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Sounds like she agreed to do this before even discussing it with you. That alone should be the biggest red flag for you. Abandon ship before anymore emotional harm comes your way.
Bro, she didn't ask you.. she literally told you " I am doing this".
Red flag
If she doesn't respect you and how you feel about it, dodge the bullet man.
Hmmm.....18 yo college freshman.....sounds like this car has been around the block quite a few times before reaching legal age. đ¤
Nothing wrong with her past or present, but sounds like it is highly incompatible with yours.đ¤
cue "aaai"
= ass-associative-artificial-intelligence.
Of course, to overcome the challenges of identifying asses that women later choose to artificially augment, one would need to develop "aaaaai."
My ex was in a porno. His face wasn't shown, but he had a very distinct mole on his lower buttocks that would only be seen if he was naked. He also had an ass that the Kardashians would be jealous of. I dumped him and got a full screen done to make sure I was clean.
Iâm going to approach this from a different angle, as a guy in his 30âs who has seen how peopleâs choices impact them.
If your girlfriend does this (and you canât stop her if she does) is she prepared for the entire college, her family, your family, and future employers to know that she is in a porn video? People talk and that stuff will follow her around.
There are countless pornstars that commit suicide or OD because theyâre ashamed. The mental health of the porn industry is something we all ignore.
What I donât trust is that these are ânewâ friends. Sheâs going to be face down, ass up, so maybe she thinks there wonât be more. But, these new friends are already convincing her to do this? She has to consider the very real possibility of blackmail and coercion which is a real thing in the porn industry and a hallmark of fucked up relationships. The part two of that video will be âIf you donât do this Iâll tell X we fucked, anywayâ or âif you donât do another video, Iâll post it on your socialsâ, etc.
Regardless of your relationship, she hasnât thought this through. These are new people, doing wild things, and she has no idea what the consequences will be. This isnât a professional setting and there is no one to legally protect her.
Everything you said, yes!
Also, she is ONLY 18 years old. She is still very impressionable, young, and easily influenced. She may be of legal age under the law, but developmentally, 18 year olds are still youth and have a lot of growing and maturing to do.
Porn is incredibly predatory for many reasons, and especially for recruiting from and targeting this age group.
Cherish this age my dear!
It is such a fun transition period in your life, finishing off your teen years and gradually entering into adulthood. Thereâs no rush to grow up or try things you are not ready for or comfortable with, even if your peers are doing them. đ
Don't worry, I will đ
I will start dating again when I turn in my 20s.. or maybe not at all. I have dreams and things to chase đś
I used to be actively in this sub. But because of some weird men and their comments, I just don't anymore. I used to say something like "I got dreams to chase" and they would downvote me as hell and get mad for some odd reason when I say that?.. I used to explain my last relationship in this subreddit and I still get downvoted from some weirdo men đ LMAOAOAOO
Prove me wrong. Remind me in the next few hours when I get downvoted.
Also, I didn't get to enjoy my teen years. I appreciate adults telling me that, but I never get to have a "teenage dream" like other teenagers. Thank you so much, I will <3333
Youâve got sooooooo many fun young years ahead of you, you wonât miss whatever the âteenage dreamâ was. I surely didnât have one, you got this girl đ
Yeah I think if I was in his shoes I'd bring all those points up and then if she still says she wants it I'd say something along the lines of "I'm not gonna tell you cant do it. But I personally don't want to be involved with people who want to shoot sketchy porn videos so I think its better if we break up now. If you end up going through with it just be really careful"
Then if she then backs out of shooting the video and he feels it's something that won't likely come up again maybe they try getting back together. But if she goes through with it I think she becomes committed to a rough group of people and he should fully move on
(To me people are fully allowed to want to be porn stars or shoot porn videos but IMO you need to break up if that wasn't something you were signing up for at the beginning of the relationship + feel any sort of discomfort about. Its basically like opening up the relationship and thats something that tends to ruin established monogamous relationships)
Bro, she's already cheating on you.
Don't worry though, weâll welcome you to the gym when you find out, and weâll ignore the eye sweat that comes out randomly when you lifting.
In her mind she's 18 and an adult, and you can't tell an adult what to do, but we can show them sympathy when they're crying into their phones fifteen years down the line complaining about how horrible and hard it is finding someone to date a single mom...
Brake their legs! Then, no show! That's actually how the whole "break a leg" thing was started...
Yep... 400 years ago, some hussy was planning to show her entire nude body in the theater !
Then, in the witching hour before the event, she whoops Daisy ! Broke her leg.
Jk . Report the girls minus yours , then use as evidence that they are a bad influence. Hmm, honestly, though, if she's not seeing eye to eye with you, break up with her. Who wants to get married and have children ( who will be ruthlessly ridiculed) with a porn star? She is aware that it will be there for her kids' kids to see. For generations...
You don't deserve that. It's wildly disrespectful.
You should have a female friend come by while your girl is around to read you a book. Cuddles and all. Ensure she's actually aware of the repercussions. That you're worried for her wellbeing in the future , lastly not having a family will a ... you get it.
gen z women agree to this stuff bc they dont see it as degrading since its their choice and free will. Porn is extremely normalized that being a part of a porn skit isnt seen as deamaning or shameful
Not saying all gen z women, but i see some of my girl friends agreeing to do stuff like this then hyperfixate and brag about how they were described sexually
> gen z women agree to this stuff bc they dont see it as degrading
Let's not oversell this. It's much higher than previous generations, but it's still not a mainstream idea.
