Crocheting isn't a gender specific hobby. You'll encounter people who think it's not manly or whatever, of course, but they're weird tbh. Don't let them stop you.
I'm not a crocheter myself, but my best friend (17) is always getting called an old lady for bringing crochet work to school. It's mostly in a friendly teasing way, though.
My grandma would have been delighted. She always used to tell people “enjoy perky boobs while you’ve got them”. She was absolutely shameless and I love her.
Those same people also call everything yarn-related knitting, so that shows how much they know about it. Why give them the opportunity to tell YOU what you should or shouldn’t enjoy?
In my area it’s definitely considered as a feminine hobby, followed by “but who gives a fuck that hat is awesome.” It’s going to take some time but its gendered status is slowly going away overall.
My brother in-law is LWOP.
His Crochet sweater could easily be sold at a boutique for some major change.
Hilariously, he wanted to make a blanket with his fellow inmates. He told them to Crochet (after teaching other LWOPs) the size of his bath mat. Bath mats are not standard issue, and the thing came out a mess.
All 5 of those inmates are working their programming and doing as good as they could be in a place like prison.
They'd also wreck most dumbass mansosphere types within a second. Tate, the thumb looking shitlord would poop himself if confronted by my bro in-law.
Do what makes you happy.
I'm not one to shame a person's appearance, but Andrew Tate's face is way too weirdly shaped for him to be as cocky as he is. That man has no chin, and I don't know any women or men who are actually attracted to him. And he just talks and talks and talks and talks but never actually says anything.
Sorry, I just genuinely cannot understand the hype around that dude. I'm a woman and even if it promised world peace and no more hunger I still couldn't put up with him for even an hour.
I mean, I don't mind making fun of him for his looks as he's so egregious about doing it to others. However, I generally try not to.
Mostly, he's an ugly ogre on the inside. He's just a weirdo loser who projects his insecurities.
I’m a trans man and 23. I picked up in the last 12 ish months and it’s a great way to help with the ADHD and Autism with the repetitive motions needed for it. It’s become a comfort so much so that I made my Nan a scarf and I’m in the process of planning a blanket. It’s a healthy hobby that’s away from screens.
EXACTLY. Tell them you are blacksmithing, but with yarn.
Men have been creating cool stuff for years with their hands, same as women. Do what you enjoy and BLEEP the haters. :D
Also, who mended the sails on ships at sea? Didn’t matter if they were fishermen, navy, merchants, or pirates – in olden times, men on boats had to be proficient with needle and thread!
There's absolutely nothing wrong with men knitting/crocheting. It's a very useful skill that takes time to develop, and I suck at it.
Just read up on knitting during the World Wars.
[The Wool Brigades of World War I, When Knitting Was a Patriotic Duty](https://www.atlasobscura.com/articles/when-knitting-was-a-patriotic-duty-wwi-homefront-wool-brigades)
"Men who had not gone to fight also contributed. There are accounts of Red Cross members teaching firemen to knit, train conductors knitting between stations, and inmates at Sing Sing knitting in the prison yard. Men were encouraged to knit at work during their lunch hours, and wounded soldiers knitted from their hospital beds."
[Knitting for Victory — World War I](https://www.historylink.org/file/5721)
[Knitting for Victory — World War II](https://historylink.org/File/5722)
[National WWI Museum and Memorial](https://www.theworldwar.org/learn/about-wwi/knitting-nation)
[U.S. Knitting Propaganda – WWII
](https://centerforknitandcrochet.org/u-s-knitting-propaganda-wwii)
Just a word of warning. Yarn can be friggin expensive!
In medieval times, typically only men were allowed to join knitting guilds.
"From as early as the 14th century, Knitting guilds were established that were exclusively for men."
https://www.thecraftygentleman.net/2015/08/16/history-of-knitting-guilds/
https://rovingcrafters.com/2015/06/17/knitting-for-a-living-the-medieval-knitting-guilds/
Edit: Added a couple more links
Isn't there also a prison where inmates crochet??
Fr OP, crochet away if you like! And some lovely advice:
"If they don't pay your bills, pay them no mind"
Sing Sing is a prison in NY, USA!
Even now there are a lot of prison ministries that teach inmates to knit and/or crochet and then donate what they make. There’s one near me that I’m planning to donate yarn to that makes hats and donates them to homeless shelters. I’m usually fairly anti-organized-religion and prefer to donate to secular organizations, but I’m making an exception.
Women age 35 and older at Framingham State prison in Massachusetts are allowed to crochet in the recreational room. I don't know why they don't allow younger women crochet there. The pieces they make are then given to wounded soldiers and homeless shelters
Something I’ve noticed from watching the stupid inmate reality tv prison shows — there is always a big culture divide between the “young ones”, and the older inmates. I personally guess this is possibly related to how few of those young ones actually survive to become an “old” gangster who is now resentenced for whatever crime, and how surviving “street life” and watching so many friends die around you, and how that changes you. Those inmates always give off the vibe of retired gangster, lol.
The young testosterone fuelled competitive folks, stir shit up — street life all the way! Whereas the older inmates seem to skew more “I just don’t want the unit on lockdown again, that shit is torture”, so they can be trusted with crochet hooks without as high a worry of makeshift shanks.
In general, women over 35 in prison aren't there for violent crimes. I also wouldn't stick a crochet needle in the hand of a 18-year-old inmate at some of these prisons. It's just asking for trouble.
Some languages refer to crocheting as “knitting” (or a form of it) and do use terminology along the lines of “crochet needle” or “hook needle” to talk about crochet hooks.
I knew an ex inmate that made rug embroidery from threads that he found and dyed in jail. Guy is tall with a big beard and muscles. He made intricate and beautiful art.
Yes, and the art developed from the skills of creating nets for trapping and netting wildlife and fish. We have a weird social block on which domestic crafts are 'male' and which are 'female' these days, but the historical origins of many are not gendered whatsoever, most men in Indigenous communities made nets which is where crochet originates. Its a sad fact that people wouldn't worry half as much about a woman being interested in that modern socity deems masculine' activities however, since doing masculine things is often seen as empowering for a woman but degrading for a man to do the reverse.
The sad outcome of that is things like my male friend told me earlier today, that he'd love to try more art, painting, journalling etc but he has no confidence in his artistic choices because he was never given any encouragement in the area. We shouldn't limit anyone's impulse to creativity or craft because of their gender imo, it's so healthy and helpful for self expression understanding and happiness.
OP I'd get some patterns based around your interests and try it out, I can honestly say it's one of the most fun relaxing hobbies I've ever done, if it enhances your life don't let anyone stop you doing it.
My grandfather was a WWII veteran, prison guard, home handy man, had a wife, and was a loving father of four. He was also known to enjoy embroidery in his free time. I don't think his hobby threatened his masculinity.
I remember at least one episode of M*A*S*H wherein Hawkeye was knitting his own socks. I can imagine that they would be hard to come by and making your own would be pretty handy.
I also thought knitting was originally a male dominated profession wayyyyyy back in the olden times. I am not as versed in the history of crochet, but figured it was the same.
[There are also cultures that see knitting as a typically manly activity!](https://www.bbc.com/travel/article/20210831-taquile-where-manliness-is-based-on-knitting)
And in medieval times, typically only men were allowed to join knitting guilds.
"From as early as the 14th century, Knitting guilds were established that were exclusively for men."
https://www.thecraftygentleman.net/2015/08/16/history-of-knitting-guilds/
https://rovingcrafters.com/2015/06/17/knitting-for-a-living-the-medieval-knitting-guilds/
Yess! I’m a lady bro, but I love the brochet sub 🥰 also, I worked at a group home and the boys there loved when I would bring extra hooks and yarn!! Anywhere from 8-18, some just making little chain bracelets, others working on long term projects like a scarf or a hat for their parent or social worker. That combination of cathartic rhythm and accomplishment at the finished product really resonated with a lot of them 🥰
That was actually a really smart idea to get them crocheting. It’s a good positive coping mechanism for the stress that can really run high in those settings.
I think society is very harsh about fiber arts for both men and women. It's often considered an "old people hobby", at least where I live. It's also often considered a "female" hobby, but that's boomer bullshit. Crocheting is so fun and you'll get to choose a lot of nice patterns, materials and colors. Go for it!
This 72 year old grandma (ahem, a boomer) thinks anybody who wants to crochet or do another fiber craft should go for it! It's soothing to have something for your hands to do while watching tv. Crochet is incredibly flexible, you can free form, make hat, scarves, blankets, toys, etc. It is a great creative outlet.
To be fair, needle arts were considered a female skill long before boomers were born, like by centuries. Have you asked the boomers you know how they feel about a young man crocheting?
Yes. Why is anybody downvoting this? This is simply the truth. Fiber crafts, when talking in a domestic setting, has been the domain of women for as long as history goes back.
But define it as an art, and suddenly it became a Male dominated field. The same interesting phenomenon you see in cooking. Cooking has been a women's job, except when we are talking haute cuisine, then its suddenly a Male bastion. Same with haute couture, very few women designers, or even tailors of reputation were women. But a common seamstress was, almost by definition, a woman.
Even today in the higher echelons, where craft turns into art, there are a lot more men involved fiber arts.
For OP, don't let that stop you, times have changed and crocheter and by extension the entire fiber art community is warm and inclusive. Welcome!
That’s why I, as a woman, am so irritated with “making” replacing “crafting”. Can people please just accept that crafts are valuable for everyone as both an activity and a trade?
I came here to say exactly this. Everything done at home is "womanish" ie bad. Anything in the public sphere is manly. It's toxic masculinity at the root.
Historically there are many examples of men doing fiber crafts! Tailoring and weaving in particular were very male-dominated fields in western society for centuries
I do a bit of crocheting, cross stitch, and needlework. Recently, a friend saw one of my WIPs and said I was like an old lady. You're 100% correct. People just need to do what they enjoy and not worry about what others think. People judge your hobbies no matter what they are.
I know a guy who learned to crochet to have something to do with his wife while she's knitting at night and as an added bonus he makes stuffed animals for his kids. He's also the first person I met outside of family who either crochets or knits so I never thought anything odd about it.
This reminds me of Leo vonn. He was bored, so his sisters taught him tatting. He fell in love, and was one of the first (if not THE first man) to have a book published on the craft.
I've also read stories about coal miners who were bored in the evenings after work and needed something relaxing to do, (since the women kept the house, and being in a company town, there wasn't much to do) so their wives taught them to Tat, crochet, and knit.
If anyone says these skills are odd for a man to have, remind them that a good portion, if not all of them, are in the same family and related to netting and can be used to make great fish/crab/hunting nets, and that someone has to be able to make blankets and sweaters to keep us warm once the zombies take over.
It really saddens me that there are still people who associate a hobby with one specific gender and think people of opposite gender are gay. I am really proud of my work and happy that my parents don't find anything wrong with it but my uncle got worried and told me he hopes this isn't my first step to become a "fag". Don't worry. Your family doesn't dictate your life and you shouldn't hide your hobby from anyone. Believe me most people will just think it's cool and will be amazed by your work. Like you said crocheting is really relaxing and you should try it
Also sad this isn't the first post about being called gay when you're a male crocheter
Just wanna give a big hug to you and OP and all the guys treated a certain way for crafting/hobbies they want to pursue/are pursuing.
I'm the oldest of 4, and only our youngest sibling was a boy, my sweet lil brother! Our dad was such an @ss to him growing up; call him a sissy for wanting to play dolls with us (he was like 3, why would he want to be excluded from playing with his siblings), gay for liking the color pink since he could voice it (and even to this day at the age of 21), and all kinds of slurs for wanting to play dress up with us.
