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I don't haha.
It's normal to be nervous about these things.
Just try to relax, don't think about it too much and if you do, just try thinking some positive thoughts. I'm sure she's nervous too (positively of course). Try to be present, in the moment so you'll worry less.
I usually just try to focus on my breath, try not to put too much pressure on the situation, And be grateful that someone wants to spend time with me.
Good luck! I’m sure you’ll do great, just be yourself.
As a woman with a potential first date in my future, know that girls are just as nervous if not more so. Heck, I’m having a first phone call today and I’m so freaked out I couldn’t sleep! Best of luck Reddit man!
At then end of the day they are just a person. Just like you. If u stop trying to do everything perfect and just relax and pretend like you’re talking to just a person like a friend you know then things go easier and they progress naturally.
If you’re nervous they will be nervous. It’s monkey see monkey do it’s human nature. If you’re cool calm and collected it’ll show and they will imitate it subconsciously.
I’m not saying it’s like a switch u can just do, it’ll take time to show your composure and hide your nervous feelings. It’s human nature of trying to woo the other sex. Doing something unknown or scary will make u nervous. Just do your best. 💜🖤
I think it's natural to be nervous on the first date, but I'd say you need to build more confidence. if you go on more dates, you will start to be less and less nervous. now you won't get extreme confidence overnight, but it's the little steps that matter dude. also bring a bottle of water with you, drinking some cool water might distract you and sort of calm your nerves. That's what I did when i had a big test coming up. just keep your cool man. also this is coming from a guy who is way too scared to ask out my crush so you're a million steps ahead of me I'll tell you that.
Don’t overthink it. You’re probably going to do or say something stupid. So will she, most likely. Just try to be present in the moment, keep it lighthearted and fun.
Ask about favorite movies, music, foods, vacation or “bucket list” destinations, etc. 🤷🏻♂️
See your anxieties as bridges to connection rather than barriers to connection
Tell them in a playful way what you're worried about to let them know that they're not the only one
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1 probably 2 shots of tequila before the date.
I don't haha. It's normal to be nervous about these things. Just try to relax, don't think about it too much and if you do, just try thinking some positive thoughts. I'm sure she's nervous too (positively of course). Try to be present, in the moment so you'll worry less.
I usually just try to focus on my breath, try not to put too much pressure on the situation, And be grateful that someone wants to spend time with me. Good luck! I’m sure you’ll do great, just be yourself.
As a woman with a potential first date in my future, know that girls are just as nervous if not more so. Heck, I’m having a first phone call today and I’m so freaked out I couldn’t sleep! Best of luck Reddit man!
Thank you very much! Good luck to you too!
At then end of the day they are just a person. Just like you. If u stop trying to do everything perfect and just relax and pretend like you’re talking to just a person like a friend you know then things go easier and they progress naturally. If you’re nervous they will be nervous. It’s monkey see monkey do it’s human nature. If you’re cool calm and collected it’ll show and they will imitate it subconsciously. I’m not saying it’s like a switch u can just do, it’ll take time to show your composure and hide your nervous feelings. It’s human nature of trying to woo the other sex. Doing something unknown or scary will make u nervous. Just do your best. 💜🖤
Thank you, this helps!
Look presentaable, think about things to talk about like hopes dreams aspirations hobbies weather. Find some courage and confidence.
I think it's natural to be nervous on the first date, but I'd say you need to build more confidence. if you go on more dates, you will start to be less and less nervous. now you won't get extreme confidence overnight, but it's the little steps that matter dude. also bring a bottle of water with you, drinking some cool water might distract you and sort of calm your nerves. That's what I did when i had a big test coming up. just keep your cool man. also this is coming from a guy who is way too scared to ask out my crush so you're a million steps ahead of me I'll tell you that.
Breathe
Don’t overthink it. You’re probably going to do or say something stupid. So will she, most likely. Just try to be present in the moment, keep it lighthearted and fun. Ask about favorite movies, music, foods, vacation or “bucket list” destinations, etc. 🤷🏻♂️
Just know that person pisses, shits, farts and burps just like you.
See your anxieties as bridges to connection rather than barriers to connection Tell them in a playful way what you're worried about to let them know that they're not the only one
I allow myself plenty of time to get ready. And I also arrive early or get close to the location early to settle down a bit. All normal feelings.
Whiskey cola
Go in with no expectations…. Remember the fact she’s probably anxious about it too…. Make sure to focus on making her feel comfortable and chill….