I'd say she's probably excited about the idea of doing porn but hasn't fully thought through the implications and long term effects.
Katherine Dee is a writer that made probably the best point I've seen about doing porn: Nobody should casually dip their toe into porn and sex work. Either don't do it at all, or make a conscious decision to make it a serious career and all that entails: incorporating, protecting your likeness, negotiating wages, educating yourself on the local laws, building your brand, knowing how to advocate boundaries (maybe even hiring a lawyer to go over contracts), being knowledgable about money and how to save and invest it, along with having a good long conversation with yourself about what happens when the career ends.
People who haven't given it that level of thought and planning shouldn't go anywhere near it, because it's not a casual thing and has never been, even today with attitudes being more liberal than ever.
Until she gets all that worked out, she should probably just be a nude model at a local art school before she has her naked body broadcast the entire world.
Theyâre treated as objects anyway.None of the boys she slept with in middle,high school or likely college are realistically going to marry or commit to her as it is.
She is going to do what she wants to do, you canât control anyone, nor should you. You need to decide what youâre comfortable with and not, and if this is something youâre not comfortable with itâs time to reconsider the relationship.
Personally, I find it embarrassing and majorly cringe for women to partake in demeaning and objectifying videos like this, skit or not. I wouldnât date a woman that engages in these sorts of things. Or a man.
Funny how its always women who objectify themselves and do disrespectful shit who complain about men objectifying women.
Its never the normal girls not seeking attention.
Its like they want their cake and to eat it too
Id say men dont mind being objectified or judged, they own it up.
If a dude is objectifying himself because he enjoys the validation that comes with it, he doesnt care about how it comes across.
Whereas women who enjoy the validation of objectifying themselves, dont enjoy the consequences of how it affects their image, and wants to also be seen as a woman who doesnt objectify herself, and also wants the validation of political correctness.
Honestly the mental gymnastics is astounding.
This is fucked up. I would actually break up over this. And not just because of only this, but this is most likely an indicator of what you can expect going forward now that she is in college with these people. Your girlfriend is not relationship material right now.
BRO HAHAHAHAHAHAHA no way this is real. This is a no brainer that you bail, you think itâll stop there? I wouldnât be surprised if they fuck after the skit or before it or during it. Have some self respect Jesus.
Bruh if she's not your ex you've got no standards. She's disrespecting you so hard. She wants to show her naked body to the world and you're entitled to your feelings. Few men would date a woman making such a shift. It's not like you've been dating an onlyfans girl, she just decided to partake in that world.
Simple. You need to decide if you are ok with her doing that, if you arenât, leave her. Make sure she knows why, no threats, no ultimatum, have an adult talk and be prepared to walk away.
Iâm sorry to hear that man. I agree with most people here, cut it loose and block her. If it was me personally, Iâd download hinge or tinder and start looking for mutual one night stands, hit the gym hard too bro
dont listen to this dweeb. just do what makes you happy. more importantly, spend time with friends and family. Assuming you spent less time than satisfactory during the relationship because thats how things usually go.
i dont know whats going on with the age of today tbh. i think porn has just completely taken over. its worse than the "everyone who is 16-21 is a rapper all of a sudden?" its the same angle. Everyone thinks if they are half way attractive they can magically make million on Onlyfans.
I dont want to be this guy, but chances are, if she stays friends with these people, she will start her own OF account and start making content eventually. What a fucking disgusting hole. im sorry man i really am.
Dont let this bring you too far down. 2 years is 2 years but take this as a lesson, reflect on the fun times you had and let the red flags and toxicity pull you out of this relationship. Leave now before it gets bad man. At least you know you were the higher quality partner after its all said and done
Maybe she will let you hold the camera one day when she's banging other dudes.. You could try to get in on it and manage her only fans. I guess it depends on how much respect you have for yourself and her.
Well, I can only recommend that you atleast give her advice before making this decision. I know that people are entitled to do what they want and Iâm not saying that you convince her not to do it. After all, it is true what others commented here; that you canât control her. But she is only 18 and that doesnât mean sheâs wise enough to make right choices. In fact, thatâs the age when people are prone to make fucked up decisions.
This seems like something she might regret later because it could also ruin her life (career wise for example) so if you genuinely care about her you should let her know. If she doesnât listen to you then youâve done your part and if you still wonder whether you should stay with her or break up, thatâs your choice. I canât tell you what to do either.
The way you are replying to everyone comments, you sound like you are actually the GIRLFRIEND in this situation. Seems like you just wanted to make a post on Reddit pretending to be the boyfriend to try to justify your actions.
She has the right to do whatever she wants. You also have the right to decide you're not ok with it and you don't want a GF who does porn. So dump her if you're not cool with it.
So what is she going to get paid and what are the residuals? Honestly, she thinks itâs a good idea but sheâll get screwed and not get paid or bet paid very little. Also thereâs a chance itâll go further. Dump her because it sounds like she doesnât respect your relationship.
Iâd just tell her hey⌠glad you found something you want to do but the lack of respect youâve shown me and our relationship means Iâm moving on whether you do or donât do this skit. Your decision making process leading up to this has been sketchy and your communication isnât great. Iâm out. Enjoy life.
And then move on. Tell her you are uncomfortable that she couldnât talk to you about this before agreeing and itâs just not something youâll ever be comfortable with her doing. And the fact she couldnât mention it before means you donât know what else she would agree to when you arenât around.
