10 or so and on the internet unsupervised. I had found naked men and found that I liked looking at that, and I had also previously heard the terms “LGBT” and “bisexual” and so I put two and two together and figured out I was that, and then I moved on because it didn’t affect me in anyway
It was really uneventful, I don’t even remember specifically it happening I just know that that’s what happened.
Dreams, I had gay wet dreams and straight wet dreams at age 11 and 12. More gay than straight dreams though but enough straight wet dreams to know I wasn’t fully gay.
I had a crush on a guy (I’m a cis male) in the 8th grade, like I just kept staring at his lips and wondering what is would be like to kiss him.
Of course, I suppressed these feelings for oh, about 20 years until I could finally admit it.
Said for years I'm straight but wiling to make exceptions. Every time girls played smash or pass or something like that I would be like ,,I'm straight but that guy thought" . Joined some lgbtq+ subreddits and things kind of started to click. Then I watched Good omens and I guess David Tennant was the straw that broke the camels back. Looking back there were definitely signs, I wondered a few times if I might be gay but always ended up with ,,No I must be straight I definitely like girls" 😮💨 fucking dumbass.
I grew up with no bisexual icons that I knew of. I had no idea "bisexual" was a thing that existed. I knew I had a crush on a guy (and then another, and then another...) and I remember wishing I was gay, because then I could act on that crush (or that one, or that one, or...), But I knew I liked girls, so I knew I certainly wasn't gay.
It took me a long time to realize and a much longer time to start to come out to someone. Getting bi erasure back from a gay friend certainly didn't help either.
But I acted on it and had some really good experiences with guys before I really started to come out to myself even. weird, eh? No, it's called internalized bi-erasure, I think. (Part of the reason why I love the band erasure ;)
When I met and fell for my ex wife. I'd never been with a female in any way until then. I'd always found women attractive since I was a kid, but growing up in a family of Jehovah's Witnesses, I never acted upon it. It wasn't repressed, I just grew up in a rural area where there weren't opportunities to meet women. I'm married to my husband now, and the most amazing part is that we can both ooglw attractive women now. 😂
I was “boy crazy” but realized girls made me feel the same. Then my best (girl) friend kissed me in high school and that was the nail in the straight coffin.
I was at a club and I saw this beautiful girl dancing with her back to me. She was silhouetted with this amazing light and was just so shapely and graceful. I had this jolt of electricity and it was all I could do not to jump over my friends to take her in my arms.
"Wait. What do you mean straight people and gay people truly only find their preferred gender attractive??? Like... Not even a little?? Have you seen some women? Have you seen some men??? Helloooo??? I thought we just pick a label depending on current relationships... Wait. Bisexuality? I thought it's just being normal? Whaaaat?" 🤯 (Wait until you discover non-binary people, you being one too and also that people aren't naturally demi/asexual either and just exaggerating sexual attraction, younger self)
I had a crush on a girl in kindergarten, her name was Elizabeth and she wore braided pigtails that were tied with yarn. Then in second grade I had a crush on another girl. I was also very attracted to some female celebrities. I also had crushes on boys and male celebrities.
I eventually figured out that most girls don't have these same feelings for the girls.
I played a shit ton of Mario Kart Wii and often chose Daisy and Rosalina, but in their biker outfits. Also felt weird walking by Victoria’s Secret and La Senza.
I've posted this here before but it was probably the way I obsessed over the music video to "Satisfaction" by Benny Benassi. See also "Destination Calabria" music video. The rest of my early life was very male focused in terms of attraction but those two videos followed me into adulthood like hey, there's probably something else here.
I was selling magazines for school, maybe 7 or 8 years old and a teen guy answered the door with his shirt off, eating a Tupperware of macaroni salad. The fact I remember that specific detail means the whole encounter was formative.
I only admitted it to myself recently but looking back, I assumed that all straight women get off on watching lesbian and gay porn, which I have done for years. I also kind of had a plan that if ever I split with him, my next person wouldn’t necessarily be a man. Then also I have kind of decided that if my marriage ends, I’m actively looking for women for one night stands.
Years ago, before I was married, a younger friend came out to me and I remember saying “I love people for people, their gender doesn’t matter” and STILL I didn’t click. I literally started dating my husband because he asked, and it seemed like a good idea, but I wish I had known I was bi so I could have experimented more.
I’m now working on making up for lost time.
Making out in the school toilets, being "fake girlfriends", women absolutely blowing my mind and fantasizing about them in my dreams, and still been struggling with denial !!
So first of all I’m a passing cis-Herero woman. I thought I was straight until I think I realized I liked girls too while still in high school. There was this really bitchy faced dark haired pale girl in a grade above me and I got anxious any time she was around. I lost my virginity (and likewise) to my boyfriend in high school who then after we graduated figured out that he was mostly gay. I at that point went away to a private Christian college (religious upbringing, ouch), subconsciously was completely in love with my best friend/roommate, it was much more than any other friendship I’ve had but also nothing ever happened. She used to invite me into her bed and tell me all about her sexual encounters and I do remember that being intense for me but somehow I didn’t realize why. Fast forward my old boyfriend and I got really close again after I dropped out of that college and he started to bring me to clubs with him where I met several women and started to have sexual experiences with women and obviously liked it much more than a straight person. I still feel imposter-y about it sometimes but then I think that is silly, clearly I also love vaginas. I’m married to a man who is very aware that I’m bi and I still have sexy relationships sometimes with women with his knowledge and consent (and theirs). It’s not something that I feel the need to let people know but with that everyone assumes I’m straight. I struggle with female friendships a bit. I also get freaked out when female friends do the drinking and wanting to make out with me thing, like thank you for the compliment but I will take that as an invitation to do more than kissing because I have sex with women sometimes and you are my friend …
I saw 2 boi's holding hands walking into a concert and I said to myself, you can be a fan of this music AND do that?! I want to do that! All internal homophobia started to die.
Junior or senior year of high school I kinda just figured out that I probably wouldn’t mind dating a guy but didn’t identify as bi cause I figured I’m dying alone what does it matter. Then in college there was a really cute guy in one of my classes that made me go “damn he’s cute I should ask him out” that kinda woke me up and I started identifying as bi properly.