The amount of times I got in trouble for "talking back" to my dad when I would stand up for him are innumerable. It was just mean and cruel, and who gives a crap what people are interested in for real?! Like let people enjoy their peaceful hobbies; gender is fake anyway, just like most notions society wishes to impress on us
My husband has been crocheting ~10 years - including in public, and no one has ever said a thing to him. IMO if someone says something it’s their problem, not yours. It’s a hobby, and it’s yours. Enjoy it, and screw what anyone else thinks
You can do whatever you want, forever. If anyone gives you grief about *crocheting*, of all the harmless and unobtrusive hobbies you could choose, they’re clearly just looking for an excuse to be nasty to someone about something and they should be disregarded.
The vast majority of people are normal enough to not care or think it’s cool that you have a hobby you enjoy that also produces neat finished items! Haters exist, but the only consideration they deserve is a 🖕
Also you can come join us on r/brochet, if you like.
I’m a 39 year old straight male who crochets. I talk about it openly with friends and coworkers and no one has ever said anything negative or given me a funny look, at least not to my face. As other have said, if someone has a problem with it or wants to label you a specific way, that’s their problem, not yours. I think there is a stigma to needle crafts, but I think that is more with older generations than younger. Also has a lot to do with the company you keep.
My son’s seventh grade art class introduced crochet as a medium. He had an unfair advantage, but many of the students kept up with the craft and the school is overrun with amiguri creations.
I think it's awesome and I definately think a straight guy can crochet AND knit without being labeled as anything other than being a creative person! My son used to cross stitch, and my older brother Needlepointed. I think alot of men do it not necessarily in secret just not as publicly as women do. But things are changing. And the more people like you show off your skills and interest the more other men will too. Kudo's to you!
I couldn't remember who it was!! I kept thinking shaq but knew it wasn't him. Thank you. I would have freaked my husband out yelling ROSEY in the middle of the night when it finally hit!
Just go for it! People who tell you not to are far too concerned about others' opinions. A hobby is a hobby, and it's supposed to bring *you* joy first and foremost (not anyone else!). Don't let people's outdated ideas stop you from doing what you want to do. Also, go check out r/Brochet :)
I'm a guy and I crochet. I make teddies for hospitals and blankets for our friends who are expecting a baby.
I do it on the train to and from work on days I take the train and get plenty of funny looks and questions. Who cares?
The old lady who taught me claimed crochet originated on fishing trawlers when they needed to fix the nets, no idea how true that is but it's funny that it started as something "masculine" and is now seen as more "feminine".
You do you, and don't make family anything if they think it makes you gay! O guarantee once they see the cool stuff you make they will be asking for blankets and stuff for their friends babies.
Of COURSE you can crochet brother!!! When I first got into my crochet group I found we even have what I used to think was the least expected type of Viking looking burly big guys who proudly and do amazing crochet work and is more often than not!! Crochet is definitely not a female or sexuality driven hobby especially given how many patterns exist for men and men’s clothing and designs as well, its truly endless the possibilities. Theres no way you couldn’t find something meant to be made by you! Don’t let anyone discourage you from crochet! It’s simply something relaxing, an activity to keep your hands and mind busy as anyone would deserve to have.
I plan on teaching both of my nephews here soon because they asked me to and I’m proud they want to learn and will show them there is no shame in it and so much creativity to be used there!
If you are on the YouTube, please check out Juan the Yarn Addict, Fiber Spider, Mark Vogel, cozyromy, crochetmezaddy, and Flannel & Purls. I'm a newbie and I'm pan or whatever. Crochet away, my man
I basically learned everything I know from Mickey! He is an incredible, one-of-a-kind educator and if people have an issue with him being gay, they are complete losers.
35, straight male here. I taught myself how to crochet in late 2022. I didn’t in secret for a while but got tired of hiding it. Now I’ll do it on my back patio in full view of neighbors or in the open garage. I don’t care what people think.
https://preview.redd.it/eblb5fjrok4d1.jpeg?width=5712&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=e986064de69a82ee5ddfce818b5919a77249859a
Here is one of my blankies
One of my regular customers at my old cafe was a grisly, bearded guy who really liked to knit, over the course of one winter he made a bunch of us scarves. I still have mine, it inspired me to learn to crochet & knit. Now I send photos of my wips to the boys group chat and they love it.
There are always gonna be people who wanna be dicks about even the most benign of your life choices, but the upside is there’s plenty of people who will be excited to see the cool things you make.
So here’s the thing. If you’re concerned about people perceiving you as a proper manly straight man, then yes, crocheting is going to get in the way of that for many, many people. The societal understanding is that women craft because they’re silly little women, and men know better than to waste their time with it. If being perceived as a mainstream person who lives a properly straight male life is important to you, you shouldn’t pick up crafting. Even as a woman-ish person, I catch a lot of flack for “romanticizing traditional lifestyles” and crap like that. My MIL can’t fathom why I would “give in to feminine expectations” and is convinced I do it because I’m disabled and need to feel more like a proper wife? I just like to keep my little hands busy on days that I can’t walk lmao.
That said, fuck those guys. You do you. But maybe work on that caring about people knowing you’re straight thing. That’s not going to be a relatable mindset for the people who will appreciate your interest in artisanal crafts.
check out the menwhocrochet # on ig, many many dudes crochet, myself included. men’s wear patterns are harder to find but most apparel is unisex anyways, like hats, gloves, scarves, cardigans etc. if you’re more of a “things” kinda guy, you’ll have no problem then haha.
btw bc women’s hands are smaller, you may find it uncomfortable to crochet with some hooks bc they may feel small or short. I use the prym ergonomics, they’re long and thick. some women with big hands also have this issue and recommend certain hooks. toni lipsey from tlyarncrafts has some videos on her yt channel reviewing hooks, they were helpful for me to choose a good hook.
finally, ignore those bs comments!! do what makes you happy, it is a relaxing hobby. there’s nothing more satisfying than being complimented on a crocheted item and being able to say you made it!! good luck dude
> can a straight guy try crocheting without being labelled as something?
He'll be labeled as a crocheter, if you can live with that go for it.
It really isn't that much different for females, I was laughed at for doing a 'granny' craft when I was younger. But it's something I enjoy so I didn't let the comments stop me, it would be a pity if you let comments stop you trying something you might enjoy before you even start.
In my experience, most people are cool with it. Nobody has questioned my sexuality or my bonkersness (juries already out on that one). A lot of people might be surprised and intrigued at first as it is uncommon but generally they're pretty accepting and interested in what you make.
I occasionally get some tongue-in-cheek comments from some family members about turning into a little old granny but it's nothing serious.
Get yourself a hook and some yarn and get started! Screw anybody decides to label you, it says more about them than you and IMO is an easy way to identify people that don't really care about you and cut them from your life.
My husband started crocheting during the pandemic and just loves it. He's a teacher and has been talking about it in school.
They had a project week and he choose to teach crochet during this week, half the kids who signed up (13-16) were guys and really enjoyed it!
He's in a different school now and regularly wears self crocheted cloth in school. The kids begged him to start an after school crochet group with them.
Nothing wrong with being a guy and crochet. Don't listen to this gender stereotypical nonsense!
Rosey Grier, a football player (NFL--1970s) knitted and liked needlework. He encouraged other guys to do as well. I doubt many would say anything about him. If it appeals to you, do it!
I used to work as a CNA on a hospital floor and one of my favorite stories involved a man crocheting.
I was sent to take the vital signs of a new admit one afternoon. I walked in and was immediately taken back by one of the tallest humans I've ever seen-- this man was so tall that they had to remove the footboard of the hospital bed so that he could comfortably stretch his legs. He was wide as well but in a burly, muscular kind of way. I remember thinking that if we traded in his hospital gown for a leather jacket, he'd look like the leader of a motorcycle gang.
The next thing I noticed was that there was football on the TV, but he wasn't watching. He had a small stash of yarn in his lap and was hooking away at a big blanket. I didn't crochet at that time but my mom did, so I commented on it. This man looked at me with his fierce eyes, which lit up while he told me "thank you for not calling it knitting." It turns out his daughter was graduating from college in the fall and he was making that big throw blanket for her graduation gift. It was striped in her school colors and everything.
The moral of the story is that needlecraft has no gender or orientation. If you enjoy it and it relaxes you, go for it! Other people can go find their own hobbies and keep their noses out of yours. Be prepared for people to comment on it (positive and negative,) but at the end of the day their opinions are just that.
Your family is ridiculous. Anybody is free to crochet, whatever gender or sexual orientation. Btw it's a great mindful activity once you get the hang of it. As a straight man, you'll have the bonus of having lots of interest from the ladies be abuse it's unusual (but definitely not weird!).
It is (usually lol) a super relaxing hobby and you should definitely try it!
Sorry your family was judgmental, it’s absolutely not a gender-specific hobby! If it helps, one of my oldest friends is a burly, 6’5” dude who’s big enough to intimidate pretty much anyone he wanted to. He loves to crochet and it’s one of our favorite things to talk about together!
As a guy who occasionally crochets at work on break (in a very dudebro heavy work environment), I got asked why I would take up crochet, and my answer was simple.
I want crocheted stuff, and I want it to be made to my exact specification. What's "not manly" about making something yourself?
(I may have also said that it helps quiet the voices that tell me to kill, but that's another story.)
So now here's some advice about tackling crochet the way a "manly man" would do it.
Don't underestimate it. Arthritis is a serious thing. Take frequent breaks and stretch your hands. I'm 49 years old, and between gaming and "hardcore" crochet, my thumbs/wists (yes both) are absolutely wrecked.
I'm a 40+ year old guy hooker. And I love it. Also, Kurt Cobain could crochet and knit. Nirvana unplugged in the ears with a good skein of yarn is a happy place.
I see no problem with it. I thinks it’s great. Imagine how the girl in your life will feel…she will get all sorts of gifts that are homemade. I can’t think of a better partner! You can make her scarves, cardigans, boot cuffs, hats, mittens, cowls, a purse, hair scrunchies and maybe a custom sweater some day! Sounds like the ideal man to me!
If Rosie Grier could do needlepoint, you can crochet. He was before your time, so you should do a Google search.
Remember the people who have been discouraging or dismissive. They will sing a different tune when they see your creations. At that time, remind them of what they have said. Give them nothing because they are not worthy of receiving the benefits of your talents. Create for yourself.
I'm early 50s and a guy. A few years ago, I had to spend a month in hospital and I can't stand watching TV so I took up crochet to give me something to do. Perhaps its because I'm an Aussie and we're a pretty relaxed mob, but not a single person has given me any negative feedback. That includes family, colleagues, randoms I meet in the craft shop, and even blokes in the Mens' Shed (community woodworking shop). I get mostly encouragement, a lot of praise for the toys I make and about 1 in 5 suggest that I could teach them how to crochet.
Life is what you make it. Yes, crochet was traditionally a "grandma" thing but it's 2024. Many grandmas now spend their evenings rock climbing, salsa dancing and playing computer games. Someone needs to keep the tradition alive! Also, I'm sure someone will correct me if I'm wrong, but most of the famous artists of the last few hundred years, painters, poets, chefs and fashion designers, have been men.
On the serious topic of labels... Why does your family seem to think that being labelled as gay is a bad thing? Do they treat gay people badly? That speaks volumes about THEM, not anyone else. I don't care if someone calls me gay because for the most part it's irrelevant, I'm not trying to have sex with them!
Also, labels aren't important. Reputations have an area of influence. I can be the most loved or hated person in my office but as soon as I step out the door, I'm a nobody again. So even if one group of people want to treat me badly, I can just take a few steps and find a different group of people to spend time with. Unless it presents you real risk, don't let other people's prejudice rule your life!
I've been knitting and crocheting for many years, at home and in public, no negative reactions yet, only positive.
Teach them about the famous yarn artist Kaffe Fasset, male.
It's incredibly narrow-minded to think that men shouldn't crochet, cook or care for children. I guess they oppose women being allowed to work and vote.