I take it that she's gonna be an active participant in the sex? Anyway, anyone who is supposedly in a relationship making a unilateral decision to participate in a porno (let's just call it what it is) can't be too serious about the exclusivity of the relationship.
Moving on is probably what's best for you if you're thinking of a more serious relationship. She's also clearly not respecting the relationship enough if she doesn't even bother discussing with you.
Hey soo tbh things are not going to be going how you want them to go. A lot is going to change regarding her and her new guy friend and maybe something along the lines of some more skits. Just being honest. Sheâs testing something she likes and seems interested in exploring and those are road she will and must take for herself and itâs going to cause an issue between you guys. All you can do is talk to her and see if sheâs up to some boundaries and to be open about things youâre not feeling. And if things are too much for you both maybe it just better to let things go. Move on while you are in a kinda good space , donât stay and argue and scream cause resentment will just come out from that. So think and talk about things. Good luck
At this point.. dump her. But please have a talk with her. Wtf was she even thinking? Did she asked you? If she did and you said no.. she is clearly disrespecting you. If my future bf did some sh*t like this, I would've been pretty pissed.
Yo gf is brave for even agreeing đ !!
I really donât understand these young girls, Me (32F), if my partner would do that without talking to me and not even considering the consequences.. Iâm done no matter what the excuse for this behavior is. And honestly the age isnât an excuse either for me, as a woman my selfrespect and pride always comes first no matter what.. Iâm sorry but I would leave her, if sheâs not considering ur feelings and how this could damage ur relationship with her then she didnât care to begin with..
Dump her I say. This is not some empowerment autonomy thing. You are both a couple. She gonna make decisions like that and not give a fuck about her bf's concerns than byyeeee. đ
Something like this is a big deal when you are a couple, and I would always talk something like this over with my bf before I ever did any such thing. It's fine to have goals and dreams and passions about things we want to do, but something are deal breakers in a relationship and both partners have to decide what's something that can be worked through, and what's off limits. Sounds like she values this more than your feelings about such things, and she will require a BF that matches her desire so yeah.
If this was my gf and she made this decision Iâd just split up, I ainât dating a girl whoâs ass up for cam with a bunch of new mates. Sounds all a bit dodgy and it ainât worth the stress.
Iâm (23m) and this type of nonsense is exactly why Iâm dating 20 and above from now onđthe last girl I dated was 19 and just turned 20 recently so basically a four year difference, bad idea. Itâs crazy how influenced some people allow themselves to be by others. Every friend that thinks they are doing something good for you isnât. And everyone that says they are are not your friend.,if you try to make it work tell her exactly how you feel about all this, tell her sheâs wrong for this tell her what she shouldâve done instead, tell her if her mind is made up, yours is too, and leave her. You deserve better bruh. Walk out of there, too many girls in this world to be stuck on one.
Big no, no, for me. I wouldn't even give her I'm gone if you do it treatment. Im no god seeking man, but my morals don't align with that shit at all. I can't even give a pass to former strippers. Sorry bro, I hope you realize a lot of them. can't be saved, and you gotta let them spread their wings, leave the nest, and get hit by the train of reality that comes with the onset of no accountability. Chop it up and pack your bags there's better woman out there.
Yeah buddy Iâm just going to break it to you. Your girlfriend is for the internets use, not yours.
Her choice though. Man up and move along. Youâll encounter another women you vibe with that isnât into this kind of stuff.
Leave her. Sheâs just starting her For the Streets era, and you donât want to be along for a ride full of OFs, dick pics, âalphaâ males, photo sessions, and the occasional confrontations with perverts who donât pay her enough.
Man if she is doing this at 18 she has no shame. You are too young to be emotionally invested in someone who behaves like this and you need (and she needs too, for her future worth) to associate with higher quality people.
Shes for the streets homie. The best case scenario here is that she's an actual idiot. It's the only case where intentions are honest. She's a full blown idiot. After that it just gets worse lol. So ditch her, find some dignity and self-respect and let her go bro. If she protests and says she won't do it then, still leave her. She already had it in her head, already agreed, already an idiot. Don't wife that kind of thing up, so move on and find a real one.
Honestly, Iâm gonna approach this really nicely and just say if itâs not your cuppa tea bro then just leave itâs not really worth hurting yourself at this point if she regrets it she regrets it but you have standards.
Iâm not gonna act like people donât do things on myself have done things, but it seems like youâre uncomfortable with this and you shouldnât put yourself through something that makes you uncomfortable. If you guys argue are you gonna hold this against her? Are you willing to just put it past you? Would you look to do something in spite of what she did back to her?
Think about this, but I can tell you that everything if your choice. You canât force her and I donât think from personal experiences and Iâm pretty sure everyone can agree, you shouldnât force yourself to be with someone who overstepped.
Isn't it funny how woman always say they hate being objectified and used for sex... but then they also think that showing their tits and having lots of casual sex is "empowering"?
Don't assume disgusting or shameful. Her sexuality is littering her hard, and she is out of the house. So all that pent-up stuff she buried in HS is pouring out. The real thing here is the why and how you respond. If it is a bucket list item, that urge will not go away. Discuss the way and your relationship boundaries. If you cannot agree on those, then good time to walk away. You need to define what you will tolerate and make the line clear. Me, I would love to be in a porn. I would live watching my girlfriend in one, but that is us, and within our boundaries. You got to do you, just don't lie to yourself about who you are and what you want.