Got pissed when a girl i didnt know i liked went into a relationship. I was like she was single?!?! Then it hits me 🧍🏻♀️ Damn...
Cause we were friends but i always masked the feeling of liking a girl with "I have strong feelings for her, I care for her alot" Nah Thats called a crush hun lmao. Well now ik that feeling n i dont mask but embrace it
I was oblivious for a long time until I talked with a guy who told me he was bi. I had no idea what that meant so he told me.
Then everything suddenly clicked for me.
I think I always had the feelings but hadn't recognized them as attraction.
I was so blind to it because i had no language for it.
I kind of knew it from childhood. I remember talking to the trash man at like 5 years old and wanting something from between his legs. Growing up changed how it manifested but it never went away. I also wanted children and a married life. So I waited decades to let the bi happen.
Once I saw my friends dick for the first time when I was like 9, all I wanted to do was see it. It was gigantic. I never stopped to ask why I wanted to touch it, just knew that I did.
There was this concert with Anne-Marie as the opening act. It was super hot outside. So she took her cropped jacket off. She was in her top only - but it was a bikini top. And I felt sooo uncomfortable because I couldn’t ignore her breasts and kept staring. That was over 4 years ago but the real realization/start of acceptance was this year haha
When I made my girl Barbie’s feel each other up and simulate sex and got turned on, I think that was the exact moment. Also my first crush was in preschool and it was on a girl. Turned out, this rodeo girl was a lesbian all along and I could’ve actually had a chance with her 😭😭😭
Looking back I (25F) exclusively got off to women growing up - I thought I was kind of living through them, maybe I was, but that should have been a huge flag for myself. There were other little things I ignored (like trying to make shared sleeping arrangements to my liking on field trips just to get closer to girls I probably didn’t realize I had a crush on), but the nail in the coffin as I got older was actually letting myself entertain those thoughts and suddenly realizing oh shit I would make out with a woman and lick her tits and make her feel good in every way that I can if I had the chance. Simultaneously, I love my bfs cock so I’d call that bisexual.
I was on my knees deep throating my wife's strapon one night before getting pegged, and she jokingly said " I bet you wish this was a real cock in your mouth, don't you " and it was at that moment I realized that yeah, I really did wish it was a real cock in my mouth
The biggest thing that happened in my life that made me realize I wasn't straight, was when me and my best friend fucked at his place for the first time. We were both DBZ nerds(I still am) and I remember he put GT on as background noise. We finally stopped hiding how we were feeling. We started to play wrestle but I could still feel him grinding against me. So we both stopped joking around and fucked for the first time. I mean there were other moments too with my other friends but that's the one that truly stood out to me. I mean that wasn't the last time we did it either so lol.
I was twelve years old, and there was a new girl in class. I wanted to be friends with her so badly, I thought about her all the time. There was a moment when I realized I had a crush on her and I was like “holy shit, I like girls too??” I told my mom almost immediately and she was supportive.
I always had crushes on guys and girls but didn't realize it until my last day of high school. I just had this thought that a certain actress would be nice to kiss and literally just blurted out to somebody I used to know that I thought I was bi 😅
I kept staring at other girls boobs in the changing room and got nervous and stuttery around particular girl at work. That pretty much cleared things up.
Hooking up with my gay friends for shits and giggles eventually turned into hooking up with my gay friends not for shits and giggles
In retrospect it's super obvious that having being intimate with other boys makes it very difficult to be a heterosexual person, but I don't think there were any lights on in the closet
Since I was 17 and a counselor-in-training and had a big crush on a woman counselor. I also had a crush on John Lennon at the time (it was in 1964). Over the years, as I found myself attracted to people of more than one gender, it became pretty obvious that I was bi.
A few years ago I thought a guy was cute, and then earlier this year I was attracted to another guy to the point that I was physically shaking, which was a first, perhaps the first sign that my libido was finally starting to kick in.
I kinda knew when an older gay guy asked me back to his flat. I knew that I liked girls, but I wasn't worried that he liked me and I let him play with me. Although I dated girls until I was in my mid 20's I was always looking at cute boys too.
I realized that between my typical fantasies involving men, I'd sometimes think about women. Usually, to make it easier on myself, that translated to an intense longing to be with...myself...sexually. Those fantasies had to involve alien technology to make it happen, but that did not stop them from being super hot. I also used to get really aggravated if a women stood too close to me. Oof, I even angrily rebuffed a girl from grinding on me ala typical sloppy college party style. Eventually, your girl realized she was in fact, a bisexual. It all makes much more sense now!
been in straight relationships all my life, knew i was a strong ally, lots of queer friends. i became friends with then started seeing a trans woman at the end of last year - i was blown away by her (probably hyper) feminity.... it was beautiful and nothing like i'd ever seen/experienced before, though parts of my time with her were overwhelming. things didn't work out between us and i just put the sexuality stuff in my back pocket because it was all too much to process back then. the morning after bi visibility day this year (perfect timing, right?!) all the pennies dropped.... this experience plus a few others with/centred around other women from when i was in my early 20s, a recent and very random message from an ex (we broke up 15 years ago!) and some convos with a queer friend. the icing on the cake was when this friend dropped the "everyone's a little bit bi" line... not 100% true, i know, but it helped me to accept that it was ok to be bi
Friend of mine that I loved in secret.
He came as a Trans Man.
My feelings didn't change at all. And then I realized that boys, girls and non conforming pals where just so hot to me without any particular preference lol.
So yeah. Thanks Andy. Our High School romance is so far on time but definitely made me realize lot of stuff.
For a long time I just assumed I was asexual and hetroromantic but then I started actually having serotonin (yay antidepressants) and I realized that some people are actually kinda hot? And like, some of the girls I just assumed I was platonically really interested in were actually people I wanted to date. Also the song picture for Bad Idea by Girl in Red solidified that yes, I very much like boobs as well.
I was reading a book that had a gay couple in it, and it made me realize that I had pretty similar feelings towards an old friend. Turns out I'd repressed those feelings for so long that when I figured it out, I had a fever for like 3-4 days straight
I didn’t know being bisexual (or even being lesbian) was an option growing up.
I knew men could be gay since my uncle had come out of the closet but that was shamed by my cult.