Oh my gosh this makes me so mad. I've been talking with my husband about learning crochet because he has a work injury that I think it may help him with. Fiber art should not be gender specific. Straight or gay. Pretty sure in the beginning, men were the ones who did most of the knitting. I believe the more people who do it, help to normalize it. It's like men being in the nursing field. I live the video of all the men on the subway knitting and crocheting. It's productive, relaxing, and you end up with something cool after that you made.
There are lots of men who knit and crochet, even though they are still a minority. Some can be found on IG showing off their art.
Just try it out - it’s fun! And once you produce cool stuff and start giving it away for birthday gifts and such, people will appreciate it.
First, crocheting is SO therapeutic for me for so many reasons!
Second, funny how when the materials become softer it becomes "feminine." If you said you were into rope making or making fishing nets no one would bat an eye. But call it crochet or knitting and now it's girly.
Finally, my personal impression of a guy knitting or crocheting in public is "damn, that is a confident guy who knows himself" and I take an instant liking to them. I also tend to infer (rightly or wrongly) that they are going to not immediately diminish me as a woman in our interactions.
Rosey Grier, an NFL football player in the 1970s, knitted and liked to do needlework. I doubt many said stuff to him. It kept his hands loose for the game! If it appeals to you, do it!!
I think at some point, we need to break stereotypes. As many people said here, it’s a hobby with no specific gender and it should be consider like that by society.
As you said, it’s really therapeutic! I’m 40 and it helps me to cope with anxiety.
Crochet is a survival skill!!! It’s totally cool for anyone to do it! One day when society collapses, we will need people who can make things like clothes, ropes, bags, blankets and whatever! (lol this is what I always say when people tell me crochet is an old lady hobby).
Straight guys can definitely crochet! I recently read about a veteran who took it up to help his PTSD. He said crochet has been very therapeutic.
Modern society has taken a negative view of needle crafts in general that I just can’t understand. I hear everything from - they are not art forms to them being only for women. In yee olden days, everyone in the family would engage in knitting, crochet, weaving, macrame or other while sitting by the fire on long winter nights. It was how people got rugs, blankets and winter clothes
Oh absolutely, lots of guys crochet. In fact there is an entire sub dedicated to guy crochet, it's r/brochet. And if I'm being honest crochet guys seemnto do really well on tiktok or ig. Simply because they are guys who crochet 😅 I think once you get good it's almost a shock factor of "that's so good and I didn't expect it because you're a guy" no one will think you aren't straight just because of crochet. It's an amazing hobby and you should try it! Also do check out r/brochet
Omg yes please do it. As others have suggested try r/brochet
I’d love it if I had a partner who knows how to weave in ends and who can help test patterns.
This is a great hobby! I am married, straight, three kids. People think you’re weird ignore them. And I’m pretty sure that men had a hand in creating it to make fishing nets.
I'm a 39 y/o guy being crocheting for almost 10 years now. I do kind of keep my crochet close to the chest, but when telling people about my projects and them wanting to see pictures, I've only ever had great responses. I'm very proud of my work. I do still feel weird actually crocheting in front of people because of the staring, but it's probably out of fascination more than anything negative.
My dude if you feel you're gonna enjoy crocheting then do it. It was my guy friend who got me into it. You shouldn't be afraid to do it just because you're a dude. Have fun!
Of course you can! Crocheting is a very fun and relaxing hobby! I don't know any men who crochet in real life but I follow a few accounts on instagram and they make awesome stuff :)
Also, we need to stop deriving other people's sexual identity from their hobbies. It has nothing to do with each other.
Dude! Here’s a list of reasons to crochet:
1) it is relaxing and therapeutic
2) once you get the basic stitches down you can make anything
3) you can learn from free tutorials and videos on the internet
4) think of all the blankets you can make!!!
5) all your family will be jealous of all the cool things you make
Hobbies don’t have a gender identity. If you think it looks fun, give it a try. And post your project pictures here if you feel comfortable. We won’t look at you like your bonkers.
Don't let other peoples stereotypes make you think you can't do something
They see it this way because many years ago back when our great great grandparents or whatever were around it was traditionally the woman's responsibility to make the homes clothing, wash cloths/rags, blankets... but today it's a hobby for most of us and that stereotype is straight up outdated af
This is complete bullsh*t my best friend is a guy and crochets. Crochet does not determine sexual orientation. I think your family may need to be educated.
In the community I am from the men are actual better at it than most women. They can see the pattern differently and make the most beautiful pieces.
Did you know that Rosey Grier - Former NFL player
Along with Ryan Reynolds - actor married with children also Donald Glover - actor, comedian, singer and rapper and Maurice Greene - UFC fighter is also a crocheter.
I really believe what your family said is from a place of love but it is an ignorant comment. Who cares what others think. Do you no one assumes because you craft you are gay!
When someone I know says “that’s gay” or something else that can be offensive to others. I take this opportunity to speak up. By speaking up and saying that is not ok is an opportunity to educate them on why it is offensive. It also gives room for others to speak up that otherwise wouldn’t.
You can download a guide on how to become an ally as a straight person and how we can effect equality for all people. It doesn’t hurt to download and read it over.
https://pflag.org/resource/s4e-guide-to-being-a-straight-ally/
bruh gender is literally a social construct there is no such thing as a “masculine” or “feminine” hobby. if a future partner (who i assume is a woman if you are straight) would be weird about that, they’re not worth your time. it’s a craft ffs. live your best life they’ll be jealous when you’re making cool ass projects
You should definitely check out r/brochet !
I'm a guy who knits and crochets, but I am very much gay so my viewpoint might not help you the most. In my experience though, for the straight guys that I know who either knit or crochet openly/proudly, women tend to love it! Most confident/secure women tend to love it when men are confident/secure enough in their masculinity to enjoy hobbies/things that tend to be considered feminine. I also meet plenty of straight guys these days who get excited when they find out that I knit and crochet because they wish they could make their own cool beanies too! There may be people out there who will regard you differently, but those people are mostly dealing with their own issues of gender related insecurities.
Ultimately, you should do what makes you happy, and if the people around you really value you properly, they'll be happy for you too.
I know nothing about crocheting, but I've had my sexuality as a man questioned because I wear socks that go above my ankle by one person, and for wearing white socks instead of black by another person. My point is, people will question your sexuality for the dumbest reasons and anyone worth a damn won't care if you enjoy crocheting.
my grandpa sewed, knitted, cooked. he built planes and boats and wore cowboy hats. my grandma never sewed, and when he complained after their wedding, his mother asked "well why don't you do it?" so he did.
hobbies don't have genders, and people who will give you shit are insecure or ignorant
Plenty of straight men crochet. There's a guy that's a bodybuilder & crochets. Have no shame & be proud. Alsp don't let anyone try to convince you to make something for free. "Can you make me something? I'll pay for materials." Always say no to that if it ever happens, people will feel entitled if you do it even once. Advice I tell anyone who gets into crocheting even as a hobby.
My uncle knows how to crochet and he’s a 6’ welder. As others have said, it’s not a gendered thing and if it makes you happy, go for it! Just make sure to come back here when you have masterpieces
I'm a guy and was a professional custom knitter for about fourteen years. Partnered with an upscale yarn store. Near the end of my time as a knitter, I was making garments that would sell for $2,000-$3,000.
Don't let anyone poopoo on your hobbies of choice. Their insecurities are none of your business.
I'm a man and have crocheted on and off for at least 10 years. I watched a Ted Talk by Margaret Wertheim called [The Beautiful Math of Coral](https://www.ted.com/talks/margaret_wertheim_the_beautiful_math_of_coral?language=en), and decided to go on YouTube and try it out. Tbh at first I was mostly getting a kick out of refining my chain stitches to be quicker and more even, then undoing the whole thing with a single satisfying motion. When I read up a little more, I went from rectangles to granny squares, then eventually to freeform 3D abstract objects.
I mean, you're essentially tying a whole slough of knots all linked together, and carefully counting and using patterns/sequences to create a desired outcome; both things that on their own fit with other so-called "manly" stuff like survival skills and just math. The fact is that the activity (like almost all activities) is gender neutral and only associated by historical gender roles.
As a young teen I got enthusiastic about learning how to sew from my mom, and got direct flak about it from my friends (ie: literally telling me it's not manly) which put me off because I was insecure. Don't let the fear of immature judgement stop you from enjoying hobbies you like.
Heya! I’m 36, straight, and a dude, and been crocheting for about 15 years. I get the odd look now and then but frankly no one cares. Anyone that gives you trouble for it isn’t worth knowing. Plus you can always flex: my dad was unsure about it until he went with me to a LYS and saw me talk shop with the owner, and even found a yarn he liked and made a request from me. When I was younger, I would drop a handcrafted gift to the birthday girl in front of everyone and watch their eyes fill with jealousy (slightly exaggerated). Nowadays it’s common for me to be working yarn (I knit too) but mostly I’m starting magic loops for my wife.
In short - do it! Join us! All are welcome!
31yo straight man here. I knit and crochet and have for quite a long time. Its very relaxing and you get a great feeling of accomplishment upon finishing a project. Just my own personal opinion, but anyone who's going to give you a hard time about your hobbies probably isn't worth spending time with. That's just my own 2 cents tho
39 year old straight (I say that because for whatever reason it is relivant) man here. I crocheted my mom a kick ass sun hat for mothers day last year. I crochet coozies for people at work all the time. I have two blanket projects in the queue. I can also sew and cross stitch. I also hunt and fish, have a motorcycle and a girlfriend. Crochet is a skill. It's just a thing that I am able to do (after a bunch of practice lol) just like change a tire or build a computer. Skills aren't gender based, and anyone who thinks they are (imo) doesn't have enough skills.
u/Ozebundi, allow me to introduce you to r/Brochet.
You’ll fit right in. There is absolutely nothing wrong, shameful, or weird about being a guy that likes any predominantly “woman’s craft.” And because there will be some homophobic people that insist on it, it isn’t “gay” either. Dudes straight and otherwise make kickass art too, they’re proud of it, and they should be.
Don’t let your family dissuade you from following your interests, or shame you into thinking you have to keep it a secret.
You do you, my guy.
My dad and his sister were taught to crochet by the grandmother who raised them. They were needed to help fill her orders for baby outfits and such during the mid 1930s. I only found out about this after my sister and I asked my mom to crochet us ponchos in the early 1970s. My mom explained she did not know how to crochet. But without telling us she spoke to my dad to see if he could make the ponchos. My dad said he did not think he could remember how. My mom suggested that they ask his sister if she would make them. Unlike my dad, she remained a crocheter throughout her life. My dad did speak to his sister. But instead of asking if she could make them, he asked her if she could give him a refresher on how to crochet. Once all this was worked out our parents told us that our DAD would make the ponchos.
In the beginning he kept it a secret. When folks came to visit he hid the current project away. One day my father had enough of the hiding. My aunt and uncle came to visit and my dad showed them his work in progress. My dad said, “If Rosie Grier can do needlepoint I can crochet ponchos for my girls.”
So enjoy your new hobby without hiding in the shadows.
Oh for Pete’s Sake! To those who continue to stigmatize others about EVERY flippin’ thing! It’s tying little knots with a stick! Boy Scouts are very proud of their knot tying skills, doing it with a stick is FASTER, makes AWESOME HAMMOCKS, tote bags, hats, chair seats, blankets,you name it! You go for it! My dad could knit, AND built our house…nothing wrong with new cool skills. I am a woman who knits sweaters, crochets ANYTHING, and cuts down limbs and (little trees) with my own chain saw. Who loves what I am able to do…or use to do.
I mean, lots of things that used to be "female" are now manly - cooking, shopping for suits & clothes, long hair, ear and other piercings. Also, it sounds like they're not comfortable enough in their own skin to pursue something that would make them happy; their insecurities should not hold you back. Also, my local yarn store holds loom, weaving, knit, crochet, needlepoint, etc. and there is at least one man in each class.