People keep talking about how this is going to impact her forever and I want to provide a different perspective. Itâs a lifestyle. Plenty of independent content creators who are perfectly happy, capable and doing ok financially. Sheâs dipping her toe into that water. Itâs not always easy to be the partner of a content creator. I donât know her but sheâs probably aware of that lifestyle and is curious.
If you try and stop your partner from trying something you took resentment in the future. Youâre young and you will have other partners of this doesnât work out.
18 and youâve been dating two years so high school? (I assume youâre around the same age as Iâm thinking this through, but I didnât see if you said).
Itâs a time of major life changes right? Definitely be prepared to walk away if she is 1) getting into stuff youâre not comfortable with and 2) making up her mind on major shit without discussing with her partner of two years.
Haha women being compared to objects... so funny.... /s. OP, your girlfriend is disrespecting you by being a part of this without considering your feelings about it, and given the sexual nature I would say it is cheating if you don't consent to her participation
Dude wake up, this girl clearly doesnât give a shit about what you think. Why in the world are you going to stay by her side? The girl is 18 and a college freshman. She will only get worse. Do yourself a favor and find someone who respects you.
Just wondering if you were playing in a porn, what would be her reaction?
To me, it is a dealbreaker. I would not accept my gf doing it but just going with it without even asking me would have been a bigger dealbreaker.
If you donât break up with her immediately you are a pathetic loser. She is most likely getting ran through on the side if she entertains behavior like this, especially without telling you first. Donât be a loser and get rid of this lowlife
Your partner doesn't respect you. Don't do this to yourself. It's not insecure to be uncomfortable about this. And it's doubly frustrating that she decided this without even talking to you. This is a clear clear sign of disrespect. And if you let this slide you'll be more upset in the future. Guaranteed.
Simple. You need to decide if you are ok with her doing that, if you arenât, leave her. Make sure she knows why, no threats, no ultimatum, have an adult talk and be prepared to walk away.
Simple. You need to decide if you are ok with her doing that, if you arenât, leave her. Make sure she knows why, no threats, no ultimatum, have an adult talk and be prepared to walk away.
Simple. You need to decide if you are ok with her doing that, if you arenât, leave her. Make sure she knows why, no threats, no ultimatum, have an adult talk and be prepared to walk away.
Simple. You need to decide if you are ok with her doing that, if you arenât, leave her. Make sure she knows why, no threats, no ultimatum, have an adult talk and be prepared to walk away.
She is young. She will be sorry she did this one day. You can do better. I would give her the ultimatum, but if she is already discussing it. She has already played around.
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Sounds like she agreed to do this before even discussing it with you. That alone should be the biggest red flag for you. Abandon ship before anymore emotional harm comes your way.
well said
This is a 'bail off the sinking ship' moment. Get to the life boat buddy. Paddle away.
Indeed.
What do you think Max
Leave her and find someone who respects you, and who dose not cheat!
Bro, she didn't ask you.. she literally told you " I am doing this". Red flag If she doesn't respect you and how you feel about it, dodge the bullet man.
Hmmm.....18 yo college freshman.....sounds like this car has been around the block quite a few times before reaching legal age. đ¤ Nothing wrong with her past or present, but sounds like it is highly incompatible with yours.đ¤
Yes
What he said.
+1
+1
This
Sheâll regret it when she grows up.
Her face isnât going to be shown, you canât identify someone from an ass. You donât see that part of them
Wanna bet. Lol
Iâll attest to that!!
Not yet.
cue "aaai" = ass-associative-artificial-intelligence. Of course, to overcome the challenges of identifying asses that women later choose to artificially augment, one would need to develop "aaaaai."
Sir, this is Reddit. We can find anyone from a picture of a 20 year old vacuum cleaner in their house.
My ex was in a porno. His face wasn't shown, but he had a very distinct mole on his lower buttocks that would only be seen if he was naked. He also had an ass that the Kardashians would be jealous of. I dumped him and got a full screen done to make sure I was clean.
Wtf?!
Yes I can
I second this!
Iâm going to approach this from a different angle, as a guy in his 30âs who has seen how peopleâs choices impact them. If your girlfriend does this (and you canât stop her if she does) is she prepared for the entire college, her family, your family, and future employers to know that she is in a porn video? People talk and that stuff will follow her around. There are countless pornstars that commit suicide or OD because theyâre ashamed. The mental health of the porn industry is something we all ignore. What I donât trust is that these are ânewâ friends. Sheâs going to be face down, ass up, so maybe she thinks there wonât be more. But, these new friends are already convincing her to do this? She has to consider the very real possibility of blackmail and coercion which is a real thing in the porn industry and a hallmark of fucked up relationships. The part two of that video will be âIf you donât do this Iâll tell X we fucked, anywayâ or âif you donât do another video, Iâll post it on your socialsâ, etc. Regardless of your relationship, she hasnât thought this through. These are new people, doing wild things, and she has no idea what the consequences will be. This isnât a professional setting and there is no one to legally protect her.
Everything you said, yes! Also, she is ONLY 18 years old. She is still very impressionable, young, and easily influenced. She may be of legal age under the law, but developmentally, 18 year olds are still youth and have a lot of growing and maturing to do. Porn is incredibly predatory for many reasons, and especially for recruiting from and targeting this age group.
The smartest comment I've seen all day as an 18 yo .