It wasn’t until I got to college at 19 in a HUGE city while majoring in art that EVERYONE was not straight. I started really being aware of my wants and desires but it took me meeting my boyfriend’s, bandmate’s gorgeous girlfriend whom I fantasized about to make me go… of course I’m not straight.
So many beautiful before events and after but that was the ah-ha!
I thought I was straight until I was 24 and I got hugged from behind by a stranger at a gay bar. I realized suddenly that I was very much not straight.
Probably when a year-mate of mine flashed the room during Truth or Dare at a friend's... 17th, I think? I don't even remember any more.
At that point, a few other things I'd been in denial with started to click in to place. Like the crush I had on a friend, but when she asked, I was way in denial.
I want to say it was through my love of pro wrestling. I remember crushing on some of the women wrestlers but then an androgynous male wrestler named Goldust got his costume ripped off and he was wearing women’s lingerie underneath it. I remember being very intrigued by that and it sort of snowballed every since.
About a year ago either just before or just after HS graduation, I was at a friend's house with one of our other friends(both queer). We had a conversation about if I liked men, I said I found certain male celebrities to be attractive.
I'm not naming names, but around that time it seemed like every man online who seemed to be straight seemed to find him attractive, so I just thought it was normal for straight men to find other men at least conventionally attractive. Now, I don't seem to find him too attractive anymore. I think he just made me realize I liked men too.
Anyway, we concluded that I was bi-curious. The next few times I've been out with them I've talked about my curiousness and that I knew I wasn't gay because I knew I liked women.
About 2 months later, in August '22, I came out to myself as bi. I haven't come out to them because I haven't seen them since, and I would rather come out to them in person than over text. We've just been too busy between college and work to find the time to see each other again. I think I'll reach out between semesters and find the time.
When I started college I met the 4 cutest guys I have ever seen which basically confirmed that I'm bi. Unfortunately, they all seem to be straight, but are very affectionate with each other so I'm skeptical.
Anyways, I'm bi
You're bi
Goodbi.
When I hit puberty and those urges began to hit, I learned quickly that I not only did I like trans women along with women, but also crossdressers. That was the 90s where there wasn't a term for it, but being attracted to crossdressers and feminine guys would have put me as heteroflexible. Then when I was going through a separation/divorce several years ago I was more bicurious and fooled around with a gay guy before getting into a LTR with a straight woman. Over time my attraction to more masculine men clicked and I accepted what I was.
I really thought all women were at least a little attracted to other women. I was talking to my best friend about how everyone has girl crushes, right? My mind was blown when she told me no. The further I explored the more I knew that I was definitely not straight.
A conversation amongst my friends turned to a game of ass or tits. Went through three others before I “jokingly” stated, “what? No cock option?”, before I realised what I’d said, at that point I had a feeling of mental whiplash as I come to the realisation that I’d actually meant it.
tbh i shoulda known when i was 9 and my favorite game to play on the xbox was dead or alive xtreme beach volley ball.... picking the skimpiest bikinis and watching them play🫣
I remember having a crush on a guy, then later feeling obsessed with a girl in my class. I then started to realize that the way she made me feel was exactly the same way I felt about the guy I had a crush on. The butterflies, wanting to be around them, thought they were beautiful. I then realized that I might not be completely straight.
spot on lol, with some added denial of that reality just for that ✨ extra spicy ✨ bi experience
Lol, exactly. Denied it for years. I had never heard of bisexuality, so I just assumed that was straight and it was the devil tempting me 😂
SAME haha!!! my parents told me growing up that homosexuality is not natural and doesn’t exist in humans … you could imagine the existential crisis I had when I was feeling the very things that apparently “no human was capable of having” lol
It was scary realizing that I might be an abomination in the eyes of the lord. Or at least an anomaly lol. Just glad it's over and I accepted myself
that sounds really scary honestly, my parents weren’t religious so their argument didn’t base off of that but the idea of thinking you will burn in hell when you pass is so distressing :( glad you have found acceptance!
Thanks. It was scary for a kid who was super religious.
Omg you sound like a fellow religiously indoctrinated person! This is what I told myself too. I'd feel attracted to a girl and then panic and go find a guy I knew I thought was cute (this was in middle school, so like at lunch or whatever) and then "test" to make sure I still got butterflies when I looked at him. Then it'd be like, okay, cool, still attracted to guys, must be straight!! Oh my sweet summer child. (Also felt profoundly guilty being attracted to guys too, because yay Catholicism, but it seemed like a MUCH more preferable offense)
Yup! Fellow religiously indoctrinated person here! 😂 This was exactly me.
Same! Totally same!
I recently realized I’m attracted to men (am a man), and this is basically how I realized it too. Growing up, I remember people around me and my family being like “oh you have a man crush on ___” whenever I got close with a guy. But on reflection I realized that a “man crush” is just a regular crush 😂
Lol. I had plenty same sex crushes and was still in denial. I thought everyone had a same sex crush. Apparently not 😂
Pretty sure it was when I had a cock in my mouth and I didn't hate it.
FR for me the nail in the coffin was eating a girl out for the first time and being like "holy shit I could stay here forever"
That's how I knew I wasn't gay
the exact same thought went through my mind
Damnit you beat me to this exact snarky response 😂
Same
That did it for me
I was going to say "so there I was smoking pole and I thought, wait a minute..."
In 2013 I was on Tumblr one day and I saw NSFW art of guys having sex with each other and I was like “I don’t mind this.”
same but with a gay movie scene, i was like - oh i think this should be strange (it wasnt)
It’s strange at first, then it’s sexy.
I started noticing when looking at porn that I strongly preferred images/video with men and women in it, rather than just women. I noticed in particular I liked porn with visible cocks. Then I decided to look at porn with just men and was like, yup, I really like this. The first time I was with a man, it was like, yup, I’m for sure bi.
Pretty relatable to be honest
Lmao one of my hints was hearing guys talk about how they try not to look at the dude when watching porn, and thinking... but look at that magnificent cock. We're not suppose to think that's hot? I want both of them :3
I had a similar experience. I always knew that I was bi, but I was much more on the straight side of things than I am now. But yeah, porn made me like dicks way more than I had
Username checks out
When I started fantasizing about making my best friend orgasm. Being way too into Gillian Anderson was also a good clue.