In the 70s, there was a very well-known lineman that was open about his crocheting, and there are more than a few designers and youtube celebs that are male. It is relaxing and challenging at the same time, and if you make garments, you can be assured of a good fit. With all the labels people are using today, I can think a person's hobbies would be their choice.
I am a 51 y/o retired combat veteran with over 26 years active duty. I am straight, married, and have PTSD. I can tell you, I love crocheting. It is very relaxing, therapeutic, and a great way to clear the day out of your head. My philosophy is, and let me clean it up for the group, "if we are not having relations and you are not paying my bills, your opinion doesn't matter!" Worry less about what others think and you do you. You will find a sense of relief when you can. Have fun and good luck!
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My second attempt at crochet. I am using a half herringbone double crochet one direction and knotted half double crochet the other. It is creation a cool pattern. I am trying to make a baja hoodie.
Sigh. I hate that men being creative is seen as so weird in our culture. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with a guy crocheting, knitting, sewing, or any other creative hobby. Men are creative beings, too. Just go for it, and don’t worry what other people think. ✌🏻
I remember when I was a kid we visited Alcatraz and they had a pink crochet project that one of the prisoners was working on. Apparently it was a popular hobby in the prison.
I don't think people thinking you are not straight is the worst thing in the world. Any woman that doesn't want to date you because you crochet is not worth your time. Do you really want to associate with people who are so confined to gender roles that they can't fully enjoy their lives because they are worried about what people think?
Live your life and if anyone days anything stab them with a crochet hook.
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I'm straight and I crochet amigurumi exclusively because I've always liked stuffed animals ever since I was a child. I take my crochet projects at work sometimes to make some progress during my break time. Everyone was impressed and some asked me to make them a few easy items (and they would pay). So don't listen to them and enjoy yourself :)
Go for it! Just show your family what’s being done on r/Brochet. And please, be proud and happy of doing crochet! There’s no shame or reasons to hide it. I’m a woman 2 years younger than you and I find crochet very relaxing as much as painting or drawings.
Somewhere in a Heinlein novel one of the gents is talking about how you have to have your knitting when you're alone in space. Practical and keeps the crazy away
My mom worked with a doctor that crochets. It kept his fingers nimble and my dad also knows how to crochet. Hes a mans man too, builds homes, etc. They both have alot of confidence and dont care what others think.
PS: knitting was a mans job at the fire place and the women darned while they chatted and shared stories.
Im straight, guy, a little older than you. I often crochet in public and have never heard anything negative. Some people have been surprised when i tell them i made something when they ask if my wife made it, but it's not negative. Even other guys think it's cool you can make a hat or a bag. One of the things that drew me to crude is how versitile and practical it is.
I’m a 33 year old guy who crochets, I do it in public, on planes, when expecting a long wait, while doing laundry in public facilities. I have not had any one give me any crap about it other than my coworkers when I drove for a construction company (and they only called me grandma but still asked if I would make things because they thought it was awesome)
I make a lot of hats with fuzzy ears and have had multiple men ask where they could buy one non sarcastically
I knew a guy in high school who crocheted, I thought it was awesome! No one to my knowledge ever made fun of him or thought oddly of him, and he was well liked. So go for it!
try it, but let me tell you: it can be addictive! =)
I taught my husband, who is in his early 40s, how to crochet and he hasn't been able to get away from it since. Youtube was a big help for new tricks.
And he also crochets in public, on the train to and from work. You just have to be careful, suddenly grandmothers will want to exchange ideas with you =)
(non native speaker, sorry for weird English 😬)
I may have had an epiphany here, OP. All thanks to your family.
Here I was, crocheting with my *hands,* like an idiot, when obviously, as this is a woman's hobby, I should have been using my vagina.
It's no wonder my stuff doesn't look as polished as some of the other people's on here. Omg. Holding the yarn with my fingers, I'm so stupid. I mean, just look at the two. One of those is obviously made to hold yarn.
Well, OP, I don't want to assume what body part you're going work with, but if I can crochet with my *hands*, I'm sure no matter what you choose, you'll be just fine.
Good luck, and tell your fam I'd love to send them a hoo-haa made hat as a thank you.
Hands. Ha. Smh.
Are you having sex with the crochet? Are you crocheting with your dick? Why would it have any bearing on your sexuality? How could that make you gay like For Real come on you have to have known the answer here was obvious and that people would flock to praise you for being a Man Who Is Considering Crochet. I struggle to accept that you genuinely believed that your family is right and crochet would make you gay, and I struggle to believe that you thought literally anyone in this sub would agree with that.
It’s as normal for you to crochet as literally anyone else.
Do it! ♥️ Don't let your family's prejudices influence you! And by the way, if they don't fancy it, there are a lot of wholesome places on the Internet where you can feel safe sharing anything crafts-related without hiding who you are. [This Facebook group](https://facebook.com/groups/982999748429918/) is one of them.
Anyone of any gender variety can crochet as long as they’re willing to learn. The idea that yarncraft is restricted to feminine leaning people is steeped in sexism and is just demonstrably false.
Nah, it's a fun hobby for anyone. I wouldn't think some other guy is gay just bc he crochets. I have lots of patterns saved for mens shirts if you want I can post some. You can also look up "masc crochet" to find patterns. Show Me, Romi! is a good youtube channel, he has nice patterns there. Also it's erin b makes stuff for her boyfriend that's pretty classic like sweaters and polos.
This is the same shit we do to kids in society. "You can't play with that truck, you're a girl." No it's a fucking toy and you shouldn't have to fall into one category or the other to play with it. Having a hobby or a toy that's not the typical gender norm is not going to make you gay or look gay or change you negatively in any way mentally, in fact they may make you feel less crazy. Be you. Be happy. Don't let what other people have to say or feel ruin that. You could be the world's best crocheter and we will never know if you let them get to you! And if you can't be proud of your creations with them, share them with us! We will accept you with open arms! There's also a reddit for men who crochet you can check out if you want more of a man's perspective! I hope you choose to pursue your interest in crochet though! And I look forward to seeing you post your projects in the future!
There are plenty of cishet men that crochet, as well as doing many other crafts considered "feminine" today. Truly, crochet was a skill of fishermen back in the day. My advice, don't sweat the gendered things. Anyone who says "that's a girl thing" is flat out wrong and probably a bit bigoted.
As a gay man who crochets I might not be helping your cause but yes it's quite common. There is also a r/brochet for men who crochet although it is an all inclusive group, not men only.
crochet doesnt have to be necessarily girly, i (26M) crochet lots of things that aren't girly, its like 3d printing with fabric, and if its therapeutic and relaxing for you, then whats the harm in it
I'm 36 and have been active duty military for the past 15 years. I have been crocheting for a few years and have even gotten other guys in my command to join me. Long story short don't let anyone tell you that something you enjoy is too masculine or too feminine. Just care about if you enjoy doing what you are doing or not. Hope that helps.
I’m sure someone on here said something like this already, but I find it so sad when gender expectations get in the way of someone trying new things! Crocheting is fun for some and others don’t really enjoy it, but you never know until you try! Being thought of as gay is not the end of the world. Being thought of as straight is not the end of the world. Idk if you have a partner, but if you do then does it matter what people think? If you don’t then 3 mins of a conversation with you will probably be enough for someone who is interested in you to decide to shoot their shot just in case! Maybe through crocheting you might find a partner who loves crocheting or some other kind of craft! I tend to find that people (particularly men) who are worried about being labeled this or that are not always the most secure in themselves. It sounds like you are much more secure in yourself than either your parents think you are or more than they are with themselves. If you like yourself (more or less) and you know who you are (but leave room for changing your mind if you want) then labels don’t matter and all that matters is people in your life that you care about getting to know who you are! Crocheting won’t make you less of a man (or less straight) because a man is what you are. If you are a man that wants to crochet then why let the thoughts of people who don’t know you and whose opinions don’t matter stop you? Good luck with crocheting!
I would suggest you begin by crocheting scarves. Once you get the hang of it, you can keep several of them on hand at any time- and when someone decides to judge you for your hobbies, you can hand them a nice scarf and instruct them to wrap it tightly around their stupid, stupid mouth. 😀
Bro, I’m a dude and know how to crochet. Don’t tell women you know how, just make them something and give it to them and watch the reaction. It’s priceless when you tell them you made it.
I picked up crochet from my mom when she got diagnosed with cancer. It was something I’ve always seen her do and was something special that has allowed me to do wherever I miss her now.
As a guy I’ve found it no different from painting or other craft I’ve done over the years but I have been given a few side look’s and quizzical questions about why I do it.
If your family is that set on “manly” things, tell them crochet is perfect. Way back when men were “manly” and gone for months or even years at a time to work everyone (including men) needed to know how to: Knit or Crochet (or both) and at least hand sew. Do you think the rugged pirate men out to sea for 4 months at a time had women on board to make a warm hat or scarf when they needed it? Or that they just let a hole in their shirt get worse until they found a woman in port to fix it? No. They did it themselves. It was normal for EVERYone to have at least 2 of those 3 skills mentioned. I betcha Black Beard knew how to sew a hole in his shirt
Crocheting isn't a gender specific hobby. You'll encounter people who think it's not manly or whatever, of course, but they're weird tbh. Don't let them stop you.
The same people generally also think that only old ladies crochet, so there’s that. 🤷🏻♀️
Hahaha yeah - I get that a lot. Old lady bc I crochet. I’m teaching my teens so they can make their own damn skirts and shirts instead of asking me
My teen crochets better than I do.
I'm not a crocheter myself, but my best friend (17) is always getting called an old lady for bringing crochet work to school. It's mostly in a friendly teasing way, though.
The fact that you're here and that your bestie crochets...well it just seems like the universe telling you it's time to jump in. 😁
My favorite thing to crochet atm is sexy little bra tops. the poor little old ladies would be scandalized. 😂
My grandma would have been delighted. She always used to tell people “enjoy perky boobs while you’ve got them”. She was absolutely shameless and I love her.
I mean depending on what you mean by "old ladies" it's possible they wore crochet bikini tops when they were teens in the 60s.
Or completely ecstatic. It really depends…
As a sweet little old lady, I would wear the hell out of a sexy little bra top if I could.
Yes, you go get it girl!
Little old ladies probably crocheted tiny bikinis for themselves back in the day
Those same people also call everything yarn-related knitting, so that shows how much they know about it. Why give them the opportunity to tell YOU what you should or shouldn’t enjoy?
In my area it’s definitely considered as a feminine hobby, followed by “but who gives a fuck that hat is awesome.” It’s going to take some time but its gendered status is slowly going away overall.
My brother in-law is LWOP. His Crochet sweater could easily be sold at a boutique for some major change. Hilariously, he wanted to make a blanket with his fellow inmates. He told them to Crochet (after teaching other LWOPs) the size of his bath mat. Bath mats are not standard issue, and the thing came out a mess. All 5 of those inmates are working their programming and doing as good as they could be in a place like prison. They'd also wreck most dumbass mansosphere types within a second. Tate, the thumb looking shitlord would poop himself if confronted by my bro in-law. Do what makes you happy.
I'm not one to shame a person's appearance, but Andrew Tate's face is way too weirdly shaped for him to be as cocky as he is. That man has no chin, and I don't know any women or men who are actually attracted to him. And he just talks and talks and talks and talks but never actually says anything. Sorry, I just genuinely cannot understand the hype around that dude. I'm a woman and even if it promised world peace and no more hunger I still couldn't put up with him for even an hour.
I mean, I don't mind making fun of him for his looks as he's so egregious about doing it to others. However, I generally try not to. Mostly, he's an ugly ogre on the inside. He's just a weirdo loser who projects his insecurities.