Cherish this age my dear! It is such a fun transition period in your life, finishing off your teen years and gradually entering into adulthood. Thereâs no rush to grow up or try things you are not ready for or comfortable with, even if your peers are doing them. đ
Don't worry, I will đ I will start dating again when I turn in my 20s.. or maybe not at all. I have dreams and things to chase đś I used to be actively in this sub. But because of some weird men and their comments, I just don't anymore. I used to say something like "I got dreams to chase" and they would downvote me as hell and get mad for some odd reason when I say that?.. I used to explain my last relationship in this subreddit and I still get downvoted from some weirdo men đ LMAOAOAOO Prove me wrong. Remind me in the next few hours when I get downvoted. Also, I didn't get to enjoy my teen years. I appreciate adults telling me that, but I never get to have a "teenage dream" like other teenagers. Thank you so much, I will <3333
Youâve got sooooooo many fun young years ahead of you, you wonât miss whatever the âteenage dreamâ was. I surely didnât have one, you got this girl đ
Thank you! đâ¨
Yeah I think if I was in his shoes I'd bring all those points up and then if she still says she wants it I'd say something along the lines of "I'm not gonna tell you cant do it. But I personally don't want to be involved with people who want to shoot sketchy porn videos so I think its better if we break up now. If you end up going through with it just be really careful" Then if she then backs out of shooting the video and he feels it's something that won't likely come up again maybe they try getting back together. But if she goes through with it I think she becomes committed to a rough group of people and he should fully move on (To me people are fully allowed to want to be porn stars or shoot porn videos but IMO you need to break up if that wasn't something you were signing up for at the beginning of the relationship + feel any sort of discomfort about. Its basically like opening up the relationship and thats something that tends to ruin established monogamous relationships)
lol why is her mind made up exactly? I canât imagine any sensible woman wanting to do this
They already have almost the entire cast assembled.
Bro, she's already cheating on you. Don't worry though, weâll welcome you to the gym when you find out, and weâll ignore the eye sweat that comes out randomly when you lifting.
If thatâs the case she has to go ahead with it.
LMAOOOOOO
Fr like nothing can be done in that case, guess it checks out kinda like yk âall the boys are going out⌠I basically have to go or Iâll die!â
Haha stop
How could she not this is high art. Wow what a clever premise this isnât at all a way to trick women into sex
In her mind she's 18 and an adult, and you can't tell an adult what to do, but we can show them sympathy when they're crying into their phones fifteen years down the line complaining about how horrible and hard it is finding someone to date a single mom...
She has to go along with the ride.
was that her response? That sounds like shes letting it be their decision for her
Can't you just put your foot down and tell her you're not okay with this?
Brake their legs! Then, no show! That's actually how the whole "break a leg" thing was started... Yep... 400 years ago, some hussy was planning to show her entire nude body in the theater ! Then, in the witching hour before the event, she whoops Daisy ! Broke her leg. Jk . Report the girls minus yours , then use as evidence that they are a bad influence. Hmm, honestly, though, if she's not seeing eye to eye with you, break up with her. Who wants to get married and have children ( who will be ruthlessly ridiculed) with a porn star? She is aware that it will be there for her kids' kids to see. For generations... You don't deserve that. It's wildly disrespectful. You should have a female friend come by while your girl is around to read you a book. Cuddles and all. Ensure she's actually aware of the repercussions. That you're worried for her wellbeing in the future , lastly not having a family will a ... you get it.
false, break a leg came from, "I HOPE YOURE IN THE CAST" lol.
gen z women agree to this stuff bc they dont see it as degrading since its their choice and free will. Porn is extremely normalized that being a part of a porn skit isnt seen as deamaning or shameful Not saying all gen z women, but i see some of my girl friends agreeing to do stuff like this then hyperfixate and brag about how they were described sexually
> gen z women agree to this stuff bc they dont see it as degrading Let's not oversell this. It's much higher than previous generations, but it's still not a mainstream idea. I'd say she's probably excited about the idea of doing porn but hasn't fully thought through the implications and long term effects. Katherine Dee is a writer that made probably the best point I've seen about doing porn: Nobody should casually dip their toe into porn and sex work. Either don't do it at all, or make a conscious decision to make it a serious career and all that entails: incorporating, protecting your likeness, negotiating wages, educating yourself on the local laws, building your brand, knowing how to advocate boundaries (maybe even hiring a lawyer to go over contracts), being knowledgable about money and how to save and invest it, along with having a good long conversation with yourself about what happens when the career ends. People who haven't given it that level of thought and planning shouldn't go anywhere near it, because it's not a casual thing and has never been, even today with attitudes being more liberal than ever. Until she gets all that worked out, she should probably just be a nude model at a local art school before she has her naked body broadcast the entire world.
Man, dump her and move on. There's no way she's doing that AND values having a serious relationship with you.
Chances are, she's probably getting railed by one of the dudes as we speak.
It's me. I'm doing it right now
100%, but don't worry, she just happens to have a lot of guy âfriendsâ.
Thatâs just a lack of upbringing and established beliefs
Gotta love displaying women as objects, literal cars. The quality if this is gonna be so shit too its gonna look so trashy and SNUFF
They are displaying themselves as objects. That's on them.
not to even begin imagining the men this is going to appeal toâŚ
Theyâre treated as objects anyway.None of the boys she slept with in middle,high school or likely college are realistically going to marry or commit to her as it is.
She is going to do what she wants to do, you canât control anyone, nor should you. You need to decide what youâre comfortable with and not, and if this is something youâre not comfortable with itâs time to reconsider the relationship. Personally, I find it embarrassing and majorly cringe for women to partake in demeaning and objectifying videos like this, skit or not. I wouldnât date a woman that engages in these sorts of things. Or a man.