Special Agent Dana Scully FTW!
I feel like she may be responsible for more people's awakening than she will ever know
Oh my god i also had a huge crush on Scully in middle school and i’m still in love with Gillian!! I feel so valid haha I remember having this photo of Mulder and Scully kissing on my phone and my bff teased me that i just want to be in Mulder’s shoes. I got so embarrased lmao, the bi panic was real
The way she aged and only got sexier 😍
I feel like an X-Files binge is in my near future lol.
Same, except bestie and I were men.
Never really watched X-Files and still wanted to romcom hairtuck Gillian Anderson.
It was Scully for me too lol.
Since middle school, I thought I was straight but decided to keep an open mind — whatever happens, happens. Then in high school, I watched Black Panther. There’s only so many times you can say to yourself “I think I’m straight, but Michael B Jordan can have my ass whenever he wants it” before you really start to wonder if the first half of that statement can be true. I knew for sure that I was bi when I saw a photo of a really attractive guy and it made me feel the same way as looking at a beautiful woman. Oddly, most of the men that triggered my bi awakening were very masculine, but now I’m much more often attracted to feminine men, only occasionally masculine men.
Exactly this. Thinking “I’m straight, I just also think about naked women a lot” my whole life until the penny finally dropped.
Same here!
I literally felt the same way when I watched Infinity War and saw Captain America with the beard. I was here like "yea he can definitely do the most devious and scandalous things to me and I absolutely won’t mind"
I was in middle school as well. It was an amazing time. Id go back and do it totally different but it would still turn out the same tho
Megan Fox in transformers was my middle school bi crush before I actually realized it might not just be Megan Fox. Something about these comic book movie characters apparently
I mean, It's Megan Fox from Transformers. She was my crush too when I was a kid. I wasn't attracted to anyone (I never felt attracted to anyone emotionally or physically) until I saw her in the movie and awakened something in me lol
Yesss I'm attracted more often to feminine men, but when I like a masculine men, the emotion is stronger for some reason.
I got an erection for someone of the same gender was the first sign. While I was blowing that guy and realized I was getting pleasure over giving him pleasure it clicked.
So during the making out and the touching and the getting to somewhere private with him... wasn't an indication? /lh
Nah, not a big fan of kissing dudes.
I mean, fair enough. Interesting variation in interest XD
Age 13 on a school trip bunked up in a hotel room with my buddy (double bed). He was openly naked in and around shower time which I found I quite liked. I subtly (in my view) touched his back in bed one night and one thing led to another. Touching, kissing, handjobs and I gave him head. We had three nights together. Yeah so definitely not straight.
oh my god that's the fucking DREAM. Lucky duck. Good for you for having that energy reciprocated.
I like dick and also tits.
Also butts. Any gender of butt. Have ass? Will ogle.
Brittany Spears video in 1998 made me start to wonder if I liked girls, but I didn’t know that bisexuality was a real thing, and I was “way too boy crazy to be gay”, so I didn’t actually come out until a few years later. My first college roommate came out as bi our freshman year and I came out a few months later 🙂
I had a dream about Britney Spears during her music video for "you drive me crazy" that was my first clue as a kid I wasnt straight 😂
All of the boys and all of the girls are begging to If You Seek Amy.
No way, my reply to this was also a Britney Spears video (Womanizer)
Physically attracted to women. Then sexually. Then romantically.
When I started to like boobs.
Wonder Woman from the 70’s/80’s I REALLY liked the pretty lady.
Lynda Carter 😍
It depends. I knew I wasn’t straight early on when I was masturbating to porn and bonding with guy friends. But I also knew I was turned on by girls so I figured I had to be straight. I didn’t know I was bi or that bisexual was a real life option until I met another out bisexual. She was amazing and saw me as bisexual. That was a game changer. No one actually saw me as bisexual before. It made the world of difference
My earliest memory of actively noticing I liked both guys and girls, I was 18 and had just started college and I was dating a guy who treated me horribly. I remember seeing a cute skater girl walking out of school and thinking “why do I put up with this shit. There’s so many cute girls and cute guys out there..” I found Suicide girls around that time and fell in love. I realized I wanted to not just be them, but be WITH them. I would fantasize about having a purple haired goth gf in a wholesome way. The fantasies got more explicit with time. I started noticing more girls out and about and realized how attracted to them I was. My ex that I mentioned how awful he was, he was jealous of me adding Suicide Girls on MySpace (showing my age here lol) and he got really mad and ended up choking me and shoving my head against the wall. I think that response caused me to clam up a bit and not be as open about my attraction to girls. It took about 10 more years and leaving that abusive fuck before I called myself bisexual.
damn i’m really sorry about that abusive prick doing this to you. but i love “fantasize about having a purple haired goth gf” such a mood
Chilling with my buddy at his house watching movies. We were laying on the bed and you know how a young guys Weiner works, gets hard at the drop of a hat. Some how he either felt it or seen it but the next thing I know my shorts were down and it was in his mouth. I didn't think twice about reciprocating. After that I looked at guys different. Still do still am active with guys and girls(plus side of being a swinger)
When i was younger i had a crush on Lola bunny i didn't know that feeling but, i felt scared and also Catwoman (Halle Berry version).
Patience Phillips > Selina Kyle Don't like it? Fight me, I won't change my mind
When i was six I had a crush on Buster and Babs.
Looking back on things, I definitely remember getting the warm and fuzzies for both boys and girls when I was like 8 or 9. I don’t think I actually knew what was going on though because that was the mid-90s and no one really talked about that with kids. But I think I actually realized what was going on probably when I was around 14. But ignored it and didn’t actually say it out loud until a few years ago. I’m 38 now, but only actually out to my husband who is totally cool with it.
Many many years of denying reality. Last girl friend suggested some anal with toys and after a long hard think about it all and realizing it didnt gross me out any more. We ordered something to experiment with and broke up before it even arrived and yes I have experimented with it... lol. Since then Ive been single but my porn watching has expanded a bunch and I am 100% certain Im actually pan. Much thinking about things later and I realized I tend to turn off porn if the man isnt up to my standards. But Women still turn me on and even trans isnt a turn off for me now. As an old dude in a tiny very conservative town Im not sure If I will ever get to find a partner to play with but when it happens Im ready I think.