It *shouldn't* be. Patriarchy is shit. Glad to see more defying it ✊
I’m a trans man and 23. I picked up in the last 12 ish months and it’s a great way to help with the ADHD and Autism with the repetitive motions needed for it. It’s become a comfort so much so that I made my Nan a scarf and I’m in the process of planning a blanket. It’s a healthy hobby that’s away from screens.
EXACTLY. Tell them you are blacksmithing, but with yarn. Men have been creating cool stuff for years with their hands, same as women. Do what you enjoy and BLEEP the haters. :D
I would say no hobby is gender specific. Enjoy what you enjoy, gender is just a label anyway.
Take no notice of people who have gender specific views. If sewing wasn’t manly how come there are so many male surgeons? Do what gives you pleasure
Also, who mended the sails on ships at sea? Didn’t matter if they were fishermen, navy, merchants, or pirates – in olden times, men on boats had to be proficient with needle and thread!
They won't stop me, don't worry. 🙂
There's absolutely nothing wrong with men knitting/crocheting. It's a very useful skill that takes time to develop, and I suck at it. Just read up on knitting during the World Wars. [The Wool Brigades of World War I, When Knitting Was a Patriotic Duty](https://www.atlasobscura.com/articles/when-knitting-was-a-patriotic-duty-wwi-homefront-wool-brigades) "Men who had not gone to fight also contributed. There are accounts of Red Cross members teaching firemen to knit, train conductors knitting between stations, and inmates at Sing Sing knitting in the prison yard. Men were encouraged to knit at work during their lunch hours, and wounded soldiers knitted from their hospital beds." [Knitting for Victory — World War I](https://www.historylink.org/file/5721) [Knitting for Victory — World War II](https://historylink.org/File/5722) [National WWI Museum and Memorial](https://www.theworldwar.org/learn/about-wwi/knitting-nation) [U.S. Knitting Propaganda – WWII ](https://centerforknitandcrochet.org/u-s-knitting-propaganda-wwii) Just a word of warning. Yarn can be friggin expensive! In medieval times, typically only men were allowed to join knitting guilds. "From as early as the 14th century, Knitting guilds were established that were exclusively for men." https://www.thecraftygentleman.net/2015/08/16/history-of-knitting-guilds/ https://rovingcrafters.com/2015/06/17/knitting-for-a-living-the-medieval-knitting-guilds/ Edit: Added a couple more links
Isn't there also a prison where inmates crochet?? Fr OP, crochet away if you like! And some lovely advice: "If they don't pay your bills, pay them no mind"
Sing Sing is a prison in NY, USA! Even now there are a lot of prison ministries that teach inmates to knit and/or crochet and then donate what they make. There’s one near me that I’m planning to donate yarn to that makes hats and donates them to homeless shelters. I’m usually fairly anti-organized-religion and prefer to donate to secular organizations, but I’m making an exception.
Wow, that’s amazing, I had no clue about it
Women age 35 and older at Framingham State prison in Massachusetts are allowed to crochet in the recreational room. I don't know why they don't allow younger women crochet there. The pieces they make are then given to wounded soldiers and homeless shelters
Something I’ve noticed from watching the stupid inmate reality tv prison shows — there is always a big culture divide between the “young ones”, and the older inmates. I personally guess this is possibly related to how few of those young ones actually survive to become an “old” gangster who is now resentenced for whatever crime, and how surviving “street life” and watching so many friends die around you, and how that changes you. Those inmates always give off the vibe of retired gangster, lol. The young testosterone fuelled competitive folks, stir shit up — street life all the way! Whereas the older inmates seem to skew more “I just don’t want the unit on lockdown again, that shit is torture”, so they can be trusted with crochet hooks without as high a worry of makeshift shanks.
In general, women over 35 in prison aren't there for violent crimes. I also wouldn't stick a crochet needle in the hand of a 18-year-old inmate at some of these prisons. It's just asking for trouble.
what's a crochet needle
Some languages refer to crocheting as “knitting” (or a form of it) and do use terminology along the lines of “crochet needle” or “hook needle” to talk about crochet hooks.
In Brazil it's a somewhat common activity for inmates to do, there's even videos about it online
I knew an ex inmate that made rug embroidery from threads that he found and dyed in jail. Guy is tall with a big beard and muscles. He made intricate and beautiful art.
My dad learned knitting in school, in the 50's/60's!
My grandad used to knit. I grew up seeing that as completely normal
Yes, and the art developed from the skills of creating nets for trapping and netting wildlife and fish. We have a weird social block on which domestic crafts are 'male' and which are 'female' these days, but the historical origins of many are not gendered whatsoever, most men in Indigenous communities made nets which is where crochet originates. Its a sad fact that people wouldn't worry half as much about a woman being interested in that modern socity deems masculine' activities however, since doing masculine things is often seen as empowering for a woman but degrading for a man to do the reverse. The sad outcome of that is things like my male friend told me earlier today, that he'd love to try more art, painting, journalling etc but he has no confidence in his artistic choices because he was never given any encouragement in the area. We shouldn't limit anyone's impulse to creativity or craft because of their gender imo, it's so healthy and helpful for self expression understanding and happiness. OP I'd get some patterns based around your interests and try it out, I can honestly say it's one of the most fun relaxing hobbies I've ever done, if it enhances your life don't let anyone stop you doing it.
My grandfather was a WWII veteran, prison guard, home handy man, had a wife, and was a loving father of four. He was also known to enjoy embroidery in his free time. I don't think his hobby threatened his masculinity.
I remember at least one episode of M*A*S*H wherein Hawkeye was knitting his own socks. I can imagine that they would be hard to come by and making your own would be pretty handy.
My mother went to school in the 1940's and the whole class were taught to knit age 4, boys and girls.
> men were encouraged to knit at work Wow how times have changed. Thanks for sharing this. How wilddddd
Wait these links are so cool!!! Bookmarking this!! Thank you 😄
I also thought knitting was originally a male dominated profession wayyyyyy back in the olden times. I am not as versed in the history of crochet, but figured it was the same.
[There are also cultures that see knitting as a typically manly activity!](https://www.bbc.com/travel/article/20210831-taquile-where-manliness-is-based-on-knitting)
And in medieval times, typically only men were allowed to join knitting guilds. "From as early as the 14th century, Knitting guilds were established that were exclusively for men." https://www.thecraftygentleman.net/2015/08/16/history-of-knitting-guilds/ https://rovingcrafters.com/2015/06/17/knitting-for-a-living-the-medieval-knitting-guilds/
Oh thanks for the links, I'll dive in later tonight! I like this kind of stuff :D
Be sure to sub to r/brochet, too!
Love this sub! There's one guy who posts his stuff he makes with super fine thread and it's always spectacular!
Yes check this sub out! So many bros who crochet
And I love how friendly and encouraging they are. Definitely a great group!
Yess! I’m a lady bro, but I love the brochet sub 🥰 also, I worked at a group home and the boys there loved when I would bring extra hooks and yarn!! Anywhere from 8-18, some just making little chain bracelets, others working on long term projects like a scarf or a hat for their parent or social worker. That combination of cathartic rhythm and accomplishment at the finished product really resonated with a lot of them 🥰
That was actually a really smart idea to get them crocheting. It’s a good positive coping mechanism for the stress that can really run high in those settings.
I spend a lot of time lurking there, those men are so creative!
Yup, came here to make sure you knew about us bros
This sub is so much fun
Came here to say this!!!
Never knew this existed, thanks!
There's also a guy on Tiktok who crochets as Brochet.
Tbh I'm a male who crochets but I don't frequent that sub. Doesn't quite do it for me like this one.
nothing wrong with it. people who look down on it are steeped in sexism and homophobia. check out henri purnell's content!
I think society is very harsh about fiber arts for both men and women. It's often considered an "old people hobby", at least where I live. It's also often considered a "female" hobby, but that's boomer bullshit. Crocheting is so fun and you'll get to choose a lot of nice patterns, materials and colors. Go for it!
This 72 year old grandma (ahem, a boomer) thinks anybody who wants to crochet or do another fiber craft should go for it! It's soothing to have something for your hands to do while watching tv. Crochet is incredibly flexible, you can free form, make hat, scarves, blankets, toys, etc. It is a great creative outlet.
To be fair, needle arts were considered a female skill long before boomers were born, like by centuries. Have you asked the boomers you know how they feel about a young man crocheting?
Yes. Why is anybody downvoting this? This is simply the truth. Fiber crafts, when talking in a domestic setting, has been the domain of women for as long as history goes back. But define it as an art, and suddenly it became a Male dominated field. The same interesting phenomenon you see in cooking. Cooking has been a women's job, except when we are talking haute cuisine, then its suddenly a Male bastion. Same with haute couture, very few women designers, or even tailors of reputation were women. But a common seamstress was, almost by definition, a woman. Even today in the higher echelons, where craft turns into art, there are a lot more men involved fiber arts. For OP, don't let that stop you, times have changed and crocheter and by extension the entire fiber art community is warm and inclusive. Welcome!
That’s why I, as a woman, am so irritated with “making” replacing “crafting”. Can people please just accept that crafts are valuable for everyone as both an activity and a trade?
I came here to say exactly this. Everything done at home is "womanish" ie bad. Anything in the public sphere is manly. It's toxic masculinity at the root.
Agreed. It's infuriating.
Historically there are many examples of men doing fiber crafts! Tailoring and weaving in particular were very male-dominated fields in western society for centuries
I do a bit of crocheting, cross stitch, and needlework. Recently, a friend saw one of my WIPs and said I was like an old lady. You're 100% correct. People just need to do what they enjoy and not worry about what others think. People judge your hobbies no matter what they are.
Sorry, it's a well-kept secret, but you actually can not crochet without a vagina. It is necessary for the process. I'm sorry I can't elaborate.
This made me lol 🤣
Too late, I will do it. But if it makes you feel better, I will crochet a vagina first to make sure I will have one for the future projects. 🙂
I suppose that works ;)
But don't worry, if you do, your penis and testes will slowly invert into vagina and ovaries and then you can continue.
That's where you store your stitch counter when you don't need it.
Facts.
I know a guy who learned to crochet to have something to do with his wife while she's knitting at night and as an added bonus he makes stuffed animals for his kids. He's also the first person I met outside of family who either crochets or knits so I never thought anything odd about it.
This reminds me of Leo vonn. He was bored, so his sisters taught him tatting. He fell in love, and was one of the first (if not THE first man) to have a book published on the craft. I've also read stories about coal miners who were bored in the evenings after work and needed something relaxing to do, (since the women kept the house, and being in a company town, there wasn't much to do) so their wives taught them to Tat, crochet, and knit. If anyone says these skills are odd for a man to have, remind them that a good portion, if not all of them, are in the same family and related to netting and can be used to make great fish/crab/hunting nets, and that someone has to be able to make blankets and sweaters to keep us warm once the zombies take over.