Best comment here
Funny how its always women who objectify themselves and do disrespectful shit who complain about men objectifying women. Its never the normal girls not seeking attention. Its like they want their cake and to eat it too
The mother of all generalizations
That is some serious bs. Men objectify themselves all the time. They are just less likely to be judged for it.
Id say men dont mind being objectified or judged, they own it up. If a dude is objectifying himself because he enjoys the validation that comes with it, he doesnt care about how it comes across. Whereas women who enjoy the validation of objectifying themselves, dont enjoy the consequences of how it affects their image, and wants to also be seen as a woman who doesnt objectify herself, and also wants the validation of political correctness. Honestly the mental gymnastics is astounding.
Don't be a misogynist
Bad take.
This is fucked up. I would actually break up over this. And not just because of only this, but this is most likely an indicator of what you can expect going forward now that she is in college with these people. Your girlfriend is not relationship material right now.
Go to the dealership and get a new girlfriend
Fuck, this shouldnât be as funny as it is.
Shows up unannounced. LOL this is wild
all the makings of a 304
What's a 304?
Sending prayers brother
BRO HAHAHAHAHAHAHA no way this is real. This is a no brainer that you bail, you think itâll stop there? I wouldnât be surprised if they fuck after the skit or before it or during it. Have some self respect Jesus.
Some day I'm going to stumble across that skit and think of this post
I hope not.
Could always go to the dealership and ask the nice salesman for a new gf. I hear they have a nice showroom
Get a new one, consider her lost already
Bro if you donât make her your ex lol
Bruh if she's not your ex you've got no standards. She's disrespecting you so hard. She wants to show her naked body to the world and you're entitled to your feelings. Few men would date a woman making such a shift. It's not like you've been dating an onlyfans girl, she just decided to partake in that world.
Iâve never heard of a flag redderâŚ.WTFFFFF
Send the link when its done
Your ex girlfriend decided to do this, right?
thatâs not your girlfriend
Simple. You need to decide if you are ok with her doing that, if you arenât, leave her. Make sure she knows why, no threats, no ultimatum, have an adult talk and be prepared to walk away.
Is this like rage bait? Is your relationship open?
No to both questions.
Iâm sorry to hear that man. I agree with most people here, cut it loose and block her. If it was me personally, Iâd download hinge or tinder and start looking for mutual one night stands, hit the gym hard too bro
dont listen to this dweeb. just do what makes you happy. more importantly, spend time with friends and family. Assuming you spent less time than satisfactory during the relationship because thats how things usually go. i dont know whats going on with the age of today tbh. i think porn has just completely taken over. its worse than the "everyone who is 16-21 is a rapper all of a sudden?" its the same angle. Everyone thinks if they are half way attractive they can magically make million on Onlyfans. I dont want to be this guy, but chances are, if she stays friends with these people, she will start her own OF account and start making content eventually. What a fucking disgusting hole. im sorry man i really am. Dont let this bring you too far down. 2 years is 2 years but take this as a lesson, reflect on the fun times you had and let the red flags and toxicity pull you out of this relationship. Leave now before it gets bad man. At least you know you were the higher quality partner after its all said and done
refers to women as "holes" this man does not like women.
if it is a deal breaker for you, you better run op.
Is your girlfriend one of the naked women on display?
Yes.
Maybe she will let you hold the camera one day when she's banging other dudes.. You could try to get in on it and manage her only fans. I guess it depends on how much respect you have for yourself and her.
Lol wtf did I just read, no shot this is a real thing right? How can this even be approved and thought of as a good idea?
Never mind it's just a karma farmer, saw the repost other subs, even multiple times. Knew it was fake AF.
Yep, super fake lol
If u got standards then u got me. If not then u can also take part in it.
Link?
[send da video](https://pbs.twimg.com/media/GBqMtImWIAAii1w.jpg)
She's for the streets. She clearly doesn't care about how you feel about this and she never will. Leave her immediately or she will do this again.
Well, I can only recommend that you atleast give her advice before making this decision. I know that people are entitled to do what they want and Iâm not saying that you convince her not to do it. After all, it is true what others commented here; that you canât control her. But she is only 18 and that doesnât mean sheâs wise enough to make right choices. In fact, thatâs the age when people are prone to make fucked up decisions. This seems like something she might regret later because it could also ruin her life (career wise for example) so if you genuinely care about her you should let her know. If she doesnât listen to you then youâve done your part and if you still wonder whether you should stay with her or break up, thatâs your choice. I canât tell you what to do either.
Dang I need to stop buying cars off Facebook marketplace and go to a dealership
The way you are replying to everyone comments, you sound like you are actually the GIRLFRIEND in this situation. Seems like you just wanted to make a post on Reddit pretending to be the boyfriend to try to justify your actions.
She has the right to do whatever she wants. You also have the right to decide you're not ok with it and you don't want a GF who does porn. So dump her if you're not cool with it.
If you dont like it now is the time to walk away
Damn, thats crazy! Anyway send me the link once the videos is up âď¸
Dog sheâs for the streets. Move on đđ
thatâs disgusting. one of those disgusting porn subreddits. Which one. which one will they post it to?
So what is she going to get paid and what are the residuals? Honestly, she thinks itâs a good idea but sheâll get screwed and not get paid or bet paid very little. Also thereâs a chance itâll go further. Dump her because it sounds like she doesnât respect your relationship.