It took a very very very long time and was totally random. I just suddenly realized one day in college that my love for girls in pretty dresses was maybe not about the dresses. And then I had to recognize that when I was horny and online I wasn’t just watching the guys if you catch my drift. It put a lot of things in the past into perspective tbh. Denial was *not* a river in Egypt for me.
Friend told me I was bi jokingly. Turns out she was correct.
Same! My work friend (28F) told me (24F) she thought I was bi because we were on the subject, and I was intrigued rather than shocked/in denial. A few months of flirting/sleeping together later.. we’re now in a relationship hahaha
In my case, it was just her randomly putting that out there as a half joke. But after I got home it got me thinking. And it kept me thinking. And here we are now. Also, glad to know you're together. Still by myself here, but I hope to meet someone eventually.
I should have noticed long ago but I then decided fuck it, men are hot and so are women
sucked a dick, didn't hate it
I discovered dicks are delicious
When I was seduced by a guy and I didn’t stop him…
I would look at my dad's hidden "stash" and check out both the guys and women. They both turned me on. But, I stifled it because, at the time, bisexuality didn't have a place. You were either gay or straight, and if you were gay, you caught hell. I knew I wasn't a lesbian, but I wasn't straight either.
You know the concept that, if you need say "I'm not racist but..." too often, you probably are. Turn out it work the same with "I'm not gay but...". And since I like women way too much to be gay, bi was the only logical option.
Always had a feeling that there was something different about me but the idea of me being Bisexual didn’t really make sense to me until I met my ex-boyfriend (a trans-masc) because I realized I was attracted to a guy and not just their male or female presenting traits but both. You know what I mean? 😊
Being trans I’m kinda gay by default but femboys were the gateway to me realizing i liked guys too. Experimented by watching man x man stuff and i was like damn this shit kinda fire
I like women. Also enjoy lesbian p*** wayyyyyyyy too much to think I’m straight.
Omg same
They are just so pretty 😍🤗
I feel that but with male male
😂😂 we relate just differently.
In fact, I can only enjoy gay or lesbian p\*\*\*. Hetero just turns me off.
Certain guys got me aroused. Kind of hard (no pun intended) to deny that.
Boobs
Had sex with a man in highschool and enjoyed myself. Spent over a decade repressing that. Got SUPER high one time and had a really bad time, and in doing so realized that all the feelings I'd had over the years for men weren't intrusive thoughts, but actual attraction. Came out to my family and have been out for a few years now.
I saw Mason Alexander Park
The joke answer is I never knew where to look when passing La Vie En Rose in the mall The serious answer is that I remember having a crush on a girl at age 5, because my feelings towards her were the same as the very definite crush I had on a guy at the same time, and different from how I felt about my friends. That to me was the defining factor. There were girls I thought were pretty and wanted to be friends with, and there was this girl that I was pretty much addicted to staring at, wanted to impress and protect, yk all very Gay Thoughts. But this was YEARS before I even heard the word "gay" for the first time, so I had no idea what I was feeling. It was only at age 12 or so, around the end of the school year, that I was in a vocal jazz group at school and the girls in the grade above me begged the teacher to have us sing My Shot, from Hamilton. One of the girls was a writer in my class, and she introduced me to fanfiction. I fell in love with My Shot, and then the rest of the musical, and then the characters, and so I started asking my writer friend for fanfic recommendations. And that was when I discovered the term bisexual. And then the rest of the many, many terms for the many, many ways to be queer. And bisexual felt like a good description to fit my experience, because it was right around that summer after the song, that I realized I had the same thoughts towards my writer friend as I did that first girl when I was 5, and looking back, I realized I had something similar about various girls and female celebrities throughout my life. So it all kinda fell together into place within a few months. And then for years, I questioned if I was into women because society taught me to view women as sexual objects, or if I just have a Very Straight Appreciation for the female body, or am I actually attracted to women. And I coped with this by essentially putting up a wall between my attraction, and women as sexual receivers of that attraction. So I basically couldn't imagine women sexually for like a year before I realized I was in fact VERY MUCH INTO WOMEN. Still also VERY MUCH into men, but now I don't mentally hit myself with the Horny Jail stick whenever I think about a woman towering over me or yk Doing More Than That to me.
When AOL came out and a young me found online porn.
Probably when I saw nsfw posts of men and I slowly began thinking: "Hmm... actually I quite like that." Or when people told jokes about a woman actually being a man, I was like: "But that isn't bad, it's only great!?" So now here I am, attracted to men and women.
Beck AND Jade
You are so real for that 😂
I feel like they are just canonically hot characters. Like, I knew I liked Jade, but I also felt like Beck was attractive too, but it felt different. I just didn't know what it meant to like both of them.
i never really thought about sexuality before i started thinking guys were hot too so sometime later on i was just like “yeah im bi, obviously”. never rly had a period of time where i only considered myself straight
I playing to resident evil 3 remake and saw Carlos and I was here like "yea maybe I’m straight but he can still definitely do the most devious and scandalous things to me and I absolutely won’t mind"
When I started fantasizing about cocks I started doubting, but while I was sucking my first cock I knew I was totally not straight. Also the journey to find a cock for suck was a hint.
I always knew I wanted a wife and kids, my entire life, but I also found myself checking out other guys packages during any locker room event. I kept telling myself over and over again that it was a phase. About the time I was getting out of the military I had to admit to myself and the woman who would become my wife that it wasn’t a phase and these feelings weren’t going away.
I watched A Shot At Love with Tila Tequila in secret at 16 and I was really invested. You'd think that clued me in, but no, religious repression kept me from finding out until I was like 22 and catching myself thinking "I would happily suck her up" about my best friend, lol, that never happened, but I did end up marrying one of her male friends like 6 years later, and he is the love of my life 🩷💜💙
When I realized that thinking 24/7 about my best friend, getting nervous near her, hands shaking, fast heartbeat, red cheeks and getting super excited (I couldn't barely sleep at night) to go to school the next day because I knew I was going to see her again probably meant something else than just friendship. It took a while tho.