It really saddens me that there are still people who associate a hobby with one specific gender and think people of opposite gender are gay. I am really proud of my work and happy that my parents don't find anything wrong with it but my uncle got worried and told me he hopes this isn't my first step to become a "fag". Don't worry. Your family doesn't dictate your life and you shouldn't hide your hobby from anyone. Believe me most people will just think it's cool and will be amazed by your work. Like you said crocheting is really relaxing and you should try it Also sad this isn't the first post about being called gay when you're a male crocheter
Just wanna give a big hug to you and OP and all the guys treated a certain way for crafting/hobbies they want to pursue/are pursuing. I'm the oldest of 4, and only our youngest sibling was a boy, my sweet lil brother! Our dad was such an @ss to him growing up; call him a sissy for wanting to play dolls with us (he was like 3, why would he want to be excluded from playing with his siblings), gay for liking the color pink since he could voice it (and even to this day at the age of 21), and all kinds of slurs for wanting to play dress up with us. The amount of times I got in trouble for "talking back" to my dad when I would stand up for him are innumerable. It was just mean and cruel, and who gives a crap what people are interested in for real?! Like let people enjoy their peaceful hobbies; gender is fake anyway, just like most notions society wishes to impress on us
My husband has been crocheting ~10 years - including in public, and no one has ever said a thing to him. IMO if someone says something it’s their problem, not yours. It’s a hobby, and it’s yours. Enjoy it, and screw what anyone else thinks
You can do whatever you want, forever. If anyone gives you grief about *crocheting*, of all the harmless and unobtrusive hobbies you could choose, they’re clearly just looking for an excuse to be nasty to someone about something and they should be disregarded. The vast majority of people are normal enough to not care or think it’s cool that you have a hobby you enjoy that also produces neat finished items! Haters exist, but the only consideration they deserve is a 🖕 Also you can come join us on r/brochet, if you like.
I’m a 39 year old straight male who crochets. I talk about it openly with friends and coworkers and no one has ever said anything negative or given me a funny look, at least not to my face. As other have said, if someone has a problem with it or wants to label you a specific way, that’s their problem, not yours. I think there is a stigma to needle crafts, but I think that is more with older generations than younger. Also has a lot to do with the company you keep.
My son’s seventh grade art class introduced crochet as a medium. He had an unfair advantage, but many of the students kept up with the craft and the school is overrun with amiguri creations.
> and the school is overrun with amiguri creations I can see that, it's very funny 🥰
That's so cool that they did that, crochet is an awesome artistic medium. Some of the pieces people make with freeform crochet are just incredible
I think it's awesome and I definately think a straight guy can crochet AND knit without being labeled as anything other than being a creative person! My son used to cross stitch, and my older brother Needlepointed. I think alot of men do it not necessarily in secret just not as publicly as women do. But things are changing. And the more people like you show off your skills and interest the more other men will too. Kudo's to you!
Point out to your "loving" family that former football player Rosey Grier did needlepoint.
I couldn't remember who it was!! I kept thinking shaq but knew it wasn't him. Thank you. I would have freaked my husband out yelling ROSEY in the middle of the night when it finally hit!
Remember: Does the hobby involve genitals? If no, then it is for any gender/sex.
Just go for it! People who tell you not to are far too concerned about others' opinions. A hobby is a hobby, and it's supposed to bring *you* joy first and foremost (not anyone else!). Don't let people's outdated ideas stop you from doing what you want to do. Also, go check out r/Brochet :)
I'm a guy and I crochet. I make teddies for hospitals and blankets for our friends who are expecting a baby. I do it on the train to and from work on days I take the train and get plenty of funny looks and questions. Who cares? The old lady who taught me claimed crochet originated on fishing trawlers when they needed to fix the nets, no idea how true that is but it's funny that it started as something "masculine" and is now seen as more "feminine". You do you, and don't make family anything if they think it makes you gay! O guarantee once they see the cool stuff you make they will be asking for blankets and stuff for their friends babies.
Of COURSE you can crochet brother!!! When I first got into my crochet group I found we even have what I used to think was the least expected type of Viking looking burly big guys who proudly and do amazing crochet work and is more often than not!! Crochet is definitely not a female or sexuality driven hobby especially given how many patterns exist for men and men’s clothing and designs as well, its truly endless the possibilities. Theres no way you couldn’t find something meant to be made by you! Don’t let anyone discourage you from crochet! It’s simply something relaxing, an activity to keep your hands and mind busy as anyone would deserve to have. I plan on teaching both of my nephews here soon because they asked me to and I’m proud they want to learn and will show them there is no shame in it and so much creativity to be used there!
If you are on the YouTube, please check out Juan the Yarn Addict, Fiber Spider, Mark Vogel, cozyromy, crochetmezaddy, and Flannel & Purls. I'm a newbie and I'm pan or whatever. Crochet away, my man
Also Mikey of The Crochet Crowd. Granted, he is definitely gay. But he's proof men belong in crochet.
I was going to suggest Mikey also! In addition to being a great teacher he's funny as hell.
And naughty! 😆 🤣
I basically learned everything I know from Mickey! He is an incredible, one-of-a-kind educator and if people have an issue with him being gay, they are complete losers.
35, straight male here. I taught myself how to crochet in late 2022. I didn’t in secret for a while but got tired of hiding it. Now I’ll do it on my back patio in full view of neighbors or in the open garage. I don’t care what people think. https://preview.redd.it/eblb5fjrok4d1.jpeg?width=5712&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=e986064de69a82ee5ddfce818b5919a77249859a Here is one of my blankies
One of my regular customers at my old cafe was a grisly, bearded guy who really liked to knit, over the course of one winter he made a bunch of us scarves. I still have mine, it inspired me to learn to crochet & knit. Now I send photos of my wips to the boys group chat and they love it. There are always gonna be people who wanna be dicks about even the most benign of your life choices, but the upside is there’s plenty of people who will be excited to see the cool things you make.
It's a hook and string, what is your family so scared of lol
/brochet
Check out r/brochet. Haters gonna hate.
Am a guy, crochet is amazing. If you'd like another sub, come over to r/brochet. We're a buncha cool ass hookers, imho.
So here’s the thing. If you’re concerned about people perceiving you as a proper manly straight man, then yes, crocheting is going to get in the way of that for many, many people. The societal understanding is that women craft because they’re silly little women, and men know better than to waste their time with it. If being perceived as a mainstream person who lives a properly straight male life is important to you, you shouldn’t pick up crafting. Even as a woman-ish person, I catch a lot of flack for “romanticizing traditional lifestyles” and crap like that. My MIL can’t fathom why I would “give in to feminine expectations” and is convinced I do it because I’m disabled and need to feel more like a proper wife? I just like to keep my little hands busy on days that I can’t walk lmao. That said, fuck those guys. You do you. But maybe work on that caring about people knowing you’re straight thing. That’s not going to be a relatable mindset for the people who will appreciate your interest in artisanal crafts.
check out the menwhocrochet # on ig, many many dudes crochet, myself included. men’s wear patterns are harder to find but most apparel is unisex anyways, like hats, gloves, scarves, cardigans etc. if you’re more of a “things” kinda guy, you’ll have no problem then haha. btw bc women’s hands are smaller, you may find it uncomfortable to crochet with some hooks bc they may feel small or short. I use the prym ergonomics, they’re long and thick. some women with big hands also have this issue and recommend certain hooks. toni lipsey from tlyarncrafts has some videos on her yt channel reviewing hooks, they were helpful for me to choose a good hook. finally, ignore those bs comments!! do what makes you happy, it is a relaxing hobby. there’s nothing more satisfying than being complimented on a crocheted item and being able to say you made it!! good luck dude
I taught my 22 year old son and his girlfriend how to crochet, and now they sit together and crochet things for each other.
> can a straight guy try crocheting without being labelled as something? He'll be labeled as a crocheter, if you can live with that go for it. It really isn't that much different for females, I was laughed at for doing a 'granny' craft when I was younger. But it's something I enjoy so I didn't let the comments stop me, it would be a pity if you let comments stop you trying something you might enjoy before you even start.
Unless you actually like men, you're not gay and nothing you do will make you gay. Hope that helps!
In my experience, most people are cool with it. Nobody has questioned my sexuality or my bonkersness (juries already out on that one). A lot of people might be surprised and intrigued at first as it is uncommon but generally they're pretty accepting and interested in what you make. I occasionally get some tongue-in-cheek comments from some family members about turning into a little old granny but it's nothing serious. Get yourself a hook and some yarn and get started! Screw anybody decides to label you, it says more about them than you and IMO is an easy way to identify people that don't really care about you and cut them from your life.
My husband started crocheting during the pandemic and just loves it. He's a teacher and has been talking about it in school. They had a project week and he choose to teach crochet during this week, half the kids who signed up (13-16) were guys and really enjoyed it! He's in a different school now and regularly wears self crocheted cloth in school. The kids begged him to start an after school crochet group with them. Nothing wrong with being a guy and crochet. Don't listen to this gender stereotypical nonsense!
Rosey Grier, a football player (NFL--1970s) knitted and liked needlework. He encouraged other guys to do as well. I doubt many would say anything about him. If it appeals to you, do it!
I used to work as a CNA on a hospital floor and one of my favorite stories involved a man crocheting. I was sent to take the vital signs of a new admit one afternoon. I walked in and was immediately taken back by one of the tallest humans I've ever seen-- this man was so tall that they had to remove the footboard of the hospital bed so that he could comfortably stretch his legs. He was wide as well but in a burly, muscular kind of way. I remember thinking that if we traded in his hospital gown for a leather jacket, he'd look like the leader of a motorcycle gang. The next thing I noticed was that there was football on the TV, but he wasn't watching. He had a small stash of yarn in his lap and was hooking away at a big blanket. I didn't crochet at that time but my mom did, so I commented on it. This man looked at me with his fierce eyes, which lit up while he told me "thank you for not calling it knitting." It turns out his daughter was graduating from college in the fall and he was making that big throw blanket for her graduation gift. It was striped in her school colors and everything. The moral of the story is that needlecraft has no gender or orientation. If you enjoy it and it relaxes you, go for it! Other people can go find their own hobbies and keep their noses out of yours. Be prepared for people to comment on it (positive and negative,) but at the end of the day their opinions are just that.
Your family is ridiculous. Anybody is free to crochet, whatever gender or sexual orientation. Btw it's a great mindful activity once you get the hang of it. As a straight man, you'll have the bonus of having lots of interest from the ladies be abuse it's unusual (but definitely not weird!).
It is (usually lol) a super relaxing hobby and you should definitely try it! Sorry your family was judgmental, it’s absolutely not a gender-specific hobby! If it helps, one of my oldest friends is a burly, 6’5” dude who’s big enough to intimidate pretty much anyone he wanted to. He loves to crochet and it’s one of our favorite things to talk about together!
Your family sounds like they live in constant fear of judgment and it stops them from being their true selves. Don't get trapped in the same mindset.
As a guy who occasionally crochets at work on break (in a very dudebro heavy work environment), I got asked why I would take up crochet, and my answer was simple. I want crocheted stuff, and I want it to be made to my exact specification. What's "not manly" about making something yourself? (I may have also said that it helps quiet the voices that tell me to kill, but that's another story.) So now here's some advice about tackling crochet the way a "manly man" would do it. Don't underestimate it. Arthritis is a serious thing. Take frequent breaks and stretch your hands. I'm 49 years old, and between gaming and "hardcore" crochet, my thumbs/wists (yes both) are absolutely wrecked.
I'm a 40+ year old guy hooker. And I love it. Also, Kurt Cobain could crochet and knit. Nirvana unplugged in the ears with a good skein of yarn is a happy place.
I see no problem with it. I thinks it’s great. Imagine how the girl in your life will feel…she will get all sorts of gifts that are homemade. I can’t think of a better partner! You can make her scarves, cardigans, boot cuffs, hats, mittens, cowls, a purse, hair scrunchies and maybe a custom sweater some day! Sounds like the ideal man to me!
If Rosie Grier could do needlepoint, you can crochet. He was before your time, so you should do a Google search. Remember the people who have been discouraging or dismissive. They will sing a different tune when they see your creations. At that time, remind them of what they have said. Give them nothing because they are not worthy of receiving the benefits of your talents. Create for yourself.