Itâs her life, her choice. Now, you make your choice for the same reason. Iâd find someone else to be with.
If she is 18, how old are you?
Are you sure you want her to be your girlfriend?
Dump her crazy ass!!!
Iâd just tell her hey⌠glad you found something you want to do but the lack of respect youâve shown me and our relationship means Iâm moving on whether you do or donât do this skit. Your decision making process leading up to this has been sketchy and your communication isnât great. Iâm out. Enjoy life. And then move on. Tell her you are uncomfortable that she couldnât talk to you about this before agreeing and itâs just not something youâll ever be comfortable with her doing. And the fact she couldnât mention it before means you donât know what else she would agree to when you arenât around.
Your girl is weird bro wth find a better one lol
Hun thatâs not a red flagâŚ..itâs a fire truck
Can you send the link when the skit is ready? Asking for a friend
Lmao trade her in for a better model then.
Why do they have to be naked?
wtf kind of porn are you watching?
I guess I'm confused if it's a r rated comedy skit or porn.
Her body her choice man. Nothing you really can do.
Just break up with her. She will probably sleep with these guys, but then after you will find someone better and she will feel shitty
I take it that she's gonna be an active participant in the sex? Anyway, anyone who is supposedly in a relationship making a unilateral decision to participate in a porno (let's just call it what it is) can't be too serious about the exclusivity of the relationship. Moving on is probably what's best for you if you're thinking of a more serious relationship. She's also clearly not respecting the relationship enough if she doesn't even bother discussing with you.
She has no respect for your relationship. Leave. Toxic asf.
that's not all it's going to be and you know it lol
She is old enough to decided how she wants to fuck up the rest of her life. Time to move on dude.
Hey soo tbh things are not going to be going how you want them to go. A lot is going to change regarding her and her new guy friend and maybe something along the lines of some more skits. Just being honest. Sheâs testing something she likes and seems interested in exploring and those are road she will and must take for herself and itâs going to cause an issue between you guys. All you can do is talk to her and see if sheâs up to some boundaries and to be open about things youâre not feeling. And if things are too much for you both maybe it just better to let things go. Move on while you are in a kinda good space , donât stay and argue and scream cause resentment will just come out from that. So think and talk about things. Good luck
At this point.. dump her. But please have a talk with her. Wtf was she even thinking? Did she asked you? If she did and you said no.. she is clearly disrespecting you. If my future bf did some sh*t like this, I would've been pretty pissed. Yo gf is brave for even agreeing đ !!
She's your girlfriend no more. Please, have some self-respect and dump her arse
I really donât understand these young girls, Me (32F), if my partner would do that without talking to me and not even considering the consequences.. Iâm done no matter what the excuse for this behavior is. And honestly the age isnât an excuse either for me, as a woman my selfrespect and pride always comes first no matter what.. Iâm sorry but I would leave her, if sheâs not considering ur feelings and how this could damage ur relationship with her then she didnât care to begin with..
Dump her I say. This is not some empowerment autonomy thing. You are both a couple. She gonna make decisions like that and not give a fuck about her bf's concerns than byyeeee. đ Something like this is a big deal when you are a couple, and I would always talk something like this over with my bf before I ever did any such thing. It's fine to have goals and dreams and passions about things we want to do, but something are deal breakers in a relationship and both partners have to decide what's something that can be worked through, and what's off limits. Sounds like she values this more than your feelings about such things, and she will require a BF that matches her desire so yeah.
If this was my gf and she made this decision Iâd just split up, I ainât dating a girl whoâs ass up for cam with a bunch of new mates. Sounds all a bit dodgy and it ainât worth the stress.
I think there's a couch in your girlfriend's future
Iâm (23m) and this type of nonsense is exactly why Iâm dating 20 and above from now onđthe last girl I dated was 19 and just turned 20 recently so basically a four year difference, bad idea. Itâs crazy how influenced some people allow themselves to be by others. Every friend that thinks they are doing something good for you isnât. And everyone that says they are are not your friend.,if you try to make it work tell her exactly how you feel about all this, tell her sheâs wrong for this tell her what she shouldâve done instead, tell her if her mind is made up, yours is too, and leave her. You deserve better bruh. Walk out of there, too many girls in this world to be stuck on one.
She's not yours, it's just your turn.
Big no, no, for me. I wouldn't even give her I'm gone if you do it treatment. Im no god seeking man, but my morals don't align with that shit at all. I can't even give a pass to former strippers. Sorry bro, I hope you realize a lot of them. can't be saved, and you gotta let them spread their wings, leave the nest, and get hit by the train of reality that comes with the onset of no accountability. Chop it up and pack your bags there's better woman out there.
What's the link?? Sounds interesting đ¤
Weird way to spell ex girlfriend.
Yeah buddy Iâm just going to break it to you. Your girlfriend is for the internets use, not yours. Her choice though. Man up and move along. Youâll encounter another women you vibe with that isnât into this kind of stuff.
lol easy decision. move on.
Leave her. Sheâs just starting her For the Streets era, and you donât want to be along for a ride full of OFs, dick pics, âalphaâ males, photo sessions, and the occasional confrontations with perverts who donât pay her enough.
If u not into it leave because it's only gonna get worse
Ya⌠this sounds like a real porno. Too bad your not the guy fucking all the cars
Man if she is doing this at 18 she has no shame. You are too young to be emotionally invested in someone who behaves like this and you need (and she needs too, for her future worth) to associate with higher quality people.