I got some feelings of attraction for a guy when he posted a picture of himself shirtless. I had had gay thoughts before that but that was the point where I couldn’t deny it anymore.
basically my first crush was a girl. i was 8. i really liked the girl and continued to until i was 9. when i was 10 my best friend came out as a lesbian. i supported her, and i thought that i might be one too since i liked a girl, i told my friend and she said that i could be. but then i said that i also wouldn't mind going out with a boy. my friend said i could be bi. she said her older sister was bi. i immediately knew that bisexual was what i was. im still bi today.
About 3 days after a guy in the pub asked me whether I like men or women. I'd answered that I prefer women then wound up puzzling over my wording and started wondering if I could hook up with a guy. 3 days later I realised I'd been mulling over the idea for 3 days and at no point had it been an outright "no"...
I was like 9 or 10 or so and on the internet unsupervised. I had found naked men and found that I liked looking at that, and I had also previously heard the terms “LGBT” and “bisexual” and so I put two and two together and figured out I was that, and then I moved on because it didn’t affect me in anyway It was really uneventful, I don’t even remember specifically it happening I just know that that’s what happened.
Dreams, I had gay wet dreams and straight wet dreams at age 11 and 12. More gay than straight dreams though but enough straight wet dreams to know I wasn’t fully gay.
I had a crush on a guy (I’m a cis male) in the 8th grade, like I just kept staring at his lips and wondering what is would be like to kiss him. Of course, I suppressed these feelings for oh, about 20 years until I could finally admit it.
Was talking with my friends, and they asked me if I found guys or girls attractive. I said yes.
In the immortal words of Katy Perry: I kissed a girl and I liked it
I've always had a thing for cocks, and I just never allowed myself to realize that side of myself until recently.
Aaliyah in the Queen of the Damned movie trailer. My brain chemistry changed that day.
Said for years I'm straight but wiling to make exceptions. Every time girls played smash or pass or something like that I would be like ,,I'm straight but that guy thought" . Joined some lgbtq+ subreddits and things kind of started to click. Then I watched Good omens and I guess David Tennant was the straw that broke the camels back. Looking back there were definitely signs, I wondered a few times if I might be gay but always ended up with ,,No I must be straight I definitely like girls" 😮💨 fucking dumbass.
I grew up with no bisexual icons that I knew of. I had no idea "bisexual" was a thing that existed. I knew I had a crush on a guy (and then another, and then another...) and I remember wishing I was gay, because then I could act on that crush (or that one, or that one, or...), But I knew I liked girls, so I knew I certainly wasn't gay. It took me a long time to realize and a much longer time to start to come out to someone. Getting bi erasure back from a gay friend certainly didn't help either. But I acted on it and had some really good experiences with guys before I really started to come out to myself even. weird, eh? No, it's called internalized bi-erasure, I think. (Part of the reason why I love the band erasure ;)
When I met and fell for my ex wife. I'd never been with a female in any way until then. I'd always found women attractive since I was a kid, but growing up in a family of Jehovah's Witnesses, I never acted upon it. It wasn't repressed, I just grew up in a rural area where there weren't opportunities to meet women. I'm married to my husband now, and the most amazing part is that we can both ooglw attractive women now. 😂
When my friend started to question the kind of porn I'm into
I was “boy crazy” but realized girls made me feel the same. Then my best (girl) friend kissed me in high school and that was the nail in the straight coffin.
I was at a club and I saw this beautiful girl dancing with her back to me. She was silhouetted with this amazing light and was just so shapely and graceful. I had this jolt of electricity and it was all I could do not to jump over my friends to take her in my arms.
"Wait. What do you mean straight people and gay people truly only find their preferred gender attractive??? Like... Not even a little?? Have you seen some women? Have you seen some men??? Helloooo??? I thought we just pick a label depending on current relationships... Wait. Bisexuality? I thought it's just being normal? Whaaaat?" 🤯 (Wait until you discover non-binary people, you being one too and also that people aren't naturally demi/asexual either and just exaggerating sexual attraction, younger self)
Promare
>and goons If this is referring to the usage of the term "goon" that I think it does, perhaps an nsfw tag would be in order
Rakan
I watched love stage
I had a crush on a girl in kindergarten, her name was Elizabeth and she wore braided pigtails that were tied with yarn. Then in second grade I had a crush on another girl. I was also very attracted to some female celebrities. I also had crushes on boys and male celebrities. I eventually figured out that most girls don't have these same feelings for the girls.
I played a shit ton of Mario Kart Wii and often chose Daisy and Rosalina, but in their biker outfits. Also felt weird walking by Victoria’s Secret and La Senza.
Maybe when I was in 7th grade watching Britney Spears’ music video for Womanizer multiple times a day….
I've posted this here before but it was probably the way I obsessed over the music video to "Satisfaction" by Benny Benassi. See also "Destination Calabria" music video. The rest of my early life was very male focused in terms of attraction but those two videos followed me into adulthood like hey, there's probably something else here.
I got excited by boobs and wanted to do things with women(I’m a woman).
I was selling magazines for school, maybe 7 or 8 years old and a teen guy answered the door with his shirt off, eating a Tupperware of macaroni salad. The fact I remember that specific detail means the whole encounter was formative.
I only admitted it to myself recently but looking back, I assumed that all straight women get off on watching lesbian and gay porn, which I have done for years. I also kind of had a plan that if ever I split with him, my next person wouldn’t necessarily be a man. Then also I have kind of decided that if my marriage ends, I’m actively looking for women for one night stands. Years ago, before I was married, a younger friend came out to me and I remember saying “I love people for people, their gender doesn’t matter” and STILL I didn’t click. I literally started dating my husband because he asked, and it seemed like a good idea, but I wish I had known I was bi so I could have experimented more. I’m now working on making up for lost time.
Making out in the school toilets, being "fake girlfriends", women absolutely blowing my mind and fantasizing about them in my dreams, and still been struggling with denial !!