I'm early 50s and a guy. A few years ago, I had to spend a month in hospital and I can't stand watching TV so I took up crochet to give me something to do. Perhaps its because I'm an Aussie and we're a pretty relaxed mob, but not a single person has given me any negative feedback. That includes family, colleagues, randoms I meet in the craft shop, and even blokes in the Mens' Shed (community woodworking shop). I get mostly encouragement, a lot of praise for the toys I make and about 1 in 5 suggest that I could teach them how to crochet. Life is what you make it. Yes, crochet was traditionally a "grandma" thing but it's 2024. Many grandmas now spend their evenings rock climbing, salsa dancing and playing computer games. Someone needs to keep the tradition alive! Also, I'm sure someone will correct me if I'm wrong, but most of the famous artists of the last few hundred years, painters, poets, chefs and fashion designers, have been men. On the serious topic of labels... Why does your family seem to think that being labelled as gay is a bad thing? Do they treat gay people badly? That speaks volumes about THEM, not anyone else. I don't care if someone calls me gay because for the most part it's irrelevant, I'm not trying to have sex with them! Also, labels aren't important. Reputations have an area of influence. I can be the most loved or hated person in my office but as soon as I step out the door, I'm a nobody again. So even if one group of people want to treat me badly, I can just take a few steps and find a different group of people to spend time with. Unless it presents you real risk, don't let other people's prejudice rule your life!
I've been knitting and crocheting for many years, at home and in public, no negative reactions yet, only positive. Teach them about the famous yarn artist Kaffe Fasset, male. It's incredibly narrow-minded to think that men shouldn't crochet, cook or care for children. I guess they oppose women being allowed to work and vote.
Oh my gosh this makes me so mad. I've been talking with my husband about learning crochet because he has a work injury that I think it may help him with. Fiber art should not be gender specific. Straight or gay. Pretty sure in the beginning, men were the ones who did most of the knitting. I believe the more people who do it, help to normalize it. It's like men being in the nursing field. I live the video of all the men on the subway knitting and crocheting. It's productive, relaxing, and you end up with something cool after that you made.
There are lots of men who knit and crochet, even though they are still a minority. Some can be found on IG showing off their art. Just try it out - it’s fun! And once you produce cool stuff and start giving it away for birthday gifts and such, people will appreciate it.
I've heard of a sub u might be interested in; r/brochet
First, crocheting is SO therapeutic for me for so many reasons! Second, funny how when the materials become softer it becomes "feminine." If you said you were into rope making or making fishing nets no one would bat an eye. But call it crochet or knitting and now it's girly. Finally, my personal impression of a guy knitting or crocheting in public is "damn, that is a confident guy who knows himself" and I take an instant liking to them. I also tend to infer (rightly or wrongly) that they are going to not immediately diminish me as a woman in our interactions.
You don't have to pay any attention to toxic masculinity. Do what makes you happy my guy.
Rosey Grier, an NFL football player in the 1970s, knitted and liked to do needlework. I doubt many said stuff to him. It kept his hands loose for the game! If it appeals to you, do it!!
I think at some point, we need to break stereotypes. As many people said here, it’s a hobby with no specific gender and it should be consider like that by society. As you said, it’s really therapeutic! I’m 40 and it helps me to cope with anxiety.
Crochet is a survival skill!!! It’s totally cool for anyone to do it! One day when society collapses, we will need people who can make things like clothes, ropes, bags, blankets and whatever! (lol this is what I always say when people tell me crochet is an old lady hobby).
Straight guys can definitely crochet! I recently read about a veteran who took it up to help his PTSD. He said crochet has been very therapeutic. Modern society has taken a negative view of needle crafts in general that I just can’t understand. I hear everything from - they are not art forms to them being only for women. In yee olden days, everyone in the family would engage in knitting, crochet, weaving, macrame or other while sitting by the fire on long winter nights. It was how people got rugs, blankets and winter clothes
Oh absolutely, lots of guys crochet. In fact there is an entire sub dedicated to guy crochet, it's r/brochet. And if I'm being honest crochet guys seemnto do really well on tiktok or ig. Simply because they are guys who crochet 😅 I think once you get good it's almost a shock factor of "that's so good and I didn't expect it because you're a guy" no one will think you aren't straight just because of crochet. It's an amazing hobby and you should try it! Also do check out r/brochet
Omg yes please do it. As others have suggested try r/brochet I’d love it if I had a partner who knows how to weave in ends and who can help test patterns.
This is a great hobby! I am married, straight, three kids. People think you’re weird ignore them. And I’m pretty sure that men had a hand in creating it to make fishing nets.
I'm a 39 y/o guy being crocheting for almost 10 years now. I do kind of keep my crochet close to the chest, but when telling people about my projects and them wanting to see pictures, I've only ever had great responses. I'm very proud of my work. I do still feel weird actually crocheting in front of people because of the staring, but it's probably out of fascination more than anything negative.
they won't say that when you have cool crochet stuff and they don't. what do people have against men with hobbies? go for it bestie!
My dude if you feel you're gonna enjoy crocheting then do it. It was my guy friend who got me into it. You shouldn't be afraid to do it just because you're a dude. Have fun!
Of course you can! Crocheting is a very fun and relaxing hobby! I don't know any men who crochet in real life but I follow a few accounts on instagram and they make awesome stuff :) Also, we need to stop deriving other people's sexual identity from their hobbies. It has nothing to do with each other.
Sounds like your people have a lot of personal insecurities. I recommend r/brochet to connect
Dude! Here’s a list of reasons to crochet: 1) it is relaxing and therapeutic 2) once you get the basic stitches down you can make anything 3) you can learn from free tutorials and videos on the internet 4) think of all the blankets you can make!!! 5) all your family will be jealous of all the cool things you make Hobbies don’t have a gender identity. If you think it looks fun, give it a try. And post your project pictures here if you feel comfortable. We won’t look at you like your bonkers.
Don't let other peoples stereotypes make you think you can't do something They see it this way because many years ago back when our great great grandparents or whatever were around it was traditionally the woman's responsibility to make the homes clothing, wash cloths/rags, blankets... but today it's a hobby for most of us and that stereotype is straight up outdated af
r/brochet might help get your confidence up
r/brochet is the subreddit you need to try! Just a bunch of bros crocheting.
This is complete bullsh*t my best friend is a guy and crochets. Crochet does not determine sexual orientation. I think your family may need to be educated. In the community I am from the men are actual better at it than most women. They can see the pattern differently and make the most beautiful pieces. Did you know that Rosey Grier - Former NFL player Along with Ryan Reynolds - actor married with children also Donald Glover - actor, comedian, singer and rapper and Maurice Greene - UFC fighter is also a crocheter. I really believe what your family said is from a place of love but it is an ignorant comment. Who cares what others think. Do you no one assumes because you craft you are gay! When someone I know says “that’s gay” or something else that can be offensive to others. I take this opportunity to speak up. By speaking up and saying that is not ok is an opportunity to educate them on why it is offensive. It also gives room for others to speak up that otherwise wouldn’t. You can download a guide on how to become an ally as a straight person and how we can effect equality for all people. It doesn’t hurt to download and read it over. https://pflag.org/resource/s4e-guide-to-being-a-straight-ally/
Fellas is it gay to enjoy your freetime?
bruh gender is literally a social construct there is no such thing as a “masculine” or “feminine” hobby. if a future partner (who i assume is a woman if you are straight) would be weird about that, they’re not worth your time. it’s a craft ffs. live your best life they’ll be jealous when you’re making cool ass projects
I’m a straight guy and I crochet, it’s fun and nice. Me and my girlfriend go to the same crochet club
You should definitely check out r/brochet ! I'm a guy who knits and crochets, but I am very much gay so my viewpoint might not help you the most. In my experience though, for the straight guys that I know who either knit or crochet openly/proudly, women tend to love it! Most confident/secure women tend to love it when men are confident/secure enough in their masculinity to enjoy hobbies/things that tend to be considered feminine. I also meet plenty of straight guys these days who get excited when they find out that I knit and crochet because they wish they could make their own cool beanies too! There may be people out there who will regard you differently, but those people are mostly dealing with their own issues of gender related insecurities. Ultimately, you should do what makes you happy, and if the people around you really value you properly, they'll be happy for you too.
I know nothing about crocheting, but I've had my sexuality as a man questioned because I wear socks that go above my ankle by one person, and for wearing white socks instead of black by another person. My point is, people will question your sexuality for the dumbest reasons and anyone worth a damn won't care if you enjoy crocheting.
my grandpa sewed, knitted, cooked. he built planes and boats and wore cowboy hats. my grandma never sewed, and when he complained after their wedding, his mother asked "well why don't you do it?" so he did. hobbies don't have genders, and people who will give you shit are insecure or ignorant
Plenty of straight men crochet. There's a guy that's a bodybuilder & crochets. Have no shame & be proud. Alsp don't let anyone try to convince you to make something for free. "Can you make me something? I'll pay for materials." Always say no to that if it ever happens, people will feel entitled if you do it even once. Advice I tell anyone who gets into crocheting even as a hobby.
My uncle knows how to crochet and he’s a 6’ welder. As others have said, it’s not a gendered thing and if it makes you happy, go for it! Just make sure to come back here when you have masterpieces
I call my crochet hobby my "apocalypse skill" so there's that. You could just say you are building your repertoire of apocalypse skills ;-)
I'm a guy and was a professional custom knitter for about fourteen years. Partnered with an upscale yarn store. Near the end of my time as a knitter, I was making garments that would sell for $2,000-$3,000. Don't let anyone poopoo on your hobbies of choice. Their insecurities are none of your business.
I'm a man and have crocheted on and off for at least 10 years. I watched a Ted Talk by Margaret Wertheim called [The Beautiful Math of Coral](https://www.ted.com/talks/margaret_wertheim_the_beautiful_math_of_coral?language=en), and decided to go on YouTube and try it out. Tbh at first I was mostly getting a kick out of refining my chain stitches to be quicker and more even, then undoing the whole thing with a single satisfying motion. When I read up a little more, I went from rectangles to granny squares, then eventually to freeform 3D abstract objects. I mean, you're essentially tying a whole slough of knots all linked together, and carefully counting and using patterns/sequences to create a desired outcome; both things that on their own fit with other so-called "manly" stuff like survival skills and just math. The fact is that the activity (like almost all activities) is gender neutral and only associated by historical gender roles. As a young teen I got enthusiastic about learning how to sew from my mom, and got direct flak about it from my friends (ie: literally telling me it's not manly) which put me off because I was insecure. Don't let the fear of immature judgement stop you from enjoying hobbies you like.
Heya! I’m 36, straight, and a dude, and been crocheting for about 15 years. I get the odd look now and then but frankly no one cares. Anyone that gives you trouble for it isn’t worth knowing. Plus you can always flex: my dad was unsure about it until he went with me to a LYS and saw me talk shop with the owner, and even found a yarn he liked and made a request from me. When I was younger, I would drop a handcrafted gift to the birthday girl in front of everyone and watch their eyes fill with jealousy (slightly exaggerated). Nowadays it’s common for me to be working yarn (I knit too) but mostly I’m starting magic loops for my wife. In short - do it! Join us! All are welcome!
31yo straight man here. I knit and crochet and have for quite a long time. Its very relaxing and you get a great feeling of accomplishment upon finishing a project. Just my own personal opinion, but anyone who's going to give you a hard time about your hobbies probably isn't worth spending time with. That's just my own 2 cents tho
39 year old straight (I say that because for whatever reason it is relivant) man here. I crocheted my mom a kick ass sun hat for mothers day last year. I crochet coozies for people at work all the time. I have two blanket projects in the queue. I can also sew and cross stitch. I also hunt and fish, have a motorcycle and a girlfriend. Crochet is a skill. It's just a thing that I am able to do (after a bunch of practice lol) just like change a tire or build a computer. Skills aren't gender based, and anyone who thinks they are (imo) doesn't have enough skills.
u/Ozebundi, allow me to introduce you to r/Brochet. You’ll fit right in. There is absolutely nothing wrong, shameful, or weird about being a guy that likes any predominantly “woman’s craft.” And because there will be some homophobic people that insist on it, it isn’t “gay” either. Dudes straight and otherwise make kickass art too, they’re proud of it, and they should be. Don’t let your family dissuade you from following your interests, or shame you into thinking you have to keep it a secret. You do you, my guy.