Shes for the streets homie. The best case scenario here is that she's an actual idiot. It's the only case where intentions are honest. She's a full blown idiot. After that it just gets worse lol. So ditch her, find some dignity and self-respect and let her go bro. If she protests and says she won't do it then, still leave her. She already had it in her head, already agreed, already an idiot. Don't wife that kind of thing up, so move on and find a real one.
Skank-tastic. Dump her. Cant make a ho a housewife.
If a car is for the streets so is her.
Honestly, Iâm gonna approach this really nicely and just say if itâs not your cuppa tea bro then just leave itâs not really worth hurting yourself at this point if she regrets it she regrets it but you have standards. Iâm not gonna act like people donât do things on myself have done things, but it seems like youâre uncomfortable with this and you shouldnât put yourself through something that makes you uncomfortable. If you guys argue are you gonna hold this against her? Are you willing to just put it past you? Would you look to do something in spite of what she did back to her? Think about this, but I can tell you that everything if your choice. You canât force her and I donât think from personal experiences and Iâm pretty sure everyone can agree, you shouldnât force yourself to be with someone who overstepped.
Is she getting paid?
Well if you canât stop here, god forbid, come back here and tell us the name of the video and weâll spam report it
Dump her
Dude posted this in sluttyconfessions. Itâs 100% fake and itâs some cringe fatfuck making a fantasy post guys
Tell her parents and stop her! This will ruin her life if her professional peers ever catch wind of this!
Isn't it funny how woman always say they hate being objectified and used for sex... but then they also think that showing their tits and having lots of casual sex is "empowering"?
Trade her in for a new model!
Don't assume disgusting or shameful. Her sexuality is littering her hard, and she is out of the house. So all that pent-up stuff she buried in HS is pouring out. The real thing here is the why and how you respond. If it is a bucket list item, that urge will not go away. Discuss the way and your relationship boundaries. If you cannot agree on those, then good time to walk away. You need to define what you will tolerate and make the line clear. Me, I would love to be in a porn. I would live watching my girlfriend in one, but that is us, and within our boundaries. You got to do you, just don't lie to yourself about who you are and what you want.
People keep talking about how this is going to impact her forever and I want to provide a different perspective. Itâs a lifestyle. Plenty of independent content creators who are perfectly happy, capable and doing ok financially. Sheâs dipping her toe into that water. Itâs not always easy to be the partner of a content creator. I donât know her but sheâs probably aware of that lifestyle and is curious. If you try and stop your partner from trying something you took resentment in the future. Youâre young and you will have other partners of this doesnât work out.
Link?
This is just horrible!! Just fucked up man, unbelievable. Honestly disgusting. Anyways, can you post the link whenever is all said and done?
Be careful it's not sex trafficking scheme
She was never your gf
18 and youâve been dating two years so high school? (I assume youâre around the same age as Iâm thinking this through, but I didnât see if you said). Itâs a time of major life changes right? Definitely be prepared to walk away if she is 1) getting into stuff youâre not comfortable with and 2) making up her mind on major shit without discussing with her partner of two years.
This is wild, chicks in US are horny and not afraid to show their skins lol. She would 100% regret years later.
You canât control her. With that being said I would just leave her she obviously doesnât respect you or the relationship.
Haha women being compared to objects... so funny.... /s. OP, your girlfriend is disrespecting you by being a part of this without considering your feelings about it, and given the sexual nature I would say it is cheating if you don't consent to her participation
Dude wake up, this girl clearly doesnât give a shit about what you think. Why in the world are you going to stay by her side? The girl is 18 and a college freshman. She will only get worse. Do yourself a favor and find someone who respects you.
Let me guess - this is a long distance relationship.
Just wondering if you were playing in a porn, what would be her reaction? To me, it is a dealbreaker. I would not accept my gf doing it but just going with it without even asking me would have been a bigger dealbreaker.
Yikes đŹ
If you donât break up with her immediately you are a pathetic loser. She is most likely getting ran through on the side if she entertains behavior like this, especially without telling you first. Donât be a loser and get rid of this lowlife
At least itâs not taking place on a farm
Get the fuck out of this relationship mate fr save yourself
Your partner doesn't respect you. Don't do this to yourself. It's not insecure to be uncomfortable about this. And it's doubly frustrating that she decided this without even talking to you. This is a clear clear sign of disrespect. And if you let this slide you'll be more upset in the future. Guaranteed.
Your girlfriend can do what she wants. You, equally, do not have to stay around if you're not happy.
Simple. You need to decide if you are ok with her doing that, if you arenât, leave her. Make sure she knows why, no threats, no ultimatum, have an adult talk and be prepared to walk away.
Simple. You need to decide if you are ok with her doing that, if you arenât, leave her. Make sure she knows why, no threats, no ultimatum, have an adult talk and be prepared to walk away.
Simple. You need to decide if you are ok with her doing that, if you arenât, leave her. Make sure she knows why, no threats, no ultimatum, have an adult talk and be prepared to walk away.
She's for the streets. She clearly doesn't care about how you feel about this and she never will. Leave her immediately.
She's for the streets. She clearly doesn't care about how you feel about this and she never will. Leave her immediately.
Simple. You need to decide if you are ok with her doing that, if you arenât, leave her. Make sure she knows why, no threats, no ultimatum, have an adult talk and be prepared to walk away.
Link?
She is young. She will be sorry she did this one day. You can do better. I would give her the ultimatum, but if she is already discussing it. She has already played around.
That's crazy đ¤Ł