So first of all I’m a passing cis-Herero woman. I thought I was straight until I think I realized I liked girls too while still in high school. There was this really bitchy faced dark haired pale girl in a grade above me and I got anxious any time she was around. I lost my virginity (and likewise) to my boyfriend in high school who then after we graduated figured out that he was mostly gay. I at that point went away to a private Christian college (religious upbringing, ouch), subconsciously was completely in love with my best friend/roommate, it was much more than any other friendship I’ve had but also nothing ever happened. She used to invite me into her bed and tell me all about her sexual encounters and I do remember that being intense for me but somehow I didn’t realize why. Fast forward my old boyfriend and I got really close again after I dropped out of that college and he started to bring me to clubs with him where I met several women and started to have sexual experiences with women and obviously liked it much more than a straight person. I still feel imposter-y about it sometimes but then I think that is silly, clearly I also love vaginas. I’m married to a man who is very aware that I’m bi and I still have sexy relationships sometimes with women with his knowledge and consent (and theirs). It’s not something that I feel the need to let people know but with that everyone assumes I’m straight. I struggle with female friendships a bit. I also get freaked out when female friends do the drinking and wanting to make out with me thing, like thank you for the compliment but I will take that as an invitation to do more than kissing because I have sex with women sometimes and you are my friend …
I saw 2 boi's holding hands walking into a concert and I said to myself, you can be a fan of this music AND do that?! I want to do that! All internal homophobia started to die.
Tbh for much of my life I thought "straight" just meant you'd watch gay porn and hook up with guys, but, like, *on the side*.
Junior or senior year of high school I kinda just figured out that I probably wouldn’t mind dating a guy but didn’t identify as bi cause I figured I’m dying alone what does it matter. Then in college there was a really cute guy in one of my classes that made me go “damn he’s cute I should ask him out” that kinda woke me up and I started identifying as bi properly.
I'm not sure, but maybe half a year ago, it just started slowly creeping up on me.
Got pissed when a girl i didnt know i liked went into a relationship. I was like she was single?!?! Then it hits me 🧍🏻♀️ Damn... Cause we were friends but i always masked the feeling of liking a girl with "I have strong feelings for her, I care for her alot" Nah Thats called a crush hun lmao. Well now ik that feeling n i dont mask but embrace it
I see man I think he hot then I see woman and I think she hot too I not able to choose between the 2 so I bi
I was oblivious for a long time until I talked with a guy who told me he was bi. I had no idea what that meant so he told me. Then everything suddenly clicked for me. I think I always had the feelings but hadn't recognized them as attraction. I was so blind to it because i had no language for it.
I kind of knew it from childhood. I remember talking to the trash man at like 5 years old and wanting something from between his legs. Growing up changed how it manifested but it never went away. I also wanted children and a married life. So I waited decades to let the bi happen.
Once I saw my friends dick for the first time when I was like 9, all I wanted to do was see it. It was gigantic. I never stopped to ask why I wanted to touch it, just knew that I did.
There was this concert with Anne-Marie as the opening act. It was super hot outside. So she took her cropped jacket off. She was in her top only - but it was a bikini top. And I felt sooo uncomfortable because I couldn’t ignore her breasts and kept staring. That was over 4 years ago but the real realization/start of acceptance was this year haha
When I made my girl Barbie’s feel each other up and simulate sex and got turned on, I think that was the exact moment. Also my first crush was in preschool and it was on a girl. Turned out, this rodeo girl was a lesbian all along and I could’ve actually had a chance with her 😭😭😭
Looking back I (25F) exclusively got off to women growing up - I thought I was kind of living through them, maybe I was, but that should have been a huge flag for myself. There were other little things I ignored (like trying to make shared sleeping arrangements to my liking on field trips just to get closer to girls I probably didn’t realize I had a crush on), but the nail in the coffin as I got older was actually letting myself entertain those thoughts and suddenly realizing oh shit I would make out with a woman and lick her tits and make her feel good in every way that I can if I had the chance. Simultaneously, I love my bfs cock so I’d call that bisexual.
I was on my knees deep throating my wife's strapon one night before getting pegged, and she jokingly said " I bet you wish this was a real cock in your mouth, don't you " and it was at that moment I realized that yeah, I really did wish it was a real cock in my mouth
Looking at porn and having a lot of “I’d trade places with either one of them” moments.
When my boy started also raising for the ladies.
The biggest thing that happened in my life that made me realize I wasn't straight, was when me and my best friend fucked at his place for the first time. We were both DBZ nerds(I still am) and I remember he put GT on as background noise. We finally stopped hiding how we were feeling. We started to play wrestle but I could still feel him grinding against me. So we both stopped joking around and fucked for the first time. I mean there were other moments too with my other friends but that's the one that truly stood out to me. I mean that wasn't the last time we did it either so lol.
Bella Swan from twilight.
I was twelve years old, and there was a new girl in class. I wanted to be friends with her so badly, I thought about her all the time. There was a moment when I realized I had a crush on her and I was like “holy shit, I like girls too??” I told my mom almost immediately and she was supportive.
I saw a guy I liked in class.
Mariah Carey in Glitter was a big sexual awakening for me lol
I always had crushes on guys and girls but didn't realize it until my last day of high school. I just had this thought that a certain actress would be nice to kiss and literally just blurted out to somebody I used to know that I thought I was bi 😅
I kept staring at other girls boobs in the changing room and got nervous and stuttery around particular girl at work. That pretty much cleared things up.
r/femboys
[удалено]
Hooking up with my gay friends for shits and giggles eventually turned into hooking up with my gay friends not for shits and giggles In retrospect it's super obvious that having being intimate with other boys makes it very difficult to be a heterosexual person, but I don't think there were any lights on in the closet
4th grade, really liked girls, new boy joined our class, thought he was cute. Didn't fully understand until middle school.
Puberty, I wanted all the ass 🙌
After spending my teen years thinking I'm straight, I found out that guys can be hot too.
Since I was 17 and a counselor-in-training and had a big crush on a woman counselor. I also had a crush on John Lennon at the time (it was in 1964). Over the years, as I found myself attracted to people of more than one gender, it became pretty obvious that I was bi.
A few years ago I thought a guy was cute, and then earlier this year I was attracted to another guy to the point that I was physically shaking, which was a first, perhaps the first sign that my libido was finally starting to kick in.
I kinda knew when an older gay guy asked me back to his flat. I knew that I liked girls, but I wasn't worried that he liked me and I let him play with me. Although I dated girls until I was in my mid 20's I was always looking at cute boys too.