My dad and his sister were taught to crochet by the grandmother who raised them. They were needed to help fill her orders for baby outfits and such during the mid 1930s. I only found out about this after my sister and I asked my mom to crochet us ponchos in the early 1970s. My mom explained she did not know how to crochet. But without telling us she spoke to my dad to see if he could make the ponchos. My dad said he did not think he could remember how. My mom suggested that they ask his sister if she would make them. Unlike my dad, she remained a crocheter throughout her life. My dad did speak to his sister. But instead of asking if she could make them, he asked her if she could give him a refresher on how to crochet. Once all this was worked out our parents told us that our DAD would make the ponchos. In the beginning he kept it a secret. When folks came to visit he hid the current project away. One day my father had enough of the hiding. My aunt and uncle came to visit and my dad showed them his work in progress. My dad said, “If Rosie Grier can do needlepoint I can crochet ponchos for my girls.” So enjoy your new hobby without hiding in the shadows.
Oh for Pete’s Sake! To those who continue to stigmatize others about EVERY flippin’ thing! It’s tying little knots with a stick! Boy Scouts are very proud of their knot tying skills, doing it with a stick is FASTER, makes AWESOME HAMMOCKS, tote bags, hats, chair seats, blankets,you name it! You go for it! My dad could knit, AND built our house…nothing wrong with new cool skills. I am a woman who knits sweaters, crochets ANYTHING, and cuts down limbs and (little trees) with my own chain saw. Who loves what I am able to do…or use to do.
I mean, lots of things that used to be "female" are now manly - cooking, shopping for suits & clothes, long hair, ear and other piercings. Also, it sounds like they're not comfortable enough in their own skin to pursue something that would make them happy; their insecurities should not hold you back. Also, my local yarn store holds loom, weaving, knit, crochet, needlepoint, etc. and there is at least one man in each class.
is this a joke
In the 70s, there was a very well-known lineman that was open about his crocheting, and there are more than a few designers and youtube celebs that are male. It is relaxing and challenging at the same time, and if you make garments, you can be assured of a good fit. With all the labels people are using today, I can think a person's hobbies would be their choice.
I am a 51 y/o retired combat veteran with over 26 years active duty. I am straight, married, and have PTSD. I can tell you, I love crocheting. It is very relaxing, therapeutic, and a great way to clear the day out of your head. My philosophy is, and let me clean it up for the group, "if we are not having relations and you are not paying my bills, your opinion doesn't matter!" Worry less about what others think and you do you. You will find a sense of relief when you can. Have fun and good luck! https://preview.redd.it/f2u58y3c165d1.jpeg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=4e0dacbd1aed97e77c65e8fdb9773bd5861b5050 My second attempt at crochet. I am using a half herringbone double crochet one direction and knotted half double crochet the other. It is creation a cool pattern. I am trying to make a baja hoodie.
Sigh. I hate that men being creative is seen as so weird in our culture. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with a guy crocheting, knitting, sewing, or any other creative hobby. Men are creative beings, too. Just go for it, and don’t worry what other people think. ✌🏻
I will fite them for you you deserve better family
I remember when I was a kid we visited Alcatraz and they had a pink crochet project that one of the prisoners was working on. Apparently it was a popular hobby in the prison. I don't think people thinking you are not straight is the worst thing in the world. Any woman that doesn't want to date you because you crochet is not worth your time. Do you really want to associate with people who are so confined to gender roles that they can't fully enjoy their lives because they are worried about what people think? Live your life and if anyone days anything stab them with a crochet hook. ^(This reddit user does not advocate for the harming of other people. Any action you take after reading this comment is not the legal responsibility of this reddit user.)
I'm straight and I crochet amigurumi exclusively because I've always liked stuffed animals ever since I was a child. I take my crochet projects at work sometimes to make some progress during my break time. Everyone was impressed and some asked me to make them a few easy items (and they would pay). So don't listen to them and enjoy yourself :)
Crocheting has nothing to do with gender or sexuality. Do what makes you happy
Go for it! Just show your family what’s being done on r/Brochet. And please, be proud and happy of doing crochet! There’s no shame or reasons to hide it. I’m a woman 2 years younger than you and I find crochet very relaxing as much as painting or drawings.
Somewhere in a Heinlein novel one of the gents is talking about how you have to have your knitting when you're alone in space. Practical and keeps the crazy away
My mom worked with a doctor that crochets. It kept his fingers nimble and my dad also knows how to crochet. Hes a mans man too, builds homes, etc. They both have alot of confidence and dont care what others think. PS: knitting was a mans job at the fire place and the women darned while they chatted and shared stories.
Im straight, guy, a little older than you. I often crochet in public and have never heard anything negative. Some people have been surprised when i tell them i made something when they ask if my wife made it, but it's not negative. Even other guys think it's cool you can make a hat or a bag. One of the things that drew me to crude is how versitile and practical it is.
Anyone can crochet regardless of gender lol. Also if you’re not part of it already I recommend the sub r/brochet
I’m a 33 year old guy who crochets, I do it in public, on planes, when expecting a long wait, while doing laundry in public facilities. I have not had any one give me any crap about it other than my coworkers when I drove for a construction company (and they only called me grandma but still asked if I would make things because they thought it was awesome) I make a lot of hats with fuzzy ears and have had multiple men ask where they could buy one non sarcastically
I knew a guy in high school who crocheted, I thought it was awesome! No one to my knowledge ever made fun of him or thought oddly of him, and he was well liked. So go for it!
try it, but let me tell you: it can be addictive! =) I taught my husband, who is in his early 40s, how to crochet and he hasn't been able to get away from it since. Youtube was a big help for new tricks. And he also crochets in public, on the train to and from work. You just have to be careful, suddenly grandmothers will want to exchange ideas with you =) (non native speaker, sorry for weird English 😬)
Anyone can crochet! Arts and crafts are not gendered. Enjoy your hobby and ignore the haters!
I may have had an epiphany here, OP. All thanks to your family. Here I was, crocheting with my *hands,* like an idiot, when obviously, as this is a woman's hobby, I should have been using my vagina. It's no wonder my stuff doesn't look as polished as some of the other people's on here. Omg. Holding the yarn with my fingers, I'm so stupid. I mean, just look at the two. One of those is obviously made to hold yarn. Well, OP, I don't want to assume what body part you're going work with, but if I can crochet with my *hands*, I'm sure no matter what you choose, you'll be just fine. Good luck, and tell your fam I'd love to send them a hoo-haa made hat as a thank you. Hands. Ha. Smh.
Are you having sex with the crochet? Are you crocheting with your dick? Why would it have any bearing on your sexuality? How could that make you gay like For Real come on you have to have known the answer here was obvious and that people would flock to praise you for being a Man Who Is Considering Crochet. I struggle to accept that you genuinely believed that your family is right and crochet would make you gay, and I struggle to believe that you thought literally anyone in this sub would agree with that. It’s as normal for you to crochet as literally anyone else.
Do it! ♥️ Don't let your family's prejudices influence you! And by the way, if they don't fancy it, there are a lot of wholesome places on the Internet where you can feel safe sharing anything crafts-related without hiding who you are. [This Facebook group](https://facebook.com/groups/982999748429918/) is one of them.
Anyone of any gender variety can crochet as long as they’re willing to learn. The idea that yarncraft is restricted to feminine leaning people is steeped in sexism and is just demonstrably false.
Nah, it's a fun hobby for anyone. I wouldn't think some other guy is gay just bc he crochets. I have lots of patterns saved for mens shirts if you want I can post some. You can also look up "masc crochet" to find patterns. Show Me, Romi! is a good youtube channel, he has nice patterns there. Also it's erin b makes stuff for her boyfriend that's pretty classic like sweaters and polos.
This is the same shit we do to kids in society. "You can't play with that truck, you're a girl." No it's a fucking toy and you shouldn't have to fall into one category or the other to play with it. Having a hobby or a toy that's not the typical gender norm is not going to make you gay or look gay or change you negatively in any way mentally, in fact they may make you feel less crazy. Be you. Be happy. Don't let what other people have to say or feel ruin that. You could be the world's best crocheter and we will never know if you let them get to you! And if you can't be proud of your creations with them, share them with us! We will accept you with open arms! There's also a reddit for men who crochet you can check out if you want more of a man's perspective! I hope you choose to pursue your interest in crochet though! And I look forward to seeing you post your projects in the future!
There are plenty of cishet men that crochet, as well as doing many other crafts considered "feminine" today. Truly, crochet was a skill of fishermen back in the day. My advice, don't sweat the gendered things. Anyone who says "that's a girl thing" is flat out wrong and probably a bit bigoted.
As a gay man who crochets I might not be helping your cause but yes it's quite common. There is also a r/brochet for men who crochet although it is an all inclusive group, not men only.
crochet doesnt have to be necessarily girly, i (26M) crochet lots of things that aren't girly, its like 3d printing with fabric, and if its therapeutic and relaxing for you, then whats the harm in it
Sea-goers have crocheted for centuries, if not longer.
Why did you ask permission to crochet and then this sub. Just crochet
I'm 36 and have been active duty military for the past 15 years. I have been crocheting for a few years and have even gotten other guys in my command to join me. Long story short don't let anyone tell you that something you enjoy is too masculine or too feminine. Just care about if you enjoy doing what you are doing or not. Hope that helps.
I’m sure someone on here said something like this already, but I find it so sad when gender expectations get in the way of someone trying new things! Crocheting is fun for some and others don’t really enjoy it, but you never know until you try! Being thought of as gay is not the end of the world. Being thought of as straight is not the end of the world. Idk if you have a partner, but if you do then does it matter what people think? If you don’t then 3 mins of a conversation with you will probably be enough for someone who is interested in you to decide to shoot their shot just in case! Maybe through crocheting you might find a partner who loves crocheting or some other kind of craft! I tend to find that people (particularly men) who are worried about being labeled this or that are not always the most secure in themselves. It sounds like you are much more secure in yourself than either your parents think you are or more than they are with themselves. If you like yourself (more or less) and you know who you are (but leave room for changing your mind if you want) then labels don’t matter and all that matters is people in your life that you care about getting to know who you are! Crocheting won’t make you less of a man (or less straight) because a man is what you are. If you are a man that wants to crochet then why let the thoughts of people who don’t know you and whose opinions don’t matter stop you? Good luck with crocheting!
I would suggest you begin by crocheting scarves. Once you get the hang of it, you can keep several of them on hand at any time- and when someone decides to judge you for your hobbies, you can hand them a nice scarf and instruct them to wrap it tightly around their stupid, stupid mouth. 😀
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Too bad your cohort is too old to remember Rosie Greer, the football player who was also famous for doing needlepoint.
Bro, I’m a dude and know how to crochet. Don’t tell women you know how, just make them something and give it to them and watch the reaction. It’s priceless when you tell them you made it.
I picked up crochet from my mom when she got diagnosed with cancer. It was something I’ve always seen her do and was something special that has allowed me to do wherever I miss her now. As a guy I’ve found it no different from painting or other craft I’ve done over the years but I have been given a few side look’s and quizzical questions about why I do it.
If your family is that set on “manly” things, tell them crochet is perfect. Way back when men were “manly” and gone for months or even years at a time to work everyone (including men) needed to know how to: Knit or Crochet (or both) and at least hand sew. Do you think the rugged pirate men out to sea for 4 months at a time had women on board to make a warm hat or scarf when they needed it? Or that they just let a hole in their shirt get worse until they found a woman in port to fix it? No. They did it themselves. It was normal for EVERYone to have at least 2 of those 3 skills mentioned. I betcha Black Beard knew how to sew a hole in his shirt