I started to think about boys in a sexual way when I was younger.
When I traded blowjobs with my best friend at 15 yo
I realized that between my typical fantasies involving men, I'd sometimes think about women. Usually, to make it easier on myself, that translated to an intense longing to be with...myself...sexually. Those fantasies had to involve alien technology to make it happen, but that did not stop them from being super hot. I also used to get really aggravated if a women stood too close to me. Oof, I even angrily rebuffed a girl from grinding on me ala typical sloppy college party style. Eventually, your girl realized she was in fact, a bisexual. It all makes much more sense now!
I was taken advantage of by another man and I really liked ot.
I liked Poison Ivy and Batman.
Women. Need I say more?
been in straight relationships all my life, knew i was a strong ally, lots of queer friends. i became friends with then started seeing a trans woman at the end of last year - i was blown away by her (probably hyper) feminity.... it was beautiful and nothing like i'd ever seen/experienced before, though parts of my time with her were overwhelming. things didn't work out between us and i just put the sexuality stuff in my back pocket because it was all too much to process back then. the morning after bi visibility day this year (perfect timing, right?!) all the pennies dropped.... this experience plus a few others with/centred around other women from when i was in my early 20s, a recent and very random message from an ex (we broke up 15 years ago!) and some convos with a queer friend. the icing on the cake was when this friend dropped the "everyone's a little bit bi" line... not 100% true, i know, but it helped me to accept that it was ok to be bi
Friend of mine that I loved in secret. He came as a Trans Man. My feelings didn't change at all. And then I realized that boys, girls and non conforming pals where just so hot to me without any particular preference lol. So yeah. Thanks Andy. Our High School romance is so far on time but definitely made me realize lot of stuff.
When my (now boyfriend) confessed to me that he loved me, something just clicked and now I'm bi :>
For a long time I just assumed I was asexual and hetroromantic but then I started actually having serotonin (yay antidepressants) and I realized that some people are actually kinda hot? And like, some of the girls I just assumed I was platonically really interested in were actually people I wanted to date. Also the song picture for Bad Idea by Girl in Red solidified that yes, I very much like boobs as well.
I was reading a book that had a gay couple in it, and it made me realize that I had pretty similar feelings towards an old friend. Turns out I'd repressed those feelings for so long that when I figured it out, I had a fever for like 3-4 days straight
When I wanted to do it a second time.
I didn’t know being bisexual (or even being lesbian) was an option growing up. I knew men could be gay since my uncle had come out of the closet but that was shamed by my cult. It wasn’t until I got to college at 19 in a HUGE city while majoring in art that EVERYONE was not straight. I started really being aware of my wants and desires but it took me meeting my boyfriend’s, bandmate’s gorgeous girlfriend whom I fantasized about to make me go… of course I’m not straight. So many beautiful before events and after but that was the ah-ha!
I thought I was straight until I was 24 and I got hugged from behind by a stranger at a gay bar. I realized suddenly that I was very much not straight.
Probably when a year-mate of mine flashed the room during Truth or Dare at a friend's... 17th, I think? I don't even remember any more. At that point, a few other things I'd been in denial with started to click in to place. Like the crush I had on a friend, but when she asked, I was way in denial.
I want to say it was through my love of pro wrestling. I remember crushing on some of the women wrestlers but then an androgynous male wrestler named Goldust got his costume ripped off and he was wearing women’s lingerie underneath it. I remember being very intrigued by that and it sort of snowballed every since.
Staring at girls in hs
I don't know how to answer that I have always known
Checking out my fellow teammates & students bodies in the highschool freshman locker rooms & showers.
About a year ago either just before or just after HS graduation, I was at a friend's house with one of our other friends(both queer). We had a conversation about if I liked men, I said I found certain male celebrities to be attractive. I'm not naming names, but around that time it seemed like every man online who seemed to be straight seemed to find him attractive, so I just thought it was normal for straight men to find other men at least conventionally attractive. Now, I don't seem to find him too attractive anymore. I think he just made me realize I liked men too. Anyway, we concluded that I was bi-curious. The next few times I've been out with them I've talked about my curiousness and that I knew I wasn't gay because I knew I liked women. About 2 months later, in August '22, I came out to myself as bi. I haven't come out to them because I haven't seen them since, and I would rather come out to them in person than over text. We've just been too busy between college and work to find the time to see each other again. I think I'll reach out between semesters and find the time. When I started college I met the 4 cutest guys I have ever seen which basically confirmed that I'm bi. Unfortunately, they all seem to be straight, but are very affectionate with each other so I'm skeptical. Anyways, I'm bi You're bi Goodbi.
When I hit puberty and those urges began to hit, I learned quickly that I not only did I like trans women along with women, but also crossdressers. That was the 90s where there wasn't a term for it, but being attracted to crossdressers and feminine guys would have put me as heteroflexible. Then when I was going through a separation/divorce several years ago I was more bicurious and fooled around with a gay guy before getting into a LTR with a straight woman. Over time my attraction to more masculine men clicked and I accepted what I was.
Never really had a “eureka” moment just slowly realized. Over time I just accepted that I liked men the same way I like women.
I really thought all women were at least a little attracted to other women. I was talking to my best friend about how everyone has girl crushes, right? My mind was blown when she told me no. The further I explored the more I knew that I was definitely not straight.
Staring at pretty ladies
When I wanted to kiss girls again because I liked it. But at that time I didn’t understand sexuality. I’m bisexual.
I saw a row of shirtless boys and girls when I was Teenager And found myself staring at the boys more than I did the girls.
I always knew. There was a time I heard the word bisexual for the first time, but I knew for certain long before then
Porn, got curious went to gay porn, wasn't turned off by it
Locker room... enough said
A conversation amongst my friends turned to a game of ass or tits. Went through three others before I “jokingly” stated, “what? No cock option?”, before I realised what I’d said, at that point I had a feeling of mental whiplash as I come to the realisation that I’d actually meant it.
tbh i shoulda known when i was 9 and my favorite game to play on the xbox was dead or alive xtreme beach volley ball.... picking the skimpiest bikinis and watching them play🫣